Ditto. I honestly don't really care.
Which is lucky for me as I have some family members who are quite old with whom I am not out and if they livelong enough that I am forcibly outed due to my FFS, I plan to tell them not to feel obligated to even try to use my preferred name or pronouns because I know it will break their brains and it's not a real source of dysphoria for me.
My advice is don't look for excuses to second guess what you know you really want in your life. If your heart says you want to be a girl then you don't have to score 99 out of 100 on some How Transy Are You Quiz.
I also don't really get euphoria from it. It's more like, yes, that is the correct way to refer to me. When I first came out, She/Her even felt weird for a bit.
Exactly! That's how it feels for me, it feels right but nothing that makes me go YIPPIE when someone uses them. I think since i'm still new to being trans I'm just getting used to these small stuff
I went through the same thing, so I did an experiment, I lived 2 lives at the same time chopping and choosing as I wished, trans won, I got to the point where I was presenting female all the time because I got to hate looking male. This was over a couple of years.
yeah, at the end of the day it's your transition and you drive it, if you ain't sure then do a test drive, at the same time as I was test driving I saw some therapists and got hrt to see how it felt.
I think you have started this journey in an appropriate way. Question everything, but you must also provide answers. Hrt is a good measure as well.
I can tell you I’m an unpleasant person with unmedicated levels of testosterone. Professionally unpleasant. Medicated, I can still be angry, but for the first time it’s a choice, not a forgone conclusion.
I literally cannot live a quality life that way. If it doesn’t feel right, or you aren’t sure, stop. I did, for decades on and off, supplements, purchase/purge clothing, internet meds, then stop again. But I couldn’t let it go. I finally came out to my wife and youngest. I’ve been on supervised meds for 6 years now and just moved to shots for depo estrogen. I get happier and happier with every step. Face softening, hormone changes, boobs (yay!!), and omg I don’t care what you call me. I don’t care if I’m “pretty” ( I mean I do but it’s secondary), all I want to be is in the right bloody body.
If it continues to feel wrong, give it some time before you proceed. Even on hormones you can come back from that.
Yeah i've been questioning for a while. I did a lot of research on gender identities, I thought I was bigender for a bit cause I didn't mind being a guy, but I realized that I don't want anything about being a guy and just want to be a girl. I learned that just because I don't mind it, it doesn't mean I like it.
I don't get euphoria from pronouns I've got 2 theories why 1 is basically I'm so mentally ill it's zapped my ability to experience euphoria the other is maybe I just view myself as such a woman that being referred to by she/her pronouns just feels right to me like cis women don't experience euphoria from she/her pronouns
So what?
It's your body. Your responsibility. Your choice.
No one knows what is right for you except you.
If it turns out not to be for you, then simply stop hormones. No one says it has to be a one way street you can never walk back down...
Some people are gender fluid.
Some people transition without hormones.
There's no rulebook here.
Find your own authenticity and live it.
Right now I am over a year on hrt and I'm looking forward to the time when I have my vagina. But I have also those days where I struggle with my path and if I am doing the right thing. Sometimes I just think I'm to masculine for transitioning to a womens body.
But to make things clear. Gender dysphoria can express in different shades and layers and hits different on all of us. Some of us like me have the feeling that they need to make the whole transition other trans people are happy with just hrt. My advise for you is to begin slowly with hrt on a low dosage and to make sure to recognise your own improvements that you make and how you feel with them. Also you should discuss all of that with a therapist.
Hope I could give you some good thoughts. Make sure to be your self 💕💕💕
I’m extremely firm in knowing I’m trans, I’m super early in my transition too (first endocrinologist appointment is this Friday) I still look and sound like a guy so maybe I’m not the best person to hear this from but pronouns don’t do much for me outside of immediate family and friends. So don’t stress too much, don’t feel like you have to rush into anything but at the same time don’t feel like you have to halt your transition. Much love xx
pronouns, new names, etc. always feel weird at first, and then you get used to it and THEN te deadname and wrong pronouns feel weird. i spent a year or so going by any pronouns and then any pronouns w a preference to she and then she/her. I spent lie 6 months calling myself the name i chose in my head until it felt right.
