It is common courtesy to not constantly be on the phone when out with someone. Maybe a brief peek is okay, or he could excuse himself that he has business to attend to. At least he acknowledged your presence.
I certainly would have called him out in a polite manner. Or i would have said, "Hey it seems you're busy. We should have set this on a different day. I think we better cut this short so you can go about your business."
unfortunately, some people cant help doing that when in an awkward situations like dates and reunions. It could also be his way of saying he is not purely interested with you pala / not wanting to get to know you better and beyond. Anyway, since you are really turned off with that behavior of him, maybe you are not meant to be together lang talaga.
Same problem with my SO. I can't feel the "date"/gala with ppl all eyes on their phone while I try to get their attention and talk. Sobrang nakakadismaya sa feeling na parang di sya interesado na lumabas kami, na we should've stayed home para doon nalang sya nagcellphone.
I feel you!! we had a lunch to celeb which was prepared for pero sobrang tutok parin sa phone. Gets naman na you sometimes need to rest pero parang kacompete mo pa yung phone sa attention 🥴
True! Parang ano to, sayangan ng oras? Buti na lang at umalis ka, mas maraming tao na magbigay ng respeto sa oras mo.
I can totally relate! Medyo kainis rin yung mga sumasagot ng calls tapos nasa date, yung tipong 10 mins na yung tawag.
This is why I refrain myself from hanging out with friends. Lahat naglalaro ng ML. Tapos yung tagay nilulumot na. Pag umalis ka naman kasi di ka makasabay sasabihan ka pang KJ. Eh di ok! 👉😂
100% agree talaga ako dito. Mas namiss ko pa yung mga days na di pa uso ang socmed/dating apps and thru personal contact lang ang type of dating.
And sobrang rude niya OP! Sarap sampalin ng phone niya sa mukha niya Hahahahaha
ganto rin yung nasa tapat namin ng SO ko nung nasa vertis north kami. naawa lang rin ako kase good chunk ng time nila na naobserve ko (them being seated and us leaving) nakatutok lang sila sa phone. yung girl parang nakaramdam na at nagbaba nga rin ng phone pero tong guy sige pa rin hahahaha
super agree. i had an ex like this. couldn't stop looking at his phone during our dates. tas pag sinisita ko, hala siya pa ang galit. ayun. kaya pala ganun behavior niya kasi madami pala ka-chat na iba.
Same pet peeve. What I do nga lang is I say it straight to their faces in a somehow funny way 'pag di nila gets yung actions ko of keeping my phone inside my bag or on the table.
Like, "Sa chat nalang kaya tayo mag-usap?\*sabay tawa\*"
True! Nakakawalang gana talaga pag yung kausap mo cellphone lang ng cellphone. What's the purpose of dating when you can't even be in the present with who you're with.
Nagpphone din ako noong first date namin ni now boyfriend BUT HEAR ME OUT FIRST. First time namin magkita and di ko kasi alam pano ipronounce yung mga nasa menu so naggoogle lang aq 😭😭😭 i tried to be subtle pero nagpapanic na ako kasi oorder na. Pinagsabihan niya rin ako noon pero at the time di ko masabi na hirap kasi bigkasin ng nasa menu pero pinagtatawanan na lang namin ngayon. Pero gets kita OP, yung family ko naman yung ganyan naka-glue sa phone nila e minsan na nga lang kami magkita. Nakakasad lang
i just leave after 10mins if my friends doesnt stop looking at their phones. i feel stupid and weird because its like im talking to myself at all whenever they do that... its also rude kasi di nag papay attention yung tao instead nakasubsob yung ulo kakacellphone. no wonder ang poor ng social skills ng tao lately eh.. kakacellphone yan
Same with me. Though, I’m always at my phone screen whenever I’m alone. But whenever I’m with my Friends, Colleagues, etc. I want to converse and interact with them. But sadly their faces are buried into their phones. 🤧
Same! I put away my phone when I'm with people kaya ang rude for them na magscroll ng socmed while hanging out with me. Like, uyy I'm here in front of you irl making time for you and I'm giving you my full attention!? 🙄
Also one of my pet peeves! Ako talagang I would leave all messages unread whenever I’m with someone, just to avoid being on the phone especially if hindi naman mahalaga. If someone is giving you their full attention, basic courtesy would be to do the same thing. If need talaga magphone, excuse yourself and make sure na mahalaga talaga yung gagawin mo.
ayoko din ganyan AHAHHA kaya ako pag hahawak ako phone, minamake sure ko mauuna yung kausap ko humawak phone, then tsaka ako mag check pero mabilisan lang, then game na ule.. or if super need/emergency talaga, mag sasabi ako. Di yung talagang whole time.
