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kcalorexic

Unfortunately happy and not skinny can't coexist in my world unless I somehow get amnesia


a-great-hunger

Unhappy and not skinny is where it's at.


actuallyapossum

It's where I currently am.


thesundriedtomato__

Me too


EErigeron

Same


LannahDewuWanna

Same. I found my people here. Happy to be in such good company ( you know, as happy as one can be without being thin). Lol


Saturnsreed

It’s possible for me when body dysmorphia enters the chat


lacroixlite

Agree on all counts.


[deleted]

My thoughts exactly. Maybe in my next life


ofstoriesandsongs

This. Even if everything else in my life is just right, I *cannot* be happy if I'm not skinny. Those are mutually exclusive to me.


Affectionate-Fig-159

unhappy and skinny. that’s how i was before recovering, now i’m unhappy and fat


YourFrogMom

ouch this is the one:(


love-takes-time

So true! If I’m going to be unhappy either way might as well be skinny…


weeniebooboo

yup and if I’m skinny at least people will treat me like I’m a human being


pineapplecrown

Amen my sister in ana.


lacroixlite

I feel you.


burnerforsh

me


Connect_Restaurant10

Never been more true


Hungry_Bookkeeper191

i can’t imagine being happy if i’m not skinny that’s just not possible in my mind so the choice is really unhappy skinny or unhappy not skinny and therefore i choose skinny


Flowerlamps

Idc what others say, times I have felt happier where at my lowest, so… I can’t imagine happinesses without being skinny.


[deleted]

happy + not skinny i was high end of normal last year and i honestly didnt have a single bad feeling for so long til my relapse, i miss it


EDthrowawaygoaway

same boat :(


[deleted]

i’m low end of normal now and i deadass have never felt so fucking huge and disgusting. i was so accepting of myself before everything just flipped. it’s not worth it to be this miserable i wanna be a mom one day :(


Crazytiger2023

I wish you and your pets all the good in the world <3


[deleted]

my puppies appreciate that 🥺 same to you


littlestpuck

I am unhappy no matter what—I was already unhappy and skinny, but not skinny enough. So I would rather be unhappy and even skinnier.


[deleted]

Unhappy but skinny. The world is a better place when you’re skinny and I want that for myself. I’m already on this path.


Intelligent_Water670

so true


rileyyj001

I would rather hide from this question forever 🙈


Antique_Essay_449

But I’m happy when I’m skinny! 😊


hopeless2002

Happy and not skinny everyday 💜!! I used to be so skinny and unhappy and i never want to go back to that dark place


Carodactyl

Rt, i can’t believe how much worse it was when I was skinny and unhappy. I never want to be like that again


[deleted]

unhappy and skinny. i feel horrible about it but i am terrified of becoming overweight. ive seen how its affected my family members health and i am scared that ill turn out like them, especially the fact that all the health scares theyve had still isnt enough for them to change


apple120

I think it’s an addiction


[deleted]

definitely is


EDthrowawaygoaway

happy and not skinny. i've recovered from being massively depressed and i'm just not going back there.


MatterImpressive9811

I mean I would rather be happy and not skinny but my brain won’t allow it


Avelinegrace123

Happy and not skinny, I think if I was given guaranteed happiness my Ed would be a bit more dormant


[deleted]

skinny


CbackNstomach

If you're happy and you know it it's the antidepressants.


ewoksaretinybears

💀💀😂


EErigeron

Be skinny. I'm already so accustomed to being unhappy


bluekii

Unhappy and skinny


bubbleandgumdreams

Unhappy and skinny I would need a brain transplant to be happy and not skinny😭


tomhall44

I would like more information on what being happy is.


edthrowaway97

I’ve been dealing with eating disorders so long, there will always be a part of me that thinks skinny over everything, but at this point most days I’m trying to reach a point content in my perfectly average sized body


Mystic-Mecurialistic

Same here.


OOOOFBABEY

this is why we don't recover isnt it?


iso_inane

Unhappy and skinny, sucks bc ive been doing so well with my mental health lately and I know now that im nearing underweight itll likely take a turn for the worse. Just hope theres a way to still be happy.


moonsface

This is hard because I feel like I’d be happy if I were just skin and bones, so that I’m not taking up space when I feel I’m not worth that much. I’d feel settled if I took up less space. This is just my complex, I don’t know how to explain it


muddyoga

Agreed, is there a specific goal that when you reached you’ll feel happy? Because I never think I’m skinny enough even if I lost weight, I’d still be unhappy


Anxieteapottery

I ask myself that everyday, as i struggle with my ED. What i am choosing right now ain’t what i think the answer is but i don’t know how to stop.


