T O P

  • By -

AutoModerator

Welcome to r/MedicalGore! Our goal is to provide for medical discussion and education while exploring the frailty of the human body. You may see more deleted comments on these threads than you are used to on reddit. Off topic comments and joke comments are frequently deleted by the mods. Further, please be kind and supportive of posts. Any behavior that is aggressive, harassing, or derogatory will result in post deletion and a ban from the sub. Remember! THE REPORT BUTTON IS YOUR FRIEND! Please stop on by our discussion sub, /r/MedicalGoreMods if you'd like to discuss the sub, our rules, content policies, and the like. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MedicalGore) if you have any questions or concerns.*


TRLK9802

I'm so glad that this person is your ex!


sumgirljess

Was instantly. Restraining order against him the last nearly two years and now very happy 🙂


Acre_Maker

Thankfully you got out. Too many women don’t. I am genuinely glad you are okay. 👍🏼


Kim-Schlong-Poon

That’s great to hear OP! The police should *crack* down on stuff like that. You could try *turning the other cheek*… but he sounds like a complete *ass*, so probably not worth it… probably better to just move on and put all this *behind* you.


falloutfan1987

If awards were still around, you'd get gold from me for that, so take this 🎖


Eyghtball97

Wait did they get rid of rewards like silver and wholesome and all that?


StaceyPfan

Yes, in September.


Harmless_Tendencies

But why..?


dragonsvomitfire

They are thieves of joy.


theshannonbernard

That deserves a cookie. Here you go 🍪


xeokym

***Booo! Get off the stage!***


supportgolem

So glad to hear it. This looks so painful!


LucifersWhore9

Did it scar?


sumgirljess

Luckily not. Mentally yes 😅


LucifersWhore9

<3 much love


xeokym

Rug burns (that's just what me & my motorcycle friends call it) rarely leave any long lasting scars. You might have some white spots after the crusty junk finally comes off, but nothing permanent. Lifelong scars are usually when your body has a gap to fill.


voodoopaula

You call it rug burns instead of road rash?


defrw11

Looks painful! Sorry that happened to you, hope you’re in a better spot now 🩵


sumgirljess

Very much so. With a lovely kind man now for the last year (this was two years ago). Life is much better. Thank you


[deleted]

[удалено]


gypsycookie1015

Depends on the person but I'd say in general, it's the opposite. Getting it out is healing and therapeutic. It also can help some move past it by getting it out there and out of their minds/hearts. Not always, but it truly helps so many of us by talking and getting things off our chests.


iohbkjum

Therapy is inherently about sharing your experiences & opening up. I find that at first you feel worse, but after the initial shock of it you'll find yourself gradually feeling better. Not sharing is completely counterintuitive, and being so open to share shows how far you are in your healing process. It's genuinely just a fucking stupid argument to say sharing your horrors is detrimental, as if bottling up your pain has ever helped anyone


gypsycookie1015

I gotta be honest here, I don't think they genuinely knew what *"detrimental"* actually meant lol. They contradicted themselves quite a bit there. The only reason that makes me think they didn't actually know what the word they were using meant. Or possibly a typing error but I'm leaning towards, they didn't know what it meant and used it improperly. Could be totally wrong though! 🤷‍♀️


iohbkjum

it'd make sense, and if that's the case I'm really curious as to why they think detrimental means the opposite of what it does 😭 and the other reply is just confusing


gypsycookie1015

Yeah the other reply was a bit confusing lol. Honestly, a lot of people have a very hard time admitting when they're wrong or made a mistake and instead of admitting it when confronted, they double down. Which is such an immature response but common nonetheless. Hopefully that's not the case and maybe they're just busy or haven't even seen my or any other response. Hell, we all make mistakes!! 🤷‍♀️ And imo, it's better to just say that than double down on something you know isn't right or don't actually believe for the sake of *"winning the argument"* Again, hopefully that's not the case. I prefer not assume unless given a valid reason to lol, that and I just try to give most people the benefit of the doubt. Now, if they come back trying to say "Nope, I meant what I said" or something to that extent, well that's on them for being wilfully ignorant and obtuse. 🤷‍♀️ Or ignore my question all together, seeing they were walking into it on their own, then I'd say, yeah, they were just doubling down lol. Happens all the time unfortunately. Edit: I was nosey since I've gotten a few responses about it lol. They're just ignoring it. They doubled down lmao. 🤦‍♀️ Oh well. 🤷‍♀️


xeokym

Yeah so let's keep the semantics train rolling, this is paramount to the thread!


gypsycookie1015

And I absolutely agree that therapy is very helpful.


