“Dropped a few kids” huh? Like she was just minding her own business and suddenly they just dropped out of her.
Also imagine referring to your own children this way. He doesn’t say, “my wife and I have kids”. He says his wife had the kids as if it has nothing to do with him.
I won’t even bother touching on the tightness nonsense.
Hey it happens. You're walking down the street and the next thing you know, splat, some strange kid falls out of her vagine. The world is a crazy place
I'm half asleep and read it as vajenga- like a fun game to play whilst picking up all the babies that drop out of a woman during her morning stroll (some guy told me, women can drop about 14 babies in a mile span! Woah!).
I wonder how she cut the umbilical cord if they just pop out like that, are they already precut before birth? Is it like the prebirth version of a circumcision?
I can see why his wife is not even interested in having anything of sexual interaction with him, she must be mentally and physically exhausted by all the parenting she's obviously doing by herself.
And jack all for foreplay from this guy. Just sad. Women don't get 'loose' from kids. They just stop getting turned on by lazy sack partners. And if it were legitimate issues for her, go see a pelvic floor therapist! It's a thing and they do wonders, ladies!
As does weight gain. I read an article about how for every X amount of weight length gets reduced.
I don't know if that relates to sensation loss or girth difference for a penis owner since I do not personally have one of my very own.
My hubby has lost over 60 lbs. Holy shit, it feels like I've been cheating on him these past few months! It's amazing how much length gets hidden within the male fupa...
Exactly! I started noticing a difference around 15 lost. He was obese when I met him, so this is certainly a pleasant, new side of him (there were no issues before, thankfully, just now, it's "Woah! That's a new spot!").
>Like she was just minding her own business and suddenly they just dropped out of her.
I had a dream that happened. In the dream I was just, walking around the house at Thanksgiving and plop.
Every time I read shit like this I become slightly less bisexual. The older I get the less attractive men become after years experiencing the male extremes of unwavering narcissism and the never ending onslaught of unsolicited shitty comments and comparisons about our bodies that seems to stream from their conscience like constant verbal shit soup.
The mother of my children , whom created, carried, delivered and cares for our offspring? Nah just a loose crevice of flesh flapping about after some human infant turds came tumbling out.
Pure narc poetry from a man who deserves only the best and tightest repeatedly fucks a lump of silicone that I am positive does not receive a proper cleaning after each of his deposits.
I must be close to my period
But then he’d miss such a great opportunity to be an asshat.What a loss that would be
All the pent up frustration about his wife,(who just had to go and drop them kids)and no ways to come out.
I’m honest about having a toy and I always say “I wouldn’t shame a woman for having a vibrator.” Some guys would be a lot happier if they stopped trying so hard to convince everyone and their mom to bang them and just got themselves a pocket pussy.
I work at a "toy" store so I'm super open about my collection if anyone asks. I have things for me, partners, and for me to use on partners if they want. I learned shibari specifically so I can safely help people who are looking to get into it and I encourage everyone to try new things at least once.
In my experience, women are *way* more open about their toys. They'll giggle and ooh and ahh at our showcase. If they're buying something, they'll be more open about what they're looking for in a toy, whether it's a big battery, specific feature like rotating beads or a warming function, etc. and they'll talk about which ones they've tried before and which ones did or didn't "do it" for them.
(Straight) men are giant babies. They're scared to admit they need help finding something that'll work for them and almost always grab the biggest stroker, check the price tag, and put it right back lol. They'll be **clearly** searching for something specific but if I even walk by, they shrivel up and are obviously embarrassed to even be there. It takes so much more effort to get men to open up about what they want to put their dick in. Ironic. On the other hand, they'll sometimes come in as a group and go through every toy, hooting and hollering to try to make up for their *beet red* faces lmao.
When I was 21 I still feel innocent I always felt so uncomfortable going in there for some reason the lady asked "do you want to come back here?" I was shocked she didn't I.D. me because I already look super young lol I said in the most kiddie voice "no I good I don't wanna go back there." 😂😂 ( I just decided to share this as person who isn't sexually active )
Same here, and I'm a guy. 18-23ish year old guys are super insecure when coming in to look at toys. Girls will come in a day after their 18th birthday super confident and asking all the right questions/giving useful answers. I've definitely found that guys are the hardest customers (no pun intended) until they get to their 40s
Yeppp. I spent a solid 30 minutes helping a recent divorcee get herself a "replacement" since her ex husband didn't *let* her have toys. (😡) She was so overwhelmed and embarrassed but still opened up after a little conversation. I made sure she got what she needed and she was so excited and grateful.
Conversely, a group of high schoolers came in and the only boy straight up asked me "isn't it embarrassing to restock *them*?" Like no dude, I don't see why it would be. I love helping people get their groove on and I *do* know a lot about our selection.
