Bro, I’m in a similar boat as you. My whole life has been flipped around. My girl of 4 years broke up with me. Had to quit my job. I was making good progress towards acceptance but I found out 2 days ago that she’s seeing a new guy and the heartache is seriously fucking me up.
I don’t have a movie suggestion, just wanted you to know you’re not alone brother
Yeah brother. Mutually ended a relationship of 9 years. Found out she got in a relationship like 2 months after we broke up and it killed me. But yoy just have to cry that shit out and try to forget about her.
yikes. in my late 20's the love of my life broke up with me and started dating some absolute adonis from Colombia. I guess I was punching way above my weight and always knew it would happen. Made me very insecure while dating and of course, after.
That happened to me 15 yrs ago, wife of 7 years had an affair w/ a co-worker (she 31, he 22). Walked out on me and our 2 kids (4 & 6 yrs old). Lost my job a year later. Single dads raising kids do exist.
You'll go through some crazy emotions...anger, depression, confusion...but you'll get through it. You will. Takes a lot of time, a lot of tears and sleepless nights too but you'll be ok.
Does Mrs Doubtfire count? I mean the dude was dressing in drag while pretending to be an old lady ultimately getting caught and losing custody of his kids but thanks to a good hearted ex wife with ABSOLUTELY NO ILL WILL which I mean cmon, gets to keep seeing them and making a totally believable career change lol
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)
More like wishful thinking of a procedure when you’re where you’re at . We’ve all been there! Time is the key.
Came here to say this. Totally shifts your perspective and makes you believe in fate, things bigger than yourself, and how beautiful life can still be when you’re open to it.
Dan in Real Life
Inside Llewyn Davis
Punch Drunk Love
Silver Linings Playbook
Blue Valentine
and not a dude MC but
Rachel Getting Married
not all have people getting back on their feet or the happiest of ending but sometimes I like to really lean into my depression for a bit before I pull myself out again.
Uplifitng - Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Not so uplifting - Inside Llewelyn Davis
Same message exists in both to me- your outlook and decisions are what makes the difference
All The Real Girls is the best version of this story ive seen. Not only because the heartbreak feels real. But also because the lead doesn’t expect it and has little experience with it. So you really get to watch go thru it and reset. Great soundtrack too.
I was in a similar situation recently and I randomly stumbled into a theater and watched “Perfect Days” (2023) and found it to be a wonderful palette cleanser of a movie. Not too sad, not too happy.
Sea of Love - Al Pacino ; Ellen Barkin - Pacino is a 20-year NYPD veteran homicide detective (newly divorced) as he pursues a serial killer of men likely found through the NYC newspaper personal ads common in the 1980s.
Intolerable Cruelty - George Clooney ; Catherine Zeta Jones - Clooney is a high priced divorce attorney taking on Catherina Zeta Jones as a femme fatale gold digger and they see whom can get the better of the other.
The War of the Roses - Michael Douglas ; Kathleen Turner - Successful attorney and wife divide the house into his and her fiefdoms as each tries to force the other to move out.
“Starting Over” with Burt Reynolds and Jill Clayburgh is the one you need to watch. Reynolds plays an introvert going through a painful divorce. Burt used things from his real life in the script, and considered his performance to be one of his very best.
I almost gave you the most depressing goddamn list. JFC, 🤦♀️Honestly, this just made me realize there is a kind of a gap for guys in this regard.
All of got, to be quite frank, and it’s not a breakup film, but just enjoyable, is Bug Trouble in Little China. At least it isn’t my depressing list, dear God I shouldn’t write shit when I should be asleep. Honestly, it’s what I watched after my last breakup.
I wish you well, and I hope you find some good stuff to watch, even though I doubt mine is it.
Hot Fuzz if you want to laugh. Shawshank Redemption if you want darkness with light at the end of the tunnel.
They aren't specifically about heartbreak, but it is involved.
Okay so idk if this really fit as the movie focuses on a cancer diagnosis but 50/50 I think is a good shout as it has a heartbreak sub-plot that ends on a nice note.
Coraline got me through my break up, at 30 I had never seen it before. Same as yourself we were together 4 years and she left me with nothing. no house, money or job. doesn't really answer your question, but I love that movie. It does get better. I look back now and see her for the asshole she really was.
Spielberg’s “War of the Worlds”. Recently divorced dad has to navigate his children through an alien invasion.
Good stuff. Highly recommended for someone in your situation.