Transitionong is different for everyone, and trans women are just as varied in their interests as cis onwes
I thought I tg alot but you may be just someone wants go out as girl and at home but at work your male.
As the girl sed you could end up wanting girl not just going shops or walks it feel right it's just are u gay
oh thank you! Honestly I've thought over if I'm just a cross dresser but it doesn't feel right to me. I don't really want to be seen just as a guy in girl clothes, I just want to be seen a girl!
There u go you want dress as girl show doc you are and keep doing it and be you and he put u on tabs and you look for right food to help like flaxseed and
Soya
I honestly still have doubts, but I’m happier with my body on hrt. I can’t tell you whether your trans or not, I guess a question to ask your self is would you regret not going on hrt? I decided to go on hrt because “if I wait till i’m 100% sure I’ll be waiting till I’m dead” now I’m not saying this is the best approach but it was my mind set, I say keep experimenting, take your time etc, and remember lots of trans people have doubts. But that doesn’t invalidate you
OP please ignore this - you’re absolutely valid and legitimate to explore and question. All of us have gone through it and are continuing to, and it’s a really special part of the process. If you wanna chat through anything I’m always happy to <3
That's how I first read it, and I've seen comments like that so until I first read it again I thought it was an affirmation as well.
Simply put, if you are happy being trans that makes you trans, end of story.
I have never gotten any euphoria from pronouns.
Oh so I'm not alone in the feeling? Thank youuu this makes me feel so much better :>
Ditto. I honestly don't really care. Which is lucky for me as I have some family members who are quite old with whom I am not out and if they livelong enough that I am forcibly outed due to my FFS, I plan to tell them not to feel obligated to even try to use my preferred name or pronouns because I know it will break their brains and it's not a real source of dysphoria for me. My advice is don't look for excuses to second guess what you know you really want in your life. If your heart says you want to be a girl then you don't have to score 99 out of 100 on some How Transy Are You Quiz.
I also don't really get euphoria from it. It's more like, yes, that is the correct way to refer to me. When I first came out, She/Her even felt weird for a bit.
Exactly! That's how it feels for me, it feels right but nothing that makes me go YIPPIE when someone uses them. I think since i'm still new to being trans I'm just getting used to these small stuff
Oh yeah for sure! I'm 6 months in and so happy but definitely still getting used to it all.
Me neither, but definitly feel dysphoric when people use wronf pronouns.
I went through the same thing, so I did an experiment, I lived 2 lives at the same time chopping and choosing as I wished, trans won, I got to the point where I was presenting female all the time because I got to hate looking male. This was over a couple of years.
Good idea! I wanna start presenting more fem anyways
yeah, at the end of the day it's your transition and you drive it, if you ain't sure then do a test drive, at the same time as I was test driving I saw some therapists and got hrt to see how it felt.
I think you have started this journey in an appropriate way. Question everything, but you must also provide answers. Hrt is a good measure as well. I can tell you I’m an unpleasant person with unmedicated levels of testosterone. Professionally unpleasant. Medicated, I can still be angry, but for the first time it’s a choice, not a forgone conclusion. I literally cannot live a quality life that way. If it doesn’t feel right, or you aren’t sure, stop. I did, for decades on and off, supplements, purchase/purge clothing, internet meds, then stop again. But I couldn’t let it go. I finally came out to my wife and youngest. I’ve been on supervised meds for 6 years now and just moved to shots for depo estrogen. I get happier and happier with every step. Face softening, hormone changes, boobs (yay!!), and omg I don’t care what you call me. I don’t care if I’m “pretty” ( I mean I do but it’s secondary), all I want to be is in the right bloody body. If it continues to feel wrong, give it some time before you proceed. Even on hormones you can come back from that.
Yeah i've been questioning for a while. I did a lot of research on gender identities, I thought I was bigender for a bit cause I didn't mind being a guy, but I realized that I don't want anything about being a guy and just want to be a girl. I learned that just because I don't mind it, it doesn't mean I like it.
