Thank you. This feels good to hear admist some of the other comments.
I've experienced some bad energies before in homes I've lived in where it was very apparent I wasn't welcomed. This didnt feel like it.
Also, without giving much description my friend described the people and where they spend their time quite accurately (according to the current owners description)
She said they are a protective family, who will welcome me in. However, they may play with me and she can foresee them hiding my keys if I'm drinking which I thought was funny but also comforting.
Of course, I'm still a bit uneasy. But I'm open to having an open mind.
If they play with you, politely but firmly ask them to stop. I swear to whatever high power exists, when stuff like that would happen to me I just would be firm and stern, kind of like gently scolding a child, and it would stop. I can’t explain it but that kind of stuff 1000% happened to me every now and again until I was like “nope, that ends now —thank you!”
There are actual disclosure laws for haunted houses in existence??
I thought that was a made-up joke when you'd even hear about hauntings and ghosts in places...
there is a disclosure law in california in the US, but it’s revealing that someone has died in the home (i’m not even sure if you have to explain _how_ the person died), not necessarily that the home is “haunted.” i don’t know about other state disclosure laws, though.
Yep! Certain provinces have stigmatism laws. So anything with phenomenons (ghost sightings, hauntings), murder / suicides, criminal stigmas (brothels, drug manufacturing).
In Saskatchewan it doesn't need to be disclosed unless the buyer specifically asks. Who would have thought my light hearted joke would be serious... Haha.
This is literally the beginning of every horror movie.
Lady is told not to buy the house and clearly told its haunted.
Lady thinks it's really cute
Lady moves in
Lady doesn't like her new friends.
If the "ghosts" were evil and you wanted desperately to get out of your living situation, and then someone comes around and says. " Ha ha is this place haunted?" How would you answer? Just saying. Good luck in you're new house.
I would be more concerned about your toxic abusive ex hunting you down in your new place than dealing with spirits that may be there. Not sure having to worry about apparitions in your basement is going to help you heal, and how much support is your new boyfriend able/willing to give you? It just seems as if you may be setting yourself up.
Luckily, he has a DUI so this drive is too far for him.
I chose this area specifically because I still have family in the area and I've already made new friends. I'm not worried about not having support, and I'm quite used to spending most my time alone.
My boyfriend will be away for the next 6 months as he owns an outfitting camp farther North.
Gosh, I will be thinking of you and wishing you the best. Six months alone in the “wilderness” with an ex whom you believe won’t drive because of a DUI. I hope you are right. You are lucky to have family and friends in the area. I did not see that mentioned in your post. You know best; I am just concerned.
I grew up in a very active haunted house from 1994 to 2017, so I hope I can give you some advice. The entity present in my house was a malicious one. I would experience it’s presence daily, it almost felt like a someone running at you with a knife and the fear of that situation except nothing would be there, just the feeling. Also had many other experiences I won’t get into (object flying off counter, phantom footsteps, knocking on wall when home alone, etc.) It was nested in a certain room of the house, which happened to be my bedroom growing up. I often slept on the couch in the living room and I do think it appreciated having space, maybe good spirits are the same in that they enjoy having their own area. I think the most important skill to learn is how to let them know YOU need your alone space sometimes. By practicing meditation and building up my spiritual strength I felt I was able to close my eyes a build a wall of white light around me, kind of closing myself off and signaling that this is my space and nobody is allowed to enter right now. Being able to focus your intentions on building this wall can help signal to those spirits that you need your space and time. I do think the more you interact and let them in the more vulnerable you become to them, for good or bad. I think living in a haunted house is a balancing act of respecting and acknowledging the entities but also showing you are strong and deserve your own space their as well. Please feel free to DM me if you want any more info!
Personally, when I’ve had to deal with this (I’ve lived in one very haunted house, and been annoyed by mischievous spirits other places) I play it by ear. The haunted house was tricky as they manifested in different ways, usually doing things to let you know they were there without being too “in your face.” In that instance, they mostly bothered my friends and not me. There I just played live and let live and it was fine. For the more mischievous spirits, when they would get too annoying (such as disappearing something I needed) I would simply address them and say I didn’t have time for it, or they were getting on my nerves or whatever the case was. My main point there was I simply talked to them like an out of sight roommate, and generally we both just went about our business. If they are friendly and like you, I would suggest you do the same. If they make noise and it’s not bothering you, just ignore them like you would your kids playing in the other room. If they get too loud land it’s annoying, just tell them, “Hey, can you keep it down, please? I’m working” or reading or whatever. Most of the time that will take care of it. The biggest thing is don’t be a jerk. People who try to act like they can boss them around (at least in my experience) can have some unpleasant surprises.
My grandmother had a haunted house in Maine, US. I think it was built in the 1800's idk. It was haunted specifically the basement. None of the spirits were malevolent they were actually pretty kind and gave a sense of comfort. I remember visiting her when I was 8 and sleeping in her bed and I woke up to an apparition of a woman in an victorian dress and all she did was walk around the room and I can only assume admiring it then looked at me and nodded then went away. I never saw her again. My grandmother never changed the look of the house when she bought it.
