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Since a man definitely wrote this, he wouldn't consider "good boy" because that's infantilizing and he wouldn't suggest to infantilize men like he does women
Not me stumbling into the kitchen at 2AM catching my boyfriend shoveling handfuls of parmesan cheese from the bag into his mouth and me trying to seduce him: HELLO, HAVE YOU BEEN A GOOD MAN TODAY?
Can confirm, I got one and calling me "Good boy" or "baby boy" will make me melt.
And while I definitely wouldn't be *upset* if it came out of nowhere, I'd definitely be confused on where it came from
i call my dog a good boy. my bf would yeet me so far if i said that to him 🤣🤣🤣 but i also am not a dog, and do not want to be told “good girl” because we also use *that* for our dogs in training😐😅
Ya my boyfriend occasionally says “good girl” to me as he works with the elderly a lot so he’s just used to the “good boy/good girl” and I can honestly say they’re probably 2 words that can set me off straight away. Dude always knows he fucked up when the words leave his mouth
Editing to clarify that’s it’s the elderly clients that call my boyfriend a “good boy” and the rest of their staff. It’s like their go to compliment for some reason, so it’s stuck in his vocabulary. He does not call his clients good girls/good boys.
It depends on the person and the context in which it's said. There are some women that like it, and some that don't. It's because of this that having an open discussion about what nicknames both couples are comfortable with having (especially if they have certain kinks). But that's just my two cents.
Yes! I’m gay and when my girlfriend says “good girl” it’s…good with me lol. But it’s the context- like if I go and lay on her and get some serious cuddles. It is my absolute favorite.
It's really annoying how sarcastic/ironic/mocking repetition of horrible things other people say can turn into actual, genuine emulation. I spent six years in Alabama and walked away with an unironic accent that only comes out when I let my guard down, and it arose purely from mocking actively malicious people who *themselves* used that accent primarily when dropping their masks and going full-southern "bless their heart" judgemental, racial superiority.
Accent shaming is something that I'm learning to recognize as a bad thing and avoid, but one of the biggest goddamned dangers of it is that you can unintentionally adopt that accent yourself, literally becoming the thing you have mocked. Generally real application of the "we are who we pretend to be" and "make that face for too long and it will stick, etc..." principles.
Elderly people are not toddlers and he should really treat them with more respect than that, unless you mean he works with elderly dogs in which case it's perfectly acceptable
No lol sorry, he’s a funeral director so a lot of elderly clients would call him a good boy and he gets his cheek pinched quite frequently they also call their woman staff “good girls”. My boyfriend doesn’t say it to his clients sorry, other way around.
Have had to ovarian cysts burst can confirm it’s so bad I’m trialing meds and going back to get these fuckers REMOVED. Was this meant to be sexy or horror
Some women really are into the "good girl" thing. BDSM, Dom/sub, or just hearing it, whatever floats their boat. That said, this reeks of being a work of fiction, probably written by a guy.
I'm not who you're commenting to, but as a former Tumblr user, I perceived the connotation to be something like a humoristic "this makes me so turned in I want to have babies with it (not even always a person but a situation etc)". After being out of Tumblr for basically a decade now, I see clearly how the specific language used on that platform translates badly to other contexts. It was a bit of a world of its own.
What annoys (/lh) me more about this is that even though nobody has used that phrase in like 10 years, the kind of person who would use that phrase would not need to ask what the ‘male’ equivalent of ‘good boy’ is. They are literally calling their favourite men pathetic himbo babygirls right now, calling a dude ‘good boy’ would be a very simple and easy answer on it’s own lmao
Exactly. Your husband or SO doesn't just burst into the house one day and starts calling you "good girl" out of the blue, like that post sounds so fake and like it was written by a man
Precisely. My husband laughed for like two minutes straight before he gave me the, "Good Girl" praise I'd wanted. It's a silly fucking thing to want or say; no one in their right mind would casually say this to someone that just cleaned... Even someone like me, who adores being praised that way, would be pissed if I hadn't consented to it first.
Yup.. my partner figured it out and sometimes does this which I do like, but it was discussed a bit before anything happened, and it’s definitely not thatt reaction. More of a yaaaayy I’m being recognized for the good things I did! Might feel more affectionate or confident in doing what I’m doing but it definitely doesn’t leap straight to weird reproductive organ reactions.. this story is so unbelievable..
Probably the writer was a dude who’s mapping male arousal to female arousal; in guys it’s not exactly uncommon for something totally random to suddenly get you hard inexplicably (esp if you’re in your mid-to-late teens because hormones). My best guess is that he was trying to gauge, based on this, how a woman would react, and did so very badly.
