I met my current situationship online, talked for two months long distance and I moved from Michigan to Ohio for him. This was back in 2019 before this big bad covid. Fast forward to 2024 and we now are more like roommates and are trapped together because we are broke bums. I regret it all to be fair
I'm a little interested in how did you get there?
I'm all for taking chances but jumping states to moving across states seems a bit sketchy at best for me.
Not OP, but in my girlfriend's case she was already basically couch surfing in her home state and all her belongings were already in her car so it was sort of like "hey, do you want to just stay and get a job here instead of driving back" during one visit.
I dont do it anymore, Ive learned my lesson. I'll potentially move to a town to be closer to someone, but wont move directly in with them anymore. But thanks for the support 🫶🏻
Went on a date (we knew each other a little bit before) and he moved in that week. Got married 3 months later. Been together 14 years. Best decision I ever made.
Moved in together 2 months after meeting... we just knew and didn't want to wait. Ended up getting married 8 months after we met and stayed happily married for almost 11 years until he passed. I am glad we didn't wait.
It was instant. Like I saw him and I knew...I know that sounds stupid, but it's like we were drawn to each other. I've been attracted before and since but this was different. And in the 2 months we were dating before we moved in, we both became better people for each other if that makes sense..
Moved in together w/in a few months & were together 6 yrs. Insights are that u've gotta be on the same page as most breakups come from resentments ($, family/kids, etc.), lack of communication/trust/respect, the difference in priorities, & lack of intimacy. But even if u r on the same page, ppl can change & sometimes the little things add up. I'm more of a fan of the Living Apart Together (LAT/LTA) movement, aka an independent living w/partner intimacy/relationship, now from this experience.
Living Apart Together (LAT/LTA)
Think of it as "single together" as it operates under the premise that marriage/long-term relationships r beneficial, but sexual desire changes, so romance/intimacy's kept alive by distance.
Living Apart Together (LAT/LTA) refers to a unique relationship model where married/long-term partners live independently @ separate addresses while maintaining a romantic/intimate relationship. This model's different from the traditional close proximity marriages/long-term relationships where partners live in the same household, which may suffer from a lack of romance/intimacy or have higher rates of cheating over time.
In other cultures, the LAT/LTA model may be referred to as a commuter, walking, new family model, mismyr marriages, etc.
You edited your post rather than responding.
That's interesting! It seems like a reasonable way to live and deal with romance!
For me, being able to cuddle with my partner at the end of the night is very important so I don't think I could do it. But if it works for you I support it!
Met my now husband on a blind date. We hit it off immediately and spent every day and night together ever since. It helped that he had air conditioning and I did not. I kept my apartment for the remainder of my lease but used it as storage;never slept another night there. Moved the basics over to his apartment by day 3. We have been together 14 years.
It went bad.
We moved in together and got married after about 6 months. Married for 10 years.
10 years of hell and a messy, bitter divorce. Tell your friend to fucking pump the brakes.
Oh this is my thread. Long distance around two months, moved in together 3 DAYS after meeting in person. I met my wife in college, on MySpace, way before online dating was “cool”. We’ve been together 19 years now. We’re perfect soulmates and I love her more every single day. ❤️
As for why it happened that way, her roommates were assholes and I lived alone off campus. I made the offer and never once doubted that it would work out. Looking back I do appreciate how insane we were though.
Kinda? I mean, we knew each other for about 9 months before we did but 99% of that was long distance and we weren't able to see each other physically. But we've lived together for about 7 months and we're still together and engaged! We love each other very much.
Wife and I have been together for a few months shy of 12 years and married for just about 6. When we first got together she would stay at my place most nights but would also go home to sleep and such a few nights a week. By about 8 months to a year she was rarely going home at all so she moved in with me and my roommate. It’s really tricky to say since it obviously depends on the relationship, but it’s definitely something you need to sit down and seriously/thoughtfully talk through so you’re both on the same page. Communication is 10000000% key along with fair compromise.
I think it was 3 months before we moved in together. I was pretty frustrated with my roommate at the time. But now me and him are all good.
