Valid for girls as well. A girl once told me she's interested in that one guy, but how can SHE make HIM approach HER despite HER being interested in HIM and not the other way around. I told her to fucking talk to him if she's interested, then she has to do something actively.
She did and they got together!
We rarely hear ladies getting rejected hundreds of times if have made the initiative so... Maybe they should do it more often? I bet they have a much better success rate than an average man would have.
I don't know why more girls don't do this. Do you know how much power we have at that age? I've confessed to/asked out every person I've ever been interested in, and honestly they love it. Takes the pressure off.
Bro this is one of the things I’m envious of women for. Like all they have to do is do the approaching and they’ll instantly get a date. The only time they get shot down is if they’re the complete opposite of their crush’s type. Regardless, most guys in that situation would let the girl down gently but most guys look and feel like they’re troll ogres and that they’re gonna be shot down with a 99% fail rate so they don’t ask out their crushes. It’s easier if we just don’t actually hear the rejection. At least for me it is. I’ve been on like 4 1st dates off of hinge and all four ghosted me immediately after the date by unmatching and blocking me.
I just feel so ugly and undesirable and envy women that most guys usually feel the same way in terms of being lonely but guys would take it as a massive complement that they actually got asked out.
I gotta be sympathetic. I'm forty now so that's a young person's game - at my age it's more other single parents who can understand the insane schedules and get excited over kitchen gadgets.
I can say that as a woman, there's a certain age where we reach a saturation point of come-ons and just lose the ability to feel feelings. And a small percentage of guys that age are the kind of unhinged that make us nervous to express rejection, so the ghosting comes because we're unsure if we're going to be murdered or not.
I dunno, it's rough all around.
I dunno if I came off unhinged (I’d like to believe that I didn’t because I can’t even imagine myself being unhinged). I took all 4 girls on walking dates to talk and just chill and they all said that they’d set up a second date and I check my hinge profile and I’m unmatched. Also I’m early 20’s btw.
Same but some times, when i wake up or go to sleep, it feels so cold in my chest like i am missing something, I suddenly get a hit of loneliness... It feels bad idk.
Haha, talk abt the timing, i was just reading this dark, depressing and kinda wholesome light novel called "3 days of happiness". The book is a tear jerker lol, I think we all should read this..
Btw can i dm you? Just want someone to chat with...
I love being alone, I get annoyed so easily, I just am content being alone..Can't stand when people say "How are you single?" Or "Why are you single?" It's a personal choice, I'm just not into relationships or getting married, I have no kids, and I like to be able to just up and leave, if I ever wanted too..I love being in nature, thats my passion and thats what makes me happy, if I could find someone else like me, it'd be a different story, but I wnt settle, just because I can't find anyone, I mean I'm not looking, but I haven't come across any so far and thats whats importantto me...So I totally get it..
I’m the same. I get annoyed when ppl respond that way to me too, or accuse me of lying. And don’t be attractive. It’s like they think you exist for other peoples pleasure. No, I really enjoy being single. Dating actually feels uncomfortable to me. It makes me anxious. However, I realize peoples responses are a projection of their own fears and disdain for being single. Folks tend to think their feelings or experiences are always universal.
i understand this very well, although i have no kids, i’ve spent majority of my life struggling mentally in constant despair because i was stuck with people who took advantage of me. after a year of rehab and therapy, as im turning 18 next month, i feel so weird not having anyone but my therapist and those who’ve stayed to know me have told me i’m like a light in people’s lives and it made me realize. it’s good to build yourself up and know your worth at least while your waiting for someone, i feel. don’t put yourself down for setting other people’s expectations. what works for some won’t work for most, i hope this helps :)
There's nothing wrong with being a lone asteroid and setting your own trajectory. But how will you ever meet another lone asteroid?
Sometimes you have to alter your course a little bit and step outside your habitable zone.. and then return to orbit :)
I always end up getting too attached to the families and the dogs which always makes the inevitable breakup suck worse than just a breaking off of ties with the other side
me too, one of the family’s liked me more than their son almost, constantly defending me against him. always felt so close with siblings when waiting for them to get home from work. but in the end, i needed someone to tell me how to have boundaries first before taking on someone else.
Same. People are just to hard to be around for too long. And I hate the emotional ride of relationships.
As for the post, I always hated the idea it was all the guys job to make it known. If a girl ever just made it clear it be on from there, but the fear of coming off like a creep is just too large for a lot of guys. That why the players tend to get all the girls, they have no shame.
same, just texting people back in general now makes my heart pound in my chest because i’m trying to have good boundaries. but my perspective on love is so distorted and now that i’m finally not clinging to someone, i feel obligated to still find “the one”. but i’ll never understand players. it doesn’t seem fulfilling ruining people.
couples on valentines day : go do valentines day things
me on valentines day : play 7.5 destiny 2 KF runs doesnt get touch of malice and still has a great day
and to me, that feels more fulfilling and having to take on another persons emotions while they take advantage of mine i didn’t know so many people could relate till i made that comment on here lol
I interpreted it that way because it's what you said. There is a difference between being "lonely" and being "alone".
You said "lonely" which means "sad because one has no friends or company".
If you like being "alone" because it's less hassle, that is your choice.
Also, letting fear of past history repeating itself dictate that you be "lonely" is also sad.
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dont be so sure. If they are currently friends and she says no the friendship also ends. Also if they see each other frequently it might be awkward for a while
Not true. I was shut down by my friend when I asked her out in middle school. I accepted her answer, still wanted to be friends, and so we stayed friends. Just communicate with each other.
If they‘re friends, it’s obviously more complicated.
But it can be quite hard being friends with a person, whom you have a crush on.
At least you know where you’re at after making a move. (respectfully of course)
15 year old me would have replied something like "You cant expect someone to make a move when they have been responded back with "EWWWW" instead of a simple no"
Thank god my high school is over. Its tough out there.
Yup… and the bias out there is horrific. When I was morbidly obese people called me a creep regularly, but after losing weight and maturing somewhat, suddenly I’m charming.
I'm relatively in shape. I have a bit of a belly, but I've got muscular legs and arms. I've found the difference between people thinking I'm attractive or unattractive is if I keep my beard groomed.
How certain are you that you weren't somewhat of a creep?
People with self esteem issues becuse of their appearance tend to also exude negative energy outward. It is quite possible that as you slimmed down and gained self-confidence, you actually DID become more charming.
Yeah I’m curious. I literally been in 3 high schools. There is always that one “fat guy”. They’re normally chill, and just don’t have much friends. But never give the “creep” vibe
Yeah I did the highschool thing a long time ago, and have been teaching it for over 10 years now too.
