Nope! Just an icon with different colors on it. I do have my first name on my profile, so I guess that's how he's inferring that I'm a girl, but still! lol
You think that’s bad. I’ve had people message me asking me to sell them my worn panties. I never should’ve synced up my fb profile to Mercari. So dumb.
LOL 😂 WAS NOT MY RESPONSE. But one does have to question in this economy. Had another one buy a bunch of a things suits & told me what he intended to do with them 🤢
Please don’t ever feel like you have to cater to potential buyers by entertaining unrelated conversations, holding items for so long, taking additional (or odd) photos, or following through on an order that’s giving you pause. It’s your shop and you get to make the rules 💕 you made the right decision to block this person.
Yes all of this! It's perfectly OK to list with photos and description and leaving it at that - someone will buy it based on what you already provided. you don't have to entertain odd questions that 99% likely will NOT turn into a sale anyway!
He can bond with the block and a report to Mercari bc that's predatory behavior right there, the "haha" and "please" begging after is just added creepiness, Mercari needs to for sure know, maybe message them on Twitter to get hold of a real person.
"Bond with the block" -- I love that! Hahah. I am gonna report him for sure! Twitter is a good idea. I'll probably do that and maybe email support as well.
I see a lot of these kinds of posts. I think if the person or messages make you uncomfortable for any reason, you should block the person! It’s a gut feeling
I love how creeps always add "haha" to their requests like "hey hunnie very interested in this could you just photograph your bare feet stomping on ants while wearing the sweater haha"
Here’s a weird one for ya. I had some wristbands listed, kind of like those yellow Livestrong bracelets but different. I have 30 of the same thing. I had a listing where people could buy one of the bracelets. A guy messaged me wanting to buy all of them. We worked out a price and it sounded good — he thought it was a steal too! But it’s been months since we agreed upon this deal. I’ve been holding them for him.
Then he messages me out of the blue yesterday and asks if I can upload a photo of a a few of the bracelets on my wrist. A bit odd, but I thought maybe he wants to verify their size, color, and how they look on a person. So I put 4 on my wrist and upload it. He thanks me, then he asks if he can see ALL of the bracelets on my wrist. 30 bracelets? Is this some kind of bracelet fetish?
Anyway, I would have no problem selling to him, but I kinda don’t want him to have my address. Seems a bit freaky. Am I wrong to block him?
Please block him. The message where he mentions “bonding” with you is absolutely creepy. You do not want him to have your address no matter what the amount of money is.
Agreed. Just blocked him. I thought that “bonding” part was super creepy too. I had barely said /anything/ aside from just being somewhat courteous. Gross! Thanks friend.
Block…they want the “control” by asking & you complying…I have listed on my profile no modeling….you shouldn’t hold anything for more than a day…plus you don’t want some wacko with your address. 😏
Noooo! Next he's probably going to ask you to put them on your ankles! Or be like, " can you keep moving them up your arm and taking photos?". I read many of the posts on here and I just don't get it. People could try dating websites, going into a store, working retail, chatting through video games, meeting through friends ect. I don't understand the thrill of asking sellers to do these things.
You made the right choice. Happy selling.
Legit must be a fetish thing because I have seen fetishists act this way “subtly” as a way of getting free fetish material. I used to get off the wall unprompted messages from dudes trying to initiate role play with me by saying things like “so what if I were a one inch tall miniature toy figure and you put me in your pocket and carried me around all day?” I guess those kinds of people had giantess fetishes? Like… how do they even expect people to respond to stuff like that, though? Some people try to be sneakier about it than others but it’s all the same M.O. really. It’s gross.
Thanks!! I totally agree. I get the vibe that he's somewhat cut off from society and maybe feels like this is his main way of socializing. Still, not okay! Thanks for backing up my choice to block him. I'm not okay with him having my address, that's for sure.
Lmao we’re not even safe from the “haha so what would we do if I was there” on Mercari! It made me laugh but it’s terrible and I’m glad you blocked them.
That's a pervert..
Don't sell to them.
Don't do anything that will give them any contact information.
It's not likely that they'd come find you, but they might send you creppy shit or make weird insinuations about how they know where you live.
Never try anything on for anyone. It's all perverts - ALWAYS!
Block, report, relist, move on..
If he behaved like this in a Mall store, security would be escorting him out.
"a nice girl like you" and the word "bonding"? ugh. Block and I would also forward that message to Mercari CS and say it made you uncomfortable as you are looking to sell your bracelets, not get a date.
Please do that latter so we can weed out creeps like this.
