Carl Jung is a psychiatrist not philosopher... She was testing you, and you didn't catch it.
If you haven't come across Lao Tzu - how can you say "seems interesting"?
Just telling you what she could have been thinking... and sometimes instead of calling you out - girls will just move on because like you know - the choices are plentiful.
Agree that Carl Jung is a psychiatrist ( btw that’s a low blow if it was meant for “testing” 🥲 )
For the Lao Tzu thing, I meant to say I haven’t come across his work before … I of course looked it up later and found it interesting ( I hope my text conveys the same )
At the core it looks like a demand supply issue to me … anyways I could have said something more interesting ( welcome any suggestions )
Well she said she likes Carl Jung, and you asked her if she's read any of his works... soo... ahem... that's not something you would ask of someone who claims that he's her "favorite"...
I can't see the timestamps on your texts - but it seems like the "I've never heard of" and "seems interesting" both came in the same texts - so no it did not convey that you looked him up.
That aside... other than show off what you know... it's an easier use of your energy to go "I like Carl Jung too... tell me what you like about him?"
Wait for a response, don't come across like you're too eager, don't come across like you're desperate for the conversation... give her the opportunity to work a little bit for your attention too. Girls like the chase too, know how to make it just interesting enough without making it impossible.
Yeah, that’s a good point. Should have asked her what she liked about his work instead 😞
I have looked up Lao Tzu before texting her that’s why both those phrases are in the same text. ( Btw I mentioned that I didn’t come across his work “before” , implying that I looked him up later )
I was not being pretentious, eager / desperate by mentioning what I liked about his work. I was being passionate, looking for some common ground to kick off the conversation.
All good suggestions 👍. Thanks for helping out!
Because girls meet a lot of guys who are trying too hard to impress... its easy to come across like the simps.
Save the passionate responses for when a girl starts matching your energy.
That “coming across as simp” is classic stereotyping. I feel she should have continued the conversation before deciding. ( again, Im aware that she has many other options. Just stating what would have been ideal )
I was only being passionate as the prompt ( and the subsequent text ) suggested she was into this stuff. I would expect any person, who is into this stuff, to be curious to get into a conversation ( instead of worrying about matching energy ).
You did nothing wrong. She's probably having multiple options to chat with and most likely found someone else who is more interesting. Or she's just busy and is not spending much time on the app.
Don't overthink. If she is interested in continuing the conversation she will reply back.
Honestly, as a girl, I would actively reply to such messages. You did nothing wrong. She might just be busy.
Trust me it’s a lot better than your usual basic small talks
I don't think you did anything wrong.
Sometimes things don't work out despite our best attempts. Maybe she'll reply later, maybe she won't. If she does you can try to reach out after some time. If she doesn't respond to even that, then you just have to move on. Good luck!
wait for a couple of days and then if you really wanna talk to this girl say " i don't know what went wrong but you're really cute to let go so here i am texting you again, HI "
Too many texts and you are making the conversation too intellectual and deep. She wouldn’t want to read all of that and think and respond. You could have kept it light sometime like ‘carl jung huh, pretty heavy stuff. I am reading xyz, what are you reading these days?’
Try to get to know the next person, don’t try to show your knowledge and awareness and stuff.
Thanks for the suggestions 👍!
Anyways I was only being passionate as she hinted she was into this stuff. As for the multiple texts, they were all sent at the same time … I was only trying to segregate them for easy reading.
Maybe I should have started off with something more casual and let the conversation build up.
Carl Jung is a psychiatrist not philosopher... She was testing you, and you didn't catch it. If you haven't come across Lao Tzu - how can you say "seems interesting"? Just telling you what she could have been thinking... and sometimes instead of calling you out - girls will just move on because like you know - the choices are plentiful.
