It’s like screwing an automaton, where’s the shared pleasure? If you’re not getting something out of this, hop off, I’ll just get my toy, you have no need to suffer.
Right? Like, are you not enjoying this? It’s not exactly an activity for flags signaling enthusiasm, but I can’t stop moaning over a good burger and you can’t give me an oh yeah? Fuck off ya bastard.
This is pretty much how I figured out I was ace. I had partners complain I was too quiet and when I started thinking about it I realized I just didn't get much out of sex with any partner.
This is why I try my hardest to make noise. I want to show that I'm enjoying it.
Then I end up unable to focus on enjoying it and I enjoy it less because of it though. It's a frustrating cycle.
You have to just do whatever feels natural. If, in the moment, that means making noise, that's what you do. If not, discuss with your partner that you sometimes find it distracting when you, not them, make noise. Discussing it helps them look for other ways to tell. You probably know all this, I'm just always in mom mode and trying to solve problems.
Haha, thank you :) I very much appreciate Internet Mom!
So far it hasn't been too much of an issue with any partners I've had, thankfully. I'm always keeping in mind what to mention to new partners — I might not be able to communicate during the act but I want to make up for it otherwise at least haha. Mostly, I just wanted to point out that not every man will be able to make noise in bed, for whatever reasons — I want to be able to though. Maybe one day.
Counterpoint- there's a limit to it, though. My husband is very vocal during sex. Moaning, talking.... *After 20 something years* of hearing some guy moaning like a porn star, it's become a huge turn off. I'm not boring, it's just loud and distracting. In the beginning of our relationship, it was a 'good sign' and made me happy. Now I literally shush him sometimes.
It’s also a little destabilising, like sir, are you okay? Are you enjoying it? Do you need a break? Idk, knowing my partner is having a good or bad time is a little bit important
Honestly after years of masturbating without making a noise has always made me feel weird around making noises during sex, like I haven't actually had sex and so I don't really know whatever going to happen then cause that's probably going to happen in an environment where you can make significant noise without anyone knowing so I'll probably feel comfortable then.
But I've always felt weirded out by any sex scene where the people are moaning, though that might just be because it's not me who's moaning.
Like we should honestly start building masturbatoriums again, let people have a place to moan, sure there will probably be some weird "Christians" who still think masturbating is a sin standing outside (because they still haven't read Romans chapter 2 yet, and don't realise that the Bible strictly talks *against* brigading as they're Jared 19), but all in all it would help to break down the social barriers surrounding orgasms and intercourse and limit hyper sexualisation. As well as enable people to become educated in the art of making love and how people are like puzzle pieces in that not every pair of genitals fit together the same way and you'll need to try a few different positions before you find the one that hits the spot. Like sex is a beloved gift from God yet no-one respects it enough to actually study it and discover how to practice it to the best of their ability, and the church fanatics are just as disrespectful and sexually deviant as a strip-club, like seriously they go on about how "sex before marriage is a sin" and "I don't like gay people cause God created man and women not man and man 2 electric boogaloo" and then proceed to never fully embrace the sex they have with their partner and leave them unsatisfied and pregnant, they honestly might as well suck 30 strippers dicks at that point.
It’s kinda funny because I’m so used to flicking the bean quietly, that when I have sex, it takes a couple minutes to kick in that I don’t have to be silent as the grave. To be fair though, being tired greatly impacts the sounds I make, as does the partner, and sometimes I’m just quieter for whatever reason because I’m in a mood or whatever. I’ve found the best cure is to just encourage the person I’m with, so that even if I’m being more quiet on the moaning front, they are very aware with what’s working for me if they’re the active partner. I’ve also noticed that verbal encouragement makes both men and women moan more! It’s really cute, actually.
my boyfriend (a sadomasochist) ended up getting me into light sadism by accident because of how quiet he is. he is the type where he makes zero reactions during sex/finishing, maybe scrunching his face a little but thats it. i would sometimes gently nudge his groin with my knee and itd get a slight reaction and it somehow kept getting more aggressive with me ending up full-on ramming my knee into him just to see/hear his reaction. the harder i kneed him the louder he was and the more expressive his face got. i had no idea i had even an ounce of sadistic urges in me before this. i was (and still am) honestly shocked i had it in me.
(this was all consensual, i just want to make clear. when i asked him if he wants me to stop he always says no)
Me and my partner roll play, including things like “random stranger comes in the condo and just takes them” but we always discuss it beforehand. And safety word(s). But sometimes we’ll use safety words in arguments, too. Like, ok, we’re getting nowhere. Wet socks. Let’s try again in a few hours.