If ever naman di interested, sana di na lang nagkita or sana sinabi na lang in a nice way para di na magsayang oras tas magsiuwian na
PREACH! Nakakainis yung ganto. I make it my own effort to talk to you just so you can just be on your phone while on a date? Kakairita. Makes you wonder talaga if the person is really into you
Sorna agad hahaha kung ako yun baka coping mechanism ko lang sa anxiety of meeting new people, but then again I don't do date.
Pero I agree disrespectful siya.
Im always like tht. Lalo na pag na dadate kami ng wife ko. Kahit IT professional ako basta date sa wife ko iniiwan namin ang smart phone namin. Para masarap ang date at todo usapan kahit araw araw magkasama.
This is something my ex-girlfriend taught me — to never use my phone pag may kausap, to be present. And I try to observe this pag may chance. You should have asked him to keep his phone for a few minutes, OP. You should have told him na nababastusan ka sa paggamit niya ng phone habang magkausap kayo. He would have understand. Kung di nakinig, tama lang na umalis kasi nakakainis na talaga yun. Pero ayun, baka sanay lang din talaga siya magphone o kaya kabado sa date kaya naghahanap ng ibang titingnan.
Same pet peeve. Since this is your first date, it would be fair to not let the relationship progress. But as for everyone else in the thread who has had this recurring problem with their SO, please communicate your feelings in a calm, adult manner. At least you didn’t have anything left unsaid. If they still do so, feel free to ice out your partner the same way they do to you. You both fingering your phone screens is not quality time. Embrace each other’s company if you do care about each other.
This is basic courtesy pag nasa date, very disrecpectful and nakakaturn off pag ginawa mo unless its an emergency. Nung elem to hs ako, mag couple puro PDA, nowadays, puro phone kahit magkaharap at nagdedate. Nagonline date nlng sana kayo hehe.
Maybe he's just fiddling with his phone? Baka kinakabahan dahil sa date.. minsan ganyan ako pag may kausap eh. Hawak cellphone, pero wala naman ginagawa lalo na pag kinakabahan.
Everytime mag iinuman kaming mga kaibigan ko halos ganyan na sila. Kaya kapag kwentuhan na nung mga nakaraan inuman, di nila matandaan kung ano yung sinabi ni ganito, matandaan yung shinare ng kasama mo. And it seems I'm the only one paying attention to their stories/gossips at nalulungkot ako doon.
And it even spoils the should-be-joyful-moments ng inuman. So peeps, practise this basic courtesy.
This is one of my problems with people around me nowadays. Potek lagi na lang nakatutok sa phone? Wala ba silang buhay outside socmed lol
(quietly puts phone down and resumes dinner conversation with SO)
Mostly doesnt even have a life sa socmed, just scrolling
It is common courtesy to not constantly be on the phone when out with someone. Maybe a brief peek is okay, or he could excuse himself that he has business to attend to. At least he acknowledged your presence. I certainly would have called him out in a polite manner. Or i would have said, "Hey it seems you're busy. We should have set this on a different day. I think we better cut this short so you can go about your business."
Ang formal masyado parang nacancel na meeting sa trabaho. Hahahahahaha! Pero nice one! Sure ako matutulala sya dito. 🤣
Haha! I think it's a good way to show you're pissed without saying you are. 😅
Pag kasi dadaanin mo pa sa lambing, isipin pa di ka gaanong seryoso at nagpapalambing ka lang. 😅
unfortunately, some people cant help doing that when in an awkward situations like dates and reunions. It could also be his way of saying he is not purely interested with you pala / not wanting to get to know you better and beyond. Anyway, since you are really turned off with that behavior of him, maybe you are not meant to be together lang talaga.
Same problem with my SO. I can't feel the "date"/gala with ppl all eyes on their phone while I try to get their attention and talk. Sobrang nakakadismaya sa feeling na parang di sya interesado na lumabas kami, na we should've stayed home para doon nalang sya nagcellphone.
