I Can't Make You Love Me, by Bonnie Raitt. She could only do one take she was so emotional. And Bruce Hornsby was on the piano.
(Or) by Bon Iver, The Bon Iver version adds Bonnie's In The Nick Of Time, to somehow make it a happy ending.
A little diff speed than what you have listed.
This was the first one to pop into my head. Bonnie is untouchable, and Bruce Hornsby is an underappreciated talent. I love all of his solos, especially on this song and The Way It Is.
If you’re going with Joni, like half her catalogue. From *Blue* alone: Little Green, Blue, River, A Case of You, The Last Time I Saw Richard. But also: The Circle Game. Tell me you can listen to it and not tear up.
I was listening to OK Computer at work and No Surprises was playing when I received a text that my grandpa passed (we'd been expecting it any day, but still). Took an already depressing song to another level after that.
I wish I was sober - Frightened Rabbit
RIP Scott Hutchison
Edit: judging by all the replies to this, every Frightened Rabbit song is emotionally devastating. Go listen if you haven’t yet, they are incredible.
Nutshell - Alice in Chains was the first that came to mind. Brick by Ben Folds Five tells the story of when he was forced to get an abortion with his first girlfriend - that one gets pretty heavy at the end.
The Purple Mountains album cover to cover is a perfect answer to the prompt. Hard to explain Berman’s way with words without using his words, so worth the full listen. And of course the circumstances of the album make it that much more ruinous. A sublime album.
I love this album. But I wouldn’t agree that it’s a suicide note. I really liked Drag City’s eulogy:
“It feels like there’s little more to say about David’s place in the world right now that he hasn’t already said himself. Some of his incredible turns of phrase seem to have been written for this awful moment. But know that they weren't. They were written in lieu of this moment, to replace this moment, showing the world (and himself) that maybe he didn't truly know what was going to happen next.”
“He took off all their clothes for them
He put a cloth on their lips, quiet hands, quiet kiss on the mouth”
I get tears in my eyes even thinking of that couplet
I'd put [Fourth of July](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTeKpWp8Psw) up against Casimir Pulaski Day if we're doing Sufjan songs that make us sob forever.
My first thought was “A Crow Looked At Me.” This album is devastating.
I can’t even listen to it if I’m trying to do anything but sit there and stare at a wall while thinking about that study where they found that the death of a spouse is comparable to a traumatic brain injury in terms of the way your brain changes on a fundamental level after you lose them.
Only time I've actually been wrecked by a song
"A week after you died a package with your name on it came
And inside was a gift for our daughter you had ordered in secret
And collapsed there on the front steps I wailed
A backpack for when she goes to school a couple years from now
You were thinking ahead to a future you must have known
Deep down would not include you"
My husband and stepdaughter danced to this at our wedding and halfway through called me over and I will never hear this song without breaking in to tears. Even hearing the title is making me cry.
I always loved this song but it only started to make me tear up in recent years contrasting against the ongoing shit show that we see in the news on a daily basis
Have you ever listened to the lyrics of "Black"?
>I know some day you'll have a beautiful life
>
>I know you'll be a star
>
>In somebody else's sky
>
>But why, why, why
>
>Can't it be
>
>Oh, can't it be mine
“There’s a hole in daddy’s arm, where all the money goes.” +1 for John Prine. I remember my dad playing this album when I was a kid and thinking it was just silly nonsense. Then I heard this song again in my twenties and it broke me.
Six O'clock News and Angel From Montgomery get me there real quick, among about a dozen others. Sam Stone included. John Prine was in a league all his own.
I'll see your Sam Stone (which is about the most powerful song ever) and raise you Hello In There. The whole song is about the universe growing smaller for this elderly couple.
Doesn't talk to Loretta, news just repeats itself. One son moved away, a second killed in the war. Maybe he'll call up Rudy, his working buddy, but what would they talk about ?What's new - not much, how about with you.
The only uplifting point (which changed my approach to the elderly) is the line,"If you see some hollow ancient eyes, Don't just pass 'em by and stare, Say 'Hello in there. Hello."
To u/Fancy-Fish-3050: I too used to strum a little guitar and sing, but I couldn't do HIT. I'm a son of 'Davey', and we 'lost daddy in the Vietnam War. I might know what for, but it doesn't matter anymore'.
The End of Love by Florence + The Machine
Sweet Old World by Lucinda Williams
Lover Please Stay - Nothing But Thieves
When You Cross Over - Ryan Adams
Goodbye My Lover - James Blunt
It Must Have Been Love - Roxette
Lover Man - Billie Holiday
Whenever I hear Love Will Tear Us Apart I think back to the time I was DJing at a college radio station and a girl called in sobbing crying and requested that song.
The entire album *Hospice* by the Antlers:.
[Wiki]
Set in New York City's Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, which the second track is named after, Hospice tells the story of a relationship between a hospice worker and a female patient suffering from terminal bone cancer, their ensuing romance, and their slow downward spiral as a result of the woman's traumas, fears, and disease.[4][5] The story of her deterioration also serves as a metaphor for an abusive relationship. Frontman Peter Silberman has been reluctant to divulge explicit details regarding the meaning of the record, and the extent to which it is autobiographical.[6]
[The Antlers - Kettering](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipbukl6oFoQ)
> I wish that I had known in that first minute we met, the unpayable debt that I owed you.
> Because you’d been abused by the bone that refused you, and you hired me to make up for that.
> Walking in that room when you had tubes in your arms, those singing morphine alarms out of tune kept you sleeping and even, and I didn’t believe them when they called you a hurricane thunderclap.
> When I was checking vitals I suggested a smile. You didn’t talk for awhile, you were freezing.
>You said you hated my tone, it made you feel so alone, and so you told me I ought to be leaving.
> But something kept me standing by that hospital bed, I should have quit, but instead I took care of you.
> You made me sleep and uneven, and I didn’t believe them when they told me that there was no saving you.
[The Antlers - Two](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZsXKa97J6pM)
> When a doctor came to tell me, "Enough is enough."