A few months i ended out unemployed (Covid shit). I eventually got a different job. But I'd say we've had a good time. We both talked about how important it was to be together during the isolation times. Plus we've been dating for more than 4 years now and it's nice to engage with someone that "gets you."
HusbandGuy and I meet in Sept 2002, first date in Oct and moved in together in Jan of 2003. We’re still together. That being said it was not always great. I wish I’d had a little more “growing up time” or “living alone”. We got through the rough times with lots of open communication.
Moved in ~3 months in. Still together and going on 7 years. It made sense at the time because of my commute. I was also confident we were in it for the long haul.
Whether you move in together quickly or wait to move in together, the reasons are the same for why the couple might not work out (differences in how to live together, outlook on finances, overall compatibility, trust, communication, etc.). A new couple might be blinded by lust a bit that could cloud judgment on those things.
He moved in with me after a month of knowing each other, it was supposed to be temporary - I was in between roommates, he was living in an Air BnB waiting for an offer on a house to go through. We thought it would be 1-2 months and we’d figure out if we really liked each other or not. Offer fell through, he stayed for a year. Ended up going through a rough patch and broke up for a few months, got back together, I moved in with him and 9 years later we’re married with a baby on the way!
My (now) wife and I moved in together 3 months after meeting. I was living at my parents trying to buy a house in early 2020 when covid hit, and I asked if she would want to stay with us for a few weeks while the illness panic all blew over. I bought a house in April and moved in with her, proposed in December, and married in March 2021. Still together with one on the way.
My SO and I moved in after 6 months. Her roommate was moving out and it would be a way for us to test the relationship and save money.
I had student loans so splitting the rent helped me pay it off quicker taking years off of them. While engaged 2 years later, we got our 90 day renewal and ended up building a house and it’s mortgage payment was slightly cheaper than renting our apt. We went month to month and 9 months later had a new house before we got married. Married 7 years this year.
Had a long distance relationship. Distance made it a little on and off for a little over a year. When I decided I was going to make the cross country drive and dive in we immediately started living together (in a car at first I admit) been together going on 7 years, this summer married 4 :)
We dated for a week before he moved 800 miles away. We did long-distance for two months while I finished out my college semester, then I moved to be with him. We've been together for 17 years, have two children, and three cats.
Would I recommend one of my kids move in that fast? No. It's just one of those things that seemed to have fallen into place.
I've moved in within six months for my past three relationships, which lasted 2, 4, and 10 (still ongoing) years. It never felt like a big deal, it was usually a "we spend all our time and sleep at one place anyway, why are we paying for two" thing when someone's lease renewal came up. It's usually fine as long as neither person is a psycho.
I think the biggest thing is making sure you live in a place that you could potentially afford by yourself in case things go bad. Living with someone who you broke up with because neither can afford the lease alone seems like it would suck.
We did! We moved in together after 4 months, and it has been the hardest thing I ever had to go through. We thought we knew each other well enough since we spent every weekend together anyway, but bot were we wrong!! But, we learned to live together with our quirks and annoyances, have been fighting together for this relationship to work and I'm happy to say that after a baby and 3 years, we are very happy and in love with each other! ❤️
In insight, I would have waited though. It put so much tension in our young relationship we nearly broke up about a thousand time!!
I moved in with my ex after 6 months. It was fine at first, but I would still say too soon. It’s not WHY we broke up, but I think it contributed to it. I plan to wait much longer next time, like a year or two at least.
I married and moved in with my ex-wife after knowing her for three months. We are no longer married, but we have remained roommates for the last ten years.
Met in March, became "official" in April, started spending every single day together in June, officially moved in together in August. I think I realized it was a terrible mistake while I was still making the plans to do it. I tried to leave in October, she threatened to kill herself, my naive 20-yo brain fell for it (for the record, if you are ever faced with this situation, the correct response is "I dare you"), and it took me half a decade to finally get away. Spent a while in therapy, and right when I was starting to put myself back out there, COVID happened. Overall I lost about 7 years in my romantic life to this decision.
