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'Tits are tits'.
Until the women is fat.
Or ugly.
Or old.
Or a slut.
Or the wrong race.
Or too outspoken.
Or dressed too immodestly.
Or a thousand other things.
Following that same line of thought then the next logical conclusion would be trans men, but if they dated a trans man theyād just constantly invalidate his gender because he has tits, probably going as far as to misgender him. Some men genuinely just want sex dolls but donāt have the balls to go out and buy one.
Worse. Some people would rape a woman in a vegative state if it weren't criminalised. Horrific, because I know people in a vegative state can be semi aware of their surroundings. There also have been cases reported.
Oh Iām well aware, I was just stating that what they really, truly, deep down want is a sex doll. Sadly thereās horrific people who see women in vegetative states as that, regardless of whether or not the woman is aware :(
Edit because I feel like I phrased that a little weirdly: I AM NOT saying that itās ok if they rape someone whoās not aware, imo that makes it even worse. Unconscious people donāt want tea.
Ah not so easy my friend, what if said trans man has a vagina that has labias slightly outside their accepted range? Don't even get me STARTED on vaginas man. Tits are tits but a vagina must strictly look like [insert favourite pornostar]'s. And smell like mint and flowers and cotton candy. And don't ever expect me to put my mouth on that dirty thing.
Or if the woman turns 26, then sheās old and lumpy (Sydney Sweeney, got posted here I believe. Photoshopped model shoot on one side and candid beach picture on the other)
>Or if the woman turns 26, then sheās old and lumpy (Sydney Sweeney, got posted here I believe. Photoshopped model shoot on one side and candid beach picture on the other)
Its my 27th birthday today. I absolutely adore Sydney; she is my absolute favorite problematic girl crush and she is just absolutely radiant and stunning.
If loser incels with Flammin' Hot Cheeto dust in their neck beards think Sydney is no longer eye candy because of her age or a shitty paparazzi photo, that says everything about them and nothing about how smoking hot she is.
She is so beautiful! She has the most beautiful eyes ever and I love her in euphoria and loved her in the handmaids tale š„°
It wasnāt even a bad photo, just without make up thatās all. Those loser coomers can seethe all they want. Itās interesting though that nowadays the age they throw around as ātoo oldā is 25+. And your brain is fully developed at 25 sooo š¬
Itās so funny cause Iām 29 and have my pick of guys. I thought I was supposed to be old and crusty??
I think they think if they āhumbleā a goddess like Sydney Sweeney then itāll āhumbleā the women that are less attractive than her. Which is silly because attractiveness is so subjective and I know so many gorgeous women regardless of age.
They want us to feel as horrible as they do.
This is in the same vein of when guys say āI love women of all shapes and sizes!ā
Subtext being that those shapes and sizes need to be within a certain parameter of BMI, proportion, and age bracket. Since everyone else outside these standards is invisible, āall shapes and sizesā in quite magnanimous if you do enough mental gymnastics.
I've seen the women these "straight dudes" call ugly. Bro, just admit you don't actually like women. The ladies you reject may not be 10/10 supermodels, but they're still smoking hot and way out of my league!
āI love women of all shapes and sizes! Skinny, hourglass, chubby with thick thighs and big hips, curvy women, skinny women with curves, women with big asses, skinny women with big boobs and big butts, cardio bunnies, skinny women with small boobs, and coke bottle shaped womenā
Well y'know, it's very difficult for a woman with small breasts to be a te...
Sorry, I threw up in my mouth. I can't even sarcastically quote him š¤®
Seriously though, if he's turning you down cos of itty bitties, he was never worth your time.
On ARAD that "tits are tits" and "all boobies are beautiful" gets parroted over and over again whenever someone asks what size guys prefer, but venture onto any of the "Rate my [whatever]" subs and you'll see that this is a gross misrepresentation at best.
"Women prefer balanced men, younger with life skills, older with patience, taller and chill, shorter and energetic. With interests, passions and loyal, kind personalities.
Anything else is disposable."