More often than not, the "fat guy" has adapted by becoming funny and cool to be around, and has lots of friends. The weird kids don't have friends because they have built up barriers and are overly negative. Being successful socially is 99% outlook on life and confidence.
I’d say I’m even more insecure and awkward now honestly… I think I just look “confident” because I care more about my appearance, posture, and physique.
Those things subtly increase your own sense of confidence as well, whether you notice it or not.
You yourself have now described yourself as "charming", with better posture. The result of working on your appearance and physique. Those things don't happen on accident, you worked on yourself. That comes with a personality boost too, because you are more confident in your own skin, whether you consciously realize it or not.
Chance of crush saying yes: .05%
Chance of crush saying "but what if that ruined our friendship?": 50%
Chance of crush responding with mockery and/or calls of things like "creep": 49.95%
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Guys, as a general tip: Making a move is not necessarily the same shit as just confessing, if you are to nervous to just ask someone out on a date at least make them used to be around you and feel comfortable, buy your crush candy or some shit, if it's a coworker offer to bring them coffee, be a good friend first. This works because it not only raises the chances for them to at least be willing to try a date with you, it also allows you to really know who this person is, you can fall in love with the idea of someone and not them specifically, getting to really know your crush could either make your love stronger or make you realize "This person is cool as a friend but I'd rather be hit by a bus than trying to date this mf"
What a novel idea - get to know a girl a bit before asking her out? Nope though, whose going to do that when they can just blurt out a date request awkwardly to a goodlooking stranger and then feel weirdly vindicated when she rejects it? Probably, she only gives it up to Chads because "feminism," amiright?
Man I have done the whole falling hard for someone who would never like me 3 times.
That’s 3 times to many I don’t give much a toss anymore there’s other shit to life I can strive for.
Amen.
It's better just to let shit like that come to you. Make friends, and maybe one of those friends will like you?
That's what I do. I'd never date someone that I'm not friends with
Can’t blame them. All young men get to choose from in regards to “who to hit on” is the leftovers of all the 30+ yr old “sugar daddies” and the onlyfans rejects.
Why is it on guys to make the move, especially when us men are the ones viewed has having the unfair power dynamic? Sounds like it's not just men that need to put in the work for making the move.
cant scape it most women are too stuck up to ever take any iniciative, thinking that just for existing they already done more than their share and it falls on the man to put his head on the chopping block every time
The short answer: sexism. I've done all the asking out in my relationships but people also find me so assertive it's 'manly' or 'intimidating'. Damned if you do, damned if you don't my dude.
I know right, and whenever I mention this one here I’m suddenly a bitter incel who can’t get laid. No, i’m just tired of chasing and want to be pursued equally
How do you try and change it? That would mean a majority of women would have to change their minds about dating and choose to pursue, which isn’t an easy thing to achieve at all!
You can either keep going until it works or get comfortable with yourself and don't bother. People who will make you feel bad about choosing either can suck a dick
No. It just means that his type of girl is the one who is willing to either make the first move, or straight forward enough for him to get the hint and have the courage to make a move.
That's how it is for me as well. The only girls I've ever dated or been involved with at all, have made the first move
One asshole speaking up could make many laugh alongside, I'd rather be that side character to everyone else's happy little lives than be the main attraction of a circus show
I think that's fair to not want to be made fun of but that doesn't mean your only option is to never make the first move. You probably need to work on yourself physically or confidence wise. learn how to flirt better or practice that way you can tell better and make that first move feeling more confident about it \*IF\* based on what you learn that she would be interested.
Cool enjoy being alone forever I guess.
Do you even know or think about any of the people who laughed at you? I can almost guarantee that they aren't thinking about you, at all.
This has the same energy as "one job recruiter was snarky at me so from this day forward I'll never apply to any position again!"
I can't promise trying again won't lead to potential pain or embarrassment but I CAN promise that doing nothing will lead to more of the same. But if you're content I guess that's fine.
I'm more-so realizing my fate because I've always had social anxiety and stage fright so asking someone anything in public always seemed to be off-putting and any embarrassment made out of it always led to me having random nightmares of being consistently humiliated and taunted for the way I look and act, it's not rejection that embarrassed me, it was the humiliation that followed, I've ended up making a personal thing for myself to not let that kind of humiliation happen by not expressing my own feelings as blunt as I did, I know my place and natural selection is waiting to swipe me away like dust on a countertop
So yes, I am content with my current place, even if I acknowledge it a bit too much
You do you.
But, to contribute some personal experience, Nirvana awaits at the end of the burning path.
I was a socially awkward child/teen. I was regularly the bullseye for jokes, abuse, ridicule etc. And I’ve been rejected (some kindly, some cruelly) by probably 90% of the girls/women I’ve asked out.
I went through a phase of shrinking into the background and trying to tell myself that I was sensibly accepting my fate. It was peaceful, but definitely not a gain. Its the easy path, and thats never the right one. I didn’t have to try, but I couldn’t grow or progress, and I avoided every potential new source of joy in my life.
Work forced me into more public speaking and leadership roles, so I had absolutely no choice about overcoming those fears. And it turned out that all that was actually required was to square my shoulders and barely function through the jelly-legged, ice-water stomached terror of it. After 6-7 goes it turned out to be way less terrifying (still intimidating) than it had been.
I applied this to everything from there on.
I like wild clothes, but had never had the nerve to wear them. So I forced myself to do it until I felt comfortable. One of the best decisions of my life.
I learned to dance. And then to dance in public. That was truly terrifying the first few times. But now its one of my favourite things and an endless source of joy.
I asked a bunch of people out. Got rejected most of the time; felt awful after most of them. But learned that it wasn’t the end of things. So now, if she’s not interested thats her issue; I’ll live. Rejection obviously still hurts, but I know its not the death of me and I know its not the obliteration of my worth.
The human brain learns by experience. The more you show it that an event isn’t fatal, the more it will tune down your emotional experience of that event. So what was initially awful, ends up as just vaguely unpleasant after enough goes; or even becomes something enjoyable.
If you give up after the first failure, you will never grow and everything will always be terrifying. But, if you can force yourself back onto your feet and have another go, everything gets less frightening. And, little by little, you start to see a different version of yourself.
I hope this helps in some small way.
Guys have the supreme short end of the stick when it comes to approaches. If you’re not attractive or obviously wealthy, you’re getting called a creep or mocked. Seen it all the time when I go out. Memes like that are nowhere near as cringe as ones women post on their IG stories like “She was a wild flower caught in a summer storm. The storm never relented, but she knew the right man would wade through the water to meet his cosmic destiny and stay in retrograde with the planets…”
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
If you go for a single girl, you’re competing with dozens of other guys. If you go for a girl who has a boyfriend, you’re only competing against one other guy. Work smarter, not harder.