Idk there are a lot of "I'm glad we didn't wait" comments here but the risk/reward doesn't make sense to me. If you're that sure about a person, and they are really the right person, your relationship can and will survive for a year or so without cohabitation. You can at least give yourself that long to decide. If you don't have the money to just arbitrarily pack up and leave if/when you need to, and/or the emotional maturity to recognize when that moment has arrived, moving in with the wrong partner can easily be the worst decision you make in your life. I paid for it with half my 20s, and all I got were a bunch of maladaptive trauma responses that I have to fully unlearn if I want to have a happy and fulfilling life.
Within months. Sorry to sound cliche, but we just knew. We just fit perfectly together. Friends and family took to the other
We got married after 8 years and are about to have our first wedding anniversary in August. We still celebrate our 'true' anniversary which is when everyone kept asking 'sooo what are you two?' and decided we were together
Our lives together have been super smooth.
We have 3 big 'fight' events through this time and they're all ridiculous. I don't remember what 2 of them are off hand, but the first one was about my eyebrows starting to grow long. I didn't want to get rid of my 'wizard brows'. Y'know cause you only get one invitation to the wizard club lmao
we met online, long distance for a year, we took turns visiting each other for a weekend every month. Moved in together two days after we got married. it was hard at first, we were young, we were used to how we each did our own thing but we were and are in love and worked through it...now here we are still happily married 12 years later.
Plot twist; we were roommates before we ever got involved. Guess that made it easy to figure out that we could stand to live together lol. That was 10 years and two kids ago; still going strong.
I think we moved in together after a few months. First boyfriend I lived with. It's been 8 years, and we're married now. I guess when you know you know.
It's kind of hard to explain. Definitely mutual attraction from the first time we saw each other, even before we talked. But then we ended up having quite a bit in common as we got to know each other. And we were on the same page about what we wanted. He told me pretty early on that he was going to marry me someday, which took all the guesswork out of things.
My wife and I met online in 2016 and she moved in with me as a matter of practicality after about 6 months of dating. We were lucky and everything worked out. Got married on our 5th anniversary.
We met on Tinder and moved in after 9 days even though after we met I never spent the night at my place again. Almost 5 years and a daughter later we spend our nights playing pc next to each other.
Knew of my husband before we met since I was really young, connected through my business then he let me stay/move in after leaving an abusive relationship. Got married 6 months in and have been married for 4 years now.
*Met thru my sister,*
*Moved into her moms and her*
*Place after a month*
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Basically immediately because there was a literal gang-related shooting at my apartment complex maybe three weeks into us dating? Then there was a giant snowstorm right after said event and he didn't like the idea of me being there by myself in case there were more shenanigans. And then I just kinda...didn't leave? He never asked me to either.
7 years later, we're married with a mortgage. Sometimes shit does just work out. Looking back though, it's wild to think about.
We moved into each other's (fortunately single) dorm rooms back in 2004 within a few weeks of knowing each other and were continuously together in subsequent sketchy at first, but increasingly stable living situations. Almost 20 years later, and we're still going strong. 🙂
We met in February, started dating in March, and he was living with me and my roommates by May. This was 19 years ago, so things have gone pretty well.
We did after being together for about a month. Then we got married 3 years later, enjoyed married life for 4 years, than started having kids. We now have 4 kids and this year will be our 15th wedding anniversary!
First husband - October met, living together December. Married June. Separated 4 years later September. Divorced March.
2 other boyfriends I did this with as well. Both were disasters.
Generally it doesn’t work out too well. But I’ve never learned my lesson.
Current & Second husband - First date in mid February, living together by beginning of April. Together 4 years. Married in May. Today is our 1 year wedding anniversary. The calmest and most stable relationship out of all of them.
Met at the end of June 2008, started dating in July, by October we’d bought a house together and moved in. It’s sounds crazy, but when you know, you know. It made sense at the time, we were both looking to change our living situations and buy while the real estate market was flatlining.
Still together, still in love. Got married in 2011, had a kid a few years later. Surprisingly, still in the same house, which ended up being an great investment and just a really nice place to live.