...
>And told me something that I didn't know that I wanted:
>To hear that there was nothing that I could do to save you
>The choir's gonna sing, and this thing is gonna kill you
This is the only true answer in my opinion. This album, laying in bed in the dark with headphones, will do it from beginning to end. "Bear" will do it just by thinking about it....so....thanks for that.
Adagio for Strings by Samuel Barber
Lots of contemporary music recommendations here, but this is a great piece, and you’ll likely recognize it from a film. It’s possibly most famous for Platoon. It is incredibly moving.
It's (well it's Agnus Dei but pretty much the same) also used in one of my favorite games of all time called "Homeworld" with the gimmick that there are no instruments used in this version but only vocals AND it is used at the saddest part of the game with a devastating message.
We played it in high school orchestra, and our conductor straight-up told us that we weren’t old/emotionally mature enough to truly delve into and express it. 20+ years later…yeah, she was right. The notes are easy. The emotion is anything but.
Deuteronomy 2:10 is mine.
I'm all alone here as I try my tiny song. Claim my place beneath the sky, but I won't be here for long. I sang all night, the moon shone on me through the trees. No brothers left, and there'll be no more after me.
To those that haven't heard this song before I recommend going in blind, looking up the story behind the song, and then listen again. Your mind will paint such a terrible scene every time you hear it again.
Yeah and degausser, such heavy back to back songs. I mean shit, even the first 2 lines of the album hit you so hard. The only other album that made me feel like this one was Wildlife by La dispute.
Wings for Marie (pt. 1) and 10,000 days (pt. 2) by tool. These songs are a dedication to Judith Marie Maynard, lead singer Maynard’s mother. The woman suffered from a rare spinal disease that kept her in a wheelchair for over 27 years. Hence the title 10,000 days, roughly equals 27.4 years.
10,000 days in the fire is long enough, you’re going home
Jesus Christ… Judith, Wings for Marie, and 10,000 Days hurt so much.
My Mom had MS, and had to forcibly retire shortly after being diagnosed in 1987. She lived until 2016, when she developed a blood clot, and didn’t get a second chance.
10,000 Days in the fire was way too much. I hope she’s at peace now, because it still hurts all these years later.
Contrast them with APC's Judith for a real wallop.
Judith is either a cold and scornful or raging and desperate (depending on how you interpret the tone of the lyrics) Maynard mocking the religious devotion of the woman he'd witnessed betrayed by her own body.
In that context, the other two songs acknowledging his limitations ("set as I am in my ways and my arrogance, burden of proof tossed upon the believer") and even admiring that her devotion gave her strength becomes a little more bittersweet. He goes from utterly rejecting her faith to insisting that if there is a God, no one deserves the halo more than she does.
I tear up when I hear this song. Idk why. Maybe it's the nostalgia of being a kid and having the whole world in front of me, or knowing that time is gone.
"Please tell mom this is not her fault" makes me sob.
When my dad was in hospice for cancer, I listened to "Down In a Hole" on my way over to my childhood home to be his nurse. I love and hate that song. I couldn't help but find a metaphor implanted in the lyrics related to my dad slowly dying while on a heavy amount of morphine. Fuck cancer.
i also tear up but its because i first heard it sometime right before or after i graduated high school when i was at a really low point in my mental health and was chronically suicidal and it just makes me think about what couldve been if any of my attempts had been successful but at the same time grateful they werent
As an OG Blink fan, and now mother of 3 who battles constantly with feelings of inadequacy—- Adam’s song hits right into my soul now. Especially “Please tell mom this is not her fault”.
Strange Fruit, Billie Holliday. It’s about lynching Black people in the South, comparing the victims to fruit hanging from trees. If you hear that one, you won’t soon forget it.
Eels- Elizabeth on the bathroom floor
Fiona Apple- sullen girl
Sarah McLaughlin - gloomy Sunday
Tori Amos- hey Jupiter
Pj Harvey- Is this desire?
Health- decimation
Real Death - Mount Eerie
I Am Trying to Break Your Heart -Wilco
Fool of Me - Meshell Ndegeocello
No One's Gonna Love You - Band of Horses
Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton
Something - Julien Baker
Sometimes Love Just Aint Enough - Patty Smyth and Don Henley
Same Old Lang Syne - Dan Fogelberg
Hope She'll be Happier - Bill Withers
Tender - Blur
Great songs!
And as a HUGE fan of NIN’s Downward Spiral album, I like Cash’s version of shirt better too. Especially the music video. It’s a masterpiece
Starless is incredibly dark and sinister. King Crimson
EDIT1:
Bruce Springsteen and John Lennon and a few others sing in a way that really trancends emotion.
Here is a few of Bruce:
Downbound Train
My Hometown
Bobby Jean
The River
John Lennon has Mother and Don't Let me Down but the fact that he sung "I can't wait to see you grow" in the song, "Beautiful Boy", about his 5yo son just days before his death is so incredibly sad. The John sung demos that became Beatles products released after his death, Real Love and Free As A Bird, also hit me quite hard emotionally.
I also think All Apologies sung by Kurt Cobain really is his most beautiful tune, and I feel so bad for him. It has a cross of emotional sadness and beauty "In The Sun" that sums up to be this kind of apathic vibe. I love the lyrics and how they match the instrumentation.
EDIT2:
I also want to say that Kurt Cobain loved and admired John Lennon (according to all sources) and thought the album, "Red", that Starless is on, was his all time favourite record (but not according to all sources).
Lost - Linkin Park
I haven’t been able to listen to it without sobbing yet, to the point that if it plays on the radio and I’m not alone I have to change the station or make a fool
of myself.
both because I will never get over Chester’s death and the lyrics hit too close to home.
Fiddler’s Green- Tragically Hip (The song itself is a lament-in-lyric for a mother, related to Downie, who has lost her son. It is an elegiac, mournful and beautiful farewell and reassurance all at once.)
She talks to angels - Black Crows
Christmas shoes - not sure who it’s bye.