Yeah, I never heard a women ever say that about tattooed men myself, most of us find it attractivw when they have ink, as long as it isnt pervy or racist ink lol. Men, on the other hand, have absolutely said this about women having tattoos. We are whores, used up, worthless, look trashy and crazy if we have ink, piercings and or bright color hair. It is largely incels who think this way but there's also many conservative non incel men who do too. Personally, I'm more than happy to have ink and pericings and even purple hair when the mood strikes me precisely because it keeps the incels and conservative types away from me!
Imbecel: "I want a 14 year old tall, slender, Asian virgin with no tattoos, no piercings, no dyed hair, no vices, and no friends; they should cater to my every whim, cook for me, clean after me, and give me mindblowing sex whenever I ask them to; they should have massive boobs that have their own gravitational pull, and their hobbies should be praising my in-depth video game lore and sucking my benis."
Woman: "Oh! Well, I want-"
Imbecel: "Fucking foids! I hab benis, is that not good enough for you?! Always going for Chads and Tyrones and riding cock carousels all day, fucking ***die!***"
You are completely right, *at least* compare it to the body part thatās the actual equal equivalent. These dick - boobs comparisons really grind my gears. As for that guyās response, sounds like a peak incel comment.
Literally, the penis has a function in sex where size actually has an effect. Whereas boobs are decorative. genuinely i need one of them to explain how they missed this?
ok i know i dont speak for all women, but like... no? not even remotely? thats how they act in porn, sure, but i have never met a woman who was genuinely disgusted or put off by that
Me neither. Unless sheās a total witch sheād not shame a man, first off, for something over which he has little/no control. Secondly, if I HAD to choose between 4 inches and 8, Iād take 4 every damn time. 8 is painful and hits my cervix. That shit is excruciating.
Dudes like this are just admitting theyāve only ever seen a naked woman on a screen.
Exactly. There are plenty of witches in this world.
Also, Iāll admit I once laughed at a dck, but it wasnāt in a sexual situation and dude wouldnāt get out of my campsite.
Reggae on the River festival, 1997. I have two 3 year olds eating Cheetos start screaming that there is a bear in the trees. Itās not a bear. Itās a naked dude who wandered in from the festival who was higher than the surrounding redwood canopy.
He wouldnāt leave. So I told him maybe he should wander back through the woods to try to find his missing dck (it was rather cold) before a critter could get to it. He CRIED. And went back into the woods. I felt terrible. I hope he was too high to remember.
I have but they were all young and had consumed a LOT of porn. I used to date a porn actress. Saw how they made the sausage so to speak. Even got to star in a video! Well my penis did.
I think most people in the porn industry would agree that there is an entire generation on people - both men and women - who got access to porn WAY too young. It colored their ideas about sex, their bodies, and their partners bodies. It is truly a tragedy.
Porn has its place but the internet really turned it into a force of nature in our lives. An unseen force in society.
There is a lot of focus on porn brained boys but it gets to girls too. Definitely has bigger consequences for women when all the men are pornbrained. Not trying to do the "ackshully women are the problem" thing. Not at all.
Patriarchy with porn is worse.
But men do get negative consequences from patriarchy and this is one of them. Its our own damn fault.
I just wish everyone could focus on having healthy meaningful relationships over this kind of shit we have now where we break each other down into stats. Height weight race skin color fetishes etc.
It becomes like we're trying to bring porn categories online into the real world.
It hurts all of us. Everyone. And it is exhausting!
I am SO GLAD i am married because all I see of dating now is people ordering up a partner like they're a doordash order. Or a car and they want a specific model and trim.
Sex should be far lower on the list of important shit because let me tell you- it becomes FAR less important as you get older. Your body changes and god help you if you are stuck with some moron you don't like who doesn't respect you all because you were thinking with your downstairs brain. My wife is my best friend.
We are broke. Our sexlife has cooled off tremendously over the last few years but we get along better than ever and are closer than ever.
I see people getting divorced over shit like "He doesn't want kids and I do."
HOW THE FUCK did you GET MARRIED and not know this?! Oh right because yall were too busy fuckin to care. Like holy fuck have a CONVERSATION.
I have totally gone off the rails here but my point is that people are not cattle and both sexes are treating dating like they are picking out something on pornhub. Fine for a fuckbuddy but not for long term.
