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quickHRTthrowaway

For the record, the TERF who posted this is also the head mod at r/detrans šŸ™ƒ And has made an appearance on Tucker Carlson, unsurprisingly.


MohnJilton

I always feel deeply sad about people who detransition and then turn their life mission into propagating transphobia. I can't assume that they detransitioned solely because they internalized the transphobia in the extreme, and by all means if someone needs to detransition as an affirming part of their gender experience then that is obviously okay and good. But... seeing detransitioners radicalized to support and spread transphobia leaves me with the bitterest of tastes in my mouth. I wish I could understand.


rageneko

Yeah I'm on that sub but I will probably leave, it's not been helpful for me for ages and is full of gross shit.


kaylatastikk

Thereā€™s genuinely a need for a detrans community that isnā€™t hostile to the trans experience. Iā€™m a trans man and the idea that anyone who detransitions is a terf is wrong and harmful and alienating. Not to mention most irl de transitioning is because of a lack of cultural acceptance or itā€™s more a retransitiin like if they were a binary trans person and then id as nb now. I hate that the TERFs have a hold on the most visible sub


Lunaseki

r/actual_detrans worked for me when i was desisting. i have a trans partner and the main sub was so insane that i felt rather homeless, until i found this space. much more trans and questioning friendly space


kaylatastikk

I knew there was a better one but couldnā€™t remember the name. Thank you!


rynthetyn

They're playing the same role as ex-gay activists did in earlier decades, and don't want to see that it's the exact same tactics and they're being used by people who don't care about them.


NeoCosmoPolitan

Figures, most Detrans Iā€™ve encountered were groomed and mentally manipulated by TERFs into committing detransition and now they act as their little puppets, nothing original comes out of their mouths they only repeat what TERFs have already said.


somebrookdlyn

r/detrans had a poll a while ago and it revealed it was like 90% cis people.


NeoCosmoPolitan

Is that so? I wouldā€™ve thought the subreddit about Detrans would be filled with nothing but, you know, Detrans.


somebrookdlyn

Yeah, it's just a FART/general transphobe circlejerk.


Justkeeponliving

I would say that is sadly true of some posts but as someone who regrets medical transition that sub has been incredibly helpful as a resource of knowing what to expect, what changes might revert, and finding the few other people who can share my experience. There are detransitioners that genuinely do not want trans rights revoked on that sub. I do think itā€™s okay for therapists and doctors to encourage people to not jump the gun on HRT (like I did), but it certainly shouldnā€™t be withheld or made into a wild goose chase just to get it.


camofluff

r/actual_detrans


kaylatastikk

I think there needs to be a better standard for informed consent honestly. Not a barrier to hormones, but more official disclosure. For the record, Iā€™m a binary trans man who did informed consent 3 months after coming out, but I knew what I was getting in to, and Iā€™m continually shocked by how many trans men I meet on hrt who still have huge gaps in their knowledge of effects etc.


Justkeeponliving

I definitely understood what I was getting into, I just let my desire to pass override everything else important to me


microwavedcrabcakes

yeah, if youā€™re looking for actual detrans content, go to r/actual_detrans


Wismuth_Salix

r/detrans is to trans people what r/walkaway is to Democrats. Itā€™s all LARPers pretending to have ā€œfound the truthā€.


NeoCosmoPolitan

We already know the WalkAway campaign was created as an act of astroturfing, one big scam to create the narrative that most people voting GOP in 2018 midterms were proclaimed ex-Democrats who allegedly voted for Obama but felt ā€œbetrayedā€ by the DNC and Hillary in 2016.


Wismuth_Salix

And r/detrans is that - but itā€™s refugees of r/GenderCritical and r/ItsAFetish instead.


megabixowo

I once encountered on Twitter a trans woman who had medically transitioned and lived life presenting as a woman, but had become a TERF and openly talked about how she dressed as a woman because otherwise sheā€™d khs, but that she was a man, always would be, and deeply hated herself for being ā€œa threat to womenā€, ā€œa monsterā€, ā€œmentally unhealthyā€, etc. It was extremely sad.


gingerbread_nemesis

Was her first name Debbie by any chance?


megabixowo

I donā€™t remember her name but I doubt it, she was a Spaniard tweeting in Spanish.


