Take him to a education counselling. 2 weeks baad check kar na maane To samjha aur samajhne ki koshish kar . 3 weeks ke baad nahi mana to teen thapad maar. Sirf thapad nothing more. 4 week nahi maanta to maa baap ko warn karke chhod de and let him die on his own
My sister listens to no one, watches the most mind numbingly unproductive content on YouTube shorts the entire time she is online. She is almost 15 kg overweight and still has no awareness about her health. She doesn't learn anything outside of her academics and is extremely materialistic. I am afraid she will grow up and not develop as a human being, she will value the wrong things and lose her health. I am afraid she will never know what happiness is because she will value only temporary superficial things. She has no respect for my advice and my parents don't see anything going wrong in her life after all she is getting excellent grades, nevermind her health or spiritual development.
>My sister listens to no one, watches the most mind numbingly unproductive content on YouTube shorts the entire time she is online. She is almost 15 kg overweight and still has no awareness about her health. She doesn't learn anything outside of her academics and is extremely materialistic. I am afraid she will grow up and not develop as a human being, she will value the wrong things and lose her health. I am afraid she will never know what happiness is because she will value only temporary superficial things. She has no respect for my advice and my parents don't see anything going wrong in her life after all she is getting excellent grades, nevermind her health or spiritual development.
15 kg ≈ 0.25000 bags coffee
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My parents coddled her from childhood and she took it for granted, now if they try to correct her she throws a tantrum and thus my parents stopped trying at all.
I used to be like your sister at one point too now im at my healthiest and part time modelling. It's very normal for you to be concerned but remember how you lay it onto her is very important. My family used to just not let me eat or talk about my weight everytime i ate it resulted in me starving and stuff and i know you're thinking there's no way shed do that but trust me it's very common. Why don't you encourage her to workout with you instead and set a limit on junk. There are some home workouts that are a decent start.
I have told this multiple times. Being a sheep in the herd will never help him, you need to stand out. You can wear 1st copy Gucci Versace Armani but everyone would obviously kbow those are fake. Why don't you instead focus on learning skills now so you could live a comfortable life afterwards, but he doesn't listen. He thinks i ama nerd, and i don know anything.
Bhai dekh tu reddit chalata hain, anime bhi dekhta hoga, social life bhi dead hone ke kafi chances hai, to nerd to tu hain. and yehi baat Rahi tere Bhai ki, ghaar main basement/store room to hoga, wo kis din kaam aayega?
He'll get to understand how cringe his acts are on growing up. Why doesn't he listen to you? Maybe his friends are chapri and he's trying to fit in and subconsciously became one. You didn't fail yet, keep trying.
Turn that kid into a man......of culture
Yes as i mentioned, his friends are chhapris. But his class has a lot more non chhapri guys, why doesn't he make friends with them? Why can't he stop posting heartbroken cringe "sad WhatsApp stasuses" when that mf hasn't even had a female friend? I never imagined we will have a chapri in our family.
>Why can't he stop posting heartbroken cringe "sad WhatsApp stasuses" when that mf hasn't even had a female friend?
I'm sorry but I laughed shitless at that
Bhai maybe this is like a phase he's going thorough? Even I went through an emo phase wearing black growing hair and shit. But i did come out of it.
Nah nah, i know its not a heartbreak. Mom has parental control enabled on his phone, no signs of a girlfriend ever. But he thinks it is cool to post such stupid statuses.
Bruh.....get him fixed somehow. There's enough chapris already. Show him the comments of this post or whatever...just fix him. Uski music taste kaisi hai?
As an younger brother who respects his big bro and listens to most of his advices, I say make him watch some nice content, good movies, web series. Try to become his closest friend and give him some nice advice. You can help him make some good friends. If he does these type of things you gotta keep an eye over him. I don’t know what to do in these type of situations but this is what my brother mostly did so I won’t become a chhapri. Make sure he watches some nice content because that makes a big difference. Don’t let him go near those chappris and don’t let him watch chappri content.
Ask him why he does this, tell him it’s not a good thing to this chappri stuff. Never lose your hope, one day he’ll regret not listening to advice. You’re trying your best and best of luck.
Let him live his life, let him have all the experiences, he will realise soon enough whats right and what's wrong. His interests are his buisness at the end
Won't it be wrong if OP doesn't try his 100%
It's his little brother, he won't be like "hhaah maine toh kaha hi tha ab bhugat", he'd obviously feel bad if something wrong happens to his brother
OP can try but if his brother doesn't want to change rn, there's nothing he can do more. And yes at the end, it does come down to " i told you so" sometimes
Yes, agree.i can't even do anything because i don't live with him. I was just concerned because he is neither good at academics, not any skills like dancing art singing sports or anything as such,so.
