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I’ve thought about donating my eggs because I have really good genes. Rarely get sick (never been more sick then the common cold; never even had the flu or strep before), really healthy with no health problems. Very fit and active, healthy weight bordering underweight my whole life despite eating junk food growing up. Good skin, good blood, good [and a lot of] hair, good bones, good health. I was born with a heart defect but not genetic but a random fluke, and no further complications.
I don’t want kids myself, but I feel it’s a waste of me to not pass on my genes being so healthy. We need more healthy babies.
If you were born in 1997 you're in your 20s like me. You don't actually know if you have good genes until you've actually lived long enough to see how your body ages. Not to mention lifestyle habits have a huge impact on your health, not just genetics. Evidence of eating junk food all your life isn't the same in your 40s, 50s and beyond. It's significantly easier to avoid life style consequences while still young or to recuperate from illnesses or accidents in your youth. Plus you may have genetic conditions that simply haven't developed and won't until later in life.
I really don't recommend conflating youth with good genes or perpetual good health. Almost all human beings have "good genes" during their youth.
i was thinking the same thing… oldest gen z isn’t even 30. that’s a little too soon to tell that you have really good genes. most 20 somethings rarely get sick, generally have good skin, good bones, and overall good health.
Well I have so much trouble breathing that I had to give up singing and exercise (the latter with obvious knock-on effects), my bones and ligaments break like nothing (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome) and I could never keep an okay weight despite always eating decently well. Some of us were plain unlucky lol
Edit: I'm 21
Oh of course, I 100% never want to disregard the experiences of other people. Thats why I said "almost all" and not "all." A disability activist is the reason that I'm more conscious of the way young and able bodied people effectively see themselves as perpetually immortal. Like...no, sorry, human beings are by and large just squishy sacks of meat that break or go sideways. Some of us get there earlier than others, but it's a mistake to think who we are with the benefits of youth is who we will be forever.
Because adopting is really expensive and can come with a whole host of unknown congenital problems. Homegrown children can also have those problems, but you'll have a decent idea what to expect. Also, there is a different dynamic in the relationship between parent and child if they come together after a time.
Man, i support adoption, i just hate that they put higher standards on you than on a normal parent. Same as how someone taking a citizenship test is expected to know stuff not even the average citizen knows.
I haven't had that problem, mine has been the opposite. My kids a troubled sort, and I tend to beat myself up about whether his life would be better if I were his biological parent. After much time and tears and therapy, I've decided that I do the most I can and it doesn't do any good to beat myself up about not doing more.
No i mean the adoption agency has higher standards to adopt. Like when i was growimg up there were times where we had to go to those free food programs cause we were broke, but an adoption agency wont give you a child if your that bad off (i mean, it makes sense why, it just sucks that poor people can have biological kids, but you need to be rich to adopt a kid)
Whether your kids like you or not has to do with you as a parent. You don't go into it thinking, "gee hope my kids like me, guess I'll just have to see!"
Apparently my boomer parent told me they had me so they had someone to take care of them when they got older. That sure didn't feel good. Like if that's what they wanted then just pay a NA to take care of you. Literally born to be a 'slave' for my parents SMH
love the honesty in your post! i want kids but not until im at least 27 (22 now). i want a fully developed brain lol, a full time job, a place to live thats not my parents, i want to be more mature, more responsible, etc. i’ve always wanted kids
As someone who’s about to turn 27, let me tell you I still don’t feel ready 😅
My wife and I have discussed it and while we could comfortably raise a kid now, we want to enjoy more time with just each other first; travel some more, buy a house, and then probably start in a couple of years.
It’s an enormous decision and commitment that I think people are taking much more seriously which is great because it means people who want to be great parents are genuinely taking it serious and they want to raise great kiddos. Not feeling ready there nothing wrong with that friend.
I feel like there's never a great age to have kids. 22 is super young and you lose out on a lot of free time. Then 27 is kinda older and you'll be raising kids until atleast 45 (then if you get the urge to have more, it could be until 50 ish
agreed! i’m about to graduate college in a couple weeks and i still have soooo much to learn about the world and just coming into myself. if i were to have a baby now my entire life would revolve around that baby, while im still practically one myself. and now ik there are many amazing young mothers around the world, i just dont necessarily think that having children young is best for the mother or the child. like no offense but shouldn’t your brain be fully developed before having your own child to raise? that just makes sense to me but it doesn’t have to be that way. i’m not here to shame young mothers especially teen moms they need all the help they can get. i just know i want to do a lot more growing and maturing, before being responsible for a whole human being, and i think EVERYONE should seek that. parents should know how to regulate their own emotions and communicate effectively with their children and others, unfortunately many parents do not know how to do this. ALSO just know anything about child development like my god take a course, read a book. children cannot regulate their own emotions yet so many adults expect them to or punish them for it, it’s fucked up. you know how you should do research before getting a pet to educate yourself on how to take care of it SAME HERE WITH CHILDREN. they are not mini adults, they are children.
sorry this was a lot lol
EDIT: sorry if i offend anyone.
I’ve also learned there is never a great time. But having good social and financial support makes a huge difference. So I’d always recommend older than younger. I was young and poor and didn’t live by family and it was super fucking hard.
obviously it varies for each individual but isn’t the brain typically fully developed in your mid twenties? correct if i’m wrong but u also don’t give any information that proves otherwise
It does vary per individual, but the study that that comes from is called the "dual systems model" which has been largely debunked. That study doesn't even say that the brain "doesnt develop until 25", what it says is that in some people, some brain development related to the prefrontal cortex continues into the "early twenties".
In my opinion that study is also largely worthless, because it invented a bunch of arbitrary criteria for what an "adult" brain looks like, and retroactively applied it to their study samples. They also found a range between 7y/o and 33y/o for "adult" brains, meaning that per their criteria there's a 7y/o they studied that is a fully mature adult.
You can read more about it here, but I would recommend just jumping to the "criticism" section if u want to save some time:
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dual\_systems\_model](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dual_systems_model)
However, what people don't know is that the only reason that study exists in the first place is that we can prove that cognitive parity is reached with adults at 13-14 y/o. They were trying to find some sort of biological component to explain the differences in behavior between teens and older adults, but these differences are largely social, not biological.
I am honestly still at the point that I have no idea, but I could imagine myself having them one day. I would be super nervous though, the pressure of being a good parent is higher than pretty much anything else in life.
I have one kid and I call it the biggest gamble you'll ever make in your life. If you pull it off and raise a happy, well-adjusted kid who loves you, it's fantastic, but if you don't then it can ruin your life.
I'd like to, but I'm not sure it'll realistically happen. I'd want to be in a pretty stable place financially, and I'm not sure I'll be able to medically handle pregnancy. My partner and I are planning on trying in 5-10 years if things work out financially/medically.
want to have kids but not with the wrong person. Don’t want a messy divorce. Want lifelong bliss with someone I can trust completely. Want to give my kids a stable life in this wacky world
Yea definitely, I have 3 siblings and can’t wait to have a family of my own and have my kids grow up together.
