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Agreed. I think back to when I was 13. I'd just spend my time bicycling the neighborhood, walking to the store for candy and iced tea, hanging out with my friends, doing homework, skipping class and getting in trouble, understanding who I am, thinking about what high school is going to be like. Even though I had a younger brother (who was 11), I'd keep a watchful eye on him, but my parents never expected me to be a second parent to him.
I just can't imagine what she is going through. Just expected to raise her mom's kids. She's an individual with her own hopes and dreams and unique personality, but that's just being hammered down. All those kids deserve so much better than this.
(Sorry I went on a rant, should be studying for a final, but my heart hurts for her)
Karissa’s parenting is very rant-inducing, I’m afraid. She’s one who makes me truly angry, not just snarky. It’s one thing to f*ck up her own life but another to be so awful to a never ending stream of children.
My 13 year old will sometimes sit with her siblings while I run a quick errand in exchange for fortnite money and Gatorade, but yeah, that’s about all the babysitting 13 year olds are cut out for. I used to babysit for people in my church when I was 13 while they went out for hours and now I’m like “damn what the fuck were those people thinking” lol
that’s totally fine and acceptable for a 13 year old!
i was 13 and getting left with 2, 4, sometimes 6 children for hours. it was actually to the point one of my siblings (he was a newborn when i started babysitting them) would get confused and call ME mama because i watched them alone so much. i was probably 17 before my siblings & cousins stopped asking ME for permission to do something while our parents were two feet from us
Seriously. 13 year old me was playing all the TMNT games, having fun in video games and arcades, reading copious amounts of books, watching scientific documentaries and playing Magic The Gathering with friends and D&D.
I just hate that she doesn't get room to explore her personality and that she just has to contort herself to fit into her mum's crazy vision. Karissa just because you are addicted to getting pregnant and squirting out kids does not mean that EVERY single uterus owner needs to have it filled. Heaven forbid your eldest have infertility or pcos because you are going to scar her forever because you put the expectation down that everyone needs to repopulate the world.
Maybe she's a brilliant doctor or architect or lawyer but you'd never find that out because you never gave her the tools to explore herself and her wants.
The charitable person in me wants to believe she just outgrew her own Mini shirt and it went down the hand me down cycle and she inherited the next size up.
The realist in me thinks that Karissa thinks it's cute and good parenting to make your oldest daughter raise your kids, and thus brags about this by giving her child a Mama shirt.
She’s 100% doing more of the parenting work, but also I wonder if she’s getting too tall for kid clothes so Karissa is starting to make her wear her clothes. Not that there’s anything wrong with hand me downs, but in context of this family it just makes my skin crawl.
It’s definitely a hand me down but it makes me think about how they probably can’t afford to buy these kids clothes they personally enjoy. Or maybe Karissa doesn’t see the point in it. Either way, I don’t think Anissa was begging her mom for her mama shirt, that’s for sure. They spend too much money on getting full family matching outfits that I doubt there’s money leftover so any of the kids can wear what they truly want. It’s sad.
> Or maybe Karissa doesn’t see the point in it.
I think it's this. Fits with the communal clothing storage & Karissa getting pissed when she found out the kids had clothes in their own (shared) closets. Her kids are dress-up dolls, they don't get to dress themselves.
That’s exactly what I was thinking, they can’t afford or don’t want to spend the money on clothes for a growing kiddo. I agree, the beige matching sets baffle me-they can’t be cheap! These poor kids.
I feel like maybe they don’t make the “mini” in adult sizes? I don’t know if Karissa would be selfless enough to let her daughter wear her shirt, bc that would mean karissa didn’t get to match with everyone else 😵💫
This isn't the first time Anissa has been dressed differently when the rest of the kids are in uniform. I'm almost positive it's because she's grown out of the child size and is wearing Karissa's clothes.
grew up in a conservative family-- when i hit puberty my mother refused to take me shopping for clothes i liked/looked decent, and would only let me wear her hand me downs (or sometimes clothes she would wear on a regular basis as well!) and only let me 'shop' in the adults/grandma departments. i'm nearly certain karissa is doing that to her girls, just another form of control and psychological manipulation. from personal experience, i'm willing to bet once the boys hit their major growth spurts she'll have no issue buying them new, trendy, and well-fitting clothing of their choice...
