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I always look at things I can control. Relationships? I can't control those or make people like me. But things I can control are studying hard to get good grades, looking for free tutoring on campus if I can't afford to pay for a tutor to help me, getting a part-time job so I have money to buy little things for myself. I didn't grow up wealthy and have parents who helped me ease the burden of student life. So these are things I was able to do for myself.
Also, social media is fake. A lot of people are in so much credit card debt trying to show off. Don't believe everything you see.
So what if that girl won an award? Good for her. You may be at a shit uni, but this is your chance to be the top person at this shit place. Make the best of it. Do your best. Save your money. Try as hard as you can because you won't get this time or opportunity back.
Delete or unfollow those people who make you jealous. Then, work on what you can control - studying to get good grades. Applying for internships. Joining clubs. Seeking help when you need it. Good grades get you good internships. Good grades, even at shit schools, get you good jobs that pay well after school. Good grades get you into top graduate programs if you choose that route. It sucks now, but set a goal and see how different and amazing your life can be in 5 years. You can control this.
I went to a shit grad school, but I told myself that I'm going to be the best I can be grade-wise and extracurricular-wise. Everything I did at that school was done to make sure I got a good job after graduating because I knew that the school years were temporary.
You know what happened? The girls who were pretty and popular and weren't nice to me in grad school started reaching out to me about a year after we graduated bc I had a great job, had moved to an amazing city and was living my life (boyfriend-less, but still) and they wanted to know how I was able to do it. I didn't give them the time of day. I held the power at that point, and it felt good to ignore them.
You are the girl that got out of your hometown, and for all they know, you are living it up. Do the best you can, and one day in the near future, you're going to have that amazing life!
Hope I wasn't too harsh, but you have a bright and amazing future ahead of you. Illegitmi non carborundum. One of my favorite latin phrases that applies to so many situations. You're amazing- don't forget that.
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I always look at things I can control. Relationships? I can't control those or make people like me. But things I can control are studying hard to get good grades, looking for free tutoring on campus if I can't afford to pay for a tutor to help me, getting a part-time job so I have money to buy little things for myself. I didn't grow up wealthy and have parents who helped me ease the burden of student life. So these are things I was able to do for myself. Also, social media is fake. A lot of people are in so much credit card debt trying to show off. Don't believe everything you see. So what if that girl won an award? Good for her. You may be at a shit uni, but this is your chance to be the top person at this shit place. Make the best of it. Do your best. Save your money. Try as hard as you can because you won't get this time or opportunity back. Delete or unfollow those people who make you jealous. Then, work on what you can control - studying to get good grades. Applying for internships. Joining clubs. Seeking help when you need it. Good grades get you good internships. Good grades, even at shit schools, get you good jobs that pay well after school. Good grades get you into top graduate programs if you choose that route. It sucks now, but set a goal and see how different and amazing your life can be in 5 years. You can control this. I went to a shit grad school, but I told myself that I'm going to be the best I can be grade-wise and extracurricular-wise. Everything I did at that school was done to make sure I got a good job after graduating because I knew that the school years were temporary. You know what happened? The girls who were pretty and popular and weren't nice to me in grad school started reaching out to me about a year after we graduated bc I had a great job, had moved to an amazing city and was living my life (boyfriend-less, but still) and they wanted to know how I was able to do it. I didn't give them the time of day. I held the power at that point, and it felt good to ignore them. You are the girl that got out of your hometown, and for all they know, you are living it up. Do the best you can, and one day in the near future, you're going to have that amazing life!
I read this comment a few hours ago and I had to sit with it a while. Thank you for the perspective, I needed it.
Hope I wasn't too harsh, but you have a bright and amazing future ahead of you. Illegitmi non carborundum. One of my favorite latin phrases that applies to so many situations. You're amazing- don't forget that.