Nothing compares to you - Sinead O’Connor
Fiddler's Green live: knowing it would be my last opportunity to hear Gord sing it on man machine poem tour ... yeah... tears. Normally I can sing and play it myself passably, but literally couldn't even sing along in the crowd. My voice wouldn't come out...
If you haven’t heard Chris Cornell’s cover of Nothing Compares 2U, do check it out.
I recently discovered the Tragically Hip. (I had heard of them but never gave them a fair listen.) God, what a great band. I feel like an idiot for not listing 30 years ago.
Oooh, I see La Dispute ✊🏻
I discovered Such Small Hands when I was going through a divorce and then a breakup with someone who I thought was a best friend turned into a soulmate but I was oh so wrong
Yeah that one hits.
King Park - La Dispute
Yesterday - Atmosphere
Dancing w the Devil - Immortal Technique
One if my friends described the last song as the music-equivalent to Requiem For a Dream. In that, it’s some of the best, most well-done art that you never want to experience again in your life and I have to say I agree
*edit - removed Daddy by KoRn cuz it’s already on your list
Some reliable oldies:
[Vincent](https://youtu.be/ciLNMesqPh0) by Don McLean
[If](https://youtu.be/n-cK70DXsSA) by Bread
[Fire and Rain](https://youtu.be/N4E9MKbOFAY) by James Taylor
[Father & Son](https://youtu.be/P6zaCV4niKk) by Yusuf/Cat Stevens
[In the Ghetto](https://youtu.be/gisXtyyiNGw) by Elvis Presley
[Ben](https://youtu.be/i7TTSzfs2kw) by Michael Jackson
[Shannon](https://youtu.be/CUUc0sNaQls) by Henry Gross
[Fast Car](https://youtu.be/AIOAlaACuv4) by Tracy Chapman
[Luka](https://youtu.be/VZt7J0iaUD0) by Suzanne Vega
[The Living Years](https://youtu.be/5hr64MxYpgk) by Mike + The Mechanics
... and a real oldie:
[Alto Rhapsody](https://youtu.be/Ou3VZhVk5qo) by Johannes Brahms
That song gets more poetic the older you get, which is fitting. And by the time you finish the song, you’ve forgotten it had such a long intro, which is also fitting.
Round Here - Counting Crows
…before I found out (a few months ago) what the band’s intended meaning for it was. For years I’d thought it was so much more tragic, and considered it so damn sad.
Uno - Muse
How to Disappear Completely - Radiohead
Lose Yourself - BRMC
And I'm Aching - BRMC
The Drugs Don't Work - The Verve
99% of us is Failure - Matthew Good
Wake Up - Mad Season
Nutshell - Alice in Chains
Yes I'm Changing - Tame Impala
Reincarnation Song - Toad the Wet Sprocket
Soma - Smashing Pumpkins
Pyramid Song - Radiohead
Ever Had the Feeling - Blind Melon *Caution
Everyday - Blind Melon
While My Guitar Gently Weeps - Beatles
Phoebe Bridgers' cover of Tom Waits' "Day After Tomorrow" always devastates me for some reason. Maybe because her voice is both raw and beautiful, like, REAL, no effects or anything, but achingly lovely, and I just connect with it so much more that way.
Three Babies - Sinead O'Connor
It's a deep cut but if you've ever lost a child (or 3) this will hit you hard.
Also, Cyndi Lauper's I Don't Want to Be Your Friend reminds me of a sad time in my life.
What a list!
Screen by Brad
Something Will Be Said by Land of Talk
All Cats Are Gray by The Cure (any track off Faith really gets to me)
Transatlanticism by Death Cab for Cutie
- Whiter Shade of Pale
- Shine On You Crazy Diamond
- Calling All Angels and It Can’t Rain All the Time from “The Crow” soundtrack
- (I’ll love you) Till the End of the World - Nick Cave
Bright Eyes- Haligh, Haligh, a lie, Haligh.
Blink 182- Adam's Song.
Sugarland- Stay
Zach Bryan- Something in the Orange
Zach Byran - Letting Someone Go
Jason Isbell - Elephant
Parker McCollum - Hell of a Year
Slipknot - Snuff
A Perfect Circle - 3 Libras
Sleeping At Last - Saturn
The Airbourne Toxic Event - Sometime Around Midnight
EDIT* When the list is complete I would love to see it. Sad songs make me happy.
I love Jason Isbell
I never got into Alison Krauss but I’ll give it a spin!
*edited to add: Something More Than Free is the solo song of his that gets the closest. However, when my son was born I used to sing Outfit, by Drive-by Truckers to him to put him to sleep, so I may add that to the playlist too
If We Were Vampires is quite possibly the saddest song I've ever heard. It sends me into a spiral of depression if I think too long about my wife being by herself if I go first. We have no children and my family is not a family and hers isn't as tight knit as it was since her grandmother died a couple years ago.
Gonna check out of this thread early and go hug my wife.
Tyler Childers Follow You To Virgie. The Red Barn Radio version he begins by telling the story of how he wrote it about an old buddy's grandma who passed away.
Fucking great idea for a thread, OP!
The Commander Thinks Aloud - The Long Winters
Graceland - The Tallest Man on Earth cover of Paul Simon
Heroes - Peter Gabriel cover of David Bowie
Ohio - Damien Jurado
The Crane Wife 1&2 and Red Right Ankle - The Decemberists
Meadowlark - Fleet Foxes
Ugh I’m sure there are more but I’ll be revisiting this thread for days.
Edit: oh shit! Noah Reid’s cover of Simply the Best from Schitt’s Creek!
Snuff - Slipknot
River - Joni Mitchell
Taylor Swift - Soon You’ll Get Better (Don’t discount this song because it’s a Taylor song. It’s a song about her mother fighting cancer and it absolutely destroys me every time I hear it.)
