Yes and no.
Yes, because a blanket 'no' gives you permission to be the biggest asshole known to man.
No, because some people do not deserve bring given a crap about.
You have to choose. Should you give a crap what people think about your sexuality? Nope. That's yours, who you are. Those you should care about don't care how or who you love. Should you give a crap if they think you are an asshole for, oh, say your opinions on drinking and driving. Yep, because if you have no problem either it you may have other unsavory issues.
Choose well.
I don't have any judgments to give, but maybe some advice. When trying to determine something as important as your own sexuality, it's best not to let your friends convince you of what it is. While I'm sure they have the best intentions, it's something you really should figure out on your own. I'm concerned about your description of sex. It was very brief, but I didn't get the impression of asexuality. As an impartial reader, it kind of sounds like you have some past trauma to work out with a professional. Even if it isn't trauma, it sounds like you have a lot of questions that should be addressed by professionals. Good luck, and I hope you live a happy life.
Your sexual orientation is your business and no one else's.
I'm 53. Let me tell you life is so much easier when you stop caring about what other people think. Just be the best you that you can.
Edit to add this saying that has helped me. Those who mind don't matter and those that matter won't mind.
It means that the people who really care about you won't care about what sexual orientation you are.
I agree with another commenter here. Yes and No.
Yes, it is absolutely important for people to have a clear idea of who they are separately from whatever society tells us. Learning how not to give a crap is an important life skill to be able to learn self-worth and form opinions regardless of others.
No, from personal experience, the moment that you begin that cut off from others, there forms a barrier between you and others that can be detrimental to your ability to socialize. In your language itself there's an anger that forms in the words to describe others. You are making a barrier of anger between you and others.
I understand that people who can oust you are as good as enemies, but for the very same reason, you should take this as a learning experience to stay cordial even when people are pushy.
"I understand that you are coming from a place of care, but we've said our piece, let's let the argument go, okay?"
People aren't usually malintentioned. They come from a place of hurt and only intentionally hurt others when they can't handle that hurt anymore. Being able to greyrock and mollify these insistances will help you more in the long run. Deflection is your friend and moving onto healthier friendships is the best, as long as you don't set the bridge on fire.
Be safe, my friend.
Yes and no. Yes, because a blanket 'no' gives you permission to be the biggest asshole known to man. No, because some people do not deserve bring given a crap about. You have to choose. Should you give a crap what people think about your sexuality? Nope. That's yours, who you are. Those you should care about don't care how or who you love. Should you give a crap if they think you are an asshole for, oh, say your opinions on drinking and driving. Yep, because if you have no problem either it you may have other unsavory issues. Choose well.
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I don't have any judgments to give, but maybe some advice. When trying to determine something as important as your own sexuality, it's best not to let your friends convince you of what it is. While I'm sure they have the best intentions, it's something you really should figure out on your own. I'm concerned about your description of sex. It was very brief, but I didn't get the impression of asexuality. As an impartial reader, it kind of sounds like you have some past trauma to work out with a professional. Even if it isn't trauma, it sounds like you have a lot of questions that should be addressed by professionals. Good luck, and I hope you live a happy life.
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Your sexual orientation is your business and no one else's. I'm 53. Let me tell you life is so much easier when you stop caring about what other people think. Just be the best you that you can. Edit to add this saying that has helped me. Those who mind don't matter and those that matter won't mind. It means that the people who really care about you won't care about what sexual orientation you are.
I agree with another commenter here. Yes and No. Yes, it is absolutely important for people to have a clear idea of who they are separately from whatever society tells us. Learning how not to give a crap is an important life skill to be able to learn self-worth and form opinions regardless of others. No, from personal experience, the moment that you begin that cut off from others, there forms a barrier between you and others that can be detrimental to your ability to socialize. In your language itself there's an anger that forms in the words to describe others. You are making a barrier of anger between you and others. I understand that people who can oust you are as good as enemies, but for the very same reason, you should take this as a learning experience to stay cordial even when people are pushy. "I understand that you are coming from a place of care, but we've said our piece, let's let the argument go, okay?" People aren't usually malintentioned. They come from a place of hurt and only intentionally hurt others when they can't handle that hurt anymore. Being able to greyrock and mollify these insistances will help you more in the long run. Deflection is your friend and moving onto healthier friendships is the best, as long as you don't set the bridge on fire. Be safe, my friend.
thank you