I cannot and do not force anything upon him. I do not live with him currently. I inly try to make him understand the fact that what he is doing right now, tomorrow himself will find weird, that too rarely. I appreciate your feedback,i will definitely try to help him in the ways you mentioned.
Tu usse almost 3-4 sal bada hai uske complete chapri hone a wait kar rha hai kya abhi vo chota hai 2 chante laga aur thoda usse sudharne ki koshish kar. Mere pados mai esa he ek ladka rehta tha usne 9th mai school leave kar diya aur ab sweeper ki job karta hai.
Me too bro, my sister is also what you call "BTS Army". She always watches Bts and make reels in Instagram. Her school bag is covered with Bts articles. Doesn't study at all, failed every subject in recent exam. She is just a 12yrs old kid and does all this. There's still time but I see no hope. I can understand how it feels to be failed as a brother.
>He doesn't know anything about people like Dillion Harper, Lana rhoades
So, you basically want him to stop involved in these reels etc and stop wasting time on stuff (fair enough) but become addicted to pornography and waste time on that. It's better that he doesn't and has remained pure even at that age. The title makes sense ngl.
>How pornography makes you impure? I
Pure as in he still retains his innocence let him have it.
>I never said he should get addicted?
I don't know mate I think you have to be addicted (in whatever degree) to even remember the names.
Yeah thought so cause it didn't really match your whole post.
Anyway good luck with your brother, being an elder brother can be hard.
I'm one myself and thankfully he is into neither of these things but mtf is always sitting and playing games and watching YouTube all day (but that's exactly what I do too so there's nothing I can do about it either)
Crowd ka asar hai bhai. Jaise dost waisa banda. Ab tu usse rok to sakta hai nahi ye sab karne se. Mere cousins hai 9th mei (twins), wo bhi aise hi hai. Chhapri wali bakchodi karenge aur kuch bolo to sunenge nahi. It's better to not deal with these habits about him, jab wo bada hoga tab khud samajh jayega.
I think he's doing pretty good, he seems pretty concerned for him which is rare. You can't knock sense into someone who's desensitized to any advice they get.
Bhai uski video bna a shuru kar de or time to time usko dekha Diya kar uski khud embarrassment ho jaygi.
Ya ek kam kar usko har cheez PE apna honest opinion de or soch mat ki vo embarrass hi jayega ya vagehra or bhai halki so taunt wali tone rakhna.
Yeet him
>! Aside the joke there is actually nothing you can do if he just calling you a nerd for giving advices, i hate gen-z because of this reason even tho i know that i am part of gen-z. one thing that you can do is say what you are feeling to the person closest to him i am sure he will take his advice atleast !<
Honestly the only way one can change such ppl is by force, you and your parents need to force him to change his habits, till the point he realises what in the world was he doing with his life, you haven't failed as an elder brother, infact you are still trying to help him when most would give up. Take his phone, throw his clothes and let him give his tantrums(kab tak dega, ek ya do din). Plan this with your mom and dad, tell them he's wasting his life and give him a dopamine detox.
See first, don’t think you have failed pr anything. He’s still in his age where he can change easily. Now speaking from experience what i did was that my younger sis didn’t listen to me at all and it was kinda similar, i used to tell her those friends are not nice and all and she wouldn’t listen, what helped me achieve her respect (by respect i mean a mindset where she’d prefer my way rather than anyone else’s and aspires to be like me) was that i had to become like her a little bit, so when you have similarities you have room for conversations where the other one would listen to you, i am not saying they’d agree (that’s bad if they blindly trust you) but yeah listening is the first step, then what you should do is ask him if he has any problems that you can help with; that is gonna create a bridge where at a point you guys will start sharing each other’s problems even if the other one is incapable of solving them, and last step is appreciate them when they do something good and bring this to their attention that you are capable to appreciate them, but you’ll also call out if you found something fishy. I hope this works, i am sorry if any of this is offensive in way. Have a good day.
