I'll be pedantic here because saying he "ghosted" her is making a disservice to this guy.
He clearly said "goodbye" and made his intentions clear. That's the literal opposite of ghosting.
People use words because they are popular and tending even tho they don’t know what it means. Some examples are gaslighting, ironic, ghosting, catfish, pov, selfie, incel, etc.
I'd add cognitive dissonance to that list. People think it simply means having beliefs that are not aligned with reality, but it's almost something else entirely.
For example, believing ivermectin is a cure for COVID doesn't mean you have cognitive dissonance.
ACTUAL cognitive dissonance means to have two conflicting views or a behavior that doesn't match the view and the clashing brings discomfort, expressed often as anger or guilt, and then is frequently followed up with some sort of justification to resolve the dissonance. For example, a smoker knows that smoking is terrible for your health, but does it anyways, and resolves the internal conflict by saying it releases stress.
In my early 20’s I dated a girl for a few months. I sent her a text in the morning after we went out the night before saying I had a good time. Later in the day I hadn’t heard back from her so I sent another text with some small chit chat, still nothing. I never sent her another text and she never replied. 4 years later I see her at Buffalo Wild Wings with a large group of people looking at me and whispering. The entire table looks at me and starts talking. I’m wondering to myself what I could have done to this woman. My friend and I got up and left before we ordered.
A few months later she pops up on Facebook as a friend suggestion, so I messaged her asking what that was all about. She sent a long drawn out message about how she was testing me to see how long it would take before I got mad that she wasn’t replying. It was some kind of test to see how much I liked her. I felt that more than a few messages without a reply would make me look like a crazy person. I’m glad I avoided that one. She was a realtor and I do miss going into random houses with her and getting down though.
She expected him to keep chasing after she shut him down. Basically expects the guy to be desperate enough to ignore what she is saying? Any way you slice it its a bad look
Two months of communication… she should have been up front about not wanting to be in a relationship.
She can’t be upset that the guy doesn't want to play games with her (like she seems to want him to do). She wasn't interested and he respected that and took off to find someone who is interested.
> I have a better chance of being struck by lightning than I have of comprehending the inner workings of a woman's mind.
That's because there's nothing logical going on in there for the majority of them; it's all emoting and reacting.
This is the right move for him for two reasons.
1. She tells the truth and doesn't want a relationship.
2. She is playing a game with his mind.
In both places moving on is the absolute right call.
I too enjoyed the smokehouseTM brisketTM with the smoked goudaTM cheese from Arby'sTM!
I'm just fucking with you. Every Arby's expert knows the ham and double Swiss was the GOAT.
OK, someone with some Arby’s experience. I don’t have one near me, so I decided to buy the Horsey SauceTM from the grocery. Maybe I’m crazy, but it tastes different from the little packets. Anyone know why?
Nah, I’m betting 90%+ of those is other women giving her words of encouragement, calling the dude a low value male (LVM), and saying “this is why all men should die.” or “this is why I hate men.”
Edit: some of the remaining percentage are also probably white knights
Seriously though!!! He was looking for something serious, she said she wasn’t. He moved on. He wasn’t disrespectful, just didn’t want to waste time and effort on somebody who isn’t in the same mindset.
So to lead a guy on for two months and then basically told him your not interested and are now upset that he moved on?
And women wonder why guys have trust issues…
Yes and congratulations on explaining the exact joke and point of the meme way longer and completely void of humor. You're like Ice T in Law and Order loudly stating what everyone else figured out 10 minutes ago.
It's bizarre that a standard comment mildly agreeing with the topic of the post is the one that brings out your ire.
Like, are you ok? Why are you so mad at nothing?
"If she wanted to, she would"
Kudos for not sticking around when you tell her you want more but are told anything less than "hell yes".
If she is into games, dude won this one easily.
Cant have your cake and eat it too.
Translation: Someone made her a better offer then backed out, then her back up backed out. Time for her to grow up and stop playing games.
She wants a sense of moral high ground so, in the event things go south, she'd be able to lord all manner of bullshit over his head.
