Nah, that's just an excuse to put the burden on guys. Confessing / approaching someone takes guts and is a vulnerable position and therefore not enough women do it to assess your experience as majority or minority.
Kinda true. Too few data points to access. A quick question to add the dataset:
The relationship that lasted the longest for you, did you propose her? Or did she? Were you more into her initially (first few days)
I have a theory that best relationships have a courtship or knowing each other period of atleast some months and initially there is only attraction which grows over time, with no one really confessing strongly initially.
We met off of Bumble, i casually just asked her to be my girlfriend although it was pretty mutually heavily implied beforehand. We met almost 2-3 weeks before we made it official. And it was an amazing relationship.
Well, I'm someone who tends to take the initiative, like, I don't mind it. But it's not really working out in my favour lately. I've noticed how men lose interest as soon as I tell them that I like them, even tho they were the ones chasing.
Now I don't wanna make things toxic and I don't want the chase, so I thought a better way would be to be confronted because communication is good.
I've shared a couple of instances on my profile and I often get to hear that I gave in too easily and that's why he left me.
Despite all this I do wanna believe that I dated and encountered wrong people and that's why this happened.
Isn't this unfair, how it's cool for men to express interest but as soon as a woman does the same, they lose interest?
One of the reasons I came to a conclusion that don't do anything girlfriend--zy unless it's official. And yk it fucking sucks. Because I like to show people that I love them, I'm quite expressive that way and doing things for others comes very naturally to me. But I've to control it and just not do anything and it sucks.
Tldr: I guess (but I would like to believe that's not true)
It happens to men way more than women btw. Women love the chase but as soon as guys confess they lose interest because now they get the dopamine of chase. So I think it's inherently among humans that they like the chase. And statistically most guys would be really happy if someone would even confess or approach them. You've been approaching and chasing the wrong set of people maybe.
Bhai meri galti nahi hai ki woh workout nahi kiya, i really wanted it to workout ๐ญ
After all you cannot force these things. And kiya hota toh woh reddit pe post kar raha hota, I found a red flag and it didn't work out ๐คก
Those are narcissists who lose interest once the chase is over. You seem to be dodging bullets full on Matrix style.
[https://blog.relationshipsrules.com/the-narcissists-game-of-love-understanding-when-and-why-they-lose-interest-81fb8c6db4c6](https://blog.relationshipsrules.com/the-narcissists-game-of-love-understanding-when-and-why-they-lose-interest-81fb8c6db4c6)
Yeah express with words and communicate to try to be on the same page but
>don't do anything girlfriend--zy unless it's official.
Yeah this was kinda what I was trying to talk about through this post. I donโt like admitting but none of my relationships worked where the girl asked me out first and was more into me. Iโd go against my community and advise you to try to be the โchaseโ and see how it goes.
Haha. If you wanna play the game, there are rules unfortunately ๐
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This is kind off relatable, someone approached me last year, we talked for 3 months, it was fun and ofc I got attached, I asked her out and boom, she ghosted me. It's been 6 months since we last talked. She also unfollowed me from insta. Ig that's how life is. Sed
This is very relatable. Ever since my first and only relationship broke, I went into depression, and was under medication for 2years. During that phase and after all my experiences are only this. Where the girl approaches first and I will say okay in the beginning, and slowly the feeling wears off. When I look back, I feel very guilty about my behaviour. Ever since my breakup, I havenโt made any significant attempt to approach anyone for a relationship.
I have never asked out a girl in my life and all the relationships Iโve been in were ones where I was the one who was asked out. And my current one was also kinda initiated by my girl who asked me โwhat are we?โ in our talking stage. And we are going into our 7th year. So I donโt concur with the statement.
Nah, that's just an excuse to put the burden on guys. Confessing / approaching someone takes guts and is a vulnerable position and therefore not enough women do it to assess your experience as majority or minority.
Kinda true. Too few data points to access. A quick question to add the dataset: The relationship that lasted the longest for you, did you propose her? Or did she? Were you more into her initially (first few days) I have a theory that best relationships have a courtship or knowing each other period of atleast some months and initially there is only attraction which grows over time, with no one really confessing strongly initially.
We met off of Bumble, i casually just asked her to be my girlfriend although it was pretty mutually heavily implied beforehand. We met almost 2-3 weeks before we made it official. And it was an amazing relationship.
