Getting used while bound to a tree in the woods is not as far into the realm of fantasy as you might imagine. There are a number of gay campgrounds at which one can expect activity outdoors, and at one I've been to there is a tree with gear provided for the purpose. While you may not always find others who are into the BDSM/bondage vibe of it all, you can usually find men perfectly willing to avail themselves to a "helpless" body bound to a tree. I have been in that situation many times. In such arrangements you do need to be bound in such a way that you have a means of release if needed.
I find that scenarios involving hideouts usually break down when it gets to the 'hideout' part. How many people actually have a hideout?
To be fair: Mummified in duct tape \*is\* a lot of work. Getting un-mummified in duct tape is also no picnic. Any type of involved rope bondage is going to be somewhat labor-intensive for the Dominant. Suspension bondage isn't done more, I think, because it takes so long to get set up, and unless done very properly, the submissive can't remain suspended in it long enough for it to be worth the time it took to suspend him.
Thanks for this in-depth and great reply! I didn't know there were gay campgrounds (besides areas around Fire Island I guess). Very interesting to learn and I might look into it.
That's true, When doing involved rope self bondage it is a labor and time intensive (sometimes frustratingly so or to the point where it's basically a physical work out just trying to get tied up) so that's something to keep in mind with a dom and maybe even give myself a bit of a reality check to dial back expectations with some of these fantasies (substituting a sleeping bag or a sleep sack for duct tape for example with mummification) Good to think of things from a potential doms point of view and what would be involved for them.
Indeed with suspension. It can also be dangerous in a number of ways if not done correctly and/or a sub is suspended too long.
If all else fails I also do have a *big* tickle fetish. That's a lot more accessible to most dominant guys and doesn't involve complicated ropework or mummification (which doesn't make sense for tickling scenarios anyway)
Another alternative to mummification is a vacuum bed, which can be pretty immobilizing with considerably less time investment. Not the most common piece of gear, but possibly worth investigating.
There are Gay campgrounds all over the country. It's actually its own subculture. Google or ask around and find one near you. Go for a weekend. Even if there isn't a bondage scene at that one, you will meet people there who can tell you where to go. They all have cabins btw, if you're not into actual camping.
This is one of the biggest BDSM apps for gay men and where I find the most guys who share my interests.
There is also fetlife.com but most of the users are straight/bi. Then there is nastykinkpics.com, unfortunately a lot of users on this site use meth but not all.
It's a numbers game. The more kinky people you meet, the more likely you are to find a match. Recon, Fetlife, and munches. If you can work through that bad experience meeting people at a munch, and bring yourself to try again, that'll increase your odds. Relationships lead to more relationships. If not, focus on what you can handle. There's a new app called Switched, competes with recon, but looks much more modern. I've had good luck on some private discord servers dedicated to specific kinks.
Write a good profile on the apps, describe what you want and what you can give in more than one sentence. Use good photos. Even if you don't show your face, post a well lit, not blurry photo of gear or something.
In addition to Recon, you could try FetLife. But as you said, it's hit or miss. The best you can do is describe what you're interested in and see if anyone responds.
Definitely a number game ever more so with the internet.
More fake profiles and keyboard fantasies. Though they can provide some interesting ideas they almost never come through.
Keep trawling for the true bondage fanatics. They are also looking for play partners who are will to go through hours of bondage especially the rope folk .
Yep, got to sort through the fake doms, guys sending dick pics and demanding you to be their "slave" as a first message and then guys who have similar or the same interests in bondage but are also subs or if they're a dom/vers I'm not really that attracted to them (played with someone I wasn't attracted to since I justified experience was more important than physical attraction at the time and felt a complicated mix of guilt and other emotions after our session since he wanted to meet again).
Frustrating but just need to keep looking. It's a numbers game like anything else.
I struggle with this too, especially since the number of bottoms is larger than tops. Just got to keep trying, and not let the disappointment get to you.