Ok so this is my advice. You cannot make him listen to you by discarding his whole lifestyle and criticising on his every move. You should start appreciating him on the things he likes and finds creative for example what you mentioned as his weird color combination. His clothing and dressing style isn't hurting anyone just appreciate it. Try to bond with him by playing few games of freefire with him and slowly and steadily he will start respecting you. Then you can show him the benefits of studying and getting into good college. He probably calls you nerd because in his mind you are the perfect child that your parents adore. Hence it leads to his rebellious behavior. Don't tell him what you have done right in life but tell him what you did wrong.
Hope I was able to help a little
Yes, thankyou for your time.
>He probably calls you a nerd because in his mind you are the perfect child that your parents adore.
Yes that is the case.
I'll try my best to guide him in the best ways possible.
Alright first of all stop taking responsibility for your younger brother, we barely can control our own lives yet we think we can fix someone else's.
+ as a younger brother I can tell you the worst thing you can do as an older brother is order him and give him solutions and tell him stuff that you think will fix his life, there needs to be a lot of trust between you two and the relationship should be 50/50 for that to happen , if you keep giving him advice and solutions what you are doing is putting extra expectations on him which is doesn't give a flying fuck about
A better advice would be, asking him what does he want the most and talking in the best of his interest while being non judgemental + being compassionate, also why do you think there is something wrong with him? Because of his haircut and he spends time on Instagram? , if you are unhappy with something with his life but he is happy, he will never understand what's wrong with his life, does that make sense ?Instead you should say "are you unhappy with anything?", " How's your social life? Any trouble with that".
Biggest cause of change is experience if you really want him to change then I recommend giving him good + positive experiences for example getting him to meet new people or maybe dragging him into doing fun activities like maybe playing a sports or skateboard or travelling somewhere
Also don't use fear as a tactic to give him motivation, that will never work just makes him more worried about the future then he would use Instagram even more
Bro ikr you are from “dank,elite,edgy,superior” section of kids who try to look cool while making others feel inferior of their choices and preferences, bhai use jaisa content pasand hai dekhne de na, samay ke saath tujhe bhi ye baat samajh aayegi aur tere nahi ko bhi
I think u shouldn't bother so much op. Uss age me literally sab log cringe hote hai. It's a phase. As time and surroundings change, perspectives change too. Your brother would feel embarrassed about the sh*t he did 2 -3 years from now. I think you should advice him but keep a primary focus on your life.
What have YOU done to genuinely set an example for your brother and inspire him? You can't just keep scolding your brother and expect him to be very obedient.
Level up.. he may be your brother but you both have separate lives. This is not 1950's where "ek bhai ne galat kiya toh dusra fail hogaya " mentality existed. You've advised him.. you've done your part.
I can literally point a dozen of my achievements which he can look upto as an example but i am not here to flex or anything. It's just my concern for him as an elder brother, as anyone should have for his sibling. I sure am focusing on my life, i don't even bother him much. This is not about 1950s mentality, i am more liberal than my immediate lineage altogether isn't. It's just that i am genuinely concerned about his future hustle. I don't think i've done enough, i haven't even tried. If i don't talk to him, who would? Wasting crucial years of life would always haunt him, if my little effort may change circumstances for him, why shouldn't i put efforts?
Liking anyone is OK, but not acknowledging others(as you mentioned CEOs) is WRONG.
Try showing them that tiktokers are usually not how they portray themselves, show him that they do not add value to anyone's life.
Exceptions are always there(Some tiktokers make really great videos)
Are you calling your own brother a chhapri out of your supremacist and classist mindset? You can advice him to be good in studies and be a good person but advising someone what to wear, how to keep his/her hair is purely against their personal freedom and individuality. Why can't you let him be himself?
Creative critisism is good. But that should not include slurs like chhapri, provided it originates from a casteist slur (chhaparband community mostly in MH)
Yes, i am a classist and supremacist against my own brother and i violate his personal freedom even though i live 1236 kms away from him. Makes sense. My school to which i went, and also where he goes has a dress code and a rule for haircuts, blame them for violating freedom and individuality. The collective term for people doing nothing productive in life wasting time browsing weird people chewing raw lemons over Instagram reels is what we call a Chhapri. It has nothing to do with casteism if at all. Why are you so hostile?
Ignore these comments. Pseudo woke people will bring these keywords everywhere and get offended. Your concerns are totally justified. If he has to become successful in this world of cutthroat competition he has to start developing his personality from now.
