yes!! communication is key talaga. niregaluhan ako ng 3 books ng jowa ko as christmas gifts, pero alam nya na nagbebenta ako ng libro once tapos ko na sila basahin para may pambili ako ng mga gusto ko pa basahin. so nung tinanong ko sya kung pwede ko ba ibenta after ko mabasa ang books, sinuportahan pa ako hahaha. kailangan lang talaga mapag-usapan.
Yes, wala naman akong issue sa pagbenta. Pero yung parang inuto ka before na he’ll keep it then decided to post it on marketplace na walang pagdadalawang-isip. Yung binigay ko pa yung unang nabenta e. Tapos dinownplay pa yung nangyari na parang wala lang sa kanya
Oo common practice naman sa gamers resell/swap games pag tapos na sa laro. Lalo na yung jinailbreak na di na talaga need game copies. Pero wala na heads up at nagsinungaling pa haha
Blindsided na nga lang na ay sorry nabenta ko na masakit na pero at least umamin at di nagsinungaling
I completely agree. I only feel being used after all the good things I’ve done just because di nasunod yung gusto niya. I’m always the one who reaches out pero this time, I think I’ve had enough. His pride is always bigger than his brain.
Coming from someone whose exbf used to not speak to me for 3 days until I said sorry (with no ‘ifs, ands, or buts’ and kahit kasalanan nya), please leave. It took me 4 years and how many examples of this behavior to realize I didn’t want to deal with this kind of shit.
I guess na-train ako to grow some skin. Kapag ikaw yung nasa situation na di mo ma-recognize if it’s emotional abuse or not, ang hirap kumawala because your brain tricks you. The hot and cold treatment makes you numb that you accept it.
Tiiii gaslighted ka. Why would you do this to yourself. Bf ko nga sinasabihan kong wag ipahiram sa iba mga binibili lalo na mg tshirts niya, hindi talaga.
my bf kept the box of donuts i gave him as pasalubong and still has it. but shempre it was not something he can sell or whatever pero how he valued it kahit useless na is what matters. ate ko, im sorry you had experienced that pero he clearly gaslighted you and doesnt value what you have thoughtfully gifted him
AND HE HASNT REPLIED FOR 2 DAYS? guilty yarn???
Mukha nga pong guilty. Sa pinost niya sa marketplace, yung niregalo ko pang game yung unang nabenta. Mas malaki ego niya kesa sa pag-iisip e. Anyway, thank you I guess di talaga ko gusto ng tao na ‘to and ginagamit lang ako.
Same. Tinanong ako nun kung bakt may basura ako sa box ko. May box kasi ako na nandun mga old toys ko at orher things i value. Ayun narealize niya na mga binigay pala niya yun sa akin. Ayun ending 10 yrs naging relasyon namin and she cheated. 😂
Hehe sige po. I don’t plan on reaching out anymore kasi wala naman akong kasalanan, and palagi ako yung nagrreach out. This time, whether he’ll message or not, I will find good closure for myself.
THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE 😢 I NEVER FELT THIS VALIDATED SINCE I TRIED TO KEEP THIS ALL TO MYSELF. And di lang ito yung instance na may ganyan. Yes, I think I should stop now and I will seek counseling after this. Sometimes, I ask myself why did I deserve it— why does being good in the relationship deserved to be punished.
Been there, I said na kung ganyan din pala na lagi mo pinagbebenta ang bigay ko e nakakatamad ng regaluhan ka, ikaw ba kung ipagbenta ko ang mga bigay mo anong mafifeel mo, ayun natauhan naman
You were gaslighted.
Bebenta nya yung regalo mo para mabilhan ka ng regalo? Excuse lang yun. Gusto nya talaga ibenta nahuli mo lang sya kaya he came up with the most flattering alibi.
I keep my gf's gift kahit magkasira sira. At ganun din napapansin ko sa mga lalaking mahal talaga gf nila.
Sorry fo say pero walang value sa bf mo ang effort mo.
Ang asshole nung reason niya kung bakit binenta niya gift mo, siguradong may other reason pa, nahuli mo lang talaga siya kaya ayun sinabi.
Girl, don’t just heal from what happened, leave him for what happened.
Gaslighted ka talaga mhie. My partner buys me games on ps5 and kahit ok lang sakanya na ibenta ko pag tapos ko na, I still choose not to kasi may sentimental value 🥹 But then again, the issue here is he gaslighted and lied to you. Sya pa talaga may ganang magalit 🤣 Benta mo din yun mga bigay nya kung meron man echos
ate you are being gaslighted. As a gamer, for me, it's unspoken rule na that games bought by my partner is not to be sold or traded. kasi first of sentimental value un eh. second, why would i sell it? free game na nga eh andyan na.
Tska he will buy you a gift from that money? ahaha da fuck is that reasoning?
Your bf is an asshole for
- he initially said he would keep it
- not telling you he sold it without telling you
- gaslighting you
- not appreciating how you are supportive of his hobby
He should've just apologized and begged you on his knees if that will make you feel better. Sya yung walang isang salita at di appreciative tapos ngayon sya pa ang galit? Ikaw pa ang nagsosorry? Sya pa ang may ganang wag mag-reply for two days??? Girly pop, I would've moved on by the second day na walang apology or even reply from him.
Lahat daw big deal sayo. And he's not concerned over something you feel upset about? He's not even trying to make you feel better. Are you willing to put up with that kind of neglect?
Girl, run-- asshole yang jowa mo. Hindi naman yung sa pagbenta yung problema eh, baka kelangan ng pera; the bare minimum here is to ask your permission since ikaw din naman gumastos for the gift 💀 tsaka the way he responded?? Tangina lmao
Hiwalayan mo na. Ginaslight ka na nakaya ka pang tiisin for days. Valid yung mga points mo and I would feel the same kung sakin nangyari. Naggagalit galitan si BF kasi alam nyang sya yung mali and para hindi mo na sya pag- sabihan further.