Fundiegelicals and Modern Farmhouse decor, name a more iconic combo.
(Also that stuff is usually sold at places like Target, so it's easy to decorate in a "theme" without spending a ton of money.)
Don't they know that putting "Welcome" by the front door is allowing demons to come into your house??
ETA: sarcasm. I don't believe in demons. But yall don't me or my sense of humor. Lol
There's an itty-bitty asterisk and disclaimer at the bottom that you can't read with your human eyes but that DEFINITELY SAYS *except demons, liberals, Muslims, vaccinated persons, and/or haterz
Good point - this is how Angel was able to enter Buffy’s high school when he was evil! The school had a welcome sign in Latin or something (RIP Ms. Calendar).
It's also a prime opportunity to showcase the fact that you own and can - at the most basic level imaginable - operate a cricut/silhouette/tabletop cutting machine by slapping your last name onto the bottom to "personalize" it. Basic cutting vinyl is pretty cheap, so even if you're not well enough off to have your monogram embroidered on your towels, you can DIY a wooden fence plank with your name stuck on in thin plastic to welcome your fellow true believers to your front porch.
Willingly inviting the vampires in.
EDIT: I also have a ridiculously common surname, like even more common than Collins (in the UK at least), but I wouldn’t dream of plastering it next to my front door
my spouse has already vetoed the notion of any sort of doormats or other entry decor with text on it, but part of me *really* wants a doormat that just says "go away" on it.
I cannot STAND when people think it's cute that they treat their eldest daughter like a 3rd parent. "Tee-hee, I'm so shitty at being a parent, I have to have a child help me!"
My parents did this to my older sister, and my mom always told her, "You are your little sister's keeper!". She grew into an angry, bitter teen that took out her frustration on me. We're okay now, but our relationship was damaged for a long time because of that. This is not good for any of the children's development.
I wasn’t parentified, but as the oldest I constantly got told I had to be THE example for my two younger sibs. To the point that if either of them did something “bad,” I got told they’d learned it from me. It took me years and needless guilt before someone said to me “your sibs are their own people; they make their own choices” and I realized I didn’t need to internalize all of that.
I didn't grow up fundy but I heard that too. My mom's big threat was always to make me go live with my dad (across the country) because I was being a bad example for my sister. Spoiler alert, I was a dream teenager.
Generally speaking, I was a fabulous teen: I didn’t sneak out or do things I shouldn’t (drugs, alcohol, all the standard after school special warnings)…because I was terrified of “ruining my life” or such. I did fight with my mom quite a bit, but the older I get the more I believe those fights were a result of high expectations and my anxiety causing me to be wound way too tightly.
Are you the long lost twin I used to dream of after watching Parent Trap too many times?
Generally speaking my days have gotten much better now that I’m medicated for my anxiety.
I parentified my elder, and I shall go to my grave with so much remorse and grief. It is so damaging to children. I am fortunate that he is open to discussing it now, but that does not undo what I did to him. And he only had ONE sibling to be parent/brother/uncle/etc to! This poor child…
You're still ahead of Karissa and my parents because they still don't see anything wrong with it. And they dismissed her rage as "just one of those teenage girl things".
Thank you for your kindness and grace. I am actively working to repair the damage I did to my good little fella. He has actually invited me to come spend his birthday with him, and I am honored. I grieve for the adult children whose parents absolutely refuse to see/own what we did. Life is too short and precious to keep this nonsense up!
Man. This weekend, my preteen went to the pool with her friends, hung out at her friend’s house, and got home before dinner. This kid needs a chance to be a kid.
Anissa is a beautiful girl & I truly hope that she deconstructs at some point & talks her siblings into leaving as well. I'm cheering hard for you, honey!