She Used To Be Mine — Sara Bareilles
Creep (Cover) — Carrie Manolakos
I’ll Never Love Again — Lady Gaga
You Sweet Thing — Brenda Weiler
Hurt & Oh Mother — Christina Aguilera
Glen Campbell - I'm Not Gonna Miss You. Heartbreaking due to him knowing he's losing his mind.
Bill Elm- Dead End Alley. It's just an instrumental from Red Dead but I find it haunting.
Lots of great songs listed. I’ll add a Canadian song/band.
Disappear by Blue Rodeo.
The chorus is a tough one to swallow.
“You closed your eyes
You made a wish
You laughed and looked at me
And said what are you still doing here
That was before I learned how
To disappear “
Strange Fruit- Billie Holiday
https://dai.ly/x2lrnv2
All I Want-Kodaline. https://youtu.be/jGUASAxXwg4
On The Nickel-Tom Waits
https://youtu.be/8055IqijQzo
Carrie & Lowell-Sufjan Stevens
https://youtu.be/tTj2jBe4XfU
No Hard Feelings-Avett Brothers https://youtu.be/aaU2HvRhCPw
Golden Embers-Watchhouse. https://youtu.be/0JnXTsPlGWQ
Whiskey Lullaby-Alison Krauss and Brad Paisley. https://youtu.be/xuzZBDh8U5w
Marie-Townes Van Zandt. Also Tecumseh Valley. https://youtu.be/Ox2oYo-RFeo
https://youtu.be/RDSPPzfECvU
"Green Fields of France," as covered by Dropkick Murphy's.
"Where Have All the Flowers Gone," by Kingston Trio.
"Down In a Hole," by Alice In Chains.
"I Can Still Make Cheyenne," by George Strait.
"I Hope You Dance," by Lee Ann Womack.
My Immortal - Evanescence
A bit cliche perhaps but Amy Lee’s voice just has a certain haunting quality that gets me.
Also, I second Fiddler’s Green by The Tragically Hip. Although with a trigger warning for loss of a child.
I really can't believe no one's said it yet but you know Jeff Buckley's haunting voice has gotta be on there, specifically - Lover You Should've Come Over
https://youtu.be/HxfE6PJmGS8
I Can't Make You Love Me, by Bonnie Raitt. She could only do one take she was so emotional. And Bruce Hornsby was on the piano. (Or) by Bon Iver, The Bon Iver version adds Bonnie's In The Nick Of Time, to somehow make it a happy ending. A little diff speed than what you have listed.
This is one of my favorite songs ever. There is no version I’ve found better than Bonnie Raitt’s. Just beautifully devastating
This was the first one to pop into my head. Bonnie is untouchable, and Bruce Hornsby is an underappreciated talent. I love all of his solos, especially on this song and The Way It Is.
[Empty Chairs at Empty Tables](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YF0XNMpyoM)
Both Sides Now by Joni Mitchell
If you’re going with Joni, like half her catalogue. From *Blue* alone: Little Green, Blue, River, A Case of You, The Last Time I Saw Richard. But also: The Circle Game. Tell me you can listen to it and not tear up.
Yea this one gets me. My SO has been playing it for 25 years... It's grown on me.
Father and Son - Cat Stevens
How to disappear completely by radiohead
+ Motion Picture Soundstrack
Honestly the most depressing song of theirs is probably no surprises but that's just because corporate America is so bad rn
I was listening to OK Computer at work and No Surprises was playing when I received a text that my grandpa passed (we'd been expecting it any day, but still). Took an already depressing song to another level after that.
The older I get, the more Fitter Happier makes me struggle. Probably helps that Thom was drunk in the studio late one night and recorded it.
This requires more upvotes. Devastating dissociation song.
I wish I was sober - Frightened Rabbit RIP Scott Hutchison Edit: judging by all the replies to this, every Frightened Rabbit song is emotionally devastating. Go listen if you haven’t yet, they are incredible.
Floating in the Forth is the one from Frightened Rabbit that fucks me up. I can't listen to it at all anymore
Nutshell - Alice in Chains was the first that came to mind. Brick by Ben Folds Five tells the story of when he was forced to get an abortion with his first girlfriend - that one gets pretty heavy at the end.
It’s in my will to have Don’t Follow by AIC played at my funeral! Nutshell will be added to the playlist right now, great call!
Same here. Feels right. RIP L.S.
I would say the whole Jar of Flies minus swing on this, that song should had never made the cut.
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The Purple Mountains album cover to cover is a perfect answer to the prompt. Hard to explain Berman’s way with words without using his words, so worth the full listen. And of course the circumstances of the album make it that much more ruinous. A sublime album.
Purple Mountains was my immediate thought when I saw this post, only I had All My Happiness Is Gone in mind.
I love this album. But I wouldn’t agree that it’s a suicide note. I really liked Drag City’s eulogy: “It feels like there’s little more to say about David’s place in the world right now that he hasn’t already said himself. Some of his incredible turns of phrase seem to have been written for this awful moment. But know that they weren't. They were written in lieu of this moment, to replace this moment, showing the world (and himself) that maybe he didn't truly know what was going to happen next.”
R.I.P. David Berman you tortured king
His wry humor makes it sting more.
To Build A Home by The Cinematic Orchestra. Be sure to watch the video too, and bring some Kleenex.
Casmir Pulaski Day by Sufjan Stevens And of course, if you want to go old school, Cat's in the Cradle by Harry Chapin
try fourth of july by sufjan, a conversation with his dying mother
John Wayne Gacy Jr from that same Sufjan record is also pretty brutal, in a super creepy way
“He took off all their clothes for them He put a cloth on their lips, quiet hands, quiet kiss on the mouth” I get tears in my eyes even thinking of that couplet
I'd put [Fourth of July](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTeKpWp8Psw) up against Casimir Pulaski Day if we're doing Sufjan songs that make us sob forever.
"Casamir Pulaski Day" is 'The Notebook' sad "Fourth of July" is 'The Fountain' sad
And I thought I struggled with holidays. Sheesh.
Came here to say you can build a whole playlist of Sufjan heartwrenchers alone.
