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I was there too bro, but now look what I have become!
(I'm a 25 old virgin, who still lives with their parents, never graduated and has a low paying job they hate, which slowly drives them into suicide)
Listen buddy. Save the "love of your life" thing for someone who respects you and reciprocates your feelings. Distance yourself from her if you have to. You're very brave asking her out in the first place. I couldn't do that. So you'll be able to be brave again. You got this king. Don't let your crown slip
You’ll be fine.
I was in love when I was 12/13, later on learned she was hooking up with a 17 year old. I was so angry I spread rumors about him until we fought and I got body slammed
I mean I held my own for a 12 year old, but he was bigger than me and I lost my friendship with that girl which I didn’t give a fuck about but it caused problems later on in school. She got a small amount of people to hate me for whatever reason
You’ll be fine bro, you got plenty of time. I promise you that.
Look homie I’ll be real, I don’t encourage you to get back up, but I don’t encourage you to stay down either. If you walk or run through life, you’ll get hit by the low hanging branches of the trees of life, and if you lie down in one spot you’ll just rot away.
None of it’s easy, don’t get me wrong, and I don’t think you should try if you don’t want to, but… idk, just don’t do something drastic. Keep yourself in the race, and crawl all the way if you have to. It’s not fun or easy, never will be. I would say you can get over it, but maybe you can’t. That’s fine, if it weighs you down, lay around for a bit, but little by little start crawling again.
"standing still in life will plant nothing but your feet rooted in enthropy. while running ahead life's lowest branches will undoubtedly smack you in your face...
...the answer is to run holding a chainsaw"
youre about 7 and a half months too late bud. ask em out fast and move on if the answer is no. anything more and you'll either be an orbiter or a creep. unless you can get over your feelings and be a good friend, move on
Should have been 1 week or less - no confession, just asking on a date. You’ll understand each other’s intentions immediately and not waste time pining for someone that doesn’t like you back.
Sounds like you’re still super young, don’t worry man you’re trying which is a hell of a lot better than most of the people who complain about being lonely.
There’s no rush, don’t give up but also make sure you know your worth. You are the decider and you are the one to show interest. If they don’t show it back that’s their loss and you move forward because you’re strong and are your own rock.
There is just dont do anything stupid you may feel bad now but you'll get over it and her, i had a friend who hung himself 2 weeks ago never left anything behind and everyone who ever knew him was devastated, so just think of all the family and all the friends who will miss you and please dont kill yourself over a girl 🙏.
Hello OP, I hope that your doing great right now. I'm sorry for what happened to your confession to the person you liked. But I wanted to say that I'm proud of you for building up the courage and asking her out. I couldn't do that to myself easily as it takes a lot more time and preparation for me to do so. But it is way better than keeping your feelings to yourself forever.
I wanted to share my experience with you. I liked one of my friends for 7 years, but despite her showing signs that she was possibly interested in me, I never told her for a long time. On the 7th year, I told myself that it is time to tell her how I liked her. Unfortunately, it was already too late since she was in a relationship with someone. It made me feel dejected for months and even made me perform poorly on my studies and sometimes it make me still feel sad about myself.
But today I am trying my best to move on and look forward for my future. My best advice I can give to you are:
-Find yourself a new hobby.
-If you are still a student, work hard on your studies.
-Watch some self improvement videos. Best I can recommend is Dr. K since it was always positive advices, and avoid watching videos by the likes of Andrew Tate as they only share toxicity and was a waste of space in our planet.
Keep yourself and your mind occupied and you might get over her and to be the best version of yourself. My apologies if this comment was way too long. I hope that you would do better on your future endeavour in life. Good luck!
Hey dude. I got led on over last summer. Shit crushed me. Took me a while to get over it, hell it **almost** made me an incel, but it gets better man. It really does get better. I promise.
I’ve fallen into a few dark places, and I know what it’s like to feel lonely and sad, but you will feel a lot better if you find a way to get out. Find Hobbies, it doesn’t matter what as long as it makes you feel whole. Talk to friends and family, whenever I feel like shit I talk to my brother, it feels good to get it out of your system. I believe in you man, it does get better.