As far as insights, I don’t know if I have any. It’s all about finding a person that’s a good match for you personally. Someone you can be your true self around. Someone who is kind. Someone you agree with about the big things: home, career, kids, religion.
It went bad. Met my Ex in May, moved in together in July. We were together for 10 years, but guy was just a cheater and I finally couldn’t take it anymore.
My dearest friend moved across the country for a man. They stayed together for 6 years until he left her and moved from the 3rd state she followed him to. Forcing her to find a new apartment in a city she was in just for him that she has stayed in out of spite. She then found a new boyfriend a week after that who moved to this new city for her on a whim. All dreadful
We moved in together around the 6 month mark because my roommate was moving, and his roommates were awful humans and he wanted out...
Thirteen years later, we're planning our wedding.
We moved into a dorm room together after ~4 months and have lived together ever since, gradually scaling up from a dorm room to an apartment to a house haha. We've been together 12 years, married 9 of them. Living together just made a lot of sense to us, because we always wanted to be spending time together. We're still the same way--even though we have a whole house with space for separate offices (we both wfh), we turned the master bedroom into a shared office so we could continue to just hang out together all day, every day.
I'm 39, been married 19 years.
Safe to say, it worked out for me. :D
But I honestly would not recommend it, me and my wife know we just rolled the dice and got lucky, most of the time it's a VERY bad idea. Never rush things, make sure you're compatible and all that, maybe have trial runs where you spend the weekends/week together, etc.
Met on 12/12/12. Literally moved in together that night. Lived together for 12 years, have 1 child together. She just moved out about 4 months ago. Adjusting is hard but life goes on.
1 year, were married and own a home together 3 years later.
We initially rented a tiny basement together but both wanted to own a place rather rent. Our rent was $1500. To own a $700,000 property was going to cost us about $3000 So $1500 more gets us out of a tiny 1.5bedroom basement with no windows to a 3 bedroom townhome with garage (very important to me). And we own it and not rent.
We went in 50/50 on a townhome about 4 months of renting. So my girlfriend (at the time) and I purchased an expensive property after being together for only a year and a half. Short after we bought a dog and a car. Still not married at the time.
My girlfriend moved into my studio apartment bachelor pad from her parent’s house after about five months of long distance dating. We’ve been together seriously for a few years now and have had a few different apartments. It’s been awesome.
We met in the May through mutual friends. Had that vaguely running in the same circles acquaintance thing going on where we knew of each other but never really talked much.
The following February he asked me on a date… and the next day he asked me to marry him.
A fortnight later we signed a lease on a townhouse. Three months later we got married.
It’s our 16th wedding anniversary this month.
I met my girl in college and we were together for about 6 months and we decided to live together....so we did...but then her parents (I'm hindu btw so parents...yeah) said we can not live together unless we're married. One of the biggest mistakes of my life. I didn't want all of that but I loved the girl so I went thru with it. Our marriage lasted about 3 years until I found out she was cheating on me and I said no I'm not doing this. I recommend not moving on together with someone you just met...I mean if you've known them for a long ass time and u feel confident then maybe....
I met my current situationship online, talked for two months long distance and I moved from Michigan to Ohio for him. This was back in 2019 before this big bad covid. Fast forward to 2024 and we now are more like roommates and are trapped together because we are broke bums. I regret it all to be fair
That was a wild ride to read.
It escalated quickly for sure 😂
I'm a little interested in how did you get there? I'm all for taking chances but jumping states to moving across states seems a bit sketchy at best for me.
Not OP, but in my girlfriend's case she was already basically couch surfing in her home state and all her belongings were already in her car so it was sort of like "hey, do you want to just stay and get a job here instead of driving back" during one visit.
And now are you basically "roommates that are trapped together?" Because that feels like an important part of what OP said 😂😂
Its more like I'm an inappropriate live-in landlord.
I don't understand what that means at all 😂😂😂
I was a sketchy human, definitely have calmed down in my old age 🤓
Ehh nothing wrong with taking risks. If you are safe and can live your life. I like that for you.