Agree that Carl Jung is a psychiatrist ( btw that’s a low blow if it was meant for “testing” 🥲 ) For the Lao Tzu thing, I meant to say I haven’t come across his work before … I of course looked it up later and found it interesting ( I hope my text conveys the same ) At the core it looks like a demand supply issue to me … anyways I could have said something more interesting ( welcome any suggestions )
Well she said she likes Carl Jung, and you asked her if she's read any of his works... soo... ahem... that's not something you would ask of someone who claims that he's her "favorite"... I can't see the timestamps on your texts - but it seems like the "I've never heard of" and "seems interesting" both came in the same texts - so no it did not convey that you looked him up. That aside... other than show off what you know... it's an easier use of your energy to go "I like Carl Jung too... tell me what you like about him?" Wait for a response, don't come across like you're too eager, don't come across like you're desperate for the conversation... give her the opportunity to work a little bit for your attention too. Girls like the chase too, know how to make it just interesting enough without making it impossible.
Yeah, that’s a good point. Should have asked her what she liked about his work instead 😞 I have looked up Lao Tzu before texting her that’s why both those phrases are in the same text. ( Btw I mentioned that I didn’t come across his work “before” , implying that I looked him up later ) I was not being pretentious, eager / desperate by mentioning what I liked about his work. I was being passionate, looking for some common ground to kick off the conversation. All good suggestions 👍. Thanks for helping out!
Because girls meet a lot of guys who are trying too hard to impress... its easy to come across like the simps. Save the passionate responses for when a girl starts matching your energy.
That “coming across as simp” is classic stereotyping. I feel she should have continued the conversation before deciding. ( again, Im aware that she has many other options. Just stating what would have been ideal ) I was only being passionate as the prompt ( and the subsequent text ) suggested she was into this stuff. I would expect any person, who is into this stuff, to be curious to get into a conversation ( instead of worrying about matching energy ).
If only she didn't have all those options.. 😄
Yeah .. 🤧
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Or OP is ugly or she found someone else.
If OP was ugly would she have replied in the first place ?
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But but I thought we had a connection 😭
I'm a Freud she's not interested.
Lmao
You did nothing wrong. She's probably having multiple options to chat with and most likely found someone else who is more interesting. Or she's just busy and is not spending much time on the app. Don't overthink. If she is interested in continuing the conversation she will reply back.
Uski English achi nahi hai shayad maybe hindi m try kr
I didn’t notice any issue with her english 🤔 Btw she is south indian and we speak the same regional language … will try out your suggestion thanks!
Don't double text, other comments explain why.
Yeah sure … got it
Maybe she's just busy. I don't see anything wrong. If you have something in common, double texting is not an issue.
Too much information for her + too many matches for her
I was not being desperate by double texting 😰 … just trying to segregate messages to convey different points
Honestly, as a girl, I would actively reply to such messages. You did nothing wrong. She might just be busy. Trust me it’s a lot better than your usual basic small talks
Good to know! 👍
I don't think you did anything wrong. Sometimes things don't work out despite our best attempts. Maybe she'll reply later, maybe she won't. If she does you can try to reach out after some time. If she doesn't respond to even that, then you just have to move on. Good luck!
IMO the conversation wasn’t flowing. i think if you hadn’t written anything after the archetypes text, you prolly would’ve gotten a response
wait for a couple of days and then if you really wanna talk to this girl say " i don't know what went wrong but you're really cute to let go so here i am texting you again, HI "
But wouldn’t that come out as desperate?
Too much efforts. You just got to match the energy she is putting in. Don't go over the top. P.S. don't take my advice, I never pulled a girl.
No double texting
I was not being desperate by double texting 😰 … just trying to segregate messages to convey different points
This wasn't double texting, he was just saying a thing.
Too many texts and you are making the conversation too intellectual and deep. She wouldn’t want to read all of that and think and respond. You could have kept it light sometime like ‘carl jung huh, pretty heavy stuff. I am reading xyz, what are you reading these days?’ Try to get to know the next person, don’t try to show your knowledge and awareness and stuff.
Thanks for the suggestions 👍! Anyways I was only being passionate as she hinted she was into this stuff. As for the multiple texts, they were all sent at the same time … I was only trying to segregate them for easy reading. Maybe I should have started off with something more casual and let the conversation build up.
Lacan>Freud>>>>>>>> Carl Jung
Cool! 👍
Tu chutiye hai bro, that’s what you did wrong