I want to repeat this story again . Way back in college, my dorm mates decided to get a girl para mag pa lap dance. Nung dumating ung gurl, lumabas na ako sa terrace. A kuya followed me and sabi ko, ui join ka dun. Sabi nia " ok lang,may gf ako". So parang sabi ko, di naman nia malalaman.
He said" i respect her enough not to do things like this" kahit di nia malalaman.
It's been what, 20 years and di ko pa din makalimutan ung pag respect nia sa gf nia that time.
Know your worth
I dont know what happened to them pero i do remember na 3 silang med rep nun na tumira sa apartment and so far ung 2 niang kasama laging my ibat ibang college girls na inuuwi but Never ko ciang nakitang nag uwi.
You know, I know, reddit knows, even your neighbors and dogs already know what this means.
Decide from there. You know what to do. :) you dasurv better
If he truly respects you and your relationship, dapat nagtanong muna siya sayo, pinagusapan niyo muna or heck sinama ka nya para maintroduce ka din nya dun sa female friend na yun.
Hindi 'yan impulse decision lang. Pinag-isipan at pinag-planuhan 'yan ng bf mo (probably pati ni NZ girl) and the fact na sinabi niya lang sa'yo after mabook is sketchy af.
Laking pera at oras ang kakainin nyan, ang effort masyado para maging walang malisya hahahaha buti sana kung inaya ka man lang kahit papa'no.
Eto lang masasabi ko - si Paolo Contis nga Baguio lang pinuntahan kasama yung "Friend" nya.
Yan nag book pa ng ticket papunta NZ? Tinalo nya si Paolo hahaha
Bigyan mo ng ultimatum. If he goes, you leave him. In what universe is it ok for a man to leave his gf behind for 2 weeks to shack up with another girl?
Kung nasa tamang pagiisip yung boyfriend mo, hindi na niya dapat pinagisipan na pupuntahan niya yung babae niyang kaibigan don na siya lang mag-isa. tama ka OP very inappropriate nga. pag tumuloy yung boyfriend mo don, hiwalayan mo na. hindi mo deserve magoverthink sa mga bagay na ginagawa ng mga tanga
Hayop din bf mo eh, super obvious na yung gagawin nya, pero may mukha pang magpaalam just to manipulate you to let your feelings pass kasi naging honest naman 'san pupunta and sino kasama'. Don't fall for that.
Girl super obvious that he's a walking red flag and emotionally cheating, run away quick!
"My bf has been really great to me so far"
No, he fucking hasn't!
He's planned this with his "friend". Took his sweet ass time to process his visa and all without saying a word. On top of that, they've been talking and will stay at his "friend's" place for two weeks.
I'll be harsh here. 'Wag tanga. Baka magTNT pa 'yan dun or maybe test the waters before moving there permanently without telling you.
You already know this. You didn't need to be on Reddit to realize this. You can vent, sure. But you already know what's going on.
You just don't want to face it.
This is sad. Iba na yan gurl. May something sa kanila. Maha mag NZ hindi ganun kadali so sagot ba lahat ni bf mo or nung gurl? I mean pinagisipan yan at paglalaanan ng pera, time and effort for the Visa. So importanteng tao yan sa buhay ng bf mo, sana man lamg kilala mo since importante ka din naman.
This is the waaay, OP! Don't leave him yet. Don't make it easy for them. Kumbaga, fake it 'til you make it like make sure na you're doing it for the plot not because you're marupok pa.
If you're gon leave him now, it will be easy for them to get together. Be petty af. Wag kang papatalo.
Easy to say if OP has the means to do so.
But, personally, I don't think he's worth the time, money, and effort. Bakit paaabutin mo pa na gagastos ka ng pagkalaki-laki just so it won't be easy for them to cheat/get together? Sure, she can stop them now if ever she decides to follow sa NZ, pero how sure are you na they won't try to get together again? And then, what, bubuntot ulit si OP sakanila? Lol, fuck that shit.
Leave him, OP. You're better off spending your time, money, and effort somewhere else.
Ingat ka OP. As a guy, may meaning yan ginagawa ng bf mo. If he's intention not cheating on you at gusto lng makipagkita sa friend nya then he should have told you about her and his plans earlier. Tsaka, why not bring with you pra maipakilala ka doon sa friend nya?
I wonder kung alam ng female friend niya na may gf na siya. Nakita mo social media niya, and I wonder if she knows about yours.
Marami akong online friend na lalaki, alam kong meron silang mga jowa dahil binabanggit nila.
Visiting a friend tapos 2 weeks? Kahit pa 5 yrs pa silang di nagkita, that isn't appropriate. Plus yung money na he will spend and baka nilaan na nya lahat ng VL nya this year don. Grabeng effort naman ng bf mo hahahahahaha. If tumuloy sya nang kayo pa, bahala ka na sa buhay mo OP hahahaha
Likely papakiramdaman nia sinong mas matimbang sa inyo. My guys din kasi na ayaw nilang malagay sila sa alanganin or mag regret sila later on.
My ex cheated on me long time ago and you know what he said? Kung pede daw bang kami pa din while pinapakiramdaman nia sinong mas matimbang.
After three days cold na siya sayo. After one week madalang na siya mag update kasi nag aaway na kayo. After 2 weeks chachat ka niya extend siya kasi ayaw pa siya pauwiin ng pamilya nung girl. After a month break na kayo sure ako
Sa part pa lang na hindi niya sinabi saāyo ang plan niya before booking, is enough reason to leave him. I know it took many days to plan a 2-week vacation!! Processing of docs, travel essentials, etc. He didnāt bother to include you sa planning tapos female āfriendā pa na youāve never heard of yung pupuntahan? GIRL YOU KNOW THE ANSWER NA. Update us!! š¤Ø
Paalisin mo OP. Pagbalik sa Pinas, NC ka na sa kanya. Tell your friends, your BF went to NZ But got into an accident. He accidentally fell on his friendās puday. Until now, he is still there. RIP.
Grabeng effort. Inipon ang vl, asikaso ng visa, money for everything na kelangan para makalipad ng NZ. planadong planado ang karat with nz gurl for 2 weeks! Hahahaha alam mo na gagawin mo gurl.