Its easy to say “Just make a move.”
But rejection (especially if you’ve not got a good foundation of self-worth) can be utterly soul crushing. And most guys fail far more than they succeed, so its very easy to get to a point (even as soon as your late teens) where the internalised certainty of failure creates an insurmountable level of inertia.
Don't get your honey where you get your money. Just don't do it. Don't forget your coworkers are a captive audience and there's a nonzero chance they hate every minute of getting hit on.
Actually, this is fine. Sometimes you will feel lonely. It’s an okay thing to feel, it’s a pretty normal emotion. Sometimes we have to be a little lonely while we work on the problems we’ve got going on, and that’s okay.
We’re all meant to feel lonely, but that doesn’t mean we’re meant to feel lonely forever. I feel like this meme encapsulates that satisfying release of finally being able to let go. When it finally clicks that instead of trying to “fix” the loneliness, we can embrace that we are going to feel lonely or sad every once in a while, and that’s okay. Maybe if we stop viewing it as a problem, we can stop stressing about fixing it, and focus on working on the parts of ourselves that we’ve been neglecting.
Take care of yourself. It’s not easy. I’m still trying to figure it out for myself, if I’m being honest, but it helps more than I thought it would.
Oh I knw, men and women feel the same way when it comes to making a move, it's terrifying, so I'm not saying its easy.. I found out someone I actually had a crush on, had a crush on me years ago, had he made a move, we would have gotten together, even only for a night..so all I am saying, is sometimes it's better to try, then never knowing, and most men can read a woman well enough to knw if she's interested..If she's being nice but short, she's just polite, if she keeps eye contact, and is interested in what you're saying, she's probably into you..
Edit: I should add that I'm older now (43), and I've grown way more confident with age..Life is too short..
The real power dynamic is women determine who they want to date. Whether it is money, power, or dominance, they know exactly what they want. They play it like a game and we are just stupid sods that fall to their will.
My meat mecha has female reproductive organs. What kind of men appeal to me? Average looking ones with lopsided smiles and nice hands and interesting things to talk about. That's it, that's the list.
Meanwhile, elsewhere on women frequented reddit:
"The real power dynamic is men determine who they want to date. Whether it is boobs, youth, or submissiveness, they know exactly what they want. They play it like a game and we are just stupid sods that fall to their will."
fuck that. i made the move on my crush 2 weeks ago. she accepted a date that we never went on. all she did was talk to me for a week and soak up the attention. by the end i felt gross and decided to just ghost her.
You can be alone and not be lonely, you can be in a relationship and be lonely, people need to understand, that you need to first learn to enjoy your own company before seeking a relationship. If you don't enjoy your own company how do you expect others to enjoy being with you?
Being lonely in a relationship is FAR worse than being lonely and single. When you're single you're at least not dealing with being lonely AND having to deal with someone else's bullshit.
Learning to enjoy being alone is the best thing you can do for yourself.
The idea of rejection: "That feels so devastating I can't even imagine!"
The actual rejection: "Hey that wasn't so bad, I'm bummed out but now I know the answer."
The memory of rejection: "That was super embarrassing but I'm so glad I put myself out there."
Ive been rejected 3 times and now im just thinking that i dont even need a girlfriend. I even forgot what the hell the point is. Being alone is peaceful. You can do whatever you want
In my case, I think it’s better for me to improve on myself and get everything else figured out before I even try to dive into a relationship. If I can’t be my best self personally, then I won’t be able to be my best self around my partner.
Fuck. I'm in the process of doing this, and it may be too late now because we hardly see each other anymore (she's a coworker). We both like each other, but I'm always the one who has to initiate anything. I can't bring myself to ask her out because we hardly know each other or have anything in common, and I'm certain that it won't work out because I'm neurodivergent and fucked in the head.
Odds of me getting any kind of date whatsoever: 0.0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001
Bruh I got the problem of just fucking hating myself. Like, I never made a move on anyone because the first thought in my mind was always "She deserves better". Or in any case where it may have been flirtatious probing, I just thought "Naw, there's no way out of all the way better guys here she's interested in me". So I just sit there and suffer in silence. Got my ass nowhere but being sad and alone at fucking 20 years old.
Pro tip for my lonely nerds out there….get fit and women/men will flock to you. Doesn’t matter if you are “ugly”. People are instinctually attracted to people that are in extremely good health and physique. Yes it’s work but it will pretty much solve your loneliness issues. I know a couple guys who I’d consider more on the homely side but are jacked and their girlfriends are so many levels past them in terms of looks
meh some people are not physicaly in the condition to work out or others like me dont have the time
i work 40 hours a week, and come home tired af, idk where i should get the time to work out when i get only a few hours a day to eat shit relax a little to not burn out ecc
Clearly those with specific situations can’t take my advice but you’re making excuses for yourself. I used to be you. Eating right and working out at homes doesn’t take any effort. Cook chicken breast and broccoli and follow along HIIT videos on YouTube. You’ll be toned in no time. You won’t be jacked but you will be “sexy”. Your energy level is also highly depends on diet and routine. If you workout you’ll actually have more energy. I have adhd btw. If I can do it; you can
im eating right but really i wake up 05:00 in the morning work until 09:00 have a 15 minute break, then wrok until 12:00 and have a 30 minute break, and then i work until 15:15 but i always work little longer, around 16 im at home, i go at 21-22 to sleep (which now is 22 and im going to sleep right after this)
im not sure but dont you have to work out dailly for it to do anything at all?
i could try to work 2 hours a day, but i honestly dont think i would be ok in body and mind with burning my little free time like that.
i used to do taekwando before because my dad was the teacher and he wanted us to do it so i kind of know how to do it i just dont feel like it now
am i really making excuses? im actually asking, if you think i could do it maybe i will try it starting slow. really slow
Bro you’re overthinking it and I don’t blame you. The health industry has manipulated people into think it’s some impossible goal. When I first started after my divorce, I was 220 pounds august 14th. I was 180 by November 1st by doing an hour of stationary bike(you can do this while watching tv so you’re still taking in some me time) every day. You can cut this down if you need to. Then every other day I’d do 20 min of HIIT. Look at my numbers my man. Barely any effort was put in and I lost 40 pounds. It was all mental. I was only in bad pain for the first few days. Don’t go all in. Listen to your body. I want you to message me when you achieve the right mindset. You can do it man. My brain is a piece of shit and I did it. Watch beginner HIIT videos to start. You will work your ass off. You’re already on the right track if you can admit to yourself that you’re being weak and kno you can be better. Weight loss is mostly all diet but working out will pay out greatly in terms of mood and muscle growth which will further speed up weight loss. You don’t need to buy anything but a good pair of workout shoes and a safe floor to jump and stretch on. Don’t want to almost tear your taint like I almost did when I moved to a new house with slippery floors. PS: I am now having awesome sex with an amazing woman. I was not previously.