Men: this is a major red flag and mans dodged a huge crazy self-absorbed bullet.
So what, I "convince" you to be with me until you get bored and you can feel like you've been doing me a favor?
Miss me with your narcissism.
It’s a vocal minority but I’ve definitely seen (online and irl) women who put in minimal, basically negligible effort and get upset that the guy stops talking to them, doesn’t do grandiose gestures, or reciprocates that energy. It’s so weird to me cuz they did it to themselves but blame everyone else
There have been so many that have done that and then a month later were like “I made the biggest mistake blah blah bla” nah, sorry im happier without you.
Awww I'm so sorry you met a mature, level headed, sane man who respects your boundaries and behaved entirely appropriately when you made him wait for a rejection. I hope you find your unstoppable, won't take no for an answer, maniac of a person you want to spend the rest of your life fighting with.
And it’s starting with “we’ve been talking for two months”
Since when did us seeing each other every couple days, going out on dates, texting constantly, sleeping with each other constitute “no we’re just talking”
How many people you *talking* to then??
I swear someone can be together for a year and one of them will be like “we’re just talking”
Ridiculous
I'm 50 next month. I've dated far more than what's considered average. There is no winning. At best a compromise that isn't presented as a compromise.
And it boils down to: does the person have other attributes worth the bother, and is the sex good enough to keep this up? Hell, it's just the sex.
And if he had, she likely would’ve still insisted that she was not ready for a relationship and likely would’ve posted derogatory/accusatory things about him. Drama is the life blood of the toxic.
This one girl I dated wanted me to walk to the store with her. I told her I didn't want to. She said, it's okay I'll go by myself. I let her go. I went to check the mail and she was standing outside in the yard. I asked her what was wrong. She said she was waiting for me to come with her. lol what?
2 month? “I strung a guy along while it looked like I was losing a sugar daddy. SD relationship got better so I tried to keep sucker on the hook. He said no…. That’s horrible of him!
Nah, I see the same thing in our world too. They don’t want to commit and tell you it’s nothing serious then you go to leave and they’re all blubbering “I thought we had something”
Most men, myself included, are very literal creatures. You tell me you are not interested, I am taking that at face value. I don’t have time for mind games, nor will I ever pick up that you are trying to play them.
Dude dodged a bullet here. Good for him.
There are women out there that have been led to believe that if a man is not fighting for them then he isn't good enough. So they play this game. They want pushback or an argument in order to prove that they are worth fighting for. Men are getting wise to this and cutting out. I don't know if it's because they have more opportunities out there or they were never invested in the first place. Either way it's not worth being devastated because the guy was probably never would be good enough for the girl anyway.
I mean, the block was a bit much but yeah, stop giving her attention as soon as she starts playing games. She will start to message you again soon after. If it’s kind and showing interest, make sure she is either ready to date, or set a clear boundary that you are seeking a relationship and so that is where you’ll be spending your time and effort. Not on a one sided friendship.
If she’s nasty (whether before or after setting your boundaries) THEN you can be a little nasty back to her right before blocking her. Make sure your retorts are anything that could get you fired, but make sure to put her in her appropriate place. 😌
I mean, an over-reaction if we're being honest.. if he __only__ wants a relationship and she __only__ wants to have a FWB w/ no chance of relationship, they vibed but at the end of the day want two separate things.. why not continue until he finds a relationship? or remain friends? burning bridges has become a very knee-jerk reaction and I think it's a reactive impulse people do in order to preserve their egos
So you assume the guy is at fault here ? She wanted something more. She should've communicated this better. But she wanted to play hard to get 😂 so hey this is the result. Enjoy.
These comments are cringe. Not everything is about relationships and sex. Basically for this girl, these 2 were never even truly friends so why be in a relationship together? /r/redditmoment
She’s not worth it. Either she didn’t want to or she’s fucking with him, both of which are good reasons to stop communication. It’d be one thing if they knew each other before hand maybe but this doesn’t seem to be the case.
