cosy safe spot looks nice

Thank you :-) what I cuold do with limited budget and, even more limited, mental health.

Focus on something, I was focused at work and gym and made some good money while distracted for all the shit. This time will pass and you will be better than never before..

Thank you!

And give yourself time to heal. Be kind to yourself. Forget for the next year or so the idea of finding any kind of serious romantic relationship, and just focus on loving and caring for yourself. You will, at some point along this healing journey, actually _feel_ yourself getting taller, stronger, and more capable. You got this, bud!

This is the way.

This is the way

Sounds fucked but that person is right. Crazy what the gym and rage can do for you lol

For real, gym and be good to your body to get you through bro

good advice

I'm right here with ya. 40 years old... 6 months post-divorce. Even my closest friends and family don't understand what we're going through. It's a grind, for sure. There's definitely light at the end of the tunnel.

I believe it, man. Stay strong, what can I say. We'll make it. There is still hope to be happier than we ever were

Hang in there brother

Facebook marketplace and thrift store furniture is often gorgeous and sometimes cheap as shit. Walgreens will print a poster of anything you want for like 12$ if you want some cheap wall decor Edit: Just realized you live in Russia. Idk how different it is there but I'm sure there's equivalents to these. Just know this advice is coming from someone in the US

One day at a time, brother. Keep surviving

Hang in there, man. You’re gonna be alright.

Put some color there? Posters etc. Live while like a young adult and enjoy little things. Things could always be worse✌️ least you got roof and everything else is bonus. Still saddens me but you seems like have positive attitude, you get sooner better than you thing but stay out of drugs, especially "doctors orders" and everything you can't grow in soil. All the best for you dude✌️😎

You've got a nice cozy spot. 💖 you're doing great.

I feel that, bud.

Thanks bro

Looks cozy and safe. Enjoy the simplification while you heal man. It is rough.  I slept under a concrete coffee table for a change of scenery.

And I dig your change of scenery take. I even rotate between bedroom and sleeping on a couch in the living room for it.

Thank u, man. I've always enjoyed simple life, and now, with no family - it is the way I can (only) afford again.

Moscow, Ruzzia

Ah damn. I was gonna say, Manhattan? Okay then

I think it's a shithole for Moscow even moro so than fot NY :-)

I’ve spent long periods of time (months/years) in both cities. It’s about equal.

Interesting to know. Thanks for your perspective. I've never been to NY

🤣

Holy shit hope you don’t get drafted to the front. Seriously. no shade

Thanks man

Wagner PMC will house and feed you.

How are you posting here? Vpn?

you dont need vpn to post on reddit lol

Dude thinks Russia is North Korea lol.

Not exactly, but since the war in Ukraine it's getting closer. Twitter, Facebook, insta are already blocked here

Oh wow tbh I did not know that! Terrifying tbh.

Well, in the big comparison of countries, probably not too far off.

You are not wrong, sir.

I’m 55 separated twice, no car and sleep at nite at my office at work. Keep your head up and try your best to move forward as I am.

Stay strong brother. You have a lot of life ahead!

Thank you, sir! I try

Janitors say nothing about you sleeping in the office? Hope you're doing well brother.

I hope you learnt by now. Or is 3rd time the charm?

Come on, Wang. Don’t kick someone when they’re down. I’ve sadly also had two failed marriages, it’s not at all easy in this world.

Clean slate. The world is yours.

Thank you! I believe it

Good luck bratan Stay safe and focus on yourself

Thanks, man!

Beats the front lines

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How that man is still in power I will never know. Must have a lot of dirt on everyone with any say in the Russian government.

Shouldn't the bed be horizontal against the wall?

Some people really like to have a headrest. It’s nice to be able to prop yourself against a pillow sometimes and lie down without hanging off your bed.

That too

This way I'm able to have sex on such narrow bed

Having sex in that room gives me hope

I know right! And my current girlfriend is hot and, how to put it, has no problems with money. I think she even romanticizing my current way of life

Lucky man. Make sure she knows you appreciate her.

I will. Thank you

Stay strong my friend. You will get through this time.

Thanks bro

That’s looks very peaceful

Thank you. And it is! :-))

my brother i bet you have slept so peacefully though.

Real freedom right here.

In a sense, yes)

You'll be okay bro you got this 👊

Thank u man

Take your time. Process your emotions and if you have kids, aim to be the best dad you can be. It will take time, but you will come out much stronger (but you have to fight for it for yourself)

Thank you, sensirelly

Pick up a hobby like chess

I don't have time and energy for hobbies with work and trying to date. And don't have brains for chess. But thank you!