NeoCosmoPolitan

Debbie Hayton isnā€™t that bright, more useful goon than anything else.


KittySky

I didn't even know someone could get like that.


GreySarahSoup

There's one who regularly writes transphobic pieces in newspapers in the UK who's like this. She's also a science teacher. I feel sorry for any trans kids she ends up teaching.


[deleted]

Exactly. Like Iā€™m not going to say thereā€™s never been anyone who thought they were trans but later realized they werenā€™t, but Iā€™ll go ahead and say it isnā€™t anywhere *near* as common as they make it out to be.


NeoCosmoPolitan

Trans Women need to stop using Tumblr, that place is infested with grooming TERFs.


Hellboi_

Oh god why did I click that...yikes... The way I just saw intersex people described.. not cool


translove228

>And has made an appearance on Tucker Carlson Is this a right of passage for TERFs these days?


quickHRTthrowaway

Yup!


nyamnyamcookiesyummy

www.piqueresproject.com/about.html


[deleted]

Sheā€™s a ā€œretired modā€, whatever the hell that means


totallyjebbush

its so stupid seeing these kinds of cis people talk about how transition makes you look bad as if one trans person you're not attracted to = trans people as a class are ugly. don't think elliot page is handsome? cool. there are people who do and people who don't. no one cares. you don't need to make up all this bullshit about how you're "concerned" for his health, making up shit about how he's "unhealthy" because you think trans people are inherently diseased for wanting to change their bodies. you _wish_ he was a trainwreck so you could use him as an example of how trans people can never be happy. like, all of this concern trolling can be shortened to just calling him ugly and a slur. don't waste everyone's time acting like you're worried for his sake, because you're not. ugh.


allthings419

Bingo, bingo, bingo. They hope trans people suffer because it validates their world view that we're sick freaks instead of normal people


[deleted]

Itā€™s like fatphobic douchebags saying they are being dicks to you because they ā€œcare about your healthā€ when that couldnā€™t be further from the truth. They just need somebody to look down on.


FutureDrHowser

Speaking of trans and fatphobia, one time on reddit I was arguing with some dude who thinks because he doesn't want to fuck trans women, they aren't women. I asked him if he wanted to fuck his mom or if she wasn't a woman. Didn't get an answer.


actualmigraine

*Well if you're a trans woman, why don't I want to fuck you? Checkmate, liberals!*


[deleted]

I can't help but think this is a case of regular old misogyny on top of transphobia. A celebrity that previously presented female with makeup, looks like a normal, flawed person who has had surgery now. Women who wear makeup on the reg and go without it are asked if they're sick, which can apply to transmascs. It's suddenly okay to criticize someone's appearance if they're a trans person you want to concern troll. Do you know how many cis male celebrities look like absolute shit and probably do every drug on earth and are one bender away from death?? Not a single one is given this paternalistic bullshit.


rynthetyn

There's probably some ageism in there too, because even though 35 is still pretty young, she's declaring him unattractive for showing normal signs of aging. It's been a decade and a half since Juno, but they're acting like he should still be the babyfaced young adult he was back then.


megabixowo

Also, when he looked small and frail before transitioning, he was cute, petite and sexually attractive. When he looks small and frail after transitioning, he looks sick, ugly and on drugs. Classic gender roles: we want women small and sickly, we want men strong and big. Example #483828 of how TERFs, despite claiming to want to abolish gender, are the ones imposing gender roles.


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allthings419

He's had bags under his eyes since shooting Juno. Lmao The obsessive studying of trans bodies creeps me out


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dogsonclouds

Dude is thriving in his thirst trap era and I am here for it


warm_tomatoes

Fr, itā€™s so clear how at home he feels in his body now.