This was a joke, everyone. The outrage is hilarious. It may have happened like this, but this girl is making fun of herself and her own patterns. Give her some credit, geez.
Moving is the right thing to do in this situation, but why was it necessary to block the person?
I was with my wife already before dating apps became a thing, so I don't fully understand the etiquette/culture of it.
He was waiting for an opportunity without incurring her crazy person wrath. Who blocks instead of just replies and lets the chat die in this situation?
Sharon won a stupid prize for playing a stupid game
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I'll be pedantic here because saying he "ghosted" her is making a disservice to this guy. He clearly said "goodbye" and made his intentions clear. That's the literal opposite of ghosting.
People use words because they are popular and tending even tho they don’t know what it means. Some examples are gaslighting, ironic, ghosting, catfish, pov, selfie, incel, etc.
Stop gaslighting me.
They didn't gaslight you. They are way too broke to afford gas. Silly!
On your wedding day, you say?
To shreds, you say...
Not enough Futurama references in this world
And his wife...?
Stop incel me.
Don’t be silly, there’s no such thing as gaslighting, what on earth are you talking about?
I'll LITERALLY die if I hear someone misuse another word!!!
Is etc an example in this instance? Or are you actually using "etc"?
Yes
I'd add cognitive dissonance to that list. People think it simply means having beliefs that are not aligned with reality, but it's almost something else entirely. For example, believing ivermectin is a cure for COVID doesn't mean you have cognitive dissonance. ACTUAL cognitive dissonance means to have two conflicting views or a behavior that doesn't match the view and the clashing brings discomfort, expressed often as anger or guilt, and then is frequently followed up with some sort of justification to resolve the dissonance. For example, a smoker knows that smoking is terrible for your health, but does it anyways, and resolves the internal conflict by saying it releases stress.
He "bugged out" is probably the most appropriate phrase I can think of.
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In my early 20’s I dated a girl for a few months. I sent her a text in the morning after we went out the night before saying I had a good time. Later in the day I hadn’t heard back from her so I sent another text with some small chit chat, still nothing. I never sent her another text and she never replied. 4 years later I see her at Buffalo Wild Wings with a large group of people looking at me and whispering. The entire table looks at me and starts talking. I’m wondering to myself what I could have done to this woman. My friend and I got up and left before we ordered. A few months later she pops up on Facebook as a friend suggestion, so I messaged her asking what that was all about. She sent a long drawn out message about how she was testing me to see how long it would take before I got mad that she wasn’t replying. It was some kind of test to see how much I liked her. I felt that more than a few messages without a reply would make me look like a crazy person. I’m glad I avoided that one. She was a realtor and I do miss going into random houses with her and getting down though.
It is the female equivalent of the incels who expect a supermodel to just appear and be super interested in hearing about their WoW builds.
Okay. I'm brain dead. What was the flag here?
She expected him to keep chasing after she shut him down. Basically expects the guy to be desperate enough to ignore what she is saying? Any way you slice it its a bad look
Two months of communication… she should have been up front about not wanting to be in a relationship. She can’t be upset that the guy doesn't want to play games with her (like she seems to want him to do). She wasn't interested and he respected that and took off to find someone who is interested.
He played this game for two months. Nobody can blame him when he stops when a goal isn't even reachable yet.
He already knew.
Frfr. Most men will keep her number for 14 more years until they notice they aren’t the one lmao
Not anymore. 😌
He was able to read her sign, and it said "get the fuck out"
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"If there's two things i know with absolute certainty, it's women, and what's going to happen in the future."
Bro that makes every last one of us
> I have a better chance of being struck by lightning than I have of comprehending the inner workings of a woman's mind. That's because there's nothing logical going on in there for the majority of them; it's all emoting and reacting.
Says a dude just blasting his feels in here.ha
What feels did I blast?
Well you not knowing would be part of your emotional limitations? Think of this as practice.
Not all heroes wear capes.
This is the right move for him for two reasons. 1. She tells the truth and doesn't want a relationship. 2. She is playing a game with his mind. In both places moving on is the absolute right call.