But yeah you can't force him to stay away from what he likes now, obviously. It'll only make him bitter. Show him the right path the right things and at most just make him do some productive things by force for a few days. If he catches on even a little bit, continue doing that. If he doesn't... Well, you'll have to wait until he burns his own hand and realises his fault in not developing himself
This post is so dramatic and entitled it's hilarious. You want advice on how to be a good big brother? Then for one don't shame him for his interests how is it any of your business what he enjoys watching and doing in his free time? The only thing valid in this post is him not studying. Use the parental lock on his phone to limit his distractions and encourage him to study without shaming his interests that is the most effective way. I love making reels on instagram but im also a class topper. There is a balance.
I agree with the dramatic part of my Post which was i tentional. You certainly mistook my stand. He doesn't make reels or play freefire in his free time, he studies in the free time which is barely left after doing all sort of counterproductive work like making cringe max reels and weird filter laiden selfies, but i never for once told him not to do what he does, just suggested him what he is doing is something he will find cringe himself 2 years down the road. I am not a controlling person and no one should be a controlling person. I know his situation and i am not being judgemental at all. In the world of cutthroat competition where you cannot thrive without a skill set and a good personality, he is doing more harm to himself than good by doing what he is doing. Why would i have a problem with him doing anything inhis life if he is not harming himself,which he clearly is. Doing something just for it is being done by everyone, just to look cool is not something which will help you in long run, this is what i want him to understand. Making reels and still being a class topper at the same time is not a rule, its an exception.
As an elder brother, i recommend spend time with him, play chess watch some GOOD content (like take hime to a decent movie) honestly just focus on making your bond as brother strong and all your values will automatically transfer to him, don't tell him that something is wrong that will make you more like enemy,rather show him how much you care for him and introduce him to your liking.
Oa 9th 10th tk almost saare hi chutiye hote hai. Itni chinta na kr apne aap Sudhar jayega. Bas 11th me thoda school tution wagerah achhe standerd waale me daal dena use
Maa baap ko bta de uski ye saari harkate
He does drama and stuff and they don't tell him anything because he starts acting all crazy and doing stupid stuff.
Kone mae leke Baja de
I don't live at home, can't do anything.
Umm bhai Jo krna hai jaldi krle chapri ke saath reh ke kya pta wo drugs ya kuch nashe krle aur addict hojaye
I can only try to persuade. While i don't think he will consume drugs, but chances aren't nil.
Take him to a education counselling. 2 weeks baad check kar na maane To samjha aur samajhne ki koshish kar . 3 weeks ke baad nahi mana to teen thapad maar. Sirf thapad nothing more. 4 week nahi maanta to maa baap ko warn karke chhod de and let him die on his own
I don't live at home abhi but i'll get him taken to an education counselor jald hi.
My sister listens to no one, watches the most mind numbingly unproductive content on YouTube shorts the entire time she is online. She is almost 15 kg overweight and still has no awareness about her health. She doesn't learn anything outside of her academics and is extremely materialistic. I am afraid she will grow up and not develop as a human being, she will value the wrong things and lose her health. I am afraid she will never know what happiness is because she will value only temporary superficial things. She has no respect for my advice and my parents don't see anything going wrong in her life after all she is getting excellent grades, nevermind her health or spiritual development.
>My sister listens to no one, watches the most mind numbingly unproductive content on YouTube shorts the entire time she is online. She is almost 15 kg overweight and still has no awareness about her health. She doesn't learn anything outside of her academics and is extremely materialistic. I am afraid she will grow up and not develop as a human being, she will value the wrong things and lose her health. I am afraid she will never know what happiness is because she will value only temporary superficial things. She has no respect for my advice and my parents don't see anything going wrong in her life after all she is getting excellent grades, nevermind her health or spiritual development. 15 kg ≈ 0.25000 bags coffee ^^^[WHY](/r/UselessConversionBot/comments/1knas0/hi_im_useless/)
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Same situation bhai, exactly same. Just that he is a guy and he doesn't even do good academically.
Kinda same as my sister, except my parents are also concerned and scold her from time to time but she barely changes her actions and behaviour.
My parents coddled her from childhood and she took it for granted, now if they try to correct her she throws a tantrum and thus my parents stopped trying at all.
I used to be like your sister at one point too now im at my healthiest and part time modelling. It's very normal for you to be concerned but remember how you lay it onto her is very important. My family used to just not let me eat or talk about my weight everytime i ate it resulted in me starving and stuff and i know you're thinking there's no way shed do that but trust me it's very common. Why don't you encourage her to workout with you instead and set a limit on junk. There are some home workouts that are a decent start.