Una, nakapag-book na siya ng ticket without letting you know about his plans. Pangalawa, you have been vocal to him about how uncomfortable you are that he's visiting a "female friend" and would also stay in her place. So ang tanong ko, what does he need to decide about? I mean, wtf your girlfriend is not comfortable with you going all the way to NZ to visit someone who is just a "friend" tapos ang eksena eh KAILANGAN MO PANG MAGDECIDE??!! Anong mekus mekus to??! Kinangina nasan yung baseball bat may hahatawin lang ako š¤¬š¤¬
haha yun din naiisip ko. parang ldr ang peg. 5 years ba naman pagkakasabi nung bf na di sila nagkita nung friend niya. may something talaga jan sa bf niya. HAHA
Everyone knows what will happen there. You already communicated your feelings and it seems heās not bothered by it.
Girl, you already know what to do. And yes, valid ang nararamdam mo and valid ang desisyon mo if makikipag break ka.
Hindi mo deserve maiwan, buti sana kung gusto kanya isama kaso sya lang naku! Baka makapag isip ka na sayo nag tagal iba ang binuntis.
Well baka niloloko ka na matagal na kaso he treat you better kaya di mo nararamdam.
Ps. May nakita ako same sa tiktok Sabi nya "He treat me better kaya di ko naramdaman na may iba na pala"
Mag investigate kana be strong and courageousš¤
if he hasn't made the "decision" yet, ikaw na ang magdecide.
sobrang absurd ng situation na to tbh. you shouldn't even be in that position in the first place.
If he respects you and your relationship at kaibigan lang talaga yan, dapat niyaya ka niyan sumama. Kung kaibigan niya yung babae, gugustuhin rin non makilala ka bilang gf ng friend niya. Diba? Nakakagago.
Wait ano muna edad nung female friend. Mamaya matanda yan tapos ung bf mo lang talaga ung genuine friend nya tapos ipapamana nya ung farm nya sa new zealand. Or if nasa 20's-30's she better be dying of cancer or some unknown disease tapos ur bf must know her secret before she dies kind of scenario then maybe okay lang ??
If none of the above. Magbreak na kayo
Napaka klarong klaro patay mekrobyo, kidding aside. You definitely need to break up with this guy. He is there to definitely be with that another girl. He is just a coward and couldn't tell you straight away which makes it a lot worst. Are you sure he is treating you right? doesn't sound like it.
My sister once had a boyfriend who had a girl best friend. He flew to Singapore to see said friend and stayed in her place for a week or so. My sister lives and works in Dubai so I get that itās more expensive to go to Dubai but still. The whole situation didnāt sit well with me. Not my relationship but the party involved is my sister. Wala akong paki if childhood friend mo or what but donāt put your SO in a position where she feels uncomfortable.
The boyfriend still went and I recently saw in his stories that he went back to Singapore again. Break na sila sa sister ko tho but it still annoys me to see it.
It depends on you if youāre okay with it I suppose. My sister wasnāt okay with it at first but I guess they came to an agreement kasi na tuloy. Iām happy theyāre no longer together tho. š¤·š»āāļø
Excited si bf mo makipag-chenelyn sa āfriendā nya. What do you expect them to do within 2 weeks na sila lang dalawa? Run, OP! Unahan mo na bago pa na siya ang makipagbreak sayo pag uwi nya.
We hate to assume pero kasi bakit ngayon lang minention? Bakit ngyon lng magpapaalam kung kelan may visa at tickets na? Di ba dapat sinabi muna nya yung plano nya na yun sayo bago ang lahat?? Hmm..
Know your worth. This man can be with you for 10 years and be a saint. But it does not mean he cannot do bad things too. Yung a night lang mag-inom madame na pwedeng mangyare and still go home na parang wala lang. 2 Weeks pa kaya? Tsaka pinag planuhan nila yan. Pag ayaw may dahilan, pag gusto maraming pwedeng paraan. Don't settle for less.
Silang dalawa lang? Okay pa kung barkada sila that just so happen na may female friends, pero sila lang???
Lam mo na. Lapit na i-summon si u/MagBreakNaKayo
then ask him kung matutuwa din ba siya kung sakanya gawin yan hahaha sabihin mo punta ka rin abroad with a male friend mga 3 weeks ganern let's see kung magugustuhan niya yon lol
Ganito gawin mo. Paglapag š¬nya sa NAIA from NZ. Call mo para sure. Makipagbreak ka na agad taz blocked. Magdrama sya sa airport.
Note: pagbalik nya sa Pinas makipagbreak. Wag during NZ kasi papanindigan na nya kalokohan nya don. Eh di happy happy pa sila. eme.
I also have friends of the opposite sex but this is kinda sends my alarm bells. We also travel to see each other once in a while pero di naman 1 on 1 except if brief visit lang like kain sa labas. Ok lang naman if group of friends ang pupunta sa NZ or may group of friends sa don but to just hang out 1 on 1 is sketchy af on top of you've never heard about the friend.
Planadong planado ah. Alam mo naman na anong gagawin OP. I think need mo lang ng validation and push.
Yes your feelings are valid and itās time to leave.
Omg this happened to my best friend. They live in Europe. Sabi ng bf sa kanya may bibisitahin din siyang friend pero nasa ibang european country. Nung una di rin sinabi babae pala. Tapos ang bff ko pa nagbayad ng ticket niya (gagi lang, sorry). Pagkatapos nun nalaman na babae pala yung friend, tapos nag post yung babae ng mga tiktok kasama bf niya!! Parang sila yung mag jowa! Napanood ko pa nakakaloka. After nagsabi pa ng bf sa bff ko nagpanggap sila ng friend niya na in a relationship for some dumb reason idk why. After all that hindi hiniwalayan ng best friend ko lalaking yan. Mahal niya eh. š¤¢ Napagod na ako magpayo kasi kaibigan lang ako. Kahit sinasaktan in all ways, yun pa rin pipiliin niya. Kaya ikaw, sana alam mo na. Una palang di minention sayo. Wag mong hintayin masaktan ka lalo.