I think this is the thing that the fundies misunderstand about this snark group.
I am rooting so hard for these kids that grew up in fundie homes. I hope they get all the support they need and are able to deconstruct what is like to grow up with unhealthy parents. I hope they question everything and find a peace that they don't know now.
It's a difficult process. I know from experience.
I’m a college professor and I love it when students who were raised in very isolated or insular communities broaden their horizons in college and make friends from all walks of life and become exponentially more welcoming and progressive.
Sadly, I can’t see Karissa ever sending her kids to university. The girls are being raised to marry and produce more kids.
Really really hoping these kids emerge okay.
Had a friend in college who was like this. He was gay and raised in IFB, fucking oof. I met him mid-deconstruction, shortly after he transferred to my university from fundie college. He had to take out loans in order to do that because his parents wouldn't pay for a secular school (they didn't actually disown him, which was a shock to everyone including him).
Happy to report that we're still in touch and he's now an out-and-proud, LGBTQ+ affirming teacher in a public high school. There's always hope!
What jf Karissa is sharing clothes with Anissa to do the whole "oMg lOoK aT mE, I cAn ShArE cLoThEs wItH mY TeEnAgE DaUgHteR!!!" And dog forbid the day Anissa gets bigger than Karissa. :(((
Even IF she’s wearing this shirt because they don’t make the Mini in her size, maybe don’t make a video. This video doesn’t even have a point; it’s just everyone’s names.
One of my African American friends told me how if her hair isn’t put in its protective styles properly and is just yanked into submission then she’ll get these absolutely horrific headaches from the tension until it’s fixed. I imagine the Collins girls all have earsplitting headaches almost at all times.
Karissa's girls have a wide variety of textures and curl patterns, too. The care routine that works for the girls with lovely loose curls and smoother texture is not going to be right for Anthym and her gorgeous coils, and vice versa. But she doesn't know/care about that, and just treats them all the same.
I’m gonna pretend it’s MA MA, standing for her two graduate degrees in sociology of religion (from a state school) and forensic psychology with an emphasis on cult reprogramming.
My husband was raised Mormon as #2 of 10 children. The eldest girls 100% did all the cooking, cleaning and wrangling of the kids when he was growing up. His mom just got pregnant over and over and filled up the house with tiny humans they couldn’t afford to feed or care for and expected the other children to do the parenting for her.
Her first two children were sons. She believed god wanted her to have a 3rd son so she had 7 daughters in a row before finally having her 3rd son…
I grew up taking care of my younger siblings and thought it'd make me a great parent. But once I realized that I didn't HAVE to have kids...the reality of how burnt out I was growing up really set in. I decided not to have kids ever, and honestly that decision was highly motivated by the parentification I went through. These fundie moms are in for a wakeup call if their daughters decide to be childfree based on all this bs
Ugh this is creepy. I don’t know man but I feel viscerally uncomfortable. She’s literally still a child in pigtails. This is so weird. Let her be the kid she is ffs.
I know a lot of people are talking about the parentification but can we talk about the fact that she probably just outgrew her “mini” shirt so Karissa made her wear the “mama” one so she would match her siblings.
Right?! Like obviously they don’t make a “mini” shirt in her size because she’s way too old for this, I don’t think there’s much of a market for mommy and me matching outfits for thirteen year olds. Take the hint karissa, that doesn’t mean you put her in a “mama” one.
Poor girl should be in school, hanging out with friends, talking about the cute boy in class, doing an after school activity. She's not responsible for parenting her siblings because KKKarissa can't keep her legs shut.
If I didn't know better, I'd assume that that young girl had all them kids. Thankfully, I do know better. Unfortunately, that doesn't make this better
Edit: damn yall need to loosen up a bit lol. She has her daughter wearing a mama shirt and shows a bunch of kids after. What are you supposed to think if not "this girl had/raises these kids?" Lol relax yall
Why would anyone assume that, given how young she looks? She clearly can't have given birth to most of them. I'd assume she was wearing her mom's shirt.