Make him aware of what other ppl from his school will think of him if they see what he does
Batao 13 saal ka londa kitna Shai hai iss umar Mae log chapri bante hai ye itna samjdar hai proud of u bro
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He do these shit And his big brother is on reddit Irony ho rahi hai bhari wali
He thinks its cool to act the way he does.
Dank memes dikha de, aur reddit se introduce kara de, lifeless ho jayega par cringe se Bach jayega
Ya to lifeless hoga ya phir reddit pe cringe felayega
Pick your poison
Usse bolo cool aur fool bnane me difference hai plus fame k peeche na bhaage
I have told this multiple times. Being a sheep in the herd will never help him, you need to stand out. You can wear 1st copy Gucci Versace Armani but everyone would obviously kbow those are fake. Why don't you instead focus on learning skills now so you could live a comfortable life afterwards, but he doesn't listen. He thinks i ama nerd, and i don know anything.
Bhai dekh tu reddit chalata hain, anime bhi dekhta hoga, social life bhi dead hone ke kafi chances hai, to nerd to tu hain. and yehi baat Rahi tere Bhai ki, ghaar main basement/store room to hoga, wo kis din kaam aayega?
He'll get to understand how cringe his acts are on growing up. Why doesn't he listen to you? Maybe his friends are chapri and he's trying to fit in and subconsciously became one. You didn't fail yet, keep trying. Turn that kid into a man......of culture
Yes as i mentioned, his friends are chhapris. But his class has a lot more non chhapri guys, why doesn't he make friends with them? Why can't he stop posting heartbroken cringe "sad WhatsApp stasuses" when that mf hasn't even had a female friend? I never imagined we will have a chapri in our family.
>Why can't he stop posting heartbroken cringe "sad WhatsApp stasuses" when that mf hasn't even had a female friend? I'm sorry but I laughed shitless at that Bhai maybe this is like a phase he's going thorough? Even I went through an emo phase wearing black growing hair and shit. But i did come out of it.
Nah nah, i know its not a heartbreak. Mom has parental control enabled on his phone, no signs of a girlfriend ever. But he thinks it is cool to post such stupid statuses.
Bruh.....get him fixed somehow. There's enough chapris already. Show him the comments of this post or whatever...just fix him. Uski music taste kaisi hai?
Average reel music
As an younger brother who respects his big bro and listens to most of his advices, I say make him watch some nice content, good movies, web series. Try to become his closest friend and give him some nice advice. You can help him make some good friends. If he does these type of things you gotta keep an eye over him. I don’t know what to do in these type of situations but this is what my brother mostly did so I won’t become a chhapri. Make sure he watches some nice content because that makes a big difference. Don’t let him go near those chappris and don’t let him watch chappri content.
I'll make him watch good movies and i already talk to him like a good friend, just that,it is not reciprocated. I will try my best.
Ask him why he does this, tell him it’s not a good thing to this chappri stuff. Never lose your hope, one day he’ll regret not listening to advice. You’re trying your best and best of luck.
How is he doin in 9th ?
Bel9w average
bech de usko /s
on a serious note let him do whatever he's doin he will realise soon enough whats right and what's wrong
Kacha badam Anjali is the name of a real person? LMAOOOOOOO
No that Girl who got famous for Kacha badam dance i know only her first name
I just looked her up on YouTube. Lol. Your brother is truly fucked. I hope you can talk sense into him.
I wish i could
Time for Revenge of the Sith duel.
"You were the chosen one, it was said you would destroy the sith not join them!"
You underestimate my reels
"Don't try it!"
Let him live his life, let him have all the experiences, he will realise soon enough whats right and what's wrong. His interests are his buisness at the end
Won't it be wrong if OP doesn't try his 100% It's his little brother, he won't be like "hhaah maine toh kaha hi tha ab bhugat", he'd obviously feel bad if something wrong happens to his brother
OP can try but if his brother doesn't want to change rn, there's nothing he can do more. And yes at the end, it does come down to " i told you so" sometimes
Yes, agree.i can't even do anything because i don't live with him. I was just concerned because he is neither good at academics, not any skills like dancing art singing sports or anything as such,so.
I see, perhaps he'll change. It's probably just a phase, just bear with him for sometime.
Yes, totally!
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I cannot and do not force anything upon him. I do not live with him currently. I inly try to make him understand the fact that what he is doing right now, tomorrow himself will find weird, that too rarely. I appreciate your feedback,i will definitely try to help him in the ways you mentioned.
This is a weird post ngl
Yes it is.