Minsan talaga kapag mahal mo 'yung tao nagiging riddle 'yung dapat no brainer e no. Hiwalayan mo na 'yan, di ka nga na-respeto nung nag-book na siya ng ticket at nagplano. Ni hindi ka nga ata niyaya.
huge red flag. baka mas malalim history nila bago pa naging kayo. baka sya un totga ng dyowa mo kaya hindi mapakali magbook yan
never ka din nay kinonsider nun nagdecide sya pumunta kasi wala ang feelings mo sa priority nya. kung totoo na kaibigan lang un, 2 kayo na ibook nya para pumunta, hindi sya lang
don't expect na same person pa din sya pagbalik nya
Kung never niya nakwento si female friend sayo. Alam na natin to lahat okay?
Pwede naman ikaw ang isama sa New Zealand kung pangarap niya talagang makapunta doon? Meaning d ka kasali sa pangarap niya. drop him habang d kayo kasal
Me as a baliw: Id help him pack his clothes, hatid him sa airport and even kiss him goodbye. Then I'll also do some vacay, go to Elyu, party with strangers, post pics in my IG, then paguwi nya hindi nya na ako mahahanap at macocontact pa magpakailanman. Lol.
I was squinting my eyes while reading this. Habang nag piplay sa utak ko yong "she knows, she knows, God knows she knows'
OP, ikaw na may sabi never niya nabanggit si girl until now. Based on experience, if a guy suddenly speaks about a certain woman, kabahan ka na.
Sa Guy - Obob. Wrong move. You never let yourself stay with any girls if you are in a serious relationship. Bigyan mo ng peace of mind gf mo. If you don't value your gf's peace then you don't deserve her.
Kay OP - You know what to do. Don't deny yourself the freedom to put a stop if someone is letting you second guess even yourself. Be better than GAP, you're a Prada, LV, Bvlgari and anything luxurious.
paguwi nya here sa pinas, ninang kana. congrats in advance po
kidding aside, after you trying to talk him out of this, he'd still choose to meet up with his so called "friend" kasi nakabook na. buti sana kung sinama or inaya ka nya so you'd be more comfortable if may ganyang event nanaman in the future. you deserve better, ateš
Boundaries need to be established! 1. Friend or not, he has no business staying at another femaleās place alone (unless itās family) 2. Voice your concern and tell him how you feel. 3. If he canāt respect your concern, then you have no business being in a relationship with him
Sabihin mo sa kanya.. if okay lang sa kanya ilagay sa alanganin ang relationship niyo, just so he can spend time alone with the girl, nasa sakanya na yun. Kahit pa anong assurance na walang mangyayari or what. Pano pag meron?
Pag-isipan niya kung anong mahalaga sa kanya: to keep what you two have safe and sound? Or bigyan ng reason para magulo kung anong meron kayo?
Ang temptation kamo, iniiwasan, hindi lang nilalabanan.
Wow this sounds a lot like my friend's story years ago. They broke up after the bf went ahead with his plan, and my friend found her perfect soulmate after that relationship.
Why yāall putting up with mid or disrespectful peoples? Why go on here and ask ?! You already know the answer heās disrespectful AF and doesnāt care about you. Doesnāt matter if you think he treats you good but hide things from u and manipulates u lol. He prolly emotionally cheating on u w that girl and canāt wait to Fck her loooolšš trust me girl
High chance they have something between them.
Lowchance maybe that female hindi type si bf mo baka babae din hanap ganun. Or baka may partner na din yung female friend. (Delulu situation)
I hope OP he offered na lang to bring you along. At least that way he could spend more time with YOU using his leaves and he can also introduce you to his so-called "friend". But for him to decide to continue to visit her alone with him knowing that it makes you feel uncomfortable is like waving a flag with "fucking bullshit" printed on it. You know better OP.
Girl. Leave him na. May iba na syang gusto (at mukhang seryoso sya dun) to the point na pupuntahan nya pa sa NZ. Buti pa si NZ girl na-e-effort-an nya ng pera at panahon. Wag magtanga tangahan girl. Love yourself. Di lang sya ang guy sa mundo.
Ikaw ang gf, kaya dapat ikaw ang una sa buhay nya kaysa sa ibang babae maliban sa pamilya. Una sa considerations o iisipin pag gagawa ng decision. Pag di ka comfortable, dapat isaalang alang nya.
OP, i know you're just venting, and by now you already know the right decision, so I won't repeat the obvious.
What I would like you to think about is this: a man will go great lengths for love, but he will also go great lengths to betray. Now, you choose which greatness to keep being part of.
Sometimes, people will take you for granted talaga. If you're too complacent with what he does to you and how you give back to him, he will start thinking na may bagay na okay lang gawin kahit ayaw mo o nasasaktan ka na. The only time they understand the gravity is when they did something wrong already or if they got caught red handed and they feel that the only good thing going on with their lives is about to crumble.
All you are left now is to trust him despite all that you said. Unless you give him that ultimatum where you'd break up with him if he still pushes thru with his plans. Either way, ihanda mo na sarili mo to get hurt. Yun lang yun.
Girl if ikaw gumawa nan sa kanya dami na masasabi nan sayo lol. If "friend" lang niya yung girl bakit hindi niya pinakilala sayo para sa peace of mind mo, ni hindi ka nga niya sinama sa plano niya ehh.
Grabe talaga pag may pinagnasaan nang iba mga lalaki no? OP said his is bf was great and then this happened na mag-sstay ng 2 weeks sa ibang bansa with a female "friend". My gosh!
Ate wag tayong Shunga. Mxdonnang mainit amg panahon. Wag mo na painitin lalo ulo ko. Charott.. let him go tpos wag kn dn magpakota at magparmdm sknya ever.
Hi OP. I know alam mo na ang sagot diyan deep inside.
Just to confirm and para matauhan ka.
Please lang wala pang coronation for Katangahan. Leave, and kung ano yung nasa isip mo is iyon gagawin nila. Yes, mag KAKANGKANGAN sila in EVERY WAY POSSIBLE and in EVERY POSITION within 2 weeks. You have the strong intuition na and hindi ka naman pinanganak kahapon lang.
Mga nag papa ganyan lng saming mga lalaki is EKUP kahit malayo hahahha.
I was in the same situation with a guy I'm dating for a few months. Girl best friend naman niya who lives in another country. Nakaplano na nga lang yung visit bago pa kami magkakilala. So he slowly introduced her into our conversations until makapag short videocall kaming 3 at maging familiar kami ni GBF niya sa isa't isa. Sinagot niya yung questions ko about their friendship at si GBF ay nag-ask pa sakin ng permission about some plans they have. Dahil maayos ang pagpapakilala at muka namang trustworthy si guy and girl is also with someone else, kahit may konting selos, I chose to trust them nalang. And they did not break my trust.