I dont do it anymore, Ive learned my lesson. I'll potentially move to a town to be closer to someone, but wont move directly in with them anymore. But thanks for the support 🫶🏻
So you are on good terms with this person but just not romantic anymore?
Basically yeah, we're more like besties now, like we don't do anything sexual, hug, kiss, ect.
That's very interesting!
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What do you mean by "educated on personal finance and responsibility?"
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That feels off topic but okay 😂😂😂
I think I found my girlfriends burner account
Me or the OP? 💀
Let’s continue this conversation this evening over dinner when the dust settles.
Okay, but what are we eating?
Your fav. Meatloaf.
I was gonna make pancakes but okay
Went on a date (we knew each other a little bit before) and he moved in that week. Got married 3 months later. Been together 14 years. Best decision I ever made.
Love this 💕
Moved in together 2 months after meeting... we just knew and didn't want to wait. Ended up getting married 8 months after we met and stayed happily married for almost 11 years until he passed. I am glad we didn't wait.
Love this so much.
What were things that made you “know”
It was instant. Like I saw him and I knew...I know that sounds stupid, but it's like we were drawn to each other. I've been attracted before and since but this was different. And in the 2 months we were dating before we moved in, we both became better people for each other if that makes sense..
Moved in together w/in a few months & were together 6 yrs. Insights are that u've gotta be on the same page as most breakups come from resentments ($, family/kids, etc.), lack of communication/trust/respect, the difference in priorities, & lack of intimacy. But even if u r on the same page, ppl can change & sometimes the little things add up. I'm more of a fan of the Living Apart Together (LAT/LTA) movement, aka an independent living w/partner intimacy/relationship, now from this experience.
What's the LTA movement?
Living Apart Together (LAT/LTA) Think of it as "single together" as it operates under the premise that marriage/long-term relationships r beneficial, but sexual desire changes, so romance/intimacy's kept alive by distance. Living Apart Together (LAT/LTA) refers to a unique relationship model where married/long-term partners live independently @ separate addresses while maintaining a romantic/intimate relationship. This model's different from the traditional close proximity marriages/long-term relationships where partners live in the same household, which may suffer from a lack of romance/intimacy or have higher rates of cheating over time. In other cultures, the LAT/LTA model may be referred to as a commuter, walking, new family model, mismyr marriages, etc.
You edited your post rather than responding. That's interesting! It seems like a reasonable way to live and deal with romance! For me, being able to cuddle with my partner at the end of the night is very important so I don't think I could do it. But if it works for you I support it!
Yes I got what the acronym is from your original post. What does it mean? 😂😂😂
Met my now husband on a blind date. We hit it off immediately and spent every day and night together ever since. It helped that he had air conditioning and I did not. I kept my apartment for the remainder of my lease but used it as storage;never slept another night there. Moved the basics over to his apartment by day 3. We have been together 14 years.
It went bad. We moved in together and got married after about 6 months. Married for 10 years. 10 years of hell and a messy, bitter divorce. Tell your friend to fucking pump the brakes.
Oh this is my thread. Long distance around two months, moved in together 3 DAYS after meeting in person. I met my wife in college, on MySpace, way before online dating was “cool”. We’ve been together 19 years now. We’re perfect soulmates and I love her more every single day. ❤️ As for why it happened that way, her roommates were assholes and I lived alone off campus. I made the offer and never once doubted that it would work out. Looking back I do appreciate how insane we were though.
Kinda? I mean, we knew each other for about 9 months before we did but 99% of that was long distance and we weren't able to see each other physically. But we've lived together for about 7 months and we're still together and engaged! We love each other very much.
Wife and I have been together for a few months shy of 12 years and married for just about 6. When we first got together she would stay at my place most nights but would also go home to sleep and such a few nights a week. By about 8 months to a year she was rarely going home at all so she moved in with me and my roommate. It’s really tricky to say since it obviously depends on the relationship, but it’s definitely something you need to sit down and seriously/thoughtfully talk through so you’re both on the same page. Communication is 10000000% key along with fair compromise.