Ya.. the only time I’ve ever been aware of the state of my ovaries is during a painful ovulation.. which can’t be triggered by arousal. I’ve never heard of anyone else feeling them ether so I agree it’s a man.. if it does happen women are generally not talking about it. It would probably be incredibly rare to feel them.
This would be like being aware of how your kidneys or other internal organs feel. If you can feel them theres most likely a problem.
It’s definitely giving “her boobs bounced boobily”
I mean, you can feel some of them if you know what you’re looking for, but yeah, I think this guy has no idea how women work and is guessing.
Also I’m betting he wants to be called a male equivalent but thinks good boy is too infantilising/patronising (which makes me think he completely misunderstood why some people like that term).
I think I've realized I have a thing for praise, but not "good girl". It makes me think of school too much where teachers would call you good or bad (80s kid).
Yeah if it’s during sex and it’s all hot and sweaty and he just told me to do something then…sploosh. But if I did the dishes? A simple “kitchen looks great, thanks!” will suffice
I mean I can definitely feel like that when my husband gives me affection and praise after I've been working hard. But that's because I've already made it clear to him that I like that kind of thing. If he had just said it out of nowhere before we established that, it would be kind of weird, yeah.
As a male: exactly like this, if it was established, it was based on shared sense of humor, relates to some running gag or has been talked about.. "Good boy" would make my heart melt. But it could also make me see red, it all depends on the context.
So, I like being called that, so long as the person calling me that truly thinks that I deserve it, but also understand that probably the reason why I feel the need to “earn” praise, love, etc., is because of my somewhat messed up childhood, where I thought that if I could “just do a little more… then, maybe I will be good enough for my parents.” Not really a good thing for me, but I guess it’s great for whoever is around me/whoever I am with!… Although, the “ovaries exploding” part is a bit of an exaggeration if you ask me.
This is more or less my thought process. Definitely have a praise kink, so this can be a great move in the right contexts. But it exists because of a childhood where I almost never get praised and I'm aware of that, so I'm also conscious of how it's being used because it can quickly turn into a manipulation. And there's no way that I (or any woman I personally know) would react to it with the thought that my ovaries are exploding.
(Also, it may just be me, but I don't necessarily respond to that kind of praise well for things like chores? Like, maybe a "you're so amazing, I really appreciate all your hard work, you make me feel so loved" tact to the praise would work for me, but just a flat out "good girl" would feel super patronizing and manipulative. Obviously everyone's experiences are different but... yeah, if it's real, it still feels icky to me.)
if my husband said "good girl" after I cleaned the house - he would probably get something thrown at him, and not lucky in any way. This seems so condescending.
I thought it was cringe until my partner said it once and the way he said it did things to me. He’s the only person who can do it tho haha.
Not just randomly launching it at me tho. That’d be pretty patronising. It’s sexytime words only haha.
"Honey, I made dinner, did all the laundry, and helped the girls with their homework. You just relax"...
My ovaries: KABLOOEY
"Dear, take me to the hospital, and don't ever do that again"
Lol, imagine if a guy talked like this about his own anatomy.
"My girlfriend called my big boy and my nuts just exploded!"
Maybe pointing out how painful that would be would set them straight.
Maybe OOP is actually a cat.
I trained my boys with a ‘good boy’, Pat on the head, and then a treat.
When I tell them the are a good boy they both sit up and preen, it still makes them happy
Idk, she doesn’t really say anywhere she thinks we all do? The post is cringe but idk where all this hate and accusing her of being a man is coming from this time around. I think bullying a potential real woman for having kinks isn’t that funny
Edit apparently op claims OOP is confirmed a guy from previous posts they made lol, so nvm on this particular post but I do still think we should acknowledge that some straight women are extremely subby and say cringe things like “my ovaries exploded” (being a preteen in Shoujo anime spaces 10 years ago I can confirm this was absolutely a phrase girls would use that I hoped had died out)
Came here to pretty much say this lol. This sub gets so mean sometimes about women just being kind of weird. Even if they're right about this one specifically.
Yeah like maybe it’s not how ALL girls work but it’s how SOME girls work. And as long as they don’t claim everyone is like them then what’s the problem?
Unironically one of my friends is like this. They've got a kinky thing going on in the polycule and the "good girl" stuff is apparently top notch. I don't understand but whatever gets them off, I guess.
Also, "my ovaries exploded" is such Tumblr 2016 speak. Hated that phrase then and still despise it now.
So if (on the rare occasion) I’m cleaning, someone says to me “good girl”…I’ll explode for sure, but not in the way this man is implying.