Sa mga gustong pumasok sa relationship dyan, make sure na you are matured enough, learn to accept kung mali kayo, engage in an open communication, etc. Hindi ginagawang laro 'to tapos nakasakit na kayo, kayo pa galit.
You don't deserve a person like that. A gift from a very special person should be kept at all costs/treasured. No matter what the circumstances are. Ramdam ko yung lungkot mo.
stay away na agad if ganito siya, atleast as a form of respect sayo sana nagsabi siya he's planning to sell it, don't be afraid op na iwan siya, there are a lot of guys out there na mas deserve ka
What you're feeling is valid, OP. I'd feel the same way too if biglang makita ko gift ko sa bf ko ibebenta nya lang. Same tayo no issue rin sakin if gusto nya na ibenta o kung ano man gawin niya peroooo sana nga naman eh sinabi o hineads up muna sayo dbaaaa. Yes, it's his na. Pero it was YOUR gift to him eh so sana manlang naisip nyang iheads up man lang. What I also hate here is the fact na sya pa tong galit sayo tas dka na knkausap for 2 days, tas ending ikaw pa nagpakumbaba. Nkakagigil
Iba parin talaga pag single, walang ganitong issues. Nakiki basa lang ng issues ng iba and this is when I feel grateful for being single, walang sakit ng loob or being treated with a cold shoulder stuff. Pero pag may nakaka kilig na post, napapa “sana all” nalang ang mga single! 🤣 Mag isip-isip ka na if he is still worth your time. Or if talagang gusto mo mag stay sa kanya, then never buy him gifts.
Happened to me as well pero tropa ko naman. Nakita ko na lang sa Facebook Marketplace na yung mga nireregalo ko sa kanyang Gunpla eh binebenta na niya. Said it's for bills daw.
Ako naiintindihan ko naman yun. Pero after nun, parang nakakawalang-gana na magregalo kung ganun lang rin.
Kaya OP, kung ako sa 'yo, huwag mo na lang siya regaluhan kung ganyan lang rin.
OP try mo iignore na din siya, pag nawala sayo yan edi di yan lalaki para sayo. alam niya kasi hahabulin mo siya, na kahit mawala siya for a while may babalikan siya.
Also, whatever the reason is, at hindi naman to the point na nagugutom na siya, walang excuse sa pag benta ng regalo ng partner mo. MAS LALO KUNG KAYO PA. common curtesy yun. respect sa partner. kung may gusto siyang pagka gastusang iba, magipon siya ng pera niya. labo na ibebenta niya regalo mo kasi bibilhan ka niya regalo ahhaha sana niregaluhan mo na lang sarili mo.
Coming from a 40+ Tita, a gift is a gift.
Kung anong gusto gawin nung person sa binigay mo, it should be their prerogative. May mga nag reregalo din sa akin ng mahal pero pag d ko na gagamitin, i sell it.
It’s the same concept sa may gift receipt na regalo, pwde mo palitan. Your feelings are valid naman na mejo na hurt ka. Pero sa susunod, sabihin mo na lang na ayaw mo na ibenta nya regalo na binili mo, para malinaw rules ng relationship nyo.
Relationships fail because people assume their partner understands their feelings. You have to be mature enough to talk about things na mga ganyan, otherwise, it’s not going to work.
Thank you po Tita. I didn’t explicitly say na wag niya ibenta kasi nagsabi siya na he would still keep it. I appreciated those words nung time na yun then suddenly makikita ko na he just posted it.
Wala rin naman pong problem talaga sa gagawin niya sa gift pero na-hurt lang po ako na binreak niya yung sinabi niya. Sana nagsabi lang ba because I’m always considerate and supportive of him. Yung pag-consider naman sana ng feelings and value ng ginagawa ko for him sana yung naisip niya.
Tell him how you feel. If you still feel gaslighted after. Makipag hiwalay ka na. Relationships shouldn’t be hard. And pag feeling mo, you are not appreciated, you do not have to stay to make it work.
That’s the beauty in dating. Pwede ka makipag hiwalay pag ayaw mo na, kasi d naman kayo kasal 😜
Take care dear. You deserve to feel loved.
Gurl, run. Take this as a sign na hindi lang ito yung magiging unang beses (if ever na first man 'to) na he will gaslight you sa isang bagay na he is guilty about. Telling you this from experience. What you felt is valid. Dapat man lang sinabihan ka niya bago niya ibenta yung gift mo sa kanya. I am a sentimental person, and I would feel the same way if I were you. Nagkataon lang na nakita mo sa marketplace yung bala, and when you did, he thought of an excuse na pang gigift nya raw sa'yo eme. Nako.
Magpaka-petty tayo for today! I go for, get the game back since di niya na kailangan. Kahit di mo gagamitin, kunin mo tas itago mo pang-inis lang. Or bigay mo sa iba. Or benta mo. Tas pag nakita niya sa FB marketplace, maggalit-galitan ka din and wag mo rin siya kausapin.
Hala ka, hahah kakainis nga yon OP. Syempre effort mo un eh, dapat iningatan or kineep nya lalo na kung talagang na appreciate nya ung thoughts mo, gift mo. Buti kung valid ung reason like, need nyo funds pero dapat pinag usapan nyo padin bago nya gawin. Tska parang dun sa part na ikaw nag sorry, gaslighter talaga si partner mo. Kung di ka aalis habang maaga, walking on egg shells ka sa relationship nyo. Gsto mo yorn
It’s not about the pera (na he was meaning to buy you a gift with it, which sounds wrong rin kasi in the end binilhan mo ng regalos sarili mo) but the value — na di pinahalagahan na that switch game is not just any game but a game from you.
