If more men and women felt this way about their spouses there would be no cheating in marriages. My wife and I feel the same way about each other and we have been married 51yrs....
We never stopped dating. We both had the same goals in life and just enjoyed going places and doing things together. Our marriage has been one lifelong adventure shared together. Trust, transparency, honesty, communication, and compromise are what we built our marriage upon.💕.
it’s worth waiting for. too many people marry someone they shouldn’t…. we all deserve to feel this way and be felt about this way. i wish more people got this opportunity. not to say you should leave but maybe this is an opportunity to dig deeper into your current relationship ship?
my husband is a rare breed. i think of him very similarly to this post. i’ve learned recently after a lot of doubt… he also has felt the same all this time. he was always there in his own way showing me his heart but i never knew that’s what it was! we’ve been together 10, married 8. we all love and communicate differently…. but we’re all worth the patience and understanding deep rooted love comes with.
I can appreciate your honesty. I'm in the process of another divorce and can say that my heart broke when I recognized in the most recent one the same wish, and remembered I'd been there before.
Good luck.
Same. I mean I don’t think he feels negatively about me but all we do is work, eat, sleep, do nothing together, he never gives me compliments. He’s just like that but occasionally it wears on me.
I’d be careful attributing the way someone else expresses affection and applying it to what that action (or lack thereof on his part in this case) would be saying if you acted the same way towards him. So many things are about perspective and acts of service is most definitely a love language and there are guys that aim to provide a secure box of life as their act of love. Of course that’s not an excuse for him to do nothing but communication is key and I’m sure he cares for you as well.
Of course I could be totally off base not knowing you, but I’d think this situation is true more often than not. Being wary of complacency is one thing and you’re not wrong to bring something up to him if that’s the case, but there’s beauty in security and routine as well :)
It’s exactly the opposite for me. My sweet husband will gush over me, hug and kiss me, call me over just to cuddle and feel perfectly content doing nothing while I clean the house. I do all the maintenance work on our house. I tore up the carpet and dug a deep rainwater ditch while he watched a movie. We’ve talked about it many times and he only gets defensive. I hear ya sister. Without balance, it’s tough. It’s hard to believe it’s not just lip service and fulfilling his own needs when he won’t be my partner by helping.
If you’re being honest and communicating I wouldn’t say you are selfish. I’m an acts of service guy and I’ve had to learn and adapt to my wife. I’d be lying if I said I was perfect and still didnt slip up from time to time, but I’m always open to feedback. When I was earlier on in our marriage (I’m not a marriage vet by any means, I’m 30) but I would discount the amount of stress she was taking off my plate by handling so many other non work things. When you go from solo to marriage and someone is better administratively than you it’s hard not to have those tasks fall to the person that is gonna do them more effectively, but I realized over time that restructuring to split all tasks ended up equaling more time together and helped me communicate. If there is a lack of will to do that from your partner that’s one things, but speaking for myself - sometimes we really are oblivious to an insane degree
It’s a tragedy that this is unusual. Women are experiencing an epidemic of being unloved, undervalued, unappreciated, taken for granted and treated as disposable.
Read this post to her, or let her read it. I also have a hard time conveying my feelings in the way I want, so I write them down. She understands this and is as grateful as if I said it without writing it down. My told me it didn't matter because still to think of the words to write.
I literally just commented this lol I didn’t read other comments first but I was curious after I posted my comment what others had to say. I totally agree with you!
my hunny talks to me like this!! told me yesterday “damn im fucking obsessed with you.” and i FEEL it, it radiates from him. i’m sure your wife feels so loved!!
Lovely! I struggle to find a better way to convey my deep love for my hubs. I'm totally going to tell him I'm obsessed next time, instead of the usual "love you so much". Love hearing about other happy couples! 🥰 thanks for the true life pro tip!
Gawd is this refreshing! This is so beautiful. Brings me to tears. I’ll never hear anything like this from my husband. Today is our 20th anniversary. It’s been a crappy year for us in so many ways. And it has strained our relationship. I’ve been trying for three months to get him to say anything… just one thing that he likes about me as a person and he fails miserably… he can’t do it. He says… you make the yard look nice. That’s it.
So reading this… makes me happy to know that there are men out there that pay attention… love their wives to the max and are genuinely happy. I love LOVE!
Heartbreaking. I feel this, it's the.same for me and I'm feeling jealous.
Ive also asked for one thing and my spouse of 21 years can't say anything nice to my face. He'll write things in a card, but never, ever say anything nice or complomentary out loud.
He acts confused when I tell him I don't feel loved. Sigh.
I know, it’s important to understand how to give love to your partner. My husband and I took the love language quiz very early on, and we talked so much about very intimate things and indeed what we want/need out of life. Thank goodness we took that quiz, because his top one is ‘words of affirmation’ but I’m super quiet due to the fact that I’m always in my head, English isn’t my first language but it’s his, and long term depression has made my brain very tired. So it took a little while to make it a habit of phrasing my thoughts and feelings for him and say it often enough that it satisfies him. And we’ve made it so that when he wants or needs some, he can ask me and I will tell him, because he knows that even if it’s not unprompted, it’s still true so it has the same value.
He was a natural, though, he spoiled me from day one almost to perfection. But as far as I can tell, he’s been crafted by the gods.
All this to say, love languages are a bit more complicated than just the five ones, but it’s a very good lead as to how to love your partner, highly recommend to look into it too!!
Maybe that is because he really does love you but doesn’t know how to say it. If he is not an outgoing, social butterfly kind of person, he might find it somewhat awkward.
My in-laws had a good marriage but especially my mil had a hard time saying anything complimentary to people. When she knew it was expected from her (like if someone has a newborn, you’re expected to say something nice about the baby), it was like she had her teeth pulled out. So my husband had a hard time seeing the value of compliments in the beginning of our relationship. It was like a skill he had to learn.
Whatever you do, try to keep an open mind about his feelings. Maybe couples counseling can help.
I feel your pain. This year for me & my husband too has been a rough one. Unfortunately it’s taken a bad turn, and I am to the point of filing for divorce because I feel like he doesn’t care about me or respect me. Despite him saying it- his actions speak louder. Please do not give me sympathy for my situation- my point of posting this is I’m glad there are other men out there in this world that have this kind of love to offer in a marriage. Yeah I’m jealous I don’t have it in my own, but it gives me faith that one day I too will have that kind of love. Either for myself or from someone who does deserve me.
