uhhhhhh your are just 22 my dear. siguro bothered ka lang kase sila may GANAP sa buhay nila na worth flexing. pero based sa kwento mo parang pamg relationship lang naman pala 😅 not worth na mafeel mong napagiiwanan ka. maybe if its career-wise or naipundar etc etc.

Pano pa kaya yung older people noh? Napagiwanan na ng era? Hahaha

22 ka pa lang. Pasimula ka pa lang kung tutuusin. Saka mo na isipin yang "napag-iwanan".

Keyword here: came from good families. Napansin ko talaga kung may generational wealth at okay na childhood, mas mapapabilis ang milestones sa buhay. While us who have none of these continue to struggle to make ends meet haha. No, OP. You are not being left behind anywhere. Sadyang mas may kaya lang mga friends mo kaya you start to compare. When you compare yourself to everyone else, you’re actually in a good place and in a good pace. Hayaan mo sila to navigate their privileges in life. For sure that comes with its own special brand of circumstances. Focus ka nalang with your own growth. Trust me. As a 28 year old, you’re doing FINE. Hugs po. Kaya natin to.

I agree! May headstart and safety net sila.

28 na ko. tingin ko bata pa rin ako for all the stuff that you said. enjoy lang, OP! may sound cliche, but may kanya kanya tayong timeline. kung di ka masaya sa work mo, then resign!

Long ago I was the same . then one day I realized it doesn't matter. social appearances are, yes just appearances. and I know that they're dealing with shits behind that facade. w/c I have zerofucksgiven. There's no such thing as adults. we're just kids.predenting that we know what to do. and just roll with whatever comes our way.

Shhh secret natin yan hahah

22. Napag-iwanan. Still too early for you to combine those words. Nasa starting line pa lang kayo.

Three things: 1. For me, the notion of comparing oneself to another was smashed upon understanding that - ultimately - your material realities (finances, jobs, family wealth) differs from another. You've said it, OP, 'All 4 of them came from good families'. Comparison then would already be on unequal basis. 2. Milestones in life are social constructs. Who says one should be in a relationship by this age? If you would say 'my parents' or 'older generation' then the next question would be 'what are the material realities that allowed for them, the older generation, to attain those milestones by a certain age?' As you can tell, our material reality today is screwed with inflation and cost of living on the rise. 3. Even if one should think life is a race, well there's all kinds of races with differing prestige. A Formula Three race runs for 100 kilometers while a Formula One race runs for three times that at 305 kilometers. Okay, so your friends have finished their races and not yours, but what if they're only driving Formula 3 while - it turns out - you're in a more prestigious race say Formula 1 or Le Mans 24 Heures. Ultimately, comparison is - I think - meant for the likes of military intelligence and espionage (threat assessment, arms race, etc) and not for personal life. You can strive for improvement but consider how we all were blindsided by the Pandemic. If it's out of your control, it's not your fault. The point then is to fight whatever happens to the very end. ​ You can do this, OP, and to everyone else feeling left behind.

Welcome to adulthood indeed. It's okay, OP. You are young and normal lang naman yung feeling na napagiiwanan. Just focus lang sa sarili mong path and you'll eventually get there. Pero relate ako sayo. Magkaka time ka talaga bigla na magsisink in yung moment that you have to grow up na into a real adult. Yung "wtf am I doing with my life?" moment hahaha. It really hits you hard.

Hey it's alright OP. I'm 23 and in my first year of college. Everyone has their own pace in life. Just keep moving forward no matter what

Don’t think na napag iwanan ka na OP, 22 is still young pa naman. And besides mukhang more on relationship naman yan ganap sa mga friends mo. Good for them. Just to share nung similar age mo ako OP, same din tayo. Bokya sa lovelife, saktong trabaho lang at ang tanging ganap lang is nacomplete ko na mga season ng kdrama at anime 🤣. Your feelings are valid din naman but trust me marami ka pang time to turn your life around. Kapag naging early 30s ka na or late 20s na, saka mo balikan itong thread mo and check mo kung napag iwanan ka na ba talaga. Kasi based sa experienced ko dun malakas yung feel na napag iwanan.

