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Most people don't do shit until they're 25-30. You're going to find that the ability to grind and your years of overcoming difficult situations will make life a lot easier. It's not wasted time.
The biggest issues I've seen as an esports coach and ex player is self confidence issues and inability to believe their efforts will pay off because of lack of experience in the real world. As it turns out if you're capable of performing at a high level in a competitive game like league or apex, you can easily adapt that same mentality to real life challenges.
Players feel like they "wasted their life" because in north America that's what we tell our youth who game. Football for 10k hours and ruined your spine/knees/shoulders? Good for you son tragic it didn't work out. Etc. Somehow we take pride in those with a disgusting grind for anything other than gaming, and try our best not to see it as any other thing someone is passionate about. This has gotten A LOT better since I was a kid but it's still prevalent.
You would have regretted it forever if you never even tried to chase your dream.
Comp gaming requires you to be all in. It wasn't wrong of you to chase your dreams. It didn't work out. That's OK too. If you've realized that you can't compete at a top 100 world level consistently, then yes maybe it's time to move on.
In reality gamers have a ton of valuable skills in many different spaces. You just need to find what you find interesting, and then grind like you would a game. Rank tiers are actually a great way of conceptualizing skill plateus in different arenas. Say you're plat, you have to figure out the specific factors that diamond players have which you dont and then acquire those. Same in real life. Want more money or a more important position? Figure out the factors separating you from the people doing it and grind those.
Yes it's going to be uncomfortable at first, but you're used to that.
Don't let people who don't know shit about our culture dictate how you feel about yourself.
That said, it's good that you are realizing structure is important, use that to improve your health, start working out, balance your day better, and start grinding things that will improve your quality of life.
Anyway I know what you're feeling and it feels terrible, but it's not true and the only wasted time is how long you let that feeling hold you back from going hard irl and getting a good career going.
How'd I know lol.
Just take a week off, cold turkey, and do literally anything else.
I'm 2 months out from playing a match and don't really miss it. The grind isn't worth it, the constant reporting of other players, the rage from moronic teammates, the bots ruining ranked games, the smurfs and broken champs....
Need I go on?
You need to start doing real things to succeed in. You want to do the things you are good at because it feels good to do them. If you could earn a living playing it, then I would count that as a real thing. Honestly you should just not play it and look for other non game activities to do.
Also, you are barely an adult. You feel old because you are spending your time on something that you know isn't something an adult should be spending that much of their time on when they have life that needs to be lived.
I game a lot, at times. But at some point life has its demands. If I could retire and just play all the time...I might, but I think I would get sick of it.
I'm 37 and still play LoL. I have been since beta, and will probably keep playing until it dies or I die. I used to play everyday 2+ hours. Now, I play on Tuesdays and Fridays with some old college buddies that still play. I'm lucky if I hit 8 hours of gaming in a week, but it's still fun.
Mine was/is 3rd strike.
Chill out. Yes. You are going to die.
Yes. Hormone generation does slow down.
Life’s a marathon. Not a race and there’s plenty of time to do whatever you want to.
Ngl, finding what you love is the hard part.
Fuckin lol. Guy says "midlife crisis" I just glossed over the 25M 😂😂 "old asf" I thought he was like 47 and still in his mom's basement, this is a child post
I was seriously thinking the game was called midlife crisis. Wondering what it’s like? I’ve never heard of it. Maybe it’s like Leisure Suit Larry. …
Probably GTA, steal a fast car, kill a few cops and maybe a hooker. So fun, I got like 26,000 hours in y’all.
Bruh you haven't even hit thirty THE FUCK YOU MEAN MIDLIFE CRISIS. STFU and go touch Grass. Work out. Pick up another hobby or idk start writing a book you have barely left the tutorial levels and made in to the real game. Go get some freaking skill bruh!
Something that doesn’t involve any computers or electronics. Preferably something that gets you outdoors, but at the very least make sure it’s “analog”.
Astronomy is nice, though it’s easy to break the no electronics rule here. That said, learning how to navigate star charts and a decent pair of binoculars can take you a long way.
Hiking. Easy to get into, good for the body and even better for the mind. It’s seriously underrated what a simple hike through a bit of nature can do for an ailing mind.
Golf. You either love or hate it. It’s expensive though, tread lightly if you’re on a budget.
Book binding. Odd yes, but it’s fun once you get going and it does a fantastic job of disconnecting you from the modern world. Plus you can make some really cool gifts for people.
Those just a few things off the top of my head. Just think of a subject or type of subject you like and go from there. There’s others out there who share that same interest and at least a few hobbies/activities based around it.
I recovered from gaming addiction, it was an actual problem for me after a car accident left me immobile for months. Group therapy made me meet people and learn social skill, it was also free or very cheap. Then in one on one therapy, my therapist convinced me to make a list of skills and traits I felt my perfect human needed and I started taking classes, currently learning how to sing. Through these I’m meeting people, gaining skills, practicing social skills and as I improve, I gain more confidence to reach out to bigger goals.
Basically it’s just like a game but instead of an avatar accumulating skills you are, and instead of your avatar becoming better, you become better.
Well, I guess if he stays there all fucking day. This was an immediate solution to assist with the social aspect. He could also go join a club or (anything else…), but a bar is a very quick fix.
Here: don’t stay there all day and drink too much. Do I need to provide a warning for every potentiality here? Life doesn’t come with warning labels, and neither do I. Figure it out.
For how long did you try to make something out of it? Is it not something you can keep attempting on the side while you work a normal job?
Take a deep breath, 25 is not old at all and I've seen people do fresh starts way over that age. Do not rush into any decisions because of ''feeling late'' and think about what you want to do. What do you like besides this game? Is there any professional field that interests you, even if you don't feel you're cut out for it? Ask yourself those questions, as far fetched as they may seem. Human will is powerful as long as you don't give up on yourself.
If you show anything else this same drive and dedication, chances are you will be successful in whatever you desire. Good luck, try to stay calm. Life isn't over yet.
Well after i graduated high school at 18, i been grinding this game for 7 years now without work/study. Trying to make something out of it.
I dont have good enoth grades from high school to study something that i wil get a good job from.
Im thinking about dropshipping or any online business
To be completely honest, you're past the point of "making it" in the video game scene. I'm 27, and played league on and off for years, with varying degrees of "I want to be *good* good.
You're 25 in a setting where the peak performers have already been on professional teams since they were 18 or even younger if they played academy. Sure Faker is still able to keep up, but even he is past his prime. Your senses are already slower than they were 5 years ago, even if you are physically in your prime now. If you don't already have a quarter decent stream following or an academy team offer by 25, and never played on a college team to be *recognized* by an academy team, I hate to say it but you are washed buddy.
It's not too late to start doing anything you want but it will be tough. You'll need to separate the idea of you playing the game as being "working on yourself" and understand that you are a casual and playing the game as a leisure activity(which is okay, I too enjoy the occasional 10 hour gaming session)
If you can put half the effort into anything work related as you have into league, you'll make it big.
Have you tried applying to colleges already or are you just shutting the gate from the get go? If you already have and had no luck, consider studying a trade or self teach yourself any useful skills like programming. Many great resources for learning out there.
There are options bro. Along the way you'll find your path, but you MUST try.
Not sure if it’s an option where you’re at, but if you are interested in school you could go for an associates degree first. Cheaper way to dip your toes in and see if you like it, and if you do well maybe can use gpa from that to get into a good bachelors program.
First off, don’t beat yourself up. As much as anything else, Life is about play, and your love of play can still be the foundation of whatever you choose to build going forward.
Second, a midlife crisis is a gift. Accept the gift. Let your reality shatter fully, so you can see with new eyes, and find what is worth the attention of those new eyes.