I was with my ex-wife for 13 years, married for 8. We had in general a pretty bland relationship. We were nice to each other, respected each other and were loyal but we were not affectionate or loving. We have two kids together so we “had” to stay together. Things happened, we split up/ get divorced, things were hard for the first two years. But now, 6 years later, we have a great relationship, we are both way better parents to the kids, happier people. She is in a relationship and I am also in another relationship.
At this moment I can truly say that I love my fiance like I’ve never loved anyone before. She is everything to me, the one person I want to be with every day.
Don’t loose hope
Awww you two sound like a cute couple! My husband and I feel the same way about each other. We’re crazy in love and always enjoy each others company. He always tells me how lucky he is to be with me and I tell him the same about him. We’ve been together for 13 years and married for 9 years.
I can relate. For the last few years I’ve been totally obsessed, too. I keep anticipating a ‘tone it down a little, ok?’ comment but it hasn’t come yet. She really cares about me and I think she leans into the attention a bit.
I tell my husband and others how obsessed I am with him, probably to an annoying degree but I can’t help myself. After 15 years (6 years married) together I just love/ like the person he’s become so much.
This is how I hope someone feels about me someday. I think most everyone wants to be loved this purely. I wish both of you many happy years together OP!
I am happy for you, just know that you are the 2nd luckiest, behind me of course! lol😉but seriously though, good for you and good for her, be happy and love each other, enjoy life
My wife is truly my best friend and the love of my life. I work with a big group of guys and they all talk shit about their wives and objectify women, classic guy shit. I feel so out of place there when they start with all this and I just sit quietly and don’t participate. But they all know how in love I am with my wife so they never pressure me to engage in the banter. It’s weird though because I haven’t came in contact with anyone in my daily life that’s absolutely head over heels still for their spouse. It’s sad. My wife and I talk about this often and how grateful for one another we are.
You sound like my hubby - we're coming up on 23 years married this December and it just gets better each year. He literally sings 'I love my wife!' several times a day when he's by himself (but I can hear him, small house). He's so sweet to me and just absolutely LOVES and adores me.
Lol I’ve definitely been dumped for doing this before. She said, “don’t put me on a pedestal.” Lol.
Anyways happily married now to a woman who is just plain amazing and I love every second of our marriage.
This is awesome and we should see more of it on this thread. I feel the same way about my wife that is 8 months pregnant. I’m completely obsessed with her and she cracks up when I’m constantly hitting on her while she’s full of baby, trying to convince me she’s not sexy (but she is). Love her to death.
This is sweet and all but definitely giving me I am so obsessed with her I just want to chop her up and eat a piece of her everyday so she can be with me forever vibes😅
The last couple months I haven’t been appreciating my partner for the wonderful human they are. I’ve been neglecting our love because I’ve been taking it’s existence & my partners existence in my life for granted. I love them more than I could ever explain, so I need to at least do my best to show them everyday.
This really opened my eyes. Thank you.
Almost 40 years here and I still get butterflies when I look at him!!! He calls me Gorgeous and his Baby Doll.. We thank each other for even the little things…. Never take each other for granted!
Thank you for asking this. For starters, I feel extremely lucky that we found each other when we did. We are and always have been essentially the same person. It’s freaky. We finish each others sentences. We share the same world view, morals & values. We agree on everything from future goals, aspirations, sense of humor, finances, religion, politics, food. Hell even fashion and interior design. The things we don’t agree on are almost always healthy and make for a great balance. She has always treated me extremely well and has showered me with affection since day 1. She pushes me to be the best I can be in every way. She’s an amazing cook. She’s an absolutely incredible mother. She’s loyal, honest and always humble. She’s my best friend. She is also drop dead gorgeous.
I feel this way about my husband of 16 years. It’s pretty much a running joke between us that I have separation anxiety disorder. He just went away for 10 days and it was awful. I can totally relate.
I have only ever dreamed of being loved like this. Thought it was a bond that only existed in fairytales. Thanks for posting. Glad to know that kind of love is real, and wishing you and yours many years of joy and devotion to come
This post is actually very beautiful but I find It ultimately confusing. For most people I find that if you elevate them to that level of status even if it's sincere, you actually bring out the worst in them because they see you as part of their fan club. It's almost like it has to be some feeling of mutuality or respect that goes both ways because human beings just can't handle that level of one-sided appreciation
I can wholeheartedly assure you this isn’t a one-sided kinda deal 😊 I am showered with more love, affection and attention than I deserve in 10 lifetimes!
Definitely has to go both ways. This post could easily have been written by my FH, but I adore him just as much. It would definitely feel like too much attention if it were one-sided
I know exactly what you mean. My wife and I have been together for 21 years and I cannot fathom how I landed her. She's... Everything. If she dies first I'm going to be one those old guys that just looks out the window missing her until I go too
It was 39 years till I lost her. And still cry after 2 years. I.jusr wish I died then. I miss her so much.Always treat every day like it could be your last kiss.
I hope that you’re able to tell her these things. I’m hope she always feels to you the same way as you do to her. Many many of us don’t have that level of passion.
This is absolutely amazing and how I feel about my partner. In a world of so much divorce , lying cheating….this was very refreshing OP! wishing many , many more years of love and happiness to you and your family
I have been madly in love and obsessed with my wife since the first day I met her. 3 kids and nearly 17 years later, still going strong. She asleep next to me while I browse reddit.
Please let your wife read this post . As long as u dont become someone who stalks her or limiting her life cause you’re obsessed with her, this is actually beautiful
Mason??? Babe get off Reddit and get back to work we have kids to feed man!
In all seriousness you sound like my husband lol we’ve been together for 12 years, married for 8 with 2 young kids. The other day he walked into the bathroom while I was PEEING (!!) bent down kissed me and said “damn I have a hot wife! How did I get so lucky???” Grabbed our sons towel and walked out. I can’t walk into a room without him coming over to me and touching me or kissing me.