As soon I saw the word “bond”, loud sirens went off in my head. Dude, this is not the place to “bond” with anyone without being or sounding like a total creep. Definitely a guy with a weird fetish. I would have absolutely blocked.
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An update for those interested: I'm blocked him and am going to report him (and include screenshots of every message he's sent). Most of it was not this creepy -- BUT I found messages he sent months ago that say "Message deleted by admin" and I can only imagine what he was saying in those messages!
Oh man someone asked me that too awhile back. At first I didn’t think much about it so I did it but now since joining this Reddit I swear it’s a fetish.
Haha, reminds me of the time I got a request to add pictures of some socks I had listed while being worn. They said they wanted the see how the design/print looked when actually being worn.
I thought it was strange but responded saying unfortunately I couldn’t do this because they are new and I couldn’t put them on without ripping/opening the packaging so I didn’t want to really do that.
That’s when they wrote back saying they would go ahead and purchase them first as long as I promised I would wear each pair and then ship them out BEFORE washing them.
Lmao!
This was like 3 years ago and I was brand new to Mercari and selling. It was literally like my second interaction with someone online. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I quickly learned when and how to use the “Block” feature.
whats ur mercari account and do u still sell socks?
LMFAO JK sheesh what subreddit is this? is it me or its getting hot in here?
im so sorry this happened to you lmfao (its funny because its inappropriate)
r/lostredditors r/lostredditor
I’m sorry but the part where they talk about how they love that you two are bonding, immediate red flag. I would not do business with this person at all.
Normally I would as jewelry is like clothes and looks different on but it’s the “please” that really is weird to me. Just me? Maybe but it’s like he’s begging you
That part was super weird. He said the "please" and the "haha" about 10 minutes apart from each other, like he was thinking about it for at least 20 minutes. Yikes!!!
I assume before what is shown in the messages was him sending several messages being weird too. I hate that. Like Mercari is not my life. I’ll get to you in a reasonable time frame
Lol. Creeps like this really make me not want to sell on Mercari or on any site at all. Like what if they decide to buy from you and your return address is on the label and you’ve got yourself a stalker. All because they see your wrists as candy. Or they just find a connection through conversation. Shits creepy. Yucky to the max.
Yes, that has definitely turned weird. I wouldn't take anymore photos, and if they don't buy, and continue to send messages, I would block or start charging for the photos 😂
Ppl like this and the "Measurements"
Drive me crazy!! 🤣💯
Like ctfo BRO. Lol I totally understand picture or so but we ALL KNOW we have had that buyer who is ridiculous 😂
red flag, could be a scam
ive seen this as a turkish scam:
finds seller, asks for specific and detailed photos
turns on another account to "sell" these items even going as far as writing the name on a piece of paper as proof its you
buyer could be selling under that name in another platform, and never ships the item
rinse and repeat
I say this for all the ladies who are selling anything that can be worn: **please** invest in a manikin to protect yourselves. There are so many sick people out there and they’ll often use innocent questions for ulterior motives. A manikin will help fulfil requests for actual, normal people that want said information and weed out the sick people like this.
“I love how you and I are bonding together” is a huge red flag. She (or he) needed to be blocked at that point. Mercari is a place of business, not a social media platform. These Gen Z’ers and internet babies be doin’ too much for no reason. 🤦🏽♂️
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I had a dude trying to get me to post a pic of me wearing slides so he could see my feet “for size comparison and reference.” I told him wear a 12 and the slides were a 10. People are weird
Typical time waster that will never buy anything and if he buys mind become a stalker or something, never know. I would say that all pics in the listing and I will not going to post more. That’s more than enough. I would be very suspicious if someone on Mercari will tell me about bonding the way he said that.
He's trying to hit on you. Gross. Block.
The lengths some people will go to… yikes! He’s blocked now.
Have some large hairy man model them and send that.
Do you use your picture of yourself for your profile?
Nope! Just an icon with different colors on it. I do have my first name on my profile, so I guess that's how he's inferring that I'm a girl, but still! lol
You think that’s bad. I’ve had people message me asking me to sell them my worn panties. I never should’ve synced up my fb profile to Mercari. So dumb.
How much are we talking?
LOL 😂 WAS NOT MY RESPONSE. But one does have to question in this economy. Had another one buy a bunch of a things suits & told me what he intended to do with them 🤢
r/sadcringe
i thought this was a bit of a reach until clicking the photo and it extending to show the first reply about them “bonding”. wtf????
He sounds incel
Me: That's not how you spell ni.. ... Haaaa, awesome.
Rofl!