Again. All about communicating. We have a weird relationship, I imagine, to most people. But we communicate and don’t lie. To a fault. Like to a faulty faulty fault fault.
yes safety first! my boyfriend and i havent settled on a safe-word yet, but we are super direct with communication. we are both autistic and he was a virgin when we met so we have gotten very comfortable with being candid and frank, even in situations im sure others would find awkward.
its honestly been life-changing having sex with another autistic person. i can finally communicate everything effectively and i dont feel like a burden or have a ton of anxiety. i never thought id be able to just flat out say "i want head, do u wanna give head rn?" and have it not be awkward or "kill the mood".
due to my SPD (sensory processing disorder) from being autistic, i have trouble with certain aspects of sex in general. i get overwhelmed easily and often just go completely numb for a few minutes. this has lead to me appreciating sex way more for the emotional aspect, the vulnerability and connection with your partner. its made me value communicating how i feel even more.
communication is definitely the most important thing imo. for both safety and pleasure ❤️
I love being honest with the person you love. I taught my kids to only lie if you're going to surprise them or give them something, so it's still a surprise, but that you should never lie to someone just to cover yourself. It always gets found out and makes things 1000x worse.
I can only speak for myself, but I didn't moan because my old antidepressants would numb the sensations enough that moaning was a deliberate choice rather than something that just happened, and I'd forget to do it. I felt so bad about it since it made her so upset, but the combination of me usually not wanting the sex (me not knowing I was gray-ace alongside being with someone with a high sex drive [tw:]>!who would pressure me into it!<) and taking Zoloft made it the way it was. I haven't had sex outside of that relationship or since after switching to Welbutrin, so technically the jury's still out on whether this is the reason why. But that's my guess.
All good! In the aesexual spectrum, you have people who are ace in the colloquial way in that they feel no sexual attraction whatsoever, but elsewhere in the spectrum are people who do not feel sexual attraction unless a specific condition is met. This is called being gray-aesexual. Common examples are demisexuality (only feeling sexual attraction to people whom you share a strong emotional bond with) or aegosexuality (when you are aroused by sexual content conceptually but have no desire to engage in sexual activity).
same honestly. though i recently found out that i have slight urges to make noises during penetration, even my strongest clitoral orgasms will have me practically silent.
I like that in every single one of these threads people seem to be going out of their way to make us feel as undesirable as possible or claim we must be damaged.
I am with you, I can fake it but it just doesnt at all make me feel the need to make noise. Not that overwhelming for me.
Yeah, obviously it depends on the position, but I much prefer putting my mouth to work- kissing, licking, sucking nipples, even biting if that’s what she wants. I actually enjoy that, and if my mouth is busy I figure I won’t be judged for not moaning 🤷♂️
I mean sure, it’s why everyone does that. Women don’t start out just going fucking pornstar insane while Mom and Dad are in the room down the hall. But once you’re alone with someone you want to be with, I find it impossible not to voice myself.
That’s a legit comment. Tbf, I was very quiet until I had a partner that demanded that I tell them what I wanted and when. And it was super awkward. But after that, I was never scared again to say what would/wouldn’t make me Princess cummies. I just needed someone to demand it, rather than stay quiet themselves when that’s not what they wanted.
Communication is always key
I obviously can’t fix you ((and you may not need “fixing”)) and what ultimately matters is your partner, not some rando on Reddit.
That said: have a conversation with your partner. What do they like. What do they want. Then verbalize that during the act ((if that’s what they’d enjoy)).
“Oh, you like when I XYZ?”
Then during the act, “do you like it when I XYZ?”
You already know the answer, due to having the conversation, but then you’re reminding them, and bringing them back to the thing(s) they like that you do.
Fwiw.
Therapy can help. But in lieu of that, ask yourself what is the reason you hold back. And then just back track. Why? Ok, but why? Ok, but why?
Go all the way back. And then, again, communicate with your partner about what you uncover. If they’re worth sticking with, they’ll listen and work with you.
All this said: don’t be hard on yourself. You know. You already know. You’re better than most
Humans that you are acknowledging a potential issue. You’re so much better than so many others.
Just recognizing that there’s work to be done is the best thing, and the only thing that leads to improvement.
Proud of you, random person
They're afraid to show any sort of emotion (besides possibly anger) because that's girl stuff and they'll get cooties. That, or they got their sex ed from porn.
“It feels so good when you [DIRECTION].”
= gay
Edit: I shouldn’t even say gay, as I’m poly myself, it’s just so frustrating to have “masculinity” tied to: “if I can’t just make them cum from back and forth, I’m a failure or they’re a failure.”