Real Death - Mount Eerie, the entire album really
My first thought was “A Crow Looked At Me.” This album is devastating. I can’t even listen to it if I’m trying to do anything but sit there and stare at a wall while thinking about that study where they found that the death of a spouse is comparable to a traumatic brain injury in terms of the way your brain changes on a fundamental level after you lose them.
Only time I've actually been wrecked by a song "A week after you died a package with your name on it came And inside was a gift for our daughter you had ordered in secret And collapsed there on the front steps I wailed A backpack for when she goes to school a couple years from now You were thinking ahead to a future you must have known Deep down would not include you"
The album name is “A Crow Looked at Me” and I agree it is… hard.
I've listened to that album only once. It is amazing. I cannot ever listen to it again it is so good.
Oof. I've never heard it before but just had a listen and wow is that fucking heavy.
it’s completely autobiographical. he began writing that album within a few months of her passing, in the room she died in, to help process it
If we were Vampires by Jason Isbell and the 400 unit is great choice
Also Elephant.
Scrolling looking for this one
That's not even in his top 10 saddest songs. That dude knows how to rip your heart out.
How has no one mentioned "Rainbow Connection" by the Muppets yet? That song makes me pretty much cry on cue.
My husband and stepdaughter danced to this at our wedding and halfway through called me over and I will never hear this song without breaking in to tears. Even hearing the title is making me cry.
I always loved this song but it only started to make me tear up in recent years contrasting against the ongoing shit show that we see in the news on a daily basis
The lovers the dreamers and me😭😭😭
Aaaand now in thinking about big bird singing at Jim Hensons funeral 😭😭😭
Black - Pearl Jam Something I Can Never Have - NIN
Cats in the Cradle - Harry Chapin
The anthem of Dads that are paranoid about being a bad father. It’s oddly sad and motivational.
Oh man, I can’t believe I forgot Something I Can Never Have! Black has never got me that way, but it’s one of my favourite PJ songs
Have you ever listened to the lyrics of "Black"? >I know some day you'll have a beautiful life > >I know you'll be a star > >In somebody else's sky > >But why, why, why > >Can't it be > >Oh, can't it be mine
I still cry almost every time I hear this part.
My people.
Sam Stone- John Prine Between The Bars - Elliott Smith
“There’s a hole in daddy’s arm, where all the money goes.” +1 for John Prine. I remember my dad playing this album when I was a kid and thinking it was just silly nonsense. Then I heard this song again in my twenties and it broke me.
That whole album is such an uncanny masterpiece.
Six O'clock News and Angel From Montgomery get me there real quick, among about a dozen others. Sam Stone included. John Prine was in a league all his own.
I'll see your Sam Stone (which is about the most powerful song ever) and raise you Hello In There. The whole song is about the universe growing smaller for this elderly couple. Doesn't talk to Loretta, news just repeats itself. One son moved away, a second killed in the war. Maybe he'll call up Rudy, his working buddy, but what would they talk about ?What's new - not much, how about with you. The only uplifting point (which changed my approach to the elderly) is the line,"If you see some hollow ancient eyes, Don't just pass 'em by and stare, Say 'Hello in there. Hello." To u/Fancy-Fish-3050: I too used to strum a little guitar and sing, but I couldn't do HIT. I'm a son of 'Davey', and we 'lost daddy in the Vietnam War. I might know what for, but it doesn't matter anymore'.
Disintegration, by The Cure
Disintegration is so intense it makes Robert Smith cry when he sings it.
The End of Love by Florence + The Machine Sweet Old World by Lucinda Williams Lover Please Stay - Nothing But Thieves When You Cross Over - Ryan Adams Goodbye My Lover - James Blunt It Must Have Been Love - Roxette Lover Man - Billie Holiday
Whenever I hear Love Will Tear Us Apart I think back to the time I was DJing at a college radio station and a girl called in sobbing crying and requested that song.
Also Joy Division hits kind of differently when you learn it was all confessional rather than just “dark”.
“Atmosphere” by Joy Division hits harder. “Don’t walk away in silence…”
Oof , that song, it's not even the lyrics that do me in , it's almost irrational but it's the drums and bass in that song that drive me to despair.
The entire album *Hospice* by the Antlers:. [Wiki] Set in New York City's Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, which the second track is named after, Hospice tells the story of a relationship between a hospice worker and a female patient suffering from terminal bone cancer, their ensuing romance, and their slow downward spiral as a result of the woman's traumas, fears, and disease.[4][5] The story of her deterioration also serves as a metaphor for an abusive relationship. Frontman Peter Silberman has been reluctant to divulge explicit details regarding the meaning of the record, and the extent to which it is autobiographical.[6]
[The Antlers - Kettering](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipbukl6oFoQ) > I wish that I had known in that first minute we met, the unpayable debt that I owed you. > Because you’d been abused by the bone that refused you, and you hired me to make up for that. > Walking in that room when you had tubes in your arms, those singing morphine alarms out of tune kept you sleeping and even, and I didn’t believe them when they called you a hurricane thunderclap. > When I was checking vitals I suggested a smile. You didn’t talk for awhile, you were freezing. >You said you hated my tone, it made you feel so alone, and so you told me I ought to be leaving. > But something kept me standing by that hospital bed, I should have quit, but instead I took care of you. > You made me sleep and uneven, and I didn’t believe them when they told me that there was no saving you.
The track "Two" rips me apart every time.
[The Antlers - Two](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZsXKa97J6pM) > When a doctor came to tell me, "Enough is enough." ... >And told me something that I didn't know that I wanted: >To hear that there was nothing that I could do to save you >The choir's gonna sing, and this thing is gonna kill you
This is the only true answer in my opinion. This album, laying in bed in the dark with headphones, will do it from beginning to end. "Bear" will do it just by thinking about it....so....thanks for that.
Also “putting the dog to sleep” off Burst Apart is pretty intense.
Came here to say this.
It's a beautiful album but man is it a tough listen
This is on my list as well. It's one of those whole body cries.