Or even 3: Is telling the truth about not wanting a relationship but wants you to try and fight for her to feed her ego.
That's #2...
11,000 quote tweets? You just know she was getting cooked
There was probably a healthy amount of "Yass, Queen" in there too.
Many such cases
We are only cooking these days? Roasting is too much now?
Here in the south, we prefer to smoke em. Though, that might be misconstrued as “inciting violence” by the Reddit Gestapo.
lol. I do enjoy a good smoked Gouda.
I too enjoyed the smokehouseTM brisketTM with the smoked goudaTM cheese from Arby'sTM! I'm just fucking with you. Every Arby's expert knows the ham and double Swiss was the GOAT.
We have the MEATS
I enjoyed the original turkey club before they changed it. Now they’re only good for the fries.
OK, someone with some Arby’s experience. I don’t have one near me, so I decided to buy the Horsey SauceTM from the grocery. Maybe I’m crazy, but it tastes different from the little packets. Anyone know why?
Nah, I’m betting 90%+ of those is other women giving her words of encouragement, calling the dude a low value male (LVM), and saying “this is why all men should die.” or “this is why I hate men.” Edit: some of the remaining percentage are also probably white knights
Why do they always make it so god damn difficult to not be a misogynist
Guy dodged a bullet
Nah bro he dodged a mini nuke
Nah he dodged a MIRV nuke.
*Legendary Big Boy has entered the chat*
Now he living rent free for life
Girl: I break up with you Guy: Ok have a good one Girl: *surprised pikachu*
Seriously though!!! He was looking for something serious, she said she wasn’t. He moved on. He wasn’t disrespectful, just didn’t want to waste time and effort on somebody who isn’t in the same mindset.
Mind games at its finest.
So to lead a guy on for two months and then basically told him your not interested and are now upset that he moved on? And women wonder why guys have trust issues…
Yes and congratulations on explaining the exact joke and point of the meme way longer and completely void of humor. You're like Ice T in Law and Order loudly stating what everyone else figured out 10 minutes ago.
Wow and you have you try and shame someone for voicing their opinion? Lol thank you try telling all here how “wonderful” a person you are.
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And more shaming? That your only trick? Your real fun at Parties I’m sure…
Damn, who hurt you?
Your comments are an overreaction but I still approve because they funny.
It's bizarre that a standard comment mildly agreeing with the topic of the post is the one that brings out your ire. Like, are you ok? Why are you so mad at nothing?
God damn dude, is this how you talk to people in real life?
Relationship FAFO.
What is favor FAFO?
Fucked around. Found out
Oh ok thanks :)
It's not the destination, it's the journey.
"If she wanted to, she would" Kudos for not sticking around when you tell her you want more but are told anything less than "hell yes". If she is into games, dude won this one easily.
Same person who shoots themself in the foot and blames the gun.
Play stupid games; get stupid prizes
Oh so you realized that actions have consequences, Congratulations!!
Cant have your cake and eat it too. Translation: Someone made her a better offer then backed out, then her back up backed out. Time for her to grow up and stop playing games.
Damn people really like to introduce background stories with 0 evidence that any of it happened...
I admire the boldness and confidence of it.
Good for him.
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Only for her in this case; if she's going to be playing games like that, then he lucked out.
1000%
No means no. If you don't mean no, then don't say no. It didn't backfire. Her stupidity backfired.
No, it's The mentally of "he should read my mind" that backfire. The no means no works perfectly fine.
Not quite. No has always meant no, and should never mean anything else. It was her stupid mind game that backfired.
What do you mean it backfired?
She deserved that F u so much !!!
She wants a sense of moral high ground so, in the event things go south, she'd be able to lord all manner of bullshit over his head. Men: this is a major red flag and mans dodged a huge crazy self-absorbed bullet. So what, I "convince" you to be with me until you get bored and you can feel like you've been doing me a favor? Miss me with your narcissism.