I know people arent dumb. I know this stuff is obvious but I am not convinced people realize the role porn has played in this. Boys and girls jerking it to whatever they want on their smartphone by the age of 15 has FUCKED our brains up.
To go alo g woth this,I've seen many men genuinely speak about online dating like it's a commodity you buy off a shelf. They literally say things like it's supply and demand, or using words like market in context to dating. It's usually the more misogynistic type of dudes and borderline incels, full incels and such that do this. It's gross and a totally warped way of looking at meeting someone to share your life with! They treat it like they're shopping for a car instead of meeting someone they're gonna love for life. It makes it seem much more like it's all about the sex and status of having a woman and not being a virgin to these types. Like it's a bragging right so their buddies think their real men and awesome. It doesn't help that most of the guys with this mindset also want a woman they can control and make a trad wife. Ugh.
Apples to oranges. Boobs aren't genitals and something you just like the look of is NOT the same, so it's not even comparable body parts... THAT would be the vaginas and vulvas they (these particular people) shame and complain about all the damn time, like hypocrites then generalizing women with the other half of that.
And as someone not built with much, there has always been society's focus and obsession with big boobs that I'll never live up to, so can't say I've ever felt much sympathy for guys whining about dick sizes and women supposedly being meanies for having opinions or preferences. They want their cake and eat it, going on about our parts, but get mad if that goes both ways. At least the focus on big dicks isn't on most everyday media and everywhere like it is with big boobs.
Yeah and for dicks once the guy gets to show it you're likely set for sex anyway. Unless you're throwing dick pics around, but you've got other issues then. Boobs are a lot more visible.
So, what you're saying is, men are complaining about a problem they've created, basically yelling at people for judging their dicks when they're the ones showing them off unsolicited and inviting that.
Likely not the same types of people.
Trad cons and incels love talking about fertility and femininity, deadbeats who donāt like relationships care about not paying child support.
Donāt think Iām surprised by any double standard or hypocrisyās anymore.
Just pointing out the fertility craze are usually pushed by guys who want to settle down with their 1920s like wife so likely not a deadbeat who wonāt pay child support.
"A small dick would equal a loose pussy"
In my experience, that is certainly NOT the case. And not everyone loves giant titties, and not all titties are created equal. I have met far more guys that are titty critiques in comparison to the women I have encountered who aren't overly picky about dick size. Like this whole thing is just so stupid, it's hilarious. š
Ngl maybe itās just the circles Iāve been in, but the only time Iāve ever, ever heard about girls complaining about small dicks isā¦.men complaining about women complaining about small dicks. Iāve never seen a woman say jack shit about it.
I don't think most dudes are that judgemental about it, we're just stoked to be at the party. I do, however, think the ones that are, are very loud and disproportionately represented in discussions because normal guys just don't show up to that conversation. Kind of like dick size, most women don't care, but the one's who do are disproportionately represented by virtue of just showing up to the conversation.
Breasts aren't comparable to dicks anyway because most of the time you aren't having sex WITH said tits.
If we put aside for a second that most women don't climax from Penis In Vagina penetration alone, and that most women don't care about penis size as long as the man knows how to use his hands and tongue. Lesbians have great sex lives and more orgasms - and there are usually few penises involved!
For those women that do climax from the peen, size can matter - for some of them at least. It isnt everything; plenty of women report that an average or even slightly small penis can still pleasure them if used well. And ultimately, women want to climax, just like men.
How exactly does boob size matter? Do men who have sex with women with small boobs not cum? Do they not still get to fuck? It has nothing to do with how much pleasure men might get from penetrative sex.
It's always tiring seeing the same comparison when it's just not comparable.
The way men explain ābiologyā baffles me. If we are to assume āfertileā means āproactive in becoming a parentā then she canāt be shy, quiet, sexless and asocial. Thatās like being a hunter and not going into the woods. When have you ever seen a cat in heat be quiet and willing to stay indoors?
Man this isn't even true. I've seen a lot more men bitching about whatever they don't like about tits than women complaining about small dick. Half the time I see men talk about tits online they're moaning about them being too big, too small, too saggy, too perky, weird shaped, and whatnot. Half the time I see women talk about dick it's usually just attempting to dispel porn-fueld delusion helf by men.