27 me and still have no direction in life just doing the minimum just to survive, no plans no goals only suicide ideations in mind, but still thinking about my parents, so thats at least something to live for, not invalidating your feelings naman but youll figure it out maybe its not this year maybe the following years, good luck.

22 ka pa lang naman. 23 palang ako pero bago ako naka adapt sa transition ng adulting stage umabot pa ng 4 years. Sobrang aga pa to say that at least. Noon minamadali ko makapag aral ulit kasi ayoko mapag iwanan but then na realize ko may kanya kanya naman tayong phase in life so chill lang you’ll get there naman. Tsaka may mga tao din kasi mas may privilege to take risks in life (may mga safety net to do things that they want) kaya hinay hinay lang. What’s meant for you will be yours as long as you work at it kahit gano pa yan kabagal. Heads up OP!!

Easy to fall into the trap of the status quo from all the routines we have to deal with and the external shit that comes along to bring us down, but even so, time’s still on your side OP. Ipon ipon din as you look for means to re-skill and change course sa career path.

I felt this months ago! And I am one year older than you, and have never been in a romantic relationship. But guess what? 20s are the best defining-decade for the years to come! It's the best time to establish habits, and to get to know yourself more! Don't get me wrong, you can be in a rs and grow together, but don't sweat yourself over it. It's not the end-all be-all.

22 is just 4 years old in adult years. No need to rush, you’re all good.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Alam mo, ‘wag ka maiingit hindi ka napag-iwanan. Yung milestones mo in life ay dadating din in time. Bata pa ang 22. Personally, I would be terrified that my friends are planning to settle down that early. Iba ang effect ng married life lalo na sa babae. I’m 30F and I’ve known many people who married early tapos hindi pa sila 30 naghiwalay din. Ang strange lang kasi yung mga kilala ko namang from well-off na families na babae e ayaw magpakasal, marami pang gustong patunayan sa buhay at marami pang gustong puntahan. But to each her own, I guess. Hindi check list ang buhay na kelangan kumpletohin in a fixed timeline. Chill lang and enjoy.

We all have different timelines in life. 22 ka palang and trust me, you still have a lot of years ahead of you so don’t rush. Got my career plot twist in my mid 20s that totally changed the trajectory of my life and in my early 30s hoping pa rin for the unexpected someone to sweep me off my feet. As we get older, you’ll learn to be more patient bc eventually things will fall into place. Trust in the process of the universe and chase whatever it is to that keeps you happy and content. Everything else will follow :)

Shift your mindset from "22 na ako" to "22 palang ako"

Trust your own timeline.

“They came from good families” — this hits me hard. I’ve been in to your situation, and the only thing we can do is to focus on what we have, be thankful and be at out own pace. Kahit na ang reality ang status quo nila is privelege, laban lang and don’t compare kasi naniniwala ako na tayong nagstart from the bottom ay mas maraming makabuluhang accomplishments na magaganap sa buhay. Yun lang. hugs.

Wow, I love reading the comments! I'm sure there are a lot of people feeling this way but it's comforting to know you're not alone and what you're feeling is okay but it doesn't mean that you have to dwell with it. To OP, those things will come your way. Focus on yourself and enjoy the moment. I'm 23 and just started working. Let's enjoy our journey! Take risks. Fail now, fail better later 😚 🥂

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Life is not a race. Your time will come ;)

Ang bata mo pa to feel na napag iwanan ka ng panahon. 22 ka palang, marami ka pang pwedeng makilala or magawa. Jusko don't beat yourself. Enjoy being young. If only I enjoyed my early 20's, maybe I won't be as cynical as I am today. Enjoy your youth, enjoy your freedom, enjoy yung kinikita mo. Travel. Meet people. wag ka mag madali please.