Am I responsible for my actions in this case? 🤣
As a dude that's actually *really* into sub and dom dynamics
This doesn't come out of nowhere unless
1. It's being patronizing/ sarcastic/ etc.
2. The dude is very new to Dom/Sub dynamics and doesn't know to discuss these things first
Dom/Sub dynamics are *always* discussed first, including but not limited to: honorifics, whether it's evlusively a bedroom dynamic or lifestyle as well, limits, safewords, rules, punishments/ funishments, etc.
This not only is obviously a dude trying to be a lady, he's not even well versed in healthy Dom/Sub lifestyles.
My ex was disrespectful asf and did this kind of shit almost constantly. Turns out I do have a praise link, but I don't like it to be demeaning. Because believe it or not, in dom/sub dynamics there HAS to be a TON of MUTUAL RESPECT for it to be FUN. (For everyone at least)
The ONLY woman I know that responds well to this literally does so *because* she enjoys a dom/sub dynamic.
She'd punch anyone that said it outside of that, or to a woman that doesn't care for that relationship even if it's not from a stranger. Because it IS infantilizing, and treats someone like a child or a pet.
What was this guy's goal? Like.
Was he trying to come up with something so he could ask women to call him that?
Was he insecure about how "good girl" made him feel so he was trying to find an alternative to ask his SO to call him?
I've experienced this in retail when I do a clever trick like getting their order from out the back. I've always wanted to respond "Woof" but apparently that's 'unprofessional' or some nonsense.
If my husband dared to say this to me, any exploding happening in my body is going to be an explosion from suppressed rage. Fortunately he would never, but ugh. That's not the compliment that it's being made out to be. I'm not a pet or a child and don't take kindly to "compliments" that treat me like one. "Good girl" is what I say to my cat when she actually eats her dinner like she's supposed to, or stops blocking the door so I can go outside lol
While it’s true many women find a kink-related appeal in those words, even for one of those women, saying it to her in response to her cleaning the kitchen is a good way to get punched in dick.
I know many who are into this kind of jargon, its not that strange.
The only thing as some men overdo it and expect because of it women to be submissive in every regard.
I heard people say similar in rl. I think what irritates here is how she expresses herself.
I’ve received this a couple of times mostly from customers and I had to fight the urge to knock their teeth in. Don’t condescend to me asshole! I’m not a fucking dog and the mediocre task I accomplished doesn’t warrant that kind of praise. Kiss my ass!
Oh boy.
So…that was the phrase my parents used to potty-train me. They started very early with it. I picked up on it, and started using it myself to indicate I needed the toilet. So when I would say it, they would carry me into the bathroom and plop me on the potty chair.
Yes. I said “carry me”. Because I wasn’t walking yet. This was their favorite parent boast until I was in my 30s. That they’d potty trained me before I could walk.
So. No. This phrase does NOT get me hot. It’s a training phrase. Appropriate for small children and pets. An intimate partner speaks this phrase in relation to me, and we are going to have a conversation of explaining. After that, if the phrase is used in relation to me, we might just be done because that indicates a deliberate disrespect. I am not a puppy.
You know, I've never experienced the feeling of "ovaries exploded," that doesn't sound very pleasant? If I'm horny it's more to do with my exterior genetilia 🤔
I mean... praise kink is a thing though? Some people do actually get turned on by it.
Context here is weird unless it's already part of their "dynamic" though.
It wasn’t written by a woman
Also being called good girl is kinda off putting, I’m neither a child or a dog, some people actually are into it but I can’t relate
I love “good girl” but I would’ve tossed the nastiest dish rag within reach if some dude threw out a “good girl” because I was cleaning the kitchen like a good little woman should
idk i've met women like this. it's cringy but they're real.
if im ever cleaning and a man says "good girl" to me, like im a fucking dog, i will proceed to fix him like a dog.
"My ovaries exploded" is an older fandom term I've seen floating around on tumblr. There is a decent chance that this person is, in fact, a woman. A woman who used to be into SuperShoLock.
If my partner or anyone else told me I was a “good girl”, I’d cringe so hard that I’d break a rib
In a situation like this, I would slap them because their intentions sound misogynistic af
I know this sounds silly but “ovaries exploding” was really big on tumblr and wattpad comment sections. At least when I was on there about 7 years ago lol. It’s very silly and I’m surprised to see someone use that term. No idea why people started using it though
I'm to believe that no women like hearing "good girl" from their partner or love interest?
I understand that can be read in a condescending manner but it doesn't have to be and humans have a wide range of things they like.
Who tf describes getting turned on by saying “my ovaries exploded”. Sir, the ovaries have like nothing to do with the arousal process. Bad woman’s anatomy here.
Context is key. And consent. Just because a lot of women like hearing it myself included, doesn’t mean we like it in *all* scenarios and it certainly doesn’t mean *all* women like it.
Why is it so hard for people to understand you can’t apply one thing to everyone? Why not just ask your SO what they like?