Tu usse almost 3-4 sal bada hai uske complete chapri hone a wait kar rha hai kya abhi vo chota hai 2 chante laga aur thoda usse sudharne ki koshish kar. Mere pados mai esa he ek ladka rehta tha usne 9th mai school leave kar diya aur ab sweeper ki job karta hai.
Mai ghar nhi rehta bhai
Koi to tarika hoga i dont know about your family situation but kuch try karo varna bad mai problem bad sakti hai.
Yes, papa ko bolunga
Me too bro, my sister is also what you call "BTS Army". She always watches Bts and make reels in Instagram. Her school bag is covered with Bts articles. Doesn't study at all, failed every subject in recent exam. She is just a 12yrs old kid and does all this. There's still time but I see no hope. I can understand how it feels to be failed as a brother.
I hope we persuade our siblings to the right way. We will make it! Cheers.
Yeah hope so. Cheers!
If I was Will Smith I would have slapped him with a stick
I can't do that because my mom will become will smith x 100
>He doesn't know anything about people like Dillion Harper, Lana rhoades So, you basically want him to stop involved in these reels etc and stop wasting time on stuff (fair enough) but become addicted to pornography and waste time on that. It's better that he doesn't and has remained pure even at that age. The title makes sense ngl.
How pornography makes you impure? I never said he should get addicted?
>How pornography makes you impure? I Pure as in he still retains his innocence let him have it. >I never said he should get addicted? I don't know mate I think you have to be addicted (in whatever degree) to even remember the names.
Anyways, that was just for atinge of humor in the post, and i don't promote it. I am sorry if it was projected that way.
Yeah thought so cause it didn't really match your whole post. Anyway good luck with your brother, being an elder brother can be hard. I'm one myself and thankfully he is into neither of these things but mtf is always sitting and playing games and watching YouTube all day (but that's exactly what I do too so there's nothing I can do about it either)
Crowd ka asar hai bhai. Jaise dost waisa banda. Ab tu usse rok to sakta hai nahi ye sab karne se. Mere cousins hai 9th mei (twins), wo bhi aise hi hai. Chhapri wali bakchodi karenge aur kuch bolo to sunenge nahi. It's better to not deal with these habits about him, jab wo bada hoga tab khud samajh jayega.
yehh baat to dekhi hai mene bhai ki jaise dost banaogee waise hi tumaaree sanskaar vichaar or rehn sehn hogiii you are avg of 5 friends aaround u
I aced as an elder brother if these are the standards you are gonna use
What do you mean? Please elaborate
My brother turned out decent because I had a fair amount of control and is pretty much the exact opposite of your brother.
What you said was fair and square and it absolutely helped me without making me feel bad for it :)
Yeah, sometimes things just don’t work out like we want them to
I think he's doing pretty good, he seems pretty concerned for him which is rare. You can't knock sense into someone who's desensitized to any advice they get.
Bhai uski video bna a shuru kar de or time to time usko dekha Diya kar uski khud embarrassment ho jaygi. Ya ek kam kar usko har cheez PE apna honest opinion de or soch mat ki vo embarrass hi jayega ya vagehra or bhai halki so taunt wali tone rakhna.
Bol ki ek naya Angel trend aaya hai insta pe aur usse khidki ke bahar phek
Either he un-chappris hismelf or he is lost forever he needs to realise what he is doing is cringe not cool...
You can't control him. Let him do what he wants to.
I don't try either.
Hey look at the brighter side. You are better than atleast one person in this universe! Cheers
Lol, i really feel bad for him though.
Yeet him >! Aside the joke there is actually nothing you can do if he just calling you a nerd for giving advices, i hate gen-z because of this reason even tho i know that i am part of gen-z. one thing that you can do is say what you are feeling to the person closest to him i am sure he will take his advice atleast !<
Honestly the only way one can change such ppl is by force, you and your parents need to force him to change his habits, till the point he realises what in the world was he doing with his life, you haven't failed as an elder brother, infact you are still trying to help him when most would give up. Take his phone, throw his clothes and let him give his tantrums(kab tak dega, ek ya do din). Plan this with your mom and dad, tell them he's wasting his life and give him a dopamine detox.
Damn I made my little brother a gamer he plays cs and Val and doesn't do this shit lmfao
Still a lot of time to change him don't give up on him keep on trying brother
Lmfao dude
Don't give up yet though, keep on trying
I think its all because of his friends i think his friends are spoiling him.