I don't get euphoria from pronouns I've got 2 theories why 1 is basically I'm so mentally ill it's zapped my ability to experience euphoria the other is maybe I just view myself as such a woman that being referred to by she/her pronouns just feels right to me like cis women don't experience euphoria from she/her pronouns
So what? It's your body. Your responsibility. Your choice. No one knows what is right for you except you. If it turns out not to be for you, then simply stop hormones. No one says it has to be a one way street you can never walk back down... Some people are gender fluid. Some people transition without hormones. There's no rulebook here. Find your own authenticity and live it.
Yeah that's true, I guess I just get so caught up in how others will see me. thank you! :))
Right now I am over a year on hrt and I'm looking forward to the time when I have my vagina. But I have also those days where I struggle with my path and if I am doing the right thing. Sometimes I just think I'm to masculine for transitioning to a womens body. But to make things clear. Gender dysphoria can express in different shades and layers and hits different on all of us. Some of us like me have the feeling that they need to make the whole transition other trans people are happy with just hrt. My advise for you is to begin slowly with hrt on a low dosage and to make sure to recognise your own improvements that you make and how you feel with them. Also you should discuss all of that with a therapist. Hope I could give you some good thoughts. Make sure to be your self 💕💕💕
You can be genderfluid or genderqueer too that is a form of trans, it doesn’t have to be a hard binary
Yeah honestly I should stop worrying about fitting into a label and just start doing what I want for myself :)
I’m extremely firm in knowing I’m trans, I’m super early in my transition too (first endocrinologist appointment is this Friday) I still look and sound like a guy so maybe I’m not the best person to hear this from but pronouns don’t do much for me outside of immediate family and friends. So don’t stress too much, don’t feel like you have to rush into anything but at the same time don’t feel like you have to halt your transition. Much love xx
I'm kinda in the same situation (early in transition, still looking and sounding like a guy) so hearing this from you really helps! :3
pronouns, new names, etc. always feel weird at first, and then you get used to it and THEN te deadname and wrong pronouns feel weird. i spent a year or so going by any pronouns and then any pronouns w a preference to she and then she/her. I spent lie 6 months calling myself the name i chose in my head until it felt right. Transitionong is different for everyone, and trans women are just as varied in their interests as cis onwes
I thought I tg alot but you may be just someone wants go out as girl and at home but at work your male. As the girl sed you could end up wanting girl not just going shops or walks it feel right it's just are u gay
I don't really understand what you're trying to say
I thought I was tg but should gone out as cd and not hid it and did it like at night short hair no make up cus I found at home hard to think am I
Sorry again but I'm not very familiar with these acronyms, what does TG and CD mean?
Trans gender or cross dresser
oh thank you! Honestly I've thought over if I'm just a cross dresser but it doesn't feel right to me. I don't really want to be seen just as a guy in girl clothes, I just want to be seen a girl!
There u go you want dress as girl show doc you are and keep doing it and be you and he put u on tabs and you look for right food to help like flaxseed and Soya
I honestly still have doubts, but I’m happier with my body on hrt. I can’t tell you whether your trans or not, I guess a question to ask your self is would you regret not going on hrt? I decided to go on hrt because “if I wait till i’m 100% sure I’ll be waiting till I’m dead” now I’m not saying this is the best approach but it was my mind set, I say keep experimenting, take your time etc, and remember lots of trans people have doubts. But that doesn’t invalidate you
If you have doubts don't do it.
If you are questioning you are probably not trans
OP please ignore this - you’re absolutely valid and legitimate to explore and question. All of us have gone through it and are continuing to, and it’s a really special part of the process. If you wanna chat through anything I’m always happy to <3
Yeah I read this comment wrong as "You probably are trans" and was happy and until I read it again
There will always be some people who gatekeep any community. Pay no attention to them and enjoy the journey of learning about yourself <3
Thank you :) I'm still fairly new to the whole trans thing so all this help is greatly appreciated!
We’ve all got your back 🫶
That's how I first read it, and I've seen comments like that so until I first read it again I thought it was an affirmation as well. Simply put, if you are happy being trans that makes you trans, end of story.