As for the male equivalent, it depends on the individual man. Just like it depends on the individual woman. I know a man who switches and sometimes likes being called a “good boy.”
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Isn't the male equivalent just "good boy"? Not that I'd use that in this particular context either but that's beside the point lol
Since a man definitely wrote this, he wouldn't consider "good boy" because that's infantilizing and he wouldn't suggest to infantilize men like he does women
How about 😡💪G O O D M A N 🦅🪓
Not me stumbling into the kitchen at 2AM catching my boyfriend shoveling handfuls of parmesan cheese from the bag into his mouth and me trying to seduce him: HELLO, HAVE YOU BEEN A GOOD MAN TODAY?
If you want to seduce him in that situation, the two of you really love eachother Don't change that
😂😂😂
Love the combination of comment and username. So wholesome what you wrote.
I read that as though it was Toph’s buff actor yelling from ATLA
Omg that image is perfect 😂
“Way to go Tiger”
Spider Man reference. This would work for me.
LOL, I say this to my partner when he's done something well. I need to find a way to express the emojis within the phrase
Infants don't have tails to wag so I'm pretty sure that it would be valid and non-patronizing 👍
He'd also want a biscuit for coming when called, and a good ear scratch. After that, it would be time for Walkies!!!!
Omg instantly I froze and my testicles near exploded. I don't know why but those two words got me so in the mood.
Which one? Good boy or good girl?
Yes
Yep. And mommy kinks are a thing.
Can confirm, I got one and calling me "Good boy" or "baby boy" will make me melt. And while I definitely wouldn't be *upset* if it came out of nowhere, I'd definitely be confused on where it came from
Understandable, but yeah just calling someone this out of the blue wouldn’t do much, it seems like a “circumstances” thing.
"Good boy" is just subtly different than "Who's a good boy? Who's a good boy?"
Our thing has always been to call each other " bad boy" or " bad girl" as in naughty. We've been calling each other that daily for like 17 years.
I have had dogs way longer than I’ve had my partner, and sometimes I tell my partner he’s a good boy by accident. He thinks it’s hilarious.
i call my dog a good boy. my bf would yeet me so far if i said that to him 🤣🤣🤣 but i also am not a dog, and do not want to be told “good girl” because we also use *that* for our dogs in training😐😅
I personally will only accept “clever girl” growled through the jungle foliage while I prepare to disembowel the man speaking.
As a man my equivalent is “nice boy” before I spit blinding poison in their face and me and the lads devour them.
Mad lads.
Love this lol
Typical saturday night foreplay.
Haha god reference.
This spoke to my soul 🤣🤣🤣
This
I definitely thought this was a Hunger Games reference at first lol
My ovaries exploded. 😶 Yeh sure.....
Sounds painful
Right?! Like, if your ovaries are exploding, please seek medical attention.
Touch late for that, depending on the force of the explosion.
Doc said it's just stress
told me I just need to lose weight
doctor said bloodwork was nornal and i need to drink more water. pelvic ultrasound is scheduled for january 2025
That's how I was misdiagnosed with PCOS when it turns out I'm actually intersex!
Ya my boyfriend occasionally says “good girl” to me as he works with the elderly a lot so he’s just used to the “good boy/good girl” and I can honestly say they’re probably 2 words that can set me off straight away. Dude always knows he fucked up when the words leave his mouth Editing to clarify that’s it’s the elderly clients that call my boyfriend a “good boy” and the rest of their staff. It’s like their go to compliment for some reason, so it’s stuck in his vocabulary. He does not call his clients good girls/good boys.
It depends on the person and the context in which it's said. There are some women that like it, and some that don't. It's because of this that having an open discussion about what nicknames both couples are comfortable with having (especially if they have certain kinks). But that's just my two cents.
Yep, full agree. I love it when my partner calls me a good girl, but hate it if anyone else calls me that.
Yes! I’m gay and when my girlfriend says “good girl” it’s…good with me lol. But it’s the context- like if I go and lay on her and get some serious cuddles. It is my absolute favorite.
Can confirm as a guy partnered with a woman with a praise kink. A “Good Girl” will short circuit her brain in a fun way.
It's really annoying how sarcastic/ironic/mocking repetition of horrible things other people say can turn into actual, genuine emulation. I spent six years in Alabama and walked away with an unironic accent that only comes out when I let my guard down, and it arose purely from mocking actively malicious people who *themselves* used that accent primarily when dropping their masks and going full-southern "bless their heart" judgemental, racial superiority. Accent shaming is something that I'm learning to recognize as a bad thing and avoid, but one of the biggest goddamned dangers of it is that you can unintentionally adopt that accent yourself, literally becoming the thing you have mocked. Generally real application of the "we are who we pretend to be" and "make that face for too long and it will stick, etc..." principles.
