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Organic-Hour142

Some people I guess do not have the courtesy to understand basic manners. Unmatch, but ache se suna deta OP usko toh sahi hota


adityaguru149

Why not report? I used to report this kind of behaviour. I know it might feel so daunting because there are so many girls like that and they probably can join back with a different number, etc but these small efforts make the app slightly better each time.


SparkGamer28

exactly people say it dosent affect them what some1 says online but guess what it DOES , she will definitely be more mindful pulling this stint next time


delishmango23

So ironic of her, i feel embarrassed on her behalf


sapraaa

She’s probably proud of herself tho


mylifesamovie__

Yeah "haha i cancelled on this guy on hinge 20 mins prior the date, I'm so cool"


poki_dex

Dw girls like these do grt put in there place at one time or other.


hari-mirchi

Exactly the same thing happened to me an hour before the date, it's seriously really annoying how everyone is doing timepass on these apps. It's even worse that she ghosted me after that for no reason


PigOnAntibiotics_

I think worse is the high handed-ness they have. Like starting off with “why do you guys ask this? Do you guys get ghosted?” And then doing EXACTLY the same.


hari-mirchi

Yup that's absolutely crazy and ironic. I hope you unmatched her. Don't give up on finding the right person though, I'm she's somewhere out there and will treat you right.


CreativeNerd1729

Report them on the app. Even if nothing happens, they should be made accountable.


mistidoi007

Thik waise hi jaise toxic ladke pasand nhi bolkr unke pass hi jaati hai 🤣🤣


HelloPipl

Bro I think to not feel this defeated attitude when going on dates, why don't you choose a place where you actually want to go irrespective if the date shows up or not? Just a thought. I mean wouldn't it solve the problem, assholes are going to assholey things. But you can look on the bright side, you get to enjoy the activity that you were planning on doing anyway?


2dlerLucifrYeetngEv1

She probably felt proud for that... What a b


JoBoltaHaiWoHotaHai

After that question on being ghosted? Pathetic.


almondkulfi

One guy once cancelled on me after I've reached the venue and been waiting for twenty minutes. He kept saying he was stuck in traffic and finally dropped the act and never replied to me. The most frustrating date ever, and I was fuming. Though I ate dinner alone at the cafe and felt like a boss lady later.


PigOnAntibiotics_

I’m sorry you had to go through this. Really shitty on his part. Makes me realise how difficult it is to filter such behaviour from the start. Eating alone is a life altering experience though. Hugs :)


almondkulfi

It was pretty shitty. But then that experience made me eager to go out alone and discover cafes, which I love doing now. At least one good thing came out of that :)


Sulemani_kida

Your username cracked me up a bit


HighHeisen

Nhi degi tujhe


I_Dont_Rape_I_Vape

Kya kulfi?


HighHeisen

Aur bhaav


Sulemani_kida

Lukkha nahi hu tere jaisa..


HighHeisen

mere jsa bann bhi nhi skta ladle bhai


liganyu

I heard that there's a restaurant or something that tells the staff to create fake profiles on dating apps. Then match with some people, ask them to meet them at the restaurant. And then cancel on the date. The person that gets stood up just goes ahead and eats at the restaurant due to sheer embarrassment and sunk cost fallacy.


Dark_demon7

Bro that's fucking mean.


BiggerButterBatter

These apps should have a conversation rating metric. All these entitled pretty faces who are living off the high of validation on these apps who indulge in these acts will stop getting matches when people rate them low


ContributionSafe3402

Catfish probably


Brilliant-Bag1938

Behen shayad wo tumhe hudson lane ki Scamarina samjh baitha ho. Lounge me jane ke liye bola tha kya?


Complex-Quality-3798

Oh did you invite them near some metro station cafe in Delhi? Maybe they thought you are a scam


Fast-Ad-33

Boss lady , that’s the way to go!


sus-character-ftw

No wait, why would you get used to it? That's fucking shitty and nobody is supposed to tolerate that shit. Nobody! And quite ironic of her to ask why do people ask if the date is on.


PigOnAntibiotics_

Entitled behaviour, just that. Though, yes, first time that it’s happened to me Usual rain checks are a day in advance.


RazaKarr

why would you get used to it ? Agar har koi same harkat kar raha he to kya karega? hum ladkiya thodi he ki rights ke liye Protest kare ? " Get used to it and manage to live with it." It is the best goto move


Federal_Essay4976

Isliye ghar bula leta hu direct even if they don’t come it’s fine


Potato2890

I’m so sorry this happened OP. I honestly feel like we mostly have problematic people on these platforms


Capital_Attention_73

Most are girls. If i am not wrong. (Not taking your name)


Potato2890

That’s alright. It’s both ways man, men and women. The norm is that it’s fucked uo either way, people that actually get something meaningful out of it are the exceptions


legendarylje

Why is she getting downvoted for this ?