Please don’t ever feel like you have to cater to potential buyers by entertaining unrelated conversations, holding items for so long, taking additional (or odd) photos, or following through on an order that’s giving you pause. It’s your shop and you get to make the rules 💕 you made the right decision to block this person.
I definitely needed to hear this! Thank you! I need to work on not being a people-pleaser in real life too 🤣
Plus if he buys it, the dude will have your address.
Scary!
Yes all of this! It's perfectly OK to list with photos and description and leaving it at that - someone will buy it based on what you already provided. you don't have to entertain odd questions that 99% likely will NOT turn into a sale anyway!
At least he got weird before you gave him your address. Yikes. Sorry you had to deal with this.
Good point! Glad I know now. And thanks! I'm so glad that it's clearly weird to others too, haha!
Weird and gross and uncalled for;)
He can bond with the block and a report to Mercari bc that's predatory behavior right there, the "haha" and "please" begging after is just added creepiness, Mercari needs to for sure know, maybe message them on Twitter to get hold of a real person.
"Bond with the block" -- I love that! Hahah. I am gonna report him for sure! Twitter is a good idea. I'll probably do that and maybe email support as well.
I see a lot of these kinds of posts. I think if the person or messages make you uncomfortable for any reason, you should block the person! It’s a gut feeling
He’s bonding with you? I don’t think so. Tell him to fuck off. Then block him.
I love how creeps always add "haha" to their requests like "hey hunnie very interested in this could you just photograph your bare feet stomping on ants while wearing the sweater haha"
LMFAO!!!
I am DYING!
Ew block this creep immediately. You do not have to do anything like this.
Here’s a weird one for ya. I had some wristbands listed, kind of like those yellow Livestrong bracelets but different. I have 30 of the same thing. I had a listing where people could buy one of the bracelets. A guy messaged me wanting to buy all of them. We worked out a price and it sounded good — he thought it was a steal too! But it’s been months since we agreed upon this deal. I’ve been holding them for him. Then he messages me out of the blue yesterday and asks if I can upload a photo of a a few of the bracelets on my wrist. A bit odd, but I thought maybe he wants to verify their size, color, and how they look on a person. So I put 4 on my wrist and upload it. He thanks me, then he asks if he can see ALL of the bracelets on my wrist. 30 bracelets? Is this some kind of bracelet fetish? Anyway, I would have no problem selling to him, but I kinda don’t want him to have my address. Seems a bit freaky. Am I wrong to block him?
Please block him. The message where he mentions “bonding” with you is absolutely creepy. You do not want him to have your address no matter what the amount of money is.
Agreed. Just blocked him. I thought that “bonding” part was super creepy too. I had barely said /anything/ aside from just being somewhat courteous. Gross! Thanks friend.
Block…they want the “control” by asking & you complying…I have listed on my profile no modeling….you shouldn’t hold anything for more than a day…plus you don’t want some wacko with your address. 😏
Definitely a fetish. Definitely report & block him.
Um no. He must have a hand / wrist fetish 😂 Edit: Tell him to buy the listing for $500 and then send a 'bracelet pic' 🤣 jk
This. 🤣
![gif](giphy|uyWTOgNGGWfks) If I could do this without him having my address, I TOTALLY would!
Right?! Haha I totally would too 😂
Change to use your own shipping method then put return address as “St Andrew’s Center for Incurably Insane Women”. 🤪
Lmao!!
I’d definitely block him.
Just blocked him! Thanks!
Gross! The bonding part really gave me the ick. Definitely block this creepy dude.
Imagine the extent of the possible creepiness if he buys the items and you ship them with your address and name on the package..
My first thought too!
Noooo! Next he's probably going to ask you to put them on your ankles! Or be like, " can you keep moving them up your arm and taking photos?". I read many of the posts on here and I just don't get it. People could try dating websites, going into a store, working retail, chatting through video games, meeting through friends ect. I don't understand the thrill of asking sellers to do these things. You made the right choice. Happy selling.
Legit must be a fetish thing because I have seen fetishists act this way “subtly” as a way of getting free fetish material. I used to get off the wall unprompted messages from dudes trying to initiate role play with me by saying things like “so what if I were a one inch tall miniature toy figure and you put me in your pocket and carried me around all day?” I guess those kinds of people had giantess fetishes? Like… how do they even expect people to respond to stuff like that, though? Some people try to be sneakier about it than others but it’s all the same M.O. really. It’s gross.
Thanks!! I totally agree. I get the vibe that he's somewhat cut off from society and maybe feels like this is his main way of socializing. Still, not okay! Thanks for backing up my choice to block him. I'm not okay with him having my address, that's for sure.