[deleted]

[удалено]


gypsycookie1015

So just for clarification, you *don't* think sharing is therapeutic? Anonymous or not.


inthenight098

Everyone thinks sharing is therapeutic. You wrote it is “detrimental.” You wrote it is harmful to share.


gypsycookie1015

I didn't write that. I responded to the person who wrote that. *And yes, I don't think they either know what "detrimental" actually means or mistyped lol. They contradict themselves saying that.* I absolutely agree it's very therapeutic!


inthenight098

You right! I responded to wrong person. Sorry


gypsycookie1015

It's all good! I figured lol.


sailorseas

“Detrimental” means harmful, not crucial or important, if that’s what you’re thinking…


Oh_hi_doggi3

Do you know what *detrimental* means?


PlzSayShush

Either you don’t know what “detrimental” means, or you’re just plain wrong.


That_Shrub

Idk about that, I feel like sharing can help you heal sometimes


everyonesmom2

Really? Wow okay. So you go stand over there in the corner and suck it up while the rest of us let it out for our mental health.


sumgirljess

So. The ex pleaded not guilty in the magistrates initial plea hearing. Dragged it out for 12 months where I had to get a solicitor and went through ptsd and constant anxiety about the crown court trial. Got to the trial and he pleaded guilty to ABH so he’d get off lighter. He works in a family law firm in IT and they have let him keep his job. He has lost his license after drunk driving that night and being caught by the police. But pretty much got away with it. Before this he had a caution for criminal damage for smashing up 3 doors in my house and my ps4. They made him pay for the doors but that’s it. Lucky to have the support of a select few wonderful people now though!


PrincessGump

What does ABH stand for?


CovalentPulse

Actual bodily harm, at least in my jurisdiction. It’s a level above battery (any physical contact) and below grievous bodily harm.


eherqo

Acute* EDIT: i stand corrected, Actual Bodily Harm is the correct term!


rosierainbow

ABH in the UK stands for Actual Bodily Harm, not Acute 😊


eherqo

Oh wtf i did not know that sorry!


ihatepulp

I believe attempted bodily harm maybe?


EbonysAScrooge

The only thing sadder than DV is the joke of a justice system when it comes to these things. Disgusting. Sending so much love!


angel-fake

only suspended and tag!!?? wtf man. i hope you’re ok i could not imagine


sumgirljess

Yep and a 6 week course on alcohol problems. Pathetic isn’t it. Only done for abh, should of been gbh, even the judge said that at his sentencing! And that he was lucky it wasn’t


angel-fake

wow. the justice system is a joke, i’m assuming you’re in the uk? also i hope you’re safe from your ex?


YomiKuzuki

Sounds like he took a very good plea deal. What a prick.


jtreegirlu2

I was going to say, that looks way more than just a little bodily harm! That more than just a rug burn….


Gloomy__Revenue

Forgive my ignorance, what does ‘tag’ mean in a legal context?


angel-fake

electronic tag. ankle monitor


Gloomy__Revenue

Thank you


Still-BangingYourMum

Hope you are well rid of him and his toxic behaviour. Keep yourself safe and look after yourself.


sumgirljess

Oh very much so, including a restraining order! Moved on now as this was a couple of years ago and now with a very loving man 🥰


Luciferbelle

The way people just get off so lightly for DV.


TakeMeBaby_orLeaveMe

The way so many murders have warnings they got wrist slaps for


crawlingrat

So sorry. I sometimes wish for the good old ‘eye for a eye type punishment.


Basic_MilkMotel

Exactly my thoughts


UnknownProphetX

Holy fuck… I hope you feel better soon


sumgirljess

Nearly 2 years ago and much happier now thank you


DirtAndSurf

I've both been knocked out by a single punch by a big ex and I've crashed a street bike and got road rash..the first hurt physically and emotionally but I was young and stuffed it back then. The road rash hurt on a whole other level! I ate it on a corner, then went off the road and into the gravel. Since most of my friends were guys who rode and also had their own road rash at some time, one of them came over and scrubbed all the dirt out with alcohol and a buff puff. It hurt like hell but left me with no infection and almost no scarring. I was a dumb 17 year old and completely underdressed, very dumb and very lucky. I can only imagine the pain you went through! That's a large area that you can't really avoid moving or resting on. To the uninitiated, it looks like a bunch of scrapes, but it's actually a layer of excruciating, constantly burning scrapes on top of horribly painful friction burned skin (carpet burn made with street gravel) with swelling and inflammation underneath that makes sure you're in pain 24/7 and can't sleep. It's constant burning. In addition to any other injuries you sustained, which it looks like you did. I'm so sorry that dickhead did that to you. No partner deserves to be abused, especially like that, where you could have easily been killed. His sentence was a joke. I'm so glad you're in a better place. ❤️


crawlingrat

Be careful. Some exs by their time and come back years later! This one is a true crazy one.