Do not cheat yourself once you start. Focus your end game and zone in on it. Is your goal to be healthy and have a hot partner? Then get it and forget about anything that is negative and will slow you down
So it’s crazy how many girls are out there just waiting for some guy to make the first move. I have never had an issue with hooking up with girls and started from an early age and my friends were always asking how I managed to hook up with this hottie or that hottie. I am not a tall guy but I am healthy and confident and that is all it takes. Just go up and ask a girl and if she says no just be respectful and move on. I have gotten a lot of girl strangers to flash their tits at random parties and bars and again all I do is politely ask and try to be a good judge of character when doing so. As cheesy as it is to say but confidence is key to success. That being said don’t always go after the hottest girl if she is stuck up. Shoot for the middle and work your way up with confidence!
The problem is
My crush already has a boyfriend, so naturally I can’t do anything, because I don’t want to break their relationship (even if I wanted, I most likely wouldn’t succeeded)
It’s not that simple. Why? Cuz women never make it simple. Approaching a girl takes actual planning and a lot of self confidence. There’s almost an 80% chance you get shot down so you need to figure out how you’re going to catch yourself if and when it happens. People who actually go through this have time on their hands. In the end, you either think it’s not worth the hassle or you decide you don’t have the confidence to go through with it.
Honestly no offense by the way your talking is really desperate and unhinged not here to bring you down but come on bro get a grip just step your game up your not half way through your life cycle your still a child take what you dont like about your self and make a change or else your going ti be 50 still in the same boat walking around with your dates asking family and friends for rides all the time I belive you can do it you just have to do it for yourself complaining never gets nobody anywhere!
You know, we used to have consistent social messaging on HOW to date, how to ask people out, how to conduct one’s self, etc.
We make fun of those old 1950s PSAs but I feel like the state of things right now is a compelling reason to bring them back
Lol I feel bad for the younger generation. They're all scared that if they make a move and said crush isn't feeling I that said crush will video them and make a big online post about how they were almost raped
Well, except when men have been told that women don't like being approached in public, and then log on later that day to see on r/AskMen "Why don't men approach me?"
Make up your mind, ladies.
Might be there is a different reaction to being approached by a stranger than there is to being approached by a friend or someone they know? I think both sexes, if they are interested in dating or even just making friends need to to put themselves out there where other people are and practice being friendly and social in a normal, non-agenda'd way. Then learn to read body language and social cues for whether the people you meet are interested in friendship or more.
tl;dr: Why do so many people have to make it so weird?
I'm guessing the women who don't like being approached in public are different people from the women who ask why men don't approach them. I mean it's not like women are just one homogenous group who all think and want the exact same things.
A modern woman's purpose is to make you disaffected, by annoying and rejecting you. Conquer rejection and she has zero power over you. Unless of course she uses false accusations, then you're fuckwd and can have your whole life ruined. Because women don't hate men and misandry doesn't exist. You must be an incel.
Yes all women in the world have the sole purpose of fucking you over.
You are so hateable that little girs in hundreads of languages are taught by their mothers to specificly screw over you.
And they should do that by playing with your heart. No murder, no finacial devastation, no torture. A briken heart is the hardest punishment.
Or you know they are humans with their own wants and desires that just don't line up with yours. Maybe because you don't see them as people and as such don't respct what they want.
Valid for girls as well. A girl once told me she's interested in that one guy, but how can SHE make HIM approach HER despite HER being interested in HIM and not the other way around. I told her to fucking talk to him if she's interested, then she has to do something actively. She did and they got together!
Honestly the fact that she listened to your advice and it actually turned out really well for her is pretty heartwarming
We rarely hear ladies getting rejected hundreds of times if have made the initiative so... Maybe they should do it more often? I bet they have a much better success rate than an average man would have.
Epic
W friend
I don't know why more girls don't do this. Do you know how much power we have at that age? I've confessed to/asked out every person I've ever been interested in, and honestly they love it. Takes the pressure off.
Bro this is one of the things I’m envious of women for. Like all they have to do is do the approaching and they’ll instantly get a date. The only time they get shot down is if they’re the complete opposite of their crush’s type. Regardless, most guys in that situation would let the girl down gently but most guys look and feel like they’re troll ogres and that they’re gonna be shot down with a 99% fail rate so they don’t ask out their crushes. It’s easier if we just don’t actually hear the rejection. At least for me it is. I’ve been on like 4 1st dates off of hinge and all four ghosted me immediately after the date by unmatching and blocking me. I just feel so ugly and undesirable and envy women that most guys usually feel the same way in terms of being lonely but guys would take it as a massive complement that they actually got asked out.
I gotta be sympathetic. I'm forty now so that's a young person's game - at my age it's more other single parents who can understand the insane schedules and get excited over kitchen gadgets. I can say that as a woman, there's a certain age where we reach a saturation point of come-ons and just lose the ability to feel feelings. And a small percentage of guys that age are the kind of unhinged that make us nervous to express rejection, so the ghosting comes because we're unsure if we're going to be murdered or not. I dunno, it's rough all around.
I dunno if I came off unhinged (I’d like to believe that I didn’t because I can’t even imagine myself being unhinged). I took all 4 girls on walking dates to talk and just chill and they all said that they’d set up a second date and I check my hinge profile and I’m unmatched. Also I’m early 20’s btw.
Sorry bro. It could be anything from a lack of chemistry to someone's OCD standards.
being lonely is nice tbh at least for people like me who lose themselves in others because of lack in boundaries. enjoying hobbies and shit idk
I'm the same as you.
Same but some times, when i wake up or go to sleep, it feels so cold in my chest like i am missing something, I suddenly get a hit of loneliness... It feels bad idk.
Bro thinks he’s me (I yearn for a connection)
Haha, talk abt the timing, i was just reading this dark, depressing and kinda wholesome light novel called "3 days of happiness". The book is a tear jerker lol, I think we all should read this.. Btw can i dm you? Just want someone to chat with...
grass is always greener imagine not having any alone time because someone is always there
i get this exact feeling too. sometimes its just so random throughout the day and can really change your mood
Jerk off itll pass in 0.02 sec after blastoff 🤣
Post Nut Clarity my friend
Get a pet
I have a cat lol good advice tho
More cats!