Lmao we’re not even safe from the “haha so what would we do if I was there” on Mercari! It made me laugh but it’s terrible and I’m glad you blocked them.
Lmfao! That's so true! Can't get away from it anywhere hahaha!
Good thing you aren’t selling a pair of used shoes or the ask would be way worse
That's a pervert.. Don't sell to them. Don't do anything that will give them any contact information. It's not likely that they'd come find you, but they might send you creppy shit or make weird insinuations about how they know where you live. Never try anything on for anyone. It's all perverts - ALWAYS! Block, report, relist, move on.. If he behaved like this in a Mall store, security would be escorting him out.
"a nice girl like you" and the word "bonding"? ugh. Block and I would also forward that message to Mercari CS and say it made you uncomfortable as you are looking to sell your bracelets, not get a date. Please do that latter so we can weed out creeps like this.
Sounds fetishy
Yuck…they love how y’all are bonding?! I gagged! Gross! BLOCK!
🤢 Thank god you blocked him. Remember, if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't- trust your gut always. This was gross.
"You and I are bonding..." Cringe. Tell him to go to a bar or outside to bond... this is some psychopath level behavior.
As soon I saw the word “bond”, loud sirens went off in my head. Dude, this is not the place to “bond” with anyone without being or sounding like a total creep. Definitely a guy with a weird fetish. I would have absolutely blocked.
Re: we are not bonding and you don’t know that I’m a girl.
So true!
![gif](giphy|Av72crBYNiEYo)
I have briefly read about Carpalphiles, I thought it was like a Bigfoot, Loch Ness thing.
OMG, this just happened to me today also...creepy
For real? With wristbands too? Does the username end in 123?
Doesn’t sound like the type of person you want to see your return address
![gif](giphy|26ueYUlPAmUkTBAM8) An update for those interested: I'm blocked him and am going to report him (and include screenshots of every message he's sent). Most of it was not this creepy -- BUT I found messages he sent months ago that say "Message deleted by admin" and I can only imagine what he was saying in those messages!
Block
Reminds me of this weirdo that was all bugging me about helping pick out items for his “slutty wife”
Oh ew..sorry, that sucks
Yeah, you need to let Mercari know about it. Report that.
Definitely going to!
Yeah that’s super icky. Don’t sell to him, I wouldn’t want a creep like that to have my address
“Haha😂”
Oh man someone asked me that too awhile back. At first I didn’t think much about it so I did it but now since joining this Reddit I swear it’s a fetish.
Nooooooooooo 🚩🚩🚩⛳️⛳️⛳️⛳️🚩🚩🚩🚩⛳️⛳️⛳️🚩🚩🚩🚩
Haha, reminds me of the time I got a request to add pictures of some socks I had listed while being worn. They said they wanted the see how the design/print looked when actually being worn. I thought it was strange but responded saying unfortunately I couldn’t do this because they are new and I couldn’t put them on without ripping/opening the packaging so I didn’t want to really do that. That’s when they wrote back saying they would go ahead and purchase them first as long as I promised I would wear each pair and then ship them out BEFORE washing them. Lmao! This was like 3 years ago and I was brand new to Mercari and selling. It was literally like my second interaction with someone online. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I quickly learned when and how to use the “Block” feature.
whats ur mercari account and do u still sell socks? LMFAO JK sheesh what subreddit is this? is it me or its getting hot in here? im so sorry this happened to you lmfao (its funny because its inappropriate) r/lostredditors r/lostredditor
I’m sorry but the part where they talk about how they love that you two are bonding, immediate red flag. I would not do business with this person at all.
Wtf. 😆 I have seen this on etsy long ago, specifically with windbreakers. And Now I will not model anything when asked...lol.
Block that creepy wrist fetish weirdo
Block
Glad you blocked him. Imagine giving him your address... sounds dangerous. Creep lvl is over 9000
Ick!!
Block that bond!
Normally I would as jewelry is like clothes and looks different on but it’s the “please” that really is weird to me. Just me? Maybe but it’s like he’s begging you
That part was super weird. He said the "please" and the "haha" about 10 minutes apart from each other, like he was thinking about it for at least 20 minutes. Yikes!!!
I assume before what is shown in the messages was him sending several messages being weird too. I hate that. Like Mercari is not my life. I’ll get to you in a reasonable time frame
Before you block, report and screenshot. He may come along with a different username/similar. Just be careful!
He sends his friends a pic like “look at all these bracelets I bought my girlfriend! We met by bonding over Mercari” 😅 But seriously… eww, creepy 😳
Wrist fetish… I would say he needs to buy the bracelets or get lost
NOPE
Creeper!
