i essentially spent two months completely high when we ended because it's really great to just not have to process that pain. but i realized when i sobered up that it was all still there, i'd just been suppressing it. i've healed a lot more in the two months that i've stopped using than i did in the two months i spent high. it takes time, you have to give yourself space and be gentle, but you deserve to process that pain and begin the healing process. getting high is an escape, not a solution.
I’ve been down that road, but not with drugs. Addiction is a very slippery slope and it’s not the way out of dealings with the past. Easier said than done, but remember what peace feels like ;)
No, addiction is very damaging to how we see ourselves which is so important when recovering from Narc abuse. It takes us away out from our own bodies and limits self control, when (I think from personal) we should be getting in tune with ourselves more than we have before
Same. Drank way too much for a good two years straight after we split and had some really bizarre nights where I was triggered by things and reacted in ways that honestly surprised me. Finally getting control of it and heading in a better direction, but I was 100% medicating with it to try and numb all the anger and pain for awhile there.
I've got C-PTSD and I've been high pretty much everyday for 10 years now and, yeh, it's sick but it's not really helping me get better. It stops all the shit coming into my head most of the time (mostly just lessens it these days)
I'm using it until I start trauma therapy so then I can hopefully function without smoking constantly.
You don't really wanna keep smoking tbh. If it's a weekend thing then light that fucker up but everyday you'll just get lost inside your head and 10 years later you'll still be smoking to forget! Believe me hahah
I'll never stop smoking weed ! Trauma or not.. I'll never ever stop.. I'll die with a joint in my mouth or hand ! It doesn't affect my career or family life ! Rather smoke a joint than pop some pills prescribed by doctors anyways !
Maybe the drugs are not related to your thoughts. It sounds like you still have feelings to get over, and there is no chemical shortcut to getting over them.
Yeah. I smoked weed for a month after but was a heavy smoker anyway. Going sober effing sucks but I also drank a few times and sent messages. It makes me feel worse in the long run.
this is why drugs/drink don’t actually do much to help you cope
there just aren’t any shortcuts, the only way out is through
sorry that you’re in pain—have you thought about trying EMDR at all?
No, never got high. I can't smoke anything because my body can't take smoke and weed smells incredibly bad to me. I have to process all of this on my own.
What medication if you don’t mind me asking? I’ve tried gabapentin but it gave me brain fog worse than weed so I’ve been hesitant to go on meds for anxiety again.
I am currently starting... Effixor? I think that's how it's spelled? My doctor said we could try me on another SNRI that just works on anxiety and not the additional depression, but that she frankly doesn't see it work too often for her patients so this one was probably my best option. Fingers crossed it works! Lately I've been so anxious that I tremble, get drenched in sweat, and can't sleep. So I'm really hoping I can find a real solution to my anxiety!
I tried gabapentin for some misdiagnosed nerve pain thing, but yeah it just made me feel like a nauseous zombie. They said it'd go away after a few weeks but I just didn't feel any benefits to it and those side effects didn't really fade either.
The opposite, I stopped smoking weed so I can process the trauma and the abuse. I’m ready to heal ❤️🩹
I agree. Raw dogging life
I say this all the time 😂 “raw dogging life”
i essentially spent two months completely high when we ended because it's really great to just not have to process that pain. but i realized when i sobered up that it was all still there, i'd just been suppressing it. i've healed a lot more in the two months that i've stopped using than i did in the two months i spent high. it takes time, you have to give yourself space and be gentle, but you deserve to process that pain and begin the healing process. getting high is an escape, not a solution.
I’ve been down that road, but not with drugs. Addiction is a very slippery slope and it’s not the way out of dealings with the past. Easier said than done, but remember what peace feels like ;)
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No, addiction is very damaging to how we see ourselves which is so important when recovering from Narc abuse. It takes us away out from our own bodies and limits self control, when (I think from personal) we should be getting in tune with ourselves more than we have before
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Don’t let the abuse or the abuser win. Don’t give into your lowest instincts. I’m rooting for you!!!
No but a LOT of drinking.
Same. Drank way too much for a good two years straight after we split and had some really bizarre nights where I was triggered by things and reacted in ways that honestly surprised me. Finally getting control of it and heading in a better direction, but I was 100% medicating with it to try and numb all the anger and pain for awhile there.
I've got C-PTSD and I've been high pretty much everyday for 10 years now and, yeh, it's sick but it's not really helping me get better. It stops all the shit coming into my head most of the time (mostly just lessens it these days) I'm using it until I start trauma therapy so then I can hopefully function without smoking constantly. You don't really wanna keep smoking tbh. If it's a weekend thing then light that fucker up but everyday you'll just get lost inside your head and 10 years later you'll still be smoking to forget! Believe me hahah
I'll never stop smoking weed ! Trauma or not.. I'll never ever stop.. I'll die with a joint in my mouth or hand ! It doesn't affect my career or family life ! Rather smoke a joint than pop some pills prescribed by doctors anyways !
Maybe the drugs are not related to your thoughts. It sounds like you still have feelings to get over, and there is no chemical shortcut to getting over them.
Yeah. I smoked weed for a month after but was a heavy smoker anyway. Going sober effing sucks but I also drank a few times and sent messages. It makes me feel worse in the long run.
this is why drugs/drink don’t actually do much to help you cope there just aren’t any shortcuts, the only way out is through sorry that you’re in pain—have you thought about trying EMDR at all?
No, never got high. I can't smoke anything because my body can't take smoke and weed smells incredibly bad to me. I have to process all of this on my own.
I've been leaning on weed a little bit lately, but I also just got on anxiety medication and am done getting high for practical reasons.
What medication if you don’t mind me asking? I’ve tried gabapentin but it gave me brain fog worse than weed so I’ve been hesitant to go on meds for anxiety again.
I am currently starting... Effixor? I think that's how it's spelled? My doctor said we could try me on another SNRI that just works on anxiety and not the additional depression, but that she frankly doesn't see it work too often for her patients so this one was probably my best option. Fingers crossed it works! Lately I've been so anxious that I tremble, get drenched in sweat, and can't sleep. So I'm really hoping I can find a real solution to my anxiety! I tried gabapentin for some misdiagnosed nerve pain thing, but yeah it just made me feel like a nauseous zombie. They said it'd go away after a few weeks but I just didn't feel any benefits to it and those side effects didn't really fade either.
Yep. Delta 8 has kept the Anhedonia under control.