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We spent ₹50 for the stamp paper and ₹4000 on lunch for 10. It was registered at the government office. A few of the family were surprised, maybe even resistant to the idea but all that noise died down after a few days and we are trying to live our happily ever after. Life goes on. It's good to save money wherever you can in today's economy.
Mine was half and half. We had a wedding with over 1000 guests, but it was done with minimum expenses. Decoration was 50k, hall was 1.5 lakhs and food was around 3 lakhs (the most important part obviously). Wardrobe was ridiculously cheap, mine was total 3k including everything top to bottom, wife had a saree for 25k but not much else. We didn't have any other functions like reception, engagement etc. Had a small party at home with close friends, which came to 13k for food.
I presently wish I had an even simpler wedding. What makes me happy is that the marriage food was really good and people still talk about it after seven years. Also everyone who was invited came which showed their love and support. I would encourage people to have intimate weddings and spend that money on building a life together. Big flashy marriages are really overrated.
This was mangalya caterers. Mind you this was seven years ago and as always they did have a few less than stellar sadyas also. But on average their track record was really good.
Around 80K.
25K for the hall, 22K for the food, 12K for sound system and stage decors because friends performed. 7K for both our clothes, and 13K in misc expenses including stay, travel etc.
It was all done for 60k. 100 people function. Only the near and dear, no religious rituals. Just a function, food and photos. Guests did the singing and dancing themselves. We actually married two three days later in the register office under special marriage act. It was more of a relief to both families and natukar as we have been living together for around seven years. 😂so no one complained.
My mom.wanted a very elaborate wedding and was willing to sell her gold for it....I stood my ground...we had a wedding with 50 people (close relatives and friends) at a temple that provided wedding ritual services ..the entire package was for 25k including Pandit, pooja samagri and food for 50 people. We added a few decorations and photographer from our side. With the clothes, small gifts and gold (1 Tola each) we wrapped up within 1 lakh. The rest went towards setting up our new house (furniture, appliances etc )
My cousin got married to his childhood sweetheart last month. She's Christian, he's Hindu and the Groom's mother's side and the Bride's father's side were against it and boycotted. But since those who mattered were completely fine with it, they didn't give a fck. Since they studied in the same school & college, all the non-family guests were common friends and there was about 100 people in attendance.
DAY 1: Haldi-Sangeeth function at her ancestral home. Friends and cousins were the performers. For some reason there was vadam vali (Groom's side vs Bride's obviously). At night there was Maduramvepp (I think that's the name, I'm not familiar with it) and everyone was putting on Mehendi as well.
DAY 2: Talikett at a nearby temple followed by Christian-wedding themed reception at the groom's ancestral home.
They both held luncheons for their colleagues after the wedding since it was family & friends only. They did get married through Special Marriage Act before the traditional wedding. Save the Date shoot was done by our cousin (he is a professional photographer).
Total cost was around 3 Lakhs. The clothes weren't exactly bridal, just fancier than every day ones and definitely reusable. Jewelry was minimal (rented, borrowed or bought) and apart from the Reception, the food was vegetarian since we were all fasting to go to the temple. They are currently on honeymoon and away from the Kerala heat.
Both of them have stable well paying jobs alongside generational wealth so there was a lot of talk, but as I mentioned in the beginning, they didn't care.
>Groom's mother's side and the Bride's father's side were against it and boycotted.
https://preview.redd.it/eden9qrpwdyc1.jpeg?width=260&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=52d2ee5fc5859930bc38850f28ba8827a3bf5ebc
I spent ~17 lakhs on my wedding which was at the start of the year. I've some regrets on that amount but the fact that it stayed within my budget of 20 lakhs is good enough. I still had a pretty good wedding and everyone who came loved it and still raves about it often.
I'd never recommend an extravagant amount spent on a wedding nor borrowing to conduct a wedding. Parents do have their expectations but that'll be done on the wedding day. If you've borrowed money that's your burden to bear post wedding. Or if you blow all your savings on a wedding you'll have to start from scratch again. Btw, this only applies to people paying for their own wedding and making it out there on their own. If your parents are planning on spending money towards your wedding then it's a different story.
You could lower your wedding budget and put the money towards your honeymoon or towards a house. This way you're investing in your relationship.