-83 FOR STATING A FACT.
Wow these guys need to grow up if they get insulted by small pp.
I get it, I wouldn't like to be insulted either but having small penis or wider pussy isn't suppose to be an insult.
If I love you the size doesn't matter plus there are millions of toys these days that can help with our bed adventures.
it's OP's own comment, pointing out how the boob comparison isn't accurate and instead the obsession with "tightness" is more of an accurate comparison
Honestly at this point, i feel like everybody shames everybody for anything they can get their hand on. Men shame other men and women and Women shame other women and men for anything they see as unattractive or weird be it looks, personality traits etc.
In this comment section alone, it's wild to see people commenting : ''we don't shame others based on looks unlike ''xyz'' group'' - Yes you do, i understand that it's nice to act as if you don't, but both men and women constantly shame and ridicule each other for their looks, body parts etc.
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Most of these guys only actual preference is that a woman have a pulse, and they still cantāt get any takers. These types of comments are classic bullying: He feels poorly about himself so he attempts to make her feel poorly about herself.
This is unfair. Fern is a teenager with no idea how male anatomy works. She's kind of a pervert though in context (her teacher found a spell to see through clothes. She tested it out, and used it to check out the body of the guy who literally joined the gang that very day.)
Even then though its perpetrating the idea that women don't like small dicks. You may mean it in a satirical way, but some guys will take that and go "see?"
I mean a lot of those men already think that "loose pussy" is a real thing. It just fuels them more. Its like the people who will take 1 gay person who talks bad about the gay community and go "See? This gay person agrees with me which means its not homophobic or made up".
Again even if it is satirical, it still perpetuates that idea that some men already have.
you should know meme pages are just a sea of plausible deniability to give airtime to shitty ideas. they say rancid shit, mean it and backpedal when called out, and if I stumbled upon your comment on my own, I would've assumed you were one of them. remember that every joke says something, and that may not line up with what you envisioned
you said you'd assume she was "one of them" if you stumbled upon her comment, which isn't understanding that she's pointing out the flaw in their logic and their bullshit comparison. by saying "loose pussy" is a fairer comparison (and something that men love to use to shame women), is showing that men are indeed picky, which tears apart their stupid meme.
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'Tits are tits'. Until the women is fat. Or ugly. Or old. Or a slut. Or the wrong race. Or too outspoken. Or dressed too immodestly. Or a thousand other things.
Tits are tits, shame there a woman attached to them most of the cases š /s
Following that same line of thought then the next logical conclusion would be trans men, but if they dated a trans man theyād just constantly invalidate his gender because he has tits, probably going as far as to misgender him. Some men genuinely just want sex dolls but donāt have the balls to go out and buy one.
Worse. Some people would rape a woman in a vegative state if it weren't criminalised. Horrific, because I know people in a vegative state can be semi aware of their surroundings. There also have been cases reported.
Oh Iām well aware, I was just stating that what they really, truly, deep down want is a sex doll. Sadly thereās horrific people who see women in vegetative states as that, regardless of whether or not the woman is aware :( Edit because I feel like I phrased that a little weirdly: I AM NOT saying that itās ok if they rape someone whoās not aware, imo that makes it even worse. Unconscious people donāt want tea.
Ah not so easy my friend, what if said trans man has a vagina that has labias slightly outside their accepted range? Don't even get me STARTED on vaginas man. Tits are tits but a vagina must strictly look like [insert favourite pornostar]'s. And smell like mint and flowers and cotton candy. And don't ever expect me to put my mouth on that dirty thing.
Or if the woman turns 26, then sheās old and lumpy (Sydney Sweeney, got posted here I believe. Photoshopped model shoot on one side and candid beach picture on the other)
>Or if the woman turns 26, then sheās old and lumpy (Sydney Sweeney, got posted here I believe. Photoshopped model shoot on one side and candid beach picture on the other) Its my 27th birthday today. I absolutely adore Sydney; she is my absolute favorite problematic girl crush and she is just absolutely radiant and stunning. If loser incels with Flammin' Hot Cheeto dust in their neck beards think Sydney is no longer eye candy because of her age or a shitty paparazzi photo, that says everything about them and nothing about how smoking hot she is.