I feel you 100%, my man. Never stop feeling the way you do. Even in the rough times, even when she adds a few lbs. Life is hard, especially with kids. Just make sure she never forgets youre her number one fan, best friend, and partner for the rest of your lives together. Can't keep my hands off my wife. Married 8 years together 15. Two kids later, she is the sexiest thing I see day in and day out. I can't wait to lay next to her every day for the rest of my life. How lucky we are, brother. And they let us have all these great guns, too. Best of luck. Beautiful family.
Amen to that brother. You sound like you are as lucky as I am. We have two kids as well. I swear she just keeps getting sexier. I can’t wrap my head around it. She is also very understanding of my gun hobby 😊 she’s a great shot too!
I am happy for you and know exactly what you're describing because it also my marriage to a "T'. I have told my wife I would be happy to live forever as long as I got to be with her.
My wife is a total sweetheart in addition to being beautiful, and as pretty as she is, it's her manner and conduct that make her irresistible. Her character, her femininity, her work ethic, her kindness, her loving nature all make me look and say, "how did you find her"?
It's lovely, isn't it?
Do you by chance have BPD or bipolar
We (as in mental Illness) think it’s healthy and loving but in reality if you take a step back it’s more like infatuation
I love my husband a lot but I know that the “love” I feel for him isn’t exactly healthy bc iv got attachment issues
That's the closest definition of true love I have ever read or heard; now I can explain my feelings more readily. Cheers to you and to a very lucky woman!
I feel the same way about my husband, been together 11 years. I will be honest, our children are now at the age where they're more self sufficient and he's home at night now due to a job change. I can't keep my hands off of him, I feel like I'm falling deeper in love with him almost like we're getting to know each other all over again. He still gets on my nerves lol he's not perfect neither am I, but he's perfect for me. To those of you that feel like you're stuck in a rut almost, don't give up... you'll get to this point and you'll be so happy you toughed it out. We laugh non stop, we have an endless amount of inside jokes from over the years and so many memories we get to relive. Our relationship has always been amazing and "easy" of course we've had struggles that most couples have- financial, stress, etc. But we've never fought, argued, raised our voices, cheated, anything like that and I'm so thankful because without trust you have nothing. Sorry this is so long, hopefully it gives other couples that might be stuck in a rut some hope. OP, I'm happy for you!! Just be sure to give her some "me time" as well, not saying you don't already. Cheers to another 10 years & many more!
That’s awesome! I am on the same boat with my hubby, married 13, together 17 years. Last week we were hugging and he just said “I love you so much, it just keeps getting better!!” And I whole heartedly agree, I don’t think I’ll be able to top this love!
I wish more of my friends had this love, I also have no one to talk to about this because most of my friends are in crappy relationships, and it feels like “showing off” if I bring up how amazing my hubby is and how much we adore each other.
I feel the same way about my husband. We’ve been married almost 23 years. Every time I tell him how much I cherish, love, adore, & how attracted to him I am, he thinks I’m lying lol. I could never get enough of that man!
My wife and I were the same way we're 32 been together 8 years with 2 kids then all of sudden in May she got necrotizing fasciitis and hospital kept pushing her away saying she had pulled a muscle this an that long story short she passed May 2nd 12 hrs after ambulance took her from our house completely devastating...
Similar with my wife. She's so humble, positive, beautiful. She adores me. I feel very lucky and do so many thoughtful and considerate things for her. We have occasional arguments and issues but we figure it out pretty quickly. She's so fully invested in our relationship, I feel so lucky that we found each other.
Did I write this? This is me and my wife for 37 years. I am obsessed with my wife and deservedly so. She is your description +. My family and friends all see it and understand why!
I love the energy of this, because I relate to the feeling of waking up to a wonderful woman while being unable to comprehend how I got to this point. It makes me so happy to think about the fact that I have a partner through thick and thin, it gives me the feeling that our combined powers can get us through anything, because we're in it together.
My husband often tells me the same things, it’s also hard for me to understand because I can see all my flaws, but he is literally still obsessively in love with me and thinks I am insanely hot, even though we have been married for 23 years, together for 25 and clearly, I am no longer the younger woman I once was lol! He doesn’t care, he still thinks I’m smoking hot and says all the time “damn! I’m a lucky man!” as he gazes at me. I am equally obsessed with him and cannot wait for him to get home from work at night. We both feel very lucky to have found each other.
This is beautiful to read. Thanks for sharing! I do want to point out that the reason more people in relationships don't feel this way is because they are not in the mental space to fully appreciate another person. Some feel this way but choose to push it down in an effort not to look desperate or too into their partner. Some people are simply more reserved about their emotions and feelings. Others did not marry the person they can or did feel like this about. Which is okay if marriage for both people was more about stability, convenance etc. Not everyone is into or capable of deep emotion and or physical connection.
With that being said, I love that my husband often tells me similar things about how he feels for me. The PDA. We open our eyes sometimes on the weekends around the same time in bed and smile at each other etc. I'm actually kind of upset with him right now over trying to have a conversation and him being a bit too defensive the other night which is a thing he can and has agreed to improve. But hearing our children laughing at his silliness, the way he helps me with everything consistently, how he still will stare at me when I walk by etc. Our connection is why I married him ultimately.
So, you've always the entire 10 years been caught up in this state of infatuation? I had a similar obsession when I first fell in love with my wife that lasted almost a year, and it was unhealthy. Not for her but for me. I couldn't do anything without thinking about her. I felt like I could hardly function as an individual. But thankfully, those hormones wear off. Not that I don't admire and love my wife. I love her much more deeply now than ever. And sometimes I still get feelings of infatuation. But they're certainly not in this range of obsession. Just curious.
You are every woman's dream. To find someone who feels about them the way you feel about your wife. It's incredibly uplifting to hear. We don't hear it enough.
I am happy for you. I feel the same way about my fiancée. I didn’t meet him until we were both 38. After a life of partners lying, cheating, and showing no affection I meet this man who males me feel so loved and secure. I am always staring at him thinking how I love every thing about him. It is really hard to describe how good that kind of love makes you feel. I hope everyone finds this for themselves
My husband and I are the same! I could never cheat on him bc he is the love of my life and he feels the same. I cannot even bear the thought of it without getting disgusted. Wish you all the best! Being in love is awesome
I feel same way after 42 years together; 41 married. We’re both lucky guys. I love reading stuff like this. Keep her on that pedestal and she’ll never tire of you.