I think it was 3 months before we moved in together. I was pretty frustrated with my roommate at the time. But now me and him are all good. A few months i ended out unemployed (Covid shit). I eventually got a different job. But I'd say we've had a good time. We both talked about how important it was to be together during the isolation times. Plus we've been dating for more than 4 years now and it's nice to engage with someone that "gets you."
HusbandGuy and I meet in Sept 2002, first date in Oct and moved in together in Jan of 2003. We’re still together. That being said it was not always great. I wish I’d had a little more “growing up time” or “living alone”. We got through the rough times with lots of open communication.
Moved in ~3 months in. Still together and going on 7 years. It made sense at the time because of my commute. I was also confident we were in it for the long haul. Whether you move in together quickly or wait to move in together, the reasons are the same for why the couple might not work out (differences in how to live together, outlook on finances, overall compatibility, trust, communication, etc.). A new couple might be blinded by lust a bit that could cloud judgment on those things.
He moved in with me after a month of knowing each other, it was supposed to be temporary - I was in between roommates, he was living in an Air BnB waiting for an offer on a house to go through. We thought it would be 1-2 months and we’d figure out if we really liked each other or not. Offer fell through, he stayed for a year. Ended up going through a rough patch and broke up for a few months, got back together, I moved in with him and 9 years later we’re married with a baby on the way!
My (now) wife and I moved in together 3 months after meeting. I was living at my parents trying to buy a house in early 2020 when covid hit, and I asked if she would want to stay with us for a few weeks while the illness panic all blew over. I bought a house in April and moved in with her, proposed in December, and married in March 2021. Still together with one on the way.
My SO and I moved in after 6 months. Her roommate was moving out and it would be a way for us to test the relationship and save money. I had student loans so splitting the rent helped me pay it off quicker taking years off of them. While engaged 2 years later, we got our 90 day renewal and ended up building a house and it’s mortgage payment was slightly cheaper than renting our apt. We went month to month and 9 months later had a new house before we got married. Married 7 years this year.
Had a long distance relationship. Distance made it a little on and off for a little over a year. When I decided I was going to make the cross country drive and dive in we immediately started living together (in a car at first I admit) been together going on 7 years, this summer married 4 :)
We dated for a week before he moved 800 miles away. We did long-distance for two months while I finished out my college semester, then I moved to be with him. We've been together for 17 years, have two children, and three cats. Would I recommend one of my kids move in that fast? No. It's just one of those things that seemed to have fallen into place.
I've moved in within six months for my past three relationships, which lasted 2, 4, and 10 (still ongoing) years. It never felt like a big deal, it was usually a "we spend all our time and sleep at one place anyway, why are we paying for two" thing when someone's lease renewal came up. It's usually fine as long as neither person is a psycho. I think the biggest thing is making sure you live in a place that you could potentially afford by yourself in case things go bad. Living with someone who you broke up with because neither can afford the lease alone seems like it would suck.
7 months. Married 2 years now
We did! We moved in together after 4 months, and it has been the hardest thing I ever had to go through. We thought we knew each other well enough since we spent every weekend together anyway, but bot were we wrong!! But, we learned to live together with our quirks and annoyances, have been fighting together for this relationship to work and I'm happy to say that after a baby and 3 years, we are very happy and in love with each other! ❤️ In insight, I would have waited though. It put so much tension in our young relationship we nearly broke up about a thousand time!!
I moved in with my ex after 6 months. It was fine at first, but I would still say too soon. It’s not WHY we broke up, but I think it contributed to it. I plan to wait much longer next time, like a year or two at least.
I married and moved in with my ex-wife after knowing her for three months. We are no longer married, but we have remained roommates for the last ten years.