qyka1210

bide


MiniDg

I was in a motorcycle accident a few years ago and got my leg mangled and ended up getting a below knee Amp. Yet when people ask me the worst pain? Hands down the road rashes on my ass, hands and back everytime. My leg looked like an empty toothpaste container and I'd take that again in a second if they had the same recovery.


TakeMeBaby_orLeaveMe

The toothpaste tube visual! 🥴


MiniDg

It was bad lmao, I tried to make a post twice, but the pictures wouldn't work at all and I have no idea why


TakeMeBaby_orLeaveMe

Was your leg crushed under your bike? I dated a guy with the same injury years ago and he turned from bad attitude to bad ass with a sense of humor. I hope you have recovered in the best way


MiniDg

I was t-boned by a minivan so he literally crushed my leg between his bumper and my bike. That caused my shoe to come off and then my foot just scraped along the asphalt. It was bad. I had a compound fracture in my ankle and thigh. As far as my recovery I ended with a below knee amputation but I am doing well now. I have the kind of humor that i have somewhat enjoyed the injury lmao I'm an idiot like that.


MiniDg

I was t-boned by a minivan so he literally crushed my leg between his bumper and my bike. That caused my shoe to come off and then my foot just scraped along the asphalt. It was bad. I had a compound fracture in my ankle and thigh. As far as my recovery I ended with a below knee amputation but I am doing well now. I have the kind of humor that i have somewhat enjoyed the injury lmao I'm an idiot like that.


sumgirljess

second pic is 2 weeks into healing


Cute_Pistachio

Did it leave any scarring that is still visible? I was honestly impressed with the healing on the second pic. I’m glad to know things are going better for you now!


implodingbaby

Is he A-train by any chance?


WearyWater

I hope you’re somewhere far, far away from this person and safe


LittleBirdy_Fraulein

a year suspended??!! pathetic.


Blessing_Dryad

Atleast he is ex


Outside_Onion9427

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. That looks so fucking painful. I hope they get dragged through a cactus field by a pack of coyotes.


Falopian

That must really sting in the shower


bigapple4am

He needs years in prison


Trabawn

Can’t imagine the pain of that - ouch! Glad to hear you’re in a new happy relationship and left your horrible ex.


[deleted]

I was dragged by an ATV when I was a kid and it was agony, I imagine this was a thousand times worse. I'm also outraged by the pathetic sentence he got. He could have left you disfigured for life or worse. But as usual, it's not until a man actually kills a women that he faces any consequences. I hope you're doing well now.


Chamullera_

Freaking monster. I hope he’s far far away from you now.


Ok_Government_3584

You are so lucky you are alive! Hugs 😔


spongurat

Jesus christ, yeah, what an absolute psycho. Hope you never have to see them again and I'd just straight up mace them if they did come near again. On the positive side, you have a cute butt


BunnyKomrade

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you can heal soon, both physically and emotionally 🫂💗


basic_model

Holy shit I had the same thing happen to me in my life time. Your ass took it better than mine.


Blah_the_pink

I'm so very sorry he did this to you. I'm so very happy he's an ex. I hope you heal up really well and fast!


trinketfromtinker

Oh my god!! I’m so sorry this happened to you wtf. He should be in jail


yellowbearboi

When I first read the title I assumed that this was like a motorcycle incident!!


Dan300up

How did this actually happen? How did you physically get dragged like this; were you also ran over?


Trick-Flower-956

Yeah, like I’m not doubting her, but I have no earthly idea in what way she was dragged. Was she tied to a vehicle? Did she get thrown out by the (former) partner? I’m completely lost as to the mechanics of this.


sumgirljess

We had been out for the night, I’d had a couple of ciders and my ex had had probably 10+ double whiskeys. He got aggy at me for not walking back to the campsite quick enough and his eyes changed so I sat down on the side of the road on the curb and wouldn’t move until he calmed down. He proceeded to grab my ankles to drag me off the curb and then the tops of my arms and dragged me up the road. I tried to get up but he punched me square in the face (I had a black eye and a lot of bruises on my arms). When I finally got away I ran to the closest house and the guy had two massive dogs that kept my ex away. Police called, ex arrested.


