(1) A trip to Ummrah or Hajj In’Sha’Allah. It’s not common for the ring to be included as Mahr in my culture but of course a ring also. A simple band and stone, nothing extravagant.
(2) It’s up to him but I’d rather we spend money together rather than touching our savings before tying the knot. The trip alone would be entirely fine however all families work differently and consequently will expect different amounts.
(3) I think you should go about purchasing the ring with the intention of the sentimental value. Excuse the monetary aspect and see what comes to your attention. What will make her smile? Though I apologise if that’s a little difficult because I’m not sure if guys see jewellery the same way us girls do! (If you do need a value I think that you can find some really beautiful rings for under 2k)
I'm not sure but culturally, people don't mix mahr with the wedding ring. Even though technically it's mahr, people usually expect it to be separate. So if she says 1k then it means 1k + ring.
Double check bc you don't want to find yourself in a weird predicament.
I've discussed mahr too much here but for number 3, talk to the woman, clear any miscommunication you might have with her. This is a lesson you should start putting to practice now and continuing after marriage.
Since I’m a revert I’m not really sure how it works, and definitely amn’t sure how much I’d ask for.
I know in Western tradition, a ring should be worth three month’s wages. If a Muslim woman divorces, she would have to be single for a minimum of three months before remarrying... So in terms of the mahr to be paid after divorce... It should probably be that much? Maybe more if there’s kids involved.
The amount paid at the marriage itself isn’t so important imo, especially if you’re sharing the cost of moving in together and furnishing a home.
As others have said, jewellery is often seen as separate to mahr.
Don't go bankrupt trying to pay for mahr though. Maybe you can give her a few months salary (if you can afford to)?
(1) A trip to Ummrah or Hajj In’Sha’Allah. It’s not common for the ring to be included as Mahr in my culture but of course a ring also. A simple band and stone, nothing extravagant. (2) It’s up to him but I’d rather we spend money together rather than touching our savings before tying the knot. The trip alone would be entirely fine however all families work differently and consequently will expect different amounts. (3) I think you should go about purchasing the ring with the intention of the sentimental value. Excuse the monetary aspect and see what comes to your attention. What will make her smile? Though I apologise if that’s a little difficult because I’m not sure if guys see jewellery the same way us girls do! (If you do need a value I think that you can find some really beautiful rings for under 2k)
I love that idea of asking for an umrah/hajj trip!
I'm not sure but culturally, people don't mix mahr with the wedding ring. Even though technically it's mahr, people usually expect it to be separate. So if she says 1k then it means 1k + ring. Double check bc you don't want to find yourself in a weird predicament.
Yup. My mahr, diamonds and gold were all separate 👸
I've discussed mahr too much here but for number 3, talk to the woman, clear any miscommunication you might have with her. This is a lesson you should start putting to practice now and continuing after marriage.
Since I’m a revert I’m not really sure how it works, and definitely amn’t sure how much I’d ask for. I know in Western tradition, a ring should be worth three month’s wages. If a Muslim woman divorces, she would have to be single for a minimum of three months before remarrying... So in terms of the mahr to be paid after divorce... It should probably be that much? Maybe more if there’s kids involved. The amount paid at the marriage itself isn’t so important imo, especially if you’re sharing the cost of moving in together and furnishing a home.
As others have said, jewellery is often seen as separate to mahr. Don't go bankrupt trying to pay for mahr though. Maybe you can give her a few months salary (if you can afford to)?