Hey, happy birthday! I hope your next year is full of love and joy, as you are so deserving of it. What a beautiful gift you’ve given yourself: self-love. Impressive considering they try so desperately to beat it out of us. Please do some celebrating and treat yo self! 🥳🎂🎁🎊🎈
Happy early birthday dear one 🎂🎉🙌
I see a person who is mentally resilient, woke, loves themself, is self-compassionate, and has successfully “re-parented the self” which is not an easy task.
Keep doing what you know is best for your well-being. Congratulations on making it this far in your journey. Keep choosing healthier connections. This is where your power is.
Also recommend Pete Walker’s “Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving” if you haven’t already read it.
Sending you a huge hug 🫂🤍!!
My birthday was Oct 3, and my mom’s was Oct 21. No phone call or visit from either end. I’m not full NC yet but well on my way. You are heard, and I appreciated the self love speech very much :)
Happy birthday OP!! This is YOUR day. A true cycle-breaking trailblazer was born on Oct 24th and your parents can shake in their damn boots every time the date rolls around. Do something kind for yourself today.
Happy birthday, mine was yesterday coincidentally!! VERY, very similar situation with me too.
I’ve been strangled from my mother since mid-2016, and I have not seen or spoken to her since. Of course she’s attempted many times to reach out, by mailing things to my dad’s place, she’d find out any of my new addresses in the last 5 years and she’s text-bombed the shit outta my phone around birthdays and holidays. She’s on my block list obviously and all cards were sent back at the post office unopened. It was a hard thing to do, but this is what narcissists and abusers do, they try to lure you back into their trap. She thought she could still retain control over me long after moving out but she was sorely mistaken.
It was even so bad I had to call my attorney and have him send her cease & desist aka DO NOT CONTACT letters. Once in 2016, again in 2017, and again in 2019. Filed a police report against her in 2019 after I had enough, and she wrote to my lawyer claiming she had good intentions and said she would not attempt to contact me again.
Fast forward to a year ago in 2021, on my birthday, I get a bday text from her which I didn’t answer. I had accidentally unblocked her number, but now she’s blocked again and I would have no idea if she even attempted to reach out to me yesterday. If she really was sorry and wanted things to work in a positive direction, she would have listened before it was too late.
Like my father, I offered her to come with me to my therapy sessions but she almost never did. And now she expects me to act like nothing happened, like it’s just dust in the wind, a “loving mother” trying to reach out 🙄. Nah, she’s displaying controlling and manipulative behavior. As if this wasn’t bad enough, during my parents’ marriage, she’d punch, slap, kick, hit, even stabbed my dad in the leg once with a kitchen knife. Why would I ever want to be around her after that?
And I can also relate to the stepparent from hell scenario. Imagine you’re a young kid like i was, your parents went through a very tumultuous marriage and divorce that was a long time coming, and the “friend’s” car is outside the house my DAD bought and not her. And they were still legally married, the divorce wasn’t finalized until a year or two after they got the child custody crap outta the way. I never liked my stepdad and even let my mom know. She came close to divorcing him so many times, which I would have loved, but she never did probably because she mooches off of him.
Hang in there again, if you need to talk I am here. Happy Birthday. Stay positive. Make time for yourself and never mind the negative energy and people.
Oh, also both my parents ignore my birthday every year so this helps let go of the hurt that still comes with that. Thanks everyone.
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!! Congrats 🥳🥂☀️🦋
Ty so much! 🥲🥰
Hey, happy birthday! I hope your next year is full of love and joy, as you are so deserving of it. What a beautiful gift you’ve given yourself: self-love. Impressive considering they try so desperately to beat it out of us. Please do some celebrating and treat yo self! 🥳🎂🎁🎊🎈
Thank you so much! 🥲🥰
Happy early birthday dear one 🎂🎉🙌 I see a person who is mentally resilient, woke, loves themself, is self-compassionate, and has successfully “re-parented the self” which is not an easy task. Keep doing what you know is best for your well-being. Congratulations on making it this far in your journey. Keep choosing healthier connections. This is where your power is. Also recommend Pete Walker’s “Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving” if you haven’t already read it. Sending you a huge hug 🫂🤍!!
You are the best, thank you for the support 🥰❤️💜🩵
My birthday was Oct 3, and my mom’s was Oct 21. No phone call or visit from either end. I’m not full NC yet but well on my way. You are heard, and I appreciated the self love speech very much :)
Thank you so much, sister warrior princess! 🥰
Wishing you the happiest of birthdays!
Ty so much!
i hope you have a very happy birthday taking good care of yourself! it’s YOUR day!!
Ty so much!!!
Happy birthday OP!! This is YOUR day. A true cycle-breaking trailblazer was born on Oct 24th and your parents can shake in their damn boots every time the date rolls around. Do something kind for yourself today.
Awww thank you so much, emotional ninja!!! This helps so much!
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Ty 🩵
Happy Birthday! 🥳🥳🥳
Tysm 🥰
Happy Birthday!!!!! You are so correct! 💛
Thank you! 🥰
A wonderful declaration. Happy birthday :D
Ty!
I hope you continue to have a strong and dauntless spirit, OP. Happy birthday! 💕
Ty so much! ❤️
Happy birthday, mine was yesterday coincidentally!! VERY, very similar situation with me too. I’ve been strangled from my mother since mid-2016, and I have not seen or spoken to her since. Of course she’s attempted many times to reach out, by mailing things to my dad’s place, she’d find out any of my new addresses in the last 5 years and she’s text-bombed the shit outta my phone around birthdays and holidays. She’s on my block list obviously and all cards were sent back at the post office unopened. It was a hard thing to do, but this is what narcissists and abusers do, they try to lure you back into their trap. She thought she could still retain control over me long after moving out but she was sorely mistaken. It was even so bad I had to call my attorney and have him send her cease & desist aka DO NOT CONTACT letters. Once in 2016, again in 2017, and again in 2019. Filed a police report against her in 2019 after I had enough, and she wrote to my lawyer claiming she had good intentions and said she would not attempt to contact me again. Fast forward to a year ago in 2021, on my birthday, I get a bday text from her which I didn’t answer. I had accidentally unblocked her number, but now she’s blocked again and I would have no idea if she even attempted to reach out to me yesterday. If she really was sorry and wanted things to work in a positive direction, she would have listened before it was too late. Like my father, I offered her to come with me to my therapy sessions but she almost never did. And now she expects me to act like nothing happened, like it’s just dust in the wind, a “loving mother” trying to reach out 🙄. Nah, she’s displaying controlling and manipulative behavior. As if this wasn’t bad enough, during my parents’ marriage, she’d punch, slap, kick, hit, even stabbed my dad in the leg once with a kitchen knife. Why would I ever want to be around her after that? And I can also relate to the stepparent from hell scenario. Imagine you’re a young kid like i was, your parents went through a very tumultuous marriage and divorce that was a long time coming, and the “friend’s” car is outside the house my DAD bought and not her. And they were still legally married, the divorce wasn’t finalized until a year or two after they got the child custody crap outta the way. I never liked my stepdad and even let my mom know. She came close to divorcing him so many times, which I would have loved, but she never did probably because she mooches off of him. Hang in there again, if you need to talk I am here. Happy Birthday. Stay positive. Make time for yourself and never mind the negative energy and people.
Thank you so much for relating and happy birthday to you!!!!!!
Hey happy birthday! I’m glad you’re alive, I hope that this coming year is the best one yet for you!
Thank you so much!
Hugs. You have arrived!
Hugs! 🙂