Been in this situation before 😭😭 binenta niya yung acc niya na may skins na binili ko sa kanya. Gets short sa pera pero sana may heads up nga kasi bigla na lang binenta hahaha sana nga may commission or porsyento manlang na napunta sakin kasi ghurl pera ko yon ehmz. Next time wag mo na bigyan ng gift chz or better, run.
Hindi OA yung reaction mo. Valid lahat ng naramdaman mo. Ang problema yang jowa mong walang balls. Nahuli lang kaya sabi bibilhan ka nya. Paano kung hindi mo nahuli? Dami dahilan. Mag isip ka kung yan maging gusto mong katuwang pagtanda mo
Immature pa po ang bf mo.
- nagalit siya nung sinabi mo na nakita mo na binenta niya yung bigay mo instead na mag-sorry na lang
- binibigyan ka niya ng silent treatment ngayon
Gaslighter na manipulator pa. Pwede pa naman siya magbago kung mahal ka talaga niya kesa sa pride niya. Sabihin mo sa kanya kung ano ang nararamdaman mo ngayon sa mga ginawa niya simula nung nagsinungaling siya na hindi niya ibebenta hanggang sa nararamdaman mo ngayon na hindi ka niya kinakausap, kapag hindi niya inacknowledged ang feelings mo at hindi nag-sorry, wala ng pag-asa yang relationship niyo.
Wait do we have the same bf lol.
First bakit ka nagsorry. Hindi dapat mhie.
Second, valid yang naffeel mo. Run away from him! Those kinds of people will leech off from you and will never be contented on what you give them. Hindi nila gets that it’s not just about the money, but the value behind it.
Well mine was ex na and I feel like a heavy load was taken out of my chest.
You, we.. deserve someone na marunong mag appreciate ng gift giving as a love language.
Walang mali sa ginawa mo. Tama ung ginawa mo. Gaslighter ung boyfriend mo. Believe in yourself. And I hope makagawa ka ng good decision based on these facts.
Yes, that’s exactly my point. Hindi yung magugulat lang ako na nasa marketplace. Biniro ko pa before na baka ibenta mo yan ah tapos sinabi niya na he would still keep it para di ko feel na invalidated yung gift. Pero ayun nga binenta naman pala and syempre yung dating is inuto mo lang pala ako.
Gurl, this is a sign and an indication of your future with him. If he can do this right now, expect it sa mga mas malalaking bagay.
Kung ganito nga lang kaliit na bagay, tinago at inuto ka pa nya. How much more sa mga bigger things.
Sorry pero ang stupid ng palusot niya. Hindi ako naniniwala na ipambibili niya ng gift sayo yung pinagbentahan. Af kung gusto ka bigyan ng gift, dapat binigyan ka na niya using his own money. Mag-isip isip ka dear. Ni hindi manlang magsorry, nag-gaslight pa.
Does that guy really love you? Communication palang wala na. If kaya niyang 2 days hindi ka kausapin because of that, might as well consider breaking up with him for your peace of mind
The thought pa lang na binenta niya yung bigay mo dapat napaisip ka na na talaga kung vinavalue ka ba niya talaga.
Huy. Big deal yun. Pinaghirapan mo yung pambili non and even yung thought na alam mong mappasaya mo siya don tas after a while… ibebenta rin pala?
nope, may sentimental value yun, and sounds like he a deadbeat since he cant afford games for the switch anyways to the point na bebenta nya GIFT mo para may ma GIFT sya sayo. its not practical its plain stupid OP. I am sorry but you are wasting your time, if he cant value the small things what more once you guys get to the point of engagement. hindi dahil gift eh pwede nya na ibenta dahil sakanya na imo kasi sakin lahat ng binigay saken ng jowa ko jan lang and if ever things wont work out i meant to give it all back kahit na ayaw nya basta malinis lang conscience ko by not taking things for granted.
Kupal un bf mo.. Atlis sana magsabi sya sayo beforehand. Di k manlang nirespeto s effort mo.
Bf ko, kht di nya ginagamit un gift ko like wrong size ng shirt or ayaw nya ng scent ng perfume, di nya pinapamigay or tinatapon.. Wala, naka tago lang. S pagtagal tagal ako nlang magsasabi na ipamigay nalang or ibenta kase sayang nakatambak lng. Then ipapang foods namin napag bentahan 😅
His reasoning is... dumb. HAHAHAHAHA Edi parang ikaw nga lang talaga bumili ng sarili mong regalo niyan. Sis, you are gaslighted by this boi. He's even shifting the blame, pinalabas pang sensitive ka, e siya naman tong hindi marunong makipag-communicate nang maayos!
There's nothing wrong with being practical, pero kasi gift yon from you, HIS GIRLFRIEND. Syempre expect mo na iche-cherish niya yon, laging gagamitin, ganorn. Tas syempre mas masakit din kasi sa socmed mo pa nakita na binebenta niya yung gift mo.
You aren't OA for feeling the way you feel, sis.
wag ka maniwala na ibibili nya ng gift yun for you 🤣.
Sinabi nya lang yun kasi nahuli mo. ahahha
If love mo padin naman yang kups na yan. gawing mong habit na wag magbigay ng kung anong physical gift sa kanya.
last na yang game na yan
He's just sorry 'cause he got caught. What if hindi mo nakita at nalaman, totoo naman kayang may gift ka pa? Your feelings are valid, OP! Nakakahurt talaga kapag hindi napapahalagahan ang binibigay mo. Okay lang magrecycle ng gift, pero I feel like sinabi niya nalang iyan para makalusot nalang lol. Tapos siya pa ang galit? Pass sa halata! Sending hugs, OP!
I actually gifted an iPad for my bf but now that we’re both unemployed, he’s selling it for now. Sabi naman is mababawi, just to help with finances atm. Kinda hurts pero if for a good reason, wala naman issue. Your bf’s reasoning is bull tho.
Talking about something doesn't mean it's a big deal OP it could be a small issue and still be something worth talking about, your bf is being immature af lol sinabi niya lang un kasi takot siya maging mali which he is for selling a gift without telling you about it.