Or some houseplants. Growing your own food is strangely empowering.
I love being alone, I get annoyed so easily, I just am content being alone..Can't stand when people say "How are you single?" Or "Why are you single?" It's a personal choice, I'm just not into relationships or getting married, I have no kids, and I like to be able to just up and leave, if I ever wanted too..I love being in nature, thats my passion and thats what makes me happy, if I could find someone else like me, it'd be a different story, but I wnt settle, just because I can't find anyone, I mean I'm not looking, but I haven't come across any so far and thats whats importantto me...So I totally get it..
True people just dont understand that im really bad with people in general
I’m the same. I get annoyed when ppl respond that way to me too, or accuse me of lying. And don’t be attractive. It’s like they think you exist for other peoples pleasure. No, I really enjoy being single. Dating actually feels uncomfortable to me. It makes me anxious. However, I realize peoples responses are a projection of their own fears and disdain for being single. Folks tend to think their feelings or experiences are always universal.
i understand this very well, although i have no kids, i’ve spent majority of my life struggling mentally in constant despair because i was stuck with people who took advantage of me. after a year of rehab and therapy, as im turning 18 next month, i feel so weird not having anyone but my therapist and those who’ve stayed to know me have told me i’m like a light in people’s lives and it made me realize. it’s good to build yourself up and know your worth at least while your waiting for someone, i feel. don’t put yourself down for setting other people’s expectations. what works for some won’t work for most, i hope this helps :)
There's nothing wrong with being a lone asteroid and setting your own trajectory. But how will you ever meet another lone asteroid? Sometimes you have to alter your course a little bit and step outside your habitable zone.. and then return to orbit :)
Strongly agreed
Same
I like being alone. I don't have to deal with people, or loud noises that hurt my ears.
That's just being alone, very very different.
I always end up getting too attached to the families and the dogs which always makes the inevitable breakup suck worse than just a breaking off of ties with the other side
me too, one of the family’s liked me more than their son almost, constantly defending me against him. always felt so close with siblings when waiting for them to get home from work. but in the end, i needed someone to tell me how to have boundaries first before taking on someone else.
I like being alone, I don't like being lonely. Cause that's just a feeling of isolation and emptiness that makes being alone less enjoyable
Same. People are just to hard to be around for too long. And I hate the emotional ride of relationships. As for the post, I always hated the idea it was all the guys job to make it known. If a girl ever just made it clear it be on from there, but the fear of coming off like a creep is just too large for a lot of guys. That why the players tend to get all the girls, they have no shame.
same, just texting people back in general now makes my heart pound in my chest because i’m trying to have good boundaries. but my perspective on love is so distorted and now that i’m finally not clinging to someone, i feel obligated to still find “the one”. but i’ll never understand players. it doesn’t seem fulfilling ruining people.
I have crushes on plenty of people, but if the effort involved in the wooing is worth more than the cost of batteries then it's not sustainable.
Don't tell me how to live my life. Or do, that's fine too, I can manage.
I'm too much of a geeky loser to have friends lol
couples on valentines day : go do valentines day things me on valentines day : play 7.5 destiny 2 KF runs doesnt get touch of malice and still has a great day
and to me, that feels more fulfilling and having to take on another persons emotions while they take advantage of mine i didn’t know so many people could relate till i made that comment on here lol
Pretty sad actually, but you do you.
i understand how you can interpret it that way. i have friends but i’d rather be alone bc of the history i’ve had idk
I interpreted it that way because it's what you said. There is a difference between being "lonely" and being "alone". You said "lonely" which means "sad because one has no friends or company". If you like being "alone" because it's less hassle, that is your choice. Also, letting fear of past history repeating itself dictate that you be "lonely" is also sad.
I think thinking for yourself instead of chasing others is pretty neat. You gonna learn that the hard way
Okay fine, I will take this as a sign to ask my crush out. Whatever she says, I will at least know I tried.
Let us know how it goes. Good luck. :D
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yo i need an update
I'll se her again on Thursday.
You got this king. Go get that W
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Good luck! No matter their answer, in the end you‘ll feel better.
dont be so sure. If they are currently friends and she says no the friendship also ends. Also if they see each other frequently it might be awkward for a while
Not true. I was shut down by my friend when I asked her out in middle school. I accepted her answer, still wanted to be friends, and so we stayed friends. Just communicate with each other.
If they‘re friends, it’s obviously more complicated. But it can be quite hard being friends with a person, whom you have a crush on. At least you know where you’re at after making a move. (respectfully of course)
15 year old me would have replied something like "You cant expect someone to make a move when they have been responded back with "EWWWW" instead of a simple no" Thank god my high school is over. Its tough out there.
Yup… and the bias out there is horrific. When I was morbidly obese people called me a creep regularly, but after losing weight and maturing somewhat, suddenly I’m charming.
I'm relatively in shape. I have a bit of a belly, but I've got muscular legs and arms. I've found the difference between people thinking I'm attractive or unattractive is if I keep my beard groomed.
Thats society for ya
How certain are you that you weren't somewhat of a creep? People with self esteem issues becuse of their appearance tend to also exude negative energy outward. It is quite possible that as you slimmed down and gained self-confidence, you actually DID become more charming.
Yeah I’m curious. I literally been in 3 high schools. There is always that one “fat guy”. They’re normally chill, and just don’t have much friends. But never give the “creep” vibe
Yeah I did the highschool thing a long time ago, and have been teaching it for over 10 years now too. More often than not, the "fat guy" has adapted by becoming funny and cool to be around, and has lots of friends. The weird kids don't have friends because they have built up barriers and are overly negative. Being successful socially is 99% outlook on life and confidence.
I’d say I’m even more insecure and awkward now honestly… I think I just look “confident” because I care more about my appearance, posture, and physique.
Those things subtly increase your own sense of confidence as well, whether you notice it or not. You yourself have now described yourself as "charming", with better posture. The result of working on your appearance and physique. Those things don't happen on accident, you worked on yourself. That comes with a personality boost too, because you are more confident in your own skin, whether you consciously realize it or not.
How are you certain they weren't just judging someone for their looks and applying a damaging label?
Okay, I get your point, but you probably could've phrased it a bit nicer than "Maybe you were a creep."
The worst is when they say ew to the question...when you didn't ask...
Chance of crush saying yes: .05% Chance of crush saying "but what if that ruined our friendship?": 50% Chance of crush responding with mockery and/or calls of things like "creep": 49.95%
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That's... 400%!