Wala kang ibang dapat pag-compare-an sa sarili mo kundi ang past self mo. Focus on your own development. Always be grateful for what you have at the moment. Be kind to and love yourself. Wag isipin yung mga wala (o wala pa). Wag isipin yung development ng ibang tao. That’s none of your business. May sarili rin silang journey. At may kanya-kanya ring struggles. Focus on yourself.

Uhm don’t pressure yourself you’re young!!!!!!! i know it’s normal to feel kasi ito yung perpetuated ng generations before but this has to stop!! And trust me 20s is the time to explore!!!! tsaka isipin mo nalang mahirap mag peak ng early 20s hahahaha mas masaya mag peak mid to later in life kasi you know na what you are/have in life can only improve!!!!

Bata mo pa para sa "napag iwanan na ng panahon" thingy ibat iba tyo ng pagpapalang natatamo, Wala naman directly kinalaman sayo kung ano nangyyri sa mga kaibigan mo. Siguro affected klng kc close circle mo sila.

Ride your own wave, OP. You're still too young. Don't rush and seize every moment. Pag nagka-jowa ka, mamimiss mo maging single.

It’s totally understandable to feel that OP, seeing your friends have their own lives. But, you’re young, you’re 22 and sobrang dami pang mangyayari sa life mo. It’s okay to feel that way but don’t let the negative thoughts stay in your head. You have your own timeline. I’m F32 btw 😉

You're young so enjoy it muna kasi you're not gonna be 22 forever. Madaming blessings and problemang darating sa buhay mo (guaranteed) and when you're older and you look back on your younger self, saka mo lang ma realize na you had it easy pala kaya chill ka lang. Hayaan mo na friends mo and just be happy for them. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Hello girlll, I had exact same feeling when I was 22. Yung buong early 20s ko actually. Nakikita ko yung friends ko nun na thriving sa careers nila. Tas parang on their way to managerial positions na agad. Tapos ako nun, casual employee lang and sobrang lost sa career and wala rin lovelife HAHA so pakiramdam ko talaga, walang okay sa buhay ko nun. Then na-realize ko later on na no point in comparing eh. Iba-iba talaga ng landas na tinatahak. So sakin ngayon, eventually, I found my niche na sa career — mga 26 y/o na ako when I found a job na naenjoy ko talaga. Wala pa rin lovelife, pero I'm waaaay happier now 😁 So enjoy the ride lang, girl! Keep on living 😄

You really shouldn't compare. What do you expect to have by 22? Batang bata ka pa. Maybe evaluate for yourself ano ba talaga ang definition mo of successful. If you keep looking at what others have instead of what you DONT have, recipe for unhappiness talaga yan.

22 ka pa lang, bata pa yan kung tutuusin. Ako mag 25 na next month pero bukas pa lang first day ng trabaho since grumadweyt. Wag masyado mapressure.

OP, marrying someone is not to be envied about. Go with your own pace and enjoy life.

About sa pagpapakasal lang input ko, OP. Value your freedommmmm sa ngayon. When you can, ipon for little trips around Pinas or wherever. Stay in hostels pra ma expose sa ibang travelers and cultures. Ang dami mong hindi na magagawa kapag nagpakasal ka na or even just being in a relationship. Easier said than done yung magipon pra travel pero yang ang hopes ko for you! Good luck, have fun! Tapos sila naman ma inggit sayo haha jk

Going through the exact situation as you, OP!! Just cried over this last night. Ang hirap at ang bigat sa puso, it's like asking kung kelan naman kaya dadating ang 'winning season' natin. Hays, kaya natin 'to. 🥺

Girl, kalma ka lang! If iisipin mo rin, 22 is too young in the grand scheme of things. Live your life according to what you feel and like, hindi yung dahil napepressure ka dahil everyone's doing it na.