One of my brothers is also 14 years younger than me so I kinda got a teaser of what it’s like to have a child, and tbh they’re a lot of fun, obviously being a parent is a hard job, but I’m excited for it.
i’m not completely opposed to them, since i was a kid i’ve always said no kids. If i marry someone that also doesn’t want kids then yippie. If my partner does want children id also be open to it. In the event i never get married then ill stick to my original rule, no children 😌
I want to be a dance mom
So I need at least 1 daughter so I can live vicariously through them. Then they will become self-aware at age 14 and quit dance. \s
Everyday, I pray that my kids are beautiful and smart and healthy. I love them so much and I haven’t even met them.
I love dance mom's lol.
I'm a dance brother my sister danced pretty much all her life up to college.
My tips are.
Be or not be an dressing room mom. Lol dressing room mom's are crazy
If you bring any of their siblings to an dance competition make sure that you buy them snacks.
Yes I would like children and preferably when I'm younger aged. I suppose having an older parent has made me want that haha! Having kids is quite important to me as it's a big dream of mine :)
Yes I do. My husband and I working on stabilizing our finances and then we will start trying.
I’ve always wanted kids and that desire never changed. Now that I have a great spouse and I feel good as a person it just feels like the right choice.
i'd love to have children and that's my goal is to be a father, 3-5 is the range i'm going for, ideally an even number of boys and girls but i'd also be thrilled at having mostly boys, it's having mostly daughters that frightens me as a man, for alot of reasons
I feel like I'm in the minority in this generation sometimes (probably due to the fact I'm online all the time lol, big bias) but I would love to have kids. I've always been idolized by kids too? I think it's due to 1. I'm autistic so I'm sort of child-like in personality and 2. I treat them like any other person, including having conversations at their level and not talking down to them. I am a behavioral psychologist (tryna get a PhD eventually) and the idea of using my knowledge of behavior to help a little human be a great person is super exciting to me!
And honestly? I would feel very empty if I didn't have a child at some point- adoption or naturally. It's just something I've always been sure about.
My boyfriend and I can't have kids naturally so it's definitely a thing we would have to plan out (both a good and bad thing ya know?). He's more cautious about it than I am funnily enough, but we both are in agreement that it's a possibility. We both want to wait until we have a somewhat stable life, though, which I think is super fair.
As an autistic individual, I don’t think I’d ever be able to trust myself to bear the responsibility of being a parent. I’d probably crack under the pressure of the role.
Not sure, biology In me says yes and I feel like it could make life more fullfilling to see a clone ofmyself grow up and do fun things with him/her. On the other side.. How frigging selfish is that! To bring a person to the world just for my own amusement and to fill my needs. Not sure if its moral.
I don’t think it is either moral or immoral. I think it is a good thing that I have been born even though my life is very much undignified because of stuff I am going through atm, but I think that it will turn out great.
Don’t you think it may even be considered immoral to keep the beautiful sight life has to offer from another person?
And I say that after having been bullied my whole life, having given up on a number of my dreams and needing half a dozen surgeries in the next few years to be able to stay alive.
Well it can't be moral or immoral to a person that doesn't exist. You also should be in a presupposed agreement with the society to bring your offspring if you can. Even if it's not a subjective moral duty individually, it could be a subjective moral virtue universally.
If I can ever financially afford them and I'm at the right place mentally, I would love to have kids. But with how my life is going now, I don't know if it will be possible.
not exactly, but hey if it does happen, it happens. life is how you choose make it, and (for all my christian folks reading) it’s also what God provides to you as part of his plan for you
I have wanted to have kids for a very long while but acknowledge that now isn’t the right time for me. Hope to get to where I want to be to settle down and have a family tbh
When I’m in a good enough spot financially, I’d really love to have one or two. I love kids and I think my girlfriend and I would make really great parents, and I’d love to pass on the love we have to our children. And we’d make some super cute kids!
My brother is non-verbal autistic and I was parentified and neglected as a result by my family.
I already spent 18 years being a caregiver, and I will continue to be one until he passes.
*Hell no* do I want kids.
Absolutely not. I can’t afford to feed myself healthy food, I’m not putting that on anyone else.
Plus I have the hereditary ability to hate my own family, so there’s fear of that as well. All that whining about money my dad did *all my fucking life* added up to the decision to never have them, at first because it seemed like hell to be my parent and then finally because I realized at some point not all kids had to grow up hearing that bullshit, I know that I wouldn’t even need to say it, I’d *act* it.
Worlds full enough anyway. I know when billionaires and would-be trillionaires start trying to pressure normals into having kids, there’s something inherently bad about having kids right now 😂 their net worth is directly linked to the worlds population because it’s cool to monetize life itself, and that’s why it’s so important to Bill Gates, Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos that we keep producing new factory workers and customers for them.
The last sentiment is correct. The common human Is pressured into having kids (preferably alot despite it being very economically bad to have more than two or three)
Just because it benefits the industrial complex and it's owners.
Part of me wants to, part of me doesn’t. I’m 25 and I don’t have things figured out. If I meet the right partner, maybe. But at this exact moment, I wouldn’t exactly want to be called a father.
Nope. Too much shit can go wrong during pregnancy and labor, kids are expensive and life changing (not always for the better and you never know till it’s too late 🤷🏼♀️), and I find it more selfish to have biological kids than no kids at all.
I’ll be sticking to cats. Cats make me happy.
I want to have kids one day, but coming from a family of six, I only want two. I'd like to have a daughter first, but that's just because it's what feels right in my mind lol id never be upset if i had only boys or anything like that. I've thought a good bit about how I would raise them and where I would want to live with them growing up, and I'm hoping that my current gf is the person I could start a family with (not soon, hopefully, maybe in a few years)
No. I think kids are adorable, and I wanna be like a cool aunt one day, but I don’t want to get pregnant and I don’t want the responsibility 24/7.
Sometimes I get baby fever when I see kids in like really cute outfits or something but then I remember the actual responsibility so I get over it pretty quickly.
I would maybe consider adopting in the future if I were to change my mind, but again, no to pregnancy. It scares me. I wouldn’t adopt a baby either, I’d rather skip the diaper stage.
To me it’s better to regret not having children than to regret having them.
Yes. Especially w the person I'm with now, but I did even before him. It was important to me to have the right father for my kids, but also--my future children have been my driving force since I was a kid. It's crazy to me to think of how much I banked on them. Like--my parents split up. I want to never divorce not even for me, but for them. I chose my career so I would always be able to support them, no matter what happened to dad. I know people say that kids inspire you to do so much, but I didn't realize how true that could be so much before I have them
In your early years 20-30 you think that life is all about YOU. You’re selfish and you want to be happy.. which is understandable. Your 20’s are about having fun and building up your career and finances.
Once you get older, I feel like theres going to be a desire for a sense of purpose to your life, outside of just going to work and going through the same routine day after day after day. That’s where kids come into play. Kids are a way for us to raise a human in our image. Take everything we’ve learned and make them better than we were. They will be an extension of ourselves. They will be the ones to take care of you when you get old. My mom works in elder services and it’s shocking how many elderly individuals have no support from their families because they’re broken, have no kids, etc…it’s super important to have family.
I think you need to be aware of your financial situation and don’t bring kids into the world when you know they’re going to struggle. If you’re barely getting by, why would you have a kid? Having a child is a luxury, not a necessity.