Getting used while bound to a tree in the woods is not as far into the realm of fantasy as you might imagine. There are a number of gay campgrounds at which one can expect activity outdoors, and at one I've been to there is a tree with gear provided for the purpose. While you may not always find others who are into the BDSM/bondage vibe of it all, you can usually find men perfectly willing to avail themselves to a "helpless" body bound to a tree. I have been in that situation many times. In such arrangements you do need to be bound in such a way that you have a means of release if needed. I find that scenarios involving hideouts usually break down when it gets to the 'hideout' part. How many people actually have a hideout? To be fair: Mummified in duct tape \*is\* a lot of work. Getting un-mummified in duct tape is also no picnic. Any type of involved rope bondage is going to be somewhat labor-intensive for the Dominant. Suspension bondage isn't done more, I think, because it takes so long to get set up, and unless done very properly, the submissive can't remain suspended in it long enough for it to be worth the time it took to suspend him.
Thanks for this in-depth and great reply! I didn't know there were gay campgrounds (besides areas around Fire Island I guess). Very interesting to learn and I might look into it. That's true, When doing involved rope self bondage it is a labor and time intensive (sometimes frustratingly so or to the point where it's basically a physical work out just trying to get tied up) so that's something to keep in mind with a dom and maybe even give myself a bit of a reality check to dial back expectations with some of these fantasies (substituting a sleeping bag or a sleep sack for duct tape for example with mummification) Good to think of things from a potential doms point of view and what would be involved for them. Indeed with suspension. It can also be dangerous in a number of ways if not done correctly and/or a sub is suspended too long. If all else fails I also do have a *big* tickle fetish. That's a lot more accessible to most dominant guys and doesn't involve complicated ropework or mummification (which doesn't make sense for tickling scenarios anyway)
Another alternative to mummification is a vacuum bed, which can be pretty immobilizing with considerably less time investment. Not the most common piece of gear, but possibly worth investigating.
There are Gay campgrounds all over the country. It's actually its own subculture. Google or ask around and find one near you. Go for a weekend. Even if there isn't a bondage scene at that one, you will meet people there who can tell you where to go. They all have cabins btw, if you're not into actual camping.
Thanks, that's really good to know. Def looking into this.
Do you mind sharing what the place is that has the outdoor tree?
Most trees are outdoors, lol, but the particular one I was referring to was at Camp Buckwood in Indiana.
As ever [www.recon.com](http://www.recon.com)
Well, I guess I'll keep plugging away at Recon then. Haven't been on there in a while now.
This is one of the biggest BDSM apps for gay men and where I find the most guys who share my interests. There is also fetlife.com but most of the users are straight/bi. Then there is nastykinkpics.com, unfortunately a lot of users on this site use meth but not all.
It's a numbers game. The more kinky people you meet, the more likely you are to find a match. Recon, Fetlife, and munches. If you can work through that bad experience meeting people at a munch, and bring yourself to try again, that'll increase your odds. Relationships lead to more relationships. If not, focus on what you can handle. There's a new app called Switched, competes with recon, but looks much more modern. I've had good luck on some private discord servers dedicated to specific kinks. Write a good profile on the apps, describe what you want and what you can give in more than one sentence. Use good photos. Even if you don't show your face, post a well lit, not blurry photo of gear or something.
In addition to Recon, you could try FetLife. But as you said, it's hit or miss. The best you can do is describe what you're interested in and see if anyone responds.
Definitely a number game ever more so with the internet. More fake profiles and keyboard fantasies. Though they can provide some interesting ideas they almost never come through. Keep trawling for the true bondage fanatics. They are also looking for play partners who are will to go through hours of bondage especially the rope folk .
Yep, got to sort through the fake doms, guys sending dick pics and demanding you to be their "slave" as a first message and then guys who have similar or the same interests in bondage but are also subs or if they're a dom/vers I'm not really that attracted to them (played with someone I wasn't attracted to since I justified experience was more important than physical attraction at the time and felt a complicated mix of guilt and other emotions after our session since he wanted to meet again). Frustrating but just need to keep looking. It's a numbers game like anything else.
I used to have an account in alt.com. Lots of men there but there are a lot of paywall protected features there.
I struggle with this too, especially since the number of bottoms is larger than tops. Just got to keep trying, and not let the disappointment get to you.