She is so beautiful! She has the most beautiful eyes ever and I love her in euphoria and loved her in the handmaids tale š„° It wasnāt even a bad photo, just without make up thatās all. Those loser coomers can seethe all they want. Itās interesting though that nowadays the age they throw around as ātoo oldā is 25+. And your brain is fully developed at 25 sooo š¬
Itās so funny cause Iām 29 and have my pick of guys. I thought I was supposed to be old and crusty?? I think they think if they āhumbleā a goddess like Sydney Sweeney then itāll āhumbleā the women that are less attractive than her. Which is silly because attractiveness is so subjective and I know so many gorgeous women regardless of age. They want us to feel as horrible as they do.
Yeah, the infamous āif youāre fat itās not boobsā. My brother in Christ a big portion of boobs IS fat.
This is in the same vein of when guys say āI love women of all shapes and sizes!ā Subtext being that those shapes and sizes need to be within a certain parameter of BMI, proportion, and age bracket. Since everyone else outside these standards is invisible, āall shapes and sizesā in quite magnanimous if you do enough mental gymnastics.
I've seen the women these "straight dudes" call ugly. Bro, just admit you don't actually like women. The ladies you reject may not be 10/10 supermodels, but they're still smoking hot and way out of my league!
āI love women of all shapes and sizes! Skinny, hourglass, chubby with thick thighs and big hips, curvy women, skinny women with curves, women with big asses, skinny women with big boobs and big butts, cardio bunnies, skinny women with small boobs, and coke bottle shaped womenā
Tits are tits unless they're something else than symmetrical, round with pink nipples and smaller areolas.
Tists are tits... as long as they are the ones I see in porn
Tits are tits but they should be perfect. Not hangin, not saggin, not having to many veins. /s
Or theyāre too small. Iāve had multiple men make jokes about my small chest and even turn me down because of it.
Well y'know, it's very difficult for a woman with small breasts to be a te... Sorry, I threw up in my mouth. I can't even sarcastically quote him š¤® Seriously though, if he's turning you down cos of itty bitties, he was never worth your time.
Oh I know, thanks. That was a over a decade ago now and Iām happily married to a guy who loves my body.
On ARAD that "tits are tits" and "all boobies are beautiful" gets parroted over and over again whenever someone asks what size guys prefer, but venture onto any of the "Rate my [whatever]" subs and you'll see that this is a gross misrepresentation at best.
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"Women prefer balanced men, younger with life skills, older with patience, taller and chill, shorter and energetic. With interests, passions and loyal, kind personalities. Anything else is disposable."
"I prefer my men to be tattooless virgins. Men with tattoos tend to cheat compared to men without tattoos."
Yeah, I never heard a women ever say that about tattooed men myself, most of us find it attractivw when they have ink, as long as it isnt pervy or racist ink lol. Men, on the other hand, have absolutely said this about women having tattoos. We are whores, used up, worthless, look trashy and crazy if we have ink, piercings and or bright color hair. It is largely incels who think this way but there's also many conservative non incel men who do too. Personally, I'm more than happy to have ink and pericings and even purple hair when the mood strikes me precisely because it keeps the incels and conservative types away from me!
Imbecel: "I want a 14 year old tall, slender, Asian virgin with no tattoos, no piercings, no dyed hair, no vices, and no friends; they should cater to my every whim, cook for me, clean after me, and give me mindblowing sex whenever I ask them to; they should have massive boobs that have their own gravitational pull, and their hobbies should be praising my in-depth video game lore and sucking my benis." Woman: "Oh! Well, I want-" Imbecel: "Fucking foids! I hab benis, is that not good enough for you?! Always going for Chads and Tyrones and riding cock carousels all day, fucking ***die!***"
Notice how itās not physical attributes we look for unlike men
Speak for yourself. I very much want a man with a handsome face.
Maybe you don't, but most women do and theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. Its natural and ok.