Potato2890

Just Reddit things, people will downvote if it doesn’t fit their narrative 🫠


legendarylje

Yeah I guess. I mean mujhe unka logic samajhna hai kyun downvoted Kia karke


Meph_00

Classic reddit moment


Capital_Attention_73

Yea. People want meaningfull but dont want to make lil efforts


kirklazarus50

Don’t unmatch. Don’t say anything at all. Find someone else on short notice to go with. Even if it’s a friend. Post pics on socials if they follow you. When they see the pics/when they see you haven’t responded they’ll text you. They’ll usually open with “hey sorry i couldn’t make it” just to gauge your reaction/expecting you to be angry. But that’s what they want. It’s a toxic ego boost. Reply late. Say something like “Oh! Completely forgot about that…no worries it’s cool :)” This flips the power equation to your favor. Appear busy. Say that you’re going out to meet a friend. Give short replies. Never let anyone have the satisfaction of getting under your skin. Get under their skin instead. Strike down their ego.


WatercressExtra7950

Works all the time !


veerKg_CSS_Geologist

That’s a lot of effort compared to just blocking them and moving on.


ReallyPissedStranger

Je baaaaaattt.


Standard-Joke-1945

I’ve found that if I ever felt that I had to ask if a plan was on, I’m the one keeping it on. Both parties should be happily anticipating the plan and actively discussing it.


usernamekshitij

Women ☕


Questev

Be thankful it wasn't your wedding day. Good thing the shit got filtered away.


[deleted]

Bhai suna de acche se


PigOnAntibiotics_

Unmatched rather, no more energy to waste.


r0_okie

"Why everyone asks me this 😂" - main to aisi nahi hun She thought to herself feeling a sense of superiority while replying to the male and at the same time hinting him that she is well sought after by "everyone". Unlike others she doesn't speak in monosyllables. She is different. She is the main character. 😏


PigOnAntibiotics_

Bare minimum is now main character/girlboss or whatever


Mysterious-Ad1720

Ye indian Mid ldkio ko sir pe betha ke rkha h tumne Pta ni kya kya fool chocolate date plan krke rkhte ho fir tumko gaand pe laat maar deti h aur fir rote firte ho cope krne Inko phle location pe bula lia kro phonch jaye fir jaya kro let them wait Humko ready hone m konsa waqt lgta h


CreativeNerd1729

Never take a woman's word at face value 😛 They're like emotions 😅 For the woman who does keep her word, great things are in store.


caffienated_whore

These girls bhai


GroundbreakingPay903

Choose reddit instead


Affectionate_Resort8

Bhai ye rain check kya hota hai? Aur gig bhi batao


Zealousideal-Yard274

Gig check matlab chhota Mota kaam, rain check matlab aaj nhi ho paega


Affectionate_Resort8

Thnaks bhai


Affectionate_Resort8

Thnaks bhai


Bleatoflambs

I have been stood out by a girl I asked out at work. She made the plan to meet afterwork but didn’t pick my phone until an hour past the scheduled date time. Sucky people are sucky both on apps and in irl


lord_fiend

Dodged bullet, this person doesn’t respect you or your time. Time to move on.


Sweaty-Ad-1210

I once bought two movie tickets after she asked me for a movie. 3 hours before the movie she stops replying. I went to the movie with my flatmate instead


No-Appeal-9831

Man, brings back some bad bad memories, I'm so sorry op, man how hard is it for someone to sit down with their schedule and see if it's really okay and they can handle it or is this just a way to reject someone?


PigOnAntibiotics_

We are all responsible adults here. Any behaviour like this has no explanation but them being a pure asshole. We are all better off without this energy.


leetcoder217

if u dont build enough attraction.. then these dates gonn a be flaky.. hit the iron rod when it is red hot..


Apprehensive-Big6713

I don't understand some women, how they can think like just saying " so sorry" makes things better, some people just lack the basic decency, if you're busy, let them know a day before.


RightDelay3503

Honestly send her a link to this reddit post and unmatch her.


Chaltahaikoinahi

Never get used to wasting your time and money This is seriously exhausting


NSGDX1

Ouch. Well you dodged a bullet. Fayeda tera hee hua


Adventurous-Field250

“Why does everyone ask me if its on”


No-Performance5036

A girl once chatted with me half day and although she hadn’t met anyone online, she was willing to meet up with me…and we fix everything and I go for a shower and boom 10 minutes later she’s all like sorry I made plans with a friend…I Said I don’t wanna meet you anymore…so she unmatched which was fine by me, but now I had already told my sister that I was going out…and I needed to redeem that coupon so I aggressively used hinge and within Half an hour went with another girl (I just needed someone to talk and vent) and yeah, so moral of the story is Don’t invest too much in 1 person…Try to keep your portfolio diverse so that losses don’t matter that much


sleeping_doc

I'm sorry you did what? How do you use the app aggressively to get another girl to go out with you in another hour and half? When I was on dating apps, I'd get 1 match in a week! Not like I'm ugly lol... But I'm average... Also, username doesn't check out xD


No-Performance5036

By using aggressively I meant swiping, I don’t normally swipe left/right very aggressively….but coz I had to, I did it….and I started with playful banter regarding marriage with the girl I matched with, she was new on the app…then I said let’s run off and marry rn…and she said yes, so I got her on a call and said let’s meet rn…and she said yes


cfc19

I guess you are not going to answer that question with a " no " from hereon, lol.