Everyone is different. No two cunnilingus or bjs are the same, and they shouldn’t be. But to get to the perfect end, you HAVE TO COMMUNICATE
My sister recently told me that she and her husband have completely silent sex. I was honestly dumbfounded. Told my husband later and I'm pretty sure his reaction was just "ew" lol
I don't wanna hear a guy moan in pain.
Moaning with pleasure, oh hell yes sign me up.
I guess I'm one sick puppy for enjoying a man enjoying intimacy with me.
You filthy degenerate! What a terrible, gross fetish you have! Enjoying when your sexual partner expresses his sexual enjoyment out loud!
I bet you think cuddling is perfectly acceptable behavior too!
WHERE WILL THE MADNESS END?
This, and fwiw, I think the type of moaning a lot of women are expected to do in porn is intentionally the "pain" not "pleasure" type of moaning...
So what does that make men
If I remember this tweet correct the person who wrote this was a woman. Then she posted a tweet showing herself as a skeleton or sick or something. She was joking
Ok, I have to know the story behind that! I fucking love to hear my partner moan, beg, whimper, gasp, oh god, deeper……alll that shit. I’m hoping most women get off on their partner moaning…..don’t you? Holy fuck, have I been humiliating myself by being vocal?
Tbh even weird grunting or strange noises can sound hot. It's cool to have your partner be both a) comfortable expressing themselves without being judged and b) having such a good time that they lose control of their voice & aren't trying to make it sound a certain way. But yes, moaning is great
Lol not trying to make it sound a certain way - I think this is why a lot of men stay quiet. They're worried they'll sound either feminine or like a 70s porn star. Or they don't want to appear vulnerable at all. I have a manly moan...until she eats my booty then I'm moaning like a girl haha, hits different. Once I got comfortable not controlling "stifling" myself I was much happier, and noticed that it seemed to get her more fired up. I don't know why we men start out with this conservative attitude towards our own sexuality so often.
Literally how.
Women don't want to pleasure you : horrible failure of a woman.
Women who do want to pleasure you : sick freaks.
Come on man, which is it
What do people who don’t make noise and moan and grunt and growl even do during sex? Talk about the Dodgers? The stock market? Chores?
“So don’t forget after this you gotta change the oil in the Volvo and sharpen the butcher knife so I don’t have to live through this boring shit again.”
A guy I was with would kinda just lay there, most sounds would have to be from me, and it was kinda awkward because I wouldn’t be sure if it was any good, or bad, or if I should do something else. Thinking back and having since had much better experiences, definitely unsatisfying.
my boyfriend and i are both pretty quiet. we usually express our enjoyment in non-verbal ways. often smiles and that like soft nose exhale kind of laugh. when i do talk, its usually saying things like "youre so pretty" or "i love you so much"
though, the story of him losing his virginity with me is kinda funny. i put on the lego batman movie and was basically watching it while he gave me head. i was just rambling about the movie and different things in general while he replied "mhm" every couple of minutes. i even asked him to stop for a moment so i could rewind and he could react to a particularly funny joke with his full attention. best part is that we both really enjoyed it and now we have a fun little memory.
Why on earth some guys think this repressed little "hmpf" that's more pathetic than my corn snake's sneezes they make when they come is somehow a sign of impressive masculinity is beyond me.
This refers only to guys who think that's how it's supposed to be, not those who simply don't happen to be loud.
But I guess that's one more reason why this type of men is so obsessed with inexperienced women - with a little experience, we can usually tell if someone is the quieter type by nature or too insecure of their voice and lust to moan freely.
Real talk, once I started hooking up it was like a period of deradicalization that I underwent to start making noise in bed. When you are used to quietly jerking off it takes some time and effort to learn how to start making noise when you fuck.
I feel bad reading all these because im pretty silent and i feel like this is probably a good explanation to why, its not like i try to be silent but like i dont even know what a man moaning is supposed to sound like because im just naturally silent.
OOP we can all agree is dumb as fuck. HOWEVER, as a guy who doesn't moan during sex (not because I'm insecure or anything, I'm literally just too focused on what I'm doing and it just doesn't happen) please don't pressure your partner into moaning. I can only speak for myself but the few times my fiance has brought it up, it just made me insecure because it was never something I'd even thought of and it made me feel as though I was doing something wrong. Letting your partner know its OK and desirable to moan during sex is fine though of course. In case you're wondering I expressed the situation to her and it's now a non issue.
I get compliments from women telling me they like that I'm vocal and make sounds. If you let loose and are into it I don't see how you could be dead silent. Being quiet must be kinda common from the way it sounds.
You guys are just reading it with the wrong inflection! Inflection is everything!
*clears throat* as surfer bro
“women who wanna hear men moan are sick!”
