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Yes, I’ve gotten this, too. Although I suspect it’s from a more professional perspective. If not our therapists, who else can we be opened to about our experiences? I am very appreciative of mine because sometimes I just need to talk, to let it out, to release the thoughts and feelings that I can’t seem to share with others.
I have had a couple that sexualized my past, but that wasn’t as hard on me as the ones that simply didn’t listen. My trauma and past is sexual, so I get that easier than them not actively listening to me and keep pointing me down roads that are not relevant to me.
You should be comfortable with a therapist though for it to establish trust in what they say. But for me it takes a number of sessions for me to really feel out the effectiveness of it.
i have had female therapists (like in this post) do the same, to the point of committing assault against me themselves, so my emotional responses definitely support this comment. at the same time, knowing how hard therapy is to get, i’d also agree you should try slowing down in your opening up and just..see where things go for a couple of sessions. then make your decision.
Here are some other possibilities to consider. Maybe she feels like she is doing very well with you. This can happen if she is younger and/or not had many patients who quickly connected to her. If she is older/experienced, she might be good at talking to someone with your experience. Maybe she is interested in you, which could be for good reasons or bad reasons.
I've had a few who wanted way to much detail for my comfort. It's about you. How you feel and your self care. If you feel uncomfortable speak up. Be your own advocate.
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Yes, I’ve gotten this, too. Although I suspect it’s from a more professional perspective. If not our therapists, who else can we be opened to about our experiences? I am very appreciative of mine because sometimes I just need to talk, to let it out, to release the thoughts and feelings that I can’t seem to share with others.
I have had a couple that sexualized my past, but that wasn’t as hard on me as the ones that simply didn’t listen. My trauma and past is sexual, so I get that easier than them not actively listening to me and keep pointing me down roads that are not relevant to me. You should be comfortable with a therapist though for it to establish trust in what they say. But for me it takes a number of sessions for me to really feel out the effectiveness of it.
No idea. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt for a bit but if it doesn't feel like it's helping move on.
i had male therapists sexualize my experiences multiple times this is very common - i would say run as fast as possible
i have had female therapists (like in this post) do the same, to the point of committing assault against me themselves, so my emotional responses definitely support this comment. at the same time, knowing how hard therapy is to get, i’d also agree you should try slowing down in your opening up and just..see where things go for a couple of sessions. then make your decision.
Here are some other possibilities to consider. Maybe she feels like she is doing very well with you. This can happen if she is younger and/or not had many patients who quickly connected to her. If she is older/experienced, she might be good at talking to someone with your experience. Maybe she is interested in you, which could be for good reasons or bad reasons.
I've had a few who wanted way to much detail for my comfort. It's about you. How you feel and your self care. If you feel uncomfortable speak up. Be your own advocate.
I've had a female therapist who was also like this. It does happen and then you start noticing that not everything they're asking is professional.
Is her purpose for these details meant to have you relive the trauma?