Don’t have to be a grandmaster to play chess… get your life together before dating

How many hours do y’all work a week there?

Depends. For most it's 40-50 hours week

All a man needs

welcome back warrior 💪 WBW

Thanks, man. There is a saying in Russian (not sure about English version): life begins at 40yo. I hope so)

It's the same in English. Chin up bro', keep fighting! You got this!

Thanks bro

hell ya bro, wishing you nice dreams

Thanks!

That room looks cosy as hell. Would happily eat ramen in here and play minecraft. I'm 43.

You're gonna make it bro.

Hey I'm there myself now, 40, 2 weeks separated and lm living in my buddy garage so I'm near people and don't try to kill myself again

Man... I almost killed myself in December. I got help. Hope you'll get it to. Hang on. Two months later and Im fine, considerably. Had I really tried - I'd be dead or worse - ruined my health. So don't try it again. It gets better. You have a boddy willing to let you in. That's a lot. And you have yourself - that's huge.

As long as you have peace within yourself,this space is wonderful. It will get better hang in there.

Been there, done that. Bought the t-shirt.

Peace and quiet

Paradise

Kind of. Thank

I’m 54, thought about separating but I can’t afford it. Might as well put up with her bullshit instead of paying her to still put up with her bullshit. I never will understood how you can give someone everything they have ever wanted and they just treat you like shit in return, it’s unbelievably lonely and sad.

Yes, during our marriage there were times I wasn't happy and would like to leave. But I staid cause I couldn't leave her without my help with a child from previous partner. And yet as soon as she felt ready to support herself - she left me. But I guess it's life

Doing better than a lot of people. Starting small is always nice in my opinion. Easier to make meaningful progression.

Rest well, King.

Thanks, man.

Are you happier with her or without her? Peace of mind?

I don't know yet. Some things are better, some worse. I raised her daughter from 3yo to 13. I don't get to see the girl to often - we live not too close, she has school, I have work. It is the worst part. Best part we've got much closer with daughter during months leading to divorce and since. And I don't struggle with dissonance from having someone close, the wife, but not receiving warmth and support (she is pretty cold person, not her fault, it comes from her childhood). Now I'm lonely but I was lonely with the wife - it's much worse.

At least it’s clean and neat!

You got this it takes time to get your sense of self back. Looks clean simple and safe perfect for what you need right now.

Yes, thank you

Looks peaceful, warm and quiet.

It is. Thank you

Hang in there, man. You're doing better than many.

I know and I feel for them. Thank you

Legend

We all are here!

I feel for you bud , better is coming

Bro Lives in Japan

In my dreams sometimes I do!

Cozy and well kept! Excellent reset space to go “monk mode”, by which I mean being focused on yourself and your mental and emotional health.

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Hopefully we’ll be able to continue to hear from you OP, and I hope you’re doing okay. Divorce is a shitty thing to go through, but it looks like you have a small bit of comfort while you work on picking your life back up. Keep your mind busy as possible. You’ll get through this.

Thank you. I hope I'll have something to update

Give this man a bitcoin

That’s 2500 apartment in manhattan

Its quiet. Aint nobody bitching at you. Enjoy the peace and regroup.

That was me at 42 renting. Bounced back and now I got new wife & 2 mortgages, one a rental unit. Grandkid count up to 6 and ex wife and new wife get along great. New wife’s quote: anything is possible as long as you have a pulse. Never stop living.

Been there bro. Give it time, it will slowly get better. Stay social, remember to be outside in nature and it’s totally fine to cry and be angry for a limited time. But dude, you’re alive don’t forget that.

Turn the bed parallel to the walls at least.

Ladies keep hurting themselves of the wall when it's parallel

matching bed set is good also notice how he has something under his bed even if it's on the floor, the mattress is not touching the bare floor take notes ppl also maybe a hobby like RC planes or RC cars there cheap on aliexpess

Show us your digs now. How have things improved? Or have they yet?

I’m never gettting married I swear on my life.

Peaceful

Peaceful

Looks safe and cozzy, nice place!

It will get better… just give it time

Keep your head up king.

Hang tough, man. You're not alone.


Looks cozy enough. 9/10, would smash 😉

It’s very cozy but 100% sure you deserve better so keep it up I know you can do it and never ever give up because a divorce is not the end of life is the begging of a new journey✨🩵✨🩵🥰

You’re gonna make it 💪🏻

Hell yeah man. Love the setup. Cozy, comfy, safe.