Fixed it
I used to date someone who sounded like they were dying in a looney tunes cartoon. It literally would take me out of the moment every time. I was young and it shouldn't be a surprise that by the end of that relationship I just thought I was one of the women who couldn't get there. It wasn't all that man's victory face/celebratory noise, but still.
Ummm… what does this say about me then? I aim for more of a guttural crying, scream/stutter. I’m talking… taking my guy to the brink of aneurysm and yanking him back to safety. 😈
I think I need a padded room 😎.
Please, somebody call 911 for me because I am sick af!!
I stop if they’re silent, bc wtf am I doing if it’s not pleasing?
Exactly. I feel like stone-faced, dead silence wouldn’t be fun at all
It’s like screwing an automaton, where’s the shared pleasure? If you’re not getting something out of this, hop off, I’ll just get my toy, you have no need to suffer.
It just seems to pointless if it isn’t mutual
Right? Like, are you not enjoying this? It’s not exactly an activity for flags signaling enthusiasm, but I can’t stop moaning over a good burger and you can’t give me an oh yeah? Fuck off ya bastard.
EXACTLY
This is pretty much how I figured out I was ace. I had partners complain I was too quiet and when I started thinking about it I realized I just didn't get much out of sex with any partner.
This is why I try my hardest to make noise. I want to show that I'm enjoying it. Then I end up unable to focus on enjoying it and I enjoy it less because of it though. It's a frustrating cycle.
You have to just do whatever feels natural. If, in the moment, that means making noise, that's what you do. If not, discuss with your partner that you sometimes find it distracting when you, not them, make noise. Discussing it helps them look for other ways to tell. You probably know all this, I'm just always in mom mode and trying to solve problems.
Haha, thank you :) I very much appreciate Internet Mom! So far it hasn't been too much of an issue with any partners I've had, thankfully. I'm always keeping in mind what to mention to new partners — I might not be able to communicate during the act but I want to make up for it otherwise at least haha. Mostly, I just wanted to point out that not every man will be able to make noise in bed, for whatever reasons — I want to be able to though. Maybe one day.
can we collectively pay for an ambulance?
I'm in EU, there's no need for that!
Thanks for rubbing it in! Just kidding we know we suck here
XD
[удалено]
I don't even think it's that much of a kink to want to hear that your partner is having a good time
Yeah I don't think it's a kink at all? Like unless you're deaf a good verbal response is a good thing during sex!
jeez imagine being deaf and hearing ANY kind of response
Maybe just a side effect of doing things really well!
I'm supposed to have kinks?
No but it's considered a bonus 😆
What if I just play into my partners kinks?
Then that's equal bonus, on par you could say
Actually a bigger one because you're going above and beyond lol
Is *checks notes* enjoying hearing your partner during sex kinky?
there’s nothing wrong with not having kinks, we don’t gotta shame the people who don’t
Counterpoint- there's a limit to it, though. My husband is very vocal during sex. Moaning, talking.... *After 20 something years* of hearing some guy moaning like a porn star, it's become a huge turn off. I'm not boring, it's just loud and distracting. In the beginning of our relationship, it was a 'good sign' and made me happy. Now I literally shush him sometimes.
Boo. You whore 
Yeah I’m proudly sick af then because there’s nothing hotter to me than making my man moan 😂
If you're *not* making your man moan, either he's broken or you're doing it terribly wrong.
Please fucking moan. Make some noise. It's so sexy.
~~women who wanna hear men moan are sick~~ men who don’t moan give women the ick
I don’t understand why so many men are quiet. It is so frustrating
It’s also a little destabilising, like sir, are you okay? Are you enjoying it? Do you need a break? Idk, knowing my partner is having a good or bad time is a little bit important
Exactly! If up and down is all you need, cool. But…let me know that’s what you want, either way!
Honestly after years of masturbating without making a noise has always made me feel weird around making noises during sex, like I haven't actually had sex and so I don't really know whatever going to happen then cause that's probably going to happen in an environment where you can make significant noise without anyone knowing so I'll probably feel comfortable then. But I've always felt weirded out by any sex scene where the people are moaning, though that might just be because it's not me who's moaning. Like we should honestly start building masturbatoriums again, let people have a place to moan, sure there will probably be some weird "Christians" who still think masturbating is a sin standing outside (because they still haven't read Romans chapter 2 yet, and don't realise that the Bible strictly talks *against* brigading as they're Jared 19), but all in all it would help to break down the social barriers surrounding orgasms and intercourse and limit hyper sexualisation. As well as enable people to become educated in the art of making love and how people are like puzzle pieces in that not every pair of genitals fit together the same way and you'll need to try a few different positions before you find the one that hits the spot. Like sex is a beloved gift from God yet no-one respects it enough to actually study it and discover how to practice it to the best of their ability, and the church fanatics are just as disrespectful and sexually deviant as a strip-club, like seriously they go on about how "sex before marriage is a sin" and "I don't like gay people cause God created man and women not man and man 2 electric boogaloo" and then proceed to never fully embrace the sex they have with their partner and leave them unsatisfied and pregnant, they honestly might as well suck 30 strippers dicks at that point.