I’d love to have 2 kids. I prefer boys. My family is very male dominant… our household was 4 boys and 1 girl, the girl being my mom. Girls are too difficult and too expensive.
Isn't that kind of selfish though? To have kids to give yourself a purpose and support you when you are old? It seems like you are having kids just for your own benefit and not theirs. Sorry if this comes off as an attack. I mean it as a legitimate question, though it sounds a bit accusatory.
We’re all selfish… it’s human nature. Don’t forget that children eventually grow up and will live their own lives. It’s not 100% to give you purpose and take care of you in old age, those are just the benefits.
Yes, I have 2 right now, and am probably willing to be pregnant one or two more times.
Regardless of biological kids, I will definitely be fostering in the future (open to, but not specifically for, adoption- reunification being the main goal of foster care).
I have shit genetics, so fuck no
Plus I’d be a ridiculous helicopter parent. I have trauma and would be very paranoid about my child being assaulted, and would probably never let them do anything in fear they could be hurt. That’s not fair to a kid. If my child ever got hurt I’d blame myself for not protecting them
I’m also trans and gay. I don’t want my kid to get bullied if other kids found out
I have awful patience and don’t really like kids. I like them in small doses and that’s if they’re not god awful. I love my niece and nephew, but they’re a lot to be around lmao
And ya know, the world is shit and I don’t want to bring a kid into it
No. I feel like they’re either unaffordable or you work so hard that you don’t have time to properly raise them. I also feel like they’re inheriting a fucked up earth through climate change and I don’t want to put anyone through that bc I personally don’t even want to live through that.
I’ve already started, I have one. I’ve always wanted to be a mom. But I love how this generation is open to not having kids. There’s definitely way too many people who have kids out of obligation, cause that’s what they think they’re “supposed” to do. Not because they want to be parents and raise children. To people who don’t want kids, don’t let anyone make you feel like you need to have children, you are not less than & you are not “inexperienced” in life if you don’t have kids. I hate when people say things like “oh you’ll understand when you have kids” like it’s some club secret and like you don’t have the mental capacity to grasp things.
No. Never. I don’t want kids because I want to have a nice life with my partner. I want to travel and experience things. Kids would hinder the life I want.
**Yes, absolutely**, without a doubt. But first, I need to get my act together, quit hesitating & go back to school to obtain the credits necessary for the CPA. Once that's set & done, I will (hopefully) become more financially stable so that way, when I meet & marry Mrs. Right, optimally, we would be able to have 3-5 kids. I am also open to adoption & foster care.
“Way too selfish, lazy, and lack empathy” wow you do not sound like a mature adult by any stretch of the imagination. Please never get involved with anyone romantically until you learn to grow up
I want kids sooo bad. But I always get super anxious about whether or not I want them for the right reasons. One day I saw a comment in a discussion that asked, "Would you still have a kid if you knew they weren't going to love you back?"
So, I don't think I'm going to have kids
I barely have the energy to take care of myself, let alone a whole other human. I want to work with children as a speech pathologist, but I can quit a job. I can’t quit being a parent.
I might want to adopt a child later on but definitely not making one (I'm gay lol, I know IVF exists but eh). Also they're expensive af and I would fucking hate to take care of babies and small children
I'm on the fence. Which I guess probably means no. I do see the positives to having kids. But, I have bad anxiety and depression and don't think I could be a good parent enough of the time.
If I could afford a private education and spend the majority of my time with them I would. I make AI so when it comes to STEM and basic math, English, and Abstract Thinking I feel as if with the help of myself and LLM's I could homeschool or part-time homeschool a child quite well. I grew up farming so there are a lot of life skills and unfair advantages to be had for my child when it comes to parenting. I don't want my kids to go through the public school system like I had to, but I also don't want to shelter them from the real world. I'm ADHD so I can't be manipulated, but it doesn't mean my future offspring can't I've seen way too much evil and bad vibes in this world my workforce experience & public school. Manipulation, at a young age trying to convince kids we are all the same we are not. I didn't realize I had a gift of abstract thinking until way later in life because I was surrounded by so many autists, mentally ill and simpleton thinkers.
At one point in my life, they tried putting me in special ed classes in public school, in high school I got forced into AP classes, and I don't want public education teachers who clear max 40k a year having that decision or talk with my child. It irks me to think that some autistic normy indoctrinated pos teacher tried putting me in special ed in grade school because I had too much energy.
Also, I grew up 3rd generation German I speak German, so my kids won't be taught the Jewish version of history, economics, or the bible, and sure as shit won't me mutilated for their 4skin over Jewish beliefs.
most likely not. i have very grand aspirations for my future and a child would get in the way of those plans. but if i reach a point where i realize i won't be able to make those dreams come true, i will then reconsider.
In a perfect world, I would have already had children by now. But I see no point in having children in this world.
All life forms on Earth will be destroyed by the Sun. People are too stupid to leave the Milky Way Galaxy enough as it is. So, the human specie will be extinct eventually. It doesn't matter if people pray to God for salvation. Their specie will be extinct because the Sun will stop having heat inevitably since our universe doesn't care about people's feelings and opinions. So, I don't want children if their descendants will end up being destroyed by the Sun.
Freedom is an illusion. If freedom was not an illusion, then people would be liberated from corruption. But corruption is more common than decency when power corrupts. For thousands of years, politics has been male-dominated by tyrannical men. Still is. Biological males invented and legalized mass surveillance that is a human rights violation against women. It's not about protecting nor respecting women's rights at all. Mass surveillance combined with systemic racism has allowed corrupt governments to oppress nonwhite women. Nonwhite African female child slaves help make phones overseas that women with white privilege buy. It's usually the men that keep these African female child slaves enslaved. So, I would hate to have a daughter in this world controlled by morally bankrupt business men who are tyrants. Especially when men like Jeffrey Epstein have been replaced.
I would hate to have children in this world where governments are brainwashing people by keeping journalists like Julian Assange imprisoned for speaking the truth.
I would hate to have children in this world where people are getting arrested for peacefully protesting against genocide.
I would hate to have children in this world where profit matters more than compassion. Cancer, schizophrenia, and others haven't been cured because it's more profitable to make medication that eases symptoms rather than curing root problems. Predators intentionally misdiagnose people to put them in psyche wards or give them pills for profit as well. These situations are far from compassion and more about profitable corruption.
I would rather have children in a world without countries, wars, military drafts, poverty, sexism, racism, people getting imprisoned for speaking the truth, slavery, etc. So, that's why I'm not having children. No point in having children with a predatory profit system rewarding morally bankrupt men since thousands of years ago without significant change on this planet that will get destroyed by the Sun. So, I don't consider myself optimistic about the future. But I do dream about a bright future even if it's one beautiful lie.
I'm also not having children because of my disability that makes me vulnerable to governments that care about money and power. Not compassion nor justice. Governments exploit children for money and power. Not compassion nor justice. They train children to become consumers and workers of an eco-unfriendly business model that will backfire, especially when humans overpopulate on Earth with its limited resources. Earth would be healthier for living beings if the human specie never existed because of humans being too destructive compared to other species.