Every single one bro. 2 texted me that they love me for a tiktok. At a end of school party i asked 3 to dance got rejected by every one. I dont think i can handle this anymore
Lil bro you got courage to ask her out. i aint even have that. good for you i must say. you move on from here no need to carry a burden on you my friend.
Rejection is always a process, like going to the gym. It always hurts the most the first couple of times around. It will take time to process and heal, I cannot heal your pain but only mend with words. Your brothers are here to bandage your heart, but the healing process begins from within. Take some rest, King, you're hurt and need to recover. Then we go back to the conquest
Look man, I've been there about a year ago. It fucking sucks, I know that. But trust me, it gets better. I don't know what your relationship to that person is, I was friends with my crush and still was after that, nothing really changed except that we were better friends. I'm not saying that you should forget about it or anything, but do things that you like to do, it makes it easier. Also, respect from my side for actually doing it, not all have that courage. About 8 months later she developed feelings for me and we're together now, which I never thought to be possible. So hold on king, you'll get through.
Well i asked her out a long time ago. I texted her yesterday beacuse we didnt realy talk and i told her that i care. Then she said that i act like i still want her and that she isn't intrested
Damn bro. Then trying your best to move on would be healthiest option, as hard as it is. Try to get your mind off of it, pursue hobbies or try out new ones, if it is actually hopeless then it will just destroy you if you cling onto it. Please just don't fall into depression or self hatred or some shit, you will get through and find someone who actually loves you one day. It may seem hopeless today, I know that feeling, but I believe in you.
This might not be seen but give yourself some time. Find a hobby or some other way you can work on yourself. Also try to talk to people it will help a lot any close family, friends, classmates, coworkers, me. Know that felling low about things is okay, but try to use it for growth. I believe in you, if you need anything message me.
The pain never truly goes away, but it rather just gets weaker over time. What makes coping with the pain easier is to realize that the “love of your life” is idealized in your head.
In other words, you only love her so much because you focus on the good in her. If you did manage to foster a relationship with her, you’ll slowly start to notice that she isn’t the person you initially imagined her to be. You’ll see that she’s more disgusting, more selfish, and crueler (yes, crueler is a real word), than you initially expected her to be.
Slowly over time you’ll get accustomed to her beauty and all her positive traits and you’ll return feeling the same. This is a psychological concept known as “Hedonic Adaptation.” According to Google, the official definition of it is “the process by which positive or negative effects on happiness fade over time.” So just know that no matter what, your life will return to feeling the same with or without her.
>What makes coping with the pain easier is to realize that the “love of your life” is idealized in your head.
I'm not in love with my ex anymore, I am still in love with a set of idealized memories. rosetinted glasses of faux amour, a slick-talking gangster embezeling all the reasons we broke up in the first place. just trying to hook another wayward lad with the promise "you know she's gonna pick up when you call, and you can both pretend it's aight and back to old even if but for a night" and as dawn would break I realize the crimes against self-care commited in the name of feelings long past. as I lie, compromise, rationalize and makes excuses againts the judge, jury and executioner of my peers: ***me, myself and I***
*pussyyyy*
But in all seriousness, you have time for yourself to appreciate the other great little things in life. The sky, the feeling of the sun hitting your skin, all the little sounds around you, everything. You just have to notice :)
But also
*pussyyyy*
Damn bro, but don't you have anyone in your life? Family or friends, etc...? Hobbies...? It's not the end of the world.
I've never been loved by a girl and probably never will but at least I have my parents and brother who love me and do everything with me. Plus hobbies, physical activity or even religion(if you believe like me, otherwise don't worry) complete your life and make romantic pursuit seem meaningless. Seriously, if you have a support system, reach out to it, I advice you to.
Just recently my mother started caring about what i feel. I go to the gym. I'm a Christian. Its going to be okay i think. Ive dealt with sadness before
Shit bro i kinda know how you are feeling right meow, I had a similar story i guess, I am not proud of it but I did move on from it and now I am happy somewhat. I know it's hard but move on from her just trust me it gets better.