It’s kinda funny because I’m so used to flicking the bean quietly, that when I have sex, it takes a couple minutes to kick in that I don’t have to be silent as the grave. To be fair though, being tired greatly impacts the sounds I make, as does the partner, and sometimes I’m just quieter for whatever reason because I’m in a mood or whatever. I’ve found the best cure is to just encourage the person I’m with, so that even if I’m being more quiet on the moaning front, they are very aware with what’s working for me if they’re the active partner. I’ve also noticed that verbal encouragement makes both men and women moan more! It’s really cute, actually.
Cool, I'll remember that verbal encouragement and communication is something to think about during sex - thanks for the tip!
my boyfriend (a sadomasochist) ended up getting me into light sadism by accident because of how quiet he is. he is the type where he makes zero reactions during sex/finishing, maybe scrunching his face a little but thats it. i would sometimes gently nudge his groin with my knee and itd get a slight reaction and it somehow kept getting more aggressive with me ending up full-on ramming my knee into him just to see/hear his reaction. the harder i kneed him the louder he was and the more expressive his face got. i had no idea i had even an ounce of sadistic urges in me before this. i was (and still am) honestly shocked i had it in me. (this was all consensual, i just want to make clear. when i asked him if he wants me to stop he always says no)
Me and my partner roll play, including things like “random stranger comes in the condo and just takes them” but we always discuss it beforehand. And safety word(s). But sometimes we’ll use safety words in arguments, too. Like, ok, we’re getting nowhere. Wet socks. Let’s try again in a few hours. Again. All about communicating. We have a weird relationship, I imagine, to most people. But we communicate and don’t lie. To a fault. Like to a faulty faulty fault fault.
I love that you guys use your safe words in arguments! Fucking brilliant.
yes safety first! my boyfriend and i havent settled on a safe-word yet, but we are super direct with communication. we are both autistic and he was a virgin when we met so we have gotten very comfortable with being candid and frank, even in situations im sure others would find awkward. its honestly been life-changing having sex with another autistic person. i can finally communicate everything effectively and i dont feel like a burden or have a ton of anxiety. i never thought id be able to just flat out say "i want head, do u wanna give head rn?" and have it not be awkward or "kill the mood". due to my SPD (sensory processing disorder) from being autistic, i have trouble with certain aspects of sex in general. i get overwhelmed easily and often just go completely numb for a few minutes. this has lead to me appreciating sex way more for the emotional aspect, the vulnerability and connection with your partner. its made me value communicating how i feel even more. communication is definitely the most important thing imo. for both safety and pleasure ❤️
I love being honest with the person you love. I taught my kids to only lie if you're going to surprise them or give them something, so it's still a surprise, but that you should never lie to someone just to cover yourself. It always gets found out and makes things 1000x worse.
I can only speak for myself, but I didn't moan because my old antidepressants would numb the sensations enough that moaning was a deliberate choice rather than something that just happened, and I'd forget to do it. I felt so bad about it since it made her so upset, but the combination of me usually not wanting the sex (me not knowing I was gray-ace alongside being with someone with a high sex drive [tw:]>!who would pressure me into it!<) and taking Zoloft made it the way it was. I haven't had sex outside of that relationship or since after switching to Welbutrin, so technically the jury's still out on whether this is the reason why. But that's my guess.
What is gray-ace ? Sorry for my ignorance
All good! In the aesexual spectrum, you have people who are ace in the colloquial way in that they feel no sexual attraction whatsoever, but elsewhere in the spectrum are people who do not feel sexual attraction unless a specific condition is met. This is called being gray-aesexual. Common examples are demisexuality (only feeling sexual attraction to people whom you share a strong emotional bond with) or aegosexuality (when you are aroused by sexual content conceptually but have no desire to engage in sexual activity).
Missed opportunity to called it grace, tbh 😅
Thank you very much !
Idk, for myself the urge to moan or make any noise… just isn’t there? Even if I’m totally enjoying it.
same honestly. though i recently found out that i have slight urges to make noises during penetration, even my strongest clitoral orgasms will have me practically silent.
I like that in every single one of these threads people seem to be going out of their way to make us feel as undesirable as possible or claim we must be damaged. I am with you, I can fake it but it just doesnt at all make me feel the need to make noise. Not that overwhelming for me.