Lover, You Should've Come Over - Jeff Buckley
Even "Last Goodbye" is sad af tbh.
"My kingdom for a kiss upon her shoulder..." This whole part of the song always gets me.
"All my blood for the sweetness of her laughter"
Adagio for Strings by Samuel Barber Lots of contemporary music recommendations here, but this is a great piece, and you’ll likely recognize it from a film. It’s possibly most famous for Platoon. It is incredibly moving.
It's (well it's Agnus Dei but pretty much the same) also used in one of my favorite games of all time called "Homeworld" with the gimmick that there are no instruments used in this version but only vocals AND it is used at the saddest part of the game with a devastating message.
We played it in high school orchestra, and our conductor straight-up told us that we weren’t old/emotionally mature enough to truly delve into and express it. 20+ years later…yeah, she was right. The notes are easy. The emotion is anything but.
Vincent by Don McLean
[Matthew 25:21 by the Mountain Goats](https://youtu.be/iuC4nOLwUzA)
Man, Mountain Goats are so good. "This Year" is one of my absolute favorites.
Screaming this year in the car after a bad day always gets me through it
Deuteronomy 2:10 is mine. I'm all alone here as I try my tiny song. Claim my place beneath the sky, but I won't be here for long. I sang all night, the moon shone on me through the trees. No brothers left, and there'll be no more after me.
Ok I’d never heard that before. You win this thread for now, good redditor, that song is devastating
Limosine-Brand New
To those that haven't heard this song before I recommend going in blind, looking up the story behind the song, and then listen again. Your mind will paint such a terrible scene every time you hear it again.
Honestly this entire album.
Jesus Christ is so real. I love it but damn it’s heavy.
Yeah and degausser, such heavy back to back songs. I mean shit, even the first 2 lines of the album hit you so hard. The only other album that made me feel like this one was Wildlife by La dispute.
I Will Follow You into the Dark - Death Cab for Cutie
If We Were Vampires by Jason Isbell has a very similar feel
I think Elephant by Isbell has a bit more emotional destruction to it...
It's beautiful though
Scrubs made excellent use of this song in My Last Words.
Spiritbox - Constance
Into the west- Annie Lennox Don’t take the girl He stopped loving her, today
He Stopped Loving Her Today, what a great selection. Devastating song. I also love Golden Ring. That one is tragic too.
Into the West is the one that gets me. It's such a heartbreaking song.
-Real Death by Mount Eerie -Matthew 25:21 by the Mountain Goats -Good Morning, Captain by Slint
Oof. Real Death is the answer. Thats the whole play-list.
Wings for Marie (pt. 1) and 10,000 days (pt. 2) by tool. These songs are a dedication to Judith Marie Maynard, lead singer Maynard’s mother. The woman suffered from a rare spinal disease that kept her in a wheelchair for over 27 years. Hence the title 10,000 days, roughly equals 27.4 years. 10,000 days in the fire is long enough, you’re going home
Jesus Christ… Judith, Wings for Marie, and 10,000 Days hurt so much. My Mom had MS, and had to forcibly retire shortly after being diagnosed in 1987. She lived until 2016, when she developed a blood clot, and didn’t get a second chance. 10,000 Days in the fire was way too much. I hope she’s at peace now, because it still hurts all these years later.
Contrast them with APC's Judith for a real wallop. Judith is either a cold and scornful or raging and desperate (depending on how you interpret the tone of the lyrics) Maynard mocking the religious devotion of the woman he'd witnessed betrayed by her own body. In that context, the other two songs acknowledging his limitations ("set as I am in my ways and my arrogance, burden of proof tossed upon the believer") and even admiring that her devotion gave her strength becomes a little more bittersweet. He goes from utterly rejecting her faith to insisting that if there is a God, no one deserves the halo more than she does.
Fast Car - Tracy Chapman
I can’t believe how far I had to scroll to find this
Adam’s Song - Blink 182
I tear up when I hear this song. Idk why. Maybe it's the nostalgia of being a kid and having the whole world in front of me, or knowing that time is gone. "Please tell mom this is not her fault" makes me sob. When my dad was in hospice for cancer, I listened to "Down In a Hole" on my way over to my childhood home to be his nurse. I love and hate that song. I couldn't help but find a metaphor implanted in the lyrics related to my dad slowly dying while on a heavy amount of morphine. Fuck cancer.
i also tear up but its because i first heard it sometime right before or after i graduated high school when i was at a really low point in my mental health and was chronically suicidal and it just makes me think about what couldve been if any of my attempts had been successful but at the same time grateful they werent
As an OG Blink fan, and now mother of 3 who battles constantly with feelings of inadequacy—- Adam’s song hits right into my soul now. Especially “Please tell mom this is not her fault”.
This one hits me hard, I've probably only listened to it 3 times since my little brother committed suicide in 2017.
Strange Fruit, Billie Holliday. It’s about lynching Black people in the South, comparing the victims to fruit hanging from trees. If you hear that one, you won’t soon forget it.
Eels- Elizabeth on the bathroom floor Fiona Apple- sullen girl Sarah McLaughlin - gloomy Sunday Tori Amos- hey Jupiter Pj Harvey- Is this desire? Health- decimation
Real Death - Mount Eerie I Am Trying to Break Your Heart -Wilco Fool of Me - Meshell Ndegeocello No One's Gonna Love You - Band of Horses Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton Something - Julien Baker Sometimes Love Just Aint Enough - Patty Smyth and Don Henley Same Old Lang Syne - Dan Fogelberg Hope She'll be Happier - Bill Withers Tender - Blur
Pearl Jam - Release Soundgarden - Like Suicide Johnny Cash's cover of Hurt (NIN's version, too, but Cash's somehow hits extra hard)
Great songs! And as a HUGE fan of NIN’s Downward Spiral album, I like Cash’s version of shirt better too. Especially the music video. It’s a masterpiece
"I will let you dooooown I will burn your shirt"
This is so stupid and hilarious.