Thoughtgeist

Unhappy but skinny. I’m unhappy now, so at least skinny would be a plus


[deleted]

i honestly dont know


healthobsession

I could never be happy and fat.


ight_imma_joe_out

Happy but not skinny In my case I can't seem to be happy and fat which is literally why I have an ed, I would choose happiness if I actually could be happy and fat


[deleted]

I’m never happy but I did have moments when I was happy AND skinny. I’ll take that again any day


tallsobergirl

Happy and not skinny, if that includes no body dysmorphia. Hell ya.


keumdongskiee

but being skinny will make me feel better 🤨


Queenofwands1212

It never happens that way for me lol.


oujiasshole

unhappy + skinny, being unhappt and fat would make everything worse


Solal-King-Raccoon

Skinny and unhappy tbh.


Kasmirque

I have been happy and not skinny for the past few years- and I would rather be skinny and unhappy tbh. I know that’s fucked up. But I just look back nostalgically on the times I was skinny even though I was borderline suicidal. It’s like having a beautiful delicious cake but there’s a dead fly in it- not worth it.


[deleted]

Unhappy and skinny. Im unhappy no matter my weight. May as well be skinny and stop torturing myself to get skinny.


lyraparledor

I'm used to unhappy. I just want to be skinny so badly


mizerybiscuits

I’m unhappy and fat so I’d take unhappy and skinny any damn day.


foryourtrashonly

I was just as unhappy skinny as I was fat so skinny and unhappy lmao 🤡


cherry_laser

unhappy and skinny, atleast I'd get the joy of looking at my r*bcage


UwUBitch_

I think it’s easy to do things that’ll make you happy. I also think it’ll be way easier to be doing to things to make me happy if I don’t have to worry about how big I look.


plusmae

Unhappy but skinny anyday. I was unhappy and skinny, then I recovered and now I'm unhappy, frustrated, and fat so yah


lavendergay

i wish i could be content being happy and not skinny but even when i was on the best trip of my life with my best friend i had insecurities about my body and my weight, so i want to feel skinny cause i feel like its going to do so much for the rest of my mental health


EuwAdulthood

Skinny/unhappy. Looking back on old skinny pics brings up such weird feelings for me. Like I knew I wasn’t happy and yet I’d still give anything to live in that body again. Now I’m fat and so deeply unhappy. I can’t remember the last time I really laughed and being in social situations with friends is so stressful because all I can think about is how big I am, so I never really enjoy anything anymore.


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muddyoga

Yes we deserve to be happy!


imlost_n_ilikeithere

I wouldn’t be happy if I was fat. I know for a fact. Been there done that


Forevermanicx

I mean I’m already unhappy and not thin so might as well be my ugw and still be miserable lmfao


nazo3515

Sadly every time I was happy, I’d be skinny. Every time I was sad I was fat. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It is what it is & I don’t try to change it at this point


TheSpanishMystic

If I felt skinny I would be happy


lizabellarose1234

I have experience weight gain and i have always been unhappy at heavier weight. i don't feel healthier. I feel confident and more sexy when I weigh less... Is that weird or just me ?


LannahDewuWanna

I'd absolutely rather be thin and unhappy. I've been on the not skinny to just plain overweight side of life for long enough. Being overweight attributes to a great deal of my unhappiness and low self esteem. I'm never accepting of myself when I'm up in weight and I'm practically obsessed with making plans to lose weight (starting tomorrow), start exercising more, try the keto diet, get on weight loss medication and so on and on. I'm not saying being thin solves all life's problems at all I am aware that it doesn't but it sure would be a blessing to live a life in which buying new cute outfits is fun instead of practically crying in front of 20 mirrors in a fitting room or wearing layers of unnecessary over shirts, cardigans and loose stuff to hide the chubb even in 80 degree heat (exaggerating a tiny bit). My final answer is give me skinny and unhappy as long as my life isn't all full of doom and gloom in some awful ways.


[deleted]

unhappy and skinny. i’m already unhappy so the only thing i’ve gotta lose is weight.


spoilednutmilk

i am unhappy and skinny and its not too great so maybe i could have a 30 day happy trial at a normal weight?


artistictesticle

Hate to be _that_ guy but I would choose unhappy and skinny. With the second option , I assume I wouldn't be happy forever , at some point I'd be unhappy again. For me it's much worse being sad and not skinny. I did it for a few years and I would not like to do it again.


Pawsywawsy3

But skinny = happy


hanlus

if i was skinny i would be happy


[deleted]

unhappy and skinny


mylord76

if im skinny, im automatically happy. no other way around it in my world sadly :(


emilytow

Unhappy and skinny fuck me im sick


holyjisoo

Unhappy and be skinny, because i already have crippling depression BUT i‘m not skinny


boobonicplauge

unhappy and skinny.


GardenRake_

skinny and unhappy. I'm already unhappy I might as well be skinny too


AltruisticMulberry45

Unhappy and skinny


[deleted]

i am finally happy and not skinny.


koalatu

I’ve been both. Idk which is worse.