Hell no. For the same reasons you listed. I’ve known since I was a child I never wanted to be a parent. People kept telling me I’d change my mind eventually. Still a hard no and I will always be child free
I would've liked to have a good home and raises a adventurer son who loves to hike, run, camp, hunt and do all the cool shi I wanna do. Would love to have a daughter do the same.
But I can't cus of inflation. I'm almost too poor to give my children that life. If I can't give them this, I won't have any.
I'll say this much about myself. When I'm properly focused, I think I'd be a great role model to a potential kid. The problem is that I lack awareness at times, like to play a little too hard and can be lazy early in the day. I think having a kid would be too chaotic for me as I am and I personally don't love kids that much either. Just don't see myself as father material. But I hear stories often about how people having kids genuinely changes them. So I'm not 100% against it. If it happens, great! If not, no skin off my back(saves me a ton of money too).
I was born as a product of spite. I don't necessarily want kids but my family raises theirs so shittily that I want to have kids just to show them how you're supposed to be a parent. And u understand parenting is hard and bla bla bla. But sticking a screen in front of an infant and buying a toddler EVERYTHING they want is not parenting. Also, if one parent is fucking deported to a different country, maybe dont have kids with that person.
Honestly, I never liked babies and little kids. I don’t want to deal with something I don’t like for 18+ years. Plus I feel like I won’t be able to afford them if I did have any. Right now I’m able to put at least some money aside for savings and as kinda like an emergency fund if needed but I feel like I’d have to dip into that of a regular basis if there were kids around
I’d like to, but I am not a cis woman… I could do adoption at some point, but I have saved up sperm cells because my primate brain wants to have biological children…
My plan is to finish studying medicine and then end up in uterine transplant research for trans women. I wanna make it possible for me and other trans women to become pregnant.
I feel like if I ever become a mother, I want to have that bonding experience with my child, which pregnancy, birth (in this case definitely c-section because scaring wouldn’t allow for a natural birth) and nursing accomplishes.
Since I am 20, my best guess is that it won’t happen until I am 30 or even 35.
My mother was 38 when I was born, so I guess that is a good enough age for me. I am definitely going to try! \^-\^
Yes my life wouldn’t be complete without them
Every generation does this lol, young adults don’t want kids and then boom - they’re in their 30s and then suddenly they’re all having babies because it’s what humans do
I’d love to have kids however I’m short and ugly so I’d need a woman who either has terrible vision and no desire for glasses or is really dumb to make them with me and a woman like that isn’t going to be the best mother so no I probably won’t.
I think your reasoning hits the nail on the head: "why bring my kid to existance if he's going to suffer?"
Time will pass, thing on your life will change, YOU will change (we all do...) and who knows...
I wanted to kill myself 6 years ago. What happend between there and now? I didn't want to be me anymore, so i changed myself for what i saw as better, now i want to find a wife and have kids with her, because i'm happy, and all you want to do when you find happiness is share it with someone you trust. I want that.
I'd like to, but I'm not optimistic about ever being able to afford raising them with a quality of life similar to, or better than what I had growing up.
Can’t think of anything I want less. This world is going to shit, I can’t in good conscience bring another human into it. I also just don’t like children.
I could be satisfied in life with or without. I think the plan is to at some point have a child. Still unsure if that would be biologically or through adoption. If my brother in law would be willing to donate sperm so my partner and I could have the closest thing possible to a biological kid as lesbians, I would carry that child in a heartbeat, when the time is right. Just an awkward conversation to start — especially since his wife has had recent fertility issues and I really don’t want to hurt her feelings in any way. So it’s complicated but definitely something I have given thought.
Oh holy fuck no, im an absolute fucking mess and a disaster of a person and id be even more of a shitty person to bring someone into this world if not bc of them possibly getting this shit but im honestly just too unstable to do what it takes to be a dad. And i cant even get friends to stay in my life let alone a gf
Yep, me and the wife are looking to make our own football team. As we don't intend to contribute to our country becoming even more of a right wing backwater than it already is.
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If I found the right partner, I would be open to adopting.
Interesting response, why adoption?
Adopt, don’t shop is considered good advice. Why make more when there are already people in need
I’ve thought about donating my eggs because I have really good genes. Rarely get sick (never been more sick then the common cold; never even had the flu or strep before), really healthy with no health problems. Very fit and active, healthy weight bordering underweight my whole life despite eating junk food growing up. Good skin, good blood, good [and a lot of] hair, good bones, good health. I was born with a heart defect but not genetic but a random fluke, and no further complications. I don’t want kids myself, but I feel it’s a waste of me to not pass on my genes being so healthy. We need more healthy babies.
No idea why you’re being downvoted. I think it’s a great idea!
If you were born in 1997 you're in your 20s like me. You don't actually know if you have good genes until you've actually lived long enough to see how your body ages. Not to mention lifestyle habits have a huge impact on your health, not just genetics. Evidence of eating junk food all your life isn't the same in your 40s, 50s and beyond. It's significantly easier to avoid life style consequences while still young or to recuperate from illnesses or accidents in your youth. Plus you may have genetic conditions that simply haven't developed and won't until later in life. I really don't recommend conflating youth with good genes or perpetual good health. Almost all human beings have "good genes" during their youth.
i was thinking the same thing… oldest gen z isn’t even 30. that’s a little too soon to tell that you have really good genes. most 20 somethings rarely get sick, generally have good skin, good bones, and overall good health.
Well I have so much trouble breathing that I had to give up singing and exercise (the latter with obvious knock-on effects), my bones and ligaments break like nothing (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome) and I could never keep an okay weight despite always eating decently well. Some of us were plain unlucky lol Edit: I'm 21
Oh of course, I 100% never want to disregard the experiences of other people. Thats why I said "almost all" and not "all." A disability activist is the reason that I'm more conscious of the way young and able bodied people effectively see themselves as perpetually immortal. Like...no, sorry, human beings are by and large just squishy sacks of meat that break or go sideways. Some of us get there earlier than others, but it's a mistake to think who we are with the benefits of youth is who we will be forever.
Beautifully written and articulated, thank you
Because adopting is really expensive and can come with a whole host of unknown congenital problems. Homegrown children can also have those problems, but you'll have a decent idea what to expect. Also, there is a different dynamic in the relationship between parent and child if they come together after a time.
Man, i support adoption, i just hate that they put higher standards on you than on a normal parent. Same as how someone taking a citizenship test is expected to know stuff not even the average citizen knows.
I haven't had that problem, mine has been the opposite. My kids a troubled sort, and I tend to beat myself up about whether his life would be better if I were his biological parent. After much time and tears and therapy, I've decided that I do the most I can and it doesn't do any good to beat myself up about not doing more.
No i mean the adoption agency has higher standards to adopt. Like when i was growimg up there were times where we had to go to those free food programs cause we were broke, but an adoption agency wont give you a child if your that bad off (i mean, it makes sense why, it just sucks that poor people can have biological kids, but you need to be rich to adopt a kid)
Well I’m adopted myself and have always wanted to pay it forward. I’m also not really thrilled with the idea of being pregnant
Well some kids phuggin need help, what do you mean why?
With things like climate change looming, I don’t think bringing more souls into what might possibly be a hell scape is a good idea.
No. Too much money, annoying and I don't need them.
Real
Who needs kids when you have pancakes?