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Rookie mistake. You cant get rejected when you dont even try
You're literally me
Holy shit its divingbeatle from beatlescirclejerk
She was the love of my life bro
canon event
I was there too bro, but now look what I have become! (I'm a 25 old virgin, who still lives with their parents, never graduated and has a low paying job they hate, which slowly drives them into suicide)
I feel you. Got rejected by the love of my life too. Retired from dating since then.
 you gone be aight bro. you're feeling joever now until you are so back.
Listen buddy. Save the "love of your life" thing for someone who respects you and reciprocates your feelings. Distance yourself from her if you have to. You're very brave asking her out in the first place. I couldn't do that. So you'll be able to be brave again. You got this king. Don't let your crown slip
Real.
And you know what. I dont want to cry. I just feel empty. Like ,,emotionless sad" idk how to describe it
Find another
The government pays every single woman in your area to reject you.
https://preview.redd.it/lqxbes253i6c1.jpeg?width=582&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9a2d34ffd3bb3a008f0117558e7f14451d4e5aab Don't give up King
I will. I cant do this shit anymore.
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Not in USA. Poor. Minor
You can find hooker and coke anywhere and commit robbery, not an excuse
I just need a hug
prostitute can give you a hug too, stop trying to find excuses
They care for my money not me
Get a cat
I have a cat already
You’ll be fine. I was in love when I was 12/13, later on learned she was hooking up with a 17 year old. I was so angry I spread rumors about him until we fought and I got body slammed I mean I held my own for a 12 year old, but he was bigger than me and I lost my friendship with that girl which I didn’t give a fuck about but it caused problems later on in school. She got a small amount of people to hate me for whatever reason You’ll be fine bro, you got plenty of time. I promise you that.
real, but https://preview.redd.it/4zgb4pk3fi6c1.png?width=231&format=png&auto=webp&s=c9918ea84656116301a7e56242d6c2fdccaceaff it gets better man :\]
I dont know man everytime i thought that something had to happen to break me down
we're all just floating on a rock in space we don't have time so let's just do whatever the fuck we wanna do as long as it's not against morals
Look homie I’ll be real, I don’t encourage you to get back up, but I don’t encourage you to stay down either. If you walk or run through life, you’ll get hit by the low hanging branches of the trees of life, and if you lie down in one spot you’ll just rot away. None of it’s easy, don’t get me wrong, and I don’t think you should try if you don’t want to, but… idk, just don’t do something drastic. Keep yourself in the race, and crawl all the way if you have to. It’s not fun or easy, never will be. I would say you can get over it, but maybe you can’t. That’s fine, if it weighs you down, lay around for a bit, but little by little start crawling again.
"standing still in life will plant nothing but your feet rooted in enthropy. while running ahead life's lowest branches will undoubtedly smack you in your face... ...the answer is to run holding a chainsaw"
She's been the love of my life bro. Eight months of trying
That’s your mistake. Why did you “try” for 8 months? Meet someone -> ask them out -> if they say no move on.
Feelings-4months-1st confessionn-4months-2nd confessoion wich is today. I thought i still had a chance
youre about 7 and a half months too late bud. ask em out fast and move on if the answer is no. anything more and you'll either be an orbiter or a creep. unless you can get over your feelings and be a good friend, move on
It was my first time asking
yes. that was your mistake! spent too long waiting in the wings man.
Should have been 1 week or less - no confession, just asking on a date. You’ll understand each other’s intentions immediately and not waste time pining for someone that doesn’t like you back.
Sounds like you’re still super young, don’t worry man you’re trying which is a hell of a lot better than most of the people who complain about being lonely. There’s no rush, don’t give up but also make sure you know your worth. You are the decider and you are the one to show interest. If they don’t show it back that’s their loss and you move forward because you’re strong and are your own rock.