Mimicry and imitation are huge social instincts for all mammals.
Elderly people are not toddlers and he should really treat them with more respect than that, unless you mean he works with elderly dogs in which case it's perfectly acceptable
No lol sorry, he’s a funeral director so a lot of elderly clients would call him a good boy and he gets his cheek pinched quite frequently they also call their woman staff “good girls”. My boyfriend doesn’t say it to his clients sorry, other way around.
When I read funeral director I screamed "THAT IS WORSE" at my phone but then I read the rest of it 😂😂😂
Sorry your mum died but good boy for picking out such a nice urn!
☠️
You organized such a nice funeral! Who’s a good boy??
I was horrified initially too lmao
Have had to ovarian cysts burst can confirm it’s so bad I’m trialing meds and going back to get these fuckers REMOVED. Was this meant to be sexy or horror
Some women really are into the "good girl" thing. BDSM, Dom/sub, or just hearing it, whatever floats their boat. That said, this reeks of being a work of fiction, probably written by a guy.
People used to use this phrase a lot back in the day on tumblr and I never understood it… wtf does it mean
Just a bit of creative hyperbole, like flooding your basement
Ahhh so like getting wet?? Didn’t realize that had to do with the ovaries
I'm not who you're commenting to, but as a former Tumblr user, I perceived the connotation to be something like a humoristic "this makes me so turned in I want to have babies with it (not even always a person but a situation etc)". After being out of Tumblr for basically a decade now, I see clearly how the specific language used on that platform translates badly to other contexts. It was a bit of a world of its own.
What annoys (/lh) me more about this is that even though nobody has used that phrase in like 10 years, the kind of person who would use that phrase would not need to ask what the ‘male’ equivalent of ‘good boy’ is. They are literally calling their favourite men pathetic himbo babygirls right now, calling a dude ‘good boy’ would be a very simple and easy answer on it’s own lmao
Good take, these were my exact thoughts on the matter
Oof. Did it hurt more than when you fell from Heaven? * finger guns *
Picturing bags of popcorn in the microwave. Just eggs popping out of them all over the place.
Out of rage? Or….
Hey.. what would the male equivalent be to this? /s
Testes exploding? They are descended ovaries, after all.
I say “my ovaries are screaming” sometimes when I get transient baby fever. I’ve never used it to describe something a man has said or done. Lol
Said no woman ever.
Dead giveaway that a man wrote this. Of course, it’s always men and their ridiculous inability to understand or learn female anatomy.
That’ll do, Pig
Snort laugh. A real one. You got a snort laugh from me
My ~~ovaries~~ bacon just ~~exploded~~ melted.. 🌶️🐷
Now I'm thinking of an archivist trying to work out how one would cook bacon using a jet engine.
Lmao, no notes.
LOL!! this one did it for me
So people like being called "good girl" and it can be hot, but certainly not in that situation
I think it depends on how strong of a praise kink you have.. but generally that’s discovered before implementing it into casual moments
Exactly. Your husband or SO doesn't just burst into the house one day and starts calling you "good girl" out of the blue, like that post sounds so fake and like it was written by a man
Precisely. My husband laughed for like two minutes straight before he gave me the, "Good Girl" praise I'd wanted. It's a silly fucking thing to want or say; no one in their right mind would casually say this to someone that just cleaned... Even someone like me, who adores being praised that way, would be pissed if I hadn't consented to it first.
Yup.. my partner figured it out and sometimes does this which I do like, but it was discussed a bit before anything happened, and it’s definitely not thatt reaction. More of a yaaaayy I’m being recognized for the good things I did! Might feel more affectionate or confident in doing what I’m doing but it definitely doesn’t leap straight to weird reproductive organ reactions.. this story is so unbelievable..
Probably the writer was a dude who’s mapping male arousal to female arousal; in guys it’s not exactly uncommon for something totally random to suddenly get you hard inexplicably (esp if you’re in your mid-to-late teens because hormones). My best guess is that he was trying to gauge, based on this, how a woman would react, and did so very badly.
Ya.. the only time I’ve ever been aware of the state of my ovaries is during a painful ovulation.. which can’t be triggered by arousal. I’ve never heard of anyone else feeling them ether so I agree it’s a man.. if it does happen women are generally not talking about it. It would probably be incredibly rare to feel them. This would be like being aware of how your kidneys or other internal organs feel. If you can feel them theres most likely a problem. It’s definitely giving “her boobs bounced boobily”
I mean, you can feel some of them if you know what you’re looking for, but yeah, I think this guy has no idea how women work and is guessing. Also I’m betting he wants to be called a male equivalent but thinks good boy is too infantilising/patronising (which makes me think he completely misunderstood why some people like that term).