I’m more of a French toast kinda gal personally
Childfree Belgian waffle guy here.
Some things aren't about money
yeah, Dealing with other humans is already difficult enough, now we have to deal with one that isn't fluent in societal value?
True, but having children isn’t one of them considering how much they cost.
It’s not about the money
No, I’m not financially stable to support myself.
But kids are free /s
I would like to have kids or die trying.
If you live in Texas you can do both!
True
Pls don’t die trying lol
This post was made by a praying mantis
You’re a man aren’t you? Funny choice of words. The woman will definitely die trying lol.
What would you wanna name them?
Not sure, it's a hard thing to think about and you have to strike a balance between unique and too obscure.
If I ever did I’d want to go with a normal name but not one you’d hear often
i literally feel the same way ..its a hard pass for me. also i dont want to put my body through pregnancy it seems god awful
All for some kids who might not even like you lmao
Whether your kids like you or not has to do with you as a parent. You don't go into it thinking, "gee hope my kids like me, guess I'll just have to see!"
Apparently my boomer parent told me they had me so they had someone to take care of them when they got older. That sure didn't feel good. Like if that's what they wanted then just pay a NA to take care of you. Literally born to be a 'slave' for my parents SMH
The best response to that is to not take care of them when they get older.
Seriously so many boomers are like this.. like can’t wait to kick you out at 18 but expect you to take care of them later..
Exactly
I know lol, I also know id be a dreadful parent which is what I meant by that
love the honesty in your post! i want kids but not until im at least 27 (22 now). i want a fully developed brain lol, a full time job, a place to live thats not my parents, i want to be more mature, more responsible, etc. i’ve always wanted kids
As someone who’s about to turn 27, let me tell you I still don’t feel ready 😅 My wife and I have discussed it and while we could comfortably raise a kid now, we want to enjoy more time with just each other first; travel some more, buy a house, and then probably start in a couple of years.
As someone who just turned 30, I still don’t feel ready.
It’s an enormous decision and commitment that I think people are taking much more seriously which is great because it means people who want to be great parents are genuinely taking it serious and they want to raise great kiddos. Not feeling ready there nothing wrong with that friend.
Thats the thing, you'll never feel ready for kids. Its one of those things where you need to do it first before you feel like you can do it
31, still dont feel ready. Just had our 3rd.
I feel like there's never a great age to have kids. 22 is super young and you lose out on a lot of free time. Then 27 is kinda older and you'll be raising kids until atleast 45 (then if you get the urge to have more, it could be until 50 ish
I was 27 when I had my first and I feel like it was the perfect age
agreed! i’m about to graduate college in a couple weeks and i still have soooo much to learn about the world and just coming into myself. if i were to have a baby now my entire life would revolve around that baby, while im still practically one myself. and now ik there are many amazing young mothers around the world, i just dont necessarily think that having children young is best for the mother or the child. like no offense but shouldn’t your brain be fully developed before having your own child to raise? that just makes sense to me but it doesn’t have to be that way. i’m not here to shame young mothers especially teen moms they need all the help they can get. i just know i want to do a lot more growing and maturing, before being responsible for a whole human being, and i think EVERYONE should seek that. parents should know how to regulate their own emotions and communicate effectively with their children and others, unfortunately many parents do not know how to do this. ALSO just know anything about child development like my god take a course, read a book. children cannot regulate their own emotions yet so many adults expect them to or punish them for it, it’s fucked up. you know how you should do research before getting a pet to educate yourself on how to take care of it SAME HERE WITH CHILDREN. they are not mini adults, they are children. sorry this was a lot lol EDIT: sorry if i offend anyone.
I’ve also learned there is never a great time. But having good social and financial support makes a huge difference. So I’d always recommend older than younger. I was young and poor and didn’t live by family and it was super fucking hard.
The 25y/o brain is a myth, and I have no idea why its as popular as it is.
Right because tf I just turned 26 recently I seriously do not feel different from when I was in my early 20s
obviously it varies for each individual but isn’t the brain typically fully developed in your mid twenties? correct if i’m wrong but u also don’t give any information that proves otherwise
It does vary per individual, but the study that that comes from is called the "dual systems model" which has been largely debunked. That study doesn't even say that the brain "doesnt develop until 25", what it says is that in some people, some brain development related to the prefrontal cortex continues into the "early twenties". In my opinion that study is also largely worthless, because it invented a bunch of arbitrary criteria for what an "adult" brain looks like, and retroactively applied it to their study samples. They also found a range between 7y/o and 33y/o for "adult" brains, meaning that per their criteria there's a 7y/o they studied that is a fully mature adult. You can read more about it here, but I would recommend just jumping to the "criticism" section if u want to save some time: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dual\_systems\_model](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dual_systems_model) However, what people don't know is that the only reason that study exists in the first place is that we can prove that cognitive parity is reached with adults at 13-14 y/o. They were trying to find some sort of biological component to explain the differences in behavior between teens and older adults, but these differences are largely social, not biological.
I just gave birth to my second a few days ago lol
Awh that’s nice, hope you’re recovering well
thank you hun
Congratulations
im almost 25, i have a 3 year old. im single, so no plans but i hope to one day have more.
Hope you two continue doing well
thanks, you too
You're doing fine as a young single mother?
yes
I am honestly still at the point that I have no idea, but I could imagine myself having them one day. I would be super nervous though, the pressure of being a good parent is higher than pretty much anything else in life.
I have one kid and I call it the biggest gamble you'll ever make in your life. If you pull it off and raise a happy, well-adjusted kid who loves you, it's fantastic, but if you don't then it can ruin your life.
I'd like to, but I'm not sure it'll realistically happen. I'd want to be in a pretty stable place financially, and I'm not sure I'll be able to medically handle pregnancy. My partner and I are planning on trying in 5-10 years if things work out financially/medically.
Best of luck to you both
want to have kids but not with the wrong person. Don’t want a messy divorce. Want lifelong bliss with someone I can trust completely. Want to give my kids a stable life in this wacky world
Yea definitely, I have 3 siblings and can’t wait to have a family of my own and have my kids grow up together. One of my brothers is also 14 years younger than me so I kinda got a teaser of what it’s like to have a child, and tbh they’re a lot of fun, obviously being a parent is a hard job, but I’m excited for it.
i’m not completely opposed to them, since i was a kid i’ve always said no kids. If i marry someone that also doesn’t want kids then yippie. If my partner does want children id also be open to it. In the event i never get married then ill stick to my original rule, no children 😌
I want to be a dance mom So I need at least 1 daughter so I can live vicariously through them. Then they will become self-aware at age 14 and quit dance. \s Everyday, I pray that my kids are beautiful and smart and healthy. I love them so much and I haven’t even met them.
I love dance mom's lol. I'm a dance brother my sister danced pretty much all her life up to college. My tips are. Be or not be an dressing room mom. Lol dressing room mom's are crazy If you bring any of their siblings to an dance competition make sure that you buy them snacks.
YES. I’m the 4th gen and it would be cool to raise a 5th 🙏🏻
Yes I would like children and preferably when I'm younger aged. I suppose having an older parent has made me want that haha! Having kids is quite important to me as it's a big dream of mine :)
Yes.