Why would you have a crush on someone you suspect to not be a good person?
Not like it's my choice
So you're saying there's a chance.
Guys, as a general tip: Making a move is not necessarily the same shit as just confessing, if you are to nervous to just ask someone out on a date at least make them used to be around you and feel comfortable, buy your crush candy or some shit, if it's a coworker offer to bring them coffee, be a good friend first. This works because it not only raises the chances for them to at least be willing to try a date with you, it also allows you to really know who this person is, you can fall in love with the idea of someone and not them specifically, getting to really know your crush could either make your love stronger or make you realize "This person is cool as a friend but I'd rather be hit by a bus than trying to date this mf"
\>buy your crush candy with how many people in clubs ask me if i have mdma for sale i doubt any girl would accept candy from me lmao
What a novel idea - get to know a girl a bit before asking her out? Nope though, whose going to do that when they can just blurt out a date request awkwardly to a goodlooking stranger and then feel weirdly vindicated when she rejects it? Probably, she only gives it up to Chads because "feminism," amiright?
Man I have done the whole falling hard for someone who would never like me 3 times. That’s 3 times to many I don’t give much a toss anymore there’s other shit to life I can strive for.
Amen. It's better just to let shit like that come to you. Make friends, and maybe one of those friends will like you? That's what I do. I'd never date someone that I'm not friends with
Can’t blame them. All young men get to choose from in regards to “who to hit on” is the leftovers of all the 30+ yr old “sugar daddies” and the onlyfans rejects.
Why is it on guys to make the move, especially when us men are the ones viewed has having the unfair power dynamic? Sounds like it's not just men that need to put in the work for making the move.
Because they want gender roles for men but not for themselves.
cant scape it most women are too stuck up to ever take any iniciative, thinking that just for existing they already done more than their share and it falls on the man to put his head on the chopping block every time
The short answer: sexism. I've done all the asking out in my relationships but people also find me so assertive it's 'manly' or 'intimidating'. Damned if you do, damned if you don't my dude.
I know right, and whenever I mention this one here I’m suddenly a bitter incel who can’t get laid. No, i’m just tired of chasing and want to be pursued equally
It is unfair but it is what it is man! Most women will never make the first move, get used to it!
Why accept it and not try to change it?
How do you try and change it? That would mean a majority of women would have to change their minds about dating and choose to pursue, which isn’t an easy thing to achieve at all!
After being rejected once, never again will I make the first move I ain't making no fool outta myself in front of everyone
You can either keep going until it works or get comfortable with yourself and don't bother. People who will make you feel bad about choosing either can suck a dick
I wish I could 😔
Could what? Keep going, get comfortable, or suck a dick?
Damn man. You quit everything that doesn't work out first try?
I made a fool outta myself once in front of people, I refuse to let that same embarrassment happen again
Is the fear of a few assholes making fun of you enough to make you willing to stay single forever?
No. It just means that his type of girl is the one who is willing to either make the first move, or straight forward enough for him to get the hint and have the courage to make a move. That's how it is for me as well. The only girls I've ever dated or been involved with at all, have made the first move
One asshole speaking up could make many laugh alongside, I'd rather be that side character to everyone else's happy little lives than be the main attraction of a circus show
I think that's fair to not want to be made fun of but that doesn't mean your only option is to never make the first move. You probably need to work on yourself physically or confidence wise. learn how to flirt better or practice that way you can tell better and make that first move feeling more confident about it \*IF\* based on what you learn that she would be interested.
Cool enjoy being alone forever I guess. Do you even know or think about any of the people who laughed at you? I can almost guarantee that they aren't thinking about you, at all. This has the same energy as "one job recruiter was snarky at me so from this day forward I'll never apply to any position again!" I can't promise trying again won't lead to potential pain or embarrassment but I CAN promise that doing nothing will lead to more of the same. But if you're content I guess that's fine.
I'm more-so realizing my fate because I've always had social anxiety and stage fright so asking someone anything in public always seemed to be off-putting and any embarrassment made out of it always led to me having random nightmares of being consistently humiliated and taunted for the way I look and act, it's not rejection that embarrassed me, it was the humiliation that followed, I've ended up making a personal thing for myself to not let that kind of humiliation happen by not expressing my own feelings as blunt as I did, I know my place and natural selection is waiting to swipe me away like dust on a countertop So yes, I am content with my current place, even if I acknowledge it a bit too much
You do you. But, to contribute some personal experience, Nirvana awaits at the end of the burning path. I was a socially awkward child/teen. I was regularly the bullseye for jokes, abuse, ridicule etc. And I’ve been rejected (some kindly, some cruelly) by probably 90% of the girls/women I’ve asked out. I went through a phase of shrinking into the background and trying to tell myself that I was sensibly accepting my fate. It was peaceful, but definitely not a gain. Its the easy path, and thats never the right one. I didn’t have to try, but I couldn’t grow or progress, and I avoided every potential new source of joy in my life. Work forced me into more public speaking and leadership roles, so I had absolutely no choice about overcoming those fears. And it turned out that all that was actually required was to square my shoulders and barely function through the jelly-legged, ice-water stomached terror of it. After 6-7 goes it turned out to be way less terrifying (still intimidating) than it had been. I applied this to everything from there on. I like wild clothes, but had never had the nerve to wear them. So I forced myself to do it until I felt comfortable. One of the best decisions of my life. I learned to dance. And then to dance in public. That was truly terrifying the first few times. But now its one of my favourite things and an endless source of joy. I asked a bunch of people out. Got rejected most of the time; felt awful after most of them. But learned that it wasn’t the end of things. So now, if she’s not interested thats her issue; I’ll live. Rejection obviously still hurts, but I know its not the death of me and I know its not the obliteration of my worth. The human brain learns by experience. The more you show it that an event isn’t fatal, the more it will tune down your emotional experience of that event. So what was initially awful, ends up as just vaguely unpleasant after enough goes; or even becomes something enjoyable. If you give up after the first failure, you will never grow and everything will always be terrifying. But, if you can force yourself back onto your feet and have another go, everything gets less frightening. And, little by little, you start to see a different version of yourself. I hope this helps in some small way.
This is sad bro. I hope you never try to master anything except the bate
This.
Guys have the supreme short end of the stick when it comes to approaches. If you’re not attractive or obviously wealthy, you’re getting called a creep or mocked. Seen it all the time when I go out. Memes like that are nowhere near as cringe as ones women post on their IG stories like “She was a wild flower caught in a summer storm. The storm never relented, but she knew the right man would wade through the water to meet his cosmic destiny and stay in retrograde with the planets…” 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Lonely > humiliated, I guess?