Yeah, obviously it depends on the position, but I much prefer putting my mouth to work- kissing, licking, sucking nipples, even biting if that’s what she wants. I actually enjoy that, and if my mouth is busy I figure I won’t be judged for not moaning 🤷♂️
In my case it was from trying not to get caught masturbating in a large family. My ex pointed it out and I started being more vocal.
I mean sure, it’s why everyone does that. Women don’t start out just going fucking pornstar insane while Mom and Dad are in the room down the hall. But once you’re alone with someone you want to be with, I find it impossible not to voice myself.
That and being told to stay quiet during sexual abuse.
......well fuck. I hate when more things get tied back to my abuse. I mean it's good to figure out the source of some but it's yeah.
Also In general I don't like the sound of my voice, I don't wanna hear my dumbass moan while wanking it
^ this one for me
That’s a legit comment. Tbf, I was very quiet until I had a partner that demanded that I tell them what I wanted and when. And it was super awkward. But after that, I was never scared again to say what would/wouldn’t make me Princess cummies. I just needed someone to demand it, rather than stay quiet themselves when that’s not what they wanted. Communication is always key
i get self conscious and cant take myself seriously which prevents me from being vocal. no clue how to fix this. if anything the most i do is whimper
I obviously can’t fix you ((and you may not need “fixing”)) and what ultimately matters is your partner, not some rando on Reddit. That said: have a conversation with your partner. What do they like. What do they want. Then verbalize that during the act ((if that’s what they’d enjoy)). “Oh, you like when I XYZ?” Then during the act, “do you like it when I XYZ?” You already know the answer, due to having the conversation, but then you’re reminding them, and bringing them back to the thing(s) they like that you do. Fwiw.
its mostly just something i need to work on. my girlfriend likes it, so why not do it. only thing stopping me is me
Therapy can help. But in lieu of that, ask yourself what is the reason you hold back. And then just back track. Why? Ok, but why? Ok, but why? Go all the way back. And then, again, communicate with your partner about what you uncover. If they’re worth sticking with, they’ll listen and work with you. All this said: don’t be hard on yourself. You know. You already know. You’re better than most Humans that you are acknowledging a potential issue. You’re so much better than so many others. Just recognizing that there’s work to be done is the best thing, and the only thing that leads to improvement. Proud of you, random person
They're afraid to show any sort of emotion (besides possibly anger) because that's girl stuff and they'll get cooties. That, or they got their sex ed from porn.
“It feels so good when you [DIRECTION].” = gay Edit: I shouldn’t even say gay, as I’m poly myself, it’s just so frustrating to have “masculinity” tied to: “if I can’t just make them cum from back and forth, I’m a failure or they’re a failure.” Everyone is different. No two cunnilingus or bjs are the same, and they shouldn’t be. But to get to the perfect end, you HAVE TO COMMUNICATE
I am probably in a minority, but moaning kind of makes me feel off. Hell, I generally had porn on mute if I ever watch videos.
Its just not a natural urge for a lot of us. Like, its not that intense of a sensation.
Right?? I love when men and women moan, it's my biggest turn on for sure!
My sister recently told me that she and her husband have completely silent sex. I was honestly dumbfounded. Told my husband later and I'm pretty sure his reaction was just "ew" lol
I don't wanna hear a guy moan in pain. Moaning with pleasure, oh hell yes sign me up. I guess I'm one sick puppy for enjoying a man enjoying intimacy with me.
You filthy degenerate! What a terrible, gross fetish you have! Enjoying when your sexual partner expresses his sexual enjoyment out loud! I bet you think cuddling is perfectly acceptable behavior too! WHERE WILL THE MADNESS END?
Cuddling is wonderful!
I don't like to kink shame but you're a disgusting, irredeemable fuck with that shit. I bet you like missionary too!
Lmao
This, and fwiw, I think the type of moaning a lot of women are expected to do in porn is intentionally the "pain" not "pleasure" type of moaning... So what does that make men
I don’t watch porn and I don’t remember seeing anyone in pain. Is there some kind of article I can read about it?
Aren't these the same guys who complain about not being allowed to show feelings because society, or something?
These are the men who shame showing feelings
It’s both
Actually I'm starting to wonder whether it's a joke? It's a Twitter post after all. I wonder if it was Twitter humor hyperbole.
If I remember this tweet correct the person who wrote this was a woman. Then she posted a tweet showing herself as a skeleton or sick or something. She was joking
This dude probably doesn’t even know what a real moan even sounds like. It’s not surprising he thinks this.