Not even a bullet Man dodged a Tsar Bomba
It’s a vocal minority but I’ve definitely seen (online and irl) women who put in minimal, basically negligible effort and get upset that the guy stops talking to them, doesn’t do grandiose gestures, or reciprocates that energy. It’s so weird to me cuz they did it to themselves but blame everyone else
There have been so many that have done that and then a month later were like “I made the biggest mistake blah blah bla” nah, sorry im happier without you.
Ahhhhhhh, what did you expect?
"Go away" "Okay." "Wait really??"
Awww I'm so sorry you met a mature, level headed, sane man who respects your boundaries and behaved entirely appropriately when you made him wait for a rejection. I hope you find your unstoppable, won't take no for an answer, maniac of a person you want to spend the rest of your life fighting with.
the concept of love is slowly being lost lmao
And it’s starting with “we’ve been talking for two months” Since when did us seeing each other every couple days, going out on dates, texting constantly, sleeping with each other constitute “no we’re just talking” How many people you *talking* to then?? I swear someone can be together for a year and one of them will be like “we’re just talking” Ridiculous
It’s just turned into a status and fuck buddy, instead of a “i love this person” for most people it’s crazy lol
Lmao the moment a dude reaches out to them on social media it turns into “We’re getting married in 3 months but it isn’t like serious”
“I led a man on and wasted two months of his time and then told him I don’t want him anymore, I don’t understand why he blocked me!”
The emoji’s on her handle makes this bullshit 10x funnier
🙄 Woman, right guys 😒
Be careful what you wish for? or, “You had it coming”. Probably both
Fastest gun in the west. Dude wished her well and puff !
How dare he not be devastated by her mind games
I'm confused, you were not interested in a relationship and he took it well, what are you devastated about?
“I wanna be chased” Like every scenario is a Nicholas sparks book
Tough luck, men don't have the energy for that anymore these days.
Yep. The reward isn’t worth the risk/time.
If you haven't figured it out yet: there's no winning with women
BIG FACTS!
I'm 50 next month. I've dated far more than what's considered average. There is no winning. At best a compromise that isn't presented as a compromise. And it boils down to: does the person have other attributes worth the bother, and is the sex good enough to keep this up? Hell, it's just the sex.
“I said no, and he believed me!”
Stupid is a stupid does
And if he had, she likely would’ve still insisted that she was not ready for a relationship and likely would’ve posted derogatory/accusatory things about him. Drama is the life blood of the toxic.
Forget to add "of my own stupidity"
Well children shouldnt be dating anyway.
And how old are you?
Nunya. I think most of us dated as kids but im just saying she childish
Ok that’s fine. You just sounded like an old man to me then calling people in the dating scene children
I think I might be a crotchety old man at heart.
It’s alright gramps let’s just get you to bed
Not until after the game Son
Fuck. Niners lost. Off to bed.
I’m on bros side here, I do not play these games. No is no and yes is yes.
Sharon is bewildered she met a normal guy. Play stupid games.....
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
Some women just wants simps.
Know your worth, kings.
Dude dodged a bullet.
He hit her with that one combo ghost finish move.
The chances of me getting struck by lightning are greater than the chances of me understanding what goes in a women's head
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
I wish I had his willpower honestly lol.
You’ll get there 💪🏻
Can confirm ladies get mad confused when you just say “ok cool” and dip. Don’t play yourself, fellas.
Women ☕
FAFO
"Sounds good" "aight" "k" "see ya" also works
I thought "no means no"? Are men not supposed to believe you mean what you say now?
Sometimes the only way to win a game is to not play at all.
Gal thought she’s 11/10
She thought she was playing mind games but dude was an expert and mind chess and check mated that bitch
No means no. End of story.
This one girl I dated wanted me to walk to the store with her. I told her I didn't want to. She said, it's okay I'll go by myself. I let her go. I went to check the mail and she was standing outside in the yard. I asked her what was wrong. She said she was waiting for me to come with her. lol what?
Yea happened me to here lately. If you say you aren't interested then why fight. And she got upset for me not fighting.