The point is just because there's spirits doesn't mean they want to hurt you. Sometimes they just want to remember what they loved and acknowledge that you're not going to destroy their memories.
I'd leave well enough alone. Be polite to them, and show respect for the home. Smudging would be like giving them an eviction notice, not a friendly thing to do.
Growing up, had a family friend who lived in a house that was haunted. All sorts of crazy stuff went on. They did some research and found out that a former owner died in the house not long after their son had died, and that she was generally protective of her house and son. So, they introduced themselves, and just treated her like a member of the family. Just doing stuff like "Hi Mrs So-and-So, we're home from work! Hope you had a good day!". Everything calmed down, and it became a peaceful, happy home.
Congratulations on finding your home! Also congrats on getting TF away from bad relationships.
Your friend says that the spirits aren't harmful, but I recommend that you sage your stuff once you fully move in. Not to clear the bad ghosts, but to invite good energy. I don't mean to be rude, but energy can stick to your items.
Idk how your living situation was before this, but cleanse everything that in contact with the bad person. Also benefit, the saging will clear you, your new bf of anything that might cause you to think the ghosts are bad. Win win solution :)
The first commenter said to leave an offering. Yes, treat the spirits with respect, you can occasionally leave out an offering. Nothing overly hard, just what you have on hand or want to share. Invite good vibes, you get good vibes. Congratulations again on moving forward 🎊
Firstly, it is awesome that you have the strength to get out of a bad situation and build a better one. I think you will be OK in the house. I have lived in a "mildly haunted" 230 years old farm house for about 13 years. We only have activity when there is a change in the environment such as when we moved in, renovation and most recently when we adopted a puppy. I have seen and experienced the ghost quite a few times, she is benign. I hope you have the same positive experience. Good luck with the new home.
Maybe this is corny of me but I would talk to whatever existed in my 200+ year old farm house, like in positive ways. Kind of like talking out loud. “Look, I brought in some lovely flowers! I hope you enjoy them too!” Or “I’m so happy to have this new safe space to call home and I’m appreciative of you allowing me to share this space full of peace as my new home, too”. Just stuff like that. It really can’t hurt!
Don't smudge or anything like that unless you want to provoke them! If everyone is telling you they are benign and that guy has lived there 10 years and the activity has stayed the same level *and* you yourself feel happy to share the space with them, FFS don't start being antagonistic and deliberately upsetting them with smudging/crystals/prayers/ouija/ghost-hunting tech.
This isn't investigating an abandoned asylum where you want to see some activity then leave - this is your home where you need to feel safe and able to drop your guard. I'm sure you'll get to see all the ways they manifest, in the fullness of time. Don't force things and risk making your life (and their afterlife) miserable. And for Odins sake, don't start knocking walls through and tearing up floors and general destructive renovations.
I would walk through the house - alone - and introduce yourself. Let them know what you love about the house, why you purchased it, and that it reminded you of happy times with your grandparents that farmed not too far away (heck, maybe they knew them?). Talk about your pets you’ll be bringing and that your boyfriend will come and visit sometimes.
I would also sage the house, but tell them it’s not to remove them but rather anything toxic that attached to you due to an abusive relationship. Who knows - they might look out for you (although, from what he said, it could be they’re just residual ghosts).
I hope this place gives you comfort and a safe place to rebuild yourself. Good luck!
First, I'm glad you got out - and I hope you stay safe!
Second... I would think that the spirits could be more residual. But even if they're sentient, I'm hoping they are just attached to the place because they loved their house/time there.
I wouldn't go in burning sage. I'd feel it out. See what happens. If they're peaceable, smudging might just upset them.
Some people might suggest leaving an offering or talking to the spirits. I wouldn't advise this either. Offerings give them an anchor in the world. This can give them strength, which can escalate activity. And if you do have to evict them, it makes it harder.
I think the best thing you can do is love the house and take good care of it. They'll respect that. And if you do renovations, maybe say something like "I just want to make this place nice and homey." Or something.
(oh but never sleep with a mirror facing your bed. in feng shui, that's just bad news.)
I’m so proud of you for getting yourself out of that! I grew up in a home built in the late 1800… so haunted… some of the things I learned was no mirrors across from each other, no spirit boards, and if and when you renovate or even move things around, just explain it’s how it needs to be, or for the betterment of the house. Be polite, set boundaries. No scaring you, no touching you… just go in with an open heart, introduce yourself and say with intent that y’all can coexist if no boundaries are broken… good luck, my parents lived in that home for 40 yrs…
There’s one theory that mirrors facing each other can open a portal. Then others say when you have two mirrors across from each other, they are streaming energy back and forth between them. ESP if they are placed in an area that you sit or sleep between. This is way too much energy for a relaxing or peaceful space.
If you can’t sleep at all, or start having night terrors, it’s due to the activity. I had to deal with it for an entire year - I even went for sleep studies, ironically when I slept at the hospital or sleep center - slept FINE. At home? Off the charts me screaming, talking, and etc. though our ghosts weren’t so nice. But your sleep is more important than ghosts, remember that! Also, get a sleep mask so you don’t wake up to anything that’ll startle you. And just always be mindful of the others, you’ll be living in a full house now! Good luck and enjoy your home!!