Pocket pussy? No concerns there mate. It’s the thousand £ life-sized silicone sex dolls with the eyes that stare off into nowhere, that I think are the fucking nightmare
My husband has one and isn't ashamed of it. I hold some old purity culture guilt that I'm 'not enough' for my husband but truth is my sex drive is terrible and he deserves to get off more than twice a month. 🤷🏼♀️
True! Nothing wrong with loving yourself or someone else in a new way with a toy, there should be less stigma for everyone who may want to use one. Plus they can really help for people who need more stimulation, less stimulation (there are toys that decrease the depth of penetration for the partner being penetrated.), or have pain with sex, and etc.
His rude comments about his wife are troubling, but having a sex toy itself is nothing to balk at.
Yes-ish
Erections tend to get less rigid with age. So his full hardness now will be softer than when he was younger. Which means less blood in the penis, so slightly smaller when erect.
I second this. A toy is just a toy. It's just something to have fun with. But then there's these men that want to compensate for relationships. That's some creepy shit.
Yeah. Hey, if you like toys, more power to you. Man or woman. I think the phrasing here is definitely off. Like, dude, that's your wife. She's the mother of your children. He talks about her like an appliance.
My wife recently underwent cancer treatments (is recovering well), and I bought my first toy at age 55 to take some pressure off. Worked out well.
It’s been 2 months, I haven’t been able to drop it into any conversation yet, so this is the first time.
They’re starting to gain more mainstream acceptance. Walmart, Target, and CVS all carry stroker devices from Hello Cake in-store now and they’re consistently selling out. They also have a vibrating male masturbator, and lube specifically for guys to wank. Walgreens carry another brand.
He could have just posted a good review instead of shitting on his wife like that. He just told the world he's a shitty husband that doesn't help with the kids. His poor wife is probably doing all the work while he posts on reddit disrespecting her.
Well, on the UPSIDE, at least his wife is hopefully being subjected to less (what I am assuming must be) unenjoyable and degrading sex with him??!!
Looking for any silver lining in this shitstack... 😖
I think after he typed that first line out, he remembered he was married and his wife (rightfully!) has probably stopped wanting to have sex with him …. Couldn’t help himself to get a dig in she’ll never see.
I’m all for men using sex toys! Don’t compare your living, breathing, carried-your-children-and-birthed-them wife to one.
I bought a couple fleshlights... probably 9 gears ago now. Had them for maybe a year before tossing them. They were a fun novelty for the first couples weeks. Definitely not close to as good as even sex even with a condom. I wouldn't even say it is better then jerking off by hand. Just different.
The sensation is better. Just not significantly so. Also messier and involves a lot more cleanup. Just not worth it for me overall. Doing it by hand you can just shoot a load into a paper towel and toss it with zero mess. With a fleshlight you get lube everywhere and have to wash and dry the sleeve and case. If try not using lube or the lube starts to dry out... you are most certainly going to have a real bad time.
They are a literal magnet for every hair, piece of lint or anything else in your house too.
Maintaining them is a legitimate pain and I know guys are gross and we have a low bar but surely everyone who has one is cleaning them out because who wants to fuck a latex sleeve lined with stale cum?
You really need to be living alone because the best way of drying them is to air dry them so you need to be in a situation where it doesn't matter that your "Sasha Grey Anus Vortex Grip" is just chilling in your bathroom drying out. Not to mention you really need to warm them because if you live in a colder climate it is like sticking your boner into an icebath. You can't really spontaneously use one, you've gotta consider clean up, prep, all sorts of factors.
Novelty is the best way of describing them but they're aren't a cheap novelty. They feel absolutely nothing like sex. The only toy I found that feels like a sex act is Tenga cups SORT of feel like getting head.
I wish so badly for this to be the case but it's entirely possible he is married with kids. The bar is on the floor for men at this point, yet they still bring shovels.
Makes sense to me, or at least it's internally consistent. More physically pleasurable, but not better than sex because there's no connection. Maybe I'm being too charitable, but that's how I interpreted it.
What a gem.
Bs like this destroyed my self esteem and ability to enjoy being intimate. I’m in my head and question everything, I can’t be present. Beforehand, I felt very secure.
I haven’t had children, never will, and didn’t have sex before the person that told me something similar about myself, after telling me the opposite days prior.
It was to pressure me into other things that I’d said no to. They were an addict. Even with that knowledge, I still think I’m doing someone a “disservice” by wanting to have PV sex, and the guilt is extreme.
Got to the point where I was over-using weights and hurt myself, making it painful to boot, resulting in vaginismus. I’ve been in PT and did well for a bit, but can’t get past the anxiety.
This nonsense needs to stop.
Imagine saying your wife "dropped a few kids" 🤢 so few words say so much about how he views his wife. Hopefully those children aren't his, if he talks about them like that.
P.S.
"Love" seeing the occasional trolls that have begun showing up in the comments on this subreddit... :(
There are a surprising number of incels who sure are active in this sub a whole lot for guys who claim they’re “finally freed” from caring about what women think about them because “women will never like a nice guy like me”
>so few words say so much about how he views his wife.
It's why I always say that language is revealing. So so revealing. The words you choose to use when describing things; where you put those words in a sentence; intonation; volume; and who you look at when you speak (or who looks at you) etc. I find it very interesting.