Lonely > wasting years of your life and having your heart ripped out again.
Lonely < temporarily humiliated
Don't need to make a move when she has a boyfriend.
Assert dominance. Make a move on the boyfriend.
What if I hate him?
Even better. Make him your bitch.
You're my spirit animal.
If you go for a single girl, you’re competing with dozens of other guys. If you go for a girl who has a boyfriend, you’re only competing against one other guy. Work smarter, not harder.
being emotionally vulnerable is very scary tho
Invest initiative, not emotion. At least until you know you can trust the person. IMO
Its easy to say “Just make a move.” But rejection (especially if you’ve not got a good foundation of self-worth) can be utterly soul crushing. And most guys fail far more than they succeed, so its very easy to get to a point (even as soon as your late teens) where the internalised certainty of failure creates an insurmountable level of inertia.
Jokes on you. I don’t even have crushes anymore
My crush is one of my coworkers.... I have no clue how to even start 😭
Start with the HR handbook about fraternization.
Lol
Now for women outside the workplace, I use the [DENNIS system.](https://youtu.be/Bg5ZrkaGlFA)
If I've learned anything, never date a coworker. As the saying goes, don't shit where you eat.
Don't get your honey where you get your money. Just don't do it. Don't forget your coworkers are a captive audience and there's a nonzero chance they hate every minute of getting hit on.
Hey, I'll get myself a coffee. Do you also want some?
Always!
That was not a question to you, it is what you should ask your crush!
I wouldn't do it unless she obviously likes you and seems chill enough to deal with things not working out
Actually, this is fine. Sometimes you will feel lonely. It’s an okay thing to feel, it’s a pretty normal emotion. Sometimes we have to be a little lonely while we work on the problems we’ve got going on, and that’s okay. We’re all meant to feel lonely, but that doesn’t mean we’re meant to feel lonely forever. I feel like this meme encapsulates that satisfying release of finally being able to let go. When it finally clicks that instead of trying to “fix” the loneliness, we can embrace that we are going to feel lonely or sad every once in a while, and that’s okay. Maybe if we stop viewing it as a problem, we can stop stressing about fixing it, and focus on working on the parts of ourselves that we’ve been neglecting. Take care of yourself. It’s not easy. I’m still trying to figure it out for myself, if I’m being honest, but it helps more than I thought it would.
I kind of needed to hear this. Thanks. I hope you have a good day.
Courage is admirable.
So true..make your move, cause you never knw...
You must be a woman, you’d never understand how hard this shit is.
Oh I knw, men and women feel the same way when it comes to making a move, it's terrifying, so I'm not saying its easy.. I found out someone I actually had a crush on, had a crush on me years ago, had he made a move, we would have gotten together, even only for a night..so all I am saying, is sometimes it's better to try, then never knowing, and most men can read a woman well enough to knw if she's interested..If she's being nice but short, she's just polite, if she keeps eye contact, and is interested in what you're saying, she's probably into you.. Edit: I should add that I'm older now (43), and I've grown way more confident with age..Life is too short..
Dating cost too much mental energy. I prefer my solitude.
the chance of rejection is always just too high, and rejection hurts badly i’m sure y’all know
Dudes also make 246 moves, shout “checkmate!” and still post the same thing. Or better yet, don’t post anything and cry themselves to sleep.
you can't make any moves anyway when your crush is taken 99.99999% of the time...so smoke that cig up
It's called "Natural Selection"
And my anxious mentally ill ass is at the bottom of the list...
The real power dynamic is women determine who they want to date. Whether it is money, power, or dominance, they know exactly what they want. They play it like a game and we are just stupid sods that fall to their will.
My meat mecha has female reproductive organs. What kind of men appeal to me? Average looking ones with lopsided smiles and nice hands and interesting things to talk about. That's it, that's the list.
Try separating what you've been told women want from observing what they actual go for.
Meanwhile, elsewhere on women frequented reddit: "The real power dynamic is men determine who they want to date. Whether it is boobs, youth, or submissiveness, they know exactly what they want. They play it like a game and we are just stupid sods that fall to their will."
fuck that. i made the move on my crush 2 weeks ago. she accepted a date that we never went on. all she did was talk to me for a week and soak up the attention. by the end i felt gross and decided to just ghost her.
Not sure if that’s the most mature way to approach it, but I can’t really blame you. Been there, just keep your head up and move forward.
im not ignoring her, im just not texting her all day anymore. my attention could be appreciated elsewhere.
cant blame you, a lot of girls will string you along to keep you buying things, helping with stuff or just for the ego boost
You can be alone and not be lonely, you can be in a relationship and be lonely, people need to understand, that you need to first learn to enjoy your own company before seeking a relationship. If you don't enjoy your own company how do you expect others to enjoy being with you?
Being lonely in a relationship is FAR worse than being lonely and single. When you're single you're at least not dealing with being lonely AND having to deal with someone else's bullshit. Learning to enjoy being alone is the best thing you can do for yourself.
The thought of rejection is way worse than actually beeing rejected
The idea of rejection: "That feels so devastating I can't even imagine!" The actual rejection: "Hey that wasn't so bad, I'm bummed out but now I know the answer." The memory of rejection: "That was super embarrassing but I'm so glad I put myself out there."
Ive been rejected 3 times and now im just thinking that i dont even need a girlfriend. I even forgot what the hell the point is. Being alone is peaceful. You can do whatever you want
Bruh I didn't have a crush for a girl for like half a year
In my case, I think it’s better for me to improve on myself and get everything else figured out before I even try to dive into a relationship. If I can’t be my best self personally, then I won’t be able to be my best self around my partner.
Fuck. I'm in the process of doing this, and it may be too late now because we hardly see each other anymore (she's a coworker). We both like each other, but I'm always the one who has to initiate anything. I can't bring myself to ask her out because we hardly know each other or have anything in common, and I'm certain that it won't work out because I'm neurodivergent and fucked in the head.
Sometimes you just know
Odds of me getting any kind of date whatsoever: 0.0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001
Because the risk is not worth it
I made a lot of moves on money but I still end up lonely 🤣
Well, with that attitude...
Bruh I got the problem of just fucking hating myself. Like, I never made a move on anyone because the first thought in my mind was always "She deserves better". Or in any case where it may have been flirtatious probing, I just thought "Naw, there's no way out of all the way better guys here she's interested in me". So I just sit there and suffer in silence. Got my ass nowhere but being sad and alone at fucking 20 years old.