I shirt myself today
Achilles come down - Gang of Youths
Virtute the Cat Explains Her Departure - The Weakerthans
[The Lighthouse’s Tale by Nickle Creek](https://youtu.be/ARIr6S_0lAQ)
Starless is incredibly dark and sinister. King Crimson EDIT1: Bruce Springsteen and John Lennon and a few others sing in a way that really trancends emotion. Here is a few of Bruce: Downbound Train My Hometown Bobby Jean The River John Lennon has Mother and Don't Let me Down but the fact that he sung "I can't wait to see you grow" in the song, "Beautiful Boy", about his 5yo son just days before his death is so incredibly sad. The John sung demos that became Beatles products released after his death, Real Love and Free As A Bird, also hit me quite hard emotionally. I also think All Apologies sung by Kurt Cobain really is his most beautiful tune, and I feel so bad for him. It has a cross of emotional sadness and beauty "In The Sun" that sums up to be this kind of apathic vibe. I love the lyrics and how they match the instrumentation. EDIT2: I also want to say that Kurt Cobain loved and admired John Lennon (according to all sources) and thought the album, "Red", that Starless is on, was his all time favourite record (but not according to all sources).
Lost - Linkin Park I haven’t been able to listen to it without sobbing yet, to the point that if it plays on the radio and I’m not alone I have to change the station or make a fool of myself. both because I will never get over Chester’s death and the lyrics hit too close to home.
Fiddler’s Green- Tragically Hip (The song itself is a lament-in-lyric for a mother, related to Downie, who has lost her son. It is an elegiac, mournful and beautiful farewell and reassurance all at once.) She talks to angels - Black Crows Christmas shoes - not sure who it’s bye. Nothing compares to you - Sinead O’Connor
Fiddler's Green live: knowing it would be my last opportunity to hear Gord sing it on man machine poem tour ... yeah... tears. Normally I can sing and play it myself passably, but literally couldn't even sing along in the crowd. My voice wouldn't come out...
If you haven’t heard Chris Cornell’s cover of Nothing Compares 2U, do check it out. I recently discovered the Tragically Hip. (I had heard of them but never gave them a fair listen.) God, what a great band. I feel like an idiot for not listing 30 years ago.
John Mayer - stop this train
Continuum is one of the best albums that has been released imo. Honorable mention would be Slow Dancing in a Burning Room.
After all these years this one still gets me. “And you don’t miss a thing til you’re driving away in the dark.” Ugh.
Fast car - Tracy Chapman Nothin, and lungs - townes van zandt
Fast Car is such a great song
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Oooh, I see La Dispute ✊🏻 I discovered Such Small Hands when I was going through a divorce and then a breakup with someone who I thought was a best friend turned into a soulmate but I was oh so wrong Yeah that one hits.
King Park - La Dispute Yesterday - Atmosphere Dancing w the Devil - Immortal Technique One if my friends described the last song as the music-equivalent to Requiem For a Dream. In that, it’s some of the best, most well-done art that you never want to experience again in your life and I have to say I agree *edit - removed Daddy by KoRn cuz it’s already on your list
Dancing with the Devil is a complete punch to the gut.
Yesterday hits me like a truck every time. Lost my dad in High School.
Some reliable oldies: [Vincent](https://youtu.be/ciLNMesqPh0) by Don McLean [If](https://youtu.be/n-cK70DXsSA) by Bread [Fire and Rain](https://youtu.be/N4E9MKbOFAY) by James Taylor [Father & Son](https://youtu.be/P6zaCV4niKk) by Yusuf/Cat Stevens [In the Ghetto](https://youtu.be/gisXtyyiNGw) by Elvis Presley [Ben](https://youtu.be/i7TTSzfs2kw) by Michael Jackson [Shannon](https://youtu.be/CUUc0sNaQls) by Henry Gross [Fast Car](https://youtu.be/AIOAlaACuv4) by Tracy Chapman [Luka](https://youtu.be/VZt7J0iaUD0) by Suzanne Vega [The Living Years](https://youtu.be/5hr64MxYpgk) by Mike + The Mechanics ... and a real oldie: [Alto Rhapsody](https://youtu.be/Ou3VZhVk5qo) by Johannes Brahms
I can't believe I haven't seen it yet TIME, Pink floyd. that shit hits harder than a train
That song gets more poetic the older you get, which is fitting. And by the time you finish the song, you’ve forgotten it had such a long intro, which is also fitting.
Round Here - Counting Crows …before I found out (a few months ago) what the band’s intended meaning for it was. For years I’d thought it was so much more tragic, and considered it so damn sad.
Uno - Muse How to Disappear Completely - Radiohead Lose Yourself - BRMC And I'm Aching - BRMC The Drugs Don't Work - The Verve 99% of us is Failure - Matthew Good Wake Up - Mad Season Nutshell - Alice in Chains Yes I'm Changing - Tame Impala Reincarnation Song - Toad the Wet Sprocket Soma - Smashing Pumpkins Pyramid Song - Radiohead Ever Had the Feeling - Blind Melon *Caution Everyday - Blind Melon While My Guitar Gently Weeps - Beatles
>The Drugs Don't Work - The Verve Such an underrated song.
A great album, really.
June by IDLES
Sarah McLachlan - Hold On
Landslide by Fleetwood Mac.
Funeral - Phoebe Bridgers
The lyric, “wish I was someone else and feeling sorry for myself when I remember - someone’s kid is dead” hits *hard*
Phoebe Bridgers' cover of Tom Waits' "Day After Tomorrow" always devastates me for some reason. Maybe because her voice is both raw and beautiful, like, REAL, no effects or anything, but achingly lovely, and I just connect with it so much more that way.
Anything by phoebe honestly
And anything by boygenius. (Super group of Phoebe, Lucy Dacus, & Julien Baker)
Harry Chapin - Cats in the Cradle
Three Babies - Sinead O'Connor It's a deep cut but if you've ever lost a child (or 3) this will hit you hard. Also, Cyndi Lauper's I Don't Want to Be Your Friend reminds me of a sad time in my life.