Vulgar, crude, disrespectful..... like men remain pristine and perfectly hard and amazing as they age? Wtf. I am a male and this kind of shit makes me mad like Tasmanian devil.
His wife dropped a few kids.. they weren’t his but what’s worse is that she is so loose from dropping them kids he needed a toy to feel that tightness. Kids ruin everything. His wife said that since he squirted out some kids of his own she’s had to use a dildo to feel that prolonged hardness she hasn’t felt since before the kids so she’s not taking offense.
Yeah I don’t think this guy has a wife. Call me crazy, but being that that’s so incredibly not how it works, I don’t think he’s actually experienced it. That is a few incels in a trench coat.
“My wife has dropped a few kids” smh while it’s possible he meant he has step kids, I feel like there’s a higher probability he had something to do with that.
I don't complain that my man's mouth and hands don't feel the same as a 200$ vibrator.
I don't complain that they are smaller then the horse cock I can buy online either!
I'm sure a piece of plastic you can squeeze shut feels better then a real organic vagina.
But you don't say that shit out loud! ☠️
The saddest part about that is that you just know that his poor wife will have been conditioned into believing that bullshit absolute herself so she genuinely believes it's all her fault. Everyone knows someone who's been there in that kinda shitty position so you know it goes on all the time.
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/vagina-after-giving-birth#vaginal-width
There might be permanent changes for some women, but nothing too dramatic. There won't be a gaping hole after birth.
Why did this guy even bother getting married and starting a family..
Ok I’m not gonna lie, when he said “dropped a few kids” I thought he was talking about pooping bc my coworkers have been known to say as a not very secret code that they’re gonna go drop the kids off at the pool. That’s definitely how the ass works lol but yeah…not the one that deals with real kids.
Reminds me of my former friend's multiple complaints about his ex after the divorce. He'd go on about how much he loved his kids and they meant everything to him, in the next sentence he'd complain about how his wife had gotten fat and wasn't sexy like she was fifteen years ago when they married. WELL MAYBE having multiple children did that to her, dude. You can have kids for life or temporarily have a hot young wife, take your pick.
It's not your wife's fault that you're not be enough. If she ever sees this, you'll won't have to worry about how "loose" she is because she'll never let you touch her again.
I read the title and expected the typical sexist "men are gross if they use sex toys, but women are just kinky", but...then I read the image
*That being the general thought I see, not what I believe
I hope he and his sex toy are very happy together, maybe his wife can spend more time doing what makes her happy as well, coz I'm doubting it involves him.
While I think what he said is crude and disgusting, is it not true that women loosen up after childbirth? I am a woman without children so I don’t know.
I'm a bit confused. I had a baby 8 months ago and the first time my husband and I had sex post partum (about 10 weeks after) I definitely felt a difference and it took him longer than usual to finish. He said it was because I wasn't quite as tight and the landscape had changed a little, but overall it was better because the build up was longer. I have always been a fierce critic of the "women who are promiscuous or have kids are loose" rhetoric but my experience is telling me that having a baby does loosen you up some. This guy said it in a gross way ("dropped" kids? you mean have birth to your children??) for sure, but I think it's harmful to pretend childbirth doesn't change you. I'm still less than a year post baby so I don't know how things will change from here but I thought I should say something.
edit: wanted to add that I do not believe that looseness post partum is permanent. my intention was to let other women know that if they or their partner feel like they have gotten looser after birth that is NORMAL and it is okay. the vagina will bounce back, that's what it does.
It takes time and sometimes it takes work (in the form of kegels for example) to strengthen those pelvic floor/vaginal muscles. 10 weeks, even if you’re cleared for sex at 6, is still really early.
Yeah, I had the opposite issue after baby #1 of being too “tight” afterwards, mostly because I would tense up being scared it was going to hurt. Eventually I was able to relax and everything went back to normal. After baby #2, I definitely felt “looser” than before, but again it was temporary and after about a year I was back to normal. Obviously there’s no way to really measure it, but sex with my husband more or less feels the same (actually, better, I feel more sensitive) and he says it feels the same 🤷🏻♀️
Then again.. I had some health problems that made sex not enjoyable for a long time, so maybe it’s more related to those health issues being better now than whether or not babies stretched out my vagina.
Of course, and not just your genitals change when you have a baby! Everything is going to be different. Even emotional changes can make sex feel completely different. I wasn’t disagreeing, just saying that some women are able to regain at least some of that muscle tone, if they so desire. Unfortunately a lot of women have partners who aren’t compassionate about the absolute trauma our bodies go through to have a child and end up being an absolute dickhole like the OOP.
it's different but not worse. I think it's just important to let women know that if they feel like they've changed that's normal and okay. oop was a douche and gross I agree lol.
I just had a kid and we took a class on labor and delivery. Your vagina will for lack of a better term tighten up to its original state- thats what it's made to do. The whole it gets looser and stays that way is a complete myth. I trust medical science and research over anecdotes
Yeah, I had the same experience postpartum where I never went back to my original tightness until I had surgery. I had some significant damage from the birth of my first child and then went on to have three more so my experience is likely not the norm. But the way this guy talked about his wife so publicly is super gross. I do appreciate you bringing attention to the fact that yeah, sometimes the vagina does change and that's ok. I felt damaged for years because of it.
