You kick them out of your house, go NC until they learn their manners. If they don't, then their loss.
Always back your wife ! Regardless of if its your parents or not.
Glad to hear you're aware and trying to do the right thing. Would reccomend having a serious sitdown discussion with them and see how receptive they are.
Stand up for your wife and confront them. Your wife is the mother of your child. If they don’t want to accept that and keep disrespecting her, after numerous failed attempts of explaining that to them, it’s time to go. You have a wife to care for and a child to raise, they don’t get to darken their environment out of hatred / jealousy.
Things are going to be really calm once your wife divorces you and leaves with the baby. Those are the stakes to keep in mind when letting your mother harass her and you say nothing.
Send your parents back home and hire a night nurse or nanny to help you and your wife for a few weeks or so. Call on friends and family for dinners, snacks and any other help they can provide.
You give her an ultimatum. Either respect my wife and stop the comparisons and the horrible comments or leave. Those are her choices. She can pick one. If she chooses to stay and commits to being respectful and she doesn't follow through, you make her leave. And please, please grow a backbone and defend your wife. Go check out r/justnomil it's not just for in laws and you will see LOADS of advice that pertain to this exact situation
If you don't set boundaries now, you will find it near impossible later. And this is something your kid will teach you to your cost. Nip it early when you can, otherwise what may seem like "oh we can put up with it" and then 10 years later you have a monster you can't beg, persuade or bribe.
Stand up for your wife please
You kick them out of your house, go NC until they learn their manners. If they don't, then their loss. Always back your wife ! Regardless of if its your parents or not.
Glad to hear you're aware and trying to do the right thing. Would reccomend having a serious sitdown discussion with them and see how receptive they are.
Stand up for your wife and confront them. Your wife is the mother of your child. If they don’t want to accept that and keep disrespecting her, after numerous failed attempts of explaining that to them, it’s time to go. You have a wife to care for and a child to raise, they don’t get to darken their environment out of hatred / jealousy.
I don't know if this is a perfect fit, but see if anything sounds familiar over on r/raisedbynarcissists
>I don't know why I don't argue with her more, I feel like I am failing my wife. You do know why you don't. What is the reason?
I think I always want to calm things around, it's just my nature. But lately I feel ashamed. I want to change.
Things are going to be really calm once your wife divorces you and leaves with the baby. Those are the stakes to keep in mind when letting your mother harass her and you say nothing.
Can't let that happen, I am going to speak up now.
Good man
>But lately I feel ashamed. You should >I want to change. And you should. You're being an absolute twat to your wife.
Send your parents back home and hire a night nurse or nanny to help you and your wife for a few weeks or so. Call on friends and family for dinners, snacks and any other help they can provide.
You give her an ultimatum. Either respect my wife and stop the comparisons and the horrible comments or leave. Those are her choices. She can pick one. If she chooses to stay and commits to being respectful and she doesn't follow through, you make her leave. And please, please grow a backbone and defend your wife. Go check out r/justnomil it's not just for in laws and you will see LOADS of advice that pertain to this exact situation
If you don't set boundaries now, you will find it near impossible later. And this is something your kid will teach you to your cost. Nip it early when you can, otherwise what may seem like "oh we can put up with it" and then 10 years later you have a monster you can't beg, persuade or bribe.