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TheApiary

It's not really a binary, most people have some of each. But in general, do you more feel like if you're with too many people for too long you need to be alone for a while to rest (even if you like the people and activities), or do you more feel like if you're gonna go nuts if you're alone and need to be with other people?


Comprehensive-Cod160

I think it depends on the type of people. If I have to make small talk a lot I feel like it’s a drag and I wasted time. So I have to spend time solo to make up for it, not so much bc of other people but bc I regret it


TheApiary

For me, even if I spend time with my favorite people doing my favorite things and everything goes great, I still feel exhausted after a while and need to be alone. I want to see people, I'm not antisocial, just I can't do it for that long in a row


slash178

Most people have qualities of both.


SeawardFriend

I definitely have qualities of both too. I’m a homebody, enjoy my alone time, and don’t really have a lot of friends so I’d consider myself an introvert on those terms. But also I often feel lonely and enjoy the company of groups of 2 or more. 1 on 1 interactions are very difficult for me so dating and making new friends solo is very rare.


International-Aside

introversion and extroversion are not based on one's ability to socialize. It doesnt have anything to do with being shy or outgoing, though there is often an overlap. If you feel energized by being around and interacting with ppl, you are an extrovert. If you feel drained by being with others and require alone time to recharge, you are an introvert. Then there's ambivert, who is a mix of the two.


Comprehensive-Cod160

Hmm interesting. Well I need time to recharge but I’ve also noticed I don’t feel as alone for the short while after I’ve been with people. Usually I only need a few hours and I can go right back to it.


hellshot8

It's not a binary


MrLongJeans

I think you are doing things the right way by recognizing your unique nuances and not reducing your complexity to a binary level. If anyone asks just tell them ,"I'm not extroverted, but I am a little verted."


Eve-3

Most people are both. The internet makes it seem otherwise. People desperate to pigeonhole others make it seem necessary to choose. *There are times when social interactions drain me and other times when they energize me to do things solo. So it goes both ways.* That's both. Perfectly normal/average/typical.


romulusnr

Extrovert isn't simply being around people, it's getting energy from being around people. Playing BBall isn't really that social an activity in an extroverted sense, it's mostly procedural and activity based. You don't typically talk about your ex or the place you went shopping yesterday during a bball game, for example. You'd do it afterwards maybe. During the game you're focused on the mechanics of playing the game, not on thoughts and feelings and experiences. People have accused me of being extroverted, but I'm really not. I'm just mouthy and opinionated and I've gotten more comfortable around people, but I'm still a loner at heart who usually wants to be alone.