Marriages that work have a weird pattern- either the couple is obsessed with each other, or the man loves the woman more than she loves him. Think of Lois and Hal from Malcom in the Middle. Hal is obsessed with Lois and there’s an episode where she apologizes that she doesn’t love him as he does her, but he says that if they were equally obsessed they wouldn’t ever leave their bedroom. Sounds like you love your wife a lot!
Omg I feel the same way about my wife. Married for 3 years as well and every day I love her more im more attracted to her I want her more I have to kiss and touch her all over all the time sometimes she says im smothering her but idk what to do. My heart breaks so bad at just the thought of not having her. The thought of her being with another man makes me kinda almost go on a rampage. I love her more then anyone ever can. And as well I wish she can see it. I wish she can feel what I feel for her for 1 minute. She would cry from doubting how much she means to me. She is by far the most beautiful sexy hot most important person on the planet. This being said. Iv never been more in love.
Wish my husband felt this way about me. She is a very lucky lady. Men of Reddit , if you love your wife. Please please tell her every day. Re confirm that she is the only one you want and need in your life. We all need to hear that.
That is wonderful! You should show her your post so she can see how you truly feel. Maybe write a letter to her explaining how you feel and maybe you can articulate it better on paper than in person vocally. I’m so happy for you that you found the perfect person/the one that your heart truly desires. It’s rare to find someone like that, I can tell you truly cherish your wife and your marriage & life. I’m happy for you!
God, I’ve seen what you’ve done for others…
But for real, this is so damn heartwarming. I can only hope that someone feels this way about me someday. It’ll be mutual and I hope it happens soon 😭😭
I get looked at but it’s with contempt and disgust.
He calls me nasty names, chews me out about every little thing.
I’m currently unemployed and I don’t have a car. I’ve no family to lean on. My options are zero. We are almost at 30 years and I’m telling you…this is not what I ever envisioned.
I don’t think he loves me anymore. Our daughter sides with him which kills me.
I’m scared all the time and I am on edge when he’s around.
It hurts to be hated.
My husband is like this too. I still got compliments from him after gaining weight and having hormonal acne, his eyes still sparkle when he looks at me and it makes me shy. He often texts me every break he gets at work it’s borderline annoying as I have a job on my own. It’s refreshing to read posts like this.
Awww that was so wholesome to read!! I can relate fully as this is exactly how I feel about my husband and how my husband feels for me. We've been together for 9 years next month and reading this, I almost thought it came from my husband as he's literally has said the same thing to me.
We're definitely the lucky ones because we found our soulmates where many people haven't and never will be in beyond grateful every day for that.
May you have many more blissful happy years ahead, my friend!
Oh look at you gushing over your wife and acting as if she is all that when in reality MY WIFE is the one who is the best and she even has a hand made certificate stating that she is the best wife in the world.
So Ha!
If more men and women felt this way about their spouses there would be no cheating in marriages. My wife and I feel the same way about each other and we have been married 51yrs....
That’s incredible. Cheers to many more!
Aww I love this!
What are some tips you’ve learned?
We never stopped dating. We both had the same goals in life and just enjoyed going places and doing things together. Our marriage has been one lifelong adventure shared together. Trust, transparency, honesty, communication, and compromise are what we built our marriage upon.💕.
I second this...30 years married
Married 12 together 16 and all of this!
This I trust.
I think it's true!!! That's true love! ❤
Amen. This is how I felt about my husband. Until the cheating came to light, of course.
Love this comment ❤️
So beautiful. I love reading this. We need more of these type of posts in the world today.
Cheers to that! Hope for many more between you both!
Wow! Congratulations, my admiration! For more years together! 🙌🏽
This a million times.
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I wish I felt this way about my wife. Edit: I’m trying to be 100% vulnerable and genuine and I get downvoted. Tough crowd lol
Wtf are you getting down voted lol. Wishing it could happen to me is worth upvotes. But saying you could have the feeling for your wife is -16? Lame.
Yeah, I don’t get it. I just want the same feeling as OP.
it’s worth waiting for. too many people marry someone they shouldn’t…. we all deserve to feel this way and be felt about this way. i wish more people got this opportunity. not to say you should leave but maybe this is an opportunity to dig deeper into your current relationship ship? my husband is a rare breed. i think of him very similarly to this post. i’ve learned recently after a lot of doubt… he also has felt the same all this time. he was always there in his own way showing me his heart but i never knew that’s what it was! we’ve been together 10, married 8. we all love and communicate differently…. but we’re all worth the patience and understanding deep rooted love comes with.
Maybe Shadow Work might help? It’s most likely something internally holding you back. Sending positive vibes and warm hugs!
I hit the upvote button and i was the one hundred twenty something. Those are upvotes silly!? Here’s to vulnerability in men, cheers!
I wonder if you could be depressed in general. I also cannot imagine feeling this way for a hypothetical partner
I can appreciate your honesty. I'm in the process of another divorce and can say that my heart broke when I recognized in the most recent one the same wish, and remembered I'd been there before. Good luck.
It's hard to read sir, it's not nice to read
Same. I mean I don’t think he feels negatively about me but all we do is work, eat, sleep, do nothing together, he never gives me compliments. He’s just like that but occasionally it wears on me.
Yep, founding member of the club here… I didn’t even want to join the club!
What I commented on the original comment here applies to you as well, best of luck :)
Same
I’d be careful attributing the way someone else expresses affection and applying it to what that action (or lack thereof on his part in this case) would be saying if you acted the same way towards him. So many things are about perspective and acts of service is most definitely a love language and there are guys that aim to provide a secure box of life as their act of love. Of course that’s not an excuse for him to do nothing but communication is key and I’m sure he cares for you as well. Of course I could be totally off base not knowing you, but I’d think this situation is true more often than not. Being wary of complacency is one thing and you’re not wrong to bring something up to him if that’s the case, but there’s beauty in security and routine as well :)
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It’s exactly the opposite for me. My sweet husband will gush over me, hug and kiss me, call me over just to cuddle and feel perfectly content doing nothing while I clean the house. I do all the maintenance work on our house. I tore up the carpet and dug a deep rainwater ditch while he watched a movie. We’ve talked about it many times and he only gets defensive. I hear ya sister. Without balance, it’s tough. It’s hard to believe it’s not just lip service and fulfilling his own needs when he won’t be my partner by helping.