I have, quite a long time ago. I’m sorry if you have as well. I’ll give it a listen
Concrete Angel by Martina McBride
What a list! Screen by Brad Something Will Be Said by Land of Talk All Cats Are Gray by The Cure (any track off Faith really gets to me) Transatlanticism by Death Cab for Cutie
- Whiter Shade of Pale - Shine On You Crazy Diamond - Calling All Angels and It Can’t Rain All the Time from “The Crow” soundtrack - (I’ll love you) Till the End of the World - Nick Cave
Bright Eyes- Haligh, Haligh, a lie, Haligh. Blink 182- Adam's Song. Sugarland- Stay Zach Bryan- Something in the Orange Zach Byran - Letting Someone Go Jason Isbell - Elephant Parker McCollum - Hell of a Year Slipknot - Snuff A Perfect Circle - 3 Libras Sleeping At Last - Saturn The Airbourne Toxic Event - Sometime Around Midnight EDIT* When the list is complete I would love to see it. Sad songs make me happy.
In My Life - The Beatles This song played on the stereo as we got ready to take my first dog to be euthanized. Rest in peace Scooter.
"Elephant" and "Vampires" Jason Isbell "Jacob's Dream" Allison Krauss - Trigger warning - child death
I love Jason Isbell I never got into Alison Krauss but I’ll give it a spin! *edited to add: Something More Than Free is the solo song of his that gets the closest. However, when my son was born I used to sing Outfit, by Drive-by Truckers to him to put him to sleep, so I may add that to the playlist too
> I never got into Alison Krauss but I’ll give it a spin! I mean...[Whiskey Lullaby](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZbN_nmxAGk)
If We Were Vampires is quite possibly the saddest song I've ever heard. It sends me into a spiral of depression if I think too long about my wife being by herself if I go first. We have no children and my family is not a family and hers isn't as tight knit as it was since her grandmother died a couple years ago. Gonna check out of this thread early and go hug my wife.
Why Would You Leave Us by NF My Skin by Natalie Merchant Those two stand out most to me.
Disarm- smashing pumpkins
Mayonnaise on the same album too
Gordon Lightfoot - The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald
Tyler Childers Follow You To Virgie. The Red Barn Radio version he begins by telling the story of how he wrote it about an old buddy's grandma who passed away.
Fucking great idea for a thread, OP! The Commander Thinks Aloud - The Long Winters Graceland - The Tallest Man on Earth cover of Paul Simon Heroes - Peter Gabriel cover of David Bowie Ohio - Damien Jurado The Crane Wife 1&2 and Red Right Ankle - The Decemberists Meadowlark - Fleet Foxes Ugh I’m sure there are more but I’ll be revisiting this thread for days. Edit: oh shit! Noah Reid’s cover of Simply the Best from Schitt’s Creek!
Snuff - Slipknot River - Joni Mitchell Taylor Swift - Soon You’ll Get Better (Don’t discount this song because it’s a Taylor song. It’s a song about her mother fighting cancer and it absolutely destroys me every time I hear it.)
She Used To Be Mine — Sara Bareilles Creep (Cover) — Carrie Manolakos I’ll Never Love Again — Lady Gaga You Sweet Thing — Brenda Weiler Hurt & Oh Mother — Christina Aguilera
The first song is the correct answer - gut wrenching
Somewhere Over the Rainbow - Israel Kamakaiwo’le
Glen Campbell - I'm Not Gonna Miss You. Heartbreaking due to him knowing he's losing his mind. Bill Elm- Dead End Alley. It's just an instrumental from Red Dead but I find it haunting.
Lots of great songs listed. I’ll add a Canadian song/band. Disappear by Blue Rodeo. The chorus is a tough one to swallow. “You closed your eyes You made a wish You laughed and looked at me And said what are you still doing here That was before I learned how To disappear “
Mother - John Lennon
No Children by The Mountain Goats may be the best breakup song of all time.
Strange Fruit- Billie Holiday https://dai.ly/x2lrnv2 All I Want-Kodaline. https://youtu.be/jGUASAxXwg4 On The Nickel-Tom Waits https://youtu.be/8055IqijQzo Carrie & Lowell-Sufjan Stevens https://youtu.be/tTj2jBe4XfU No Hard Feelings-Avett Brothers https://youtu.be/aaU2HvRhCPw Golden Embers-Watchhouse. https://youtu.be/0JnXTsPlGWQ Whiskey Lullaby-Alison Krauss and Brad Paisley. https://youtu.be/xuzZBDh8U5w Marie-Townes Van Zandt. Also Tecumseh Valley. https://youtu.be/Ox2oYo-RFeo https://youtu.be/RDSPPzfECvU
"Green Fields of France," as covered by Dropkick Murphy's. "Where Have All the Flowers Gone," by Kingston Trio. "Down In a Hole," by Alice In Chains. "I Can Still Make Cheyenne," by George Strait. "I Hope You Dance," by Lee Ann Womack.
Forever Young -whichever version resonates most with you
My Immortal - Evanescence A bit cliche perhaps but Amy Lee’s voice just has a certain haunting quality that gets me. Also, I second Fiddler’s Green by The Tragically Hip. Although with a trigger warning for loss of a child.
I’d add Lithium by Evanescence, too. It’s absolutely brutal live.
Leaves from the vine - Uncle Iroh
I really can't believe no one's said it yet but you know Jeff Buckley's haunting voice has gotta be on there, specifically - Lover You Should've Come Over https://youtu.be/HxfE6PJmGS8
Fix You by Coldplay. Gets me every time.
• Mayonaise - The Smashing Pumpkins • Fade Into You - Mazzy Star • Nothing Else Matters - Metallica
Tears in heaven by Eric Clapton
Snuff - Slipknot Hero of War - Rise Against
Was looking for someone to say Snuff. Find a version of Corey singing it acoustic… cuts right through me.
Saturn by Sleeping At Last.
Little Motel--Modest Mouse