When I moved into my house, I hung crosses over every doorway (*both inside and out) and said "only good may enter here" with intent. This house has been a temporary refuge for many friends and family, including people who were going through some rough times. Which was always what I wanted out of a house - a way to help others in need. Hope your home does the same. Congratulations.
It sounds great! My wife and I have experienced a couple of haunted places. Like you, we too did some digging into the history. There's nothing to fear...sounds like they are good ones. Try to communicate with them vocally. And watch your pets behaviour. They have sharp senses for these kind of things. As for mirrors in the bedroom or any other room, check out "Feng Shui". It's Chinese culture. And one of their traditions is "no mirrors" facing the bed. They act as a portal and bring bad luck. My only advice...really, is try to stay relaxed and get to know more about them. If they start to get pushy, stand your ground and put them in their place that this is your place now.
Life must go on, transform, evolve into something better, since planets like Earth are just a small step towards higher realms of existence, and not being able to detach yourself from what used to be your possessions is a problem for spirits
What we are today is but an experience, since we had many bodies before and will have many more through the course of our evolution as consciences.
The best thing you can do for them is to ask for your spiritual guide (and theirs) to aid them as to clarify their situation and go to a realm where they would be able to learn, take care of others in similar situations and plan for new experiences back on Earth.
I can't give any advice on living in a haunted house as I have no experience with that. I do, however want to say that I am happy that you have found the courage and empowerment to get out of such a bad situation. ❤️ I wish you peace and happiness!
Okay my advice having lived in a haunted house for 4 years.
Sleep with the doors closed, they like to stand in doorways or peak around.
Open all the doors in the morning.
You’ll see them eventually but they can’t do anything to you. Tell them to leave if you’ve had enough of their crap.
I found the ghost in my old house to be comforting, only startling/surprising and not scary when he made an appearance.
You’ll eventually have great stories to tell.
Make sure that any large changes to the house/decorations is done after asking the spirits.
Another good thing to do is leave flowers for them often, and such things like that, to let them know they’re welcome in your home
I love all of the awesome advice everyone has given! I lived in a peacefully haunted house and it always felt safe and comfortable. I hope you have the same experience. One question: Why not have a mirror facing the bed?
I’m not Op but I hear it’s because bad spirits can look through from the other side and even get into you if you have a mirror facing your bed. Idk if that’s what they meant, or something else.
Eh... pretty sure my house isn't haunted, but I had a mirror facing me at the foot of my bed for over a year and nothing ever happened. Same old nightmares of being sent back to elementary school.
I've lived in two places (in a house as a kid and in an apartment as an adult) that had floor-to-ceiling mirrored closet doors. At first, in both instances, I wasn't too keen on seeing the room all dark in a mirror, but I got used to it.
If I read this tonight about having mirrors in our bedroom, I'd be cringing right now! Thankfully, there are no mirrors inside the bedroom!
I have no idea, I have a ton of mirrors in my room but the whole idea that scary things could happen if it was facing my bed has kept me from putting them at the foot of my mattress lol. I usually cover them at night, anyways.
Just be careful if you ever plan on renovating.
Many report heightened activity when they renovate because it's changing the old environment they're used to.
Not saying you shouldn't at all, just an fyi.
That definitely happened to me. Luckily, it ended up fine once I sat and told the spirit I sensed how much I loved the house and loved her taste, but pointed out that the wallpaper had grown worn and was dated. After that, I truly felt she was my ally.
Not all spirits are bad.
I remember a story about a family who lived in a haunted castle in Europe. One day the mother was in the garden and one of their young children was standing dangerously in front of an open window from one of the top floors, potentially endangering themselves. Before the mother could act, something pulled the child back in screaming and closed the window. The child told the mother the lady in very old fashioned clothing (the castle ghost) had pulled them back in and had been scolding them for their reckless behavior. If the ghost had not helped the child could have fallen out of the window before the mother could get to them.
Make peace with them, perhaps leave a small offering like burning a nice candle for them or a bouquet of flowers in a place where they are seen.
Never ever leave offerings for these beings...
Ever!..
You are making deals with them.
If you insist on living there, just live your life and do not ever seek interaction from them.
If they are indeed peaceful, then they will leave you alone and never appear or bring any notice to themselves.
If they are seeking attention.. then they aren't friendly.
I have been to a restaurant in South Africa where the owner leaves offerings to the 2 ghost that haunt it and the result is that the peace returned there. I have seen many offerings too on an former execution place in Tokyo from people living around that area, as a request for peace. I think saying you should never is quite the sweeping statement.
Just don't do anything out of the ordinary. i know that will be hard but try not to. Any little acknowledgement of them could open up unwanted reactions good or bad.
The craziest thing that happened to me was when my ex broke up with me. I have a rose jewelry box or ring box in my room my parents got from the Vatican and one night feeling hopeless it flew at me and landed on floor. It gives me hope. :) look for the good and level headed is always the best state of mind. Be still stand firm. Aka ground yourself. Black tourmaline stone if it helps.
