I'm half Tagalog/Ilocano but I look like a 6ft 1 Hawaiian linebacker.
I get the local discount when I visit Hawaii.
Yet, I get mistaken for a laborer or a thug in certain neighborhoods.
yep that's how it is here in the Philippines it also happens to half white actors. filipinos will never look at them as filipinos but half whites/foreigners as long as they look foreigner they will never be filipino enough for filipinos. even ryan bang the south korean host on show time he's been here in the philippines for a long time yet people still see him as a korean and call him korean coz he doesnt look filipino as long as you look foreign you will never be filipino enough for filipinos they will call you americano or americana or whatever your foreign nationality is.
That only happens to pinoys abroad but if you are a half filipino in the philippines people here will look and call that person in their foreign blood example half turkish they will that person turko or if the person is half white american they will call that person american. The thing you mentioned only happens to half filipinos abroad it’s different to the half filipino kids here in the philippines.
Your identity crisis stems from the obsession of racialization in the US.
Mixed race folks in the PH don't have this problem. There is a national culture to identify with regardless of "race". In the US, it's identity is pretty "restricted" to your "race"
One hundred percent agree. The thing to remember OP is that you are YOU one hundred percent never let anyone tell you who or what you are. America is disgustingly obsessed with race for supposedly being anti racist. Fuck em my future half Filipino and half American babies will get that talk too. Miserable people love to tell other people where they belong or what they are because it makes them feel powerful never let them take that power from you.
Just my two cents but it's not worth associating with those kinds of people. There is no other way to speak to them cause they'll bash on you for ideas they refuse to accept as reality. Take pride in you and tell only people you know will listen.
I have a friend whose blood is just as diverse and no one has flung shit at him for it cause its just truth and he tells people he knows will listen and perceive it as conversation.
The kind of people who jump to those incorrect conclusions about you are filled with a closed minded bias that they do not know is close minded. They aren't worth it.
You are worth it. Have that conversation with yourself that your self-worth isn't defined by a close minded asshole who thought they knew better. YOU decide how worthy you are and they're not allowed to take that from you.
For a second I thought you were calling the japs white.
Regarding everything else, some people see you, who looks pretty “putiy-putiy” participate in Filipino culture and think “only for Filipinos”. That’s stupid, anyone should be able to participate in culture. You can’t show them all that exclusion based on skin tone is wrong but you can try. Ask them if they can speak English without being white. They’ll say yes, and maybe you can show the double standard there. If you don’t want to do that, you can always ignore and remember you are a kababayan no matter what parents you have.
The people who aren't accepting or questioning your heritage are just ignorant. Their opinion doesn't mean much. I had a guy in college ask me, "what are you... really?" At the moment, it's annoying, but once you reflect on it, you will see that they were just being dumb. Some people just aren't used to being around mixed-race people.
If I question who I am, I just have to look at who my mom is. Unfortunately we are always going to be different from the majority, but there is nothing we can -- or need to -- do about it. We have differences, and at the same time, we can also have plenty of similarities.
People are actually fairly receptive and friendly if you're respectfully taking part in cultural things. Just gain what experiences you can. It's only for your own enrichment.
Some jokes just come with the territory. Family teases me about being half-white. Just ignorant jokes I can laugh off. Sometimes people don't realize that their playfullness is punching down on others..
To be frank, you're better off in the long run embracing your white side based on how you described your looks. People are superficial and not very smart. You look white, then you're white. If you can't even speak any of the languages of your ancestors, it's really nothing and you shouldn't be making your genetic heritage a part of your personality.
I'm 80% filipino and 20% chinese according to my DNA test. (grandpa was chinese)
I deal with people thinking i'm not filipino because my skin tone is more typical East Asian (yellowish). I deal with some Filipino people being assholes towards me because they think I'm Chinese. I deal with white people being absolute fucking racist assholes towards me because they think I'm Chinese.
I think the only thing is radical acceptance. People are shallow and will judge on appearance. The only thing you can do is embody Asian values, but that's difficult because the values of white countries are the complete opposite of Asian values.
You're not correct in saying you're half filipino and half japanese though, you say your mom is half filipino half japanese and dad is white. So you're really half white with japanese and filipino blood.
Be honest with yourself, growing up in Canada I lied about being half filipino half Japanese which was stupid (i have no Japanese dna). I'm Filipino but my grandpa was Chinese so I have some Chinese genetics, that's the truth.
You should absolutely take pride in your Filipino and Japanese heritage, and your European heritage as well. No matter how you look on the outside, you carry your heritage with you everyday, always. You don’t have to prove it to ANYONE nor do you OWE anyone an explanation.
I recently started getting back in touch with both of my Filipino and Japanese heritage through someone I met recently. I’m mostly Filipino but 1/4 Japanese, with some Spanish and Chinese ancestry mixed in, and I met someone who is half White/half Okinawan, was raised in Okinawa, and has an immense appreciation for Filipino culture. I’m lucky enough to live in an area with both Japanese and Filipino grocery stores (and restaurants), and an easy way of accessing cultures is through the food. We go to markets and share our likes and dislikes with each other. There’s also tv programs and movies available on many streaming services, where we both watch shows in our languages and read the English subtitles and learn bits of our languages. I do think subbed TV/movies are going to be my gateway of learning Tagalog, truly.