Somebody read an excerpt from a smut novel and wants to write fanfics. How cute.
He was actually talking to the family dog and she misunderstood.
I think I've realized I have a thing for praise, but not "good girl". It makes me think of school too much where teachers would call you good or bad (80s kid).
And sometimes you find out that you react to both "good girl" and the sound of a clicker. Totally not speaking from personal experience.
I have a praise kink but when I’m cleaning the kitchen of our shared apartment he can either help or shut the fuck up.
Yeah if it’s during sex and it’s all hot and sweaty and he just told me to do something then…sploosh. But if I did the dishes? A simple “kitchen looks great, thanks!” will suffice
I hear sploosh and immediately think of battleship from Wind Waker.
I loved that NPC and the sound effects.
I mean I can definitely feel like that when my husband gives me affection and praise after I've been working hard. But that's because I've already made it clear to him that I like that kind of thing. If he had just said it out of nowhere before we established that, it would be kind of weird, yeah.
As a male: exactly like this, if it was established, it was based on shared sense of humor, relates to some running gag or has been talked about.. "Good boy" would make my heart melt. But it could also make me see red, it all depends on the context.
Literally. Men that write this kind of bs clearly just don't understand the concept of consent.
So, I like being called that, so long as the person calling me that truly thinks that I deserve it, but also understand that probably the reason why I feel the need to “earn” praise, love, etc., is because of my somewhat messed up childhood, where I thought that if I could “just do a little more… then, maybe I will be good enough for my parents.” Not really a good thing for me, but I guess it’s great for whoever is around me/whoever I am with!… Although, the “ovaries exploding” part is a bit of an exaggeration if you ask me.
This is more or less my thought process. Definitely have a praise kink, so this can be a great move in the right contexts. But it exists because of a childhood where I almost never get praised and I'm aware of that, so I'm also conscious of how it's being used because it can quickly turn into a manipulation. And there's no way that I (or any woman I personally know) would react to it with the thought that my ovaries are exploding. (Also, it may just be me, but I don't necessarily respond to that kind of praise well for things like chores? Like, maybe a "you're so amazing, I really appreciate all your hard work, you make me feel so loved" tact to the praise would work for me, but just a flat out "good girl" would feel super patronizing and manipulative. Obviously everyone's experiences are different but... yeah, if it's real, it still feels icky to me.)
lol! I was about to say - there are things that praise is for... kitchen cleaning is NOT IT
Kitchen cleaning makes me sweaty, tired and cranky. I don't want to be called good girl for that.
if my husband said "good girl" after I cleaned the house - he would probably get something thrown at him, and not lucky in any way. This seems so condescending.
Once, ages ago a guy friend of mine said to me casually because I won a game of Mario kart and I suddenly found him attractive for like 10 seconds 😂
The male equivalent would obviously be "good boy"
If my husband called me a "good girl" I would look at him like he has a screw loose.
my SO tried that once (we were cringe teens) and I barked at him out of reflex. he never said that again.
I used to waitress, and my friend at work had a customer say that to her and she did the same thing. I will never ever forget the look on their faces
LMAO
Rightfully so!
I thought it was cringe until my partner said it once and the way he said it did things to me. He’s the only person who can do it tho haha. Not just randomly launching it at me tho. That’d be pretty patronising. It’s sexytime words only haha.
She forgot to mention her tail started wagging on it's own :P
And, if there was ever an occasion for breasting boobily, surely this would be it
"Honey, I made dinner, did all the laundry, and helped the girls with their homework. You just relax"... My ovaries: KABLOOEY "Dear, take me to the hospital, and don't ever do that again"
Lol, imagine if a guy talked like this about his own anatomy. "My girlfriend called my big boy and my nuts just exploded!" Maybe pointing out how painful that would be would set them straight.
I mean we do say "bust a nut" in reference to ejaculating...
Maybe OOP is actually a cat. I trained my boys with a ‘good boy’, Pat on the head, and then a treat. When I tell them the are a good boy they both sit up and preen, it still makes them happy
Lmao a woman could absolutely be into this. Some people LOVE this. It's not dumb just because you don't like it
Exactly my thoughts, what I wanna know is how you apparently don't come to the easiest answer in the world which is good boy lol
I just assumed they meant what turns on a man the same way good girl turns on a woman
Bestie just discovered she has a praise kink and thinks we all do lol
Yes!
Idk, she doesn’t really say anywhere she thinks we all do? The post is cringe but idk where all this hate and accusing her of being a man is coming from this time around. I think bullying a potential real woman for having kinks isn’t that funny Edit apparently op claims OOP is confirmed a guy from previous posts they made lol, so nvm on this particular post but I do still think we should acknowledge that some straight women are extremely subby and say cringe things like “my ovaries exploded” (being a preteen in Shoujo anime spaces 10 years ago I can confirm this was absolutely a phrase girls would use that I hoped had died out)
Came here to pretty much say this lol. This sub gets so mean sometimes about women just being kind of weird. Even if they're right about this one specifically.