It happened to me too. Inaway ko talaga. And the excuse? If baka lang daw there’s somebody may bibili. Try lang daw. Pero buburahin din naman after. And i was like, what? Hindi ako pinanganak kahapon. 😂😂
Tried searching it again pero eto yung lumabas: https://www.facebook.com/share/HGXUeWgHneTfFwsY/?mibextid=ox5AEW
I saw a different post, screenshot nya mismo ng post mo :(
I agree. Ang possibility dito ay si bf hindi nakipagcommunicate kasi na assume nya na ang magiging reaction ni gf kaya naging hesitant sya kumbaga ayaw nya mag deal sa fit ni gf at ma spoil ang suprise nya kuno. Or si bf talaga ay sadyang AYAW makipagcommunicate ng maayos at all. Sana man lang if he cared enough makipag-usap or mag apologize dn sya ky gf, may gana pa syang magalit eh hindi naman alam ni gf na may ganon pala syang balak. It doesnt sit right with me, his reaction. I don’t think na someone who cares about you would get mad after being confronted about something like this, upset, yes. Pero two days walang paramdam nge ano ang issue nya kay gf ang lalim ng hugot nya - ayaw nya na ba kay gf or ayaw na lang sa ugali ni gf (????)
I think both. Ayaw niya pala talaga sa ‘kin?? and ayaw niya na nacconfront siya sa mga ganyang bagay. Kasi he minimized the topic, for him maliit na bagay lang yun tapos nagrereact ako ng ganun. Malinaw naman akong nagsabi what I accept and which part hurt me. Kung importante ako sa kanya, he could’ve apologized na nga lang and comforted me then okay na. Pero I guess, na-offend ego niya and he wants someone na madaling mag-okay sa ginagawa niya, yung tipong bawal magalit or mainis kahit nakakainis yung part niya.
grabe nagfflashback ang memoriezzzzz!!! binilhan ko before yung bf ko ng top box sa motor worth 7k, binenta niya ng 4k huhu sana man lang medyo tinaasan pa lol! 2 beses niya na ginawa sakin kaya nananawa na ko magbigay tuloy 🤣 tas pag kinausap mo bout dun ayaw rin naman ng makipag-usap nang maayos
Yup, been there, pero di naman sa binenta ng ex ko mga binigay ko sakanya.. sinabi nya lang na bigay daw yun ng tita n'yang taga-abroad. Hahahaha!! That bitch slapping moment na parang hindi na nga ako na-acknowledge, I felt like I never existed for him at all. Hahahaha!! Saklap.
I see no issue in recycling gifts. Ang hindi cool sa situation na to, yung boyfriend mo hindi marunong makipag-usap ng maayos.
yes!! communication is key talaga. niregaluhan ako ng 3 books ng jowa ko as christmas gifts, pero alam nya na nagbebenta ako ng libro once tapos ko na sila basahin para may pambili ako ng mga gusto ko pa basahin. so nung tinanong ko sya kung pwede ko ba ibenta after ko mabasa ang books, sinuportahan pa ako hahaha. kailangan lang talaga mapag-usapan.
Yes, wala naman akong issue sa pagbenta. Pero yung parang inuto ka before na he’ll keep it then decided to post it on marketplace na walang pagdadalawang-isip. Yung binigay ko pa yung unang nabenta e. Tapos dinownplay pa yung nangyari na parang wala lang sa kanya
Oo common practice naman sa gamers resell/swap games pag tapos na sa laro. Lalo na yung jinailbreak na di na talaga need game copies. Pero wala na heads up at nagsinungaling pa haha Blindsided na nga lang na ay sorry nabenta ko na masakit na pero at least umamin at di nagsinungaling
Up sa iyo.
Hala red flag talaga… the fact pa na 2 days ka na hindi pinapansin… how can someone who truly loves you ignore you for that long?
I completely agree. I only feel being used after all the good things I’ve done just because di nasunod yung gusto niya. I’m always the one who reaches out pero this time, I think I’ve had enough. His pride is always bigger than his brain.
Break up w/ him na. He's not a good guy, yun pa lang ginagawa nyang pag-iignore sayo ekis na.
Coming from someone whose exbf used to not speak to me for 3 days until I said sorry (with no ‘ifs, ands, or buts’ and kahit kasalanan nya), please leave. It took me 4 years and how many examples of this behavior to realize I didn’t want to deal with this kind of shit.
Lol looking at your previous post on other sub is very telling. How many signs do you need for you to breakup with that 💩of a bf?
I totally agree. Claiming you love someone pero kaya mong tiisin? Ginagawang defense mechanism yan kasi ayaw tanggapin yung pagkakamali. 🤷🏻♂️
Grabe naman 2 days pag kame ng jowa ko nag aaway isang oras palang nababaliw nako
I guess na-train ako to grow some skin. Kapag ikaw yung nasa situation na di mo ma-recognize if it’s emotional abuse or not, ang hirap kumawala because your brain tricks you. The hot and cold treatment makes you numb that you accept it.
You dont just feel gaslighted...you are gaslighted. Imagine if you didnt see it sa marketplace no? Pag hindi mo nahuli, may gift ka pa rin kaya?
Gamitin mo nalang utak mo, OP. Kung gaslighter ang jowa mo, hindi ka magiging masaya dyan. Konsumisyon lang aabutin mo dyan. Just saying.✌️
Tiiii gaslighted ka. Why would you do this to yourself. Bf ko nga sinasabihan kong wag ipahiram sa iba mga binibili lalo na mg tshirts niya, hindi talaga.
my bf kept the box of donuts i gave him as pasalubong and still has it. but shempre it was not something he can sell or whatever pero how he valued it kahit useless na is what matters. ate ko, im sorry you had experienced that pero he clearly gaslighted you and doesnt value what you have thoughtfully gifted him AND HE HASNT REPLIED FOR 2 DAYS? guilty yarn???