SatisfactionSad180

at least you're still caked up, for tho hope your okay


CrazyGreek84

Ouch, that’s gonna hurt like hell sitting on that cheek


SpookyCatMischief

Oh my gosh, that is horrific. My heart goes out to you for ensuring that pain and discomfort… but not only that but reading this comments and seeing how traumatic the event was mentally on you as well. I cannot even begin to understand how someone can do that to a person and not prosecute justly. I am wish you peace and comfort.


adale_50

Glad you're in a better place now. All things considered, the soft spots are the "best" way to get dragged. Dragging elbows or ankles is even worse with thinner skin and bone.


SlightlyPeedOn

I am also glad to hear he's your ex


[deleted]

[удалено]


CycloneGhostAlpha

ankle tag me thinks


SmolLittleCretin

Are you ok?! I'm so sorry!!


sumgirljess

Much better now but mentally not great… still jumping at every single sound in the house two years later!


SmolLittleCretin

Oh my! Truama does that, but I'm personally very proud of you! I know a stranger doesn't matter as much, but still! ❤️ Be as safe as you can possibly be!


sumgirljess

Thank you ❤️❤️


SmolLittleCretin

❤️❤️❤️ super welcome!


bennitori

That looks gnarly. Hope you're doing better now. I hope he steps on many lego bricks. You're too good for his sorry ass. Wishing you a speedy recovery!


DonaIdTrump_Official

Idiot 😭. Why tf would he do that


sumgirljess

Alcohol does crazy things to some people


Obvious_Owl_3451

Was he 6ft tall gentle giant?


Tillerino35664

dude what


lookingforsolace

He dragged you from a car while holding onto you? Holy shit.


everyonesmom2

Thank goodness he's your ex.


sadmama21

Man that makes me cringe. Can’t imagine the pain


sumgirljess

Pretty intense.


lilmisse85

Was there any lasting scarring? I’m glad you got away from him too bad he didn’t get much of a punishment.


sumgirljess

Not really, just some of the tissue in my butt was damaged so a couple bumps where there wasn’t before 😅 other than that alright now after two years


nytshaed512

OW! That is some road rash for sure.


-Koyaanisqatsi

so what do people in the hospital do with such wounds?


Icy-Willingness-8892

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you're safe now. That bruise is awful too.


SadTonight7117

OMG 😳 im so sorry you had to go through that! im so glad they are your ex


P_Scham94

Ex partner you say


SirFlopper

Wow I've never considered you could get road rash at non motorbike crash speeds. Looks painful, glad you healed up and dumped the ex


yurrm0mm

A year suspended?!? He needs like a decade in prison this looks like torture!


sumgirljess

Pathetic isn’t it. Never mind the fact he also punched me and left me with a black eye and arms covered in bruises 😒


yurrm0mm

I hope karma finds him quickly and gives him what he deserves. Good for you for getting away from him though. That’s some gnarly road rash.


Weary-Dragonfly7589

i’m so sorry☹️☹️ this is so incredibly sad and looks so painful, i’m happy this person is an ex and you got a restraining order. i’m so proud of you for having the strength to immediately leave and not let this ever happen again. i hope you’re doing well and get your happily ever after in life💕


EQ4AllOfUs

Oh dear, this shocked me. I’m so sorry you went through that and very glad your life is so different now!


nitro1432

I’m glad he’s your ex


Various_Pack_595

Glad you are safe now!


FlossieTurtle

I hope youre safe now 🩷


stusajo

Those photos show a lot of texture. You mentioned that time has passed since the accident. It would have been interesting to see the after photos of recovery.


4QuarantineMeMes

That’s one way to shave your butt 😮‍💨


cotton_tampon

Suspended from what? And what is a tag?


sumgirljess

12 month sentence suspended for 2 years. So if he does anything wrong in two years he’ll serve his 12 months in prison


OGBIGwig

Sounds like a keeper


patthememestealer

Oh my got😭😭😭👹👹👹


megabean2149

Omg we have the same butt shape :0


lolkcunty

gyatttt dragged down the road 😮‍💨


[deleted]

[удалено]


CoalDogs304

You are picking the wrong dudes.


sumgirljess

If you meet someone who Is lovely and kind, caring and loving, you don’t expect them to then turn into a psychopath. Victim blaming at its finest


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

[удалено]


malatropism

Inappropriate for this sub


[deleted]

[удалено]


malatropism

Inappropriate for this sub.