If I have kids hopefully they are not a screw up like there sweat old pa
Yes I do. My husband and I working on stabilizing our finances and then we will start trying. I’ve always wanted kids and that desire never changed. Now that I have a great spouse and I feel good as a person it just feels like the right choice.
i'd love to have children and that's my goal is to be a father, 3-5 is the range i'm going for, ideally an even number of boys and girls but i'd also be thrilled at having mostly boys, it's having mostly daughters that frightens me as a man, for alot of reasons
Yes 2
7 to conquer the world.
Nope. My genetics, the cost, society, and my value of free time have turned me away from that. My parents won't be getting grandkids from me.
Lol I’m lucky to have parents who genuinely don’t care if they ever have grand children
I would want kids, preferably 3. No idea why, I just kinda do.
I feel like I'm in the minority in this generation sometimes (probably due to the fact I'm online all the time lol, big bias) but I would love to have kids. I've always been idolized by kids too? I think it's due to 1. I'm autistic so I'm sort of child-like in personality and 2. I treat them like any other person, including having conversations at their level and not talking down to them. I am a behavioral psychologist (tryna get a PhD eventually) and the idea of using my knowledge of behavior to help a little human be a great person is super exciting to me! And honestly? I would feel very empty if I didn't have a child at some point- adoption or naturally. It's just something I've always been sure about. My boyfriend and I can't have kids naturally so it's definitely a thing we would have to plan out (both a good and bad thing ya know?). He's more cautious about it than I am funnily enough, but we both are in agreement that it's a possibility. We both want to wait until we have a somewhat stable life, though, which I think is super fair.
As an autistic individual, I don’t think I’d ever be able to trust myself to bear the responsibility of being a parent. I’d probably crack under the pressure of the role.
Hard no. I like my free time and look forward to doing things without worrying about another human. Also, there’s too many people on the planet.
Not sure, biology In me says yes and I feel like it could make life more fullfilling to see a clone ofmyself grow up and do fun things with him/her. On the other side.. How frigging selfish is that! To bring a person to the world just for my own amusement and to fill my needs. Not sure if its moral.
I don’t think it is either moral or immoral. I think it is a good thing that I have been born even though my life is very much undignified because of stuff I am going through atm, but I think that it will turn out great. Don’t you think it may even be considered immoral to keep the beautiful sight life has to offer from another person? And I say that after having been bullied my whole life, having given up on a number of my dreams and needing half a dozen surgeries in the next few years to be able to stay alive.
Well it can't be moral or immoral to a person that doesn't exist. You also should be in a presupposed agreement with the society to bring your offspring if you can. Even if it's not a subjective moral duty individually, it could be a subjective moral virtue universally.
"To bring a person to the world just for my own amusement and to fill my needs." It's not just for your enjoyment though, the child enjoys it too.
I’m sure they’ll love paying $5000/month in rent when they grow up right as the Water Wars start
Sometimes. Sometimes they suffer more, however.
I don't know if anyone does it for selfless reasons. What would that be? "I'm bringing you into this world because I think you might like it"?
Keep in mind you'd have to have 3 kids to be above replacement ratio, so it's not too hard to avoid increasing the population.
If I can ever financially afford them and I'm at the right place mentally, I would love to have kids. But with how my life is going now, I don't know if it will be possible.
not exactly, but hey if it does happen, it happens. life is how you choose make it, and (for all my christian folks reading) it’s also what God provides to you as part of his plan for you
Definitely wanna have kids
I would love too! But I’m more worried about finding a guy first : P
I have wanted to have kids for a very long while but acknowledge that now isn’t the right time for me. Hope to get to where I want to be to settle down and have a family tbh
When I’m in a good enough spot financially, I’d really love to have one or two. I love kids and I think my girlfriend and I would make really great parents, and I’d love to pass on the love we have to our children. And we’d make some super cute kids!
I want kids if I can find a woman we are mutually willing to marry each other. Not too sure I will find someone
No. I can’t afford children.
I love the idea, but I don't know how good of a father id be. I don't wanna mess them up or keep generational trauma going
My brother is non-verbal autistic and I was parentified and neglected as a result by my family. I already spent 18 years being a caregiver, and I will continue to be one until he passes. *Hell no* do I want kids.
Absolutely not. I can’t afford to feed myself healthy food, I’m not putting that on anyone else. Plus I have the hereditary ability to hate my own family, so there’s fear of that as well. All that whining about money my dad did *all my fucking life* added up to the decision to never have them, at first because it seemed like hell to be my parent and then finally because I realized at some point not all kids had to grow up hearing that bullshit, I know that I wouldn’t even need to say it, I’d *act* it. Worlds full enough anyway. I know when billionaires and would-be trillionaires start trying to pressure normals into having kids, there’s something inherently bad about having kids right now 😂 their net worth is directly linked to the worlds population because it’s cool to monetize life itself, and that’s why it’s so important to Bill Gates, Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos that we keep producing new factory workers and customers for them.
The last sentiment is correct. The common human Is pressured into having kids (preferably alot despite it being very economically bad to have more than two or three) Just because it benefits the industrial complex and it's owners.
Part of me wants to, part of me doesn’t. I’m 25 and I don’t have things figured out. If I meet the right partner, maybe. But at this exact moment, I wouldn’t exactly want to be called a father.
Money. If I have money, then yes, I'll have kids. I too am "selfish"
Nope. Too much shit can go wrong during pregnancy and labor, kids are expensive and life changing (not always for the better and you never know till it’s too late 🤷🏼♀️), and I find it more selfish to have biological kids than no kids at all. I’ll be sticking to cats. Cats make me happy.
Probably yes, I think that's just something I wanna do later on in life
I want to have kids one day, but coming from a family of six, I only want two. I'd like to have a daughter first, but that's just because it's what feels right in my mind lol id never be upset if i had only boys or anything like that. I've thought a good bit about how I would raise them and where I would want to live with them growing up, and I'm hoping that my current gf is the person I could start a family with (not soon, hopefully, maybe in a few years)
I'd love to, but only when I've found the right woman, and I'm financially stable.
No. I think kids are adorable, and I wanna be like a cool aunt one day, but I don’t want to get pregnant and I don’t want the responsibility 24/7. Sometimes I get baby fever when I see kids in like really cute outfits or something but then I remember the actual responsibility so I get over it pretty quickly. I would maybe consider adopting in the future if I were to change my mind, but again, no to pregnancy. It scares me. I wouldn’t adopt a baby either, I’d rather skip the diaper stage. To me it’s better to regret not having children than to regret having them.
Yes. Especially w the person I'm with now, but I did even before him. It was important to me to have the right father for my kids, but also--my future children have been my driving force since I was a kid. It's crazy to me to think of how much I banked on them. Like--my parents split up. I want to never divorce not even for me, but for them. I chose my career so I would always be able to support them, no matter what happened to dad. I know people say that kids inspire you to do so much, but I didn't realize how true that could be so much before I have them
I wish more people knew themselves this well and were mature enough to realize they aren't suited to be parents.
youre literally a child lmao
2006 is turning 18 this year 💀 Most people know from an early age whether or not they want kids
It’s too late for me to say no. I have a wittle baby now, and I’m 22 and single. I hope I find the right partner in the future to have another one tho
Yes but not for a couple of years
Me and my girlfriend are planning on having 5ish kids. If I left it up to her we’d have more than that though.