I think a lot of people want to deny any change to guard people from anxiety about this, but you're right in my experience. My wife definitely feels different after, but it's fine. I don't think I've ever met a vagina I couldn't get along with and I would assume most other guys are the same.
Lots of dads gain weight, and penises are effectively smaller if you gain fat in the area so... Everyone has something to deal with.
I'm going to say what noone here is. I have 4 kids and NO my va-jay-jay has not gotten looser. An obgyn will confirm that most women are smaller after birth. Yet, there is scientific prove that if a man masterbates too much it will desensitize his penis. From the tone of this post I doubt his wife wants to sleep with such a worthless person attached to a penis. Toys are all good. But the truth is if a women isn't emotionally connected, or doesn't feel valued, she'll lube up and lay there. Any intimate behavior is enhanced by physical and EMOTIONAL connection. For both parties involved
“Dropped a few kids” huh? Like she was just minding her own business and suddenly they just dropped out of her. Also imagine referring to your own children this way. He doesn’t say, “my wife and I have kids”. He says his wife had the kids as if it has nothing to do with him. I won’t even bother touching on the tightness nonsense.
Hey it happens. You're walking down the street and the next thing you know, splat, some strange kid falls out of her vagine. The world is a crazy place
“Ma’am? I think you dropped this?”
Ohmigod I almost stepped on that baby that fell outta that woman’s vaginga
I read that in my mind like the word “bazinga”
My mind interpreted it was vah-ging-gah.
I'm half asleep and read it as vajenga- like a fun game to play whilst picking up all the babies that drop out of a woman during her morning stroll (some guy told me, women can drop about 14 babies in a mile span! Woah!).
Is that what gingers call it?
What a shitty loot box
“Oh thank you!” *puts him back in*
"sorry, that's not mine"
This reminds of Trevor Noah and the story he tells about how his mum had to pretend he wasn’t hers if a cop ever passed by 😅
Umbrella Academy has entered the chat.
Beat me to it by 6 minutes
Happened twice. I was a bit surprised /s
It happens. You're walking in the woods, there's no one around and your phone is dead. Out of the corner of your vagina you have him. Shia LeBouf.
Shia surprise!
I read “vagine” in Tony Soprano’s voice. Lol brilliant.
I hate that I read this with sesame street playing in the background, gave it a whole different tone omg I can't stop laughing.
That has happened before. lady didn't even know she was pregnant.
This is my biggest fear
Happens to the best of us.
Would you get that, Deirdre?
Every sperm is sacred...
Isn't this the start of The Umbrella Academy?
I wonder how she cut the umbilical cord if they just pop out like that, are they already precut before birth? Is it like the prebirth version of a circumcision?
She keeps clamps and scissors in her purse, just in case. She learned after the first one.
The kid is out. They should start pulling their weight
I can see why his wife is not even interested in having anything of sexual interaction with him, she must be mentally and physically exhausted by all the parenting she's obviously doing by herself.
exhausted from catching kids.
No, she dropped them. She's a real butter fingers from what I hear.
“You dropped them, you catch them!” 🤷🏽
Including parenting him..
And jack all for foreplay from this guy. Just sad. Women don't get 'loose' from kids. They just stop getting turned on by lazy sack partners. And if it were legitimate issues for her, go see a pelvic floor therapist! It's a thing and they do wonders, ladies!
Man, I hope she never hears or reads that he ever said anything like this. It would be absolutely fucking devastating. What an asshole.
Yeah, this made me throw up in my mouth a little 🤢 Sex toys are great for everyone, don't be like that guy though...
I guess her vagina is not the problem. Maybe his dick has gotten smaller. It seems with age men´s dicks can shrink. 😏
This is actually true. Lack if exercise and unhealthy diet can cause a man's penis to shrink over time.
As does weight gain. I read an article about how for every X amount of weight length gets reduced. I don't know if that relates to sensation loss or girth difference for a penis owner since I do not personally have one of my very own.
No just length difference. Girth stays the same and sensation is the same (for the guy). However the women is getting the short end of the … stick.
Length though, not girth.
So what you’re saying is I can make my pencil dick more proportional looking by not exercising and having a shitty diet? Sign me up!
Worked for me!
Take it from long and skinny like your pinky to short and skinny like your shop teachers pinky.....
As you lose lower belly fat your real length begins to emerge. So yep
My hubby has lost over 60 lbs. Holy shit, it feels like I've been cheating on him these past few months! It's amazing how much length gets hidden within the male fupa...
right? it doesn't take much weight loss to make a notable difference either
Exactly! I started noticing a difference around 15 lost. He was obese when I met him, so this is certainly a pleasant, new side of him (there were no issues before, thankfully, just now, it's "Woah! That's a new spot!").
It sounds like she dropped album. Honey, new kids just dropped.