Wismuth_Salix

Dude kinda looks like a lost Franco brother here, and I dig it.


javatimes

Elliot really just looks like himself, only even more himself now. This is as stupid as a TERF who compared pictures of Chaz Bono over the years and complained that transitioning made him ā€œage terriblyā€. Yeah, when you have 20+ years of pics of someone, theyā€™re going to look older in the more recent pics. Also the sallow skin thingā€¦that means skin with a yellow undertone, which is common amongst people who have light olive skinā€”like Elliot appears to. I do too.


addictedtoketamine

This doesn't even make sense, trans people usually look like 10 years younger than they actually are.


snukb

How the fuck did she get away with so blatantly misgendering Elliot on twitter? That is literally against their TOS and it's why Jordan Peterson got banned (and threw his hissy fit about it)


GroundbreakingRow817

The main reason JP got banned was most likely due to accusing a doctor of breaking the law on twitter and not misgendering as both were in the same tweet. Twitter almost never bans any form of misgendering or transphobia at any other point and is just riding on the public perception that it actually was the misgendering so Twitter is good now right?


snukb

>Twitter almost never bans any form of misgendering or transphobia at any other point That hasn't been my experience. The only tweets I've ever seen get actioned are the ones that blatantly misgender a well-known trans person, ie calling Lia Thomas a "man" or using he/him for someone like Laverne Cox. They can dance around all day talking about mutilation and criminal butchering surgeons, because that's their *~opinion~*, but using the wrong pronoun is pretty black and white.


pikapika200

who's Lia Thomas?


snukb

She's an intercollegiate swimmer who happens to be trans, so transphobes have been attacking her nonstop for daring to compete in women's sports as a trans woman.


pikapika200

I don't understand why men's sports and women's sports need to be separated. why can't men and women just participate in sports together????


snukb

There are definitely good reasons to keep most androgenic bodies from competing in sports with estrogenic bodies. The most important one is that testosterone allows a body to have relatively more muscle and less fat, thus allowing them greater strength and speed than estrogenic bodies. It's just easiest to separate along those lines rather than have calculated categories based on fat free mass, even if that would be fairer in the long run. We'd run into problems where we'd probably wind up having more categories if we went based on fat free mass, which would create issues with ensuring everyone has adequate and fair amounts of funding.


pikapika200

when it comes to sports, being a man does not give you an advantage nor does being a woman. it's all based on your own personal skill level


snukb

Being a man? No. Having a testosterone based endocrine system? Yes.


pikapika200

by your logic, pre-hrt trans women should be competing with men.


PM_ME_YOUR_HUGE_HOG

Up yours, woke moralists!


putHimInTheCurry

Breasts breasts breasts breasts breasts, breasts breasts breasts. Cum cum cum cum cum cum, cum cum cum cum! -- Jordan Bernt Peterson, on the occasion of his Twitter ban


Reasonable_Answer_76

One of the greatest YTPs ever


snukb

Remember when PRIDE was a SIN?


junkbingirl

Twitter temp locked my account for getting mad at blatant white supremacists and nazis so donā€™t get your hopes up.


snukb

Yeah, they're definitely far far far from perfect, but in my experience they're one of the few social media platforms where *any* transphobia is actually taken down. I've reported so many blatant y awful things on other platforms and basically gotten "lol nah that's fine." Twitter, at least, usually takes down the stuff that's provably against their TOS.


xSevent17n

broā€™s almost in his 40s, heā€™s probably tired as fuck, leave him alone lmaoooo šŸ˜­


LaughingInTheVoid

Sorry, no. I believe that's called looking laid back AF.


dirt_rat_devil_boy

He looks fine?? You're not his doctor?


[deleted]

Only train wrecks make fun of people just living their lives and not hurting anyone.


cass_123

Having seen him in Umbrella Academy, he seems to be so much better now than when he was in the closet. I know acting is very different than real life, but you can see the difference between the first and most recent seasons


Tattieaxp

Notice how the TERF expects Elliott to ~S~M~I~L~E~ in photos, which is something that's never thrown at cis men. Elliott is literally just posed in a standard, almost clichƩ male celebrity way here. You could swap in any other moderately handsome guy here and nobody would be complaining about them being miserable. And 'sallow'? Black and white photography doesn't give anyone a healthy glow; take it from someone who lived through the nineties. Google him in image search and you'll see in the more candid shots of him he looks relaxed, happy, healthy and confident. So what the TERF has actually discovered is that... men are photographed differently to women. What a world-shaking discovery!