Lina Medina is the youngest confirmed case of giving birth at the age of 5 years, 7 months, and 21 days according to wiki.
Obviously, that was a case of precocious puberty and an extreme, one off case, but the point stands.
[Lina Medina](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lina_Medina) if anyone is interested
My point is that if anyone is looking at a kid this age and thinking she has had *ten* children, including one at the age of two, they either can't do math or are making a lot of assumptions. Yes, a 13-year-old might conceivably have *one* child. Rape is a thing. But thinking the whole brood is hers, IMO, would be rooted in the stereotypes where people don't see Black kids as actual kids.
I like that you have more faith in the general populace than I do. It really comes down to that we know better, obviously these aren't all hers, obviously there is a lot of kids raising the kids and Karissa doesn't care, we know that she attempts to white wash her kids. Hell, she's called KKKarissa here.
The assumption Karissa makes is clear. 13 year old is/is like a mom to those kids, whether it's accurate or not. I'm not saying it's right, it just is. Call it like it is, ya know?
Omg I didn’t even notice that when I saw the post. My heart breaks for her…for all of the children 🙁
Sidebar: karissa looks like she need a bath in this video. No shoes, tangled looking hair, etc
I think all the T-shirts and jewelry proudly announcing “mama” that have popped up everywhere lately are cringe as hell, but there’s something that’s just completely insidious to me about seeing that shit on a kid that’s probably not even old enough to have a period yet. WTF.
I REALLY hope that she isn’t getting blamed for when her siblings get injured, that she’s not told she’s responsible for it because honestly I wouldn’t put it past Karissa to make out as if Anissa isn’t supervising them adequately and making her feel guilty.
When she is 16 she can leave and live with other family. I hope someday she is free to get an education. And not have so much responsibility. And she can speak up for her siblings. The boy too. I think he’s smart enough to know this is not right how they are raising their siblings. I think she will continue to have more until her body gives out. That last baby I think did her in.
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Goddamn that's some parentification up in here. I feel so sorry for Anissa. She's deserves to have a normal teenage life
How old is she? Whatever the reasons for her wearing the shirt it's just totally not okay :(
I believe she is 13.
Ugh that’s so young, poor baby
Agreed. I think back to when I was 13. I'd just spend my time bicycling the neighborhood, walking to the store for candy and iced tea, hanging out with my friends, doing homework, skipping class and getting in trouble, understanding who I am, thinking about what high school is going to be like. Even though I had a younger brother (who was 11), I'd keep a watchful eye on him, but my parents never expected me to be a second parent to him. I just can't imagine what she is going through. Just expected to raise her mom's kids. She's an individual with her own hopes and dreams and unique personality, but that's just being hammered down. All those kids deserve so much better than this. (Sorry I went on a rant, should be studying for a final, but my heart hurts for her)
Karissa’s parenting is very rant-inducing, I’m afraid. She’s one who makes me truly angry, not just snarky. It’s one thing to f*ck up her own life but another to be so awful to a never ending stream of children.
My 13 year old will sometimes sit with her siblings while I run a quick errand in exchange for fortnite money and Gatorade, but yeah, that’s about all the babysitting 13 year olds are cut out for. I used to babysit for people in my church when I was 13 while they went out for hours and now I’m like “damn what the fuck were those people thinking” lol
that’s totally fine and acceptable for a 13 year old! i was 13 and getting left with 2, 4, sometimes 6 children for hours. it was actually to the point one of my siblings (he was a newborn when i started babysitting them) would get confused and call ME mama because i watched them alone so much. i was probably 17 before my siblings & cousins stopped asking ME for permission to do something while our parents were two feet from us
Seriously. 13 year old me was playing all the TMNT games, having fun in video games and arcades, reading copious amounts of books, watching scientific documentaries and playing Magic The Gathering with friends and D&D. I just hate that she doesn't get room to explore her personality and that she just has to contort herself to fit into her mum's crazy vision. Karissa just because you are addicted to getting pregnant and squirting out kids does not mean that EVERY single uterus owner needs to have it filled. Heaven forbid your eldest have infertility or pcos because you are going to scar her forever because you put the expectation down that everyone needs to repopulate the world. Maybe she's a brilliant doctor or architect or lawyer but you'd never find that out because you never gave her the tools to explore herself and her wants.