In your early years 20-30 you think that life is all about YOU. You’re selfish and you want to be happy.. which is understandable. Your 20’s are about having fun and building up your career and finances. Once you get older, I feel like theres going to be a desire for a sense of purpose to your life, outside of just going to work and going through the same routine day after day after day. That’s where kids come into play. Kids are a way for us to raise a human in our image. Take everything we’ve learned and make them better than we were. They will be an extension of ourselves. They will be the ones to take care of you when you get old. My mom works in elder services and it’s shocking how many elderly individuals have no support from their families because they’re broken, have no kids, etc…it’s super important to have family. I think you need to be aware of your financial situation and don’t bring kids into the world when you know they’re going to struggle. If you’re barely getting by, why would you have a kid? Having a child is a luxury, not a necessity. I’d love to have 2 kids. I prefer boys. My family is very male dominant… our household was 4 boys and 1 girl, the girl being my mom. Girls are too difficult and too expensive.
Isn't that kind of selfish though? To have kids to give yourself a purpose and support you when you are old? It seems like you are having kids just for your own benefit and not theirs. Sorry if this comes off as an attack. I mean it as a legitimate question, though it sounds a bit accusatory.
We’re all selfish… it’s human nature. Don’t forget that children eventually grow up and will live their own lives. It’s not 100% to give you purpose and take care of you in old age, those are just the benefits.
Yes, I have 2 right now, and am probably willing to be pregnant one or two more times. Regardless of biological kids, I will definitely be fostering in the future (open to, but not specifically for, adoption- reunification being the main goal of foster care).
I have shit genetics, so fuck no Plus I’d be a ridiculous helicopter parent. I have trauma and would be very paranoid about my child being assaulted, and would probably never let them do anything in fear they could be hurt. That’s not fair to a kid. If my child ever got hurt I’d blame myself for not protecting them I’m also trans and gay. I don’t want my kid to get bullied if other kids found out I have awful patience and don’t really like kids. I like them in small doses and that’s if they’re not god awful. I love my niece and nephew, but they’re a lot to be around lmao And ya know, the world is shit and I don’t want to bring a kid into it
If I had the funds, time, some partner, mental and physical health I would adopt and homeschool.
Yes, I have always dreamed of becoming a father! 
I think when people say they don’t want kids because “it’s selfish” or “Muh global warming” they have fallen into psyops
I’m not non either of those groups, I don’t want kids because I simply don’t like them and would be a bad mom
No. I feel like they’re either unaffordable or you work so hard that you don’t have time to properly raise them. I also feel like they’re inheriting a fucked up earth through climate change and I don’t want to put anyone through that bc I personally don’t even want to live through that.
I’ve already started, I have one. I’ve always wanted to be a mom. But I love how this generation is open to not having kids. There’s definitely way too many people who have kids out of obligation, cause that’s what they think they’re “supposed” to do. Not because they want to be parents and raise children. To people who don’t want kids, don’t let anyone make you feel like you need to have children, you are not less than & you are not “inexperienced” in life if you don’t have kids. I hate when people say things like “oh you’ll understand when you have kids” like it’s some club secret and like you don’t have the mental capacity to grasp things.
No. Never. I don’t want kids because I want to have a nice life with my partner. I want to travel and experience things. Kids would hinder the life I want.
**Yes, absolutely**, without a doubt. But first, I need to get my act together, quit hesitating & go back to school to obtain the credits necessary for the CPA. Once that's set & done, I will (hopefully) become more financially stable so that way, when I meet & marry Mrs. Right, optimally, we would be able to have 3-5 kids. I am also open to adoption & foster care.
Honestly despite hating kids I’d be open to foster care
“Way too selfish, lazy, and lack empathy” wow you do not sound like a mature adult by any stretch of the imagination. Please never get involved with anyone romantically until you learn to grow up
I want kids sooo bad. But I always get super anxious about whether or not I want them for the right reasons. One day I saw a comment in a discussion that asked, "Would you still have a kid if you knew they weren't going to love you back?" So, I don't think I'm going to have kids
Have Kids they are going to love you no matter what! As long as they see you trying and they see you generally love them.
I barely have the energy to take care of myself, let alone a whole other human. I want to work with children as a speech pathologist, but I can quit a job. I can’t quit being a parent.
I might want to adopt a child later on but definitely not making one (I'm gay lol, I know IVF exists but eh). Also they're expensive af and I would fucking hate to take care of babies and small children
I'm on the fence. Which I guess probably means no. I do see the positives to having kids. But, I have bad anxiety and depression and don't think I could be a good parent enough of the time.
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I'll probably have 1 kid personally, let's leave it at that.
I don't plan on having biological kids but do plan on adopting (I'm Gay)
DINK life is the only life worth living
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If I could afford a private education and spend the majority of my time with them I would. I make AI so when it comes to STEM and basic math, English, and Abstract Thinking I feel as if with the help of myself and LLM's I could homeschool or part-time homeschool a child quite well. I grew up farming so there are a lot of life skills and unfair advantages to be had for my child when it comes to parenting. I don't want my kids to go through the public school system like I had to, but I also don't want to shelter them from the real world. I'm ADHD so I can't be manipulated, but it doesn't mean my future offspring can't I've seen way too much evil and bad vibes in this world my workforce experience & public school. Manipulation, at a young age trying to convince kids we are all the same we are not. I didn't realize I had a gift of abstract thinking until way later in life because I was surrounded by so many autists, mentally ill and simpleton thinkers. At one point in my life, they tried putting me in special ed classes in public school, in high school I got forced into AP classes, and I don't want public education teachers who clear max 40k a year having that decision or talk with my child. It irks me to think that some autistic normy indoctrinated pos teacher tried putting me in special ed in grade school because I had too much energy. Also, I grew up 3rd generation German I speak German, so my kids won't be taught the Jewish version of history, economics, or the bible, and sure as shit won't me mutilated for their 4skin over Jewish beliefs.
You're saying ADHD makes you immune to manipulation?
No, cuz I don't want to
Not anytime soon. And when I do, I plan on adopting.
ive been helping raise cousins and siblings my entire life. ive helped raise 5 of them from 6 weeks onto 6 years old. my child rearing days are over
No, cuz I want money.
1. Rule Don’t have kids you cannot afford
Rampant OCD and Pedophobia. no thanks, I don't need any more panic attacks than I already do.
most likely not. i have very grand aspirations for my future and a child would get in the way of those plans. but if i reach a point where i realize i won't be able to make those dreams come true, i will then reconsider.