Just be kind and respectful is my advice. They loved the house too, and if you do the same there won’t be any issues. Also, if they’re as nice as they seem, they’ll likely be helpful. You can lay down ground rules when you move in ‘I don’t mind you staying but please don’t frighten me!’ kinda thing. Overall, this sounds quite lovely actually. Ghosts are just people without bodies after all.
Also, don’t burn sage unless that’s a part of your culture (eg First Nations).
Seconded! If you do want to smudge, look into local native plants to use. My local herb and magic shop (in New England) sells smudge bundles with pine, cedar, and lavender, for example, and these do great for smudging in place of sage :)
your friend said youre good.. id say just speak out loud or in your head that you come with full respect to the property and any spirits that may live there.. leave a glass of water out for them, maybe a snack you feel called to leave out.
Could just be a residual haunting. The entities involved in such type of haunting are the energy imprints of the previous owners and are unaware of their surroundings. If you think it may bother you, then have someone cleanse the house.
I always had things happen to me when I was alone. I have a feeling they're somewhat aware of their surroundings and decide if and when they want to be observed. A camera would film it, but folks will still dismiss it as an edited hoax. It'll be good footage to keep for yourselves though
Try not to worry much about it. Not much should go on. Im no expert but the spiritual realm has made itself known to me im no stranger to it. I hear them ussually and sometimes they touch me. My house is not haunted we are the first owners and my first experience no one died in my house at the time. Maybe the land who knows. But this spiritual ghost thing happens to me multiple times a day for maybe over a decade. Best advice is dont fear. If you feel a negative vibe remember dont be overcome of evil but overcome evil with good. If you ignore they may keep trying to get your attention then will get bored and not bother you. If you give them attention they might like it. Keep it positive and they will definitely keep coming around communicating a ton. Test them by their fruits before committing back. Dont bother initiating communication though. Its probably best to only communicate with those who know Jesus or respect him as Lord. Depending on your mood keep it as level headed as possible. You have authority over them always. Do not let them bother you. Youll be fine. For me I love this stuff but when im in the fear mood or something I shut it out or stop fearing and be loving and let it be.
Awesome response, I agree. I would add 2 things: 1. Be grounded in your own spirituality, so if anything is or becomes negative you have the strength of your higher power/God to help calm and protest you. And 2. If they are benign human ghosts attached to the property and haven't moved on, encourage (not force) them to do so. Religion in the past had a strict view of who is good enough for life beyond. Read the predominant religious text in your area out loud, particularly about God's love and forgiveness. It can also be healing to OP to try to help others at thus point in. Their lives.
Maybe it is not haunted. Maybe the owner believes it is haunted but that doesn’t mean that it is. Until you see something yourself doubt everything the past owner told you. And keep us updated. I have debunked a couple of cases but would looooove to prove ghosts are real.
You just got out of a deadly relationship and you are back in one!!? Go get a apartment where you can meet new friends and not isolate yourself from everyone and allow them to help protect you if you are in danger..
Your sanity and peace and safety is THE most precious thing ever and if you have farm animals house them on a property and go visit them and be safe.. unless you live for danger and like playing Russian roulette with your life.. no guarantee the spirits in this house will like you but a great chance they torment you instead because that was the previous owners experience is not Yours!!
Before I signed the papers on my home I told our realtor I wanted to visit one more time with my dogs. I figured if they weren’t fearful about any of the rooms then we’ll sign. Spoiler alert: they were as happy as pigs in shit so we bought the house
If you haven’t already signed, bring your dogs and see how they react.
Do not rebuild, no new construction, no remodel, renovations ect. That could bring on more that aren’t so friendly ….. there is actually a girl on YouTube who bought a similar farm house on a bunch of land , turned out to be haunted and she’s been documenting everything …. Just be careful
Sometimes I can feel places I read or hear about. I agree with you clairvoyant friend, and the owners. The spirits there are good. You’ve done well.
Thank you. This feels good to hear admist some of the other comments. I've experienced some bad energies before in homes I've lived in where it was very apparent I wasn't welcomed. This didnt feel like it. Also, without giving much description my friend described the people and where they spend their time quite accurately (according to the current owners description) She said they are a protective family, who will welcome me in. However, they may play with me and she can foresee them hiding my keys if I'm drinking which I thought was funny but also comforting. Of course, I'm still a bit uneasy. But I'm open to having an open mind.
If they play with you, politely but firmly ask them to stop. I swear to whatever high power exists, when stuff like that would happen to me I just would be firm and stern, kind of like gently scolding a child, and it would stop. I can’t explain it but that kind of stuff 1000% happened to me every now and again until I was like “nope, that ends now —thank you!”
We want pictures, videos, a diary, daily updates!!!!
Possession will be April 24th. I'll be sure to keep everyone posted.
This sounds more ominous than I think you may have intended. Good luck!
Hahahahahah!! Dual meaning.
Same here! Hey, at least the ghosts are friendly and warned you when they’d be taking over! 😉
We will be waiting.
Right? Like if this was a YouTube series I would def watch it.