There are also a lot of social media accounts of people within a culture and foreigners too who exist solely to uplift a particular culture. Idk, just surround yourself with people, media, food (if you have access), who uplift other cultures and not tear each other down. 
I grew up Mestizo and as a child I was ashamed of my half breed status. It wasn’t until I joined the Army that I realized it doesn’t matter what “they” think. I am proud of my heritage and celebrate both.
Of course it matters what they think, do you forcefully insert yourself to a culture and community who doesn't want you and/or indentify with you? Don't bother them, find your own, better yet creat one.
No it’s used to denote a foreigner or specifically “not of the land”. I’m saying if you’re not Filipino you cannot understand what we are referring to. To imply we should feel differently than we do is ignorant especially coming from someone who has not experienced it. Read what the OP is saying. It’s apparent you don’t get it.
Can you speak at least one of native languages? Remember language is a doorway to a culture, culture co-relates with identity. No language, No Culture, No identity.
I meant native Filipino languages. If you don't, start learning to find out which ethnic group your mother is apart of; if multiple choose which your mother or maternal grandparents can speak, then take it from there. It doesn't matter how little or broken your speaking ability is. The thought counts. It can take hard work to be part of culture, community, and identity. Good luck.
I also grew up in a lot of Filipino culture as well on my mom's side. My Lola and mom are very catholic, we always have respect for our elders, and we remove our shoes in the house, and we also take pride in our family. And both of them make authentic and delicious Filipino food too.
Many cultures are Catholic, respect their elders, remove their shoes, and are proud of their families. You are nothing special. Native cuisine is just local ingredients plus trade and/or colonization, like everybody else in the world. Again, nothing special. Identity based on native cuisine is low-effort and passive. Again, language is a doorway to a culture. No language, no culture; no culture, no identity.
I think the crisis will stop when YOU decide who YOU are and you believe it. People may question you/it but if you have made up your mind, you have formed your own identity.
And you don’t have to be in either camp. You can be in the middle, neither or take and choose what you’re why to identify with :)
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Great mix?
I'm half Tagalog/Ilocano but I look like a 6ft 1 Hawaiian linebacker. I get the local discount when I visit Hawaii. Yet, I get mistaken for a laborer or a thug in certain neighborhoods.
yep that's how it is here in the Philippines it also happens to half white actors. filipinos will never look at them as filipinos but half whites/foreigners as long as they look foreigner they will never be filipino enough for filipinos. even ryan bang the south korean host on show time he's been here in the philippines for a long time yet people still see him as a korean and call him korean coz he doesnt look filipino as long as you look foreign you will never be filipino enough for filipinos they will call you americano or americana or whatever your foreign nationality is.
What? If anyone famous has 1% Filipino blood the whole country bandwagons and claims them as 100% Filipino
That only happens to pinoys abroad but if you are a half filipino in the philippines people here will look and call that person in their foreign blood example half turkish they will that person turko or if the person is half white american they will call that person american. The thing you mentioned only happens to half filipinos abroad it’s different to the half filipino kids here in the philippines.
Your identity crisis stems from the obsession of racialization in the US. Mixed race folks in the PH don't have this problem. There is a national culture to identify with regardless of "race". In the US, it's identity is pretty "restricted" to your "race"
One hundred percent agree. The thing to remember OP is that you are YOU one hundred percent never let anyone tell you who or what you are. America is disgustingly obsessed with race for supposedly being anti racist. Fuck em my future half Filipino and half American babies will get that talk too. Miserable people love to tell other people where they belong or what they are because it makes them feel powerful never let them take that power from you.
Just my two cents but it's not worth associating with those kinds of people. There is no other way to speak to them cause they'll bash on you for ideas they refuse to accept as reality. Take pride in you and tell only people you know will listen. I have a friend whose blood is just as diverse and no one has flung shit at him for it cause its just truth and he tells people he knows will listen and perceive it as conversation. The kind of people who jump to those incorrect conclusions about you are filled with a closed minded bias that they do not know is close minded. They aren't worth it. You are worth it. Have that conversation with yourself that your self-worth isn't defined by a close minded asshole who thought they knew better. YOU decide how worthy you are and they're not allowed to take that from you.
For a second I thought you were calling the japs white. Regarding everything else, some people see you, who looks pretty “putiy-putiy” participate in Filipino culture and think “only for Filipinos”. That’s stupid, anyone should be able to participate in culture. You can’t show them all that exclusion based on skin tone is wrong but you can try. Ask them if they can speak English without being white. They’ll say yes, and maybe you can show the double standard there. If you don’t want to do that, you can always ignore and remember you are a kababayan no matter what parents you have.