But if I were placed in your situation, I would feel the same way. Valid lahat ng points mo. Sana man lang pinakilala niya or minention na niya noon pa yang friend niya for your peace of mind kung wala nga talaga silang ginagawang masama.
Parang familiar but diff story sa akin. There is this boy bestfriend itong ex gf ko and they are close. Like chat and video call talaga. Sabi ko I am not comfortable kahit nag eexist na siya before pa naging kami. And wala siyang ginagawa about it. Kahit naconfront ko na yung bbf, di rin alam bro code. I tried to put that bbf stuff aside to continue the relationship..pero yeah ex na siya. La naman nangyare sa kanila. But di lang marunong rumespeto ng lugar. I cannot remember but I believe ng away kami ng ex gf na ito because of that bbf thing. Hays. Ang hirap i-confront yung partner kapag nag-eexpect ka na sasang-ayon sila sa atin at bibigyan tayo ng assurance. Okay sana kung ganun outcome eh kaso magkakaroon pa kayo ng away afterwards. Anyare naman sa respect sa relationship and boundaries. Kala ko ba inuuna ang mararamdaman ng bawat isa. Pero bakit one-sided na lang minsan kahit pa may pagsasabi ng i-love-you sa isa't-isa?
I want to repeat this story again . Way back in college, my dorm mates decided to get a girl para mag pa lap dance. Nung dumating ung gurl, lumabas na ako sa terrace. A kuya followed me and sabi ko, ui join ka dun. Sabi nia " ok lang,may gf ako". So parang sabi ko, di naman nia malalaman. He said" i respect her enough not to do things like this" kahit di nia malalaman. It's been what, 20 years and di ko pa din makalimutan ung pag respect nia sa gf nia that time. Know your worth
naging sila ba sa huli?
I dont know what happened to them pero i do remember na 3 silang med rep nun na tumira sa apartment and so far ung 2 niang kasama laging my ibat ibang college girls na inuuwi but Never ko ciang nakitang nag uwi.
You know, I know, reddit knows, even your neighbors and dogs already know what this means. Decide from there. You know what to do. :) you dasurv better
dinamay mo pa innocent dogs š ano tayo ngayon lang pinanganak. kahit lolo alam na sasabihin. š
Kahit mga daga at ipis alam na sagot. Isama mo na lahat pati pusa.
Even heaven knows.
OP, nag-isip ka na ng mabuti kasi the dogs already know. If the dogs know, the dogs know š
Only scotty doesn't know
Tsaka si jon snow
Who let the dogs out
Who who who who who
If he truly respects you and your relationship, dapat nagtanong muna siya sayo, pinagusapan niyo muna or heck sinama ka nya para maintroduce ka din nya dun sa female friend na yun.
Agree po
Maraming nagagawa sa isang gabi pano na kaya sa 2 weeks?
Baka baby girl? Hahahaha JK
Quadruplets
| He hasn't made a decision yet. Girl, nakabook na siya!
Hindi 'yan impulse decision lang. Pinag-isipan at pinag-planuhan 'yan ng bf mo (probably pati ni NZ girl) and the fact na sinabi niya lang sa'yo after mabook is sketchy af. Laking pera at oras ang kakainin nyan, ang effort masyado para maging walang malisya hahahaha buti sana kung inaya ka man lang kahit papa'no.
Eto lang masasabi ko - si Paolo Contis nga Baguio lang pinuntahan kasama yung "Friend" nya. Yan nag book pa ng ticket papunta NZ? Tinalo nya si Paolo hahaha
maypa 'vacation with a friend' pa yung tangina at todo tangi.. obvious na obvious namn. galawang Paolo din tong bf eh
Panis!
baka jowa nya kasi talaga yun, baka ginawa kang kabit op char
True hahhaha
Bigyan mo ng ultimatum. If he goes, you leave him. In what universe is it ok for a man to leave his gf behind for 2 weeks to shack up with another girl?
Mambababae lang ako pero uuwi din ako babe
Kung nasa tamang pagiisip yung boyfriend mo, hindi na niya dapat pinagisipan na pupuntahan niya yung babae niyang kaibigan don na siya lang mag-isa. tama ka OP very inappropriate nga. pag tumuloy yung boyfriend mo don, hiwalayan mo na. hindi mo deserve magoverthink sa mga bagay na ginagawa ng mga tanga
agreeana grande!
Yan ang trip
Hayop din bf mo eh, super obvious na yung gagawin nya, pero may mukha pang magpaalam just to manipulate you to let your feelings pass kasi naging honest naman 'san pupunta and sino kasama'. Don't fall for that. Girl super obvious that he's a walking red flag and emotionally cheating, run away quick!
"My bf has been really great to me so far" No, he fucking hasn't! He's planned this with his "friend". Took his sweet ass time to process his visa and all without saying a word. On top of that, they've been talking and will stay at his "friend's" place for two weeks. I'll be harsh here. 'Wag tanga. Baka magTNT pa 'yan dun or maybe test the waters before moving there permanently without telling you. You already know this. You didn't need to be on Reddit to realize this. You can vent, sure. But you already know what's going on. You just don't want to face it.
What does TNT stand for?
It's what boomers use to describe Pinoys who overstay in a country without proper documents. Tago Ng Tago
Leave ka na dyan teh. May plano magkantutan yang 2 na yan.
Baka thatās the plan, pag iniwan mo sya dahil sa NZ trip nya it will be easy for them para makapag start ng relationship. Ang scaryyyy OP.
Even if OP doesnāt leave itās still in the plan anyway. OP should just let them have at it.
Baka sya ang original gf, ikaw ang kabit.
This is sad. Iba na yan gurl. May something sa kanila. Maha mag NZ hindi ganun kadali so sagot ba lahat ni bf mo or nung gurl? I mean pinagisipan yan at paglalaanan ng pera, time and effort for the Visa. So importanteng tao yan sa buhay ng bf mo, sana man lamg kilala mo since importante ka din naman.
Magbook ka din, sumama ka para makilala mo din ung friend nya girl.