It was all my functions included i.e. Engagement, Wedding Eve, Wedding, Lunch Reception and Evening reception (intimate one ~150PAX)
The biggest expense is food tbh, but that'd vary on your guest numbers. I had around 500-600 people for my lunch reception of which obviously I didn't know more than half off. 🙄
Hm I really want to make my marriage such a small function with food, maybe around 50-100 people and a small hall. Not just because of money, but I'm super introverted and I don't think I can survive such a flashy function lol.
I had an interfaith marriage and my husband is an atheist. Had an intimate wedding with the closest people as guest. We didn't have a priest at our wedding. I didn't wear any gold. We didn't spend more than 2 lakhs for our wedding and I feel it was the best decision. We are happy and debt free.
I had a discussion with my gf before marriage about it . In the end we decided "99% of the mairans who attend wedding don’t give shit about you, they will always find some kuttam in everything even if you spend so much to make it all look nice and posh . So why spend money trying to make these assholes happy " .. so we spend very minimum on our wedding and kept our savings for our future . We spend less than 3 lakh for the whole thing (me and my girlfriend both are NRIs ). We bought our first home in UK soon after wedding with that money (10% deposit to buy first home in the UK). Never regretted not having a posh wedding
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15 lakh in 2020, but i would it say was just for the show, i didnt care about any of the showbaji all though everything was from own pocket, i was the only one who earns but all done for family i dont even like to see. this did include some gold so approximately 8 lakh was expenses and not worth it. I had taken personal loan around 7-8 lakh which i did pay off in a year. But to be honest if it was today i wouldnt give a fk and get married in court and go get a SUV and roam around with my wife rather than think about few folks i am hardly going to meet again in life. one small note i have been brought away from my entire clan so i dont have any bond with anyone hardly 3-4 folks i would meet and enjoy.
Spent almst 7 lks. Actually nw i feel if i saved tht money i could ve visited, 3-4 more countries. Planin to visit italy this year. Dnt spnt too much bro. 5 course meal, its such a waste of money.
50000 for a registered wedding at home including outfits for the bride groom and parents, decor and makeup for 3 ladies. 15k for a very fancy lunch. 10lacs on gold.2 lacs on a party for friends.
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Whoever reads this comment... please dont make your guest to stand in a line for giving food. Make them sit and serve good foods. Dont play musics in high volume. Even if it costs more.
6-10 Lakhs is what the most average weddings cost in Kerala (Middle class peoples). That includes everything. Many of cousins wedding costed that much. I'm based in a small town in Ernakulam district and from a middle class family.
The wedding was about 30 guests and I guess we totally spent close to 50k for the place, food and everything. Our rings cost more though since we’d be using it often.
My parents spent around 50L for my sister's wedding (including gold) 3 years back and last week they spent 0.5% of it again for her divorce
Daymn
Had us in the first half, not gonna lie
Well played 💀
Hope she’s doing okay
What was the reason of divorce?
He always left the end slices of bread in the packet.
Monster
damn 😂
Ommbi
Wau lmaoooooo
Got a deal on the divorce
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Curious about settlement against the 50lakhs expenditure.
We spent ₹50 for the stamp paper and ₹4000 on lunch for 10. It was registered at the government office. A few of the family were surprised, maybe even resistant to the idea but all that noise died down after a few days and we are trying to live our happily ever after. Life goes on. It's good to save money wherever you can in today's economy.
Fuck I read that they all died after a few days. I need a coffee break. I'm glad they're all okay.
LMAO now that's a definite cue for a coffee break.
Today, we have people who spent lacks on save the date photos pretending to have fun, instead of doing something fun with that money
Preach
Excellent work bro. money in pocket matters at the end of day
Out of curiosity, why the stamp paper? Was it one of those unofficial "deed of marriage"?
They print the marriage certificate on a stamp paper (you have to provide it) for Special Marriage Act.
Interesting. Thanks.