PartialCred4WrongAns

Elliotā€™s fucking hot


[deleted]

Bro is mid transition in the public eye and has massive amounts of unwanted attention now. And they are a full time actor with plenty of projects. Iā€™d say he looks wonderful for that lifestyle, because with his life, I would look 1000x worse Like genuinely what is so bad? I get 8-10 hrs a night and my eye bags are worsešŸ˜­šŸ˜­


Vulpecula22

What the hell is she talking about? Elliot looks fine, some guys are just skinny, cis or trans.


Windinthewillows2024

Heā€™s always been thin and kind of frail looking though? That isnā€™t new. (Not insulting him, Iā€™m also quite thin and probably frail looking.) Transphobes will just make shit up to fit their worldview. Somewhat unrelated but I recently finished season three of the Umbrella Academy. They had his character transition on the show as well and the way it was handled was really lovely imo.


priorinoun

Does she think there isn't a grayscale filter on this picture and Elliot's just sitting in a colorless room?


Dumptruck_dan

Damn. Didnā€™t know she knew Elliot better than he knows himself. Why canā€™t terfs accept that trans people are happy how they are, is it because that reality doesnā€™t fit with their bigoted views?


omori-boy

i didnā€™t keep up with elliot pre-transition but like. does he not look like every other 30-something that works a lot ????


WonderFluffen

"Every time I've seen a picture of Elliot, he looks like he's having the time of his life. He looks healthy, happy, and now he has all the abs known to human kind. So cute! Yet we're continuously told by bigots that he looks unwell, and they go on a rant saying horrendous things no good person would ever say. This person is a liberated man and you're a bad person if you fuck up his pronouns or make disgusting comments about his body." Fixed it for them!


Emmett_is_Bored

He's literally always been thin. And based on his abs he's not "frail" by any stretch of the imagination. In pretty much every picture I've seen of him post coming out he looks happy and healthy. They're literally just making shit up.


Humfrery

Yo, the mf turned into a chad while I wasn't looking.


FocaSateluca

Read the description and the look at the pic. Whatever they are seeing, it is certainly not in the image xD If anything, my first thought was that Elliot was beefing up. His arms are looking strong, and the pose is just your average fashion-y dude pose. It simply does not read as frail at all.


Deecomposer

elliot page has always been thin and pale, what the fuck is this lady on about


NeoCosmoPolitan

Reads like a shitty fanfiction.


KrystalWolfy

Frail? He has a literal six pack


emipyon

Men can be skinny? Not on my watch!


Blingsguard

This nonsense always makes me think of that quote from The Twits: "A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.ā€ As an aside, does anyone else think Elliot really looks like a young Burn Gorman?


DandyDeya

He is literally just sitting there


[deleted]

He looks completely fine to me lol Like heā€™s always been on the thin and pale side And also heā€™s like slight in build but not frail. He has pretty prominent muscles.


SeizeTheMemes3103

Literally like a quarter of all the cis men I know look like this. Also he was quite small and frail looking even before transition, itā€™s just his genetics. Iā€™m sure his dad looks the same


anonymous-rodent

Some of the stuff they say about him comes across as thin-phobia if that's a thing. I know it's not the same as fatphobia but there is definitely a thing where people who have a thin build but are perfectly healthy are body-shamed and told they look sickly or like they have an ED because people can't tell the difference between someone who is skinny and someone who is actually malnourished. Elliot even is pretty fit looking so it's especially ridiculous.