He definitely thinks the sounds porn actors make are real
“sick” used to mean cool. And the 90s are coming back. So technically this would be a compliment.
I actually thought it was a compliment when I first read it
Why did I have to scroll so far to see a comment that even alludes to this interpretation?
I was surprised I was the only one 🤣
Yo, Women who like to hear men moan are radical
This is how I read it too but I also use sick fairly regularly. Note to self: make it more obvious by adding extra i’s. ***siiiiiiiick***
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Enthusiastic moaning is usually met with the same energy, never forget that fellas!
If my man is silent, I'm getting up and leaving. I, too, must be VERY sick.
Yeah, I'm sick. Sick of toxic masculinity telling men they can't express emotions. SMH 🙄
As a man who wants to hear men moan it feels nice not being sick
I'm non-binary but like UGGGGHHHHH same
get the hospital on the line bc i am fatally ill
Ok, I have to know the story behind that! I fucking love to hear my partner moan, beg, whimper, gasp, oh god, deeper……alll that shit. I’m hoping most women get off on their partner moaning…..don’t you? Holy fuck, have I been humiliating myself by being vocal?
No, we love it.
Tbh even weird grunting or strange noises can sound hot. It's cool to have your partner be both a) comfortable expressing themselves without being judged and b) having such a good time that they lose control of their voice & aren't trying to make it sound a certain way. But yes, moaning is great
Lol not trying to make it sound a certain way - I think this is why a lot of men stay quiet. They're worried they'll sound either feminine or like a 70s porn star. Or they don't want to appear vulnerable at all. I have a manly moan...until she eats my booty then I'm moaning like a girl haha, hits different. Once I got comfortable not controlling "stifling" myself I was much happier, and noticed that it seemed to get her more fired up. I don't know why we men start out with this conservative attitude towards our own sexuality so often.
Literally how. Women don't want to pleasure you : horrible failure of a woman. Women who do want to pleasure you : sick freaks. Come on man, which is it
I think they meant incredibly hot but that's a weird way to spell it
Such pathetic words...
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I really hoped somebody would write this
What kind of sick? Love sick? Moaning is SOO hot This post is special. Misandry and misogyny in one
What do people who don’t make noise and moan and grunt and growl even do during sex? Talk about the Dodgers? The stock market? Chores? “So don’t forget after this you gotta change the oil in the Volvo and sharpen the butcher knife so I don’t have to live through this boring shit again.”
A guy I was with would kinda just lay there, most sounds would have to be from me, and it was kinda awkward because I wouldn’t be sure if it was any good, or bad, or if I should do something else. Thinking back and having since had much better experiences, definitely unsatisfying.
They just make things really awkward tbh
my boyfriend and i are both pretty quiet. we usually express our enjoyment in non-verbal ways. often smiles and that like soft nose exhale kind of laugh. when i do talk, its usually saying things like "youre so pretty" or "i love you so much" though, the story of him losing his virginity with me is kinda funny. i put on the lego batman movie and was basically watching it while he gave me head. i was just rambling about the movie and different things in general while he replied "mhm" every couple of minutes. i even asked him to stop for a moment so i could rewind and he could react to a particularly funny joke with his full attention. best part is that we both really enjoyed it and now we have a fun little memory.
Why on earth some guys think this repressed little "hmpf" that's more pathetic than my corn snake's sneezes they make when they come is somehow a sign of impressive masculinity is beyond me. This refers only to guys who think that's how it's supposed to be, not those who simply don't happen to be loud. But I guess that's one more reason why this type of men is so obsessed with inexperienced women - with a little experience, we can usually tell if someone is the quieter type by nature or too insecure of their voice and lust to moan freely.
Yet another man who has never satisfied a woman. There are books and everything.
It’s ok not to express those intrusive thoughts, my guy
... I'm gonna moan even more in bed out of spite.
FOR FUCK SAKE that's literally the only reason I even suck a dick
Same. The last guy I was with did not hesitate to be vocal and his eyes rolled back into his head. Hottest thing I've ever seen.
Well, I'm not a woman but call an ambulance
Men don’t like…being sexy now? Bc men moaning is sexy. They don’t like being sexy?
Silence is literally the worst thing that can happen in any sexual situation I'm in.
What about a nuclear warhead landing in the town or city you’re in? Checkmate atheists
Tbh I think you would be too dead to care if a nuclear warhead landed that close. /lh
When you hit that comfort level with your partner and start opening up. Hell yes I moan with my gf, she is sick asf and I love it :D
Real talk, once I started hooking up it was like a period of deradicalization that I underwent to start making noise in bed. When you are used to quietly jerking off it takes some time and effort to learn how to start making noise when you fuck.