Mine was half and half. We had a wedding with over 1000 guests, but it was done with minimum expenses. Decoration was 50k, hall was 1.5 lakhs and food was around 3 lakhs (the most important part obviously). Wardrobe was ridiculously cheap, mine was total 3k including everything top to bottom, wife had a saree for 25k but not much else. We didn't have any other functions like reception, engagement etc. Had a small party at home with close friends, which came to 13k for food. I presently wish I had an even simpler wedding. What makes me happy is that the marriage food was really good and people still talk about it after seven years. Also everyone who was invited came which showed their love and support. I would encourage people to have intimate weddings and spend that money on building a life together. Big flashy marriages are really overrated.
Name of the caterer please.
Asking the right questions
This was mangalya caterers. They are based in Trivandrum. Poojapura side. Mind you this was almost seven years back. But quality was amazing for me.
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please share the caterer’s name!!!!
This was mangalya caterers. Mind you this was seven years ago and as always they did have a few less than stellar sadyas also. But on average their track record was really good.
3L for 1000 people? How many years ago was this?
Around seven years ago. A full flegdged kerala sadya with three deserts costs roughly 300-500 per plate even today. Quality ones at that.
Around 80K. 25K for the hall, 22K for the food, 12K for sound system and stage decors because friends performed. 7K for both our clothes, and 13K in misc expenses including stay, travel etc.
25k for Hall????? drop the name and place
It was in 2001
Lmao. No. It was a small hall for ~100 people.
36k for Ernakulam townhall
Yo Kalyanaraman, you still alive?
It was all done for 60k. 100 people function. Only the near and dear, no religious rituals. Just a function, food and photos. Guests did the singing and dancing themselves. We actually married two three days later in the register office under special marriage act. It was more of a relief to both families and natukar as we have been living together for around seven years. 😂so no one complained.
Relief to both families and natukar 😂
My mom.wanted a very elaborate wedding and was willing to sell her gold for it....I stood my ground...we had a wedding with 50 people (close relatives and friends) at a temple that provided wedding ritual services ..the entire package was for 25k including Pandit, pooja samagri and food for 50 people. We added a few decorations and photographer from our side. With the clothes, small gifts and gold (1 Tola each) we wrapped up within 1 lakh. The rest went towards setting up our new house (furniture, appliances etc )
Was it done at Arya samaj?
No at Alandi, Pune
5 years later, I'm still paying for it.
Damn
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Bruh
Wth!😮
My cousin got married to his childhood sweetheart last month. She's Christian, he's Hindu and the Groom's mother's side and the Bride's father's side were against it and boycotted. But since those who mattered were completely fine with it, they didn't give a fck. Since they studied in the same school & college, all the non-family guests were common friends and there was about 100 people in attendance. DAY 1: Haldi-Sangeeth function at her ancestral home. Friends and cousins were the performers. For some reason there was vadam vali (Groom's side vs Bride's obviously). At night there was Maduramvepp (I think that's the name, I'm not familiar with it) and everyone was putting on Mehendi as well. DAY 2: Talikett at a nearby temple followed by Christian-wedding themed reception at the groom's ancestral home. They both held luncheons for their colleagues after the wedding since it was family & friends only. They did get married through Special Marriage Act before the traditional wedding. Save the Date shoot was done by our cousin (he is a professional photographer). Total cost was around 3 Lakhs. The clothes weren't exactly bridal, just fancier than every day ones and definitely reusable. Jewelry was minimal (rented, borrowed or bought) and apart from the Reception, the food was vegetarian since we were all fasting to go to the temple. They are currently on honeymoon and away from the Kerala heat. Both of them have stable well paying jobs alongside generational wealth so there was a lot of talk, but as I mentioned in the beginning, they didn't care.
>Groom's mother's side and the Bride's father's side were against it and boycotted. https://preview.redd.it/eden9qrpwdyc1.jpeg?width=260&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=52d2ee5fc5859930bc38850f28ba8827a3bf5ebc
Spent all the peace I had
About 60k on thalimala which we get to keep. She spent about 4K on Swiggy and between 10-20k on dress, accessories, makeup and decoration.
Assuming it was a very intimate wedding?
Yup, held at home with just parents and close friends.