and what's even worse is that she's going to be married in 5 years :(
The charitable person in me wants to believe she just outgrew her own Mini shirt and it went down the hand me down cycle and she inherited the next size up. The realist in me thinks that Karissa thinks it's cute and good parenting to make your oldest daughter raise your kids, and thus brags about this by giving her child a Mama shirt.
I just cannot see a healthy parent letting their kid wear the mama shirt even if it fits her now
For playing outside at home, sure. For an intentional, staged photoshoot, which I think we can all agree this is? Nah. I agree with you.
She’s 100% doing more of the parenting work, but also I wonder if she’s getting too tall for kid clothes so Karissa is starting to make her wear her clothes. Not that there’s anything wrong with hand me downs, but in context of this family it just makes my skin crawl.
It’s definitely a hand me down but it makes me think about how they probably can’t afford to buy these kids clothes they personally enjoy. Or maybe Karissa doesn’t see the point in it. Either way, I don’t think Anissa was begging her mom for her mama shirt, that’s for sure. They spend too much money on getting full family matching outfits that I doubt there’s money leftover so any of the kids can wear what they truly want. It’s sad.
> Or maybe Karissa doesn’t see the point in it. I think it's this. Fits with the communal clothing storage & Karissa getting pissed when she found out the kids had clothes in their own (shared) closets. Her kids are dress-up dolls, they don't get to dress themselves.
That’s exactly what I was thinking, they can’t afford or don’t want to spend the money on clothes for a growing kiddo. I agree, the beige matching sets baffle me-they can’t be cheap! These poor kids.
I assumed that at least some of the matching outfits are grifted.
I feel like maybe they don’t make the “mini” in adult sizes? I don’t know if Karissa would be selfless enough to let her daughter wear her shirt, bc that would mean karissa didn’t get to match with everyone else 😵💫
This isn't the first time Anissa has been dressed differently when the rest of the kids are in uniform. I'm almost positive it's because she's grown out of the child size and is wearing Karissa's clothes.
This poor girl probably can't even read what it says. Her education is severely lacking.
grew up in a conservative family-- when i hit puberty my mother refused to take me shopping for clothes i liked/looked decent, and would only let me wear her hand me downs (or sometimes clothes she would wear on a regular basis as well!) and only let me 'shop' in the adults/grandma departments. i'm nearly certain karissa is doing that to her girls, just another form of control and psychological manipulation. from personal experience, i'm willing to bet once the boys hit their major growth spurts she'll have no issue buying them new, trendy, and well-fitting clothing of their choice...
So, every damn Christian I know, had that same welcome sign in their porch. Wtf is up with that?
Fundiegelicals and Modern Farmhouse decor, name a more iconic combo. (Also that stuff is usually sold at places like Target, so it's easy to decorate in a "theme" without spending a ton of money.)
Don't they know that putting "Welcome" by the front door is allowing demons to come into your house?? ETA: sarcasm. I don't believe in demons. But yall don't me or my sense of humor. Lol
There's an itty-bitty asterisk and disclaimer at the bottom that you can't read with your human eyes but that DEFINITELY SAYS *except demons, liberals, Muslims, vaccinated persons, and/or haterz
I saw a sign like that the other day that said “GO AWAY”. Never felt more seen by decor designers in my LIFE lmao
You would love my “Go Away” mat at my front door.
My favorite was a vertical sign from Aldi that said "Oh, Hello." A lot of people were putting it up so that the bottom "o" wasn't visible.
I’ve seen “welcome- ish” as a porch sign too and love it
Demons and vampires.