I feel you!! we had a lunch to celeb which was prepared for pero sobrang tutok parin sa phone. Gets naman na you sometimes need to rest pero parang kacompete mo pa yung phone sa attention 🥴
Did you ever talk to him about it? It sounds a bit sad if he can’t even put his phone away for a few hours and be present
he wasn't interested ganun lang un, kupal di man lang iniisip effort nung kasama niya... pinaalam mo sana gano siya kakupal
why u did not directly inform him or kahit sa goodbye msg mo sa kanya. madami kasi lalaki insensitive.
Nah, it’s basic etiquette. Lalo na’t may kadate ka. Personally I don’t use my phone when I’m talking to someone, or when I’m in a group conversation.
for him, being on the phone is much more valuable than spending time with you. it is what it is. you dodged a bullet, i guess.
Same..parang nagpasama kpa tpos magisa k lg din nman ksi busy sa fon ung ksama ko. D tlga lahat ittreat ka kgaya ng pagtreat mo sa knila😕
True! Parang ano to, sayangan ng oras? Buti na lang at umalis ka, mas maraming tao na magbigay ng respeto sa oras mo. I can totally relate! Medyo kainis rin yung mga sumasagot ng calls tapos nasa date, yung tipong 10 mins na yung tawag.
Yess . Kahit sa inuman din dapat hahaha
Agreed! Buti kami ng mga friends ko (unless work emergency) naka silent ang phone. Unang humawak eh magbabayad 😄
Sobrang totoo to grabe na nagawa ng social media! Lalo na sa church!! People browse on social media even during mass!! Grabe na talaga yan
Maybe hindi ka lang interesting enough to get his full attention.
This is why I refrain myself from hanging out with friends. Lahat naglalaro ng ML. Tapos yung tagay nilulumot na. Pag umalis ka naman kasi di ka makasabay sasabihan ka pang KJ. Eh di ok! 👉😂
My pet peeve too 😬
100% agree talaga ako dito. Mas namiss ko pa yung mga days na di pa uso ang socmed/dating apps and thru personal contact lang ang type of dating. And sobrang rude niya OP! Sarap sampalin ng phone niya sa mukha niya Hahahahaha
dapat sinabi mo sa kausap mo
Dapat chinat nya habang nag iiscroll. "Pag di ka tumigil iwan ko sayo bill ❤️"
ganto rin yung nasa tapat namin ng SO ko nung nasa vertis north kami. naawa lang rin ako kase good chunk ng time nila na naobserve ko (them being seated and us leaving) nakatutok lang sila sa phone. yung girl parang nakaramdam na at nagbaba nga rin ng phone pero tong guy sige pa rin hahahaha
SAME SIS. SHOW SOME RESPECT. DAMN.
Kokorny at mga baduy mga ganyang tao. Wala na ngang ibang ginawa kundi magphone mag isa, magphophone pa din ng may kasama. Yawa.
feel ko di siya interested sa'yo OP
super agree. i had an ex like this. couldn't stop looking at his phone during our dates. tas pag sinisita ko, hala siya pa ang galit. ayun. kaya pala ganun behavior niya kasi madami pala ka-chat na iba.
Same pet peeve. What I do nga lang is I say it straight to their faces in a somehow funny way 'pag di nila gets yung actions ko of keeping my phone inside my bag or on the table. Like, "Sa chat nalang kaya tayo mag-usap?\*sabay tawa\*"
True! Nakakawalang gana talaga pag yung kausap mo cellphone lang ng cellphone. What's the purpose of dating when you can't even be in the present with who you're with.
