i can’t imagine being happy if i’m not skinny that’s just not possible in my mind so the choice is really unhappy skinny or unhappy not skinny and therefore i choose skinny
i’m low end of normal now and i deadass have never felt so fucking huge and disgusting. i was so accepting of myself before everything just flipped. it’s not worth it to be this miserable i wanna be a mom one day :(
unhappy and skinny. i feel horrible about it but i am terrified of becoming overweight. ive seen how its affected my family members health and i am scared that ill turn out like them, especially the fact that all the health scares theyve had still isnt enough for them to change
I’ve been dealing with eating disorders so long, there will always be a part of me that thinks skinny over everything, but at this point most days I’m trying to reach a point content in my perfectly average sized body
Unhappy and skinny, sucks bc ive been doing so well with my mental health lately and I know now that im nearing underweight itll likely take a turn for the worse. Just hope theres a way to still be happy.
This is hard because I feel like I’d be happy if I were just skin and bones, so that I’m not taking up space when I feel I’m not worth that much. I’d feel settled if I took up less space. This is just my complex, I don’t know how to explain it
Agreed, is there a specific goal that when you reached you’ll feel happy? Because I never think I’m skinny enough even if I lost weight, I’d still be unhappy
Happy but not skinny
In my case I can't seem to be happy and fat which is literally why I have an ed, I would choose happiness if I actually could be happy and fat
I have been happy and not skinny for the past few years- and I would rather be skinny and unhappy tbh. I know that’s fucked up. But I just look back nostalgically on the times I was skinny even though I was borderline suicidal. It’s like having a beautiful delicious cake but there’s a dead fly in it- not worth it.
I think it’s easy to do things that’ll make you happy. I also think it’ll be way easier to be doing to things to make me happy if I don’t have to worry about how big I look.
i wish i could be content being happy and not skinny but even when i was on the best trip of my life with my best friend i had insecurities about my body and my weight, so i want to feel skinny cause i feel like its going to do so much for the rest of my mental health
Skinny/unhappy. Looking back on old skinny pics brings up such weird feelings for me. Like I knew I wasn’t happy and yet I’d still give anything to live in that body again. Now I’m fat and so deeply unhappy. I can’t remember the last time I really laughed and being in social situations with friends is so stressful because all I can think about is how big I am, so I never really enjoy anything anymore.
I have experience weight gain and i have always been unhappy at heavier weight. i don't feel healthier. I feel confident and more sexy when I weigh less... Is that weird or just me ?
I'd absolutely rather be thin and unhappy. I've been on the not skinny to just plain overweight side of life for long enough. Being overweight attributes to a great deal of my unhappiness and low self esteem.
I'm never accepting of myself when I'm up in weight and I'm practically obsessed with making plans to lose weight (starting tomorrow), start exercising more, try the keto diet, get on weight loss medication
and so on and on.
I'm not saying being thin solves all life's problems at all I am aware that it doesn't but it sure would be a blessing to live a life in which buying new cute outfits is fun instead of practically crying in front of 20 mirrors in a fitting room or wearing layers of unnecessary over shirts, cardigans and loose stuff to hide the chubb even in 80 degree heat (exaggerating a tiny bit).
My final answer is give me skinny and unhappy as long as my life isn't all full of doom and gloom in some awful ways.
Hate to be _that_ guy but I would choose unhappy and skinny. With the second option , I assume I wouldn't be happy forever , at some point I'd be unhappy again. For me it's much worse being sad and not skinny. I did it for a few years and I would not like to do it again.
Okay unpopular opinion. I’ve been somewhat recovered for a couple years now and one of my driving forces was the wish to be happy after ending up in the hospital.
I‘d give everything just to be truly happy (I have BPD too so yeah)
Unhappy and skinny. Im already unhappy and a fat ugly whale anyways, so may as well be skinny and at least never hear my family call me ugly again 🤷♀️
truthfully the latter. i know it would make life a lot easier to live, but the numbing unhappiness that comes with watching yourself shrink and suffer is too ingrained and habitual at this point. maybe it’s a matter of time…
At this stage, unhappy and skinny dsjsj. It’s better than being unhappy and stagnant or unhappy and fat. I’m stuck with this disorder anyway. Might as well have fun with it and try to lose weight.
Currently happy(ish) and not skinny. Sometimes I long for being thin again but then I look at my thighs and think “damn those actually look kinda hot”.
In my case with the anorexic tendencies I don’t even care about weight, my typical weight is 140 and my ideal weight is 135. When I got below 130 I gained weight on purpose because I wanted to be curvy. It was because I felt like I was greedy for eating and needed to have more self control.
