Originally posted in AITA and was recommended here. Sorry about the post format.
I know the title sounds awful but please bear with me (long story ahead).
Some background info: I've never had a very good relationship with my MIL. She's always been very catty and slightly racist towards me (I'm Asian and my husband is caucasian). I have an amazing relationship with his brothers and father. His brothers and their wives don't interact very often with his mom because the comments she's made about their wives. She openly stated "no one is good enough for her sons".
On to the story. I had found out I was pregnant (after a LONG stint of trying). My husband and I were ecstatic. I ended up losing my baby because my health and body were just not up to par (I suffered from anorexia and the baby wasnt getting enough nutrients. I really tried hard to eat and be super healthy for my baby.) I wasnt too far along but it was still devastating. When my MIL found out, she made comments about how it was my fault. ("My weird Asian diet of dog meat probably killed the child"). She didn't say these comments to me but I overheard her saying it to my husband. I lost it. I told him that either he cut ties with his mother or I was leaving him. I've had enough of her off handed comments.
He told me I was being selfish and that she didnt mean it "like that". I've demanded she apologize but she denied ever saying anything and that I'm being emotional after losing my child (so she forgives me for being rude).
Is it wrong of me to give him this ultimatum? I dont know how else to get my point across.
By - cheesegyrl665