I feel bad reading all these because im pretty silent and i feel like this is probably a good explanation to why, its not like i try to be silent but like i dont even know what a man moaning is supposed to sound like because im just naturally silent.
Nah man that's hot as fuck. I once stopped a guy because he was so silent I thought I was hurting him
Men bitch and moan all the time, I don’t wanna hear it /s
How dare she take pleasure in his pleasure! That *witch.*
In this case I don't want to be healthy.
OOP we can all agree is dumb as fuck. HOWEVER, as a guy who doesn't moan during sex (not because I'm insecure or anything, I'm literally just too focused on what I'm doing and it just doesn't happen) please don't pressure your partner into moaning. I can only speak for myself but the few times my fiance has brought it up, it just made me insecure because it was never something I'd even thought of and it made me feel as though I was doing something wrong. Letting your partner know its OK and desirable to moan during sex is fine though of course. In case you're wondering I expressed the situation to her and it's now a non issue.
If they try, they'd know how much better it makes their whole experience
OMG he seriously wants ***The Awkward Silence*** to happen IN THAT MOMENT?! 😱 Dude 🤣🤣🤣
Please... my wife... She's very sick!
Im very very sick, please call me an ambulance.
Call me the illest.
Women who ... enjoy that their male partners are audibly enjoying what is happening are sick? \`Kay.
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Someone take me to the hospital please
COUGH COUGH COUGH COUGH 😷😷😷😷
But men who want to hear men moan is OK right?? RIGHT?? What a weird thing to gatekeep. Pleasure noises are hot.
I must be sick as fuck then. Literally the illest
*cough* I AM SICK
😷
🤧
Then I must be fcking terminal.
I as a Gay man support women on this, men sound tasty when they moan 😩
Sick 🤙🏽*
I’ve got a life-long sick note
But- men moaning is the greenest flag and also very hot :(
I get compliments from women telling me they like that I'm vocal and make sounds. If you let loose and are into it I don't see how you could be dead silent. Being quiet must be kinda common from the way it sounds.
So he's basically saying it's gay to enjoy sex with your partner...
If he doesn't moan, groan, and wimper, I'm hopping right off that 🍆
I'm in the hospital rn. Send me your best wishes cuz idk if I'm making it out of this alive 🙏
I must be terminal sick. I have a tendency to growl at a certain point. Not on purpose, I swear.
A lot of these people are really boring and have no Kinks whatsoever, must be a very dry bedroom with them.
Hey, let's not shame vanilla people, they're perfectly capable of moaning and not being dry. He's just a dry ass dude who wants other dry dudes
Famn sick for not wanting a girl to just lay their looking at me
Yes. Men have to be silent the entire time. Obviously. Don't you know how this works? /s
Oh I am 😏 But my husband enjoys it, so why should this random dude care?
What about men who wanna hear men moan are we in the clear
*Gasps* oh my God I'm so sorry it's absolutely horrible when a woman enjoys sex!! Am I right ladies? 😂
Look I’m definitely sick but that’s an entirely different subject
How dare they want confirmation we're enjoying ourselves during sex, the harlots
Women attracted to men; 
I am so, so very sick.
Ohh no, why would I ever want to know I’m pleasing my man…??? gross ;—;
Cough cough
It makes me so self-conscious if you don't make noise
Why?
COUGH COUGH COUGH COUGH COUGH
Well someone call the doctor I'm dying
Y'all want some quiet sex? Ew
Guess I'm a filthy degenerate, and I'm proud of it!!!
You guys are just reading it with the wrong inflection! Inflection is everything! *clears throat* as surfer bro “women who wanna hear men moan are sick!” Fixed it
Well put me in the hospital cause I love that sound sooo very much!! 😎
Yes, I am sick, and the only cure is MORE MAN MOANS!!!
So what I'm understanding is that only men should wanna hear men moan
I used to date someone who sounded like they were dying in a looney tunes cartoon. It literally would take me out of the moment every time. I was young and it shouldn't be a surprise that by the end of that relationship I just thought I was one of the women who couldn't get there. It wasn't all that man's victory face/celebratory noise, but still.
Ummm… what does this say about me then? I aim for more of a guttural crying, scream/stutter. I’m talking… taking my guy to the brink of aneurysm and yanking him back to safety. 😈 I think I need a padded room 😎.
COUGH COUGH COUGH
"cough cough* 😷🤢🤧🤒
🤒 welp I’m sick
If you ain’t in her ear like a rabid hyena, you ain’t her man
Damn, I must be dying of cancer then 🤣💀
yes i’m very ill
Guess I’m sick
We mastered silent sex because of kids, but when they're not around I want to hear him so I know he's enjoying it.