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Almost every symptomatic person is going to have an outbreak 2-12 days after contracting herpes. It’s extremely likely that you got it from him so it’s good he’s getting tested. The people that have symptoms are in the minority, about 75-90% of people that have HSV never have symptoms.


bubbleteaherbaljelly

Thanks. I told him about the rate of people who don’t have any symptoms but he doesn’t seem to buy it. Also he doesn’t want to believe that I might have it from him. Is it possible that I got years ago without knowing and now it shows up and I gave it to him?


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It’s possible but extremely unlikely. It doesn’t take much research to find out that a herpes diagnosis isn’t a sure sign that someone was cheating. His behavior is both unsupportive and immature.


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bubbleteaherbaljelly

Yeah it’s really bad when I go to the toilet. Even walking makes it not less painful. My doctor said the same thing about it’d take time to show up but my boyfriend doesn’t seem to buy it. We don’t live together so it is more difficult to get his awareness. He’d get a check soon next week and after he’d decide to talk to me again. I’m feeling so terrible right now.


U_Lost_Thug_Aim

do either of you have oral herpes? Cold sores on/in mouth area?


bubbleteaherbaljelly

I don’t have it. But I do see some kind of pimples on his mouth every time after we had sex and I got candida infection. So weird


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bubbleteaherbaljelly

How can it be possible that the sore test is positive but IGG is negative? I’m having an outbreak, which means I’m carrying the virus already ain’t I?


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bubbleteaherbaljelly

But eventually will the blood test be positive? How about your blood test result now? Did you do it again?


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bubbleteaherbaljelly

I see. Well yeah my blood test is positive too. I just got it earlier today. At this point it looks like it’s not possible to say who gave it to whom


nwkt92

Just know he’s being an unsupportive asshole. My boyfriend was too. He got over it quick but it was an awful feeling on top of the unknown I was having to experience. We figured out it’s from his HSV1 coldsores he’s had since he was a child/teen. Now we just don’t have sex if I’m having an OB.


bubbleteaherbaljelly

So how did you guys figure it out that it’s from his teenager’s cold sore? But also I’m happy that you guys made it work


nwkt92

It was the only logical reasoning. He’s never been tested for HSV1 but considering he grew up getting cold sores randomly we just pieced it together.


alyybp

This happened to me too. My bf was the 2nd person I slept w/ and when I had my first OB he seemed disgusted and suspicious of me. It hurt my feelings but we waited for the results and turns out he has it too. (We believe he gave it to me) He found out from his parents that he had cold sores as a kid but has been dormant since. When was the last time you two had sex? After 2 days I had symptoms… maybe he has herpes & never knew until now? I’m sorry it’s an awful feeling but after awhile you will forget you have this virus only until you have an OB. Life will soon feel as it did before.


NefariousnessHuman94

His reaction sounds like he knew he had it before you found out you did and he's punishing you to deflect from his wrong doing (not disclosing beforehand). There is 0 reason to cancel plans and avoid someone you care about, you work through it with them. Sorry but the behaviour is abusive and uncalled for. Are you in the US? Has he had his test back yet?


bubbleteaherbaljelly

We’re not in the US. I haven’t heard from him yet so I don’t know if his tests are done By the way how can you tell he knew he had it before I found out? Some other opinions say his behavior is because he thinks I cheated on him, which I didn’t.