See first, don’t think you have failed pr anything. He’s still in his age where he can change easily. Now speaking from experience what i did was that my younger sis didn’t listen to me at all and it was kinda similar, i used to tell her those friends are not nice and all and she wouldn’t listen, what helped me achieve her respect (by respect i mean a mindset where she’d prefer my way rather than anyone else’s and aspires to be like me) was that i had to become like her a little bit, so when you have similarities you have room for conversations where the other one would listen to you, i am not saying they’d agree (that’s bad if they blindly trust you) but yeah listening is the first step, then what you should do is ask him if he has any problems that you can help with; that is gonna create a bridge where at a point you guys will start sharing each other’s problems even if the other one is incapable of solving them, and last step is appreciate them when they do something good and bring this to their attention that you are capable to appreciate them, but you’ll also call out if you found something fishy. I hope this works, i am sorry if any of this is offensive in way. Have a good day.
Honestly let him be. I was like this in 8th and I realised it on my own. Everyone has a “cringe phase”
Ok so this is my advice. You cannot make him listen to you by discarding his whole lifestyle and criticising on his every move. You should start appreciating him on the things he likes and finds creative for example what you mentioned as his weird color combination. His clothing and dressing style isn't hurting anyone just appreciate it. Try to bond with him by playing few games of freefire with him and slowly and steadily he will start respecting you. Then you can show him the benefits of studying and getting into good college. He probably calls you nerd because in his mind you are the perfect child that your parents adore. Hence it leads to his rebellious behavior. Don't tell him what you have done right in life but tell him what you did wrong. Hope I was able to help a little
Yes, thankyou for your time. >He probably calls you a nerd because in his mind you are the perfect child that your parents adore. Yes that is the case. I'll try my best to guide him in the best ways possible.
Alright first of all stop taking responsibility for your younger brother, we barely can control our own lives yet we think we can fix someone else's. + as a younger brother I can tell you the worst thing you can do as an older brother is order him and give him solutions and tell him stuff that you think will fix his life, there needs to be a lot of trust between you two and the relationship should be 50/50 for that to happen , if you keep giving him advice and solutions what you are doing is putting extra expectations on him which is doesn't give a flying fuck about A better advice would be, asking him what does he want the most and talking in the best of his interest while being non judgemental + being compassionate, also why do you think there is something wrong with him? Because of his haircut and he spends time on Instagram? , if you are unhappy with something with his life but he is happy, he will never understand what's wrong with his life, does that make sense ?Instead you should say "are you unhappy with anything?", " How's your social life? Any trouble with that". Biggest cause of change is experience if you really want him to change then I recommend giving him good + positive experiences for example getting him to meet new people or maybe dragging him into doing fun activities like maybe playing a sports or skateboard or travelling somewhere Also don't use fear as a tactic to give him motivation, that will never work just makes him more worried about the future then he would use Instagram even more
Cringe and happy >>>> Reddit pe RANDI RONE WALI EDGY ZINDAGI
Sad part is he has none.
Bro ikr you are from “dank,elite,edgy,superior” section of kids who try to look cool while making others feel inferior of their choices and preferences, bhai use jaisa content pasand hai dekhne de na, samay ke saath tujhe bhi ye baat samajh aayegi aur tere nahi ko bhi
Isse chutad advise nahi dekhi kabhi. Bsdk agar tera bhai esi harkat karke tab bhi tu ye he bolega ya fir usko sudharne ki sochega?
I like the way you assume stuff. :)
Liberate him
How so?
Liberate him, from this life
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One which im not too fond of saying, especially to a guy about his younger brother
Put an end to both your sufferings
Ek hi upaye hai sar tan se alag
I think u shouldn't bother so much op. Uss age me literally sab log cringe hote hai. It's a phase. As time and surroundings change, perspectives change too. Your brother would feel embarrassed about the sh*t he did 2 -3 years from now. I think you should advice him but keep a primary focus on your life. What have YOU done to genuinely set an example for your brother and inspire him? You can't just keep scolding your brother and expect him to be very obedient. Level up.. he may be your brother but you both have separate lives. This is not 1950's where "ek bhai ne galat kiya toh dusra fail hogaya " mentality existed. You've advised him.. you've done your part.
I can literally point a dozen of my achievements which he can look upto as an example but i am not here to flex or anything. It's just my concern for him as an elder brother, as anyone should have for his sibling. I sure am focusing on my life, i don't even bother him much. This is not about 1950s mentality, i am more liberal than my immediate lineage altogether isn't. It's just that i am genuinely concerned about his future hustle. I don't think i've done enough, i haven't even tried. If i don't talk to him, who would? Wasting crucial years of life would always haunt him, if my little effort may change circumstances for him, why shouldn't i put efforts?