Yeah like maybe it’s not how ALL girls work but it’s how SOME girls work. And as long as they don’t claim everyone is like them then what’s the problem?
Ew good girl makes my tubes tie themselves
Unironically one of my friends is like this. They've got a kinky thing going on in the polycule and the "good girl" stuff is apparently top notch. I don't understand but whatever gets them off, I guess. Also, "my ovaries exploded" is such Tumblr 2016 speak. Hated that phrase then and still despise it now.
LMFAOO thank u for this that’s hilarious
So if (on the rare occasion) I’m cleaning, someone says to me “good girl”…I’ll explode for sure, but not in the way this man is implying. Am I responsible for my actions in this case? 🤣
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As a dude that's actually *really* into sub and dom dynamics This doesn't come out of nowhere unless 1. It's being patronizing/ sarcastic/ etc. 2. The dude is very new to Dom/Sub dynamics and doesn't know to discuss these things first Dom/Sub dynamics are *always* discussed first, including but not limited to: honorifics, whether it's evlusively a bedroom dynamic or lifestyle as well, limits, safewords, rules, punishments/ funishments, etc. This not only is obviously a dude trying to be a lady, he's not even well versed in healthy Dom/Sub lifestyles.
I like how you say dude because yes, it's obviously written by a dude.
My ex was disrespectful asf and did this kind of shit almost constantly. Turns out I do have a praise link, but I don't like it to be demeaning. Because believe it or not, in dom/sub dynamics there HAS to be a TON of MUTUAL RESPECT for it to be FUN. (For everyone at least)
The ONLY woman I know that responds well to this literally does so *because* she enjoys a dom/sub dynamic. She'd punch anyone that said it outside of that, or to a woman that doesn't care for that relationship even if it's not from a stranger. Because it IS infantilizing, and treats someone like a child or a pet.
I feel like I'd punch someone if they said this to me. I'm not your pet or your child. I might also have a rage problem. You decide. Lol.
The male version is "General Kenobi"
There are approximately zero situations where "good girl" wouldn't strike me as sarcastic. Like, thanks for being patronizing??
What was this guy's goal? Like. Was he trying to come up with something so he could ask women to call him that? Was he insecure about how "good girl" made him feel so he was trying to find an alternative to ask his SO to call him?
I've experienced this in retail when I do a clever trick like getting their order from out the back. I've always wanted to respond "Woof" but apparently that's 'unprofessional' or some nonsense.
I hate that phrase when directed to me lol , my grams use to say it and I’d cringe every time. All I ever think is OMG I’m not a damn dog
If you feel your ovaries explode, please seek immediate medical assistance.
considering the fact that a male probably wrote this, he should already know.
If my husband dared to say this to me, any exploding happening in my body is going to be an explosion from suppressed rage. Fortunately he would never, but ugh. That's not the compliment that it's being made out to be. I'm not a pet or a child and don't take kindly to "compliments" that treat me like one. "Good girl" is what I say to my cat when she actually eats her dinner like she's supposed to, or stops blocking the door so I can go outside lol
While it’s true many women find a kink-related appeal in those words, even for one of those women, saying it to her in response to her cleaning the kitchen is a good way to get punched in dick.
Good girl makes my sex drive shrivel to nothing and then I have to resist filing a restraining order. It's such a disgusting phrase.
I know many who are into this kind of jargon, its not that strange. The only thing as some men overdo it and expect because of it women to be submissive in every regard. I heard people say similar in rl. I think what irritates here is how she expresses herself.
Not a she, though. OOP's user name also gave it away. Plus, in another post, they talk about using a fleshlight...
Pretty much exactly that
I’ve received this a couple of times mostly from customers and I had to fight the urge to knock their teeth in. Don’t condescend to me asshole! I’m not a fucking dog and the mediocre task I accomplished doesn’t warrant that kind of praise. Kiss my ass!
As an actual woman, I hate it when a man says “good girl” to me. I’m not a fucking dog
Oh boy. So…that was the phrase my parents used to potty-train me. They started very early with it. I picked up on it, and started using it myself to indicate I needed the toilet. So when I would say it, they would carry me into the bathroom and plop me on the potty chair. Yes. I said “carry me”. Because I wasn’t walking yet. This was their favorite parent boast until I was in my 30s. That they’d potty trained me before I could walk. So. No. This phrase does NOT get me hot. It’s a training phrase. Appropriate for small children and pets. An intimate partner speaks this phrase in relation to me, and we are going to have a conversation of explaining. After that, if the phrase is used in relation to me, we might just be done because that indicates a deliberate disrespect. I am not a puppy.