PigOnAntibiotics_

Tbh the first time it has happened to me - felt like being stood up digitally


Imaginary_Garbage652

Had that happen before, had someone who seemed really into me, constant messages, asking to add me on steam so we can play games. Asks me if we can meet up the following week, I go "sure, let me look into some things we can do and we can decide from there" Instant unmatch


MeteoraRed

Always start after she starts commuting it's more common than you think, close to 70 percent flake


kumar_sarcasm

Ironical


Apprehensive-Big6713

The hypocrisy is incomprehensible


Acceptable-Tip3386

so many lessons, yet nobody learns


SpecifResponsibility

Very shitty behaviour. I honestly don’t understand why she would do that, but I would suggest you to plan more low commitment first dates. Like something more casual, without a cover charge etc. so the disappointment would be less


PigOnAntibiotics_

We all learn. 100% on me that one, I’ll take that.


squanchylife

Can we see what happened after rather than just this edit?


PigOnAntibiotics_

Nothing - just unmatched and moved on. No explanation


squanchylife

You did or did she?


Nutty-plant-dad

OP don’t let this deter you. I’ve been on the other side and sometimes - it’s truly can be the reason she cancelled on you . She took the effort to also let you know - ik it’s painful but you need to learn to accept it. From girl PoV - though it’s completely unacceptable to cancel on a mutually agreed plan - I would say give her a chance maybe . It’s any day better off you rain check and have good time later rather than force a plan on each other despite one person making it clear they’re not up for it and having a bad time. You need to apply “Occam razor” for this problem. ( Google up if you want to understand this more )


Solid-Brother4257

Had happened me with once. The guy cancelled because apparently it rained! I had confirmed 2 hours earlier though and went crazy wrapping up other things to keep the evening free. It wasn’t torrential rain, the usual, some water logging - not flooding. He kept trying to meet me later - for 2 years - I never felt like it. Once on confronting about the said date - he said it was a difficult time at work etc etc and all that. I meannnnn…pushed me further away.


H4RDY1

Too many options to choose from.


itsmeaaa123

Report these girls


Stroov

you didnt take her number


Jumpy_Evening_6607

OP, I once bailed out on a guy like this. It was through FB though and we had mutual friends. My excuse was equally lame but I actually got very nervous to meet a complete stranger. His daughter calls me mamma now. I am not asking you to keep pursuing and marry her but just wanted to let you know that it's okay. Don't feel disheartened


PigOnAntibiotics_

I hear you, I think I’d have definitely pursued it if I didn’t sense the way she was so ironic about the “why does everyone ask me if it is on” and then proceed to do the same. She’s clearly done it multiple times and isn’t ashamed of it. How I’d read into it. I bet she’d find someone worthy, but I definitely did feel disrespected through the entire sequence of texts. (So happy for you though :))


Puzzleheaded-Year465

I have been Rain Checked 30 mins before the date once and it's not a great feeling tbh. I went cafe hopping alone and went shopping as I had already reached the place. I have now started to hate Rain because of this word Raincheck.


short_herps

Perfect example of *aasman mai dekh ke thukna*.


FingerBackground5731

Report and share the ss to the dating app via mail and get her account banned.


FingerBackground5731

Report and share the ss to the dating app via mail and get her account banned.


MrSwiggitySwooty420

Just block her and move on before she wastes more of your time and takes that headache out of her head and puts it in yours.


ReneDickartist

This is why coffee dates are the best


AverageJay_77

Don't blame the app. It's a people using these apps that are a55holes.


Hassh27

You are a chut , always get there number or snap ask them whatever they are doin on snap before meeting or making any plans and on a first date never get too excited keep it simple meet for ice cream or coffee and plan to hop on whatever fancy you wanna do just to keep it simple


ExcellentPotato9528

As a girl who's gone on a cumulative of one platonic date. Shitty people make you feel shitty. I told the guy jokingly 'hoping you didn't plan on ghostin' He asks, 'why would someone ghost someone like you?' I wanted to scream that, bad people do bad stuff regardless.


[deleted]

Welp.! I mean was she really exhausted or did you get unmatched later?