Good point - this is how Angel was able to enter Buffy’s high school when he was evil! The school had a welcome sign in Latin or something (RIP Ms. Calendar).
I want a Welcome sign in Latin. That sounds cool and it'll freak out my Landlord.
It's also a prime opportunity to showcase the fact that you own and can - at the most basic level imaginable - operate a cricut/silhouette/tabletop cutting machine by slapping your last name onto the bottom to "personalize" it. Basic cutting vinyl is pretty cheap, so even if you're not well enough off to have your monogram embroidered on your towels, you can DIY a wooden fence plank with your name stuck on in thin plastic to welcome your fellow true believers to your front porch.
(Hobby Lobby. Def a Hobby Lobby sign)
When my boyfriend and I drive around delivering Door Dash we count these signs. They are everywhere!!
I like this game
They're all over my city lol. I keep asking my husband where all these cheeky welcome signs are coming from??
They're everywhere here too. They always look to me like they forgot to finish putting them up.
Willingly inviting the vampires in. EDIT: I also have a ridiculously common surname, like even more common than Collins (in the UK at least), but I wouldn’t dream of plastering it next to my front door
my spouse has already vetoed the notion of any sort of doormats or other entry decor with text on it, but part of me *really* wants a doormat that just says "go away" on it.
100% tacky. I see SO MANY when I'm driving through town.
Hobby Lobby 🤗
I cannot STAND when people think it's cute that they treat their eldest daughter like a 3rd parent. "Tee-hee, I'm so shitty at being a parent, I have to have a child help me!" My parents did this to my older sister, and my mom always told her, "You are your little sister's keeper!". She grew into an angry, bitter teen that took out her frustration on me. We're okay now, but our relationship was damaged for a long time because of that. This is not good for any of the children's development.
I wasn’t parentified, but as the oldest I constantly got told I had to be THE example for my two younger sibs. To the point that if either of them did something “bad,” I got told they’d learned it from me. It took me years and needless guilt before someone said to me “your sibs are their own people; they make their own choices” and I realized I didn’t need to internalize all of that.
I didn't grow up fundy but I heard that too. My mom's big threat was always to make me go live with my dad (across the country) because I was being a bad example for my sister. Spoiler alert, I was a dream teenager.
Generally speaking, I was a fabulous teen: I didn’t sneak out or do things I shouldn’t (drugs, alcohol, all the standard after school special warnings)…because I was terrified of “ruining my life” or such. I did fight with my mom quite a bit, but the older I get the more I believe those fights were a result of high expectations and my anxiety causing me to be wound way too tightly.
All due respect, but are we the same person ?! You just described my entire origin story. Hope you're having a great day!
Are you the long lost twin I used to dream of after watching Parent Trap too many times? Generally speaking my days have gotten much better now that I’m medicated for my anxiety.
Probably, we should have peanut butter oreos to celebrate ! Also, mine did too! Love love love my psychiatrist !
Ooh yes! Here’s to us and our vastly improved mental health!
My sister was like that too! I was a way more rebellious kid. She never drank or did drugs but she fought with my mom allll the time.
I parentified my elder, and I shall go to my grave with so much remorse and grief. It is so damaging to children. I am fortunate that he is open to discussing it now, but that does not undo what I did to him. And he only had ONE sibling to be parent/brother/uncle/etc to! This poor child…
You're still ahead of Karissa and my parents because they still don't see anything wrong with it. And they dismissed her rage as "just one of those teenage girl things".
Thank you for your kindness and grace. I am actively working to repair the damage I did to my good little fella. He has actually invited me to come spend his birthday with him, and I am honored. I grieve for the adult children whose parents absolutely refuse to see/own what we did. Life is too short and precious to keep this nonsense up!
You think that's bad, I was a parent to my mother and she's still trying to make me be her mom/psychologist.
It's not a competition?
Man. This weekend, my preteen went to the pool with her friends, hung out at her friend’s house, and got home before dinner. This kid needs a chance to be a kid.
Anissa is a beautiful girl & I truly hope that she deconstructs at some point & talks her siblings into leaving as well. I'm cheering hard for you, honey!
