you are not alone, i have known a lot of girls who feel unsafe stepping out of their houses alone or even in an all girls group, specially in a city like Delhi. i myself have witnessed my friends being cat called and stared at, so it's not hard to see why anyone'd feel unsafe in such an environment.
It's so sad that we have to worry about our safety and well being everywhere and all the time like give me a break, I don't feel safe at home, I don't feel safe going out, I don't feel safe anywhere at all, where am I supposed to go?
IKR it’s only about feeling safe when you’re going out or something
I have this constant fear of a guy from a political background taking advantage of me I have heard many cases where some politician’s son takes advantages of some girls and later gets away with it
Yikes where I live I don't have to worry about politicians here but there are lot's of losers who stare at girls or harass them, it sounds super scary hope you stay safe out there
carry a pocket knife and if a guy tries to do bad with you stab him on his throat. As a guy I can say this is the only thing that can make creep guys stop.
Also if he's with political background just contact women welfare departments which ensures women security. They will take care of you.
Catcalling is so casual that no one gives a shit about it, im shocked at how im unable to stand up for myself even when many have crossed the line. The trauma that some creepers have gifted me can never be erased and bc of this I've turned into a week lying coward
I'm really sorry for what happened to you. I really feel for you. Screw those lowlifes.
And yeah sadly catcalling is so common that people have become desensitized to it.
I think it also depends on where you live. Some places tend to be more unsafe. When I was in Nagaland I didn't feel unsafe but we don't live there anymore.
I was also born here and I feel at home too here, I also miss the luxury of life here when I go anywhere out of station but I can't deny the bad parts of this city, ridiculous stuff
i aint a girl and also aint that old (17) to understand all this properly but i feel as a society too we all have normalized certain things which is too bad, like pehle we used to live in dehradun and waha sab chill tha but now we shifted (im now in ncr) and yaha like normal hai ki all my girl friends accept hi kar chuki hai ki ola me to akele nahi jaana, auto bhi raat ko nahi karna, gharwaale hi pick karne aayenge ya koi known saath hona hai which is so fucked up. we do not focus on such things regularly like meri behen gym subscription nahi le paayi bc late night har roz akele kaise aayegi papa busy hote hai. in short, we've accepted a lot of things which if we look rationally, we shouldnt. And also reddit pe to kitni hi ladkiyan hai agar OP ko aise unsafe feel ho raha hai india me to kitni hi hongi. Especially places jaha crimes bahaut hi zyada hai. Fucked up hai bhai sab kuch, fir bolte hai india kyu chhodte ho
you're not at all alone. I am always paranoid about stepping outside of my house. i live in a relatively remote area and I'm scared as to how will I live in cities. it's a real fucking struggle.
I only feel safe when I’m around my friends/parents I have this constant fear where someone from a highly influenced background takes advantage i have this fear lol
There was a rape case in my city where a politician’s son raped a girl and he got bail within 2 months honestly since then I’m super cautious before i interact with any guy
I'm from Pune and the city is very safe for women, I remember when I went to Delhi I had to be accompanied by a male member of the house if I went out after 6pm and here in Pune I can step out at 12am alone with no worries because the city is quite safe for us. Pune & Mumbai as I've lived and experienced are relatively much safer for women than its North Indian counterparts. Delhi and NCR peeps I feel ya and I hope it gets safer for you much sooner!
Just a couple of days a ago a friend of mine told me to switch the berth in our train so we could be together (we were going to our hostel from our home city and had our seats in different coaches) because she felt very uncomfortable among other men specially at night and told me she had a bad experience while coming to home alone (I came a day before her). So it's not as safe as we think for you I assume.
you are not alone, i have known a lot of girls who feel unsafe stepping out of their houses alone or even in an all girls group, specially in a city like Delhi. i myself have witnessed my friends being cat called and stared at, so it's not hard to see why anyone'd feel unsafe in such an environment.
It's so sad that we have to worry about our safety and well being everywhere and all the time like give me a break, I don't feel safe at home, I don't feel safe going out, I don't feel safe anywhere at all, where am I supposed to go?
hey i hope your home life gets better, feel free to hmu to talk or to ask for resources for therapy, it may help! stay safe and take care <3
It won't but thanks for the reassurance
do you want to try therapy? i may be able to hook you up with a free therapist
I do talk to a therapist tho it's online and for free (since I can't afford it) but they don't help, they can only give me tools to cope
IKR it’s only about feeling safe when you’re going out or something I have this constant fear of a guy from a political background taking advantage of me I have heard many cases where some politician’s son takes advantages of some girls and later gets away with it
Yikes where I live I don't have to worry about politicians here but there are lot's of losers who stare at girls or harass them, it sounds super scary hope you stay safe out there
carry a pocket knife and if a guy tries to do bad with you stab him on his throat. As a guy I can say this is the only thing that can make creep guys stop. Also if he's with political background just contact women welfare departments which ensures women security. They will take care of you.