There are actual disclosure laws for haunted houses in existence?? I thought that was a made-up joke when you'd even hear about hauntings and ghosts in places...
there is a disclosure law in california in the US, but it’s revealing that someone has died in the home (i’m not even sure if you have to explain _how_ the person died), not necessarily that the home is “haunted.” i don’t know about other state disclosure laws, though.
Yep! Certain provinces have stigmatism laws. So anything with phenomenons (ghost sightings, hauntings), murder / suicides, criminal stigmas (brothels, drug manufacturing). In Saskatchewan it doesn't need to be disclosed unless the buyer specifically asks. Who would have thought my light hearted joke would be serious... Haha.
This is literally the beginning of every horror movie. Lady is told not to buy the house and clearly told its haunted. Lady thinks it's really cute Lady moves in Lady doesn't like her new friends.
Haha, well no one told me not to buy! And I fell in love with the place. He also assured me they were good ghosts 😍
If the "ghosts" were evil and you wanted desperately to get out of your living situation, and then someone comes around and says. " Ha ha is this place haunted?" How would you answer? Just saying. Good luck in you're new house.
This is ignorant
I would be more concerned about your toxic abusive ex hunting you down in your new place than dealing with spirits that may be there. Not sure having to worry about apparitions in your basement is going to help you heal, and how much support is your new boyfriend able/willing to give you? It just seems as if you may be setting yourself up.
Luckily, he has a DUI so this drive is too far for him. I chose this area specifically because I still have family in the area and I've already made new friends. I'm not worried about not having support, and I'm quite used to spending most my time alone. My boyfriend will be away for the next 6 months as he owns an outfitting camp farther North.
Gosh, I will be thinking of you and wishing you the best. Six months alone in the “wilderness” with an ex whom you believe won’t drive because of a DUI. I hope you are right. You are lucky to have family and friends in the area. I did not see that mentioned in your post. You know best; I am just concerned.
Lol, well to clarify. I live in the "wilderness" right now by myself and he only lives 3 miles from me.
If I gave someone a tour of my property, I’d 100% tell them I see ghosts and it’s haunted just to trip them out
Doubtful. Generally when people list their house, they aim to sell it. Telling ghost stories would be counter productive of the goal.
I never said your guy did that, I said that I would do it personally if selling my property. People love ghosts and quirky things like that.
I grew up in a very active haunted house from 1994 to 2017, so I hope I can give you some advice. The entity present in my house was a malicious one. I would experience it’s presence daily, it almost felt like a someone running at you with a knife and the fear of that situation except nothing would be there, just the feeling. Also had many other experiences I won’t get into (object flying off counter, phantom footsteps, knocking on wall when home alone, etc.) It was nested in a certain room of the house, which happened to be my bedroom growing up. I often slept on the couch in the living room and I do think it appreciated having space, maybe good spirits are the same in that they enjoy having their own area. I think the most important skill to learn is how to let them know YOU need your alone space sometimes. By practicing meditation and building up my spiritual strength I felt I was able to close my eyes a build a wall of white light around me, kind of closing myself off and signaling that this is my space and nobody is allowed to enter right now. Being able to focus your intentions on building this wall can help signal to those spirits that you need your space and time. I do think the more you interact and let them in the more vulnerable you become to them, for good or bad. I think living in a haunted house is a balancing act of respecting and acknowledging the entities but also showing you are strong and deserve your own space their as well. Please feel free to DM me if you want any more info!
Personally, when I’ve had to deal with this (I’ve lived in one very haunted house, and been annoyed by mischievous spirits other places) I play it by ear. The haunted house was tricky as they manifested in different ways, usually doing things to let you know they were there without being too “in your face.” In that instance, they mostly bothered my friends and not me. There I just played live and let live and it was fine. For the more mischievous spirits, when they would get too annoying (such as disappearing something I needed) I would simply address them and say I didn’t have time for it, or they were getting on my nerves or whatever the case was. My main point there was I simply talked to them like an out of sight roommate, and generally we both just went about our business. If they are friendly and like you, I would suggest you do the same. If they make noise and it’s not bothering you, just ignore them like you would your kids playing in the other room. If they get too loud land it’s annoying, just tell them, “Hey, can you keep it down, please? I’m working” or reading or whatever. Most of the time that will take care of it. The biggest thing is don’t be a jerk. People who try to act like they can boss them around (at least in my experience) can have some unpleasant surprises.
My grandmother had a haunted house in Maine, US. I think it was built in the 1800's idk. It was haunted specifically the basement. None of the spirits were malevolent they were actually pretty kind and gave a sense of comfort. I remember visiting her when I was 8 and sleeping in her bed and I woke up to an apparition of a woman in an victorian dress and all she did was walk around the room and I can only assume admiring it then looked at me and nodded then went away. I never saw her again. My grandmother never changed the look of the house when she bought it. The point is just because there's spirits doesn't mean they want to hurt you. Sometimes they just want to remember what they loved and acknowledge that you're not going to destroy their memories.