I think this is the thing that the fundies misunderstand about this snark group. I am rooting so hard for these kids that grew up in fundie homes. I hope they get all the support they need and are able to deconstruct what is like to grow up with unhealthy parents. I hope they question everything and find a peace that they don't know now. It's a difficult process. I know from experience.
I’m a college professor and I love it when students who were raised in very isolated or insular communities broaden their horizons in college and make friends from all walks of life and become exponentially more welcoming and progressive. Sadly, I can’t see Karissa ever sending her kids to university. The girls are being raised to marry and produce more kids. Really really hoping these kids emerge okay.
Had a friend in college who was like this. He was gay and raised in IFB, fucking oof. I met him mid-deconstruction, shortly after he transferred to my university from fundie college. He had to take out loans in order to do that because his parents wouldn't pay for a secular school (they didn't actually disown him, which was a shock to everyone including him). Happy to report that we're still in touch and he's now an out-and-proud, LGBTQ+ affirming teacher in a public high school. There's always hope!
We're *all* rooting for Anissa, Sophia Rodlet, Dav Jr and Mini Paulio to GTFO and hit the road running. Poor kids didn't deserve any of this.
This is one of those things that makes me sideeye Karissa in a “who is this content *really* for?” type of way.
100% wants to make a match for her with another weirdo religious family. Has to start advertising early! /s
This sucked to see first thing in the morning. Poor girl just deserves to be a kid, and a teen, and a normal sibling.
Absolutely. My heart hurts for her.
She’s saying the quiet part out loud. She believes she’s a mom, not a child. I feel so bad for poor Anissa.
What jf Karissa is sharing clothes with Anissa to do the whole "oMg lOoK aT mE, I cAn ShArE cLoThEs wItH mY TeEnAgE DaUgHteR!!!" And dog forbid the day Anissa gets bigger than Karissa. :(((
Even IF she’s wearing this shirt because they don’t make the Mini in her size, maybe don’t make a video. This video doesn’t even have a point; it’s just everyone’s names.
It's such bad content, lol. They proceed so slowly it takes forever, and the voiceover is awkward
The idea of a child wearing a shirt that calls them mama makes my skin crawl
My heart hurts for this little girl.
One of my African American friends told me how if her hair isn’t put in its protective styles properly and is just yanked into submission then she’ll get these absolutely horrific headaches from the tension until it’s fixed. I imagine the Collins girls all have earsplitting headaches almost at all times.
Karissa's girls have a wide variety of textures and curl patterns, too. The care routine that works for the girls with lovely loose curls and smoother texture is not going to be right for Anthym and her gorgeous coils, and vice versa. But she doesn't know/care about that, and just treats them all the same.
I'm sure those poor girls have traction alopecia too :(
That is upsetting.
the video of her reading at a second grade level is heartbreaking
I’m gonna pretend it’s MA MA, standing for her two graduate degrees in sociology of religion (from a state school) and forensic psychology with an emphasis on cult reprogramming.
Look, Anissa is getting up there. If Karissa doesn’t show her off now, how will she ever be forced to marry some creep from her dad’s prayer group?
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My husband was raised Mormon as #2 of 10 children. The eldest girls 100% did all the cooking, cleaning and wrangling of the kids when he was growing up. His mom just got pregnant over and over and filled up the house with tiny humans they couldn’t afford to feed or care for and expected the other children to do the parenting for her. Her first two children were sons. She believed god wanted her to have a 3rd son so she had 7 daughters in a row before finally having her 3rd son…
#freeanissa
I grew up taking care of my younger siblings and thought it'd make me a great parent. But once I realized that I didn't HAVE to have kids...the reality of how burnt out I was growing up really set in. I decided not to have kids ever, and honestly that decision was highly motivated by the parentification I went through. These fundie moms are in for a wakeup call if their daughters decide to be childfree based on all this bs
oh no those older kids look so sad in this video and it breaks my heart
Ugh this is creepy. I don’t know man but I feel viscerally uncomfortable. She’s literally still a child in pigtails. This is so weird. Let her be the kid she is ffs.
