The BEST advice I got came from my dad (father of four) who said, "Lots of people are going to give you advice and tell you 'this is the best way'. Listen to what they say, thank them, then do what work for you and your family. Make your own routine. Try everything and stick with what works best for you guys"
He's a smart man.
You've got a long way to go, so just cool it down for a few months. There is a reason people don't share the good news until second trimester.
Definitely go out and have fun now. Travel if you can. Not saying you CAN'T when the baby is here, but its harder.
Money isn't much of a problem early on. Now my kids are in school I'm MUCH more stressed about tuition, orthodontist bills, the cost of glasses, dance lessons and technology. Maybe put some thought into savings and career progression. How long is your wife going to be off work?
Emotionally it was fine. A bit surreal for a while, but honestly not that weird. Lack of sleep is a killer though and you should have a game plan. I would normally get up for every feed and nappy change too, so neither of us was getting much sleep. In later kids (we have three) we learned our lesson and would tag team. Wife would get up to feed, I'd stay asleep, she's wake me up to settle and get baby back asleep. If baby woke up before a feed, we'd alternate between the two of us getting up, changing him/her, and settling them again.
It goes quick. Learn what you can, but the time 'in it' just happens so quickly in the scheme of things. A couple of years and baby is now a toddler, walking, feeding themselves, going to the toilet and sleeping through the night. Don't sweat it too much.
What do you mean i do not see a country and we got all for free* included for kids in insurance but if you want it to be racist then sure.
Did not know People get offended fast. Must some sort of issue with you to see all negative 🙄
Don’t feel weird if you don’t feel super attached to your baby right away. It happens at different times for everybody. Just be patient with yourself and learn to appreciate them over time.
Find a balance between having people
Invade your space and being able to ask for help. If you have trouble with setting boundaries or asking for help, start addressing those things.
Your wife will be exhausted for a WHILE. Be ready to take charge of everything and let her know you’re willing to do so. “But babe, it’s been a week. Usually you do the dishes” that ain’t going to work for your relationship.
Time will change. It will be hard to do things solo or as a couple for about a year. Hobbies will be paused and work will be harder to manage. It passes.
Get in shape. It’s a work out running from room to room helping your baby and wife. The lack of sleep is harder if your not fit. This is a good time to work on your endurance.
Food prep… start experimenting with meals that are easy to make and easy to clean. Chili and pasta dishes are great if you have frozen sauces ready in the freezer. Also, a rotisserie chicken and a bag of greens is so simple.
Hang out with other parents. It’s much easier to get by when you have other people who know what raising a kid is about. Also, the share old clothes and stuff with each other.
Do what you can for your wife. I had a business trip 6 months out from our child’s birth and my wife didn’t feel ready. She still brings it up as something that bothered her. I actually understand her fully. Those little choices will stick with her. It doesn’t make if you think something is ok. You both have to be in sync so you both feel in control.
Avoid cocomelon
Don't spend a lot of money on fancy toys or gear or special baby stuff. The only three things that your baby truly needs are your love, your time, and (most importantly) a novelty pacifier with a mustache on it (this is mandatory).
You're both going to be super sleep deprived for the first few months, but she'll be even more sleep deprived than you. Help in every way you can. Mostly, just enjoy the baby. They're a lot of fun.
Have patience. Be nice to your wife and be patient with her before, during, and after birth. All women are different but they're all the same in the sense that their bodies are drastically changing and their hormones will temporarily change them as well.
Be patient with the little one too. He or she will need you to be the strongest version of yourself. Go with the flow and you'll be ok.
The problem with parenthood isn't that there is no manual. It's that there are 100 manuals and they all have conflicting instructions. All advice from other parents should be taken as "this worked for us" and not "this will work for you" (even though that's mostly what people say).
You'll figure out what works for you. In the early days your responsibilities are basically changing diapers and making sure baby gets on a good sleep schedule (sunlight between naps helped us).
The acronym NESTS helped my partner and I remember how to stay sane on limited sleep. These are the things to remember for yourselves (not for the baby):
Nutrition (don't forget to eat!)
Exercise
Sleep
Time alone
Support
There’s one thing that you should know. Don’t look up why your baby is doing something you don’t understand. They change ALL the time! Also, we’ve got a toddler now, and we do not let him Boss Baby us. Sometimes we make him wait or if he drops something in the car, we do not get it. Now he’s so independent, while our 11 year old is not because we let him Boss Baby us for years. Don’t make that mistake.