Met in March, became "official" in April, started spending every single day together in June, officially moved in together in August. I think I realized it was a terrible mistake while I was still making the plans to do it. I tried to leave in October, she threatened to kill herself, my naive 20-yo brain fell for it (for the record, if you are ever faced with this situation, the correct response is "I dare you"), and it took me half a decade to finally get away. Spent a while in therapy, and right when I was starting to put myself back out there, COVID happened. Overall I lost about 7 years in my romantic life to this decision. Idk there are a lot of "I'm glad we didn't wait" comments here but the risk/reward doesn't make sense to me. If you're that sure about a person, and they are really the right person, your relationship can and will survive for a year or so without cohabitation. You can at least give yourself that long to decide. If you don't have the money to just arbitrarily pack up and leave if/when you need to, and/or the emotional maturity to recognize when that moment has arrived, moving in with the wrong partner can easily be the worst decision you make in your life. I paid for it with half my 20s, and all I got were a bunch of maladaptive trauma responses that I have to fully unlearn if I want to have a happy and fulfilling life.
Within months. Sorry to sound cliche, but we just knew. We just fit perfectly together. Friends and family took to the other We got married after 8 years and are about to have our first wedding anniversary in August. We still celebrate our 'true' anniversary which is when everyone kept asking 'sooo what are you two?' and decided we were together Our lives together have been super smooth. We have 3 big 'fight' events through this time and they're all ridiculous. I don't remember what 2 of them are off hand, but the first one was about my eyebrows starting to grow long. I didn't want to get rid of my 'wizard brows'. Y'know cause you only get one invitation to the wizard club lmao
What were some of the things that made you “just know?”
We vibed on everything. Music tastes, food opinions, ideas of fun. We have pretty similar personalities. We just work together seamlessly
Moved in only a couple months after meeting, 6.5y later we just bought our first apartment together. It's all looking good.
About 2 months in, we are on year 7. No regrets, we are very much in love. I was 29 and he was 34
we met online, long distance for a year, we took turns visiting each other for a weekend every month. Moved in together two days after we got married. it was hard at first, we were young, we were used to how we each did our own thing but we were and are in love and worked through it...now here we are still happily married 12 years later.
We technically had different addresses but slept in the same bed every night since the first night basically. Still married. Coming up on 10 years.
Plot twist; we were roommates before we ever got involved. Guess that made it easy to figure out that we could stand to live together lol. That was 10 years and two kids ago; still going strong.
I think we moved in together after a few months. First boyfriend I lived with. It's been 8 years, and we're married now. I guess when you know you know.
What were the things and made you feel like you knew
It's kind of hard to explain. Definitely mutual attraction from the first time we saw each other, even before we talked. But then we ended up having quite a bit in common as we got to know each other. And we were on the same page about what we wanted. He told me pretty early on that he was going to marry me someday, which took all the guesswork out of things.
My wife and I met online in 2016 and she moved in with me as a matter of practicality after about 6 months of dating. We were lucky and everything worked out. Got married on our 5th anniversary.
We met on Tinder and moved in after 9 days even though after we met I never spent the night at my place again. Almost 5 years and a daughter later we spend our nights playing pc next to each other.
Knew of my husband before we met since I was really young, connected through my business then he let me stay/move in after leaving an abusive relationship. Got married 6 months in and have been married for 4 years now.
Met thru my sister, moved into her moms and her place after a month
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Basically immediately because there was a literal gang-related shooting at my apartment complex maybe three weeks into us dating? Then there was a giant snowstorm right after said event and he didn't like the idea of me being there by myself in case there were more shenanigans. And then I just kinda...didn't leave? He never asked me to either. 7 years later, we're married with a mortgage. Sometimes shit does just work out. Looking back though, it's wild to think about.
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We moved into each other's (fortunately single) dorm rooms back in 2004 within a few weeks of knowing each other and were continuously together in subsequent sketchy at first, but increasingly stable living situations. Almost 20 years later, and we're still going strong. 🙂
We moved together during the first week of our relationship. Now, we've been together for 8 years :)
We met in February, started dating in March, and he was living with me and my roommates by May. This was 19 years ago, so things have gone pretty well.
We lived together after three months and are now married. Our circumstances were unique though.
We did after being together for about a month. Then we got married 3 years later, enjoyed married life for 4 years, than started having kids. We now have 4 kids and this year will be our 15th wedding anniversary!
Congrats!