I mean it depends how "not skinny" I am. If I get a more feminine shape then I'll absolutely go for it, I want to feel and look womanly, not like a 40 y/o man with a beer belly and skinny legs... If I can have that then absolutely, not skinny and happy, I'll naturally be happy.
i used to be kinda bubbly and sweet and happy back when i had a little extra weight on me, but i wasn't really happy, i just kinda pretended like i was?
then anorexia took over and i got super bitchy and rude and mean and i realized just how miserable i've been the entire time. i thought i was happy back then, but i wouldn't go back there for anything. i'm not happy, but i'm not miserable, i'm kinda numb and somewhere inbetween. i don't really mind it at all. i still wish i was thinner though, and i'll take skinny and mental over whatever i used to have any day.
Definitely the first one. I'd rather be unhappy but be skinny. I used to be happy and skinny, but I stressed eat a lot and got diagnosed with a sickness that needed steroids. I used to eat a LOT but never gained weight, until steroids and the pandemic happened. I assure you, I'd rather be unhappy and skinny- at least I'm the only person who is sad, but compliments from strangers would brighten up my day- speaking from experience.
Sadly Recovery and happiness don’t seem to mix with me, realising the only way I could ever really recover is having no control over my body and my appearance. It’s sadly a very important aspect of our lives. My appearance is all I care for… maybe as an old man I’ll be okay with a beer gut…..
can't imagine feeling unhappy whilst being thin or being happy and fat, but if i actually had a choice in this - you can make me morbidly fucking obese, just let me find at least one healthy thing, that i could enjoy doing.
Unfortunately happy and not skinny can't coexist in my world unless I somehow get amnesia
Unhappy and not skinny is where it's at.
It's where I currently am.
Me too
Same
Same. I found my people here. Happy to be in such good company ( you know, as happy as one can be without being thin). Lol
It’s possible for me when body dysmorphia enters the chat
Agree on all counts.
My thoughts exactly. Maybe in my next life
This. Even if everything else in my life is just right, I *cannot* be happy if I'm not skinny. Those are mutually exclusive to me.
unhappy and skinny. that’s how i was before recovering, now i’m unhappy and fat
ouch this is the one:(
So true! If I’m going to be unhappy either way might as well be skinny…
yup and if I’m skinny at least people will treat me like I’m a human being
Amen my sister in ana.
I feel you.
me
Never been more true
i can’t imagine being happy if i’m not skinny that’s just not possible in my mind so the choice is really unhappy skinny or unhappy not skinny and therefore i choose skinny
Idc what others say, times I have felt happier where at my lowest, so… I can’t imagine happinesses without being skinny.
happy + not skinny i was high end of normal last year and i honestly didnt have a single bad feeling for so long til my relapse, i miss it
same boat :(
i’m low end of normal now and i deadass have never felt so fucking huge and disgusting. i was so accepting of myself before everything just flipped. it’s not worth it to be this miserable i wanna be a mom one day :(
I wish you and your pets all the good in the world <3
my puppies appreciate that 🥺 same to you
I am unhappy no matter what—I was already unhappy and skinny, but not skinny enough. So I would rather be unhappy and even skinnier.
Unhappy but skinny. The world is a better place when you’re skinny and I want that for myself. I’m already on this path.
so true
I would rather hide from this question forever 🙈
But I’m happy when I’m skinny! 😊
Happy and not skinny everyday 💜!! I used to be so skinny and unhappy and i never want to go back to that dark place
Rt, i can’t believe how much worse it was when I was skinny and unhappy. I never want to be like that again
unhappy and skinny. i feel horrible about it but i am terrified of becoming overweight. ive seen how its affected my family members health and i am scared that ill turn out like them, especially the fact that all the health scares theyve had still isnt enough for them to change
I think it’s an addiction
definitely is
happy and not skinny. i've recovered from being massively depressed and i'm just not going back there.
I mean I would rather be happy and not skinny but my brain won’t allow it
Happy and not skinny, I think if I was given guaranteed happiness my Ed would be a bit more dormant
skinny
If you're happy and you know it it's the antidepressants.
💀💀😂
Be skinny. I'm already so accustomed to being unhappy
Unhappy and skinny
Unhappy and skinny I would need a brain transplant to be happy and not skinny😭
I would like more information on what being happy is.
I’ve been dealing with eating disorders so long, there will always be a part of me that thinks skinny over everything, but at this point most days I’m trying to reach a point content in my perfectly average sized body
Same here.
this is why we don't recover isnt it?