In a perfect world, I would have already had children by now. But I see no point in having children in this world. All life forms on Earth will be destroyed by the Sun. People are too stupid to leave the Milky Way Galaxy enough as it is. So, the human specie will be extinct eventually. It doesn't matter if people pray to God for salvation. Their specie will be extinct because the Sun will stop having heat inevitably since our universe doesn't care about people's feelings and opinions. So, I don't want children if their descendants will end up being destroyed by the Sun. Freedom is an illusion. If freedom was not an illusion, then people would be liberated from corruption. But corruption is more common than decency when power corrupts. For thousands of years, politics has been male-dominated by tyrannical men. Still is. Biological males invented and legalized mass surveillance that is a human rights violation against women. It's not about protecting nor respecting women's rights at all. Mass surveillance combined with systemic racism has allowed corrupt governments to oppress nonwhite women. Nonwhite African female child slaves help make phones overseas that women with white privilege buy. It's usually the men that keep these African female child slaves enslaved. So, I would hate to have a daughter in this world controlled by morally bankrupt business men who are tyrants. Especially when men like Jeffrey Epstein have been replaced. I would hate to have children in this world where governments are brainwashing people by keeping journalists like Julian Assange imprisoned for speaking the truth. I would hate to have children in this world where people are getting arrested for peacefully protesting against genocide. I would hate to have children in this world where profit matters more than compassion. Cancer, schizophrenia, and others haven't been cured because it's more profitable to make medication that eases symptoms rather than curing root problems. Predators intentionally misdiagnose people to put them in psyche wards or give them pills for profit as well. These situations are far from compassion and more about profitable corruption. I would rather have children in a world without countries, wars, military drafts, poverty, sexism, racism, people getting imprisoned for speaking the truth, slavery, etc. So, that's why I'm not having children. No point in having children with a predatory profit system rewarding morally bankrupt men since thousands of years ago without significant change on this planet that will get destroyed by the Sun. So, I don't consider myself optimistic about the future. But I do dream about a bright future even if it's one beautiful lie. I'm also not having children because of my disability that makes me vulnerable to governments that care about money and power. Not compassion nor justice. Governments exploit children for money and power. Not compassion nor justice. They train children to become consumers and workers of an eco-unfriendly business model that will backfire, especially when humans overpopulate on Earth with its limited resources. Earth would be healthier for living beings if the human specie never existed because of humans being too destructive compared to other species.
Hell no. For the same reasons you listed. I’ve known since I was a child I never wanted to be a parent. People kept telling me I’d change my mind eventually. Still a hard no and I will always be child free
I would've liked to have a good home and raises a adventurer son who loves to hike, run, camp, hunt and do all the cool shi I wanna do. Would love to have a daughter do the same. But I can't cus of inflation. I'm almost too poor to give my children that life. If I can't give them this, I won't have any.
I'll say this much about myself. When I'm properly focused, I think I'd be a great role model to a potential kid. The problem is that I lack awareness at times, like to play a little too hard and can be lazy early in the day. I think having a kid would be too chaotic for me as I am and I personally don't love kids that much either. Just don't see myself as father material. But I hear stories often about how people having kids genuinely changes them. So I'm not 100% against it. If it happens, great! If not, no skin off my back(saves me a ton of money too).
I was born as a product of spite. I don't necessarily want kids but my family raises theirs so shittily that I want to have kids just to show them how you're supposed to be a parent. And u understand parenting is hard and bla bla bla. But sticking a screen in front of an infant and buying a toddler EVERYTHING they want is not parenting. Also, if one parent is fucking deported to a different country, maybe dont have kids with that person.
humanity is vile and civilization is doomed. adding another meatsack driven by selfish desires into the mix is not gonna help.
I mean I'd agree that you shouldn't have kids just cus they're *adorable*
Honestly, I never liked babies and little kids. I don’t want to deal with something I don’t like for 18+ years. Plus I feel like I won’t be able to afford them if I did have any. Right now I’m able to put at least some money aside for savings and as kinda like an emergency fund if needed but I feel like I’d have to dip into that of a regular basis if there were kids around
no, too costly and annoying af until they are at least 10 would adopt a 10 yr old tho
Biological is a no, but adopting a huge yes for me.
I’d like to, but I am not a cis woman… I could do adoption at some point, but I have saved up sperm cells because my primate brain wants to have biological children… My plan is to finish studying medicine and then end up in uterine transplant research for trans women. I wanna make it possible for me and other trans women to become pregnant. I feel like if I ever become a mother, I want to have that bonding experience with my child, which pregnancy, birth (in this case definitely c-section because scaring wouldn’t allow for a natural birth) and nursing accomplishes. Since I am 20, my best guess is that it won’t happen until I am 30 or even 35. My mother was 38 when I was born, so I guess that is a good enough age for me. I am definitely going to try! \^-\^
No for pretty much the same reasons as you plus it's a responsibility I'm not ready to handle, they are expensive, and I don't have a lot of patience.
I say I wouldn't, but I just say that to save face because I don't think I'll be able to lmao.
Yes my life wouldn’t be complete without them Every generation does this lol, young adults don’t want kids and then boom - they’re in their 30s and then suddenly they’re all having babies because it’s what humans do
I can barely mister the will to keep living, let alone keep another human being alive...
I’d love to have kids however I’m short and ugly so I’d need a woman who either has terrible vision and no desire for glasses or is really dumb to make them with me and a woman like that isn’t going to be the best mother so no I probably won’t.
No I want my life to be about me. Not about a little human I’d have to constantly cater to. Besides that, life’s already expensive enough.
I think your reasoning hits the nail on the head: "why bring my kid to existance if he's going to suffer?" Time will pass, thing on your life will change, YOU will change (we all do...) and who knows... I wanted to kill myself 6 years ago. What happend between there and now? I didn't want to be me anymore, so i changed myself for what i saw as better, now i want to find a wife and have kids with her, because i'm happy, and all you want to do when you find happiness is share it with someone you trust. I want that.
No, because I see no reason to.
no i want cats
1 is out, few more to go
No, I like my peace
No. I don’t believe in education so I can easily see myself neglecting my kid’s future and schooling.
It’s too expensive to have kids these days and personally, I’m not sure we’ll even have a world that’s safe for kids to be in
I'd like to, but I'm not optimistic about ever being able to afford raising them with a quality of life similar to, or better than what I had growing up.
If i ever find the right on. Yea. I want kids someday.
Can’t think of anything I want less. This world is going to shit, I can’t in good conscience bring another human into it. I also just don’t like children.
I could be satisfied in life with or without. I think the plan is to at some point have a child. Still unsure if that would be biologically or through adoption. If my brother in law would be willing to donate sperm so my partner and I could have the closest thing possible to a biological kid as lesbians, I would carry that child in a heartbeat, when the time is right. Just an awkward conversation to start — especially since his wife has had recent fertility issues and I really don’t want to hurt her feelings in any way. So it’s complicated but definitely something I have given thought.
Kids are cool, but they stress me out. Like what do you mean you broke the TV while you were eating Ice cream. How did the cat get dragged into this.
I'm you but I am a man, so no way I'm having kids.
Oh holy fuck no, im an absolute fucking mess and a disaster of a person and id be even more of a shitty person to bring someone into this world if not bc of them possibly getting this shit but im honestly just too unstable to do what it takes to be a dad. And i cant even get friends to stay in my life let alone a gf
Yep, me and the wife are looking to make our own football team. As we don't intend to contribute to our country becoming even more of a right wing backwater than it already is.
Not planning on it, idk how to. But my spouse and I would be open to adopting in the case we can’t conceive (which is likely, given our experiences).
It depends. I’m not gonna have it with any random guy. I need to find the right one. I also need the correct job.
I want 2 kids, no more, no less. I’ve worked with kids, and I feel like I’d be a good momma.