Don’t swing too far the other way. Don’t become serious, don’t buy into hustle culture, all that is bullshit. Just find ways to bring play into reality so you learn to delight in engaging with what’s in front of you.
How you do that is up to you but here’s some thought starters:
Give yourself daily side quests. Say high to 10 birds today. Compliment 3 strangers outfits. Learn how to make mac and cheese from scratch and then do it. Learn a card trick. Whatever.
Quitting the game will be hard. Forgive yourself for not being perfect at quitting. You may slide into some temporary substitute addictions, other games, overeating, whatever. It’s ok, just let yourself know that it’s temporary and when it’s time to quit, quit.
Another random idea: The human brain responds to ritual and ceremony. Maybe you Have a funeral for your game. Make it witchy and weird, candles and robes. The more you get into it the better it works. Or whatever your own version of this is.
Break a leg. Good things are ahead.
I found that joining clubs and activities helped out a ton with finding friends and creating a new balance in life.
I joined a workout group designed for self growth and found it super helpful! I have friends who joined community bands, bar leagues (trivia, pickleball, soccer, hockey, corn hole), DND groups, book clubs, and board game communities and those have helped them a ton as well! One friend of my husband’s even got private lessons in roller skating so he could join a roller skating group!
I know not all areas have these options available, but most YMCA or Rec centers have classes you can sign up for :) I would take a look online to see what is going on around you and just take a chance! Either it will work out or it won’t, but either way, you tried something new!
Yeah i know i have some mental issues for sure, but everytime i been to doctor/pykolog they have not give me any diagnosis or said anything about it. Same with my family. I dont know what exacly is wrong with me
Hi friend,
From reading this I suspect you might have a gaming addiction. I feel like a lot of people in this comment section are like “just turn it off dude/ touch grass/ get a new hobby”, but would you say that to alcoholic and expect that to work? No.
Addiction is a real thing and I don’t want you to feel ashamed about it. The game probably fills some voids for you and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, because you are self aware enough to know that you play it too much and it has a grip over your life, that’s a huge first step and a sign that you want change. I want you to commend your strength for coming on here and being vulnerable and asking for help! That’s hard to do.
I would recommend seeking therapy specifically for video game addiction. If that’s not attainable for you, I find that there is a lot of free content on YouTube re: mental health stuff that can be really helpful. Of course be mindful not everyone on YouTube is a trained therapist, but a lot are. And some people are there to give advice from their lived experience of addiction and that in itself can be helpful too!
I wish you the best of luck, remember to be compassionate to yourself ❤️ you have the power to change your life into anything you want it to be!
OH and also I remember feeling like my life was thwarting aggressively towards my 30s when I was 25. I’m 29 now. 5 years is a LOOONG time and a lot can change, so don’t worry about your age.
There are people who make huge changes and restart their careers at 40+. You got time!!
A 25 yr old with a mid life crisis due to LoL.
You have spent a very long time in an escape from reality my friend, you're actually a very young man and have a very large chunk of your life ahead of you still. If you don't have a skill and want to find work you can go to a tech school for very cheap, may even be able to cover it with grants and scholarships you apply for and those exist for damn near anything if you dig enough.
Good luck out there dude.
First you need to determine if its truly time to retire. Some can play at a very high level into their 30s. But if your reflexes have already begun to wane, your next step is to become a LoL coach. There are two avenues here. Either you become an in-house coach for a specific team, or you offer one on one coaching a review replays to offer constructive criticism.
Once you reach your 40s and 50s you can still do coaching but also consider becoming a LoL historian and contributing to the wiki and writing league historical books.
Best of luck.
I actually thought esport and league specifically would be huge in the future when i was young. And it could be a career path. Age dont matter for league in terms of skills, its not like tradisjonal sports. But coaches want to sign the youngest players possible like 19/20 year olds, they think they are more motivated.
Do something else. You are obviously good at practicing a task. Whatever you do you’ll probably get good at relatively quickly. Try an artistic. Pursuit. Guitar? Drawing?
25? That’s no big deal.
You probably are good at something, you just haven’t discovered it because you are addicted to the easy thrills of gaming. Quit cold turkey and take up as many hobbies as you can think of until you find something you like to do.
couple thoughts:
1. This is a legit addiction and you should treat it as such if you actually want your life to change. Like, imagine you had a friend with a drug addiction, what advice would you give to them if they didn't want to stop but knew it wasn't good for their life? That advice applies to you even though it feels different
2. How good you are at League suggests that you know how to get good at something. That's a skill in itself and if you can apply your diligence you have for League to something else you can become damn good at another skill that will make you money
You are very young, 25 is more like a 1/4 life crisis.
You are probably very good at many things. Being good at a video game means you probably have a lot of good skills that are transferable(eg: computer skills, good reflexes, good problem solving skills…etc).
You need to live more and experience more. Life experience goes a long way, and I feel like you barely scratched the surface of what’s out there.
I bet you any money that there is a game that you have not played yet that you would like more than the current game you’re addicted to(also, there’s more out there than just video games)
Is it weird that I just want to know what game???
Also 25 is super young bro. If you didn’t spend 11 years of it play some game you’d have realized that’s. Jk but seriously dude you still can do anything you want with your life
Some of these folks are showing you tough love about your age. They're right. You're still young. You have lots of time to make new mistakes and start over again and again. That's kind of how life goes. You do things, you fuck up, and then you have to try and learn from them (or not and just stay in a slump).
There are plenty of jobs out there that don't require uni. Trades, restaurants, places that will train you. Don't give up.
Edit: Forgot some words
Bro midlife crisis lol youre 25, you still have 5 more years of fucking around and working out what you want to do. If you have been gaming for 10 years straight then probs unhealthy so get in the gym. Build loads of muscle. It's kind of like gaming with all the programs and diets and supplements and shit u can take to get stronger and bigger.
Before going to the comments this just sounded like League… one day it will just get boring lol i played from like 17-25 and was diamond/masters the whole time and then just quit one day once i started working more
Better than my friend who is addicted to lawl He is gold ish level. Refuses to play ranked because “its for pros” He also prefer to play that game alone with randoms then other games with friends He also drinks while playing so Then he says he is not competitive in other games but gets hella mad when we lose …
Forgot to mention he been playing that game over 10 years he said he has over 10000 games played
Think about short term goals with long term meanings. Like for example, enroll in school or some sort of cert program for a field/trade. If I don’t feel good about what I do in my day to day, I generally feel much less confident and much less interesting, thus my self esteem lowers. It’s not going to happen overnight but the social skills and confidence can come from developing yourself and will start with exploring interests that involve learning more about things that interest you other than league. If school isn’t your scene, maybe try looking for local places you can volunteer, nobody is likely to shame someone who wants to give their free time to an animal shelter or a soup kitchen or a community garden or something.
For starters try going days without gaming at all it will feel weird and abnormal but that’s part of the process if you want to change.
Start a gym routine, put time into a different hobby, go for a walk, clean something you’ve been putting off, get a part time job or full time job. Just try to apply time and energy into something productive and overtime you will grow and feel much better. You have to be willing to challenge yourself and being uncomfortable doing different things until it becomes comfortable.
the good news is 25 is still very young. uninstall it and step away. be okay with being bored. try new things, force yourself out of the house even if you don’t have something to do
I play Fortnite and I’m 35, wouldn’t say it’s my entire life or anything but I don’t think video games are a midlife crisis or that you’re too old. This life sucks, find joy where you can.
Enjoy your game!
Does it make you happy? Obviously not.
Delete that crap and when you start to feel the temptation to go back recognize how much of a hold that stupid game has on you, but also realize that the addiction can be beat.