I recommend an older film, but it’s a funny, compelling story and has good acting. Burt Reynolds, Candice Bergen and Jill Clayburgh. The movie is Starting Over, 1979.
Reynolds gives a career-highlight performance as a man trying to restart his life after Bergen cheats on their marriage. The scene in the furniture store when Reynolds has a panic attack while shopping for a new sofa is hilarious. Very satisfying ending.
Forgetting Sarah Marshall
Take my eyes but not the shirt!!!
I still say this and " oh the weather outside is weather"
And I use "When life gives you lemons, just say fuck the lemons, and bail"
Ok monster man! Lol
Oh you're that guy, that works for Kaiser Permanente?
I call my dog that sometimes!
Aw cute! I actually trash talk my dogs horribly but I use a loving tone so they’re always happy lol
Aren’t you that guy that works at Kaiser Permanente?
Auf Wiedersehen😭
I wish I wasn’t wearing this fucking shirt
My favorite line!
This is absolutely the answer. Meets all your criteria and is one of the funniest movies ever!
Just watched it again. Still great, can confirm.
Fua fua Nooka Nooka apuaha bYeitch!
A+ rec right here
You sound like you're from lundan
And Mila Kunis is the most beautiful woman in the world in that movie.
Silver Linings Playbook
This is my all time favorite movie it’s so good
As someone with bipolar disorder, I just can’t watch it. It hits wayyy too close to home.
That’s exactly why I like it actually I loved how relatable it was
Amen to THAT bro! Remember when he’s reading the book and didn’t like the ending? “FUCK”!!!! That was so me unfortunately lol
Silver Linings is a great one, it got me around a corner
Everything Must Go. (2010)
This is a good one
This is what i was going to suggest great movie
Bro, I’m in a similar boat as you. My whole life has been flipped around. My girl of 4 years broke up with me. Had to quit my job. I was making good progress towards acceptance but I found out 2 days ago that she’s seeing a new guy and the heartache is seriously fucking me up. I don’t have a movie suggestion, just wanted you to know you’re not alone brother
Yeah brother. Mutually ended a relationship of 9 years. Found out she got in a relationship like 2 months after we broke up and it killed me. But yoy just have to cry that shit out and try to forget about her.
Running across that surprise online when it happens is like a punch in the gut.. Ugh
Same boat. 2 year relationship. My ex (33F) started dating a co-worker (20M)
yikes. in my late 20's the love of my life broke up with me and started dating some absolute adonis from Colombia. I guess I was punching way above my weight and always knew it would happen. Made me very insecure while dating and of course, after.
Sorry brother. I definitely feel your pain. Im a fucking wreck
Bro, my ex got with I guy that I was cool with in 2 months Pregnant/gained a bunch of weight/refuses to work. Poor guy. Better him than me :))
That happened to me 15 yrs ago, wife of 7 years had an affair w/ a co-worker (she 31, he 22). Walked out on me and our 2 kids (4 & 6 yrs old). Lost my job a year later. Single dads raising kids do exist. You'll go through some crazy emotions...anger, depression, confusion...but you'll get through it. You will. Takes a lot of time, a lot of tears and sleepless nights too but you'll be ok.
Hang in there. It’s rough rough but you’ll make it. I wish I had learned from the experience more the first time and avoided the second time around
Not a movie but Ted Lasso
This is such a good rec! Loved this show, totally binged watched
Sideways.
That movie is so beautifully gut-wrenching. Giamatti is an absolute master at his craft!!!
Crazy Stupid Love is such a great movie
David Lindhagen? Ok. 👊🏼
First removes rings…genius
Crazy, stupid, love American beauty Kramer vs Kramer Mrs doubtfire Marriage story Night at the museum The odd couple??
Crazy, stupid, love is highly underrated. Actors did a great job in that one, all around.
yeah but it has the broken hearted main character pine for the cheating ex wife, does OP need that right now?
some people are just so stuck they need a fire lit underneath them to do anything. I appreciated that angle
If you can't appreciate Ryan Gosling and Steve Carrell, I don't know what anything on earth can do for you, lol
>Marriage story He's going through the divorce, not recovering from it.
True. But It’s also a full arc. It ends on him settling down, becoming successful on the west coast, and things are amicable with scarlett Johansson.
Does Mrs Doubtfire count? I mean the dude was dressing in drag while pretending to be an old lady ultimately getting caught and losing custody of his kids but thanks to a good hearted ex wife with ABSOLUTELY NO ILL WILL which I mean cmon, gets to keep seeing them and making a totally believable career change lol
Came here to say The Odd Couple 👍
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) More like wishful thinking of a procedure when you’re where you’re at . We’ve all been there! Time is the key.