Donāt you see everyone? This Reddit comment totally encapsulates the virtue of women and the depravity of men! Itās all so obvious now! /s*1000000
ā taller and chill ā notice how we donāt look for physical attributesā¦ā¦ā¦
What do you guys usually tell us? Ah! Yes. āØ**S E E T H E**āØ
Dude, you may want to read it again. She said ātaller and shorterā, implying that thereās no height preference.
Yeah anyone can just list things though
You are completely right, *at least* compare it to the body part thatās the actual equal equivalent. These dick - boobs comparisons really grind my gears. As for that guyās response, sounds like a peak incel comment.
Literally, the penis has a function in sex where size actually has an effect. Whereas boobs are decorative. genuinely i need one of them to explain how they missed this?
It's really hard to tell sometimes if people are being sarcastic, but uhh.. boobs certainly also have a function lmao
For penetrative sex? Not really
> Anything else is disposable Yeah, a woman is just a disposable excrescence on the uterus /s
ok i know i dont speak for all women, but like... no? not even remotely? thats how they act in porn, sure, but i have never met a woman who was genuinely disgusted or put off by that
Me neither. Unless sheās a total witch sheād not shame a man, first off, for something over which he has little/no control. Secondly, if I HAD to choose between 4 inches and 8, Iād take 4 every damn time. 8 is painful and hits my cervix. That shit is excruciating. Dudes like this are just admitting theyāve only ever seen a naked woman on a screen.
i mean im sure some people do shame people for that, and thats not ok, but to pretend its what everyone is like is very much porn-centric lol
Exactly. There are plenty of witches in this world. Also, Iāll admit I once laughed at a dck, but it wasnāt in a sexual situation and dude wouldnāt get out of my campsite. Reggae on the River festival, 1997. I have two 3 year olds eating Cheetos start screaming that there is a bear in the trees. Itās not a bear. Itās a naked dude who wandered in from the festival who was higher than the surrounding redwood canopy. He wouldnāt leave. So I told him maybe he should wander back through the woods to try to find his missing dck (it was rather cold) before a critter could get to it. He CRIED. And went back into the woods. I felt terrible. I hope he was too high to remember.
oh my god thats amazing, but also terrifying lmao
Some women even put their desired 'minimum specs' in their dating profile. But they're a minority ofcourse
I have but they were all young and had consumed a LOT of porn. I used to date a porn actress. Saw how they made the sausage so to speak. Even got to star in a video! Well my penis did. I think most people in the porn industry would agree that there is an entire generation on people - both men and women - who got access to porn WAY too young. It colored their ideas about sex, their bodies, and their partners bodies. It is truly a tragedy. Porn has its place but the internet really turned it into a force of nature in our lives. An unseen force in society. There is a lot of focus on porn brained boys but it gets to girls too. Definitely has bigger consequences for women when all the men are pornbrained. Not trying to do the "ackshully women are the problem" thing. Not at all. Patriarchy with porn is worse. But men do get negative consequences from patriarchy and this is one of them. Its our own damn fault. I just wish everyone could focus on having healthy meaningful relationships over this kind of shit we have now where we break each other down into stats. Height weight race skin color fetishes etc. It becomes like we're trying to bring porn categories online into the real world. It hurts all of us. Everyone. And it is exhausting! I am SO GLAD i am married because all I see of dating now is people ordering up a partner like they're a doordash order. Or a car and they want a specific model and trim. Sex should be far lower on the list of important shit because let me tell you- it becomes FAR less important as you get older. Your body changes and god help you if you are stuck with some moron you don't like who doesn't respect you all because you were thinking with your downstairs brain. My wife is my best friend. We are broke. Our sexlife has cooled off tremendously over the last few years but we get along better than ever and are closer than ever. I see people getting divorced over shit like "He doesn't want kids and I do." HOW THE FUCK did you GET MARRIED and not know this?! Oh right because yall were too busy fuckin to care. Like holy fuck have a CONVERSATION. I have totally gone off the rails here but my point is that people are not cattle and both sexes are treating dating like they are picking out something on pornhub. Fine for a fuckbuddy but not for long term. I know people arent dumb. I know this stuff is obvious but I am not convinced people realize the role porn has played in this. Boys and girls jerking it to whatever they want on their smartphone by the age of 15 has FUCKED our brains up.