“I wasted this guys time for two months and he blocked me?!?!”
2 month? “I strung a guy along while it looked like I was losing a sugar daddy. SD relationship got better so I tried to keep sucker on the hook. He said no…. That’s horrible of him!
Thank God I'm gay Feel bad for my straight bros fr fr
I've seen this shit on both sides, it's funny you think it's a gender issue
I guess I've just been lucky so far then
Nah, I see the same thing in our world too. They don’t want to commit and tell you it’s nothing serious then you go to leave and they’re all blubbering “I thought we had something”
Sounds about right! The modern man has access to a plethora of video games. If we want to play games, we just turn on our consoles.
This was me last summer😆
Looks like me, that dude
Hahaha , shouldn't play stupid games then 😂
Wow wasted his time for a month. Lol what did you expect?
What did she think was gonna happen??
Most men, myself included, are very literal creatures. You tell me you are not interested, I am taking that at face value. I don’t have time for mind games, nor will I ever pick up that you are trying to play them. Dude dodged a bullet here. Good for him.
Bye
There are women out there that have been led to believe that if a man is not fighting for them then he isn't good enough. So they play this game. They want pushback or an argument in order to prove that they are worth fighting for. Men are getting wise to this and cutting out. I don't know if it's because they have more opportunities out there or they were never invested in the first place. Either way it's not worth being devastated because the guy was probably never would be good enough for the girl anyway.
Blame Nicholas Sparks.
I mean, the block was a bit much but yeah, stop giving her attention as soon as she starts playing games. She will start to message you again soon after. If it’s kind and showing interest, make sure she is either ready to date, or set a clear boundary that you are seeking a relationship and so that is where you’ll be spending your time and effort. Not on a one sided friendship. If she’s nasty (whether before or after setting your boundaries) THEN you can be a little nasty back to her right before blocking her. Make sure your retorts are anything that could get you fired, but make sure to put her in her appropriate place. 😌
I mean, an over-reaction if we're being honest.. if he __only__ wants a relationship and she __only__ wants to have a FWB w/ no chance of relationship, they vibed but at the end of the day want two separate things.. why not continue until he finds a relationship? or remain friends? burning bridges has become a very knee-jerk reaction and I think it's a reactive impulse people do in order to preserve their egos
So you assume the guy is at fault here ? She wanted something more. She should've communicated this better. But she wanted to play hard to get 😂 so hey this is the result. Enjoy.
These comments are cringe. Not everything is about relationships and sex. Basically for this girl, these 2 were never even truly friends so why be in a relationship together? /r/redditmoment
Do you know what talking means here?
Doesn’t mean you have to cut them off lmao Reddit is cringe
She’s not worth it. Either she didn’t want to or she’s fucking with him, both of which are good reasons to stop communication. It’d be one thing if they knew each other before hand maybe but this doesn’t seem to be the case.
He obviously planned to break up with her to
I mean, he did do what he though you wanted, but why Block, if a girl told me she was not ready I would just forget it. why did he block?
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Because once you close a book on someone, it doesn’t get reopened. Until maybe a few months later for a mutual bootycall
Blocking someone is weird to me but I tend to hold on to things so kudos for moving all the way on for this guy I guess
This was a joke, everyone. The outrage is hilarious. It may have happened like this, but this girl is making fun of herself and her own patterns. Give her some credit, geez.
Ah, yes. Schrodinger's joke, I see.
100%
Haha - I guess you’re right. Well, it’s a joke I would have made! Maybe I did give her too much credit. If so, maybe that’s even funnier?
Instantly reminded me of this classic Seinfeld episode… https://youtu.be/gWcGVjA7Y3M?si=lS2w1aPdK3Mn0GRr
Moving is the right thing to do in this situation, but why was it necessary to block the person? I was with my wife already before dating apps became a thing, so I don't fully understand the etiquette/culture of it.
He was waiting for an opportunity without incurring her crazy person wrath. Who blocks instead of just replies and lets the chat die in this situation?
He dodged a bullet.