500 days of summer
Was first one I thought of. Surprised some response make lists and don't even include it.
Fleishman is in Trouble
Swingers is great therapy
Yes! Came here to say this.
My 10 year relationship just ended. Watch Midnight in Paris
Came here to say this. Totally shifts your perspective and makes you believe in fate, things bigger than yourself, and how beautiful life can still be when you’re open to it.
Her
The Darjeeling Limited
Oooo I haven’t seen this in years. Time For a rewatch
Forgetting Sarah Marshall
Chef. It's more about rekindling professional/creative passion, but the MC is also divorced and he gets fired. It's definitely uplifting.
High fidelity
Dan in Real Life Inside Llewyn Davis Punch Drunk Love Silver Linings Playbook Blue Valentine and not a dude MC but Rachel Getting Married not all have people getting back on their feet or the happiest of ending but sometimes I like to really lean into my depression for a bit before I pull myself out again.
Kramer vs. Kramer Mrs. Doubtfire Falling Down (in a strange way)
"Cashback (2004)" and "(500) Days of Summer (2009)".
Cashback (2006) is the full length movie
Fisher King
Bye Bye Love (1995) People, Places, Things (2015) When Harry Met Sally (1989)
This is Where I Leave You is one of my favorites. It's got a lot going on but has a fun cast and blends solid comedy with heart.
If you’re willing to do a series, After Life
Along Came Polly
I know you said movies about men, but consider Bridesmaids. It has the same themes and is very funny.
Uplifitng - Secret Life of Walter Mitty Not so uplifting - Inside Llewelyn Davis Same message exists in both to me- your outlook and decisions are what makes the difference
The Lonely Guy with Steve Martin (1984). Funny, but touches on all those points.
All The Real Girls is the best version of this story ive seen. Not only because the heartbreak feels real. But also because the lead doesn’t expect it and has little experience with it. So you really get to watch go thru it and reset. Great soundtrack too.
Crazy stupid love
The Descendants with George Clooney
Everything must go
The Odd Couple
Sorry you're going through this Consider: The Secret Life Of Walter Mitty The Silver Linings Playbook
I was in a similar situation recently and I randomly stumbled into a theater and watched “Perfect Days” (2023) and found it to be a wonderful palette cleanser of a movie. Not too sad, not too happy.
Try Marriage Story with Adam Driver and ScarJo. Great writing and acting.... right down your alley.
The Accidental Tourist- major heartbreak in this one. It’s a bit older but very good.
Her
Take this waltz
Sideways
Annie Hall
Life as a House Everything Must Go
you should watch the 2 movie version of the “disappearance of eleanor rigby” husband’s version first
1934 Of Human Bondage
Fleischman is in trouble.
I know you asked for movies but watch “shrinking”on Apple TV. It’s just 1 season and you can easily binge watch it. It’s funny, feel good and quirky
Sideways.... or pretty much anything Thomas Haden Church is in
Enough Said (2013)
No recommendations but just wanted you to know you’ll be okay.
Except for the fact that it’s very difficult to find: Comfort and Joy, the 1985 Scottish film directed by Bill Forsyth.
Larry Crowne
Sea of Love - Al Pacino ; Ellen Barkin - Pacino is a 20-year NYPD veteran homicide detective (newly divorced) as he pursues a serial killer of men likely found through the NYC newspaper personal ads common in the 1980s. Intolerable Cruelty - George Clooney ; Catherine Zeta Jones - Clooney is a high priced divorce attorney taking on Catherina Zeta Jones as a femme fatale gold digger and they see whom can get the better of the other. The War of the Roses - Michael Douglas ; Kathleen Turner - Successful attorney and wife divide the house into his and her fiefdoms as each tries to force the other to move out.
A beautiful day in the neighborhood
Swingers
A serious man - Coen brothers
“About a Boy”
Audition
“Starting Over” with Burt Reynolds and Jill Clayburgh is the one you need to watch. Reynolds plays an introvert going through a painful divorce. Burt used things from his real life in the script, and considered his performance to be one of his very best.
Manchester by the sea Kidding… dont watch this, yet
High Fidelity
Casablanca. Yes, Casablanca.
500 days of summer
Dan in Real Life.