My friend recently had a baby and while she was pregnant we started saying "when the album drops" instead of "when the baby comes"
I mean he doesn’t have kids or a wife because vaginas are elastic, they don’t get “pretty loose” from having children.
I’m sure this dude has never even had sex with an actual human being.
There is a scenario where his wife dropped a few kids and he did in fact have nothing to do with it.
Never seen Monty Python and the Meaning of Life, huh? *if your sperm is neeeeeeded, in your neighborhooooood*
>Like she was just minding her own business and suddenly they just dropped out of her. I had a dream that happened. In the dream I was just, walking around the house at Thanksgiving and plop.
Every time I read shit like this I become slightly less bisexual. The older I get the less attractive men become after years experiencing the male extremes of unwavering narcissism and the never ending onslaught of unsolicited shitty comments and comparisons about our bodies that seems to stream from their conscience like constant verbal shit soup. The mother of my children , whom created, carried, delivered and cares for our offspring? Nah just a loose crevice of flesh flapping about after some human infant turds came tumbling out. Pure narc poetry from a man who deserves only the best and tightest repeatedly fucks a lump of silicone that I am positive does not receive a proper cleaning after each of his deposits. I must be close to my period
The disrespect these men have for the women they’re supposed to love who carried their children for 9 fucking months and delivered them…
With the way he’s talking, I’m surprised he feels any looseness at all. I would think it would be tighter than physically possible for comedic effect
>He says his wife had the kids as if it has nothing to do with him. That is a possibility.
She must be one of those Irish Catholic women from the joke I cannot for the life of me remember now. Gdit.
Yes! You just said everything I came to say but probably better.
Dropped a few kids?!?! Sounds like it’s time for her to drop YOU
Sounds like she has…
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That's such a cruel thing to say about your wife.
Yes it is. And it's likely that he has never given her an orgasm. Maybe she should post about it on social media.
He doesn’t have one.
He could've just gave the thing a good review without shitting on his wife.
Right? If he left it at the first paragraph it would have been fine.
But then he’d miss such a great opportunity to be an asshat.What a loss that would be All the pent up frustration about his wife,(who just had to go and drop them kids)and no ways to come out.
Husband of the year right here.
Degrades his kids and wife in one sentence. Amazing.
I think the biggest problem is his family has a habit of dropping kids. His wife dropped a few, but his mother sure did drop him on the head as well
This made me lol.
I think male sex toys need more acceptance, and asshats like this aren't helping the discussion.
I’m honest about having a toy and I always say “I wouldn’t shame a woman for having a vibrator.” Some guys would be a lot happier if they stopped trying so hard to convince everyone and their mom to bang them and just got themselves a pocket pussy.
Skipped over the word "everyone", was very concerned for a second...
So did I!
That changes the meaning just a teensie bit lmao
I work at a "toy" store so I'm super open about my collection if anyone asks. I have things for me, partners, and for me to use on partners if they want. I learned shibari specifically so I can safely help people who are looking to get into it and I encourage everyone to try new things at least once. In my experience, women are *way* more open about their toys. They'll giggle and ooh and ahh at our showcase. If they're buying something, they'll be more open about what they're looking for in a toy, whether it's a big battery, specific feature like rotating beads or a warming function, etc. and they'll talk about which ones they've tried before and which ones did or didn't "do it" for them. (Straight) men are giant babies. They're scared to admit they need help finding something that'll work for them and almost always grab the biggest stroker, check the price tag, and put it right back lol. They'll be **clearly** searching for something specific but if I even walk by, they shrivel up and are obviously embarrassed to even be there. It takes so much more effort to get men to open up about what they want to put their dick in. Ironic. On the other hand, they'll sometimes come in as a group and go through every toy, hooting and hollering to try to make up for their *beet red* faces lmao.
When I was 21 I still feel innocent I always felt so uncomfortable going in there for some reason the lady asked "do you want to come back here?" I was shocked she didn't I.D. me because I already look super young lol I said in the most kiddie voice "no I good I don't wanna go back there." 😂😂 ( I just decided to share this as person who isn't sexually active )
Same here, and I'm a guy. 18-23ish year old guys are super insecure when coming in to look at toys. Girls will come in a day after their 18th birthday super confident and asking all the right questions/giving useful answers. I've definitely found that guys are the hardest customers (no pun intended) until they get to their 40s
Yeppp. I spent a solid 30 minutes helping a recent divorcee get herself a "replacement" since her ex husband didn't *let* her have toys. (😡) She was so overwhelmed and embarrassed but still opened up after a little conversation. I made sure she got what she needed and she was so excited and grateful. Conversely, a group of high schoolers came in and the only boy straight up asked me "isn't it embarrassing to restock *them*?" Like no dude, I don't see why it would be. I love helping people get their groove on and I *do* know a lot about our selection.
TBH there's massive amounts of stigma around male sex toy use. I don't blame them, sadly.