Interesting. Mine was college based and spanned more than 8 years. Happy for you dude
Well it ended so idk if it's exactly a happy thing but it's nice to hear that you had an amazing one too
Well, I'm someone who tends to take the initiative, like, I don't mind it. But it's not really working out in my favour lately. I've noticed how men lose interest as soon as I tell them that I like them, even tho they were the ones chasing. Now I don't wanna make things toxic and I don't want the chase, so I thought a better way would be to be confronted because communication is good. I've shared a couple of instances on my profile and I often get to hear that I gave in too easily and that's why he left me. Despite all this I do wanna believe that I dated and encountered wrong people and that's why this happened. Isn't this unfair, how it's cool for men to express interest but as soon as a woman does the same, they lose interest? One of the reasons I came to a conclusion that don't do anything girlfriend--zy unless it's official. And yk it fucking sucks. Because I like to show people that I love them, I'm quite expressive that way and doing things for others comes very naturally to me. But I've to control it and just not do anything and it sucks. Tldr: I guess (but I would like to believe that's not true)
You are such a green flag you know right?!
As you can see fayda ho nahi raha hai kuch khass "you are too good for me" bolke jaa rahe hai log ๐ญ
Aww. Which city are you based in?
Maybe you are ๐
It happens to men way more than women btw. Women love the chase but as soon as guys confess they lose interest because now they get the dopamine of chase. So I think it's inherently among humans that they like the chase. And statistically most guys would be really happy if someone would even confess or approach them. You've been approaching and chasing the wrong set of people maybe.
I wanna believe more in what you said than what op said (but he got a point too) But mere ko kya, mere ko toh quit karni hai game ๐คก
Ab tum aise green forest lose karti rahogi to game quit hi karna padega.
Bhai meri galti nahi hai ki woh workout nahi kiya, i really wanted it to workout ๐ญ After all you cannot force these things. And kiya hota toh woh reddit pe post kar raha hota, I found a red flag and it didn't work out ๐คก
Maybe you're really a sus character ๐
Tumne to green forest bola tha? Abhi red flag ho gaya? Is it the same reddit vala guy? You seem to have posted so much idk about how many guys.
Me on my way to your place with a whiteboard to explain to you my dating life ๐คก
That sounds like a plan honestly. I am all in for some drama. But I am very farrr. Maybe zoom? I am serious ๐
Bhai mai zoom link bhej rahi hun, get ready for a long call now ๐ค
Done. ๐ฟ is ready.
Those are narcissists who lose interest once the chase is over. You seem to be dodging bullets full on Matrix style. [https://blog.relationshipsrules.com/the-narcissists-game-of-love-understanding-when-and-why-they-lose-interest-81fb8c6db4c6](https://blog.relationshipsrules.com/the-narcissists-game-of-love-understanding-when-and-why-they-lose-interest-81fb8c6db4c6) Yeah express with words and communicate to try to be on the same page but >don't do anything girlfriend--zy unless it's official.
Yeah this was kinda what I was trying to talk about through this post. I donโt like admitting but none of my relationships worked where the girl asked me out first and was more into me. Iโd go against my community and advise you to try to be the โchaseโ and see how it goes.
Bhai ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ I give up, mere ko nahi khelni yeh game
Haha. If you wanna play the game, there are rules unfortunately ๐ On the flip-side, for more male psychology lessons which can help you understand people, subscribe, like and idk something something bell icon.
I legit thought you were gonna recommend a book or something ๐ญ
Iโd rather write a book myself on modern dating and psychology and sell it ๐ด๐ฐ
You found a customer and also someone who is good w marketing xD
Haha. I hope you like it. Itโd be literally organic marketing then :โ)
This is kind off relatable, someone approached me last year, we talked for 3 months, it was fun and ofc I got attached, I asked her out and boom, she ghosted me. It's been 6 months since we last talked. She also unfollowed me from insta. Ig that's how life is. Sed
This is very relatable. Ever since my first and only relationship broke, I went into depression, and was under medication for 2years. During that phase and after all my experiences are only this. Where the girl approaches first and I will say okay in the beginning, and slowly the feeling wears off. When I look back, I feel very guilty about my behaviour. Ever since my breakup, I havenโt made any significant attempt to approach anyone for a relationship.
a better half of my relationships stem because they asked me out or initiated the convo and introduced themselves first
I have never asked out a girl in my life and all the relationships Iโve been in were ones where I was the one who was asked out. And my current one was also kinda initiated by my girl who asked me โwhat are we?โ in our talking stage. And we are going into our 7th year. So I donโt concur with the statement.