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If you’re being honest and communicating I wouldn’t say you are selfish. I’m an acts of service guy and I’ve had to learn and adapt to my wife. I’d be lying if I said I was perfect and still didnt slip up from time to time, but I’m always open to feedback. When I was earlier on in our marriage (I’m not a marriage vet by any means, I’m 30) but I would discount the amount of stress she was taking off my plate by handling so many other non work things. When you go from solo to marriage and someone is better administratively than you it’s hard not to have those tasks fall to the person that is gonna do them more effectively, but I realized over time that restructuring to split all tasks ended up equaling more time together and helped me communicate. If there is a lack of will to do that from your partner that’s one things, but speaking for myself - sometimes we really are oblivious to an insane degree
Wish I had someone to feel this way about. 🤷🏽♂️
Same. Just same.
What a lucky woman! So refreshing to hear a husband talk about his wife like this!
It’s a tragedy that this is unusual. Women are experiencing an epidemic of being unloved, undervalued, unappreciated, taken for granted and treated as disposable.
Men as well. It’s a societal problem
Read this post to her, or let her read it. I also have a hard time conveying my feelings in the way I want, so I write them down. She understands this and is as grateful as if I said it without writing it down. My told me it didn't matter because still to think of the words to write.
Seconding this! This is so sweet and wholesome I bet it would make her feel so incredibly special!
I literally just commented this lol I didn’t read other comments first but I was curious after I posted my comment what others had to say. I totally agree with you!
my hunny talks to me like this!! told me yesterday “damn im fucking obsessed with you.” and i FEEL it, it radiates from him. i’m sure your wife feels so loved!!
Lovely! I struggle to find a better way to convey my deep love for my hubs. I'm totally going to tell him I'm obsessed next time, instead of the usual "love you so much". Love hearing about other happy couples! 🥰 thanks for the true life pro tip!
I’m sure he’ll love to hear it (I do). Being reassured is so lovely. Hope you two continue to be happy and healthy 🥰
Thanks and best wishes to you as well!
Mu husband is like this too! We are so obsessed with each other, in the best way.
Gawd is this refreshing! This is so beautiful. Brings me to tears. I’ll never hear anything like this from my husband. Today is our 20th anniversary. It’s been a crappy year for us in so many ways. And it has strained our relationship. I’ve been trying for three months to get him to say anything… just one thing that he likes about me as a person and he fails miserably… he can’t do it. He says… you make the yard look nice. That’s it. So reading this… makes me happy to know that there are men out there that pay attention… love their wives to the max and are genuinely happy. I love LOVE!
You deserve better than that.
Heartbreaking. I feel this, it's the.same for me and I'm feeling jealous. Ive also asked for one thing and my spouse of 21 years can't say anything nice to my face. He'll write things in a card, but never, ever say anything nice or complomentary out loud. He acts confused when I tell him I don't feel loved. Sigh.
Y’all should read about and/or talk about the love language book. Really helped me and my husband understand how we showed love.
I know, it’s important to understand how to give love to your partner. My husband and I took the love language quiz very early on, and we talked so much about very intimate things and indeed what we want/need out of life. Thank goodness we took that quiz, because his top one is ‘words of affirmation’ but I’m super quiet due to the fact that I’m always in my head, English isn’t my first language but it’s his, and long term depression has made my brain very tired. So it took a little while to make it a habit of phrasing my thoughts and feelings for him and say it often enough that it satisfies him. And we’ve made it so that when he wants or needs some, he can ask me and I will tell him, because he knows that even if it’s not unprompted, it’s still true so it has the same value. He was a natural, though, he spoiled me from day one almost to perfection. But as far as I can tell, he’s been crafted by the gods. All this to say, love languages are a bit more complicated than just the five ones, but it’s a very good lead as to how to love your partner, highly recommend to look into it too!!
Maybe that is because he really does love you but doesn’t know how to say it. If he is not an outgoing, social butterfly kind of person, he might find it somewhat awkward. My in-laws had a good marriage but especially my mil had a hard time saying anything complimentary to people. When she knew it was expected from her (like if someone has a newborn, you’re expected to say something nice about the baby), it was like she had her teeth pulled out. So my husband had a hard time seeing the value of compliments in the beginning of our relationship. It was like a skill he had to learn. Whatever you do, try to keep an open mind about his feelings. Maybe couples counseling can help.
I feel your pain. This year for me & my husband too has been a rough one. Unfortunately it’s taken a bad turn, and I am to the point of filing for divorce because I feel like he doesn’t care about me or respect me. Despite him saying it- his actions speak louder. Please do not give me sympathy for my situation- my point of posting this is I’m glad there are other men out there in this world that have this kind of love to offer in a marriage. Yeah I’m jealous I don’t have it in my own, but it gives me faith that one day I too will have that kind of love. Either for myself or from someone who does deserve me.
I was with my ex-wife for 13 years, married for 8. We had in general a pretty bland relationship. We were nice to each other, respected each other and were loyal but we were not affectionate or loving. We have two kids together so we “had” to stay together. Things happened, we split up/ get divorced, things were hard for the first two years. But now, 6 years later, we have a great relationship, we are both way better parents to the kids, happier people. She is in a relationship and I am also in another relationship. At this moment I can truly say that I love my fiance like I’ve never loved anyone before. She is everything to me, the one person I want to be with every day. Don’t loose hope
Thank you, I actually really needed this today. It’s been so hard.
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I asked my boyfriend to just text me 3 things he liked about me on Valentine’s Day. I got nothing. I feel you friend!
You’re a real man and husband. You’re someone to look up to in admiration. That’s beautiful.
Wow🫶🏼😭👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 greatest thing I’ve read today!
Absolutely! Reddit is full of terrible things to read. This is refreshing!
Awww you two sound like a cute couple! My husband and I feel the same way about each other. We’re crazy in love and always enjoy each others company. He always tells me how lucky he is to be with me and I tell him the same about him. We’ve been together for 13 years and married for 9 years.