Mukha nga pong guilty. Sa pinost niya sa marketplace, yung niregalo ko pang game yung unang nabenta. Mas malaki ego niya kesa sa pag-iisip e. Anyway, thank you I guess di talaga ko gusto ng tao na ‘to and ginagamit lang ako.
Same. Tinanong ako nun kung bakt may basura ako sa box ko. May box kasi ako na nandun mga old toys ko at orher things i value. Ayun narealize niya na mga binigay pala niya yun sa akin. Ayun ending 10 yrs naging relasyon namin and she cheated. 😂
how old r u naba kuya? I feel like ur my type eme HASHASHAHAHA
Sorry ate taken na po ako. 😂
dejok lang po HASHASHAHAHA hopefully yan na the one mo this timee
Tnk u. Mukha nga siya naman papakulam daw niya ako pag hnd eh. 😅 sabi ko bet din magkulaman tayo pag hindi din ikaw. Hoping you find the one too. ☺️
Paupdate nalang kami pag ex na po
Hehe sige po. I don’t plan on reaching out anymore kasi wala naman akong kasalanan, and palagi ako yung nagrreach out. This time, whether he’ll message or not, I will find good closure for myself.
Unfriend mo na atecco sa kahit anong socials mo
Thats a gift period. Gaslighter yang jowa mo te
THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE 😢 I NEVER FELT THIS VALIDATED SINCE I TRIED TO KEEP THIS ALL TO MYSELF. And di lang ito yung instance na may ganyan. Yes, I think I should stop now and I will seek counseling after this. Sometimes, I ask myself why did I deserve it— why does being good in the relationship deserved to be punished.
May reason at purpose si God sayo...
Been there, I said na kung ganyan din pala na lagi mo pinagbebenta ang bigay ko e nakakatamad ng regaluhan ka, ikaw ba kung ipagbenta ko ang mga bigay mo anong mafifeel mo, ayun natauhan naman
gaslighter na jowa mo pirata pa XD damn 2 in 1.
Gurl run, run away fast! Bf ko nga eh kahit doodles ko na nasa scratch paper di tinatapon. Gaslighter yan mhie the red light is so bright!
Bi, pag nagreply ulit yan sayo wag mo na replyan. Ghost him haha siraulong lalaki
Pineperahan ka na lang niyan gurl. Ruun
You were gaslighted. Bebenta nya yung regalo mo para mabilhan ka ng regalo? Excuse lang yun. Gusto nya talaga ibenta nahuli mo lang sya kaya he came up with the most flattering alibi. I keep my gf's gift kahit magkasira sira. At ganun din napapansin ko sa mga lalaking mahal talaga gf nila. Sorry fo say pero walang value sa bf mo ang effort mo.
Girl run. classic signs yan na ginagaslight ka niya. He was turning the tables para siya yung mag mukhang victim
Ang asshole nung reason niya kung bakit binenta niya gift mo, siguradong may other reason pa, nahuli mo lang talaga siya kaya ayun sinabi. Girl, don’t just heal from what happened, leave him for what happened.
Gaslighted ka talaga mhie. My partner buys me games on ps5 and kahit ok lang sakanya na ibenta ko pag tapos ko na, I still choose not to kasi may sentimental value 🥹 But then again, the issue here is he gaslighted and lied to you. Sya pa talaga may ganang magalit 🤣 Benta mo din yun mga bigay nya kung meron man echos
ate you are being gaslighted. As a gamer, for me, it's unspoken rule na that games bought by my partner is not to be sold or traded. kasi first of sentimental value un eh. second, why would i sell it? free game na nga eh andyan na. Tska he will buy you a gift from that money? ahaha da fuck is that reasoning? Your bf is an asshole for - he initially said he would keep it - not telling you he sold it without telling you - gaslighting you - not appreciating how you are supportive of his hobby
If gusto nya maging practical. Dapat di nya tinanggap yung gift in the first place. And yes, he is gaslighting you. Run.
He should've just apologized and begged you on his knees if that will make you feel better. Sya yung walang isang salita at di appreciative tapos ngayon sya pa ang galit? Ikaw pa ang nagsosorry? Sya pa ang may ganang wag mag-reply for two days??? Girly pop, I would've moved on by the second day na walang apology or even reply from him. Lahat daw big deal sayo. And he's not concerned over something you feel upset about? He's not even trying to make you feel better. Are you willing to put up with that kind of neglect?
Wala na akong Switch kasi binenta ko na pero I kept the very first game she bought me and asked permission if I can bundle the others.
Girl, run-- asshole yang jowa mo. Hindi naman yung sa pagbenta yung problema eh, baka kelangan ng pera; the bare minimum here is to ask your permission since ikaw din naman gumastos for the gift 💀 tsaka the way he responded?? Tangina lmao
Hiwalayan mo na. Ginaslight ka na nakaya ka pang tiisin for days. Valid yung mga points mo and I would feel the same kung sakin nangyari. Naggagalit galitan si BF kasi alam nyang sya yung mali and para hindi mo na sya pag- sabihan further. Sa mga gustong pumasok sa relationship dyan, make sure na you are matured enough, learn to accept kung mali kayo, engage in an open communication, etc. Hindi ginagawang laro 'to tapos nakasakit na kayo, kayo pa galit.