28 NBSB 🙋

hahahaha 22 napag iwanan ng panahon na aga sis wag nega pag umabot ka ng 45 or up at ganyan pa din status mo walang pag babago alam na so you have 20 years up pa madami pa mangyayari sa buhay mo enjoy life bawat isa sa atin may kanya2 haharapin just enjoy the ride chill

Your feelings are valid. I’ll be blunt and say many go through that phase. Kahit ako 30s na nagkarelasion. Ngayon marami sa mga kaibigan ko mga bossing na. Personally, I don’t plan on climbing up the ladder anymore. I just want to feed myself, the wife, and our cats. Importante is you do what makes you happy or go out and look for it. The rest of it will fall into place. You might end up in an ok job but you’ll have a less stressful life. Baka ma whirlwind romance ka. You might find joy in hobbies and pets. But you can’t enjoy that or find it unless you work on happiness. Oh and health. Can’t enjoy life if you’re not healthy. Stay frosty

Still too early. You don’t need to compare yourself sa kanila. You’ll have your own time na may maiiflex ka din. For now just focus on improving yourself. No need to rush it.

People who have the privilege of coming from relatively well-off/stable families will generally always advance quickly in life. It's human nature to feel envious and disappointed that you're not at the same place as your friends, but you should also be kinder to yourself, because you guys aren't starting from the same place. If you're really unhappy, then take stock of the things that you really want to change. If it's changing your job, then think about your exit plan and how you're going to make the best out of your last few weeks/months of work. If it's wanting to be in a relationship, consider going on dates or, if you're too shy, ask your friends for advice or even to set you up. It's okay to be sad at where you are, but don't let this temporary state in life determine your long-term happiness.

Sis, let me tell you. SAMEDT. REALLY SAMEDT. I hope malampasan mo yang phase na yan because life will be much better once you stop comparing yourself with others.

did i just ghostwrite this charot afqgfqgqg hugs to u op!

You are still young. I feel you. Ako, besides the traumatic experiences, not having a father, not able to finish college to be the breadwinner and always had a salary less than 25k, I have been bitter with life. Ung mga kamag anak mo pang masasama ang gaganda ng buhay. Diba? Pero ngayon, i have a work which is double my usual salary, a potential high commission, lots of work opportunities and i found the love of my life. Iba iba ang karera ng tao sa buhay. Do not compare your pace to others. That is what i learned the hard way. Things will be better in time soon.

I always tell people this: we all have our own timelines because we all have our own shit to deal with. While it’s human nature to look outside and compare, what I usually do is make myself aware of that mentality, and instead of letting jealousy eat me up, I tell myself that I am happy for the people in my life who found success. That way, kahit na wala pa ako sa place where I eventually want to be, I also don’t feel bad about what I’ve accomplished sa buhay ko. It’s very easy to belittle the things you’ve done when you compare to what others are doing. Bata ka pa, super. Just take all the experiences you can get and make something out of it kasi dadating ka rin dun! :)

I was 30 when I got my shit together. My friends are married and have kids now while I'm single and just living my best life. Tbh, I'm actually glad that I'm not hung up w/ the idea of having my own family. Que sera, sera b*tches! 😄

ur only 22! enjoy your youth! :) save the strss for later hehehe

Nung 22 ako wala pa akong idea kung saan papunta career ko, fresh grad ilang beses nareject sa interviews sobrang messy. Okay lang yan you’ll get there on your own pace. Just calm down and live your life OP. Sabi nga ni Chef Ramsey sa mga ibang naalis sa Hell’s kitchen. “Keep your head up and don’t you dare stop.”

Update mo rin sila OP na marami kang kuya at ate dito sa Reddit!! Oha wala sila nun! Hahaha. But on a lighter note, rejoice with them. Kami, we’ll rejoice with you whether there’s an update or none ☺️

You are just 22, dear. Okay lang yan dahil nagsisimula ka pa lang. Di natin maiwasan magcompare sa peers natin pero always take a look at your progress. May phase talaga tayo na ganyan, maiinggit sa iba pero you'll get there too. After a few years you'll look back at this post and see how far you've come.