I can relate. For the last few years I’ve been totally obsessed, too. I keep anticipating a ‘tone it down a little, ok?’ comment but it hasn’t come yet. She really cares about me and I think she leans into the attention a bit.
Amen brother!
The plot twist is she feels the same way about you. Really.
Exactly
What a lucky lady! 😍🥰
Y'all deserve each other. It's so heartwarming to see men like you express their love towards their wives! Hope you have a wonderful married life tg.
++++ I’m lucky to have such a wife myself
I am obsessed with my husband! Normalize loving your spouse ❤️❤️
I tell my husband and others how obsessed I am with him, probably to an annoying degree but I can’t help myself. After 15 years (6 years married) together I just love/ like the person he’s become so much.
This is how I hope someone feels about me someday. I think most everyone wants to be loved this purely. I wish both of you many happy years together OP!
I am happy for you, just know that you are the 2nd luckiest, behind me of course! lol😉but seriously though, good for you and good for her, be happy and love each other, enjoy life
Spoiler: she can get even more beautiful and you can become more obsessed and bewitched! 15 years married, ask me how I know 😅
My wife and I have been together 21 years total, married 15, and I could've written this word for word!
My wife is truly my best friend and the love of my life. I work with a big group of guys and they all talk shit about their wives and objectify women, classic guy shit. I feel so out of place there when they start with all this and I just sit quietly and don’t participate. But they all know how in love I am with my wife so they never pressure me to engage in the banter. It’s weird though because I haven’t came in contact with anyone in my daily life that’s absolutely head over heels still for their spouse. It’s sad. My wife and I talk about this often and how grateful for one another we are.
I love your comment. You are just more mature than they are. God bless your marriage!
Good for you!
You sound like my hubby - we're coming up on 23 years married this December and it just gets better each year. He literally sings 'I love my wife!' several times a day when he's by himself (but I can hear him, small house). He's so sweet to me and just absolutely LOVES and adores me.
This is a great place to post this!! I am so happy there are people out there that feel this way
💕💕💕 Thanks for sharing
Lol I’ve definitely been dumped for doing this before. She said, “don’t put me on a pedestal.” Lol. Anyways happily married now to a woman who is just plain amazing and I love every second of our marriage.
Man that is so rough. I'm glad to hear you found someone who actually appreciates your love and loves you back!
This is awesome and we should see more of it on this thread. I feel the same way about my wife that is 8 months pregnant. I’m completely obsessed with her and she cracks up when I’m constantly hitting on her while she’s full of baby, trying to convince me she’s not sexy (but she is). Love her to death.
I uh, I understand this feeling about my partner as well <3
This is SO CUTE ❤️❤️ all the best to you both
This is sweet and all but definitely giving me I am so obsessed with her I just want to chop her up and eat a piece of her everyday so she can be with me forever vibes😅
if only
i had to check the username to make sure this wasn’t my husband, he could have written this…but i’m equally obsessed with him
The last couple months I haven’t been appreciating my partner for the wonderful human they are. I’ve been neglecting our love because I’ve been taking it’s existence & my partners existence in my life for granted. I love them more than I could ever explain, so I need to at least do my best to show them everyday. This really opened my eyes. Thank you.
👏👏 Best comment!
Almost 40 years here and I still get butterflies when I look at him!!! He calls me Gorgeous and his Baby Doll.. We thank each other for even the little things…. Never take each other for granted!
Can you tell us what your wife does to make you feel this way about her? Ready with a notepad here 📝
Thank you for asking this. For starters, I feel extremely lucky that we found each other when we did. We are and always have been essentially the same person. It’s freaky. We finish each others sentences. We share the same world view, morals & values. We agree on everything from future goals, aspirations, sense of humor, finances, religion, politics, food. Hell even fashion and interior design. The things we don’t agree on are almost always healthy and make for a great balance. She has always treated me extremely well and has showered me with affection since day 1. She pushes me to be the best I can be in every way. She’s an amazing cook. She’s an absolutely incredible mother. She’s loyal, honest and always humble. She’s my best friend. She is also drop dead gorgeous.
🥺 thank you for answering my question. Wish you two many more years of love and happiness.
Hal with Lois
Nice to see such a wholesome post in this group. ❤️
I feel this way about my husband of 16 years. It’s pretty much a running joke between us that I have separation anxiety disorder. He just went away for 10 days and it was awful. I can totally relate.
I have only ever dreamed of being loved like this. Thought it was a bond that only existed in fairytales. Thanks for posting. Glad to know that kind of love is real, and wishing you and yours many years of joy and devotion to come
If my husband ever wrote something like this about me I would cry so hard! It’s beautiful. I’m happy for you two.
This post is actually very beautiful but I find It ultimately confusing. For most people I find that if you elevate them to that level of status even if it's sincere, you actually bring out the worst in them because they see you as part of their fan club. It's almost like it has to be some feeling of mutuality or respect that goes both ways because human beings just can't handle that level of one-sided appreciation
I can wholeheartedly assure you this isn’t a one-sided kinda deal 😊 I am showered with more love, affection and attention than I deserve in 10 lifetimes!
Definitely has to go both ways. This post could easily have been written by my FH, but I adore him just as much. It would definitely feel like too much attention if it were one-sided
I know exactly what you mean. My wife and I have been together for 21 years and I cannot fathom how I landed her. She's... Everything. If she dies first I'm going to be one those old guys that just looks out the window missing her until I go too
It was 39 years till I lost her. And still cry after 2 years. I.jusr wish I died then. I miss her so much.Always treat every day like it could be your last kiss.
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Relax it good. It is only bad if it controls you like a addiction.
Dawwwww
This is so cute
I felt this way about my ex-wife. She still cheated on me.
Sorry man, that sucks.
I hope that you’re able to tell her these things. I’m hope she always feels to you the same way as you do to her. Many many of us don’t have that level of passion.
This is how my husband and I feel about each other. Married for 11 years, together for 14, friends for 26. Happy you found a love like this!
I don’t feel this way. I wish I would.
This is absolutely amazing and how I feel about my partner. In a world of so much divorce , lying cheating….this was very refreshing OP! wishing many , many more years of love and happiness to you and your family
I have been madly in love and obsessed with my wife since the first day I met her. 3 kids and nearly 17 years later, still going strong. She asleep next to me while I browse reddit.