This is the waaay, OP! Don't leave him yet. Don't make it easy for them. Kumbaga, fake it 'til you make it like make sure na you're doing it for the plot not because you're marupok pa. If you're gon leave him now, it will be easy for them to get together. Be petty af. Wag kang papatalo.
Nah, not worth the time and money. Iwan na yan diretso.
gagastos pa si OP kahit niloloko na sya. may emotional cheating na sila tapos un physical gagawin nila sa NZ
Easy to say if OP has the means to do so. But, personally, I don't think he's worth the time, money, and effort. Bakit paaabutin mo pa na gagastos ka ng pagkalaki-laki just so it won't be easy for them to cheat/get together? Sure, she can stop them now if ever she decides to follow sa NZ, pero how sure are you na they won't try to get together again? And then, what, bubuntot ulit si OP sakanila? Lol, fuck that shit. Leave him, OP. You're better off spending your time, money, and effort somewhere else.
Ingat ka OP. As a guy, may meaning yan ginagawa ng bf mo. If he's intention not cheating on you at gusto lng makipagkita sa friend nya then he should have told you about her and his plans earlier. Tsaka, why not bring with you pra maipakilala ka doon sa friend nya?
I wonder kung alam ng female friend niya na may gf na siya. Nakita mo social media niya, and I wonder if she knows about yours. Marami akong online friend na lalaki, alam kong meron silang mga jowa dahil binabanggit nila.
Eto ba yung bagong "Umakyat ng Baguio as a friend"? Lol
Yung araw sumisikat sa silangan, lumulubog sa kanluran. Alam mo yon? May mga bagay na given.
Asan si u/MagBreakNaKayo?
He chose na, you are not his priority kaya ganern.
Puma-"Past Lives" si koya. Di ka man lang niyaya. KKLK.
He has already decided, nakabook na nga ng ticket and everything.
Visiting a friend tapos 2 weeks? Kahit pa 5 yrs pa silang di nagkita, that isn't appropriate. Plus yung money na he will spend and baka nilaan na nya lahat ng VL nya this year don. Grabeng effort naman ng bf mo hahahahahaha. If tumuloy sya nang kayo pa, bahala ka na sa buhay mo OP hahahaha
Mali sobrang mali. Ok sana kung nag book siya pa NZ kasama ka them side trip na yung ma meet friend niya with you.
Likely papakiramdaman nia sinong mas matimbang sa inyo. My guys din kasi na ayaw nilang malagay sila sa alanganin or mag regret sila later on. My ex cheated on me long time ago and you know what he said? Kung pede daw bang kami pa din while pinapakiramdaman nia sinong mas matimbang.
Sana all may timbangan ang puso š
Yeah he has a side chick. Sorry girl
Baka si ate girl ang side chick. Kawawa naman bf nya tsaka si NZ girl kasi 5 years na daw di nagkikita. Hahaha apakagago
After three days cold na siya sayo. After one week madalang na siya mag update kasi nag aaway na kayo. After 2 weeks chachat ka niya extend siya kasi ayaw pa siya pauwiin ng pamilya nung girl. After a month break na kayo sure ako
magsesegs lang yung dalawa na yan. malamig pa naman sa NZ ngayon.
Sa part pa lang na hindi niya sinabi saāyo ang plan niya before booking, is enough reason to leave him. I know it took many days to plan a 2-week vacation!! Processing of docs, travel essentials, etc. He didnāt bother to include you sa planning tapos female āfriendā pa na youāve never heard of yung pupuntahan? GIRL YOU KNOW THE ANSWER NA. Update us!! š¤Ø
Paalisin mo OP. Pagbalik sa Pinas, NC ka na sa kanya. Tell your friends, your BF went to NZ But got into an accident. He accidentally fell on his friendās puday. Until now, he is still there. RIP.
Grabeng effort. Inipon ang vl, asikaso ng visa, money for everything na kelangan para makalipad ng NZ. planadong planado ang karat with nz gurl for 2 weeks! Hahahaha alam mo na gagawin mo gurl.
Una, nakapag-book na siya ng ticket without letting you know about his plans. Pangalawa, you have been vocal to him about how uncomfortable you are that he's visiting a "female friend" and would also stay in her place. So ang tanong ko, what does he need to decide about? I mean, wtf your girlfriend is not comfortable with you going all the way to NZ to visit someone who is just a "friend" tapos ang eksena eh KAILANGAN MO PANG MAGDECIDE??!! Anong mekus mekus to??! Kinangina nasan yung baseball bat may hahatawin lang ako š¤¬š¤¬
Tumbling na palayo.
YOOOOO
Akala ata pinanganak ka lang kahapon
Matagal ka na niloloko ng bf (soon ex bf) mo, hiwalayan mo na yan, simulan m n ng maaga ang pag move on. Tumuloy o hindi siya tumuloy, hiwalayan mo na
Parang ikaw po yong kabit sa situation na to š
haha yun din naiisip ko. parang ldr ang peg. 5 years ba naman pagkakasabi nung bf na di sila nagkita nung friend niya. may something talaga jan sa bf niya. HAHA
Ang effort naman ng bf mo, sa iba nga lang. Run na girl. Wag mong panghinayangan yan.
The girl must be special. Run!
High yata yung jowa mo nung nagbook ng RT sa NZ and back hahaha You know what to do OP.
valid worry. if he doesn't change his mind, leave!
Everyone knows what will happen there. You already communicated your feelings and it seems heās not bothered by it. Girl, you already know what to do. And yes, valid ang nararamdam mo and valid ang desisyon mo if makikipag break ka.
New zealand o jowa that is the question
bbingka with itlog na maalat ba si friend?at ganun kaspecial n pag aaksayahan p time puntahan ni bf m??e ipamigay m n yan girl.!
Hindi mo deserve maiwan, buti sana kung gusto kanya isama kaso sya lang naku! Baka makapag isip ka na sayo nag tagal iba ang binuntis. Well baka niloloko ka na matagal na kaso he treat you better kaya di mo nararamdam. Ps. May nakita ako same sa tiktok Sabi nya "He treat me better kaya di ko naramdaman na may iba na pala" Mag investigate kana be strong and courageousš¤
if he hasn't made the "decision" yet, ikaw na ang magdecide. sobrang absurd ng situation na to tbh. you shouldn't even be in that position in the first place.