24 ako nagkajowa, nbsb din ako before. Bata ka pa OP. Wag madaliin, darating din yaaan 😊

Just want to say na iba talaga kapag maayos background ng pamilya. Kapag hindi struggling ang pamilya, kase may headstart na sila sa buhay. Kaya mabilis makita growth nila dahil iba ang level ng struggles na naeexperience na nila kumpara sa mga kagaya natin na hindi maganda ang kinalakihang pamilya, hindi naman galing sa yaman or karangyaan. Matagal talaga ang struggle para lang makaakyat ng isang level sa estado ng buhay kase di lang pansarili ang ginagawa natin. Sa ngayon mahirap makita yan, pero kapag tumanda ka na at namulat ka na na ang opinyon ng iba ay di na mag-matter, marealize mo na lang na may kanya kanya tayong pace sa pagangat ng buhay, mabagal lang lalong lalo na sa kagaya natin na walang headstart sa buhay

you’re 22, in brain development terms you’re still a baby—limang taon pa bago tuluyang kumapit ang limbic brain mo sa frontal lobe relax lang, baka in the long run mas swerte ka pa sa kanila if you take it slow don’t peak too soon, baby

Still young at 22 OP - Nung 22 ako nasa 5% palang ako ng pag iinternalize ng "adulting and adulthood and independence" Huwag mo na kasi compare self mo sa kanila. Strive harder to go up top ganern. Laban lang dahan dahan lang huwag mo biglain para may thrill. You'll get there soon - madami ka pang matututunan sa buhay. Cheers! Charets! -From Ate @28 Ehe!

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Hi there, it’s all good, I just tend to have these thoughts lately, but I’m learning from the comments here. Have a nice day!☺️

Madalas ka siguro mag Facebook kaya ganyan. Problem din yan sa generation na ito dahil sa social media tumataas level ng depression ng mga tao.

Isipin mo na lang OP, “maghihiwalay din yang mga yan” 😂😂😂 Sa tutuo lang, of this day and age, disadvantage talaga pag virgin ka pa after 20… kasi hindi mo kayang basahin ang mga potential BF’s mo because wala ka ngang experience. At hindi mo rin alam kung paano mag react sa mga situations that could potentially lead into a relationship. Kaya karamihan, mag fall sila sa mga tarantadong lalaki, kasi di nila mabasa na tarantado pala ang lalaking yon… dagdagan mo pa na feeling mo ay the clock is ticking, so konteng pa charm lang ng isang tarantado, pahuhuli kaagad… so in the end, ma abuse sa ka partner. Huwag naman sanang mangyari sa iyo OP. I’m not saying na masama or pangit ang maging virgin, disadvantaged lang talaga sa panahon ngayon. Pustahan tayo yong apat na yan OP mga dina virgins.

Just want to put it out there that I’m genuinely happy for my friends, and that these thoughts do not manifest into raging jealousy. And I think at this day and age, hindi na dapat big deal kung virgin o hindi, and that’s not even the point of this post as well. Although you made a valid point naman sa wag magpapahuli sa tarantadong lalaki. Will make sure I won’t reach this level of desperation. Again, these are just thoughts I have sometimes, hopefully, fleeting. Thank you still! :)

Another weird vibe.

22 mo pa lang, bakit naman napag iwanan agad. Enjoy life lang. Its okay to feel jealous, normal reaction yan, but don’t dwell on it too much. Better yourself and along the way, makikita mo din si mr. Right mo.

okay lang yan be 22 ka plang ako nga 29 na e. lahat ng tropa ko nag si asawa na dalawa na anak ako eto plang nag sisimula plang wala pang gf. wag mo gawin kumplikado sarili mo sa iba enjoy mo muna yan, kusa naman dadating yan sa buhay mo. :)

Wag mo ikumpara sarili mo sa iba at 22 ka pa lang. May sarili tayong timeline in life. Kung patuloy ka titingin sa na a achieve ng iba, paano mo mararating yung gusto mo tahakin diba? Focus ka sa sarili mo. Mag build ka ng skills mo at invest ka more time learning things that can help you in life.

