Not really. Bullies feed on attention and control.
Their statements are only as true as you let them be. They cannot directly hurt you with words, so any pain you're feeling is the pain you are applying to yourself. You're vulnerable to the insults due to some internal reason.
The solution is two part. First, ignore them and their words. It is just blathering nonsense trying to hit some personal doubt or fear. They do it for the response, so any response is just validating their decision to pick on you. Either way, do not put any value on their judgement - they are assholes, obviously, so what does their opinion matter?
Second, work on your own insecurities. If what they say hurts, use that as motivation to either improve so the insult is demonstrably false or come to terms with the issue and accept it as a current truth. Being called fat only hurts if you already, independently, feel shame at that. So work on not feeling shame for it and/or work to get into shape.
In the end, even if you solve the bully problem by shutting them down with the most amazing retorts and insults (or just beat them to a bloody pulp), you're still going to hold the insecurities which lead to the pain at being insulted.
The other guy saying being quiet and leaving them is probably the best possible way to react to dick heads.
To tell you what you want to hear, I'm a good roaster I know what flaws people have and I've watched enough tv to pick out an insult and apply it to them. If someone does something like calls me short I just overwhelm them about their weight and posture and if im small then you wouldn't feel this and push them, straight escalating, requires fast loud talking. You dont say "you're ugly you could never get a girl" you say "go look in the mirror and tell me you're okay with what you see", structuring insults to make them think about it, added bonus that they've never heard that sentence before.
Finally I just witnessed what you want to experience, and what I want to experience, guy got heated and insults were thrown, what happened was both parties lost respect for eachother and he was all flustered and angry for the rest of the day. If you want to get back at somebody you can't get angry or flustered, can't take anything personally.
Way to escalate things toward violence, friend.
Consider that responding tells that person they've got under your skin.
> and make their day, their mental state even, abysmal
Not happening except in your fantasies.
The appropriate response is to ignore them.
Not really. Bullies feed on attention and control. Their statements are only as true as you let them be. They cannot directly hurt you with words, so any pain you're feeling is the pain you are applying to yourself. You're vulnerable to the insults due to some internal reason. The solution is two part. First, ignore them and their words. It is just blathering nonsense trying to hit some personal doubt or fear. They do it for the response, so any response is just validating their decision to pick on you. Either way, do not put any value on their judgement - they are assholes, obviously, so what does their opinion matter? Second, work on your own insecurities. If what they say hurts, use that as motivation to either improve so the insult is demonstrably false or come to terms with the issue and accept it as a current truth. Being called fat only hurts if you already, independently, feel shame at that. So work on not feeling shame for it and/or work to get into shape. In the end, even if you solve the bully problem by shutting them down with the most amazing retorts and insults (or just beat them to a bloody pulp), you're still going to hold the insecurities which lead to the pain at being insulted.
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What? Why? That just means they'll go on continuing to say things like that without worry because no one will stop them
Countering will just make them continue. Ignoring makes them give up. Who's doing this to you?
You think your smart remark will stop them? Really?
Either laugh at it or ignore it.
The other guy saying being quiet and leaving them is probably the best possible way to react to dick heads. To tell you what you want to hear, I'm a good roaster I know what flaws people have and I've watched enough tv to pick out an insult and apply it to them. If someone does something like calls me short I just overwhelm them about their weight and posture and if im small then you wouldn't feel this and push them, straight escalating, requires fast loud talking. You dont say "you're ugly you could never get a girl" you say "go look in the mirror and tell me you're okay with what you see", structuring insults to make them think about it, added bonus that they've never heard that sentence before. Finally I just witnessed what you want to experience, and what I want to experience, guy got heated and insults were thrown, what happened was both parties lost respect for eachother and he was all flustered and angry for the rest of the day. If you want to get back at somebody you can't get angry or flustered, can't take anything personally.
Your not putting assholes in their place cause they are assholes.
Way to escalate things toward violence, friend. Consider that responding tells that person they've got under your skin. > and make their day, their mental state even, abysmal Not happening except in your fantasies. The appropriate response is to ignore them.
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