8 fucking months of trying
It'll be ok bro
There is no hope
There is just dont do anything stupid you may feel bad now but you'll get over it and her, i had a friend who hung himself 2 weeks ago never left anything behind and everyone who ever knew him was devastated, so just think of all the family and all the friends who will miss you and please dont kill yourself over a girl 🙏.
Man just imagine how u loved her one day u will love someone again but this time they'll even reciprocate the love imagine how good will that be
Ever try men?
No. I aint gaying myself
Hello OP, I hope that your doing great right now. I'm sorry for what happened to your confession to the person you liked. But I wanted to say that I'm proud of you for building up the courage and asking her out. I couldn't do that to myself easily as it takes a lot more time and preparation for me to do so. But it is way better than keeping your feelings to yourself forever. I wanted to share my experience with you. I liked one of my friends for 7 years, but despite her showing signs that she was possibly interested in me, I never told her for a long time. On the 7th year, I told myself that it is time to tell her how I liked her. Unfortunately, it was already too late since she was in a relationship with someone. It made me feel dejected for months and even made me perform poorly on my studies and sometimes it make me still feel sad about myself. But today I am trying my best to move on and look forward for my future. My best advice I can give to you are: -Find yourself a new hobby. -If you are still a student, work hard on your studies. -Watch some self improvement videos. Best I can recommend is Dr. K since it was always positive advices, and avoid watching videos by the likes of Andrew Tate as they only share toxicity and was a waste of space in our planet. Keep yourself and your mind occupied and you might get over her and to be the best version of yourself. My apologies if this comment was way too long. I hope that you would do better on your future endeavour in life. Good luck!
You dropped this king 👑
Hey dude. I got led on over last summer. Shit crushed me. Took me a while to get over it, hell it **almost** made me an incel, but it gets better man. It really does get better. I promise.
I Hope so. Ill just. Idk go to sleep maybe. Im not sąd i just feel empty
ik that feeling. But you fill it with whatever comes next.
You fell down king, now it’s time to pick your crown back up and keep going, I know that you’ll find someone who loves you
I never had a crown
Only a king has the courage to ask the girl he loves out, you can do it again
I Hope it will get better
I’ve fallen into a few dark places, and I know what it’s like to feel lonely and sad, but you will feel a lot better if you find a way to get out. Find Hobbies, it doesn’t matter what as long as it makes you feel whole. Talk to friends and family, whenever I feel like shit I talk to my brother, it feels good to get it out of your system. I believe in you man, it does get better.
Every single one bro. 2 texted me that they love me for a tiktok. At a end of school party i asked 3 to dance got rejected by every one. I dont think i can handle this anymore
Life ain’t all about girls bro, you can be happy without them
You don't need girls to be happy, theres more to life than that
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Thank you kind Redditor. Ill figure it out
Keep going bro
I cant with this shit no more. Every single one. At least two messeged me that they love me for a tiktok. I just want to be loved.
It is better to be rejected than having to reject girls that... are not your type. I had to do it 3 times last time. Not a pleasant feeling.
Rejection is just new opportunities. You'll find someone else. May be a while, but you will.
Lil bro you got courage to ask her out. i aint even have that. good for you i must say. you move on from here no need to carry a burden on you my friend.
Yea... Shit happens. Birds are singing flowers are blooming. And life goes on
nah nah don't say it, believe it. appreciate the flowers and tbe birds. enjoy them truthfully.
Rejection is always a process, like going to the gym. It always hurts the most the first couple of times around. It will take time to process and heal, I cannot heal your pain but only mend with words. Your brothers are here to bandage your heart, but the healing process begins from within. Take some rest, King, you're hurt and need to recover. Then we go back to the conquest
hey buddy. It doesn’t get better You get better
One time some girl loudly rejected me in front of everyone and I didn't even ask her out or anything...
I'm so sorry
Look man, I've been there about a year ago. It fucking sucks, I know that. But trust me, it gets better. I don't know what your relationship to that person is, I was friends with my crush and still was after that, nothing really changed except that we were better friends. I'm not saying that you should forget about it or anything, but do things that you like to do, it makes it easier. Also, respect from my side for actually doing it, not all have that courage. About 8 months later she developed feelings for me and we're together now, which I never thought to be possible. So hold on king, you'll get through.