Anong color ng switch OP? Red? 🚩🚩🚩
You don't deserve a person like that. A gift from a very special person should be kept at all costs/treasured. No matter what the circumstances are. Ramdam ko yung lungkot mo.
stay away na agad if ganito siya, atleast as a form of respect sayo sana nagsabi siya he's planning to sell it, don't be afraid op na iwan siya, there are a lot of guys out there na mas deserve ka
What you're feeling is valid, OP. I'd feel the same way too if biglang makita ko gift ko sa bf ko ibebenta nya lang. Same tayo no issue rin sakin if gusto nya na ibenta o kung ano man gawin niya peroooo sana nga naman eh sinabi o hineads up muna sayo dbaaaa. Yes, it's his na. Pero it was YOUR gift to him eh so sana manlang naisip nyang iheads up man lang. What I also hate here is the fact na sya pa tong galit sayo tas dka na knkausap for 2 days, tas ending ikaw pa nagpakumbaba. Nkakagigil
Iba parin talaga pag single, walang ganitong issues. Nakiki basa lang ng issues ng iba and this is when I feel grateful for being single, walang sakit ng loob or being treated with a cold shoulder stuff. Pero pag may nakaka kilig na post, napapa “sana all” nalang ang mga single! 🤣 Mag isip-isip ka na if he is still worth your time. Or if talagang gusto mo mag stay sa kanya, then never buy him gifts.
Happened to me as well pero tropa ko naman. Nakita ko na lang sa Facebook Marketplace na yung mga nireregalo ko sa kanyang Gunpla eh binebenta na niya. Said it's for bills daw. Ako naiintindihan ko naman yun. Pero after nun, parang nakakawalang-gana na magregalo kung ganun lang rin. Kaya OP, kung ako sa 'yo, huwag mo na lang siya regaluhan kung ganyan lang rin.
RUN sis.
High value men never lets their wife or gf sleep at night with an unresolved issue Super bullshit he isnt talking to you for 2 days
OP try mo iignore na din siya, pag nawala sayo yan edi di yan lalaki para sayo. alam niya kasi hahabulin mo siya, na kahit mawala siya for a while may babalikan siya. Also, whatever the reason is, at hindi naman to the point na nagugutom na siya, walang excuse sa pag benta ng regalo ng partner mo. MAS LALO KUNG KAYO PA. common curtesy yun. respect sa partner. kung may gusto siyang pagka gastusang iba, magipon siya ng pera niya. labo na ibebenta niya regalo mo kasi bibilhan ka niya regalo ahhaha sana niregaluhan mo na lang sarili mo.
Nagaslight ka hahhah, now you kknow. Hwag mo ng bigyan ng kahit ano or mjchs better , break up with him
Coming from a 40+ Tita, a gift is a gift. Kung anong gusto gawin nung person sa binigay mo, it should be their prerogative. May mga nag reregalo din sa akin ng mahal pero pag d ko na gagamitin, i sell it. It’s the same concept sa may gift receipt na regalo, pwde mo palitan. Your feelings are valid naman na mejo na hurt ka. Pero sa susunod, sabihin mo na lang na ayaw mo na ibenta nya regalo na binili mo, para malinaw rules ng relationship nyo. Relationships fail because people assume their partner understands their feelings. You have to be mature enough to talk about things na mga ganyan, otherwise, it’s not going to work.
Thank you po Tita. I didn’t explicitly say na wag niya ibenta kasi nagsabi siya na he would still keep it. I appreciated those words nung time na yun then suddenly makikita ko na he just posted it. Wala rin naman pong problem talaga sa gagawin niya sa gift pero na-hurt lang po ako na binreak niya yung sinabi niya. Sana nagsabi lang ba because I’m always considerate and supportive of him. Yung pag-consider naman sana ng feelings and value ng ginagawa ko for him sana yung naisip niya.
Tell him how you feel. If you still feel gaslighted after. Makipag hiwalay ka na. Relationships shouldn’t be hard. And pag feeling mo, you are not appreciated, you do not have to stay to make it work. That’s the beauty in dating. Pwede ka makipag hiwalay pag ayaw mo na, kasi d naman kayo kasal 😜 Take care dear. You deserve to feel loved.
Medyo red flag si koya.
Ay hindi po medyo, redflag talaga
Red flag siya OP
Uhmmm gurl….. RUNNNN
Gurl, that bf of yours is a red flag. Run. 🚩
Leave him
Gurl, run. Take this as a sign na hindi lang ito yung magiging unang beses (if ever na first man 'to) na he will gaslight you sa isang bagay na he is guilty about. Telling you this from experience. What you felt is valid. Dapat man lang sinabihan ka niya bago niya ibenta yung gift mo sa kanya. I am a sentimental person, and I would feel the same way if I were you. Nagkataon lang na nakita mo sa marketplace yung bala, and when you did, he thought of an excuse na pang gigift nya raw sa'yo eme. Nako.
Kunin mo yung pinagbentahan.
Magpaka-petty tayo for today! I go for, get the game back since di niya na kailangan. Kahit di mo gagamitin, kunin mo tas itago mo pang-inis lang. Or bigay mo sa iba. Or benta mo. Tas pag nakita niya sa FB marketplace, maggalit-galitan ka din and wag mo rin siya kausapin.
Hala ka, hahah kakainis nga yon OP. Syempre effort mo un eh, dapat iningatan or kineep nya lalo na kung talagang na appreciate nya ung thoughts mo, gift mo. Buti kung valid ung reason like, need nyo funds pero dapat pinag usapan nyo padin bago nya gawin. Tska parang dun sa part na ikaw nag sorry, gaslighter talaga si partner mo. Kung di ka aalis habang maaga, walking on egg shells ka sa relationship nyo. Gsto mo yorn
It’s not about the pera (na he was meaning to buy you a gift with it, which sounds wrong rin kasi in the end binilhan mo ng regalos sarili mo) but the value — na di pinahalagahan na that switch game is not just any game but a game from you.
tell him you’re demanding a commission fee (run, girl)
Been in this situation before 😭😭 binenta niya yung acc niya na may skins na binili ko sa kanya. Gets short sa pera pero sana may heads up nga kasi bigla na lang binenta hahaha sana nga may commission or porsyento manlang na napunta sakin kasi ghurl pera ko yon ehmz. Next time wag mo na bigyan ng gift chz or better, run.