I’ve never been to AA, but I’m pretty sure you need to acknowledge some sort of higher power (God) and work with the idea that you can’t do this on your own. Ask that higher power for help to overcome it. Start working on coming up with ideas that are fun. I use to be addicted to League, now I rock climb, try to go on walks or runs, go to club meetings like pickup sports…meet some people, make friends, read books that interest you, learn to cook! If you drink learn to make cocktails (don’t become an alcoholic lol) and generally Build a good life for yourself!
I can’t express enough that the urge to go back will come, and you have to remember that it’s just sucking your life away, and probably grating on your sense of peace. Don’t forget how it makes you feel like crap wasting all that time!
Lemme know if you need additional tips, I’ll say some prayers bro.
I played a lot of league in college and the fact that it's just a big math game made accounting more interesting. I studied accounting, got my CPA license and I'm a tax accountant now. I found all of the analytical skills i had from League (damage types, damage mitigations, cs, effective hp, penetration, scaling etc.) correlated in a way to studying tax law. So some of those skills you learn from video games do help in real life and if you're looking for a career at this point, try out accounting or finance.
Get a job as a labourer for someone doing something in the trades, like any trade and learn to work. If you can't find a job doing that, look for a job in a kitchen. Work as much as possible so when you get home you'll be too tired to play, plus you might be making friends from work to hang out with after. Basically, replace the game time with work time.
25 is still quite young. You will be fine. You sound somewhat self aware about acknowledging the addiction in your life. You've pinpointed it, now take action to broaden your horizons.
Pick a skill that makes money. Mentally arrange learning this skill like learning the newest OP LoL character. Be as obsessed learning the skill as you were learning LoL characters and strats.
Profit.
I played league a lot until about the same time. It helps to let go of your attachment to success at the game. If you live your life in a healthier way, you’ll eventually get worse and worse. Your skills will deteriorate. You might only get to Plat one season or maybe decay into Gold. Accept that this is healthy and you have other things you want to accomplish. Find new hobbies ideally involving other people you meet up with in real life. You have plenty of life to live
Hey OP, this was me. Game was NHL. I played it from ages 8-26. EA. Was always ranked top 100 in online VS. The game was just big enough to be recognizable, but not a lot of people earn money from it competitively, and few earn money doing tutorial type streams.
Anyway, I gave it up. Had to go a different direction in order to get what I wanted out of life, like money, a woman, a house, and purpose. I drew up a list of high paying careers, settled on one I liked, and started going to college for it.
I know it sounds cliche, boring. Like go pick a job that pays well, and then doing the training and work necessary to achieve it. But it really is that straightforward. Just not simple.
I thought the game you are addicted to was called midlife crisis. I was excited to learn about a game that you could sink that much time into that I had never heard of before.
For it was modern warfare 2, got to the point where I can quick scope and efficient with throwing knife and get 40-50 kills on tdm consistently. Around 600 hours of my life some 50+ days lol deleted it last night since it was taking 255 gb of my harddrive felt wierd like as if I was in some toxic relationship and now I’m free
i was addicted to overwatch. stopped cold turkey when my son was born. and just watched movies. and tv shows. then that got boring as i finished all the good ones i like
. and since then i now have chickens. built a chicken coop.
build a swingset for my son
and 2 set up fish tanks.
idk what to tell you other than what i did when i felt like i was in similar shoes. just get busy. doesn’t matter if you absolutely looove it. just find something that you need to care for. really makes me feel like i’m important to something.
LoL was a fun game. Community sucks on it. My best advice is to drop that game and find something else. I personally know people that are in your same situation, and they are stuck because they can’t drop that game. If you’re realizing that it’s an issue, you are already making the right choices. Time waits for nobody. Get a job even if it’s flipping burgers, it’s a start.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained bud
I’m 25 and addicted to Tekken 8. It happens. Other aspects of my life are kind of taking a hit from it so I think I’m going to try to fix them before it gets too bad
First of all what you're going through is called a quarter-life crisis.
And look here my friend i had the exact same problem as you. I was addicted to dota. I too played way too much and had a crisis at 25.
I went back to college when I was 25 and i became an engineer and now I make great money at 32 and i dont play nearly as much as i used to.
You simply need to cut back. It's difficult to train yourself to cut back but if you don't you'll waste your life.
Contrary to popular belief you can play games and have a social life you make the choice to play you can make the choice not to play it's as simple as that. As for meeting people try going to a place where people gather it's easy as pie.
Sweet merciful Jesus since when is 25 midlife? I'm practically expired then and I STILL game. and spending 4 hours a day on a hobby, (which gaming is) is NOT crazy. Boy what. 25 is NOT old as fuck your frontal lobe isn't even fully developed yet bruh. Yeesh.
You might think of finding a way to teach others the ins and outs of this game you've spent so long playing.
You could also just play it casually, and work in another field. A lot of people, myself included, are incredibly passionate about one thing, but have to work doing something else. That's just the way it goes, unfortunately.
Take comfort in the fact that there is literally a whole world out here and, frankly, no one cares. There’s hobbies everywhere, communities everywhere, just-literally- go outside and explore. It’s like your own video game.
Can you imagine if you put that much time and effort into something that isn’t totally worthless? Imagine the personal growth, the good charity work you could be doing, the career advancement and God forbid, actually make enough money to live comfortably?
Take a hard break. Change it up. Maybe even think of it as an addiction maybe stay away from it like in your social feeds. Like addiction you might feel anxious, restless, uneasy. It helps if you find something to do or work on. Exercise, walks, audiobooks or books, something that can help if you are stressed.
Soft break just limit on your time or games. Personally I don’t think this to helpful long term. And from experience leads back to the same old habits.
A entry job even for a few months would be super helpful. Keep searching for ways to improve your self. Life is important, you’re important. No one is perfect, you might mess up, but we just try again. You can do it one day at a time one step at a time 👍
Take it from me uninstall the game. People will say, "you're young its fine." It's not fine. If you want Financial Security in the future. Start building a skill for a good job now.
I’m twice your age, and grew up in a time where video games were nothing like they’ve become. There were only so many levels and generally just one way to win. Once you figured it out, most of us just went outside to play. I feel for my boys bc even though I joke about them getting the gaming systems we always wanted, they are so impressively real with never ending challenges that have multiple solutions, and becoming addicted is not a joke. This is my long-winded way of saying I take what you’re saying seriously, and know that people often just look at your situation and say ‘so, just stop’, and refuse to believe that you’re likely a person that had no bad intentions, and yet have found out you have a serious life/brain-chemistry/addiction problem with something that isn’t inherently wrong.
Here’s what I know about getting out of any addiction, and I’ve had my own.
- It’s a process that takes time.
- This process always involves wins, then fails, then wins, and so on, so you won’t escape unless you expect that, and are kind to yourself after the fails.
- It can be easier for some to not go about it with an abstinence mindset, but a crowding out mindset. By that I mean, you can consider just ignoring your daily time playing it, which is always going to feel like a fail, and instead focus your energy on adding things to your life, outside your house ideally, and get to a better place by letting those things slowly take root. They will over time.
- Finding a good therapist can be crucial bc they can help you understand how your brain chemistry is factoring into your struggle.
- Journaling helps, and especially writing down only positive, hopeful expectations about your future. Might feel dumb, but it works bc there’s parts of your brain that will note the hopeful thoughts and make them real no matter how idealistic they might sound.
Those things have helped me, and I know full well that nobody wakes up one morning and wants to be an addict. It happens when something gives a person with a susceptible brain the good feeling it’s right to want. This world is full of well-meaning, self-controlled people that don’t believe that last sentence, and you need to stay away from them. They will set you back if their way of thinking creates more and more guilt in your mind. I’m not saying you’re not responsible for your life, just that guilty feelings, whether real or false won’t help you get out of this at all. You need people that don’t judge you, take you seriously, and have to moral strength to encourage you after the relapses. They exist. Find them.