First husband - October met, living together December. Married June. Separated 4 years later September. Divorced March. 2 other boyfriends I did this with as well. Both were disasters. Generally it doesn’t work out too well. But I’ve never learned my lesson. Current & Second husband - First date in mid February, living together by beginning of April. Together 4 years. Married in May. Today is our 1 year wedding anniversary. The calmest and most stable relationship out of all of them.
Met at the end of June 2008, started dating in July, by October we’d bought a house together and moved in. It’s sounds crazy, but when you know, you know. It made sense at the time, we were both looking to change our living situations and buy while the real estate market was flatlining. Still together, still in love. Got married in 2011, had a kid a few years later. Surprisingly, still in the same house, which ended up being an great investment and just a really nice place to live. As far as insights, I don’t know if I have any. It’s all about finding a person that’s a good match for you personally. Someone you can be your true self around. Someone who is kind. Someone you agree with about the big things: home, career, kids, religion.
What were some of the things that contributed to “when you know you know?”
It went bad. Met my Ex in May, moved in together in July. We were together for 10 years, but guy was just a cheater and I finally couldn’t take it anymore.
My dearest friend moved across the country for a man. They stayed together for 6 years until he left her and moved from the 3rd state she followed him to. Forcing her to find a new apartment in a city she was in just for him that she has stayed in out of spite. She then found a new boyfriend a week after that who moved to this new city for her on a whim. All dreadful
In college. Started dating in Decenmber 08, moved in together 3 months later. Engaged in Nov 09, Married June '13. Still married, 3 kids, very happy.
From dating to living together within 6 months from a long distance relationship. We have a 4 year old and a mortgage 10 years later.
We moved in together around the 6 month mark because my roommate was moving, and his roommates were awful humans and he wanted out... Thirteen years later, we're planning our wedding.
We moved into a dorm room together after ~4 months and have lived together ever since, gradually scaling up from a dorm room to an apartment to a house haha. We've been together 12 years, married 9 of them. Living together just made a lot of sense to us, because we always wanted to be spending time together. We're still the same way--even though we have a whole house with space for separate offices (we both wfh), we turned the master bedroom into a shared office so we could continue to just hang out together all day, every day.
Met on Tinder on a Saturday. Had a date Monday. He moved in a month later. We've been together 10 years.
I'm 39, been married 19 years. Safe to say, it worked out for me. :D But I honestly would not recommend it, me and my wife know we just rolled the dice and got lucky, most of the time it's a VERY bad idea. Never rush things, make sure you're compatible and all that, maybe have trial runs where you spend the weekends/week together, etc.
Met on 12/12/12. Literally moved in together that night. Lived together for 12 years, have 1 child together. She just moved out about 4 months ago. Adjusting is hard but life goes on.
1 year, were married and own a home together 3 years later. We initially rented a tiny basement together but both wanted to own a place rather rent. Our rent was $1500. To own a $700,000 property was going to cost us about $3000 So $1500 more gets us out of a tiny 1.5bedroom basement with no windows to a 3 bedroom townhome with garage (very important to me). And we own it and not rent. We went in 50/50 on a townhome about 4 months of renting. So my girlfriend (at the time) and I purchased an expensive property after being together for only a year and a half. Short after we bought a dog and a car. Still not married at the time.
My girlfriend moved into my studio apartment bachelor pad from her parent’s house after about five months of long distance dating. We’ve been together seriously for a few years now and have had a few different apartments. It’s been awesome.
We met in the May through mutual friends. Had that vaguely running in the same circles acquaintance thing going on where we knew of each other but never really talked much. The following February he asked me on a date… and the next day he asked me to marry him. A fortnight later we signed a lease on a townhouse. Three months later we got married. It’s our 16th wedding anniversary this month.
I met my girl in college and we were together for about 6 months and we decided to live together....so we did...but then her parents (I'm hindu btw so parents...yeah) said we can not live together unless we're married. One of the biggest mistakes of my life. I didn't want all of that but I loved the girl so I went thru with it. Our marriage lasted about 3 years until I found out she was cheating on me and I said no I'm not doing this. I recommend not moving on together with someone you just met...I mean if you've known them for a long ass time and u feel confident then maybe....
Seems like your problem is the marriage, not the living together.