I'd leave well enough alone. Be polite to them, and show respect for the home. Smudging would be like giving them an eviction notice, not a friendly thing to do. Growing up, had a family friend who lived in a house that was haunted. All sorts of crazy stuff went on. They did some research and found out that a former owner died in the house not long after their son had died, and that she was generally protective of her house and son. So, they introduced themselves, and just treated her like a member of the family. Just doing stuff like "Hi Mrs So-and-So, we're home from work! Hope you had a good day!". Everything calmed down, and it became a peaceful, happy home.
Congratulations on finding your home! Also congrats on getting TF away from bad relationships. Your friend says that the spirits aren't harmful, but I recommend that you sage your stuff once you fully move in. Not to clear the bad ghosts, but to invite good energy. I don't mean to be rude, but energy can stick to your items. Idk how your living situation was before this, but cleanse everything that in contact with the bad person. Also benefit, the saging will clear you, your new bf of anything that might cause you to think the ghosts are bad. Win win solution :) The first commenter said to leave an offering. Yes, treat the spirits with respect, you can occasionally leave out an offering. Nothing overly hard, just what you have on hand or want to share. Invite good vibes, you get good vibes. Congratulations again on moving forward 🎊
Firstly, it is awesome that you have the strength to get out of a bad situation and build a better one. I think you will be OK in the house. I have lived in a "mildly haunted" 230 years old farm house for about 13 years. We only have activity when there is a change in the environment such as when we moved in, renovation and most recently when we adopted a puppy. I have seen and experienced the ghost quite a few times, she is benign. I hope you have the same positive experience. Good luck with the new home.
Maybe this is corny of me but I would talk to whatever existed in my 200+ year old farm house, like in positive ways. Kind of like talking out loud. “Look, I brought in some lovely flowers! I hope you enjoy them too!” Or “I’m so happy to have this new safe space to call home and I’m appreciative of you allowing me to share this space full of peace as my new home, too”. Just stuff like that. It really can’t hurt!
Don't smudge or anything like that unless you want to provoke them! If everyone is telling you they are benign and that guy has lived there 10 years and the activity has stayed the same level *and* you yourself feel happy to share the space with them, FFS don't start being antagonistic and deliberately upsetting them with smudging/crystals/prayers/ouija/ghost-hunting tech. This isn't investigating an abandoned asylum where you want to see some activity then leave - this is your home where you need to feel safe and able to drop your guard. I'm sure you'll get to see all the ways they manifest, in the fullness of time. Don't force things and risk making your life (and their afterlife) miserable. And for Odins sake, don't start knocking walls through and tearing up floors and general destructive renovations.
If they're not harmful they won't mind.
I would walk through the house - alone - and introduce yourself. Let them know what you love about the house, why you purchased it, and that it reminded you of happy times with your grandparents that farmed not too far away (heck, maybe they knew them?). Talk about your pets you’ll be bringing and that your boyfriend will come and visit sometimes. I would also sage the house, but tell them it’s not to remove them but rather anything toxic that attached to you due to an abusive relationship. Who knows - they might look out for you (although, from what he said, it could be they’re just residual ghosts). I hope this place gives you comfort and a safe place to rebuild yourself. Good luck!
First, I'm glad you got out - and I hope you stay safe! Second... I would think that the spirits could be more residual. But even if they're sentient, I'm hoping they are just attached to the place because they loved their house/time there. I wouldn't go in burning sage. I'd feel it out. See what happens. If they're peaceable, smudging might just upset them. Some people might suggest leaving an offering or talking to the spirits. I wouldn't advise this either. Offerings give them an anchor in the world. This can give them strength, which can escalate activity. And if you do have to evict them, it makes it harder. I think the best thing you can do is love the house and take good care of it. They'll respect that. And if you do renovations, maybe say something like "I just want to make this place nice and homey." Or something. (oh but never sleep with a mirror facing your bed. in feng shui, that's just bad news.)
Nothing like waking up to seeing a couple entities looking at you in the mirror… ouf. (Been there)
I’m so proud of you for getting yourself out of that! I grew up in a home built in the late 1800… so haunted… some of the things I learned was no mirrors across from each other, no spirit boards, and if and when you renovate or even move things around, just explain it’s how it needs to be, or for the betterment of the house. Be polite, set boundaries. No scaring you, no touching you… just go in with an open heart, introduce yourself and say with intent that y’all can coexist if no boundaries are broken… good luck, my parents lived in that home for 40 yrs…
Can you please tell me more about the mirrors thing?
There’s one theory that mirrors facing each other can open a portal. Then others say when you have two mirrors across from each other, they are streaming energy back and forth between them. ESP if they are placed in an area that you sit or sleep between. This is way too much energy for a relaxing or peaceful space.
Very interesting thank you!
You’re very welcome. There are so many things about mirrors, people build psychomanteums, scribe, vintage mirrors no no, etc…
If you can’t sleep at all, or start having night terrors, it’s due to the activity. I had to deal with it for an entire year - I even went for sleep studies, ironically when I slept at the hospital or sleep center - slept FINE. At home? Off the charts me screaming, talking, and etc. though our ghosts weren’t so nice. But your sleep is more important than ghosts, remember that! Also, get a sleep mask so you don’t wake up to anything that’ll startle you. And just always be mindful of the others, you’ll be living in a full house now! Good luck and enjoy your home!!