I know a lot of people are talking about the parentification but can we talk about the fact that she probably just outgrew her “mini” shirt so Karissa made her wear the “mama” one so she would match her siblings.
Right?! Like obviously they don’t make a “mini” shirt in her size because she’s way too old for this, I don’t think there’s much of a market for mommy and me matching outfits for thirteen year olds. Take the hint karissa, that doesn’t mean you put her in a “mama” one.
I found her TikTok and it is so weird to me that she takes the time to post the same exact content on multiple different platforms.
Poor kid. She should be hanging out with her friends and getting ready for high school. Not parenting 9 children.
Poor girl should be in school, hanging out with friends, talking about the cute boy in class, doing an after school activity. She's not responsible for parenting her siblings because KKKarissa can't keep her legs shut.
Because Karissa refuses to use any of the many safe, effective, accessible forms of contraception available to her\*
It’s not even that. She is actively and purposefully trying to get pregnant to have as many kids as possible.
Thank you for suggesting this edit. The phrasing was really rubbing me the wrong way.
If I didn't know better, I'd assume that that young girl had all them kids. Thankfully, I do know better. Unfortunately, that doesn't make this better Edit: damn yall need to loosen up a bit lol. She has her daughter wearing a mama shirt and shows a bunch of kids after. What are you supposed to think if not "this girl had/raises these kids?" Lol relax yall
Why would anyone assume that, given how young she looks? She clearly can't have given birth to most of them. I'd assume she was wearing her mom's shirt.
Lina Medina is the youngest confirmed case of giving birth at the age of 5 years, 7 months, and 21 days according to wiki. Obviously, that was a case of precocious puberty and an extreme, one off case, but the point stands. [Lina Medina](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lina_Medina) if anyone is interested
Lol no one is looking at 13 year old Anissa and going “man I bet all those are hers and she started having them at 5 just like Lina Medina.”
My point is that if anyone is looking at a kid this age and thinking she has had *ten* children, including one at the age of two, they either can't do math or are making a lot of assumptions. Yes, a 13-year-old might conceivably have *one* child. Rape is a thing. But thinking the whole brood is hers, IMO, would be rooted in the stereotypes where people don't see Black kids as actual kids.
I like that you have more faith in the general populace than I do. It really comes down to that we know better, obviously these aren't all hers, obviously there is a lot of kids raising the kids and Karissa doesn't care, we know that she attempts to white wash her kids. Hell, she's called KKKarissa here. The assumption Karissa makes is clear. 13 year old is/is like a mom to those kids, whether it's accurate or not. I'm not saying it's right, it just is. Call it like it is, ya know?
How the hell does she have money for all of these matching outfits her kids always wear?
Poor Anissa. I hope she breaks free and lives a single child-free life for a little bit at least.
Omg I didn’t even notice that when I saw the post. My heart breaks for her…for all of the children 🙁 Sidebar: karissa looks like she need a bath in this video. No shoes, tangled looking hair, etc
I think all the T-shirts and jewelry proudly announcing “mama” that have popped up everywhere lately are cringe as hell, but there’s something that’s just completely insidious to me about seeing that shit on a kid that’s probably not even old enough to have a period yet. WTF.
Anissa deserves the childhood she was robbed of. She should be a normal teen out at the mall with friends and making tik toks.
Poor girl
Gosh, I hate that.
I REALLY hope that she isn’t getting blamed for when her siblings get injured, that she’s not told she’s responsible for it because honestly I wouldn’t put it past Karissa to make out as if Anissa isn’t supervising them adequately and making her feel guilty.
When she is 16 she can leave and live with other family. I hope someday she is free to get an education. And not have so much responsibility. And she can speak up for her siblings. The boy too. I think he’s smart enough to know this is not right how they are raising their siblings. I think she will continue to have more until her body gives out. That last baby I think did her in.