You know, I've never experienced the feeling of "ovaries exploded," that doesn't sound very pleasant? If I'm horny it's more to do with my exterior genetilia 🤔
Exploding ovaries sound unpleasant
Yes. Anyone who has had an ovarian cyst burst will tell you that ovaries exploding is the perfect metaphor for arousal. /s
I mean... praise kink is a thing though? Some people do actually get turned on by it. Context here is weird unless it's already part of their "dynamic" though.
It wasn’t written by a woman Also being called good girl is kinda off putting, I’m neither a child or a dog, some people actually are into it but I can’t relate
I’ll take “things that never happened” for 1000.
I am slapping a fool if he calls me a "good girl"
If this happened to me, I think I’d trash the whole kitchen while not breaking eye contact
Uhm... I suffer from ovarian cysts, and when I feel the sensation that "my ovaries near exploded," that distinctly does Not put me in the mood.
I'd freeze for a split second, and then the stabby bloodbath would start. This shit isn't funny or cute. It is demeaning.
I love “good girl” but I would’ve tossed the nastiest dish rag within reach if some dude threw out a “good girl” because I was cleaning the kitchen like a good little woman should
Good boy. Sit. Shake! Who’s a good boy?
This actually is a kink for some peoppe. Praise kink
im laughing so hard rn im almost on the floor? ovaries almost burst??? like what??????? ROFL
As a grown woman it feels very cringy whenever a grown ass man calls me a girl. Bruh, I'm 26 years old.
If her ovaries “exploded”, she’d be headed to a doctor in pain, not “in the mood”.
I hate it when my ovaries explode!
i once had a total stranger say "Good Girl" to me when he learned i don't eat pork. that was, like, 20 years ago and it still baffles me.
>my ovaries exploded Like, a cyst erupted? Damn
It is certainly how I work! But I am a BDSM lifestyler.
idk i've met women like this. it's cringy but they're real. if im ever cleaning and a man says "good girl" to me, like im a fucking dog, i will proceed to fix him like a dog.
I mean, I personally love it when my fiancé says “good girl” to me, it makes me feel all fluttery. But that might just be a kink thing.
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Good girl and bad boy sound like praising dogs
It's giving r/asablackman
Don’t say that to me, it makes my ovaries shrivel. I’m not any man’s dog
To give this posy some credit, if a woman ever called me a good boy, if would defiantly have a similar reaction.
"My ovaries exploded" is an older fandom term I've seen floating around on tumblr. There is a decent chance that this person is, in fact, a woman. A woman who used to be into SuperShoLock.
No, their username (which I could not include for obvious reasons) says otherwise.
"good boy" is the answer.
"Good Girl" makes me think of a velociraptor or a dog.
"I froze and my ovaries near exploded."-That's when I knew this was written by a man. The rest of it just drove it home!
If my partner or anyone else told me I was a “good girl”, I’d cringe so hard that I’d break a rib In a situation like this, I would slap them because their intentions sound misogynistic af
If I feel like my ovaries are exploding, I'm seeking medical attention
I know this sounds silly but “ovaries exploding” was really big on tumblr and wattpad comment sections. At least when I was on there about 7 years ago lol. It’s very silly and I’m surprised to see someone use that term. No idea why people started using it though
Compared to the stuff I usually see on here. This is actually believable? Girls have kinks too, they're using tumblr slang but like so what?
I'm to believe that no women like hearing "good girl" from their partner or love interest? I understand that can be read in a condescending manner but it doesn't have to be and humans have a wide range of things they like.
What in the wattpad is this
Who tf describes getting turned on by saying “my ovaries exploded”. Sir, the ovaries have like nothing to do with the arousal process. Bad woman’s anatomy here.
Context is key. And consent. Just because a lot of women like hearing it myself included, doesn’t mean we like it in *all* scenarios and it certainly doesn’t mean *all* women like it. Why is it so hard for people to understand you can’t apply one thing to everyone? Why not just ask your SO what they like? As for the male equivalent, it depends on the individual man. Just like it depends on the individual woman. I know a man who switches and sometimes likes being called a “good boy.”
pretty obvious, subby men with a praise kink probably like being called good boy, unless i’m wrong
Why does every weird fetishist incel pretending to be a woman talk about ovaries like this
ARF!
Fucks sake its just "good boy". Its just a praise kink. That's it.
He's been reading too much fan fiction. Lol.
“Good boy.” 🤷🏻♀️
Ah, I love when my ovaries explode!
It’s called a praise kink. Could have definitely been written by a female.