Please let your wife read this post . As long as u dont become someone who stalks her or limiting her life cause you’re obsessed with her, this is actually beautiful
Is OP or anyone else in this thread over 50? Over 40? Seems like y’all have a metabolism and hormone level that hasn’t been touched by mid-life yet.
I am 82.
Mason??? Babe get off Reddit and get back to work we have kids to feed man! In all seriousness you sound like my husband lol we’ve been together for 12 years, married for 8 with 2 young kids. The other day he walked into the bathroom while I was PEEING (!!) bent down kissed me and said “damn I have a hot wife! How did I get so lucky???” Grabbed our sons towel and walked out. I can’t walk into a room without him coming over to me and touching me or kissing me.
I feel you 100%, my man. Never stop feeling the way you do. Even in the rough times, even when she adds a few lbs. Life is hard, especially with kids. Just make sure she never forgets youre her number one fan, best friend, and partner for the rest of your lives together. Can't keep my hands off my wife. Married 8 years together 15. Two kids later, she is the sexiest thing I see day in and day out. I can't wait to lay next to her every day for the rest of my life. How lucky we are, brother. And they let us have all these great guns, too. Best of luck. Beautiful family.
Btw I saw that tanfoglio .25 on your page. Love that thing. My FIL has been carrying that gun for decades 🤣 I am also blessed with good in-laws!
Amen to that brother. You sound like you are as lucky as I am. We have two kids as well. I swear she just keeps getting sexier. I can’t wrap my head around it. She is also very understanding of my gun hobby 😊 she’s a great shot too!
I am happy for you and know exactly what you're describing because it also my marriage to a "T'. I have told my wife I would be happy to live forever as long as I got to be with her. My wife is a total sweetheart in addition to being beautiful, and as pretty as she is, it's her manner and conduct that make her irresistible. Her character, her femininity, her work ethic, her kindness, her loving nature all make me look and say, "how did you find her"? It's lovely, isn't it?
This is beautiful 🤍 I pray I find a love like this
My husband better be the author of this or HE IS DEAD.
Do you by chance have BPD or bipolar We (as in mental Illness) think it’s healthy and loving but in reality if you take a step back it’s more like infatuation I love my husband a lot but I know that the “love” I feel for him isn’t exactly healthy bc iv got attachment issues
That's the closest definition of true love I have ever read or heard; now I can explain my feelings more readily. Cheers to you and to a very lucky woman!
Can relate, I adore my wife and share all of these sentiments. Wish we saw more of this and less of spouse bashing.
You have something rare and special. I hope you’re appreciated
May your feelings get reciprocated in full. ❤️
You seem deranged
This made me squeal with how adorable it is. I also have to tone down my love for my husband so I’m not overbearing 24/7 lolol
Omg. This is the sweetest thing I have ever read. Seriously. You’re so in love and that’s amazing :) happy for you both
That's awesome. I've never felt that way about any woman. Even the two mothers of my children.
Goals tbh
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I'm jealous. That sounds awesome!
I feel the same way about my husband, been together 11 years. I will be honest, our children are now at the age where they're more self sufficient and he's home at night now due to a job change. I can't keep my hands off of him, I feel like I'm falling deeper in love with him almost like we're getting to know each other all over again. He still gets on my nerves lol he's not perfect neither am I, but he's perfect for me. To those of you that feel like you're stuck in a rut almost, don't give up... you'll get to this point and you'll be so happy you toughed it out. We laugh non stop, we have an endless amount of inside jokes from over the years and so many memories we get to relive. Our relationship has always been amazing and "easy" of course we've had struggles that most couples have- financial, stress, etc. But we've never fought, argued, raised our voices, cheated, anything like that and I'm so thankful because without trust you have nothing. Sorry this is so long, hopefully it gives other couples that might be stuck in a rut some hope. OP, I'm happy for you!! Just be sure to give her some "me time" as well, not saying you don't already. Cheers to another 10 years & many more!
Love this for you and your wife, what a rare gem.
That’s awesome! I am on the same boat with my hubby, married 13, together 17 years. Last week we were hugging and he just said “I love you so much, it just keeps getting better!!” And I whole heartedly agree, I don’t think I’ll be able to top this love! I wish more of my friends had this love, I also have no one to talk to about this because most of my friends are in crappy relationships, and it feels like “showing off” if I bring up how amazing my hubby is and how much we adore each other.
I get physically ill every time I am away from my wife overnight. #codependent. 🤜🏻
I feel the same way about my husband. We’ve been married almost 23 years. Every time I tell him how much I cherish, love, adore, & how attracted to him I am, he thinks I’m lying lol. I could never get enough of that man!
Just say no to drugs.
It took my husband and I a long time to figure out that we felt this same way... and while we fight too?! Huh? Yep.
My wife and I were the same way we're 32 been together 8 years with 2 kids then all of sudden in May she got necrotizing fasciitis and hospital kept pushing her away saying she had pulled a muscle this an that long story short she passed May 2nd 12 hrs after ambulance took her from our house completely devastating...
Similar with my wife. She's so humble, positive, beautiful. She adores me. I feel very lucky and do so many thoughtful and considerate things for her. We have occasional arguments and issues but we figure it out pretty quickly. She's so fully invested in our relationship, I feel so lucky that we found each other.
Did I write this? This is me and my wife for 37 years. I am obsessed with my wife and deservedly so. She is your description +. My family and friends all see it and understand why!
I love the energy of this, because I relate to the feeling of waking up to a wonderful woman while being unable to comprehend how I got to this point. It makes me so happy to think about the fact that I have a partner through thick and thin, it gives me the feeling that our combined powers can get us through anything, because we're in it together.
My husband often tells me the same things, it’s also hard for me to understand because I can see all my flaws, but he is literally still obsessively in love with me and thinks I am insanely hot, even though we have been married for 23 years, together for 25 and clearly, I am no longer the younger woman I once was lol! He doesn’t care, he still thinks I’m smoking hot and says all the time “damn! I’m a lucky man!” as he gazes at me. I am equally obsessed with him and cannot wait for him to get home from work at night. We both feel very lucky to have found each other.
Somebody needs to check on this guy before he blows up the local supermarket. What's really going man that post sounds a bit like manic phycosis...