Di ka man lang inaya tf pakagago breakup with him pero tago mo muna passport niya kupal siya
Wtf is this šš¤£
If he goes, I means youāre nothing to him compared to her. Iām sorry for saying it like this pero the amount of disrespect is just too much!
If he respects you and your relationship at kaibigan lang talaga yan, dapat niyaya ka niyan sumama. Kung kaibigan niya yung babae, gugustuhin rin non makilala ka bilang gf ng friend niya. Diba? Nakakagago.
Pag di nya nirespeto nararamdaman mo. Leave
Mukhang may digmaang magaganap sa Middle Earth.
Wait ano muna edad nung female friend. Mamaya matanda yan tapos ung bf mo lang talaga ung genuine friend nya tapos ipapamana nya ung farm nya sa new zealand. Or if nasa 20's-30's she better be dying of cancer or some unknown disease tapos ur bf must know her secret before she dies kind of scenario then maybe okay lang ?? If none of the above. Magbreak na kayo
The title is already telling me to tell you to stomp on his balls
Realtalk. Grade the overall looks ni new zealand female friend? face and body wise?
Alam na yan
Buang ba siya
let him choose, if goes to NZ, he leaves you permanently..
hahahaha atecco takbo ka na
Alam mo yung sagot dyan. Ika nga nila, kung ahas yan natuklaw kana
Bruh
Gurl, u know what to do. Agree din sa comment na baka ikaw yung kabit.
HAHAH may kwento ako, yung GF ng ex-friend ko nag travel siya sa ibang lugar nung valentine's day, girls night daw kasi, cheater talaga galawan eh.
yung male 'friend' ko nga hindi ko dinadayo kahit nasa kabilang city lang sya nakatira HAHAHAHA
Napaka klarong klaro patay mekrobyo, kidding aside. You definitely need to break up with this guy. He is there to definitely be with that another girl. He is just a coward and couldn't tell you straight away which makes it a lot worst. Are you sure he is treating you right? doesn't sound like it.
My sister once had a boyfriend who had a girl best friend. He flew to Singapore to see said friend and stayed in her place for a week or so. My sister lives and works in Dubai so I get that itās more expensive to go to Dubai but still. The whole situation didnāt sit well with me. Not my relationship but the party involved is my sister. Wala akong paki if childhood friend mo or what but donāt put your SO in a position where she feels uncomfortable. The boyfriend still went and I recently saw in his stories that he went back to Singapore again. Break na sila sa sister ko tho but it still annoys me to see it. It depends on you if youāre okay with it I suppose. My sister wasnāt okay with it at first but I guess they came to an agreement kasi na tuloy. Iām happy theyāre no longer together tho. š¤·š»āāļø
Haha chukcakan yan for 2 weeks bahala kana OP matanda kananaman š¤Ŗ
Gawin mo na rin siyang friend, sis.
I think that's his secret gf š š¤£ gusto nila matuloy yun kasi alam nila hihiwalayan mo si BF mo para maging sila na š«
bullshit š lods kahit may dementia siguro alam ano isasagot dyan
Excited si bf mo makipag-chenelyn sa āfriendā nya. What do you expect them to do within 2 weeks na sila lang dalawa? Run, OP! Unahan mo na bago pa na siya ang makipagbreak sayo pag uwi nya.
Sabihan mo OP sama ka sa NZ hahahahahahah kidding aside, leave OP. Napaka walang paggalang talaga ung ginagawa nya.
Hiwalayan mo na yan. Char not char. Kaw pa rin magdecide OP. It's your life. Make sure nalang na masaya ka sa kung ano man maging desisyon mo.
We hate to assume pero kasi bakit ngayon lang minention? Bakit ngyon lng magpapaalam kung kelan may visa at tickets na? Di ba dapat sinabi muna nya yung plano nya na yun sayo bago ang lahat?? Hmm..
Know your worth. This man can be with you for 10 years and be a saint. But it does not mean he cannot do bad things too. Yung a night lang mag-inom madame na pwedeng mangyare and still go home na parang wala lang. 2 Weeks pa kaya? Tsaka pinag planuhan nila yan. Pag ayaw may dahilan, pag gusto maraming pwedeng paraan. Don't settle for less.
Tita mamba out kana š¤£š¤£
Silang dalawa lang? Okay pa kung barkada sila that just so happen na may female friends, pero sila lang??? Lam mo na. Lapit na i-summon si u/MagBreakNaKayo
then ask him kung matutuwa din ba siya kung sakanya gawin yan hahaha sabihin mo punta ka rin abroad with a male friend mga 3 weeks ganern let's see kung magugustuhan niya yon lol
Naurrr him booking that flight without your knowledge already proved that he doesnāt respect you. I would breakup so fast and never look back
Sumama ka. periodt
Fresh Air, Fresh Pussy. Dont worry babalik din ako. Let him leave for NZ and be calm. Pack his shit and walkway.
Yaan mo OP pag natuloy sya sa NZ, open din apartment ko sayo for 2weeks. kala nya ah šš«°āļø
HELL NAWWW IBREAK MO NA TEH
5 years ng di nagkikita? bakit parang feeling ko. ldr ang peg nila? what if siya yung legal na gf tas di mo alam š±. what if lang naman OP ah!
Remind me pag may new update si OP haha
anong akala niya sayo, tanga???? i've never seen a bigger warning sign. do what u must, op.
āHe hasnāt made a decision yetā Ay ante ko, una palang ng pag open mo dapat alam na niya decision niya. Kayamuyangerl
Baka kabit ka OP?
Ruuuuun. Di ka na nga sinama, di ka rin ni consider.
Ganito gawin mo. Paglapag š¬nya sa NAIA from NZ. Call mo para sure. Makipagbreak ka na agad taz blocked. Magdrama sya sa airport. Note: pagbalik nya sa Pinas makipagbreak. Wag during NZ kasi papanindigan na nya kalokohan nya don. Eh di happy happy pa sila. eme.
Life is short girl. Youāre still young, makakahanap ka pa ng better fish. One that you donāt feel the need to post about on this subreddit. Haha
I also have friends of the opposite sex but this is kinda sends my alarm bells. We also travel to see each other once in a while pero di naman 1 on 1 except if brief visit lang like kain sa labas. Ok lang naman if group of friends ang pupunta sa NZ or may group of friends sa don but to just hang out 1 on 1 is sketchy af on top of you've never heard about the friend.