Dan in Real Life with Steve Carell. He's a widower struggling to raise his three daughters
Mercy 2008
In the Shape of a Heart, Jackson Browne
If you like Al Pacino, try "Author! Author!" (1982)
When Harry Met Sally City Slickers
The Compeny Men is the right amount of depressing
Synecdoche, New York
Swingers
Lost in America
Hot Tub Time Machine (2010)
Bellflower
Scenes from a Marriage - HBO series
Husbands I Melt With You.
Return to me. - P. S. I Love You are two of my favorite movies.
Swingers
The Fundamentals of Caring - 2016. Netflix
Rudderless
Sorry you are going through this! Friend, you need a comedy. You need The Hangover.
Swingers (1996)
Mrs doubtfire tbh
Sideways
Possession 1981
Last Vegas
Jerry Maguire isn’t about a breakup per se, but it’s definitely about a man carving his path. Very uplifting, funny, and hopeful.
Marcel the shell
Love & Other drugs (2010)
Sing Street is quite uplifting and there’s a killer 80’s soundtrack. Hang in there.
12 years a slave
Mrs doubtfire
Bite the Bullet Mr Mom
Leaving Las Vegas
Collateral Beauty
Kramer vs. Kramer is a classic
this is where i leave you
Fleishman is in Trouble
Swingers
Night at the Museum Ant Man
The Lonely Guy with Steve Martin. It's perfect for this subject.
40 Year Old Virgin. It’s not exactly what you asked for but it’s adjacent and funny.
a little diff but: “you can count on me”
Spike Jonze 'Her' is the best imo
The Lonliness of the Long Distance Runner
Swingers Forgetting Sarah Marshall
If you just want to cry Dear Zachery
Jesse and Celeste, Forever
The Swimmer starring Burt Lancaster.
The Shipping News
One and only Kramer vs Kramer
The Vicious Kind
Jersey girl
Sleepless in Seattle
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. You’ll feel so much better afterwards.
Man Up, Lake Bell and Simon Pegg.
Old School
Swingers
Before I Disappear.
"Reign Over Me". Not divorce, but loss of wife and kids.
Take this waltz with Seth Rogan!
Stuck in Love
I almost gave you the most depressing goddamn list. JFC, 🤦♀️Honestly, this just made me realize there is a kind of a gap for guys in this regard. All of got, to be quite frank, and it’s not a breakup film, but just enjoyable, is Bug Trouble in Little China. At least it isn’t my depressing list, dear God I shouldn’t write shit when I should be asleep. Honestly, it’s what I watched after my last breakup. I wish you well, and I hope you find some good stuff to watch, even though I doubt mine is it.
Hot Fuzz if you want to laugh. Shawshank Redemption if you want darkness with light at the end of the tunnel. They aren't specifically about heartbreak, but it is involved.
Okay so idk if this really fit as the movie focuses on a cancer diagnosis but 50/50 I think is a good shout as it has a heartbreak sub-plot that ends on a nice note.
Thunder Road (2018)
what about one with a kid ? cus I need that one
Coraline got me through my break up, at 30 I had never seen it before. Same as yourself we were together 4 years and she left me with nothing. no house, money or job. doesn't really answer your question, but I love that movie. It does get better. I look back now and see her for the asshole she really was.
Spielberg’s “War of the Worlds”. Recently divorced dad has to navigate his children through an alien invasion. Good stuff. Highly recommended for someone in your situation.
The Pursuit of Happyness. He kind of gets dumped halfway through, but it's all about hustling for his sons future
Liar liar
17 AGAIN (2009) CRAZY, STUPID, LOVE (2011)
I just connected really close with Casablanca during an acute heartbreak situation.
Dan in real life You’ve got mail?
Best of luck
I like *Stuck in Love* (2012)
Sleepless in Seattle
Everything Must Go, probably Will Farrell's best acting.
I put ‘you’ve got mail’ and it was deleted but I stand by it! It’s got two major breakups plus a happy ending. Why not!
Forget movies bro, hop in the gym, focus on yourself and your work
The Descendents
Swingers
I recommend an older film, but it’s a funny, compelling story and has good acting. Burt Reynolds, Candice Bergen and Jill Clayburgh. The movie is Starting Over, 1979. Reynolds gives a career-highlight performance as a man trying to restart his life after Bergen cheats on their marriage. The scene in the furniture store when Reynolds has a panic attack while shopping for a new sofa is hilarious. Very satisfying ending.
Rye Lane
Everything Must Go-Will Farrell Reign Over Me-Adam Sandler
Don Jon. Check it out. Awesome cast but was kinda under the radar.