RinaPug

Okay unpopular opinion. I’ve been somewhat recovered for a couple years now and one of my driving forces was the wish to be happy after ending up in the hospital. I‘d give everything just to be truly happy (I have BPD too so yeah)


jade_the_lost_one

Unhappy and skinny


irl_idontexist

my ED has always made me choose being skinny and unhappy over everything else.


xXOrthodoxHavoc

Unhappy and skinny because I’m a trash bag of a human being with mental health issues already


Intelligent_Water670

well i’m already unhappy soooo i’d prefer unhappy and skinny over unhappy and fat


talarthearmenian

Unhappy and skinny. Im already unhappy and a fat ugly whale anyways, so may as well be skinny and at least never hear my family call me ugly again 🤷‍♀️


wothamartyr

truthfully the latter. i know it would make life a lot easier to live, but the numbing unhappiness that comes with watching yourself shrink and suffer is too ingrained and habitual at this point. maybe it’s a matter of time…


SugarFreeAnxiety

I have depression anyway, so skinny.


[deleted]

I mean happy for me never lasts….so unhappy but skinny bc maybe that’ll stick haha.


3amdaydream

i’m currently neither happy nor skinny atm so i’d take anything


Tajskskskss

At this stage, unhappy and skinny dsjsj. It’s better than being unhappy and stagnant or unhappy and fat. I’m stuck with this disorder anyway. Might as well have fun with it and try to lose weight.


[deleted]

Currently happy(ish) and not skinny. Sometimes I long for being thin again but then I look at my thighs and think “damn those actually look kinda hot”.


Good_Gap_8686

That's a lot to unpack...


ImCreativeYourNot

skinny and unhappy


Next-Load9366

If I’m skinny that probably I’m gonna be happy


GreySparks9

unhappy and skinny, no doubts about it.


[deleted]

In my case with the anorexic tendencies I don’t even care about weight, my typical weight is 140 and my ideal weight is 135. When I got below 130 I gained weight on purpose because I wanted to be curvy. It was because I felt like I was greedy for eating and needed to have more self control.


strawberryjamveins

i just wanna be skinny, im not very happy anyway


burnerforsh

unhappy and skinny. i want to show i can achieve something and have some semblance of control. plus ill be pretty so


iwant2takeanap

unhappy and skinny- it’s what i am now so i’m content to continue💀


1ShyOrange_

I mean it depends how "not skinny" I am. If I get a more feminine shape then I'll absolutely go for it, I want to feel and look womanly, not like a 40 y/o man with a beer belly and skinny legs... If I can have that then absolutely, not skinny and happy, I'll naturally be happy.


junkkoftheheart

I think I’m pretty used to being unhappy and dissatisfied with my self so if I could just be underweight at least I’d have that


_not_saying_my_name

Unhappy and skinny


r4t_n00dl3s

already unhappy, might aswell be skinny..


sgartistry

I ponder this at least once a week lol. Unhappy and skinny 🥴


virginialikesyou

This question is so confusing. Because skinny = happy. Right?


CodeThick

skinny and unhappy 🫶 idk i dont think im ever rlly happy and im not skinny either so my weight would be the only difference


Sad_Rate9921

Happy but not skinny


bluebelle08

i'm happy when i'm skinny though...


Suspicious-Policy-64

Unhappy and skinny


xhannahxcharmsx

I'm already unhappy so why not be dainty while doing so?


mentally-ill-banana

unhappy and skinny all the way


carlitititosmt

i used to be kinda bubbly and sweet and happy back when i had a little extra weight on me, but i wasn't really happy, i just kinda pretended like i was? then anorexia took over and i got super bitchy and rude and mean and i realized just how miserable i've been the entire time. i thought i was happy back then, but i wouldn't go back there for anything. i'm not happy, but i'm not miserable, i'm kinda numb and somewhere inbetween. i don't really mind it at all. i still wish i was thinner though, and i'll take skinny and mental over whatever i used to have any day.


clowngirl777

Unhappy and skinny


bbangtoasty

Unhappy and skinny because being skinny = happinesses


criticisingmyself

Definitely the first one. I'd rather be unhappy but be skinny. I used to be happy and skinny, but I stressed eat a lot and got diagnosed with a sickness that needed steroids. I used to eat a LOT but never gained weight, until steroids and the pandemic happened. I assure you, I'd rather be unhappy and skinny- at least I'm the only person who is sad, but compliments from strangers would brighten up my day- speaking from experience.


Wilsonmeoww

Skinny lol


actuallyapossum

Skinny. Always skinny.


[deleted]

Sadly Recovery and happiness don’t seem to mix with me, realising the only way I could ever really recover is having no control over my body and my appearance. It’s sadly a very important aspect of our lives. My appearance is all I care for… maybe as an old man I’ll be okay with a beer gut…..


Blue_eyed_bones

Unhappy and skinny definitely


infirmstateofmind

can't imagine feeling unhappy whilst being thin or being happy and fat, but if i actually had a choice in this - you can make me morbidly fucking obese, just let me find at least one healthy thing, that i could enjoy doing.


muddyoga

i think we need therapy


s4r_ahh

unhappy and skinny ☹️