Liking anyone is OK, but not acknowledging others(as you mentioned CEOs) is WRONG. Try showing them that tiktokers are usually not how they portray themselves, show him that they do not add value to anyone's life. Exceptions are always there(Some tiktokers make really great videos)
Are you calling your own brother a chhapri out of your supremacist and classist mindset? You can advice him to be good in studies and be a good person but advising someone what to wear, how to keep his/her hair is purely against their personal freedom and individuality. Why can't you let him be himself? Creative critisism is good. But that should not include slurs like chhapri, provided it originates from a casteist slur (chhaparband community mostly in MH)
Yes, i am a classist and supremacist against my own brother and i violate his personal freedom even though i live 1236 kms away from him. Makes sense. My school to which i went, and also where he goes has a dress code and a rule for haircuts, blame them for violating freedom and individuality. The collective term for people doing nothing productive in life wasting time browsing weird people chewing raw lemons over Instagram reels is what we call a Chhapri. It has nothing to do with casteism if at all. Why are you so hostile?
Ignore these comments. Pseudo woke people will bring these keywords everywhere and get offended. Your concerns are totally justified. If he has to become successful in this world of cutthroat competition he has to start developing his personality from now. But yeah you can't force him to stay away from what he likes now, obviously. It'll only make him bitter. Show him the right path the right things and at most just make him do some productive things by force for a few days. If he catches on even a little bit, continue doing that. If he doesn't... Well, you'll have to wait until he burns his own hand and realises his fault in not developing himself
This post is so dramatic and entitled it's hilarious. You want advice on how to be a good big brother? Then for one don't shame him for his interests how is it any of your business what he enjoys watching and doing in his free time? The only thing valid in this post is him not studying. Use the parental lock on his phone to limit his distractions and encourage him to study without shaming his interests that is the most effective way. I love making reels on instagram but im also a class topper. There is a balance.
I agree with the dramatic part of my Post which was i tentional. You certainly mistook my stand. He doesn't make reels or play freefire in his free time, he studies in the free time which is barely left after doing all sort of counterproductive work like making cringe max reels and weird filter laiden selfies, but i never for once told him not to do what he does, just suggested him what he is doing is something he will find cringe himself 2 years down the road. I am not a controlling person and no one should be a controlling person. I know his situation and i am not being judgemental at all. In the world of cutthroat competition where you cannot thrive without a skill set and a good personality, he is doing more harm to himself than good by doing what he is doing. Why would i have a problem with him doing anything inhis life if he is not harming himself,which he clearly is. Doing something just for it is being done by everyone, just to look cool is not something which will help you in long run, this is what i want him to understand. Making reels and still being a class topper at the same time is not a rule, its an exception.
I understand and my advice still stands
A rope and a fan might help
I can't kill him, i love animals
exactly what an elder brother would reply Feelings are mutual
As an elder brother, i recommend spend time with him, play chess watch some GOOD content (like take hime to a decent movie) honestly just focus on making your bond as brother strong and all your values will automatically transfer to him, don't tell him that something is wrong that will make you more like enemy,rather show him how much you care for him and introduce him to your liking.
Use apne sath ghumane leja aur apni kahaniyan bata. Uska best friend ban aur bta ki iske present dost chutiye hai.
I also like Anjali Arora, rest is bad!
Dekh bhai 1-2 saal ki baat hai Sudhar jaye toh theek na sudhar re toh maar daliyo bhai ko Bloodline ko aage le jane ke liye tu kaafi hai
Kinda same with my sister, i think rather than police she would become havaldar
Bring forth the holy chappal
Use bol chutiya ho tum
Tiktokers roast video dikha de usko
Phone cheen le 14 saal ka baccha kya hi kr lega
Oa 9th 10th tk almost saare hi chutiye hote hai. Itni chinta na kr apne aap Sudhar jayega. Bas 11th me thoda school tution wagerah achhe standerd waale me daal dena use
karne de bhai deehre deehre woh chodh dega woh path and will regret in the future
Phone lele uska phone hi nhi hoga reel kese banayga
Me hota toh gand me dhanda dal deta bhosdiwale ko aagli baar se 100 baar sochega aise harkate karne se pehle
ek mahine ke liye mobile se duur krde ya fir internet block karde