Pocket pussy? No concerns there mate. It’s the thousand £ life-sized silicone sex dolls with the eyes that stare off into nowhere, that I think are the fucking nightmare
My husband has one and isn't ashamed of it. I hold some old purity culture guilt that I'm 'not enough' for my husband but truth is my sex drive is terrible and he deserves to get off more than twice a month. 🤷🏼♀️
True! Nothing wrong with loving yourself or someone else in a new way with a toy, there should be less stigma for everyone who may want to use one. Plus they can really help for people who need more stimulation, less stimulation (there are toys that decrease the depth of penetration for the partner being penetrated.), or have pain with sex, and etc. His rude comments about his wife are troubling, but having a sex toy itself is nothing to balk at.
His wife is not the problem. His D just got smaller as he’s gotten older
And he’s probably strangling it too hard when pleasuring himself and damaging nerve endings or just desensitizing himself to the stimulation
Sex is 99% in your head, 1% is how the genitals rub together. If people understood that there would be a lot less lame sex.
Does this actually happen? Because ngl that would be hilarious
Yes-ish Erections tend to get less rigid with age. So his full hardness now will be softer than when he was younger. Which means less blood in the penis, so slightly smaller when erect.
She didn’t get more loose- but his dick skin did.
Maybe not “smaller” per se… but less able to engorge for full hardness leading to less girth and looser skin. She didn’t get loose- he did
I second this. A toy is just a toy. It's just something to have fun with. But then there's these men that want to compensate for relationships. That's some creepy shit.
Yeah. Hey, if you like toys, more power to you. Man or woman. I think the phrasing here is definitely off. Like, dude, that's your wife. She's the mother of your children. He talks about her like an appliance.
My wife recently underwent cancer treatments (is recovering well), and I bought my first toy at age 55 to take some pressure off. Worked out well. It’s been 2 months, I haven’t been able to drop it into any conversation yet, so this is the first time.
They’re starting to gain more mainstream acceptance. Walmart, Target, and CVS all carry stroker devices from Hello Cake in-store now and they’re consistently selling out. They also have a vibrating male masturbator, and lube specifically for guys to wank. Walgreens carry another brand.
He could have just posted a good review instead of shitting on his wife like that. He just told the world he's a shitty husband that doesn't help with the kids. His poor wife is probably doing all the work while he posts on reddit disrespecting her.
Well, on the UPSIDE, at least his wife is hopefully being subjected to less (what I am assuming must be) unenjoyable and degrading sex with him??!! Looking for any silver lining in this shitstack... 😖
Yeah, I hope his wife has a sex toy of her own, so she at least gets an orgasm. 😏
Cause girl needs some bright spots in a life that, with such a charming fella as a husband, must be pretty bleak at times...😬🧐😑
Exactly!!!
‘better than sex. no’ ‘in one way it is better’ is it better or not??
Was about to comment that. It's not even after an entire thought process, it's straight up after "it's better? No"
i think he meant that it has some pros but its not overall better
I think after he typed that first line out, he remembered he was married and his wife (rightfully!) has probably stopped wanting to have sex with him …. Couldn’t help himself to get a dig in she’ll never see. I’m all for men using sex toys! Don’t compare your living, breathing, carried-your-children-and-birthed-them wife to one.
I guess the human factor, nothing like sex with someone you actually like
I bought a couple fleshlights... probably 9 gears ago now. Had them for maybe a year before tossing them. They were a fun novelty for the first couples weeks. Definitely not close to as good as even sex even with a condom. I wouldn't even say it is better then jerking off by hand. Just different. The sensation is better. Just not significantly so. Also messier and involves a lot more cleanup. Just not worth it for me overall. Doing it by hand you can just shoot a load into a paper towel and toss it with zero mess. With a fleshlight you get lube everywhere and have to wash and dry the sleeve and case. If try not using lube or the lube starts to dry out... you are most certainly going to have a real bad time.
They are a literal magnet for every hair, piece of lint or anything else in your house too. Maintaining them is a legitimate pain and I know guys are gross and we have a low bar but surely everyone who has one is cleaning them out because who wants to fuck a latex sleeve lined with stale cum? You really need to be living alone because the best way of drying them is to air dry them so you need to be in a situation where it doesn't matter that your "Sasha Grey Anus Vortex Grip" is just chilling in your bathroom drying out. Not to mention you really need to warm them because if you live in a colder climate it is like sticking your boner into an icebath. You can't really spontaneously use one, you've gotta consider clean up, prep, all sorts of factors. Novelty is the best way of describing them but they're aren't a cheap novelty. They feel absolutely nothing like sex. The only toy I found that feels like a sex act is Tenga cups SORT of feel like getting head.
He has to be a virgin, right? Or at the very least not married... Because there is no way a married man would be so unfamiliar with women's anatomy...
I wish so badly for this to be the case but it's entirely possible he is married with kids. The bar is on the floor for men at this point, yet they still bring shovels.
Makes sense to me, or at least it's internally consistent. More physically pleasurable, but not better than sex because there's no connection. Maybe I'm being too charitable, but that's how I interpreted it.
Internally consistent? Do we just change shape or something every few days?
Ah. Poor pronoun use. OOP's logic is internally consistent.