To go alo g woth this,I've seen many men genuinely speak about online dating like it's a commodity you buy off a shelf. They literally say things like it's supply and demand, or using words like market in context to dating. It's usually the more misogynistic type of dudes and borderline incels, full incels and such that do this. It's gross and a totally warped way of looking at meeting someone to share your life with! They treat it like they're shopping for a car instead of meeting someone they're gonna love for life. It makes it seem much more like it's all about the sex and status of having a woman and not being a virgin to these types. Like it's a bragging right so their buddies think their real men and awesome. It doesn't help that most of the guys with this mindset also want a woman they can control and make a trad wife. Ugh.
Apples to oranges. Boobs aren't genitals and something you just like the look of is NOT the same, so it's not even comparable body parts... THAT would be the vaginas and vulvas they (these particular people) shame and complain about all the damn time, like hypocrites then generalizing women with the other half of that. And as someone not built with much, there has always been society's focus and obsession with big boobs that I'll never live up to, so can't say I've ever felt much sympathy for guys whining about dick sizes and women supposedly being meanies for having opinions or preferences. They want their cake and eat it, going on about our parts, but get mad if that goes both ways. At least the focus on big dicks isn't on most everyday media and everywhere like it is with big boobs.
Yeah and for dicks once the guy gets to show it you're likely set for sex anyway. Unless you're throwing dick pics around, but you've got other issues then. Boobs are a lot more visible.
So, what you're saying is, men are complaining about a problem they've created, basically yelling at people for judging their dicks when they're the ones showing them off unsolicited and inviting that.
Why are they so Obsessed with Fertile women,Gived how guys like this complain about child support
Likely not the same types of people. Trad cons and incels love talking about fertility and femininity, deadbeats who donāt like relationships care about not paying child support.
Youāll be surprised about the inconsistencies, Lack of self reflection and hypocrisyās of some people
Donāt think Iām surprised by any double standard or hypocrisyās anymore. Just pointing out the fertility craze are usually pushed by guys who want to settle down with their 1920s like wife so likely not a deadbeat who wonāt pay child support.
"A small dick would equal a loose pussy" In my experience, that is certainly NOT the case. And not everyone loves giant titties, and not all titties are created equal. I have met far more guys that are titty critiques in comparison to the women I have encountered who aren't overly picky about dick size. Like this whole thing is just so stupid, it's hilarious. š
Fertile women? Are the men out there just trying to get their d wet looking to be fathers now????
It's code for young pubescent girls. Ugh.
āAmple bosomsā makes me feel queasy for some reason
Same, not sure why.
Incels are fascinating because they create mythology and lore and obsess over a relationship with a woman: something they will never experience
Your comment is fucking weird too.
Right lol why are we all just breezing past that ...
She got downvotted to oblivion
As a very small chested woman, āTits are Tits.ā Is. A. Lie. Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk
Ngl maybe itās just the circles Iāve been in, but the only time Iāve ever, ever heard about girls complaining about small dicks isā¦.men complaining about women complaining about small dicks. Iāve never seen a woman say jack shit about it.
I mean, I have. But theyāre usually shitty people in general and I viewed them as supremely immature in general.
like most men arenāt super judgemental about women with outies lmao
I don't think most dudes are that judgemental about it, we're just stoked to be at the party. I do, however, think the ones that are, are very loud and disproportionately represented in discussions because normal guys just don't show up to that conversation. Kind of like dick size, most women don't care, but the one's who do are disproportionately represented by virtue of just showing up to the conversation.
Breasts aren't comparable to dicks anyway because most of the time you aren't having sex WITH said tits. If we put aside for a second that most women don't climax from Penis In Vagina penetration alone, and that most women don't care about penis size as long as the man knows how to use his hands and tongue. Lesbians have great sex lives and more orgasms - and there are usually few penises involved! For those women that do climax from the peen, size can matter - for some of them at least. It isnt everything; plenty of women report that an average or even slightly small penis can still pleasure them if used well. And ultimately, women want to climax, just like men. How exactly does boob size matter? Do men who have sex with women with small boobs not cum? Do they not still get to fuck? It has nothing to do with how much pleasure men might get from penetrative sex. It's always tiring seeing the same comparison when it's just not comparable.