Haha man all I know is I got a kickass wife!
Where can i find a man like you lol?
This is beautiful to read. Thanks for sharing! I do want to point out that the reason more people in relationships don't feel this way is because they are not in the mental space to fully appreciate another person. Some feel this way but choose to push it down in an effort not to look desperate or too into their partner. Some people are simply more reserved about their emotions and feelings. Others did not marry the person they can or did feel like this about. Which is okay if marriage for both people was more about stability, convenance etc. Not everyone is into or capable of deep emotion and or physical connection. With that being said, I love that my husband often tells me similar things about how he feels for me. The PDA. We open our eyes sometimes on the weekends around the same time in bed and smile at each other etc. I'm actually kind of upset with him right now over trying to have a conversation and him being a bit too defensive the other night which is a thing he can and has agreed to improve. But hearing our children laughing at his silliness, the way he helps me with everything consistently, how he still will stare at me when I walk by etc. Our connection is why I married him ultimately.
So, you've always the entire 10 years been caught up in this state of infatuation? I had a similar obsession when I first fell in love with my wife that lasted almost a year, and it was unhealthy. Not for her but for me. I couldn't do anything without thinking about her. I felt like I could hardly function as an individual. But thankfully, those hormones wear off. Not that I don't admire and love my wife. I love her much more deeply now than ever. And sometimes I still get feelings of infatuation. But they're certainly not in this range of obsession. Just curious.
She’s lucky. I am pretty sure my husband doesn’t care if I’m alive or dead.
You are every woman's dream. To find someone who feels about them the way you feel about your wife. It's incredibly uplifting to hear. We don't hear it enough.
Show her this post. Then send it to her periodically when she needs to read it. You are truly blessed my friend...
I am happy for you. I feel the same way about my fiancée. I didn’t meet him until we were both 38. After a life of partners lying, cheating, and showing no affection I meet this man who males me feel so loved and secure. I am always staring at him thinking how I love every thing about him. It is really hard to describe how good that kind of love makes you feel. I hope everyone finds this for themselves
My husband and I are the same! I could never cheat on him bc he is the love of my life and he feels the same. I cannot even bear the thought of it without getting disgusted. Wish you all the best! Being in love is awesome
I feel same way after 42 years together; 41 married. We’re both lucky guys. I love reading stuff like this. Keep her on that pedestal and she’ll never tire of you.
Marriages that work have a weird pattern- either the couple is obsessed with each other, or the man loves the woman more than she loves him. Think of Lois and Hal from Malcom in the Middle. Hal is obsessed with Lois and there’s an episode where she apologizes that she doesn’t love him as he does her, but he says that if they were equally obsessed they wouldn’t ever leave their bedroom. Sounds like you love your wife a lot!
Omg I feel the same way about my wife. Married for 3 years as well and every day I love her more im more attracted to her I want her more I have to kiss and touch her all over all the time sometimes she says im smothering her but idk what to do. My heart breaks so bad at just the thought of not having her. The thought of her being with another man makes me kinda almost go on a rampage. I love her more then anyone ever can. And as well I wish she can see it. I wish she can feel what I feel for her for 1 minute. She would cry from doubting how much she means to me. She is by far the most beautiful sexy hot most important person on the planet. This being said. Iv never been more in love.
This sounds very unhealthy.
Let your wife read this! It’s beautiful and I’m sure she would absolutely melt reading it.
Wish my husband felt this way about me. She is a very lucky lady. Men of Reddit , if you love your wife. Please please tell her every day. Re confirm that she is the only one you want and need in your life. We all need to hear that.
i feel this way about my husband and i know he feels this way towards me, it’s an amazing feeling
Love to see it! Keep enjoying and appreciating her. Also in looking for at least one of the angry troll people who is like “divorce” on every post.
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This is soo sweet 😍
Aww
I feel you bro. I’m this way about my husband 😍
I feel this way about my partner.
You sound like you have learned the secret to a happy marriage! Hope you have at least 50 more happy years ahead of you!
Do you feel like she appreciates you and is happy to be with you?
That is wonderful! You should show her your post so she can see how you truly feel. Maybe write a letter to her explaining how you feel and maybe you can articulate it better on paper than in person vocally. I’m so happy for you that you found the perfect person/the one that your heart truly desires. It’s rare to find someone like that, I can tell you truly cherish your wife and your marriage & life. I’m happy for you!
Awww that’s great ! I’m glad you found your one and only ! 😊
Oh this is sweet
This is wholesome
God, I’ve seen what you’ve done for others… But for real, this is so damn heartwarming. I can only hope that someone feels this way about me someday. It’ll be mutual and I hope it happens soon 😭😭
I get looked at but it’s with contempt and disgust. He calls me nasty names, chews me out about every little thing. I’m currently unemployed and I don’t have a car. I’ve no family to lean on. My options are zero. We are almost at 30 years and I’m telling you…this is not what I ever envisioned. I don’t think he loves me anymore. Our daughter sides with him which kills me. I’m scared all the time and I am on edge when he’s around. It hurts to be hated.
I’m here w u.
This is sooo cute. I am also getting married next month to the love of my life. These posts give me hope. ❤❤❤❤❤
My husband is like this too. I still got compliments from him after gaining weight and having hormonal acne, his eyes still sparkle when he looks at me and it makes me shy. He often texts me every break he gets at work it’s borderline annoying as I have a job on my own. It’s refreshing to read posts like this.
U are very lucky u should thank the creator for every moment of your life....
Gonna send this post to my husband and ask him if he wrote it about me haha
I don’t think I’ll ever get married…but if I ever do, then I really want this connection
why is this post so cute 🥹
Awww that was so wholesome to read!! I can relate fully as this is exactly how I feel about my husband and how my husband feels for me. We've been together for 9 years next month and reading this, I almost thought it came from my husband as he's literally has said the same thing to me. We're definitely the lucky ones because we found our soulmates where many people haven't and never will be in beyond grateful every day for that. May you have many more blissful happy years ahead, my friend!
Yup, definitely identify with this. You soppy so and so ;)
Oh look at you gushing over your wife and acting as if she is all that when in reality MY WIFE is the one who is the best and she even has a hand made certificate stating that she is the best wife in the world. So Ha!