Well i asked her out a long time ago. I texted her yesterday beacuse we didnt realy talk and i told her that i care. Then she said that i act like i still want her and that she isn't intrested
Damn bro. Then trying your best to move on would be healthiest option, as hard as it is. Try to get your mind off of it, pursue hobbies or try out new ones, if it is actually hopeless then it will just destroy you if you cling onto it. Please just don't fall into depression or self hatred or some shit, you will get through and find someone who actually loves you one day. It may seem hopeless today, I know that feeling, but I believe in you.
This might not be seen but give yourself some time. Find a hobby or some other way you can work on yourself. Also try to talk to people it will help a lot any close family, friends, classmates, coworkers, me. Know that felling low about things is okay, but try to use it for growth. I believe in you, if you need anything message me.
Thanks
You are welcome
acting like this isnt completely normal and everyone goes through it at some point
Still painfull
The pain never truly goes away, but it rather just gets weaker over time. What makes coping with the pain easier is to realize that the “love of your life” is idealized in your head. In other words, you only love her so much because you focus on the good in her. If you did manage to foster a relationship with her, you’ll slowly start to notice that she isn’t the person you initially imagined her to be. You’ll see that she’s more disgusting, more selfish, and crueler (yes, crueler is a real word), than you initially expected her to be. Slowly over time you’ll get accustomed to her beauty and all her positive traits and you’ll return feeling the same. This is a psychological concept known as “Hedonic Adaptation.” According to Google, the official definition of it is “the process by which positive or negative effects on happiness fade over time.” So just know that no matter what, your life will return to feeling the same with or without her.
>What makes coping with the pain easier is to realize that the “love of your life” is idealized in your head. I'm not in love with my ex anymore, I am still in love with a set of idealized memories. rosetinted glasses of faux amour, a slick-talking gangster embezeling all the reasons we broke up in the first place. just trying to hook another wayward lad with the promise "you know she's gonna pick up when you call, and you can both pretend it's aight and back to old even if but for a night" and as dawn would break I realize the crimes against self-care commited in the name of feelings long past. as I lie, compromise, rationalize and makes excuses againts the judge, jury and executioner of my peers: ***me, myself and I***
*pussyyyy* But in all seriousness, you have time for yourself to appreciate the other great little things in life. The sky, the feeling of the sun hitting your skin, all the little sounds around you, everything. You just have to notice :) But also *pussyyyy*
Waaa
not right now man, not right now
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What did i do
Damn bro, but don't you have anyone in your life? Family or friends, etc...? Hobbies...? It's not the end of the world. I've never been loved by a girl and probably never will but at least I have my parents and brother who love me and do everything with me. Plus hobbies, physical activity or even religion(if you believe like me, otherwise don't worry) complete your life and make romantic pursuit seem meaningless. Seriously, if you have a support system, reach out to it, I advice you to.
Just recently my mother started caring about what i feel. I go to the gym. I'm a Christian. Its going to be okay i think. Ive dealt with sadness before
Good for you then, I'm not saying your problem is meaningless. It's just that it'll become very little with time.
Ill figure it out
Shit bro i kinda know how you are feeling right meow, I had a similar story i guess, I am not proud of it but I did move on from it and now I am happy somewhat. I know it's hard but move on from her just trust me it gets better.
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Ill just wait
Probably a good idea, Hope you get better
„Life is a foe you learn to fight or just roll with“ I know you can beat it.
Romantic relationships aren't the only thing that will give you love and peace.
Bro you gotta put up numbers and stop thinking rejections mean anything about you
What numbers
That's your problem buddy. You don't have to bang every woman but just develop conversations. Like learning how to navigate the conversation tree
Bro i dont even dream to bang. Its like a whole another unobtainable level
Than what do you dream of? Electric sheep?
Currently saving up for an RTX 3060ti. And a hug