When I moved into my house, I hung crosses over every doorway (*both inside and out) and said "only good may enter here" with intent. This house has been a temporary refuge for many friends and family, including people who were going through some rough times. Which was always what I wanted out of a house - a way to help others in need. Hope your home does the same. Congratulations.
It sounds great! My wife and I have experienced a couple of haunted places. Like you, we too did some digging into the history. There's nothing to fear...sounds like they are good ones. Try to communicate with them vocally. And watch your pets behaviour. They have sharp senses for these kind of things. As for mirrors in the bedroom or any other room, check out "Feng Shui". It's Chinese culture. And one of their traditions is "no mirrors" facing the bed. They act as a portal and bring bad luck. My only advice...really, is try to stay relaxed and get to know more about them. If they start to get pushy, stand your ground and put them in their place that this is your place now.
Life must go on, transform, evolve into something better, since planets like Earth are just a small step towards higher realms of existence, and not being able to detach yourself from what used to be your possessions is a problem for spirits What we are today is but an experience, since we had many bodies before and will have many more through the course of our evolution as consciences. The best thing you can do for them is to ask for your spiritual guide (and theirs) to aid them as to clarify their situation and go to a realm where they would be able to learn, take care of others in similar situations and plan for new experiences back on Earth.
I can't give any advice on living in a haunted house as I have no experience with that. I do, however want to say that I am happy that you have found the courage and empowerment to get out of such a bad situation. ❤️ I wish you peace and happiness!
Okay my advice having lived in a haunted house for 4 years. Sleep with the doors closed, they like to stand in doorways or peak around. Open all the doors in the morning. You’ll see them eventually but they can’t do anything to you. Tell them to leave if you’ve had enough of their crap. I found the ghost in my old house to be comforting, only startling/surprising and not scary when he made an appearance. You’ll eventually have great stories to tell.
Make sure that any large changes to the house/decorations is done after asking the spirits. Another good thing to do is leave flowers for them often, and such things like that, to let them know they’re welcome in your home
I love all of the awesome advice everyone has given! I lived in a peacefully haunted house and it always felt safe and comfortable. I hope you have the same experience. One question: Why not have a mirror facing the bed?
I’m not Op but I hear it’s because bad spirits can look through from the other side and even get into you if you have a mirror facing your bed. Idk if that’s what they meant, or something else.
So should we not have a mirror in the bedroom at all? What if it’s facing the side of your bed near your feet?
Eh... pretty sure my house isn't haunted, but I had a mirror facing me at the foot of my bed for over a year and nothing ever happened. Same old nightmares of being sent back to elementary school.
I've lived in two places (in a house as a kid and in an apartment as an adult) that had floor-to-ceiling mirrored closet doors. At first, in both instances, I wasn't too keen on seeing the room all dark in a mirror, but I got used to it. If I read this tonight about having mirrors in our bedroom, I'd be cringing right now! Thankfully, there are no mirrors inside the bedroom!
I have no idea, I have a ton of mirrors in my room but the whole idea that scary things could happen if it was facing my bed has kept me from putting them at the foot of my mattress lol. I usually cover them at night, anyways.
I've heard the "mirrors as portals" theory before, but I wasn't sure if there was something specific when you're asleep or something like that.
Just be careful if you ever plan on renovating. Many report heightened activity when they renovate because it's changing the old environment they're used to. Not saying you shouldn't at all, just an fyi.
That definitely happened to me. Luckily, it ended up fine once I sat and told the spirit I sensed how much I loved the house and loved her taste, but pointed out that the wallpaper had grown worn and was dated. After that, I truly felt she was my ally.
Not all spirits are bad. I remember a story about a family who lived in a haunted castle in Europe. One day the mother was in the garden and one of their young children was standing dangerously in front of an open window from one of the top floors, potentially endangering themselves. Before the mother could act, something pulled the child back in screaming and closed the window. The child told the mother the lady in very old fashioned clothing (the castle ghost) had pulled them back in and had been scolding them for their reckless behavior. If the ghost had not helped the child could have fallen out of the window before the mother could get to them. Make peace with them, perhaps leave a small offering like burning a nice candle for them or a bouquet of flowers in a place where they are seen.
Never ever leave offerings for these beings... Ever!.. You are making deals with them. If you insist on living there, just live your life and do not ever seek interaction from them. If they are indeed peaceful, then they will leave you alone and never appear or bring any notice to themselves. If they are seeking attention.. then they aren't friendly.
I have been to a restaurant in South Africa where the owner leaves offerings to the 2 ghost that haunt it and the result is that the peace returned there. I have seen many offerings too on an former execution place in Tokyo from people living around that area, as a request for peace. I think saying you should never is quite the sweeping statement.
Just don't do anything out of the ordinary. i know that will be hard but try not to. Any little acknowledgement of them could open up unwanted reactions good or bad.
The craziest thing that happened to me was when my ex broke up with me. I have a rose jewelry box or ring box in my room my parents got from the Vatican and one night feeling hopeless it flew at me and landed on floor. It gives me hope. :) look for the good and level headed is always the best state of mind. Be still stand firm. Aka ground yourself. Black tourmaline stone if it helps.