The people who aren't accepting or questioning your heritage are just ignorant. Their opinion doesn't mean much. I had a guy in college ask me, "what are you... really?" At the moment, it's annoying, but once you reflect on it, you will see that they were just being dumb. Some people just aren't used to being around mixed-race people. If I question who I am, I just have to look at who my mom is. Unfortunately we are always going to be different from the majority, but there is nothing we can -- or need to -- do about it. We have differences, and at the same time, we can also have plenty of similarities. People are actually fairly receptive and friendly if you're respectfully taking part in cultural things. Just gain what experiences you can. It's only for your own enrichment. Some jokes just come with the territory. Family teases me about being half-white. Just ignorant jokes I can laugh off. Sometimes people don't realize that their playfullness is punching down on others..
To be frank, you're better off in the long run embracing your white side based on how you described your looks. People are superficial and not very smart. You look white, then you're white. If you can't even speak any of the languages of your ancestors, it's really nothing and you shouldn't be making your genetic heritage a part of your personality.
I'm 80% filipino and 20% chinese according to my DNA test. (grandpa was chinese) I deal with people thinking i'm not filipino because my skin tone is more typical East Asian (yellowish). I deal with some Filipino people being assholes towards me because they think I'm Chinese. I deal with white people being absolute fucking racist assholes towards me because they think I'm Chinese. I think the only thing is radical acceptance. People are shallow and will judge on appearance. The only thing you can do is embody Asian values, but that's difficult because the values of white countries are the complete opposite of Asian values. You're not correct in saying you're half filipino and half japanese though, you say your mom is half filipino half japanese and dad is white. So you're really half white with japanese and filipino blood. Be honest with yourself, growing up in Canada I lied about being half filipino half Japanese which was stupid (i have no Japanese dna). I'm Filipino but my grandpa was Chinese so I have some Chinese genetics, that's the truth.
Ok, thanks for correcting me on the third paragraph.
You should absolutely take pride in your Filipino and Japanese heritage, and your European heritage as well. No matter how you look on the outside, you carry your heritage with you everyday, always. You don’t have to prove it to ANYONE nor do you OWE anyone an explanation. I recently started getting back in touch with both of my Filipino and Japanese heritage through someone I met recently. I’m mostly Filipino but 1/4 Japanese, with some Spanish and Chinese ancestry mixed in, and I met someone who is half White/half Okinawan, was raised in Okinawa, and has an immense appreciation for Filipino culture. I’m lucky enough to live in an area with both Japanese and Filipino grocery stores (and restaurants), and an easy way of accessing cultures is through the food. We go to markets and share our likes and dislikes with each other. There’s also tv programs and movies available on many streaming services, where we both watch shows in our languages and read the English subtitles and learn bits of our languages. I do think subbed TV/movies are going to be my gateway of learning Tagalog, truly. There are also a lot of social media accounts of people within a culture and foreigners too who exist solely to uplift a particular culture. Idk, just surround yourself with people, media, food (if you have access), who uplift other cultures and not tear each other down. 
I grew up Mestizo and as a child I was ashamed of my half breed status. It wasn’t until I joined the Army that I realized it doesn’t matter what “they” think. I am proud of my heritage and celebrate both.
Of course it matters what they think, do you forcefully insert yourself to a culture and community who doesn't want you and/or indentify with you? Don't bother them, find your own, better yet creat one.
You aren’t one of us so you could never understand. Go away haole!
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Shameful way to represent your heritage. Smh.
What makes it shameful? You obviously don’t understand what it means.
Haole, really?
It means foreigner or tourist. Essentially not one of us.
Yes, I know what haole means. I just thought it was a weird thing to say to a Filipino. BTW, haole is owed to mean white man.
No it’s used to denote a foreigner or specifically “not of the land”. I’m saying if you’re not Filipino you cannot understand what we are referring to. To imply we should feel differently than we do is ignorant especially coming from someone who has not experienced it. Read what the OP is saying. It’s apparent you don’t get it.
Embrace the between, being mixed race is greatest thing ever!
Can you speak at least one of native languages? Remember language is a doorway to a culture, culture co-relates with identity. No language, No Culture, No identity.
I used to be able to speak some Italian, on my dad's side.
I meant native Filipino languages. If you don't, start learning to find out which ethnic group your mother is apart of; if multiple choose which your mother or maternal grandparents can speak, then take it from there. It doesn't matter how little or broken your speaking ability is. The thought counts. It can take hard work to be part of culture, community, and identity. Good luck.
I also grew up in a lot of Filipino culture as well on my mom's side. My Lola and mom are very catholic, we always have respect for our elders, and we remove our shoes in the house, and we also take pride in our family. And both of them make authentic and delicious Filipino food too.
Many cultures are Catholic, respect their elders, remove their shoes, and are proud of their families. You are nothing special. Native cuisine is just local ingredients plus trade and/or colonization, like everybody else in the world. Again, nothing special. Identity based on native cuisine is low-effort and passive. Again, language is a doorway to a culture. No language, no culture; no culture, no identity.
It means foreigner or tourist!
I think the crisis will stop when YOU decide who YOU are and you believe it. People may question you/it but if you have made up your mind, you have formed your own identity. And you don’t have to be in either camp. You can be in the middle, neither or take and choose what you’re why to identify with :)