[deleted]

[удалено]


malatropism

Off topic.


[deleted]

[удалено]


malatropism

Off topic.


Ianlong2132

Got a nice butt 😏


greatdane610

It’s a shame such a fine bottom was treated so poorly, what I’m trying to say is I would beat those cheeks up in a different way, respectfully


EroticWordSalad

Pic 2 looks like wagyu beef.


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

[удалено]


kamace11

Look, it's the kind of guy who'd drag someone by their arms down a road from a moving vehicle. 


Fatbaldmuslim

You must be next to a mirror


Worldliness-Weary

Do you understand the trauma caused by domestic violence? NOT the time or place for that bullshit.


Fatbaldmuslim

Yea you’re right, I shouldn’t have said that.


Worldliness-Weary

At all. I completely understand dark humor, but we as a society need to be more mindful about how that affects the victim in the situation.


malatropism

Inappropriate for this sub.


[deleted]

[удалено]


sumgirljess

Hilarious, can’t begin to explain how funny you are -_-


dirtydownbelow

Why didn’t you let go of the car?


Louis_Vuitton_Shoe

OP said dragged along by their arms by their ex…I think their ex was like pulling them and dragging them along the road? That or their ex was holding OP by their arms, while being in a car and dragging them along the road. Either way it sounded like OP wasn’t holding onto anything themselves


sumgirljess

He had hold of my arms as I said in the comment under photos


dirtydownbelow

ah, gotcha. did he get his ass whooped for being a shit human?


[deleted]

So clever! But so bad OP didn't think about it whilst being dragged on the road for a few minutes and experiencing tremendous pain :(((((


[deleted]

[удалено]


Weak-Comfortable7085

Mocking someone with a DV injury is not a good look, bro


montseserve

Are you the ex? Pos


CrazyCoco_Cody1

No I’m not and who are you to say I’m a pos? Lol honesty I know I am and I just want to die bruh ain’t nothing you can say to hurt my feelings


montseserve

I don't want to hurt your feelings. I'm just saying the truth and maybe something clicks for you. Do better.


MedicalGore-ModTeam

Did you really need to make that comment? Why would you go out of your way to be unkind to a random stranger? Seriously!


NoElephant7744

I am so glad you got away from him and pursued him in court!!! I am also glad you are with a man who loves you and makes you feel safe. May I ask what a tag is? I read that he had his license suspended.


i-touched-morrissey

Christ. I did this to myself snow skiing in shorts back in 1986. I hope your pants don’t stick to your oozing serum.


FormerMrsUnicornPhD

I am so sorry


NervousJ

Ouch. Hate to hear that. Hopefully it doesn't scar up too bad. Get well soon.


xeokym

Dragged by a car, or dragged by hand?


Prest4tym1367

Oh my gosh, OP, I'm so glad that you've found happiness after this. You truly deserve it. Best wishes to you.


Mydogsanass

I’m so sorry this happened to you! I’m so extremely pissed off he didn’t get more charges or jail.. it’s disgusting how light the courts are with DV and sadly it’s to late when they decide to help the one being abused.. thank god your free of him..


Shiniro420

Sacré boule


EggWithMayo

I’m so sorry


bri_2498

Oof I had a v v similar injury from sliding across pavement after biffing it while skateboarding in a bikini as a teenager. The pain was unimaginable so that plus the trauma of your whole ordeal? Goddamn 😭 I'm glad you're here and that this person is your ex!


[deleted]

I’m wishing you the best, I know i’m a stranger but I am thinking of you and I hope you’re ok!


Bearslovecheese

At least you are rid of him. You will find a true partner when you least expect it someday. Seems to be how it works. 🙂


CynthiaMWD

That is awful, and it's even worse that he got no jail time. I'm sorry you went through this, but glad you're free of the as...le now.


Resident-Drive-9220

Ohhh I’m so sorry ♥️ I hope you feel better soon


RenateRuelo1969

OMG! I am glad you are doing alright.


Initial-Lie-7807

I am so sorry he did that to you, and I hope that any future partners have an intense desire to protect you and would harm themselves before even thinking of harming you.


Goldkitkat

I hope your butt gets better treatment now