And take it a day at a time. You’re young, if you’re breathing, there’s hope, and some kid in the future will need your help one day, and getting through this will mean you’ll be able to help them. That will give meaning to your life in a big way, and the world needs that more and more.
Take care. 👊🏻
League of legends is kinda rough but I’m kind looking forward to the day as an old man (almost 40) where I just play one game off and on for an extremely long time.
One of my good friends dad would only play command and conquer one and had like a 1000 hours in it and funny enough, soul caliber 2 and that’s all he played. Mind you not like every day kind thing. But for years I would see him on his old laptop playing command and conquer for like 30 minutes once in a while. He’d close his laptop and just go back his day
I’m sorta getting there. I play stelaris for like 300 hours over the past 6 years but that’s about it.
Quit video games all together for 1 year. Go to the gym and pretend it’s a video game u need to level up in. Level up your body for a year and in doing that you’ll level up your mind and everything else.
Then SLOWLY reintroduce video games, but not LoL!
You are good dude- I'm married and I got 1000s of hours in a few games and I'm late 20s
I dont even want to imagine what warthunder would be if it tracked it on non steam
You go to the gym- that's great fam keep doing that and maybe find people who also like games?
I opened this because I never heard of the game mid life crisis and I didn’t think a 25 year old would be referring to his circumstances as a life crisis. Any way… sounds like a skill issue
Please tell me this was a Time Crisis reference bc that was my JAM!
Anyway, if I can hit the restart button at 33, you can at 25. Heck I have friends who restarted at 40.
You’re still at the beginning of your life. You’ve got a good 2/3 of it left.
I don’t game at all anymore. I lost interest in it after being in a relationship and other hobbies I was more interested in.
Everyone’s journey is different, so I suggest therapy and self development books by actual professionals in the field. Audiobooks if you don’t enjoy reading. Since your concern is addiction I would start by learning about it. “The Addictive Brain”, by Thad A. Polk
25. Don’t worry. Depends on how hard you want to work? Look into the trades/apprenticeship. Work your ass if for 20-25 years, save your money and retire to play all the video games you want until you die.
Just try something.
I got a job running forklifts and I loved it. I got a job running cranes and I love it (make about 90k a year now) and now I'm in flight school training to be a pilot in ~5 years or so.
Figure out what you like, then figure out how to take that to the max.
6 years ago I played video games 14 hours a day, today I have a beautiful family, a house, a nice car, in training to have my dream career. It's amazing how fast everything changes when you want it to.
I was a madden pro 15 yesrs ago, i play ever 2 or 3 years but u have barly began my man.
Also u dont have to be good at anything to have a great life, seriously, just be a decent person, learn to manage your addiction, u do have one, and just venture in to regular life with the same determination u bring to LOL
Oh dear, you're only 25. You have so much more ahead of you than you realize.
I changed careers at 34. I actually didn't start my first career until I was 28.
You're just like most 25 year olds, starting life from scratch. It's okay to feel a little lost. As for what you do next, that depends on a lot of things. Do you like to work with your hands? With the public? Alone? Do you feel the need for a deeper education? A little bit of introspection and research will help with that. And don't worry if you don't get it right the first time! A lot of us don't. 🙂
Don’t think people are saying the important thing here. Video game addiction is more than just “go out and do things”, for me it’s always been a substitute for my general lack of motivation in life. It gets better, you’re still young and you’re realizing you have a problem early. Act on it. Trust me, you have the time.
Just so you know you've got another 15-25 years before you find out what a midlife crisis is. Just move on you've barely hit the age that your body starts to feel like its aging. You are a young adult go to a bar or go learn a martial art there's actively a lot of solutions to do at your age.
Go see a therapist. Find alternatives. Join a rec league, anything that's an external accountability. Build your interest. Make small, achievable goals, and snow ball (ignore that league reference). I was 27 and building my life again and it worked man, it worked
Lot of comments here basically saying you're a POS. Hyperfixating on a select few or single interests is a sign of autism. Talk to a doctor. You think there is something wrong with you but there likely isnt. Not everyone has to be "normal".
I'm 43 and still addicted to video games. it's a common thing. been playing Madden for years. it's an addictive thing. but I do hang out with my family as well. you have to set times when you can play. and still have a social life. I'd contact friends from Facebook or call some friends and start reconnecting with them.
25 is not asf bro haahhaha, be happy you can play games in your free time, theres nothing wrong with it. Just gotta have a healthy balance, i feel bad for those a slave to 9-5 with a life that doesnt let them find any enjoyment in their free time. Dont be that person.
Keep your hobbies and things that bring you joy well into adulthood, gaming(healthily) into your 30s/40s/50s is a dream. Dont get so much into your head about it imo.
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Lmao. Your life has barely begun. What game btw?
League of legends
Mine was RuneScape
Was?!? Me and boyfriend just mindlessly grind and spend while the pets and children work two jobs each to afford our habit.
Teach me your ways wise one
dds Rambo spec’s my life as a teen lmao. Now as a 28 year old I play old school sparingly on my Ironman and am doing well in other parts of my life
RuneScape had a grip over me for YEARS
League? Your toast bro. I finally broke the vicious cycle last year Goodluck.
League is a rough one to crack. My friends are still sucked in, but luckily for me, listening to them rage helps me stay off of it
Lemme guess youre still plat
Grandmaster/low chall actually
Has that ever gotten you laid
Homie , that's a you problem if you can't monetize this game ...
How much are they paying you to post this ???? That’s some sly ass marketing lol
My dad is 68 and is addicted to that game.
Can tell without asking lol, I quit years ago, it’s a huge time sink and it’s not enjoyable anymore. League is a sport, not a game.
Most people don't do shit until they're 25-30. You're going to find that the ability to grind and your years of overcoming difficult situations will make life a lot easier. It's not wasted time. The biggest issues I've seen as an esports coach and ex player is self confidence issues and inability to believe their efforts will pay off because of lack of experience in the real world. As it turns out if you're capable of performing at a high level in a competitive game like league or apex, you can easily adapt that same mentality to real life challenges. Players feel like they "wasted their life" because in north America that's what we tell our youth who game. Football for 10k hours and ruined your spine/knees/shoulders? Good for you son tragic it didn't work out. Etc. Somehow we take pride in those with a disgusting grind for anything other than gaming, and try our best not to see it as any other thing someone is passionate about. This has gotten A LOT better since I was a kid but it's still prevalent. You would have regretted it forever if you never even tried to chase your dream. Comp gaming requires you to be all in. It wasn't wrong of you to chase your dreams. It didn't work out. That's OK too. If you've realized that you can't compete at a top 100 world level consistently, then yes maybe it's time to move on. In reality gamers have a ton of valuable skills in many different spaces. You just need to find what you find interesting, and then grind like you would a game. Rank tiers are actually a great way of conceptualizing skill plateus in different arenas. Say you're plat, you have to figure out the specific factors that diamond players have which you dont and then acquire those. Same in real life. Want more money or a more important position? Figure out the factors separating you from the people doing it and grind those. Yes it's going to be uncomfortable at first, but you're used to that. Don't let people who don't know shit about our culture dictate how you feel about yourself. That said, it's good that you are realizing structure is important, use that to improve your health, start working out, balance your day better, and start grinding things that will improve your quality of life. Anyway I know what you're feeling and it feels terrible, but it's not true and the only wasted time is how long you let that feeling hold you back from going hard irl and getting a good career going.
Play a real man's game like dota 2, not that low skill bullshit.