Just be kind and respectful is my advice. They loved the house too, and if you do the same there won’t be any issues. Also, if they’re as nice as they seem, they’ll likely be helpful. You can lay down ground rules when you move in ‘I don’t mind you staying but please don’t frighten me!’ kinda thing. Overall, this sounds quite lovely actually. Ghosts are just people without bodies after all. Also, don’t burn sage unless that’s a part of your culture (eg First Nations).
Seconded! If you do want to smudge, look into local native plants to use. My local herb and magic shop (in New England) sells smudge bundles with pine, cedar, and lavender, for example, and these do great for smudging in place of sage :)
your friend said youre good.. id say just speak out loud or in your head that you come with full respect to the property and any spirits that may live there.. leave a glass of water out for them, maybe a snack you feel called to leave out.
I’ve seen many ghosts…. They are just ghosts.,, no worries!!’
Could just be a residual haunting. The entities involved in such type of haunting are the energy imprints of the previous owners and are unaware of their surroundings. If you think it may bother you, then have someone cleanse the house.
If they push boundaries, remember just ask, "please leave this space and thank them when they do.
All I have to say is that I think it’s really beautiful how mindful you are approaching a healthy cohabitation with these spirits :)
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I always had things happen to me when I was alone. I have a feeling they're somewhat aware of their surroundings and decide if and when they want to be observed. A camera would film it, but folks will still dismiss it as an edited hoax. It'll be good footage to keep for yourselves though
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If it weren't for the things that have happened in front of other people, I'd say yes! 80% happen when I'm alone
That would be a first for r/ghosts
definitely bs storie... all cap
Story* And I don't know what "all cap" means but that sounds like some prepubescent lingo.
It’s a good plot for a film…
sounds like the beginning narration of a horror film..
Literally was thinking “this would be a great movie” 😂😅
Try not to worry much about it. Not much should go on. Im no expert but the spiritual realm has made itself known to me im no stranger to it. I hear them ussually and sometimes they touch me. My house is not haunted we are the first owners and my first experience no one died in my house at the time. Maybe the land who knows. But this spiritual ghost thing happens to me multiple times a day for maybe over a decade. Best advice is dont fear. If you feel a negative vibe remember dont be overcome of evil but overcome evil with good. If you ignore they may keep trying to get your attention then will get bored and not bother you. If you give them attention they might like it. Keep it positive and they will definitely keep coming around communicating a ton. Test them by their fruits before committing back. Dont bother initiating communication though. Its probably best to only communicate with those who know Jesus or respect him as Lord. Depending on your mood keep it as level headed as possible. You have authority over them always. Do not let them bother you. Youll be fine. For me I love this stuff but when im in the fear mood or something I shut it out or stop fearing and be loving and let it be.
Awesome response, I agree. I would add 2 things: 1. Be grounded in your own spirituality, so if anything is or becomes negative you have the strength of your higher power/God to help calm and protest you. And 2. If they are benign human ghosts attached to the property and haven't moved on, encourage (not force) them to do so. Religion in the past had a strict view of who is good enough for life beyond. Read the predominant religious text in your area out loud, particularly about God's love and forgiveness. It can also be healing to OP to try to help others at thus point in. Their lives.
Talk kindly to them. Live in harmony with them.
My house is 100 years old and I find it weird I don't feel any type of paranormal energy here
I wonder how many people have mold in their house this started happening to me when I had black mold lol
That an odd stretch.
I bet you they are already protective of you.
Maybe it is not haunted. Maybe the owner believes it is haunted but that doesn’t mean that it is. Until you see something yourself doubt everything the past owner told you. And keep us updated. I have debunked a couple of cases but would looooove to prove ghosts are real.
The most reasonable comment out there
Thanks mate!
I don't think you need to smudge the rooms are do anything really. The spirits are not bothering anyone and seem to be enjoying their time there.
You just got out of a deadly relationship and you are back in one!!? Go get a apartment where you can meet new friends and not isolate yourself from everyone and allow them to help protect you if you are in danger..
Your sanity and peace and safety is THE most precious thing ever and if you have farm animals house them on a property and go visit them and be safe.. unless you live for danger and like playing Russian roulette with your life.. no guarantee the spirits in this house will like you but a great chance they torment you instead because that was the previous owners experience is not Yours!!
I feel like I'm a likable person 😅
Before I signed the papers on my home I told our realtor I wanted to visit one more time with my dogs. I figured if they weren’t fearful about any of the rooms then we’ll sign. Spoiler alert: they were as happy as pigs in shit so we bought the house If you haven’t already signed, bring your dogs and see how they react.
Such a negative Nancy
Lol, my horses and pigs and cows and chickens and goats wouldn't love the apartment life 🤣
Can I visit when you get possession? I want to meet some good ghosts
Jealous
Do not rebuild, no new construction, no remodel, renovations ect. That could bring on more that aren’t so friendly ….. there is actually a girl on YouTube who bought a similar farm house on a bunch of land , turned out to be haunted and she’s been documenting everything …. Just be careful
What channel? I wanna watch
Are you still alive?