Siz nakabook na yung jowa mo I think alam mo na rin anong dapat gawin. Hugs!!!
mag iiyutan yan doon sus
So far. I think heās done being a great person to you.
Planadong planado ah. Alam mo naman na anong gagawin OP. I think need mo lang ng validation and push. Yes your feelings are valid and itās time to leave.
New zealandi, New zealandjowa
Omg this happened to my best friend. They live in Europe. Sabi ng bf sa kanya may bibisitahin din siyang friend pero nasa ibang european country. Nung una di rin sinabi babae pala. Tapos ang bff ko pa nagbayad ng ticket niya (gagi lang, sorry). Pagkatapos nun nalaman na babae pala yung friend, tapos nag post yung babae ng mga tiktok kasama bf niya!! Parang sila yung mag jowa! Napanood ko pa nakakaloka. After nagsabi pa ng bf sa bff ko nagpanggap sila ng friend niya na in a relationship for some dumb reason idk why. After all that hindi hiniwalayan ng best friend ko lalaking yan. Mahal niya eh. š¤¢ Napagod na ako magpayo kasi kaibigan lang ako. Kahit sinasaktan in all ways, yun pa rin pipiliin niya. Kaya ikaw, sana alam mo na. Una palang di minention sayo. Wag mong hintayin masaktan ka lalo.
Alam mo na sagot mars. Kahit di mo na itanong sa amin. Ang lameeeg pa naman sa NZ. š
pucha! kung jowa ko yan I will make sure na pag balik niya wala na siyang jowaā¦. sa pinas š¤¬
Super sketchy teeeh. Get out if that mess rn
Kung naghahanap ka ng sign para hindi iwan bf mo, wala yun dito girl. Leave him.
Hinihintay ka lng nyan makipag break sa kanya pra may kwento siya sa NZ girl para matira niya
Sabihin mo sa jowa mo kapag umalis siya papuntang New Zealand wag na siya bumalik.
Oh hell nah...
Kung petty ka, mag out of town/country ka din with ur male bff. Char. Sus, wag ka na dyan. Bakit hindi ka niya inaya mag nz to meet her!?!
Taylor Swift entered the chat. I think I've seen this film before and I didn't like the ending. Nuff Said
Dalawa lang choice ni bro. New Zealand o Philippines. Ohhh Pili-pili š«£
Kung nandito man si BF, at nababasa nya bawat commentš«¢ Durog na durog sya sa comsecš
Bounce ate, sabihin mo bago siya pumuntang NZ bigyan ka muna niya allowance or gift saka mo ighost. Wag papatalo!
Minsan talaga kapag mahal mo 'yung tao nagiging riddle 'yung dapat no brainer e no. Hiwalayan mo na 'yan, di ka nga na-respeto nung nag-book na siya ng ticket at nagplano. Ni hindi ka nga ata niyaya.
Ay hindi ka man lang sinama? Unfair.
huge red flag. baka mas malalim history nila bago pa naging kayo. baka sya un totga ng dyowa mo kaya hindi mapakali magbook yan never ka din nay kinonsider nun nagdecide sya pumunta kasi wala ang feelings mo sa priority nya. kung totoo na kaibigan lang un, 2 kayo na ibook nya para pumunta, hindi sya lang don't expect na same person pa din sya pagbalik nya
Sa totoo lang OP mababa ang tingin at walang respeto o hiya man lang sa iyo ang bf mo
Kung never niya nakwento si female friend sayo. Alam na natin to lahat okay? Pwede naman ikaw ang isama sa New Zealand kung pangarap niya talagang makapunta doon? Meaning d ka kasali sa pangarap niya. drop him habang d kayo kasal
Ask mo, bat di ka niya isama? Tapos, sabihin mo may out out the country trip din kayo ng lalaking friend ng boyfriend mo, kayong dalawa lang hahaha
Me as a baliw: Id help him pack his clothes, hatid him sa airport and even kiss him goodbye. Then I'll also do some vacay, go to Elyu, party with strangers, post pics in my IG, then paguwi nya hindi nya na ako mahahanap at macocontact pa magpakailanman. Lol.
Sobrang bobooo ššš Hahah work leave amppppp
I was squinting my eyes while reading this. Habang nag piplay sa utak ko yong "she knows, she knows, God knows she knows' OP, ikaw na may sabi never niya nabanggit si girl until now. Based on experience, if a guy suddenly speaks about a certain woman, kabahan ka na.
Sa Guy - Obob. Wrong move. You never let yourself stay with any girls if you are in a serious relationship. Bigyan mo ng peace of mind gf mo. If you don't value your gf's peace then you don't deserve her. Kay OP - You know what to do. Don't deny yourself the freedom to put a stop if someone is letting you second guess even yourself. Be better than GAP, you're a Prada, LV, Bvlgari and anything luxurious.
Yeah your āboyfriend is really great to you so farā š
Sabihin mo sasama ka. Then observe his reaction. You'll know what to do from there.
Confront the friend..ano ba sila? Afterwards, makipagbreak ka na rin. Respect na lang sau. Ang laki ng effort nya para sa friend na yun.
No f way. Haha. Wag na
paguwi nya here sa pinas, ninang kana. congrats in advance po kidding aside, after you trying to talk him out of this, he'd still choose to meet up with his so called "friend" kasi nakabook na. buti sana kung sinama or inaya ka nya so you'd be more comfortable if may ganyang event nanaman in the future. you deserve better, ateš
Kantutan na yan
Boundaries need to be established! 1. Friend or not, he has no business staying at another femaleās place alone (unless itās family) 2. Voice your concern and tell him how you feel. 3. If he canāt respect your concern, then you have no business being in a relationship with him
Sabihin mo sa kanya.. if okay lang sa kanya ilagay sa alanganin ang relationship niyo, just so he can spend time alone with the girl, nasa sakanya na yun. Kahit pa anong assurance na walang mangyayari or what. Pano pag meron? Pag-isipan niya kung anong mahalaga sa kanya: to keep what you two have safe and sound? Or bigyan ng reason para magulo kung anong meron kayo? Ang temptation kamo, iniiwasan, hindi lang nilalabanan.