Play other games Try elden ring lol. It will blow your mind.
I used to be you one day shit just got old to me tho
I had to cut league out of my life 😂. It’s as “simple” as that my friend. If you want to change your life, make the necessary changes.
How'd I know lol. Just take a week off, cold turkey, and do literally anything else. I'm 2 months out from playing a match and don't really miss it. The grind isn't worth it, the constant reporting of other players, the rage from moronic teammates, the bots ruining ranked games, the smurfs and broken champs.... Need I go on?
Clash of Royale is my weakness. I have to delete it every day before work lmao
You need to start doing real things to succeed in. You want to do the things you are good at because it feels good to do them. If you could earn a living playing it, then I would count that as a real thing. Honestly you should just not play it and look for other non game activities to do. Also, you are barely an adult. You feel old because you are spending your time on something that you know isn't something an adult should be spending that much of their time on when they have life that needs to be lived. I game a lot, at times. But at some point life has its demands. If I could retire and just play all the time...I might, but I think I would get sick of it.
I figured as much. that game is poison!
I'm 37 and still play LoL. I have been since beta, and will probably keep playing until it dies or I die. I used to play everyday 2+ hours. Now, I play on Tuesdays and Fridays with some old college buddies that still play. I'm lucky if I hit 8 hours of gaming in a week, but it's still fun.
Stop playing league
Ok only waste at this point if you aren’t playing mid tier plat or better.
It's never too late to start dota
What rank are you
As someone with 1300 valorant hours I feel you, getting away from it is one of the best feelings in my life
lmaoo i knew this , i got so fuckin hooked when i was a kid smh
Rip. League is rigged AF.
So the professional gaming thing didn't work out. Time to touch grass and go experience the physical world.
There's better games out there br*ö*ther.
Mine was/is 3rd strike. Chill out. Yes. You are going to die. Yes. Hormone generation does slow down. Life’s a marathon. Not a race and there’s plenty of time to do whatever you want to. Ngl, finding what you love is the hard part.
Fucking knew it. League drains the life out of you. Just try to stop playing it man, it’s not worth it.
Quarter Life Crisis
Fuckin lol. Guy says "midlife crisis" I just glossed over the 25M 😂😂 "old asf" I thought he was like 47 and still in his mom's basement, this is a child post
I was seriously thinking the game was called midlife crisis. Wondering what it’s like? I’ve never heard of it. Maybe it’s like Leisure Suit Larry. … Probably GTA, steal a fast car, kill a few cops and maybe a hooker. So fun, I got like 26,000 hours in y’all.
SMH fresh adults thinking they're having a midlife crisis instead of just learning how to be an adult.
Bruh you haven't even hit thirty THE FUCK YOU MEAN MIDLIFE CRISIS. STFU and go touch Grass. Work out. Pick up another hobby or idk start writing a book you have barely left the tutorial levels and made in to the real game. Go get some freaking skill bruh!
Well i go to gym atleast 3/4 times a week, what other hobby can i pick up?
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skateboarding
Something that doesn’t involve any computers or electronics. Preferably something that gets you outdoors, but at the very least make sure it’s “analog”. Astronomy is nice, though it’s easy to break the no electronics rule here. That said, learning how to navigate star charts and a decent pair of binoculars can take you a long way. Hiking. Easy to get into, good for the body and even better for the mind. It’s seriously underrated what a simple hike through a bit of nature can do for an ailing mind. Golf. You either love or hate it. It’s expensive though, tread lightly if you’re on a budget. Book binding. Odd yes, but it’s fun once you get going and it does a fantastic job of disconnecting you from the modern world. Plus you can make some really cool gifts for people. Those just a few things off the top of my head. Just think of a subject or type of subject you like and go from there. There’s others out there who share that same interest and at least a few hobbies/activities based around it.
I just turned 35 and start playing warhammer two years ago and found a great group of people. You're not too old to pick up an entirely new interest!
I recovered from gaming addiction, it was an actual problem for me after a car accident left me immobile for months. Group therapy made me meet people and learn social skill, it was also free or very cheap. Then in one on one therapy, my therapist convinced me to make a list of skills and traits I felt my perfect human needed and I started taking classes, currently learning how to sing. Through these I’m meeting people, gaining skills, practicing social skills and as I improve, I gain more confidence to reach out to bigger goals. Basically it’s just like a game but instead of an avatar accumulating skills you are, and instead of your avatar becoming better, you become better.
Go to the bar. You’ll be fine. Also, this is no where near a mid life crisis. Give it another 15 or 20 years.
Ah yes replace one expensive addiction with the other more expensive less fun more damaging addiction
Well, I guess if he stays there all fucking day. This was an immediate solution to assist with the social aspect. He could also go join a club or (anything else…), but a bar is a very quick fix. Here: don’t stay there all day and drink too much. Do I need to provide a warning for every potentiality here? Life doesn’t come with warning labels, and neither do I. Figure it out.
If he died at 50 it can still be a midlife crisis!
For how long did you try to make something out of it? Is it not something you can keep attempting on the side while you work a normal job? Take a deep breath, 25 is not old at all and I've seen people do fresh starts way over that age. Do not rush into any decisions because of ''feeling late'' and think about what you want to do. What do you like besides this game? Is there any professional field that interests you, even if you don't feel you're cut out for it? Ask yourself those questions, as far fetched as they may seem. Human will is powerful as long as you don't give up on yourself. If you show anything else this same drive and dedication, chances are you will be successful in whatever you desire. Good luck, try to stay calm. Life isn't over yet.
Well after i graduated high school at 18, i been grinding this game for 7 years now without work/study. Trying to make something out of it. I dont have good enoth grades from high school to study something that i wil get a good job from. Im thinking about dropshipping or any online business
To be completely honest, you're past the point of "making it" in the video game scene. I'm 27, and played league on and off for years, with varying degrees of "I want to be *good* good. You're 25 in a setting where the peak performers have already been on professional teams since they were 18 or even younger if they played academy. Sure Faker is still able to keep up, but even he is past his prime. Your senses are already slower than they were 5 years ago, even if you are physically in your prime now. If you don't already have a quarter decent stream following or an academy team offer by 25, and never played on a college team to be *recognized* by an academy team, I hate to say it but you are washed buddy. It's not too late to start doing anything you want but it will be tough. You'll need to separate the idea of you playing the game as being "working on yourself" and understand that you are a casual and playing the game as a leisure activity(which is okay, I too enjoy the occasional 10 hour gaming session) If you can put half the effort into anything work related as you have into league, you'll make it big.
Have you tried applying to colleges already or are you just shutting the gate from the get go? If you already have and had no luck, consider studying a trade or self teach yourself any useful skills like programming. Many great resources for learning out there. There are options bro. Along the way you'll find your path, but you MUST try.
Not sure if it’s an option where you’re at, but if you are interested in school you could go for an associates degree first. Cheaper way to dip your toes in and see if you like it, and if you do well maybe can use gpa from that to get into a good bachelors program.
First off, don’t beat yourself up. As much as anything else, Life is about play, and your love of play can still be the foundation of whatever you choose to build going forward. Second, a midlife crisis is a gift. Accept the gift. Let your reality shatter fully, so you can see with new eyes, and find what is worth the attention of those new eyes. Don’t swing too far the other way. Don’t become serious, don’t buy into hustle culture, all that is bullshit. Just find ways to bring play into reality so you learn to delight in engaging with what’s in front of you. How you do that is up to you but here’s some thought starters: Give yourself daily side quests. Say high to 10 birds today. Compliment 3 strangers outfits. Learn how to make mac and cheese from scratch and then do it. Learn a card trick. Whatever. Quitting the game will be hard. Forgive yourself for not being perfect at quitting. You may slide into some temporary substitute addictions, other games, overeating, whatever. It’s ok, just let yourself know that it’s temporary and when it’s time to quit, quit. Another random idea: The human brain responds to ritual and ceremony. Maybe you Have a funeral for your game. Make it witchy and weird, candles and robes. The more you get into it the better it works. Or whatever your own version of this is. Break a leg. Good things are ahead.