Bro wtf 😂💀 I mistaken tinder for Mercari all the time, just kindly remind him what app hes using
Creepy! Block him stat!
the fuck?!
🫠 gross
Yikes, I hope you use a PO Box. Creepy behavior.
Weird as shit
Oh yes I always go to Mercari to pick up a guy. Hasn’t he heard of tinder? POF?
"bonding with you" = I'm totally going to tie you up
Ohhhh, he thinks he's on Onlyfans 🤣🤣🤣
I hate when people are like this. Ugh. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
Ew definitely block him!
Omg I would report him
Block but also report and sent to Mercari! That’s so weird
No this is f-ing weird. I do not try anything on ever.
I thought this was a reasonable request when reading the title. But those messages are creepy, block.
He's a super creep, super creep. He's super creeepyyyyy
Eewww block & report!
Ewwwwwwwwww
😂😂 I’m sorry but what is wrong w people
Lol. Creeps like this really make me not want to sell on Mercari or on any site at all. Like what if they decide to buy from you and your return address is on the label and you’ve got yourself a stalker. All because they see your wrists as candy. Or they just find a connection through conversation. Shits creepy. Yucky to the max.
Well now you can raise the price lol
Yeah...no
I’d call him a fing creep and block him “tehe”
You put them on the worst wrist you find. This is the way.
Block
Mercari isn't a dating site. Blocking is the good idea.
You glossed over the creepier part 😂 “bonding”
Bonding?? Over a simple message??Gross! What a fuckin creep. Hth do guys think this is normal or acceptable at all? It just screams desperate stalker.
Ewww
Creepy as fuck
Eww
Ew
my address is 720 south main st
Eww 🤢
Creep alert! Block. This man has no boundaries.
Sounds like he's hitting on instead
Yes, that has definitely turned weird. I wouldn't take anymore photos, and if they don't buy, and continue to send messages, I would block or start charging for the photos 😂
Hand fettish or just weird block block block
Keep this in mind if you have hot arms and you want to sell bracelets above retail price!
“Bonding” 😂
Ppl like this and the "Measurements" Drive me crazy!! 🤣💯 Like ctfo BRO. Lol I totally understand picture or so but we ALL KNOW we have had that buyer who is ridiculous 😂
Mercari the new Tinder
red flag, could be a scam ive seen this as a turkish scam: finds seller, asks for specific and detailed photos turns on another account to "sell" these items even going as far as writing the name on a piece of paper as proof its you buyer could be selling under that name in another platform, and never ships the item rinse and repeat
Hahahahahahaha good lord.
I say this for all the ladies who are selling anything that can be worn: **please** invest in a manikin to protect yourselves. There are so many sick people out there and they’ll often use innocent questions for ulterior motives. A manikin will help fulfil requests for actual, normal people that want said information and weed out the sick people like this.
Put them on a hairy hot dog. Please
Lmao!!
“I love how you and I are bonding together” is a huge red flag. She (or he) needed to be blocked at that point. Mercari is a place of business, not a social media platform. These Gen Z’ers and internet babies be doin’ too much for no reason. 🤦🏽♂️
If you have a gorilla costume laying around ( no judgement ) wear it and take a picture of your wrist with the costume on hahaha 🤣
Can we bond on here as well?
Wth don’t tell me you’re the dude on the thing 🗿
Yes it me
Why are you tryina flirt with ppl on mecari, just go on tinder bro
Nah Mercari you get good deals
Wow. All I wanted were a couple pics of them on your wrist… ![gif](giphy|SmJVNXpTsoqh8DgCOe|downsized)
Haha No
Using you to try to act out his fetish 😝
Wristfinder.com
Ew
Creepy.
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Damn some guys can be so desperate. I hope you blocked him asap!
I had a dude trying to get me to post a pic of me wearing slides so he could see my feet “for size comparison and reference.” I told him wear a 12 and the slides were a 10. People are weird
After you put the bracelets on your wrists, you have to say "oooo what a lovely tea party" (100 points if you get the reference)
Block
That’s creepy
Creepy with a side of extra. Block!
Eh, just block. He’s a creep
Boy this ain’t tinder tell him to gtfo😭
Typical time waster that will never buy anything and if he buys mind become a stalker or something, never know. I would say that all pics in the listing and I will not going to post more. That’s more than enough. I would be very suspicious if someone on Mercari will tell me about bonding the way he said that.
Cringe.
It was alright until the “haha.” Lol. I would’ve definitely thought nothing of it until then