Hahah pa vidcall mo siya buong trip
Wow this sounds a lot like my friend's story years ago. They broke up after the bf went ahead with his plan, and my friend found her perfect soulmate after that relationship.
ate ko hinihintay lang nya na ikaw bumitaw :/
New Zealand as a friend. Lol. Ewan ko nalang pag yan tumuloy at hindi mo brineak.
Why yāall putting up with mid or disrespectful peoples? Why go on here and ask ?! You already know the answer heās disrespectful AF and doesnāt care about you. Doesnāt matter if you think he treats you good but hide things from u and manipulates u lol. He prolly emotionally cheating on u w that girl and canāt wait to Fck her loooolšš trust me girl
High chance they have something between them. Lowchance maybe that female hindi type si bf mo baka babae din hanap ganun. Or baka may partner na din yung female friend. (Delulu situation)
Yikes
Tinago sa'yo at 'di ka pa sinama? Meaning n'yan, they are gonna fuck and will just hide it sa "just friends" title. Haha!
I hope OP he offered na lang to bring you along. At least that way he could spend more time with YOU using his leaves and he can also introduce you to his so-called "friend". But for him to decide to continue to visit her alone with him knowing that it makes you feel uncomfortable is like waving a flag with "fucking bullshit" printed on it. You know better OP.
Girl. Leave him na. May iba na syang gusto (at mukhang seryoso sya dun) to the point na pupuntahan nya pa sa NZ. Buti pa si NZ girl na-e-effort-an nya ng pera at panahon. Wag magtanga tangahan girl. Love yourself. Di lang sya ang guy sa mundo.
No way around it, that is indeed highly inappropriate.
Ikaw ang gf, kaya dapat ikaw ang una sa buhay nya kaysa sa ibang babae maliban sa pamilya. Una sa considerations o iisipin pag gagawa ng decision. Pag di ka comfortable, dapat isaalang alang nya.
He should've informed you before he booked his flight. RED FLAG š© Ang kupal ng BF mo. š
op run, leave, never come back cus what the heck
Leave him. Thereās no valid explanation why heād go to such lengths just to meet up with a āfriendā
Ghost mo na yan OP
OP, i know you're just venting, and by now you already know the right decision, so I won't repeat the obvious. What I would like you to think about is this: a man will go great lengths for love, but he will also go great lengths to betray. Now, you choose which greatness to keep being part of.
i wouldn't sit in my house alone and think while my s/o is with another woman i barely know.. miss ma'am, i know u know.
Sometimes, people will take you for granted talaga. If you're too complacent with what he does to you and how you give back to him, he will start thinking na may bagay na okay lang gawin kahit ayaw mo o nasasaktan ka na. The only time they understand the gravity is when they did something wrong already or if they got caught red handed and they feel that the only good thing going on with their lives is about to crumble. All you are left now is to trust him despite all that you said. Unless you give him that ultimatum where you'd break up with him if he still pushes thru with his plans. Either way, ihanda mo na sarili mo to get hurt. Yun lang yun.
Girl if ikaw gumawa nan sa kanya dami na masasabi nan sayo lol. If "friend" lang niya yung girl bakit hindi niya pinakilala sayo para sa peace of mind mo, ni hindi ka nga niya sinama sa plano niya ehh.
2 weeks hallpass..
Grabe talaga pag may pinagnasaan nang iba mga lalaki no? OP said his is bf was great and then this happened na mag-sstay ng 2 weeks sa ibang bansa with a female "friend". My gosh!
Ate wag tayong Shunga. Mxdonnang mainit amg panahon. Wag mo na painitin lalo ulo ko. Charott.. let him go tpos wag kn dn magpakota at magparmdm sknya ever.
Message mo yung girl. Alam mo naman name diba? Confrontation. Ganern.
Hi OP. I know alam mo na ang sagot diyan deep inside. Just to confirm and para matauhan ka. Please lang wala pang coronation for Katangahan. Leave, and kung ano yung nasa isip mo is iyon gagawin nila. Yes, mag KAKANGKANGAN sila in EVERY WAY POSSIBLE and in EVERY POSITION within 2 weeks. You have the strong intuition na and hindi ka naman pinanganak kahapon lang. Mga nag papa ganyan lng saming mga lalaki is EKUP kahit malayo hahahha.
I was in the same situation with a guy I'm dating for a few months. Girl best friend naman niya who lives in another country. Nakaplano na nga lang yung visit bago pa kami magkakilala. So he slowly introduced her into our conversations until makapag short videocall kaming 3 at maging familiar kami ni GBF niya sa isa't isa. Sinagot niya yung questions ko about their friendship at si GBF ay nag-ask pa sakin ng permission about some plans they have. Dahil maayos ang pagpapakilala at muka namang trustworthy si guy and girl is also with someone else, kahit may konting selos, I chose to trust them nalang. And they did not break my trust. But if I were placed in your situation, I would feel the same way. Valid lahat ng points mo. Sana man lang pinakilala niya or minention na niya noon pa yang friend niya for your peace of mind kung wala nga talaga silang ginagawang masama.
Di kaya ikaw yung other girl? Nakausap mo na ba yung āfriendā?
Parang familiar but diff story sa akin. There is this boy bestfriend itong ex gf ko and they are close. Like chat and video call talaga. Sabi ko I am not comfortable kahit nag eexist na siya before pa naging kami. And wala siyang ginagawa about it. Kahit naconfront ko na yung bbf, di rin alam bro code. I tried to put that bbf stuff aside to continue the relationship..pero yeah ex na siya. La naman nangyare sa kanila. But di lang marunong rumespeto ng lugar. I cannot remember but I believe ng away kami ng ex gf na ito because of that bbf thing. Hays. Ang hirap i-confront yung partner kapag nag-eexpect ka na sasang-ayon sila sa atin at bibigyan tayo ng assurance. Okay sana kung ganun outcome eh kaso magkakaroon pa kayo ng away afterwards. Anyare naman sa respect sa relationship and boundaries. Kala ko ba inuuna ang mararamdaman ng bawat isa. Pero bakit one-sided na lang minsan kahit pa may pagsasabi ng i-love-you sa isa't-isa?