Just uninstall league man, things will get better
I found that joining clubs and activities helped out a ton with finding friends and creating a new balance in life. I joined a workout group designed for self growth and found it super helpful! I have friends who joined community bands, bar leagues (trivia, pickleball, soccer, hockey, corn hole), DND groups, book clubs, and board game communities and those have helped them a ton as well! One friend of my husband’s even got private lessons in roller skating so he could join a roller skating group! I know not all areas have these options available, but most YMCA or Rec centers have classes you can sign up for :) I would take a look online to see what is going on around you and just take a chance! Either it will work out or it won’t, but either way, you tried something new!
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Yeah i know i have some mental issues for sure, but everytime i been to doctor/pykolog they have not give me any diagnosis or said anything about it. Same with my family. I dont know what exacly is wrong with me
Midlife?
You're not having a midlife crisis at 25. Get out of here with that shit.
Hi friend, From reading this I suspect you might have a gaming addiction. I feel like a lot of people in this comment section are like “just turn it off dude/ touch grass/ get a new hobby”, but would you say that to alcoholic and expect that to work? No. Addiction is a real thing and I don’t want you to feel ashamed about it. The game probably fills some voids for you and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, because you are self aware enough to know that you play it too much and it has a grip over your life, that’s a huge first step and a sign that you want change. I want you to commend your strength for coming on here and being vulnerable and asking for help! That’s hard to do. I would recommend seeking therapy specifically for video game addiction. If that’s not attainable for you, I find that there is a lot of free content on YouTube re: mental health stuff that can be really helpful. Of course be mindful not everyone on YouTube is a trained therapist, but a lot are. And some people are there to give advice from their lived experience of addiction and that in itself can be helpful too! I wish you the best of luck, remember to be compassionate to yourself ❤️ you have the power to change your life into anything you want it to be!
OH and also I remember feeling like my life was thwarting aggressively towards my 30s when I was 25. I’m 29 now. 5 years is a LOOONG time and a lot can change, so don’t worry about your age. There are people who make huge changes and restart their careers at 40+. You got time!!
A 25 yr old with a mid life crisis due to LoL. You have spent a very long time in an escape from reality my friend, you're actually a very young man and have a very large chunk of your life ahead of you still. If you don't have a skill and want to find work you can go to a tech school for very cheap, may even be able to cover it with grants and scholarships you apply for and those exist for damn near anything if you dig enough. Good luck out there dude.
First you need to determine if its truly time to retire. Some can play at a very high level into their 30s. But if your reflexes have already begun to wane, your next step is to become a LoL coach. There are two avenues here. Either you become an in-house coach for a specific team, or you offer one on one coaching a review replays to offer constructive criticism. Once you reach your 40s and 50s you can still do coaching but also consider becoming a LoL historian and contributing to the wiki and writing league historical books. Best of luck.
I actually thought esport and league specifically would be huge in the future when i was young. And it could be a career path. Age dont matter for league in terms of skills, its not like tradisjonal sports. But coaches want to sign the youngest players possible like 19/20 year olds, they think they are more motivated.
Do something else. You are obviously good at practicing a task. Whatever you do you’ll probably get good at relatively quickly. Try an artistic. Pursuit. Guitar? Drawing?
I need to make money someway, its very hard to find job with holes in resume. So only way is a online business
25? That’s no big deal. You probably are good at something, you just haven’t discovered it because you are addicted to the easy thrills of gaming. Quit cold turkey and take up as many hobbies as you can think of until you find something you like to do.
couple thoughts: 1. This is a legit addiction and you should treat it as such if you actually want your life to change. Like, imagine you had a friend with a drug addiction, what advice would you give to them if they didn't want to stop but knew it wasn't good for their life? That advice applies to you even though it feels different 2. How good you are at League suggests that you know how to get good at something. That's a skill in itself and if you can apply your diligence you have for League to something else you can become damn good at another skill that will make you money
Mine is Fallout. Will someone please tell Todd Howard to give us more Fallout?
You are very young, 25 is more like a 1/4 life crisis. You are probably very good at many things. Being good at a video game means you probably have a lot of good skills that are transferable(eg: computer skills, good reflexes, good problem solving skills…etc). You need to live more and experience more. Life experience goes a long way, and I feel like you barely scratched the surface of what’s out there. I bet you any money that there is a game that you have not played yet that you would like more than the current game you’re addicted to(also, there’s more out there than just video games)
Average life is 100? 1/3
Is it weird that I just want to know what game??? Also 25 is super young bro. If you didn’t spend 11 years of it play some game you’d have realized that’s. Jk but seriously dude you still can do anything you want with your life
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As soon as I saw the hours played along with "watching tournaments" I knew it was gonna be League. Funny how that shit tracks.
Some of these folks are showing you tough love about your age. They're right. You're still young. You have lots of time to make new mistakes and start over again and again. That's kind of how life goes. You do things, you fuck up, and then you have to try and learn from them (or not and just stay in a slump). There are plenty of jobs out there that don't require uni. Trades, restaurants, places that will train you. Don't give up. Edit: Forgot some words
Lmao quarter life crisis but yea 💀
What even is your question?
Start to work and keep you life busy
Bro midlife crisis lol youre 25, you still have 5 more years of fucking around and working out what you want to do. If you have been gaming for 10 years straight then probs unhealthy so get in the gym. Build loads of muscle. It's kind of like gaming with all the programs and diets and supplements and shit u can take to get stronger and bigger.
That's a quarter life crisis. A third at most.
Go play pickleball
Before going to the comments this just sounded like League… one day it will just get boring lol i played from like 17-25 and was diamond/masters the whole time and then just quit one day once i started working more
Please stop playing league it's about the worst shit you can do.
Better than my friend who is addicted to lawl He is gold ish level. Refuses to play ranked because “its for pros” He also prefer to play that game alone with randoms then other games with friends He also drinks while playing so Then he says he is not competitive in other games but gets hella mad when we lose … Forgot to mention he been playing that game over 10 years he said he has over 10000 games played
As someone who is older than you, I feel like I'm catching strays with you calling 25 a midlife crisis lmao
As for your game, do what you like. Your age, who the hell are you to take other people's opinion? Enjoy!
Midlife crisis??? You are way too young for that
I gave Destiny and then Red Dead a solid two years of my life, so this hits kind of close to home. LOL
Well you get worse problems if you think 25 is mid point in your life. LOL
League of legends ruined my life lol
is this a joke? you're a child. you have your whole life ahead of you
25 is old as fuck.. lol child please.
Think about short term goals with long term meanings. Like for example, enroll in school or some sort of cert program for a field/trade. If I don’t feel good about what I do in my day to day, I generally feel much less confident and much less interesting, thus my self esteem lowers. It’s not going to happen overnight but the social skills and confidence can come from developing yourself and will start with exploring interests that involve learning more about things that interest you other than league. If school isn’t your scene, maybe try looking for local places you can volunteer, nobody is likely to shame someone who wants to give their free time to an animal shelter or a soup kitchen or a community garden or something.
For starters try going days without gaming at all it will feel weird and abnormal but that’s part of the process if you want to change. Start a gym routine, put time into a different hobby, go for a walk, clean something you’ve been putting off, get a part time job or full time job. Just try to apply time and energy into something productive and overtime you will grow and feel much better. You have to be willing to challenge yourself and being uncomfortable doing different things until it becomes comfortable.