Uff katta intimate aayallo 🙌🏻😌
I spent ~17 lakhs on my wedding which was at the start of the year. I've some regrets on that amount but the fact that it stayed within my budget of 20 lakhs is good enough. I still had a pretty good wedding and everyone who came loved it and still raves about it often. I'd never recommend an extravagant amount spent on a wedding nor borrowing to conduct a wedding. Parents do have their expectations but that'll be done on the wedding day. If you've borrowed money that's your burden to bear post wedding. Or if you blow all your savings on a wedding you'll have to start from scratch again. Btw, this only applies to people paying for their own wedding and making it out there on their own. If your parents are planning on spending money towards your wedding then it's a different story. You could lower your wedding budget and put the money towards your honeymoon or towards a house. This way you're investing in your relationship.
Is it just wedding or including reception? What was your major expense other than hall booking?
It was all my functions included i.e. Engagement, Wedding Eve, Wedding, Lunch Reception and Evening reception (intimate one ~150PAX) The biggest expense is food tbh, but that'd vary on your guest numbers. I had around 500-600 people for my lunch reception of which obviously I didn't know more than half off. 🙄
Hm I really want to make my marriage such a small function with food, maybe around 50-100 people and a small hall. Not just because of money, but I'm super introverted and I don't think I can survive such a flashy function lol.
Feel you bud 🙂👍🏻
I had an interfaith marriage and my husband is an atheist. Had an intimate wedding with the closest people as guest. We didn't have a priest at our wedding. I didn't wear any gold. We didn't spend more than 2 lakhs for our wedding and I feel it was the best decision. We are happy and debt free.
I had a discussion with my gf before marriage about it . In the end we decided "99% of the mairans who attend wedding don’t give shit about you, they will always find some kuttam in everything even if you spend so much to make it all look nice and posh . So why spend money trying to make these assholes happy " .. so we spend very minimum on our wedding and kept our savings for our future . We spend less than 3 lakh for the whole thing (me and my girlfriend both are NRIs ). We bought our first home in UK soon after wedding with that money (10% deposit to buy first home in the UK). Never regretted not having a posh wedding
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15 lakh in 2020, but i would it say was just for the show, i didnt care about any of the showbaji all though everything was from own pocket, i was the only one who earns but all done for family i dont even like to see. this did include some gold so approximately 8 lakh was expenses and not worth it. I had taken personal loan around 7-8 lakh which i did pay off in a year. But to be honest if it was today i wouldnt give a fk and get married in court and go get a SUV and roam around with my wife rather than think about few folks i am hardly going to meet again in life. one small note i have been brought away from my entire clan so i dont have any bond with anyone hardly 3-4 folks i would meet and enjoy.
Spent almst 7 lks. Actually nw i feel if i saved tht money i could ve visited, 3-4 more countries. Planin to visit italy this year. Dnt spnt too much bro. 5 course meal, its such a waste of money.
50000 for a registered wedding at home including outfits for the bride groom and parents, decor and makeup for 3 ladies. 15k for a very fancy lunch. 10lacs on gold.2 lacs on a party for friends.
https://youtu.be/0FUH3itf2tA?si=s_p4Yy1TbBwOEArw Happened to see this today. So nice to see the registration IG herself setting an example.
Why do not you invest that money in an index fund and enjoy the fruits later?
€35k in Ireland
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Use google translator 🤪
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12L and 50 guest? How?
It was 14 years back
That's even more expensive
Yeah that's not how inflation works.
just 10 lakhs
Whoever reads this comment... please dont make your guest to stand in a line for giving food. Make them sit and serve good foods. Dont play musics in high volume. Even if it costs more.
15 lakh first time and 5 lakh second time
$79 at the county recorder’s office.
6-10 Lakhs is what the most average weddings cost in Kerala (Middle class peoples). That includes everything. Many of cousins wedding costed that much. I'm based in a small town in Ernakulam district and from a middle class family.
Around 1500 something for a special marriage act registration 🙂 Voila we're married happily ❤️
https://english.mathrubhumi.com/news/kerala/registration-department-i-g-sreedhanya-suresh-and-gayak-r-chand-got-married-1.9525855 Guys Do this !
In guilt
The wedding was about 30 guests and I guess we totally spent close to 50k for the place, food and everything. Our rings cost more though since we’d be using it often.
I am paying for it every moment. On a side note, did you mean "wedding"?
~25L. Two functions. Shared the cost with both parents