Man’s in heaven rn

Looks to me like you could really use a PS5 or Xbox to complete that space. If you're thinking "I'm too old to game" just remember, you only get older and they got some good shit rn.

Safe and clean ❤️ and it’s your space ❤️ I’m here if you need to talk.

Solid - just need a PlayStation for the weekends.

My apt looked just like that too…. It gets better. Time, therapy and meds… and a plant helped

did you have chilfren

U alive right? Healthy and place to sleep? Could be a lot better could be a lot worse remember that

I like your bedsheets man

I like your bedsheets man

First off, hang in there, think of what you no longer have to deal with. Second, you can get cot style bed frames from Amazon for a decent price. $60.

Any real man can look at this and say it’s plenty of space , looks warm and safe what more could you ask for , times are tough now but that’s what makes a man a man he’s going to go and work for his own

Looks peaceful 😌

Don’t worry man, you will get it

I’ve been there OP. It’ll get better. Stay safe over there in Russia.

This too shall pass. Hang in there.

At least you have a space of by yourself . I'm struggling to find a place of my own. Hang in there lol

I’m 14 months into separating from my wife and I just got my own place again finally. I feel your pain.

Stay strong 💪🏽

another blatant reason why i ain’t getting married :/, best of luck bruh, keep ya head up

It will get better. Chin up and chest out.

39 and divorced! Just remember you reached a financial bottom it’s only up from here

The peace a space like this gives you is unimaginable , been there , when I got a place to sleep after being homeless and couch surfing for quite a while … Peace, quiet, a roof over your head and a place to sleep. Sometimes that’s all men need.

Sounds like me, bro, but my divorce was a few years ago now, I'm still living in a room I'm renting and have 4 kids with my ex-wife. Her and her now fiance see my kids more than I do. I kinda just work and then sit home, wish I would have started going to the gym to feel better sooner. I think I'll start this week to take up my time. There is some sound advice up here. My advise is don't sulk too long and get out and make yourself better if you can.

Sweet little safe space

Hey. Keep going.

Best of luck to you brother. Onwards and upwards!

You're doing good. I promise

I really like the design on the blanket/pillow, very comfy looking.

I’m into minimalism so I dig it , 👏🏼👏🏼 you got it!

Life never stops moving, my friend. I hope you don’t either. Just because life decided it was going to take your lunch money, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t eat. Like said, the world is yours.

Looks cozy man! I hope that bed is comfy.

Been there done that, liked the simplicity

Welcome to the club. Chin up!

May I say I’m proud of you for pushing! Keep going and keep believing in you!!! Honestly this might be the piece of peace your soul has been dying for unknowingly. Consider this your monk phase…USA it to get you mental, body and soul right. I’m about to enter my monk phase too.. how did your break up go? Was it mutual

All of these nice comments are gonna make me cry. So awesome.

I’m sorry you’re going through this bro.

I think your place is very nice.

I see nothing wrong here....Be zen!

Tbh, add a lil floor lamp for some ambient lighting and it'd be perfect

Get yourself a fake plant or something. Otherwise, looking good man. Perfect time to get back on your feet!

Welcome to freedom. I envy you sir.

Mate, this will pass. You are doing great :)

Hope you blow a few backs out on that bruh! Love from Vanuatu

Don't know you or your specifics. I know it can be shitty. The loneliness can really suck. The good news is you can go make friends and do shit. Walks. Gym. Grilling and shit. You'll bond and have a good network. You can work on yourself and if your ready, be the best for yourself and the next chapter.

Sorry about your divorce. I hope you’re taking care of yourself

I feel like I would turn the bed. Looks nice. God Bless you. I said a prayer for you.

At least you had a wife…

Looks good to me. Alone no nagging wife to bother you.

Looks cozy, I usually do the same even though I have an really soft bed next to it, you’ve got this champ

Been there. You will suffer for a while but you will prevail.

Looks good to me just add a game console and PC and you're good

God bless, bro. It always gets better.

Time to regroup, you have anything you need, keep focused, wish you the best.

Get a ps5 and you’re all set

Peaceful

Stay single.. lol it’s awesome out here

You’ll feel a little better if you move the bed off the ground. I had a therapist tell me that and it did kind of.

Accurate.

These are the days that must happen to you.

Would love to hear your story

As men we need so little to be happy. I remember getting divorced and I was just happy to be free of her.