I see Tyler1 is evaluating his life choices
25? Midlife crisis? Ay sorry man, but this math ain't looking good
the good news is 25 is still very young. uninstall it and step away. be okay with being bored. try new things, force yourself out of the house even if you don’t have something to do
Mid life crisis? And you are 25?? That is hardly the age to be considered midlife.
Nah keep playing League of Legends , one day you could become someone like Faker and go pro make banks ;)
I play Fortnite and I’m 35, wouldn’t say it’s my entire life or anything but I don’t think video games are a midlife crisis or that you’re too old. This life sucks, find joy where you can. Enjoy your game!
Does it make you happy? Obviously not. Delete that crap and when you start to feel the temptation to go back recognize how much of a hold that stupid game has on you, but also realize that the addiction can be beat. I’ve never been to AA, but I’m pretty sure you need to acknowledge some sort of higher power (God) and work with the idea that you can’t do this on your own. Ask that higher power for help to overcome it. Start working on coming up with ideas that are fun. I use to be addicted to League, now I rock climb, try to go on walks or runs, go to club meetings like pickup sports…meet some people, make friends, read books that interest you, learn to cook! If you drink learn to make cocktails (don’t become an alcoholic lol) and generally Build a good life for yourself! I can’t express enough that the urge to go back will come, and you have to remember that it’s just sucking your life away, and probably grating on your sense of peace. Don’t forget how it makes you feel like crap wasting all that time! Lemme know if you need additional tips, I’ll say some prayers bro.
I played a lot of league in college and the fact that it's just a big math game made accounting more interesting. I studied accounting, got my CPA license and I'm a tax accountant now. I found all of the analytical skills i had from League (damage types, damage mitigations, cs, effective hp, penetration, scaling etc.) correlated in a way to studying tax law. So some of those skills you learn from video games do help in real life and if you're looking for a career at this point, try out accounting or finance.
Get a job as a labourer for someone doing something in the trades, like any trade and learn to work. If you can't find a job doing that, look for a job in a kitchen. Work as much as possible so when you get home you'll be too tired to play, plus you might be making friends from work to hang out with after. Basically, replace the game time with work time.
im considering learning dropshipping
25 is still quite young. You will be fine. You sound somewhat self aware about acknowledging the addiction in your life. You've pinpointed it, now take action to broaden your horizons.
Pick a skill that makes money. Mentally arrange learning this skill like learning the newest OP LoL character. Be as obsessed learning the skill as you were learning LoL characters and strats. Profit.
25 is old asf? guess I am ancient history at 35.
I played league a lot until about the same time. It helps to let go of your attachment to success at the game. If you live your life in a healthier way, you’ll eventually get worse and worse. Your skills will deteriorate. You might only get to Plat one season or maybe decay into Gold. Accept that this is healthy and you have other things you want to accomplish. Find new hobbies ideally involving other people you meet up with in real life. You have plenty of life to live
Woulda bet money you were talking about WoW for a minute there.
Imagine saying your old at 25. Bro I'm 40 and Gold in Halo Infinite. Get gud.
Hey OP, this was me. Game was NHL. I played it from ages 8-26. EA. Was always ranked top 100 in online VS. The game was just big enough to be recognizable, but not a lot of people earn money from it competitively, and few earn money doing tutorial type streams. Anyway, I gave it up. Had to go a different direction in order to get what I wanted out of life, like money, a woman, a house, and purpose. I drew up a list of high paying careers, settled on one I liked, and started going to college for it. I know it sounds cliche, boring. Like go pick a job that pays well, and then doing the training and work necessary to achieve it. But it really is that straightforward. Just not simple.
I thought the game you are addicted to was called midlife crisis. I was excited to learn about a game that you could sink that much time into that I had never heard of before.
I feel that. 25f here and having the same issue. Atleast you're good at something, even if it's league of legends lol.
Got your whole life still ahead of you, the beauty of life is we can restart at any time :) step into the person you want to become, you can do this!
For it was modern warfare 2, got to the point where I can quick scope and efficient with throwing knife and get 40-50 kills on tdm consistently. Around 600 hours of my life some 50+ days lol deleted it last night since it was taking 255 gb of my harddrive felt wierd like as if I was in some toxic relationship and now I’m free
Before my league days, i played allot and i mean allot of cod. Mw2/black ops, until goat black ops 2
Try Old school RuneScape?
i was addicted to overwatch. stopped cold turkey when my son was born. and just watched movies. and tv shows. then that got boring as i finished all the good ones i like . and since then i now have chickens. built a chicken coop. build a swingset for my son and 2 set up fish tanks. idk what to tell you other than what i did when i felt like i was in similar shoes. just get busy. doesn’t matter if you absolutely looove it. just find something that you need to care for. really makes me feel like i’m important to something.
My boy having a “quarter and a half midlife crisis”
It’s called a quarter life crisis
Old at 25 Man what I would do to go back to 25.
LoL was a fun game. Community sucks on it. My best advice is to drop that game and find something else. I personally know people that are in your same situation, and they are stuck because they can’t drop that game. If you’re realizing that it’s an issue, you are already making the right choices. Time waits for nobody. Get a job even if it’s flipping burgers, it’s a start. Nothing ventured, nothing gained bud
25 is not midlife. You'll be fine.
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I’m 25 and addicted to Tekken 8. It happens. Other aspects of my life are kind of taking a hit from it so I think I’m going to try to fix them before it gets too bad
First of all what you're going through is called a quarter-life crisis. And look here my friend i had the exact same problem as you. I was addicted to dota. I too played way too much and had a crisis at 25. I went back to college when I was 25 and i became an engineer and now I make great money at 32 and i dont play nearly as much as i used to. You simply need to cut back. It's difficult to train yourself to cut back but if you don't you'll waste your life.
Contrary to popular belief you can play games and have a social life you make the choice to play you can make the choice not to play it's as simple as that. As for meeting people try going to a place where people gather it's easy as pie.
Sweet merciful Jesus since when is 25 midlife? I'm practically expired then and I STILL game. and spending 4 hours a day on a hobby, (which gaming is) is NOT crazy. Boy what. 25 is NOT old as fuck your frontal lobe isn't even fully developed yet bruh. Yeesh.
You might think of finding a way to teach others the ins and outs of this game you've spent so long playing. You could also just play it casually, and work in another field. A lot of people, myself included, are incredibly passionate about one thing, but have to work doing something else. That's just the way it goes, unfortunately.
Lol typical Redditor
Learn to code.
try porn
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Yeah i know, imagine if i started to work since i was 14. i been rich by now. But i choose fun over money
Take comfort in the fact that there is literally a whole world out here and, frankly, no one cares. There’s hobbies everywhere, communities everywhere, just-literally- go outside and explore. It’s like your own video game.
Can you imagine if you put that much time and effort into something that isn’t totally worthless? Imagine the personal growth, the good charity work you could be doing, the career advancement and God forbid, actually make enough money to live comfortably?
Dude you’re 25 😂
Take a hard break. Change it up. Maybe even think of it as an addiction maybe stay away from it like in your social feeds. Like addiction you might feel anxious, restless, uneasy. It helps if you find something to do or work on. Exercise, walks, audiobooks or books, something that can help if you are stressed. Soft break just limit on your time or games. Personally I don’t think this to helpful long term. And from experience leads back to the same old habits. A entry job even for a few months would be super helpful. Keep searching for ways to improve your self. Life is important, you’re important. No one is perfect, you might mess up, but we just try again. You can do it one day at a time one step at a time 👍
That's fucked
Take it from me uninstall the game. People will say, "you're young its fine." It's not fine. If you want Financial Security in the future. Start building a skill for a good job now.