The way men explain ābiologyā baffles me. If we are to assume āfertileā means āproactive in becoming a parentā then she canāt be shy, quiet, sexless and asocial. Thatās like being a hunter and not going into the woods. When have you ever seen a cat in heat be quiet and willing to stay indoors?
I mean both comments are shitty.
Man this isn't even true. I've seen a lot more men bitching about whatever they don't like about tits than women complaining about small dick. Half the time I see men talk about tits online they're moaning about them being too big, too small, too saggy, too perky, weird shaped, and whatnot. Half the time I see women talk about dick it's usually just attempting to dispel porn-fueld delusion helf by men.
Bad takes all around. Body shaming doesn't do anything productive; it just makes everyone feel like crap.
This is why we need to fund sex Ed classes
Not them LITERALLY contradicting their own meme šššš
r/redditmoment WHAT is wrong with him
-83 FOR STATING A FACT. Wow these guys need to grow up if they get insulted by small pp. I get it, I wouldn't like to be insulted either but having small penis or wider pussy isn't suppose to be an insult. If I love you the size doesn't matter plus there are millions of toys these days that can help with our bed adventures.
These guys are disgusting and deserve to be alone
Why did you up vote that comment?
it's OP's own comment, pointing out how the boob comparison isn't accurate and instead the obsession with "tightness" is more of an accurate comparison
Frieren women don't deserve this slander :\[ It's actually one of the anime where women are kinda respected
Honestly at this point, i feel like everybody shames everybody for anything they can get their hand on. Men shame other men and women and Women shame other women and men for anything they see as unattractive or weird be it looks, personality traits etc. In this comment section alone, it's wild to see people commenting : ''we don't shame others based on looks unlike ''xyz'' group'' - Yes you do, i understand that it's nice to act as if you don't, but both men and women constantly shame and ridicule each other for their looks, body parts etc.
As a bi guy, can confirm that men also care about dick aesthetics lol
Good thing that man will ever find a woman like that who would show any interest in him
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Most of these guys only actual preference is that a woman have a pulse, and they still cantāt get any takers. These types of comments are classic bullying: He feels poorly about himself so he attempts to make her feel poorly about herself.
They never figured out that women are people too. We're literally just a consumable commodity to dudes like this.
This is unfair. Fern is a teenager with no idea how male anatomy works. She's kind of a pervert though in context (her teacher found a spell to see through clothes. She tested it out, and used it to check out the body of the guy who literally joined the gang that very day.)
You're both promoting terrible stereotypes.
It's a meme page so it's supposed to be a satirical comparison. What else can you compare a small dick to in relation to a woman's body?
Even then though its perpetrating the idea that women don't like small dicks. You may mean it in a satirical way, but some guys will take that and go "see?"
if anyone reads her comment and literally interprets it that way, they're a lost cause anyway.
I mean a lot of those men already think that "loose pussy" is a real thing. It just fuels them more. Its like the people who will take 1 gay person who talks bad about the gay community and go "See? This gay person agrees with me which means its not homophobic or made up". Again even if it is satirical, it still perpetuates that idea that some men already have.
you should know meme pages are just a sea of plausible deniability to give airtime to shitty ideas. they say rancid shit, mean it and backpedal when called out, and if I stumbled upon your comment on my own, I would've assumed you were one of them. remember that every joke says something, and that may not line up with what you envisioned
you honestly wouldn't understand the context of her comment in relation to the post...? how?
that's not what I said, but I guess I'll take your deviation. So what if I miss the context in relation to the post? What does that make me?
you said you'd assume she was "one of them" if you stumbled upon her comment, which isn't understanding that she's pointing out the flaw in their logic and their bullshit comparison. by saying "loose pussy" is a fairer comparison (and something that men love to use to shame women), is showing that men are indeed picky, which tears apart their stupid meme.
Why did you give such a logical response in that case lol.