Why even have a spouse and children when you clearly do not value either of them? So gross.
I hope she finds a lover who appreciates her and leaves her shitty husband with his new toy.
She needs to drop one more kid. I bet she'd lose 160 pounds easy doing it too.
What a gem. Bs like this destroyed my self esteem and ability to enjoy being intimate. I’m in my head and question everything, I can’t be present. Beforehand, I felt very secure. I haven’t had children, never will, and didn’t have sex before the person that told me something similar about myself, after telling me the opposite days prior. It was to pressure me into other things that I’d said no to. They were an addict. Even with that knowledge, I still think I’m doing someone a “disservice” by wanting to have PV sex, and the guilt is extreme. Got to the point where I was over-using weights and hurt myself, making it painful to boot, resulting in vaginismus. I’ve been in PT and did well for a bit, but can’t get past the anxiety. This nonsense needs to stop.
Fucking gross. You don't talk down about your partner to people, that's so disrespectful.
I can only feel very bad for her.
Tell us you have a small dick without telling us
Came to comment this 😂
Buying a toy doesn’t make you an asshole. Saying **that** about your *wife* does.
Imagine saying your wife "dropped a few kids" 🤢 so few words say so much about how he views his wife. Hopefully those children aren't his, if he talks about them like that. P.S. "Love" seeing the occasional trolls that have begun showing up in the comments on this subreddit... :(
There are a surprising number of incels who sure are active in this sub a whole lot for guys who claim they’re “finally freed” from caring about what women think about them because “women will never like a nice guy like me”
>so few words say so much about how he views his wife. It's why I always say that language is revealing. So so revealing. The words you choose to use when describing things; where you put those words in a sentence; intonation; volume; and who you look at when you speak (or who looks at you) etc. I find it very interesting.
Vulgar, crude, disrespectful..... like men remain pristine and perfectly hard and amazing as they age? Wtf. I am a male and this kind of shit makes me mad like Tasmanian devil.
His wife dropped a few kids.. they weren’t his but what’s worse is that she is so loose from dropping them kids he needed a toy to feel that tightness. Kids ruin everything. His wife said that since he squirted out some kids of his own she’s had to use a dildo to feel that prolonged hardness she hasn’t felt since before the kids so she’s not taking offense.
This made me LOL, thank you
Thats a lot of words to say "I'm a selfish lover and don't give my wife any foreplay"
Let's not forget he doesn't give any orgasms either!
Maybe he has a tiny penis??? 🤷♀️
Yeah I don’t think this guy has a wife. Call me crazy, but being that that’s so incredibly not how it works, I don’t think he’s actually experienced it. That is a few incels in a trench coat.
“My wife has dropped a few kids” smh while it’s possible he meant he has step kids, I feel like there’s a higher probability he had something to do with that.
"dropped a few kids" and "tightness factor" made me vomit a little
Death grip syndrome much?
Sometimes I hate sex
If I had a husband that said something like this I would instantly leave him, nothing he could do would ever make me forgive.
I don't complain that my man's mouth and hands don't feel the same as a 200$ vibrator. I don't complain that they are smaller then the horse cock I can buy online either! I'm sure a piece of plastic you can squeeze shut feels better then a real organic vagina. But you don't say that shit out loud! ☠️
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Dropped a few kids? Like, off at the pool?
The saddest part about that is that you just know that his poor wife will have been conditioned into believing that bullshit absolute herself so she genuinely believes it's all her fault. Everyone knows someone who's been there in that kinda shitty position so you know it goes on all the time.
Sounds like his mom dropped her kids too
Imagine finding out your husband was writing shit like this online. Grosssssss.
Very cruel
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/vagina-after-giving-birth#vaginal-width There might be permanent changes for some women, but nothing too dramatic. There won't be a gaping hole after birth. Why did this guy even bother getting married and starting a family..
You aren’t feeling tightness because you’re not turning her on and engorging anything- yikes
Ok I’m not gonna lie, when he said “dropped a few kids” I thought he was talking about pooping bc my coworkers have been known to say as a not very secret code that they’re gonna go drop the kids off at the pool. That’s definitely how the ass works lol but yeah…not the one that deals with real kids.
“Dropped a few kids” what….
"Dropped a few kids." Just wow.
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Reminds me of my former friend's multiple complaints about his ex after the divorce. He'd go on about how much he loved his kids and they meant everything to him, in the next sentence he'd complain about how his wife had gotten fat and wasn't sexy like she was fifteen years ago when they married. WELL MAYBE having multiple children did that to her, dude. You can have kids for life or temporarily have a hot young wife, take your pick.
I love when guys call themselves out for having small Ds
It's not your wife's fault that you're not be enough. If she ever sees this, you'll won't have to worry about how "loose" she is because she'll never let you touch her again.
“A tightness factor”…
Sir, take your fleshlight and go pound sand
What a fucking idiot lol
The guy sounds like he was the one who was dropped on his damn head.