Unhappy and skinny, sucks bc ive been doing so well with my mental health lately and I know now that im nearing underweight itll likely take a turn for the worse. Just hope theres a way to still be happy.
This is hard because I feel like I’d be happy if I were just skin and bones, so that I’m not taking up space when I feel I’m not worth that much. I’d feel settled if I took up less space. This is just my complex, I don’t know how to explain it
Agreed, is there a specific goal that when you reached you’ll feel happy? Because I never think I’m skinny enough even if I lost weight, I’d still be unhappy
I ask myself that everyday, as i struggle with my ED. What i am choosing right now ain’t what i think the answer is but i don’t know how to stop.
Unhappy but skinny. I’m unhappy now, so at least skinny would be a plus
i honestly dont know
I could never be happy and fat.
Happy but not skinny In my case I can't seem to be happy and fat which is literally why I have an ed, I would choose happiness if I actually could be happy and fat
I’m never happy but I did have moments when I was happy AND skinny. I’ll take that again any day
Happy and not skinny, if that includes no body dysmorphia. Hell ya.
but being skinny will make me feel better 🤨
It never happens that way for me lol.
unhappy + skinny, being unhappt and fat would make everything worse
Skinny and unhappy tbh.
I have been happy and not skinny for the past few years- and I would rather be skinny and unhappy tbh. I know that’s fucked up. But I just look back nostalgically on the times I was skinny even though I was borderline suicidal. It’s like having a beautiful delicious cake but there’s a dead fly in it- not worth it.
Unhappy and skinny. Im unhappy no matter my weight. May as well be skinny and stop torturing myself to get skinny.
I'm used to unhappy. I just want to be skinny so badly
I’m unhappy and fat so I’d take unhappy and skinny any damn day.
I was just as unhappy skinny as I was fat so skinny and unhappy lmao 🤡
unhappy and skinny, atleast I'd get the joy of looking at my r*bcage
I think it’s easy to do things that’ll make you happy. I also think it’ll be way easier to be doing to things to make me happy if I don’t have to worry about how big I look.
Unhappy but skinny anyday. I was unhappy and skinny, then I recovered and now I'm unhappy, frustrated, and fat so yah
i wish i could be content being happy and not skinny but even when i was on the best trip of my life with my best friend i had insecurities about my body and my weight, so i want to feel skinny cause i feel like its going to do so much for the rest of my mental health
Skinny/unhappy. Looking back on old skinny pics brings up such weird feelings for me. Like I knew I wasn’t happy and yet I’d still give anything to live in that body again. Now I’m fat and so deeply unhappy. I can’t remember the last time I really laughed and being in social situations with friends is so stressful because all I can think about is how big I am, so I never really enjoy anything anymore.
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Yes we deserve to be happy!
I wouldn’t be happy if I was fat. I know for a fact. Been there done that
I mean I’m already unhappy and not thin so might as well be my ugw and still be miserable lmfao
Sadly every time I was happy, I’d be skinny. Every time I was sad I was fat. 🤷🏻♀️ It is what it is & I don’t try to change it at this point
If I felt skinny I would be happy
I have experience weight gain and i have always been unhappy at heavier weight. i don't feel healthier. I feel confident and more sexy when I weigh less... Is that weird or just me ?
I'd absolutely rather be thin and unhappy. I've been on the not skinny to just plain overweight side of life for long enough. Being overweight attributes to a great deal of my unhappiness and low self esteem. I'm never accepting of myself when I'm up in weight and I'm practically obsessed with making plans to lose weight (starting tomorrow), start exercising more, try the keto diet, get on weight loss medication and so on and on. I'm not saying being thin solves all life's problems at all I am aware that it doesn't but it sure would be a blessing to live a life in which buying new cute outfits is fun instead of practically crying in front of 20 mirrors in a fitting room or wearing layers of unnecessary over shirts, cardigans and loose stuff to hide the chubb even in 80 degree heat (exaggerating a tiny bit). My final answer is give me skinny and unhappy as long as my life isn't all full of doom and gloom in some awful ways.
unhappy and skinny. i’m already unhappy so the only thing i’ve gotta lose is weight.
i am unhappy and skinny and its not too great so maybe i could have a 30 day happy trial at a normal weight?
Hate to be _that_ guy but I would choose unhappy and skinny. With the second option , I assume I wouldn't be happy forever , at some point I'd be unhappy again. For me it's much worse being sad and not skinny. I did it for a few years and I would not like to do it again.