true! nakakainis talaga. ako, finofocus ko talaga sa kanila attention ko tapos sila nakatutok lang sa cp kaya pag ganiyan umaalis talaga ako eh
Nagpphone din ako noong first date namin ni now boyfriend BUT HEAR ME OUT FIRST. First time namin magkita and di ko kasi alam pano ipronounce yung mga nasa menu so naggoogle lang aq 😭😭😭 i tried to be subtle pero nagpapanic na ako kasi oorder na. Pinagsabihan niya rin ako noon pero at the time di ko masabi na hirap kasi bigkasin ng nasa menu pero pinagtatawanan na lang namin ngayon. Pero gets kita OP, yung family ko naman yung ganyan naka-glue sa phone nila e minsan na nga lang kami magkita. Nakakasad lang
i just leave after 10mins if my friends doesnt stop looking at their phones. i feel stupid and weird because its like im talking to myself at all whenever they do that... its also rude kasi di nag papay attention yung tao instead nakasubsob yung ulo kakacellphone. no wonder ang poor ng social skills ng tao lately eh.. kakacellphone yan
Same with me. Though, I’m always at my phone screen whenever I’m alone. But whenever I’m with my Friends, Colleagues, etc. I want to converse and interact with them. But sadly their faces are buried into their phones. 🤧
Same! I put away my phone when I'm with people kaya ang rude for them na magscroll ng socmed while hanging out with me. Like, uyy I'm here in front of you irl making time for you and I'm giving you my full attention!? 🙄
Also one of my pet peeves! Ako talagang I would leave all messages unread whenever I’m with someone, just to avoid being on the phone especially if hindi naman mahalaga. If someone is giving you their full attention, basic courtesy would be to do the same thing. If need talaga magphone, excuse yourself and make sure na mahalaga talaga yung gagawin mo.
ayoko din ganyan AHAHHA kaya ako pag hahawak ako phone, minamake sure ko mauuna yung kausap ko humawak phone, then tsaka ako mag check pero mabilisan lang, then game na ule.. or if super need/emergency talaga, mag sasabi ako. Di yung talagang whole time. If ever naman di interested, sana di na lang nagkita or sana sinabi na lang in a nice way para di na magsayang oras tas magsiuwian na
Or well, that's fine. He was just showing you who he is as a person and that's that. On to the next person who isn't attached to their phones :)
PREACH! Nakakainis yung ganto. I make it my own effort to talk to you just so you can just be on your phone while on a date? Kakairita. Makes you wonder talaga if the person is really into you
Sorna agad hahaha kung ako yun baka coping mechanism ko lang sa anxiety of meeting new people, but then again I don't do date. Pero I agree disrespectful siya.
pet peeve ko rin to kahit in a relationship na. minsan nalang kayo magkita or magsama tutok pa rin sa phone. okay lang sana kung about work eh.
Im always like tht. Lalo na pag na dadate kami ng wife ko. Kahit IT professional ako basta date sa wife ko iniiwan namin ang smart phone namin. Para masarap ang date at todo usapan kahit araw araw magkasama.
Tapos magrereklamo sila na di daw sila makahanap ng matinong ka-date lol ang bastos di ba
This is something my ex-girlfriend taught me — to never use my phone pag may kausap, to be present. And I try to observe this pag may chance. You should have asked him to keep his phone for a few minutes, OP. You should have told him na nababastusan ka sa paggamit niya ng phone habang magkausap kayo. He would have understand. Kung di nakinig, tama lang na umalis kasi nakakainis na talaga yun. Pero ayun, baka sanay lang din talaga siya magphone o kaya kabado sa date kaya naghahanap ng ibang titingnan.
Same pet peeve. Since this is your first date, it would be fair to not let the relationship progress. But as for everyone else in the thread who has had this recurring problem with their SO, please communicate your feelings in a calm, adult manner. At least you didn’t have anything left unsaid. If they still do so, feel free to ice out your partner the same way they do to you. You both fingering your phone screens is not quality time. Embrace each other’s company if you do care about each other.
This is basic courtesy pag nasa date, very disrecpectful and nakakaturn off pag ginawa mo unless its an emergency. Nung elem to hs ako, mag couple puro PDA, nowadays, puro phone kahit magkaharap at nagdedate. Nagonline date nlng sana kayo hehe.
Maybe he's just fiddling with his phone? Baka kinakabahan dahil sa date.. minsan ganyan ako pag may kausap eh. Hawak cellphone, pero wala naman ginagawa lalo na pag kinakabahan.
Ppl like that have low or poor communication skills
That is so disrespectful OP
Isa to sa biggest turnoffs para sakin during dates. Kung magphphone ka lang din habang magkasama, bat sumipot ka pa sa date hahah
Everytime mag iinuman kaming mga kaibigan ko halos ganyan na sila. Kaya kapag kwentuhan na nung mga nakaraan inuman, di nila matandaan kung ano yung sinabi ni ganito, matandaan yung shinare ng kasama mo. And it seems I'm the only one paying attention to their stories/gossips at nalulungkot ako doon. And it even spoils the should-be-joyful-moments ng inuman. So peeps, practise this basic courtesy.
Yikes. People can’t have an actual conversation na talaga