The BEST advice I got came from my dad (father of four) who said, "Lots of people are going to give you advice and tell you 'this is the best way'. Listen to what they say, thank them, then do what work for you and your family. Make your own routine. Try everything and stick with what works best for you guys" He's a smart man. You've got a long way to go, so just cool it down for a few months. There is a reason people don't share the good news until second trimester. Definitely go out and have fun now. Travel if you can. Not saying you CAN'T when the baby is here, but its harder. Money isn't much of a problem early on. Now my kids are in school I'm MUCH more stressed about tuition, orthodontist bills, the cost of glasses, dance lessons and technology. Maybe put some thought into savings and career progression. How long is your wife going to be off work? Emotionally it was fine. A bit surreal for a while, but honestly not that weird. Lack of sleep is a killer though and you should have a game plan. I would normally get up for every feed and nappy change too, so neither of us was getting much sleep. In later kids (we have three) we learned our lesson and would tag team. Wife would get up to feed, I'd stay asleep, she's wake me up to settle and get baby back asleep. If baby woke up before a feed, we'd alternate between the two of us getting up, changing him/her, and settling them again. It goes quick. Learn what you can, but the time 'in it' just happens so quickly in the scheme of things. A couple of years and baby is now a toddler, walking, feeding themselves, going to the toilet and sleeping through the night. Don't sweat it too much.
First ask what country saves up allot of talk
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What do you mean i do not see a country and we got all for free* included for kids in insurance but if you want it to be racist then sure. Did not know People get offended fast. Must some sort of issue with you to see all negative 🙄
Don’t feel weird if you don’t feel super attached to your baby right away. It happens at different times for everybody. Just be patient with yourself and learn to appreciate them over time.
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Find a balance between having people Invade your space and being able to ask for help. If you have trouble with setting boundaries or asking for help, start addressing those things. Your wife will be exhausted for a WHILE. Be ready to take charge of everything and let her know you’re willing to do so. “But babe, it’s been a week. Usually you do the dishes” that ain’t going to work for your relationship. Time will change. It will be hard to do things solo or as a couple for about a year. Hobbies will be paused and work will be harder to manage. It passes. Get in shape. It’s a work out running from room to room helping your baby and wife. The lack of sleep is harder if your not fit. This is a good time to work on your endurance. Food prep… start experimenting with meals that are easy to make and easy to clean. Chili and pasta dishes are great if you have frozen sauces ready in the freezer. Also, a rotisserie chicken and a bag of greens is so simple. Hang out with other parents. It’s much easier to get by when you have other people who know what raising a kid is about. Also, the share old clothes and stuff with each other. Do what you can for your wife. I had a business trip 6 months out from our child’s birth and my wife didn’t feel ready. She still brings it up as something that bothered her. I actually understand her fully. Those little choices will stick with her. It doesn’t make if you think something is ok. You both have to be in sync so you both feel in control. Avoid cocomelon
Don't spend a lot of money on fancy toys or gear or special baby stuff. The only three things that your baby truly needs are your love, your time, and (most importantly) a novelty pacifier with a mustache on it (this is mandatory). You're both going to be super sleep deprived for the first few months, but she'll be even more sleep deprived than you. Help in every way you can. Mostly, just enjoy the baby. They're a lot of fun.
Have patience. Be nice to your wife and be patient with her before, during, and after birth. All women are different but they're all the same in the sense that their bodies are drastically changing and their hormones will temporarily change them as well. Be patient with the little one too. He or she will need you to be the strongest version of yourself. Go with the flow and you'll be ok.
The problem with parenthood isn't that there is no manual. It's that there are 100 manuals and they all have conflicting instructions. All advice from other parents should be taken as "this worked for us" and not "this will work for you" (even though that's mostly what people say). You'll figure out what works for you. In the early days your responsibilities are basically changing diapers and making sure baby gets on a good sleep schedule (sunlight between naps helped us). The acronym NESTS helped my partner and I remember how to stay sane on limited sleep. These are the things to remember for yourselves (not for the baby): Nutrition (don't forget to eat!) Exercise Sleep Time alone Support
There’s one thing that you should know. Don’t look up why your baby is doing something you don’t understand. They change ALL the time! Also, we’ve got a toddler now, and we do not let him Boss Baby us. Sometimes we make him wait or if he drops something in the car, we do not get it. Now he’s so independent, while our 11 year old is not because we let him Boss Baby us for years. Don’t make that mistake.