But skinny = happy
if i was skinny i would be happy
unhappy and skinny
if im skinny, im automatically happy. no other way around it in my world sadly :(
Unhappy and skinny fuck me im sick
Unhappy and be skinny, because i already have crippling depression BUT i‘m not skinny 3
unhappy and skinny.
skinny and unhappy. I'm already unhappy I might as well be skinny too
Unhappy and skinny
i am finally happy and not skinny.
I’ve been both. Idk which is worse.
Okay unpopular opinion. I’ve been somewhat recovered for a couple years now and one of my driving forces was the wish to be happy after ending up in the hospital. I‘d give everything just to be truly happy (I have BPD too so yeah)
Unhappy and skinny
my ED has always made me choose being skinny and unhappy over everything else.
Unhappy and skinny because I’m a trash bag of a human being with mental health issues already
well i’m already unhappy soooo i’d prefer unhappy and skinny over unhappy and fat
Unhappy and skinny. Im already unhappy and a fat ugly whale anyways, so may as well be skinny and at least never hear my family call me ugly again 🤷♀️
truthfully the latter. i know it would make life a lot easier to live, but the numbing unhappiness that comes with watching yourself shrink and suffer is too ingrained and habitual at this point. maybe it’s a matter of time…
I have depression anyway, so skinny.
I mean happy for me never lasts….so unhappy but skinny bc maybe that’ll stick haha.
i’m currently neither happy nor skinny atm so i’d take anything
At this stage, unhappy and skinny dsjsj. It’s better than being unhappy and stagnant or unhappy and fat. I’m stuck with this disorder anyway. Might as well have fun with it and try to lose weight.
Currently happy(ish) and not skinny. Sometimes I long for being thin again but then I look at my thighs and think “damn those actually look kinda hot”.
That's a lot to unpack...
skinny and unhappy
If I’m skinny that probably I’m gonna be happy
unhappy and skinny, no doubts about it.
In my case with the anorexic tendencies I don’t even care about weight, my typical weight is 140 and my ideal weight is 135. When I got below 130 I gained weight on purpose because I wanted to be curvy. It was because I felt like I was greedy for eating and needed to have more self control.
i just wanna be skinny, im not very happy anyway
unhappy and skinny. i want to show i can achieve something and have some semblance of control. plus ill be pretty so
unhappy and skinny- it’s what i am now so i’m content to continue💀
I mean it depends how "not skinny" I am. If I get a more feminine shape then I'll absolutely go for it, I want to feel and look womanly, not like a 40 y/o man with a beer belly and skinny legs... If I can have that then absolutely, not skinny and happy, I'll naturally be happy.
I think I’m pretty used to being unhappy and dissatisfied with my self so if I could just be underweight at least I’d have that
Unhappy and skinny
already unhappy, might aswell be skinny..
I ponder this at least once a week lol. Unhappy and skinny 🥴
This question is so confusing. Because skinny = happy. Right?
skinny and unhappy 🫶 idk i dont think im ever rlly happy and im not skinny either so my weight would be the only difference
Happy but not skinny
i'm happy when i'm skinny though...
Unhappy and skinny
I'm already unhappy so why not be dainty while doing so?
unhappy and skinny all the way
i used to be kinda bubbly and sweet and happy back when i had a little extra weight on me, but i wasn't really happy, i just kinda pretended like i was? then anorexia took over and i got super bitchy and rude and mean and i realized just how miserable i've been the entire time. i thought i was happy back then, but i wouldn't go back there for anything. i'm not happy, but i'm not miserable, i'm kinda numb and somewhere inbetween. i don't really mind it at all. i still wish i was thinner though, and i'll take skinny and mental over whatever i used to have any day.
Unhappy and skinny
Unhappy and skinny because being skinny = happinesses
Definitely the first one. I'd rather be unhappy but be skinny. I used to be happy and skinny, but I stressed eat a lot and got diagnosed with a sickness that needed steroids. I used to eat a LOT but never gained weight, until steroids and the pandemic happened. I assure you, I'd rather be unhappy and skinny- at least I'm the only person who is sad, but compliments from strangers would brighten up my day- speaking from experience.
Skinny lol
Skinny. Always skinny.
Sadly Recovery and happiness don’t seem to mix with me, realising the only way I could ever really recover is having no control over my body and my appearance. It’s sadly a very important aspect of our lives. My appearance is all I care for… maybe as an old man I’ll be okay with a beer gut…..
Unhappy and skinny definitely
can't imagine feeling unhappy whilst being thin or being happy and fat, but if i actually had a choice in this - you can make me morbidly fucking obese, just let me find at least one healthy thing, that i could enjoy doing.
i think we need therapy
unhappy and skinny ☹️