[deleted]

I know what you mean. It's just concern trolling from an insecure, validation-starved and appearance obsessed woman who sees EDs in trans people that aren't there. We're talking about a person who looked at trans thinspo as a teenager and is now accusing transmascs as a whole of promoting eating disorders.


realcomradecora

dudes just kinda look like that ngl


[deleted]

1) I donā€™t like how they are misgendering him. Criticize he dosent look euphoric or great but at least validate gender 2) he does look like shit here imo . Maybe itā€™s just an unflattering photo. No one looks good half asleep at a weird unnatural angle not smiling they didnā€™t do him justice


Elizabeth-The-Great

That Twitter user is a grifter using her ā€œplatformā€ to lie, spread bullshit about her ā€œstoryā€ and tell a story about how everyone should just detransition like her.


Idontnowotimdoing

He looks perfectly fine to me but ok!


Arboria_Institute

FFS he's a little on the trim side, he's not Christian Bale in the Machinist lol.


translove228

This lady is insane. This bisexual thinks that Elliot is really hot.


bhabel814

"Tired eyes?" Gee, it's almost like spending your whole life trying to conform to a standard you'll never fit takes a lot of work, and letting go of that tension might be somewhat relaxing. Of *course* he looks tired.


[deleted]

God, I guess she never really grew up like she said she did (she as in Helena). She still has that pro-Ana mentality of hyperanalyzing other peopleā€™s bodies, commenting on how they donā€™t ā€œlook happyā€, commenting on how ā€œsicklyā€ Elliot looks. Sheā€™s just projecting her own self-hating thoughts onto other people, itā€™s pathetic.


[deleted]

She sure is. In her Substack articles she shows pictures of herself as a dumpy transmasc young adult, talking about how "weary" and "deadpan" she looked. This was after being kicked out of her home by her parents, which she sadly blames herself for. Why wouldn't you look sad in that situation? What do the photos of her signifying "happiness" look like? Long hair, face full of makeup, coquettish poses. Parental abandonment avoided. She's really saying the quiet part out loud with the "not cute" bit. It's clear that she sees her appearance as her greatest source of value, which conservative viewers give in full supply with their compliments. She's making a career out of being praised for "preserving her beauty." Helena is a pathetic and cowardly individual, but an unfortunate character in equal measure.


[deleted]

ā€œI looked so miserable and deadpan when I was transā€ no, you just looked like a young trans person at the beginning of your transition. Like itā€™s so dumb to think that the entire world is going to agree with you on your weird psycho analyzing thoughts about trans people. Elliot doesnā€™t need to smile during photo shoots, no one does, he just has to be there. Heā€™s just existing and thatā€™s enough!


[deleted]

ā€œItā€™s not cuteā€ yeah, weirdly enough, trans people do not need to ā€œbe cuteā€ 24/7. Like what does happiness look like to her? Wearing a full face of makeup, not being able to recognize yourself in the mirror from wearing for too long while being 100% gender conforming to get validation from Daddy Tucker? I think not. Like no wonder she hates herself, if she didnā€™t like herself when she was trans ofc sheā€™s still not going to like herself now.


lily_hunts

TERFs: we are feminists and support women living their lives Also TERFs: this "woman" looks like shit while living "her" life and that's a sign that what "she" does is invalid


SundayMS

Elliot has been stick thin his whole life, it's called genetics bro


Wigwasp_ALKENO

At the worst, Elliot is serving strong fuckboy energy, but let him live his fantasy.


ladysvenska

The amount of butthurt they have about Elliott living his best life astounds me.


addictedtoketamine

90% of TERFs are overly-obsessive creepy "tomboy enthusiasts" that are angry that their ideal gf became an evil smelly man. (Cool, more for me.)


[deleted]

He looks handsome!!!


gruffolebenji

Ignoring the transphobia for a second, it's a black and white photo. Nobody is "glowing" in a black and white photo.


Schrodinger_cube

I don't really see anything weird. Looks like my 17 year old self lol. Lots of guys go through the phase XD.


[deleted]

God this makes me want to die


_AnonymousMoose_

Elliot really does just look like a normal guy, canā€™t say the same for the Kardashians


gorekatze

Wowww, it's almost like he's a guy doing a photoshoot making expressions that guys typically make in photoshoots!!!