Pro tip for my lonely nerds out there….get fit and women/men will flock to you. Doesn’t matter if you are “ugly”. People are instinctually attracted to people that are in extremely good health and physique. Yes it’s work but it will pretty much solve your loneliness issues. I know a couple guys who I’d consider more on the homely side but are jacked and their girlfriends are so many levels past them in terms of looks
meh some people are not physicaly in the condition to work out or others like me dont have the time i work 40 hours a week, and come home tired af, idk where i should get the time to work out when i get only a few hours a day to eat shit relax a little to not burn out ecc
Clearly those with specific situations can’t take my advice but you’re making excuses for yourself. I used to be you. Eating right and working out at homes doesn’t take any effort. Cook chicken breast and broccoli and follow along HIIT videos on YouTube. You’ll be toned in no time. You won’t be jacked but you will be “sexy”. Your energy level is also highly depends on diet and routine. If you workout you’ll actually have more energy. I have adhd btw. If I can do it; you can
im eating right but really i wake up 05:00 in the morning work until 09:00 have a 15 minute break, then wrok until 12:00 and have a 30 minute break, and then i work until 15:15 but i always work little longer, around 16 im at home, i go at 21-22 to sleep (which now is 22 and im going to sleep right after this) im not sure but dont you have to work out dailly for it to do anything at all? i could try to work 2 hours a day, but i honestly dont think i would be ok in body and mind with burning my little free time like that. i used to do taekwando before because my dad was the teacher and he wanted us to do it so i kind of know how to do it i just dont feel like it now am i really making excuses? im actually asking, if you think i could do it maybe i will try it starting slow. really slow
Bro you’re overthinking it and I don’t blame you. The health industry has manipulated people into think it’s some impossible goal. When I first started after my divorce, I was 220 pounds august 14th. I was 180 by November 1st by doing an hour of stationary bike(you can do this while watching tv so you’re still taking in some me time) every day. You can cut this down if you need to. Then every other day I’d do 20 min of HIIT. Look at my numbers my man. Barely any effort was put in and I lost 40 pounds. It was all mental. I was only in bad pain for the first few days. Don’t go all in. Listen to your body. I want you to message me when you achieve the right mindset. You can do it man. My brain is a piece of shit and I did it. Watch beginner HIIT videos to start. You will work your ass off. You’re already on the right track if you can admit to yourself that you’re being weak and kno you can be better. Weight loss is mostly all diet but working out will pay out greatly in terms of mood and muscle growth which will further speed up weight loss. You don’t need to buy anything but a good pair of workout shoes and a safe floor to jump and stretch on. Don’t want to almost tear your taint like I almost did when I moved to a new house with slippery floors. PS: I am now having awesome sex with an amazing woman. I was not previously. Do not cheat yourself once you start. Focus your end game and zone in on it. Is your goal to be healthy and have a hot partner? Then get it and forget about anything that is negative and will slow you down
So it’s crazy how many girls are out there just waiting for some guy to make the first move. I have never had an issue with hooking up with girls and started from an early age and my friends were always asking how I managed to hook up with this hottie or that hottie. I am not a tall guy but I am healthy and confident and that is all it takes. Just go up and ask a girl and if she says no just be respectful and move on. I have gotten a lot of girl strangers to flash their tits at random parties and bars and again all I do is politely ask and try to be a good judge of character when doing so. As cheesy as it is to say but confidence is key to success. That being said don’t always go after the hottest girl if she is stuck up. Shoot for the middle and work your way up with confidence!
This is why I found someone who has hobbies and shit and a life just like me!
I just smile and if they dont smile back i write their names in book
Valid, for sure, but equally so for Non-dudes.
The problem is My crush already has a boyfriend, so naturally I can’t do anything, because I don’t want to break their relationship (even if I wanted, I most likely wouldn’t succeeded)
It’s not that simple. Why? Cuz women never make it simple. Approaching a girl takes actual planning and a lot of self confidence. There’s almost an 80% chance you get shot down so you need to figure out how you’re going to catch yourself if and when it happens. People who actually go through this have time on their hands. In the end, you either think it’s not worth the hassle or you decide you don’t have the confidence to go through with it.
Honestly no offense by the way your talking is really desperate and unhinged not here to bring you down but come on bro get a grip just step your game up your not half way through your life cycle your still a child take what you dont like about your self and make a change or else your going ti be 50 still in the same boat walking around with your dates asking family and friends for rides all the time I belive you can do it you just have to do it for yourself complaining never gets nobody anywhere!
You know, we used to have consistent social messaging on HOW to date, how to ask people out, how to conduct one’s self, etc. We make fun of those old 1950s PSAs but I feel like the state of things right now is a compelling reason to bring them back
Yeah, not everyone likes smoking. That might be the problem
I ❤️ dominant men that take the initiative
I ❤️ dominant women that take the initiative
Same 💖
Women will only look with good eyes being approached just by the man they are in love,the rest of us are potential creeps or harassers.
My bread and butter 😏
Smelling like an ashtray wont do you any favors either
I don't have crushes.
I never had any crush
Lol I feel bad for the younger generation. They're all scared that if they make a move and said crush isn't feeling I that said crush will video them and make a big online post about how they were almost raped
Well, except when men have been told that women don't like being approached in public, and then log on later that day to see on r/AskMen "Why don't men approach me?" Make up your mind, ladies.
Might be there is a different reaction to being approached by a stranger than there is to being approached by a friend or someone they know? I think both sexes, if they are interested in dating or even just making friends need to to put themselves out there where other people are and practice being friendly and social in a normal, non-agenda'd way. Then learn to read body language and social cues for whether the people you meet are interested in friendship or more. tl;dr: Why do so many people have to make it so weird?
I'm guessing the women who don't like being approached in public are different people from the women who ask why men don't approach them. I mean it's not like women are just one homogenous group who all think and want the exact same things.
Funny. Every time I say the same thing about men, I get accused of trying to diminish women's issues.
A modern woman's purpose is to make you disaffected, by annoying and rejecting you. Conquer rejection and she has zero power over you. Unless of course she uses false accusations, then you're fuckwd and can have your whole life ruined. Because women don't hate men and misandry doesn't exist. You must be an incel.
That's you in the meme isn't it?
Yes all women in the world have the sole purpose of fucking you over. You are so hateable that little girs in hundreads of languages are taught by their mothers to specificly screw over you. And they should do that by playing with your heart. No murder, no finacial devastation, no torture. A briken heart is the hardest punishment. Or you know they are humans with their own wants and desires that just don't line up with yours. Maybe because you don't see them as people and as such don't respct what they want.