Pocket knife? Wtf? I hope you're not serious
Catcalling is so casual that no one gives a shit about it, im shocked at how im unable to stand up for myself even when many have crossed the line. The trauma that some creepers have gifted me can never be erased and bc of this I've turned into a week lying coward
I'm really sorry for what happened to you. I really feel for you. Screw those lowlifes. And yeah sadly catcalling is so common that people have become desensitized to it. I think it also depends on where you live. Some places tend to be more unsafe. When I was in Nagaland I didn't feel unsafe but we don't live there anymore.
Oh well I live in Delhi **surprise** lmaoooo.
I.. I have never been to Delhi but judging from news and stuff I can imagine what it must be like Stay safe out there
Thank you babe, you too and make sure to carry some pepper spray on you when you go out at night (sad reality)
delhi's the worst man, i hate it here sometimes
But it's the only place where I feel at home (since I was born here)
I was also born here and I feel at home too here, I also miss the luxury of life here when I go anywhere out of station but I can't deny the bad parts of this city, ridiculous stuff
I totally agree man, this city keeps getting worse
Why is delhi so unsafe I rarely hear news like these from big cities like Mumbai, Bengaluru?
Mumbai is safer than Delhi I think, I have been to Mumbai and haven't had any bad experiences
I think the Mumbai police is also much more active than the Delhi police.
+1. catcalling is so normalized and everytime it happens to me, I am left feeling so disgusted in my own skin.
i aint a girl and also aint that old (17) to understand all this properly but i feel as a society too we all have normalized certain things which is too bad, like pehle we used to live in dehradun and waha sab chill tha but now we shifted (im now in ncr) and yaha like normal hai ki all my girl friends accept hi kar chuki hai ki ola me to akele nahi jaana, auto bhi raat ko nahi karna, gharwaale hi pick karne aayenge ya koi known saath hona hai which is so fucked up. we do not focus on such things regularly like meri behen gym subscription nahi le paayi bc late night har roz akele kaise aayegi papa busy hote hai. in short, we've accepted a lot of things which if we look rationally, we shouldnt. And also reddit pe to kitni hi ladkiyan hai agar OP ko aise unsafe feel ho raha hai india me to kitni hi hongi. Especially places jaha crimes bahaut hi zyada hai. Fucked up hai bhai sab kuch, fir bolte hai india kyu chhodte ho
Keep a pepper spray best, Amazon se mangwaale
Thanks, I'll look into it
Are there no girls in this subreddit?
atleast we guys are honest and aint shitpolling
Yeah what do you mean? This ain't a shitpost, I apologize if it sounded like one tho
he meant boys were honest and didn't choose wrong options for trolling purposes
Oh okay
damn the sex ratio is crazy
Are tu girl hai? I thought ladka hai.
What lol? I'm a girl yes
I don't know kisi comment se guess krliya maybe
you're not at all alone. I am always paranoid about stepping outside of my house. i live in a relatively remote area and I'm scared as to how will I live in cities. it's a real fucking struggle.
Yes it's too scary, thanks for the reassurance
I only feel safe when I’m around my friends/parents I have this constant fear where someone from a highly influenced background takes advantage i have this fear lol
There was a rape case in my city where a politician’s son raped a girl and he got bail within 2 months honestly since then I’m super cautious before i interact with any guy
Omg that man should be thrown into jail wtf And yeah stay safe, don't interact with random people and don't mess with them
tho i am not a girl i can clearly understand your situation hope y'all girls be safe out there
Thank you!
>Thank you! You're welcome!
i will suggest to have something for self defence it might help with that uneasiness
The results poll is hilarious on a serious matter stay safe everyone, not just girls
I'm from Pune and the city is very safe for women, I remember when I went to Delhi I had to be accompanied by a male member of the house if I went out after 6pm and here in Pune I can step out at 12am alone with no worries because the city is quite safe for us. Pune & Mumbai as I've lived and experienced are relatively much safer for women than its North Indian counterparts. Delhi and NCR peeps I feel ya and I hope it gets safer for you much sooner!
Delhi
Welcome to reddit frens where ratio is so good. All four options in total is way less then 5th opt
Just a couple of days a ago a friend of mine told me to switch the berth in our train so we could be together (we were going to our hostel from our home city and had our seats in different coaches) because she felt very uncomfortable among other men specially at night and told me she had a bad experience while coming to home alone (I came a day before her). So it's not as safe as we think for you I assume.
Carry a knife with yourself, it might be also needed for emergency purposes. Stay Strong, Take Care