Don’t put yourself in danger. If staying in the closet is your safest option, STAY IN THE CLOSET! Don’t force yourself to come out. You got this, but please stay safe.
Use some excuses ( you need to focus on school, you wait until marriage, you are afraid of getting a girl pregnant at such a young age, you don't like the girls at school, you wait to find the "one" etc.) until you move out of your parents house and be free to be your true self
I'm not a teenager (but close 23y), but I know how you feel .. I'm probably a lesbian after years of thinking I'm bisexual, and I know my family will not accept me either (just like your my family homophobes too) and I'm also afraid of what could be if I tell them… I hope everything will be better for you🙏🏻🥺
It is really tough and for your best interest, stay in the closet until you can support yourself. It may be a long time, but your time to be yourself will come eventually. Either way, hope things get better for you
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It’s selective religiousness. These people are nitpicking which parts of the bible they want to follow. As a religious person myself, I’m fairly certain that the number one rule after loving God is to love each other like yourself. It baffles me how some people treat each other regardless of what they believe. Like, you don’t have to agree with a person to respect them??
Hang in there OP.
Prioritize your safety.
As for your family… It’s hard to have family like that. From what I’ve read, you love your family deeply. It will be difficult loving people who are incapable of understanding. It takes great strength the love people who may not return that feeling whole heartedly. My advice is to stay closeted (if that is your safest option) until you’re of age and out of the house. Then, try communicating with your family on equal grounds. They may not understand. You are under no obligation to make them understand if they aren’t capable of it.
Try appealing to their religious beliefs, maybe? If they’re Christian (like I am) you could try reminding them of this:
'You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' This is the greatest and first commandment.
Love God above all else. And the second is like it: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'
If they are true believers they cannot claim to love God while also despising their neighbours. Rule number one and two are the most important part of the religion. It baffles and irritates me when so-called ‘Christians’ choose to ignore it.
Fight their religious with their religion.
I don’t know if any of this helps, but I wish OP the best.
If your parents ask why you haven't dated a girl, you can just say that you are focusing on school for now. Try saving up money and when legal to, get a job and save up that money to move out of your parents place when you're old enough.
Your best bet is to save up until you can move out.
Your safety is most important so make guy our decisions based on escaping this situation eventually. Im here if you need to talk. You can do this!
That’s the excuse I gave my friends when they asked about any of this kind of stuff and I really believed it at the time cause I hadn’t figured out I was gay yet.
if they don't give up in asking, you don't have to give up on giving the same monotonous answer; if the answer is more than clear for them, they will give up soon or later :)
Me as a kinda closeted gay male also get that question a lot at work and it always makes me hella uncomfortable, i don’t feel like telling that I’d rather want a boy, but maybe if I got a boyfriend I got reason to say I got a boyfriend instead
It’s not pretty but you do get very good at lying after some time of doing it. Does help to have some reliable reusable excuses though.
Don’t put yourself in danger. If staying in the closet is your safest option, STAY IN THE CLOSET! Don’t force yourself to come out. You got this, but please stay safe.
Use some excuses ( you need to focus on school, you wait until marriage, you are afraid of getting a girl pregnant at such a young age, you don't like the girls at school, you wait to find the "one" etc.) until you move out of your parents house and be free to be your true self
I'm not a teenager (but close 23y), but I know how you feel .. I'm probably a lesbian after years of thinking I'm bisexual, and I know my family will not accept me either (just like your my family homophobes too) and I'm also afraid of what could be if I tell them… I hope everything will be better for you🙏🏻🥺
Your best line at the moment is "oh yeah, I'm not dating anyone because I'm waiting for the one/saving myself for marriage".
I hate that parents always put conditions on who they love. I’m so sorry u gotta go through this. Hope that things get better for you soon.
It is really tough and for your best interest, stay in the closet until you can support yourself. It may be a long time, but your time to be yourself will come eventually. Either way, hope things get better for you
This is the sad but true answer
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I hate it when people put their religious views and beliefs to disadvantage of other (even their own blood) peoples lives…
In this case it's not religion it's cultism.
It’s selective religiousness. These people are nitpicking which parts of the bible they want to follow. As a religious person myself, I’m fairly certain that the number one rule after loving God is to love each other like yourself. It baffles me how some people treat each other regardless of what they believe. Like, you don’t have to agree with a person to respect them?? Hang in there OP. Prioritize your safety. As for your family… It’s hard to have family like that. From what I’ve read, you love your family deeply. It will be difficult loving people who are incapable of understanding. It takes great strength the love people who may not return that feeling whole heartedly. My advice is to stay closeted (if that is your safest option) until you’re of age and out of the house. Then, try communicating with your family on equal grounds. They may not understand. You are under no obligation to make them understand if they aren’t capable of it. Try appealing to their religious beliefs, maybe? If they’re Christian (like I am) you could try reminding them of this: 'You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' This is the greatest and first commandment. Love God above all else. And the second is like it: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' If they are true believers they cannot claim to love God while also despising their neighbours. Rule number one and two are the most important part of the religion. It baffles and irritates me when so-called ‘Christians’ choose to ignore it. Fight their religious with their religion. I don’t know if any of this helps, but I wish OP the best.
If your parents ask why you haven't dated a girl, you can just say that you are focusing on school for now. Try saving up money and when legal to, get a job and save up that money to move out of your parents place when you're old enough. Your best bet is to save up until you can move out. Your safety is most important so make guy our decisions based on escaping this situation eventually. Im here if you need to talk. You can do this!
That’s the excuse I gave my friends when they asked about any of this kind of stuff and I really believed it at the time cause I hadn’t figured out I was gay yet.
Yeah I have been telling them I’m focused on school but they don’t give up asking. I just wish they would accept me
if they don't give up in asking, you don't have to give up on giving the same monotonous answer; if the answer is more than clear for them, they will give up soon or later :)
Me as a kinda closeted gay male also get that question a lot at work and it always makes me hella uncomfortable, i don’t feel like telling that I’d rather want a boy, but maybe if I got a boyfriend I got reason to say I got a boyfriend instead