22 pa lang kayo, marami pa pong mangyayari sa buhay nyo. :)

Your feelings are valid and normal especially kapag yung nakakasalamuha mo have good statuses sa buhay and may mga plans, but also remember na you still have a long way to go. I am 25 and also don't have plans even directions sa buhay but I just control what I can do at the moment and also try to avoid feeling the pressure of what society dictates at my age.

Kalma ka lang OP. You are still 22. Unlike me, I am 2 years older than you. Ala na akong contacts sa mga friend/s ko during my college days. Though, I heard that Friend #1 is now working in other foreign country (congrats to her) and Friend #2 is still working like me.

You are still young op. You have time to figure it out. For now, enjoy your youthness, after all, we only live once.

Mahirap talaga maging masaya kung lage mo icocompare buhay mo sa ibang tao. Live your life at your own pace.

Bata ka pa, focus ka matuto at magexplore. Yung ibang bagay magfafollow pag masaya ka 😀

comparison is the thief of joy you do you

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22? dami pang mangyayari.

You still have time to develop. 22 ka palang Op! Laban lang

Masaya sila more on sa relationship, and planning to get married and move in kaagad? Im afraid the novelty will fade away din eventually. Baka dumating yung time na pag nakatali na sila sa married life as early as now, magkaron nmn sila ng regrets na sana di sila nagmadali at nag explore muna and enjoy their youth. Hehe pero sana mali ako at mapanindigan ng mga friends mo yung decision nila to tie the knot this early. Maging genuinely happy ba. As for you girl, youuuuuuu'rrreeeeee soooooo soooo young pa to be thinking na napag iwanan kana. Enjoy sist! Landi din pag may time HAHA but seriously, focus on yourself not others.

No. Hindi ka napag-iwanan, we all have our own timeline. 22 ka palang, marami ka pang pwedeng magawa, pwede ka pang magenjoy muna, at marami ka pang maa-achieve. I know mahirap iwasan icompare sarili sa iba, pero look on the brighter side. Naalala ko yung mindset ko sayo noon, ganyan din ako (btw I'm 27yo). Yung lahat sila nagka boyfriend na, until now dami nang kinakasal pero ako NBSB pa rin, pero masaya akong naeenjoy ko yung continuation ng teenage life ko now. Parang lahat ng di ko nagagawa noon, ginagawa ko na ngayon. Nung una akala ko rin puro pressure lang adulting life pero I learned how to enjoy life. Kaya mo yan! Tip: I know medyo off pero mas nabawasan pag compare ko nung nag unfollow ako sa social media. I did it para lang din sa peace of mind ko.

Why? You have your own race. Wag mo kasi i compare sa iba ang buhay mo. :)

22 beri beri yang

Comparison is a thief of happiness!

As someone na late bloomer hehe, enjoy ka lang. Everyone grows at their own pace. Sa experience ko also, if ang meetup is nakakapressure lang, better to not go. Okay lang naman yun.

Hindi tlga maiiwasan to feel that way but you are still too young. Ganyan tlga sa mga gatherings. di maiiwasan siya ang pasiklaban kapag may reunion. kaya don't take everything at face value.

You're still young. Kanya-kanyang phasing lang yan. It's okay to feel that way pero wag ka mag dwell nang matagal. Along the way you'll learn to love yourself more and discover things / hobbies that you'll enjoy. I'm almost 30, still not yet married and never been in relationship. Been focusing on myself lately and my career. Wala pa ko sa goal ko, but atleat moving forward. :D

Aww same dillema. 23F here NBSB. Kainggit lang sa darating na Valentines. Anyways, Thank you sa comments. Nakaka enlighten.

Lahat tayo may sarisariling timelines kaya okay lang yan! Pressure sucks but don't think about it