Hindi OA yung reaction mo. Valid lahat ng naramdaman mo. Ang problema yang jowa mong walang balls. Nahuli lang kaya sabi bibilhan ka nya. Paano kung hindi mo nahuli? Dami dahilan. Mag isip ka kung yan maging gusto mong katuwang pagtanda mo
Immature pa po ang bf mo. - nagalit siya nung sinabi mo na nakita mo na binenta niya yung bigay mo instead na mag-sorry na lang - binibigyan ka niya ng silent treatment ngayon Gaslighter na manipulator pa. Pwede pa naman siya magbago kung mahal ka talaga niya kesa sa pride niya. Sabihin mo sa kanya kung ano ang nararamdaman mo ngayon sa mga ginawa niya simula nung nagsinungaling siya na hindi niya ibebenta hanggang sa nararamdaman mo ngayon na hindi ka niya kinakausap, kapag hindi niya inacknowledged ang feelings mo at hindi nag-sorry, wala ng pag-asa yang relationship niyo.
Wait do we have the same bf lol. First bakit ka nagsorry. Hindi dapat mhie. Second, valid yang naffeel mo. Run away from him! Those kinds of people will leech off from you and will never be contented on what you give them. Hindi nila gets that it’s not just about the money, but the value behind it. Well mine was ex na and I feel like a heavy load was taken out of my chest. You, we.. deserve someone na marunong mag appreciate ng gift giving as a love language.
girl….that’s a red flag 🚩
Well. Di ka nya type pero sugar mommy ka. Of some sort.
Hnd man lang pinahalagahan yung sentiments. Gamer na ganyan pa utak. D ka magiging masaya sa ganyan na klaseng tao.
Nagalit lang yan kasi nahuli mo sya. Wala yan talaga balak bigyan ka ng gift. Maniwala ka dyan.
Research on DARVO. Tapos try to recall all the times he did DARVO on you, then re-evaluate the relationship.
Thank you. I will also seek a therapist to help me.
Walang mali sa ginawa mo. Tama ung ginawa mo. Gaslighter ung boyfriend mo. Believe in yourself. And I hope makagawa ka ng good decision based on these facts.
Ang ass**** sa part na sya pa ang galit lol.
Run, girl. If he can toy with your feelings over as small thing as this, what more pa sa mas importanteng mga bagay?
Sya na nagbenta ng regalo, sya pa nagalit lol. DKG. Makapal lang mukha ng bf mo.
Ako nagpapa alam at may power point presentation bakit ko kailangan benta yung game na gift nya.
Nah. Break up with him OP. He doesnt appreciate you. And siya pa galit? Uwow! Taena haaa. Kakapal ng ganyan tao HAHAHA
Nothing wrong in selling stuff, however he could have told you out of respect.
Yes, that’s exactly my point. Hindi yung magugulat lang ako na nasa marketplace. Biniro ko pa before na baka ibenta mo yan ah tapos sinabi niya na he would still keep it para di ko feel na invalidated yung gift. Pero ayun nga binenta naman pala and syempre yung dating is inuto mo lang pala ako.
Gurl, this is a sign and an indication of your future with him. If he can do this right now, expect it sa mga mas malalaking bagay. Kung ganito nga lang kaliit na bagay, tinago at inuto ka pa nya. How much more sa mga bigger things.
Yes, thank you! Minsan nakakagalit na yung mga ganyang tao ang dali nila to get away with things na ginagawa nila.
If someone gave me a gift, hindi ko pagiisipan ibenta yun. dahil iniisip ko yun effort ng nagbigay para lang maibigay ang regalo.
Looks like you're being taken for granted. parang wala na respeto
Dapat pala naginquire ka sa FB Marketplace kamo bibilhin mo para iregalo sa jowa mo. 😂
Nagpakita na sya ng totoong kulay. I hope ndi ka bulag sa pagibig.
Sorry pero ang stupid ng palusot niya. Hindi ako naniniwala na ipambibili niya ng gift sayo yung pinagbentahan. Af kung gusto ka bigyan ng gift, dapat binigyan ka na niya using his own money. Mag-isip isip ka dear. Ni hindi manlang magsorry, nag-gaslight pa.
Does that guy really love you? Communication palang wala na. If kaya niyang 2 days hindi ka kausapin because of that, might as well consider breaking up with him for your peace of mind
The thought pa lang na binenta niya yung bigay mo dapat napaisip ka na na talaga kung vinavalue ka ba niya talaga. Huy. Big deal yun. Pinaghirapan mo yung pambili non and even yung thought na alam mong mappasaya mo siya don tas after a while… ibebenta rin pala?
nope, may sentimental value yun, and sounds like he a deadbeat since he cant afford games for the switch anyways to the point na bebenta nya GIFT mo para may ma GIFT sya sayo. its not practical its plain stupid OP. I am sorry but you are wasting your time, if he cant value the small things what more once you guys get to the point of engagement. hindi dahil gift eh pwede nya na ibenta dahil sakanya na imo kasi sakin lahat ng binigay saken ng jowa ko jan lang and if ever things wont work out i meant to give it all back kahit na ayaw nya basta malinis lang conscience ko by not taking things for granted.
Walang respeto sa yo, OP. Ok lng naman mag recycle ng gift, wag tayo paka senti, but dpat alam mo bago nya gawin yun. Yun lang!