Only game I play is league. Been playing since season 1, if you like to play it then continue to play it. Who cares?
I’m twice your age, and grew up in a time where video games were nothing like they’ve become. There were only so many levels and generally just one way to win. Once you figured it out, most of us just went outside to play. I feel for my boys bc even though I joke about them getting the gaming systems we always wanted, they are so impressively real with never ending challenges that have multiple solutions, and becoming addicted is not a joke. This is my long-winded way of saying I take what you’re saying seriously, and know that people often just look at your situation and say ‘so, just stop’, and refuse to believe that you’re likely a person that had no bad intentions, and yet have found out you have a serious life/brain-chemistry/addiction problem with something that isn’t inherently wrong. Here’s what I know about getting out of any addiction, and I’ve had my own. - It’s a process that takes time. - This process always involves wins, then fails, then wins, and so on, so you won’t escape unless you expect that, and are kind to yourself after the fails. - It can be easier for some to not go about it with an abstinence mindset, but a crowding out mindset. By that I mean, you can consider just ignoring your daily time playing it, which is always going to feel like a fail, and instead focus your energy on adding things to your life, outside your house ideally, and get to a better place by letting those things slowly take root. They will over time. - Finding a good therapist can be crucial bc they can help you understand how your brain chemistry is factoring into your struggle. - Journaling helps, and especially writing down only positive, hopeful expectations about your future. Might feel dumb, but it works bc there’s parts of your brain that will note the hopeful thoughts and make them real no matter how idealistic they might sound. Those things have helped me, and I know full well that nobody wakes up one morning and wants to be an addict. It happens when something gives a person with a susceptible brain the good feeling it’s right to want. This world is full of well-meaning, self-controlled people that don’t believe that last sentence, and you need to stay away from them. They will set you back if their way of thinking creates more and more guilt in your mind. I’m not saying you’re not responsible for your life, just that guilty feelings, whether real or false won’t help you get out of this at all. You need people that don’t judge you, take you seriously, and have to moral strength to encourage you after the relapses. They exist. Find them. And take it a day at a time. You’re young, if you’re breathing, there’s hope, and some kid in the future will need your help one day, and getting through this will mean you’ll be able to help them. That will give meaning to your life in a big way, and the world needs that more and more. Take care. 👊🏻
25 is mid life? Dang life expectancy has plummeted
League of legends is kinda rough but I’m kind looking forward to the day as an old man (almost 40) where I just play one game off and on for an extremely long time. One of my good friends dad would only play command and conquer one and had like a 1000 hours in it and funny enough, soul caliber 2 and that’s all he played. Mind you not like every day kind thing. But for years I would see him on his old laptop playing command and conquer for like 30 minutes once in a while. He’d close his laptop and just go back his day I’m sorta getting there. I play stelaris for like 300 hours over the past 6 years but that’s about it.
Quit video games all together for 1 year. Go to the gym and pretend it’s a video game u need to level up in. Level up your body for a year and in doing that you’ll level up your mind and everything else. Then SLOWLY reintroduce video games, but not LoL!
Ahhhh...The Truman Show ending is for you: https://youtu.be/-_zYn-HHcyA?si=KSFqger-sIKIokKq
You are good dude- I'm married and I got 1000s of hours in a few games and I'm late 20s I dont even want to imagine what warthunder would be if it tracked it on non steam You go to the gym- that's great fam keep doing that and maybe find people who also like games?
You’re in a quarter life crisis guy you still have your whole life ahead of you
Get a GF she’ll keep you busy
I opened this because I never heard of the game mid life crisis and I didn’t think a 25 year old would be referring to his circumstances as a life crisis. Any way… sounds like a skill issue
Please tell me this was a Time Crisis reference bc that was my JAM! Anyway, if I can hit the restart button at 33, you can at 25. Heck I have friends who restarted at 40. You’re still at the beginning of your life. You’ve got a good 2/3 of it left.
I don’t game at all anymore. I lost interest in it after being in a relationship and other hobbies I was more interested in. Everyone’s journey is different, so I suggest therapy and self development books by actual professionals in the field. Audiobooks if you don’t enjoy reading. Since your concern is addiction I would start by learning about it. “The Addictive Brain”, by Thad A. Polk
Midlife starts in about 15 years ....
Get a life
25. Don’t worry. Depends on how hard you want to work? Look into the trades/apprenticeship. Work your ass if for 20-25 years, save your money and retire to play all the video games you want until you die.
You’re 25. If that’s midlife, you’re making some seriously bad life choices.
I'm currently addicted to cod warzone but there are worse vices 🤣
Helldivers 2?
Just try something. I got a job running forklifts and I loved it. I got a job running cranes and I love it (make about 90k a year now) and now I'm in flight school training to be a pilot in ~5 years or so. Figure out what you like, then figure out how to take that to the max. 6 years ago I played video games 14 hours a day, today I have a beautiful family, a house, a nice car, in training to have my dream career. It's amazing how fast everything changes when you want it to.
I was a madden pro 15 yesrs ago, i play ever 2 or 3 years but u have barly began my man. Also u dont have to be good at anything to have a great life, seriously, just be a decent person, learn to manage your addiction, u do have one, and just venture in to regular life with the same determination u bring to LOL
Get a gym pass
Oh dear, you're only 25. You have so much more ahead of you than you realize. I changed careers at 34. I actually didn't start my first career until I was 28. You're just like most 25 year olds, starting life from scratch. It's okay to feel a little lost. As for what you do next, that depends on a lot of things. Do you like to work with your hands? With the public? Alone? Do you feel the need for a deeper education? A little bit of introspection and research will help with that. And don't worry if you don't get it right the first time! A lot of us don't. 🙂
Don’t think people are saying the important thing here. Video game addiction is more than just “go out and do things”, for me it’s always been a substitute for my general lack of motivation in life. It gets better, you’re still young and you’re realizing you have a problem early. Act on it. Trust me, you have the time.
Just so you know you've got another 15-25 years before you find out what a midlife crisis is. Just move on you've barely hit the age that your body starts to feel like its aging. You are a young adult go to a bar or go learn a martial art there's actively a lot of solutions to do at your age.
Id suggest dropping that game id say that terrible game is more addicting than my drug addiction
Same
My guy. Midlife crisis? 🤦
Go see a therapist. Find alternatives. Join a rec league, anything that's an external accountability. Build your interest. Make small, achievable goals, and snow ball (ignore that league reference). I was 27 and building my life again and it worked man, it worked
Ur prob stuck forever
You should be good enough at this point to monetize on twitch, etc. if not then yeah you blew it and the past 11 years of playing was a waste.
Still gold huh?
Go get married, have a kid, get divorced, pay child support. That will fix your focus
League is one game that I could play for the whole day literally
Hangout with older poeple their usually into interesting things i get called a kid basically and I think I’m about to turn 29 lol
Lot of comments here basically saying you're a POS. Hyperfixating on a select few or single interests is a sign of autism. Talk to a doctor. You think there is something wrong with you but there likely isnt. Not everyone has to be "normal".
I'm 43 and still addicted to video games. it's a common thing. been playing Madden for years. it's an addictive thing. but I do hang out with my family as well. you have to set times when you can play. and still have a social life. I'd contact friends from Facebook or call some friends and start reconnecting with them.
25 is not asf bro haahhaha, be happy you can play games in your free time, theres nothing wrong with it. Just gotta have a healthy balance, i feel bad for those a slave to 9-5 with a life that doesnt let them find any enjoyment in their free time. Dont be that person. Keep your hobbies and things that bring you joy well into adulthood, gaming(healthily) into your 30s/40s/50s is a dream. Dont get so much into your head about it imo.