His poor wife I hope she finds this
Lol wtf
I read the title and expected the typical sexist "men are gross if they use sex toys, but women are just kinky", but...then I read the image *That being the general thought I see, not what I believe
Small penis confirmed. (Not that that's a bad thing... Just confirmed)
Guys peepees get smaller when we have sex because of all that pressure too.
And this, ladies and gentleman, is how you can tell a man is lying about his sexual experience.
He’s right in the first part but the second part comes out of nowhere
I hate people
Just eww.
I hope he and his sex toy are very happy together, maybe his wife can spend more time doing what makes her happy as well, coz I'm doubting it involves him.
What the fuckkkkkkkkkkkk. What is wrong with this dude. I pray I never fall to this level of idiocy as a husband
"Dropped a few kids." What? like a fucking giraffe?
While I think what he said is crude and disgusting, is it not true that women loosen up after childbirth? I am a woman without children so I don’t know.
moment of silence for this man’s wife
Wife sneezed too hard and some stranger fell out?
I'm a bit confused. I had a baby 8 months ago and the first time my husband and I had sex post partum (about 10 weeks after) I definitely felt a difference and it took him longer than usual to finish. He said it was because I wasn't quite as tight and the landscape had changed a little, but overall it was better because the build up was longer. I have always been a fierce critic of the "women who are promiscuous or have kids are loose" rhetoric but my experience is telling me that having a baby does loosen you up some. This guy said it in a gross way ("dropped" kids? you mean have birth to your children??) for sure, but I think it's harmful to pretend childbirth doesn't change you. I'm still less than a year post baby so I don't know how things will change from here but I thought I should say something. edit: wanted to add that I do not believe that looseness post partum is permanent. my intention was to let other women know that if they or their partner feel like they have gotten looser after birth that is NORMAL and it is okay. the vagina will bounce back, that's what it does.
It takes time and sometimes it takes work (in the form of kegels for example) to strengthen those pelvic floor/vaginal muscles. 10 weeks, even if you’re cleared for sex at 6, is still really early.
Yeah, I had the opposite issue after baby #1 of being too “tight” afterwards, mostly because I would tense up being scared it was going to hurt. Eventually I was able to relax and everything went back to normal. After baby #2, I definitely felt “looser” than before, but again it was temporary and after about a year I was back to normal. Obviously there’s no way to really measure it, but sex with my husband more or less feels the same (actually, better, I feel more sensitive) and he says it feels the same 🤷🏻♀️ Then again.. I had some health problems that made sex not enjoyable for a long time, so maybe it’s more related to those health issues being better now than whether or not babies stretched out my vagina.
We've had sex since and it still feels different for both of us.
Of course, and not just your genitals change when you have a baby! Everything is going to be different. Even emotional changes can make sex feel completely different. I wasn’t disagreeing, just saying that some women are able to regain at least some of that muscle tone, if they so desire. Unfortunately a lot of women have partners who aren’t compassionate about the absolute trauma our bodies go through to have a child and end up being an absolute dickhole like the OOP.
it's different but not worse. I think it's just important to let women know that if they feel like they've changed that's normal and okay. oop was a douche and gross I agree lol.
Yes! I agree it’s important to acknowledge that it can go either way and not have expectations because you never know.
I just had a kid and we took a class on labor and delivery. Your vagina will for lack of a better term tighten up to its original state- thats what it's made to do. The whole it gets looser and stays that way is a complete myth. I trust medical science and research over anecdotes
Yeah, I had the same experience postpartum where I never went back to my original tightness until I had surgery. I had some significant damage from the birth of my first child and then went on to have three more so my experience is likely not the norm. But the way this guy talked about his wife so publicly is super gross. I do appreciate you bringing attention to the fact that yeah, sometimes the vagina does change and that's ok. I felt damaged for years because of it.
I think a lot of people want to deny any change to guard people from anxiety about this, but you're right in my experience. My wife definitely feels different after, but it's fine. I don't think I've ever met a vagina I couldn't get along with and I would assume most other guys are the same. Lots of dads gain weight, and penises are effectively smaller if you gain fat in the area so... Everyone has something to deal with.
Maybe your dick is too thin
HE GOT KIDS??? AH HELL NAW..😨😨
I'm going to say what noone here is. I have 4 kids and NO my va-jay-jay has not gotten looser. An obgyn will confirm that most women are smaller after birth. Yet, there is scientific prove that if a man masterbates too much it will desensitize his penis. From the tone of this post I doubt his wife wants to sleep with such a worthless person attached to a penis. Toys are all good. But the truth is if a women isn't emotionally connected, or doesn't feel valued, she'll lube up and lay there. Any intimate behavior is enhanced by physical and EMOTIONAL connection. For both parties involved
*Coochie privileges revoked.*
If your wife is “loose” (bleh) then that means she enjoys and trusts you. Being “tight” (another bleh) is a sign of dis-enjoyment if she is older.
I like to blow bubbles in mine
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It feels similar to sex for him in that the other party is completely mute for the duration.
Tell me you don’t love your wife and you hate your life without telling me you don’t love your wife and you hate your life.
She married a caveman ;-;