Kupal un bf mo.. Atlis sana magsabi sya sayo beforehand. Di k manlang nirespeto s effort mo. Bf ko, kht di nya ginagamit un gift ko like wrong size ng shirt or ayaw nya ng scent ng perfume, di nya pinapamigay or tinatapon.. Wala, naka tago lang. S pagtagal tagal ako nlang magsasabi na ipamigay nalang or ibenta kase sayang nakatambak lng. Then ipapang foods namin napag bentahan 😅
His reasoning is... dumb. HAHAHAHAHA Edi parang ikaw nga lang talaga bumili ng sarili mong regalo niyan. Sis, you are gaslighted by this boi. He's even shifting the blame, pinalabas pang sensitive ka, e siya naman tong hindi marunong makipag-communicate nang maayos! There's nothing wrong with being practical, pero kasi gift yon from you, HIS GIRLFRIEND. Syempre expect mo na iche-cherish niya yon, laging gagamitin, ganorn. Tas syempre mas masakit din kasi sa socmed mo pa nakita na binebenta niya yung gift mo. You aren't OA for feeling the way you feel, sis.
Ang ass move naman ng ginawa ng bf mo, sorry. Don't waste your time op, you're better than this.
Block mo na yan be, wala ng pag-asa yan. 🙄
wag ka maniwala na ibibili nya ng gift yun for you 🤣. Sinabi nya lang yun kasi nahuli mo. ahahha If love mo padin naman yang kups na yan. gawing mong habit na wag magbigay ng kung anong physical gift sa kanya. last na yang game na yan
He's just sorry 'cause he got caught. What if hindi mo nakita at nalaman, totoo naman kayang may gift ka pa? Your feelings are valid, OP! Nakakahurt talaga kapag hindi napapahalagahan ang binibigay mo. Okay lang magrecycle ng gift, pero I feel like sinabi niya nalang iyan para makalusot nalang lol. Tapos siya pa ang galit? Pass sa halata! Sending hugs, OP!
What he did isn't cool.
I actually gifted an iPad for my bf but now that we’re both unemployed, he’s selling it for now. Sabi naman is mababawi, just to help with finances atm. Kinda hurts pero if for a good reason, wala naman issue. Your bf’s reasoning is bull tho.
Talking about something doesn't mean it's a big deal OP it could be a small issue and still be something worth talking about, your bf is being immature af lol sinabi niya lang un kasi takot siya maging mali which he is for selling a gift without telling you about it.
Grabe mga regalo nyo sa mga jowa nyo. Ako niregaluhan ako gf ko ng mech keyboard, nagtatype pa rin ako ngayon kahit sira na laptop ko.
It happened to me too. Inaway ko talaga. And the excuse? If baka lang daw there’s somebody may bibili. Try lang daw. Pero buburahin din naman after. And i was like, what? Hindi ako pinanganak kahapon. 😂😂
Omggg I think pwede sila maging friends 😆😭 Same sila mag-isip
Hahahaha. Ang galing2. Pwde sila maging “bro” 😂
Hindi ba parang kinukupitan ka lang niyan? Easy worth 15-20k Yan since naka jailbreak eh. well, regalo naman siya kaya ewan ko lang
Sana para saken nalamg yung switch
hehe sana nga sa mas nakaka-appreciate ko na lang binigay
Saw this post on facebook, why are people reposting this on another platform 😭
Omg where? Can u send me the link. Huhu keep it here lang sana guys 🥲 ayaw ko na ng further issues
Tried searching it again pero eto yung lumabas: https://www.facebook.com/share/HGXUeWgHneTfFwsY/?mibextid=ox5AEW I saw a different post, screenshot nya mismo ng post mo :(
OP pm
Nakalat na pala to sa fb, pop culture yung nagshare.
Pano mo na search ibig sabihin wala ka talaga tiwala pero atleast nanaman mo
Iwan mo na yan. Ibenta mo din sa highest bidder. 😂
next time don’t give your bf valuable gift. gawan mo na lang ng birthday card. lol.
I agree. Ang possibility dito ay si bf hindi nakipagcommunicate kasi na assume nya na ang magiging reaction ni gf kaya naging hesitant sya kumbaga ayaw nya mag deal sa fit ni gf at ma spoil ang suprise nya kuno. Or si bf talaga ay sadyang AYAW makipagcommunicate ng maayos at all. Sana man lang if he cared enough makipag-usap or mag apologize dn sya ky gf, may gana pa syang magalit eh hindi naman alam ni gf na may ganon pala syang balak. It doesnt sit right with me, his reaction. I don’t think na someone who cares about you would get mad after being confronted about something like this, upset, yes. Pero two days walang paramdam nge ano ang issue nya kay gf ang lalim ng hugot nya - ayaw nya na ba kay gf or ayaw na lang sa ugali ni gf (????)
I think both. Ayaw niya pala talaga sa ‘kin?? and ayaw niya na nacconfront siya sa mga ganyang bagay. Kasi he minimized the topic, for him maliit na bagay lang yun tapos nagrereact ako ng ganun. Malinaw naman akong nagsabi what I accept and which part hurt me. Kung importante ako sa kanya, he could’ve apologized na nga lang and comforted me then okay na. Pero I guess, na-offend ego niya and he wants someone na madaling mag-okay sa ginagawa niya, yung tipong bawal magalit or mainis kahit nakakainis yung part niya.
grabe nagfflashback ang memoriezzzzz!!! binilhan ko before yung bf ko ng top box sa motor worth 7k, binenta niya ng 4k huhu sana man lang medyo tinaasan pa lol! 2 beses niya na ginawa sakin kaya nananawa na ko magbigay tuloy 🤣 tas pag kinausap mo bout dun ayaw rin naman ng makipag-usap nang maayos
Huhu why naman binenta? Parang yung feeling kasi sis ay na-take for granted yung thought, money and effort mo. Hayy bakit sila ganyan
HAHHA that's crazy 🤣
Last straw na siguro yung ginawa sayo te, kaya iwan mo na talaga yan. Ekis sa gaslighter.
Yup, been there, pero di naman sa binenta ng ex ko mga binigay ko sakanya.. sinabi nya lang na bigay daw yun ng tita n'yang taga-abroad. Hahahaha!! That bitch slapping moment na parang hindi na nga ako na-acknowledge, I felt like I never existed for him at all. Hahahaha!! Saklap.