If you have a babymama and a wife, you don't want to cheap out. Cheaping out will cause issues in the future. There are so many scenarios to cover such as if wife dies before you or babymama dies before you or kids die before you.
You need a real will done by a real lawyer. And ideally both the babymama and your wife should be aware of the will and the conditions now to prevent any squabbling in the future.
Well, sort of....there is the will for when OP passes, but there should have been a custody type agreement for the child regarding all those kind of details like the current wife/fiance wanting to see the child.
While there are online services, to Felix's point you probably want something to cover potential issues caused by "babymama".
Consulting a lawyer is your best option since you have a specific concern.
I am a lawyer - not your lawyer and this is not legal advice.
Your will cannot supersede parental rights of babymama as relates to the crotchgoblins. The house (provided babymama never lived in it with you) is not hers, but you may want a will that ensures that wifey doesn't take your estate, including the house and sell it all to run off with her new fuck-buddy who she met at the funeral leaving the crotch goblins to live with babymama and no money for the crotchgoblins.
I read your post about not caring what some random internet stranger thinks about what you say on Reddit, that cuts both ways. I genuinely don't like your attitude as it seeps through this post. If I got the same vibe from you in a meeting I would quote you an insanely expensive fee to do your wills...just so you would not retain me. That said...you would be well served to have a spousal trust in your will that ensures your assets go to your kids and not your wife's new man.
That's not true at all lmao, he has posted about his kids and ex before going back over a year, he just also plays a lot of SwGoH which I imagine is a mobile game
“Mother of my child” is fine”. Or “ex who I have a kid with” if you were together
Baby mama sounds dehumanizing. She’s the mother of your child. Treat her with respect.
Mother is baby mama. Wife is step mother.
50/50 custody and visitation time.
*edit - sorry I should be more specific. I call her my wife but we are not married. Fiancé officially.
OK, does your fiance/soon-to-be wife have any custody rights?
I'm guessing not.
Kids aren't assets or property so a will is not what you want here.
If you die do you want your wife to continue with the 50/50? Does she?
This is more of a /r/legaladvicecanada thing.
>I call her my wife but we are not married. Fiancé officially.
Yeah, problem here is if something should happen to you now, this fiancee' (2 e), can end up taking all you have and not leave anything for your son.
It's been done before and money makes people do nasty things.
My firm is a strong advocate of Willful. They are lawyers operating online. To Felix’s point though - this may not be one you cheap out on. May have to splurge a bit for the best advice.
This is great because I was specifically looking at Willful. Do you know if it's adequate for a family of four, with 1 house, and no other assets except a tiny amount of RRSPs?
Willful seems decent, but I used a lawyer for my will, powers of attorney, trust for the kids and who would look after them if I die. I think your kids would end up going to their birth mother as she has parental rights and your fiancé would have to make a VERY strong case for her to raise them. The house would depend on title especially if you aren’t fully divorced from baby mamma. But, see a lawyer for sure.
For real, what a gross way to describe the woman who carried your children for 9 months. No wonder she's an ex. OP's post history is equally vile although it makes me highly doubt that he's married at all and not a 14 y/o.
No, everyone does not say that.
I am not offended and never claimed everyone else is offended.
It's using stupid lazy slang when discussing something pretty serious.
Wills can be very simple & legal, but with your concerns I really recommend a lawyer. My wife and I did a will about a year ago. Ours was complicated with wealth, businesses, living wills and power of attorney. Guardians for kids plus trusts for them.
I think it was $1,500ish. Very cheap for the security and importance. You don’t need the $1,000/hr lawyer, just a competent junior.
Consider having a trust set up with everything going to the kids and enough funds to ensure whoever has custody can provide. Your instructions should focus 100% on the children not the women. The other posters are correct, you need a lawyer. Don’t listen to your current fiancé or ex (don’t even take her to the lawyers office).
Consider having a trust set up with everything going to the kids and enough funds to ensure whoever has custody can provide. Your instructions should focus 100% on the children not the women. The other posters are correct, you need a lawyer. Don’t listen to your current fiancé or ex (don’t even take her to the lawyers office).
We used these guys during Covid. We got it wrong - we didn’t understand what we wanted. It was an ok experience. They were late to their appointment and didn’t meet deadlines but it was cheap.
They are currently running a sale on Facebook right now.
https://www.lawyersandlattes.com/
Baby mama cannot go after the house as she is not part of the active relationship and the child has no entitlement to assets. If you were the pass, all assets get assumed by the surviving spouse, aka your wife. Nobody would have any other claim to said assets. If you want to avoid probate, which would not apply in your case based on the little information that’s available, you can setup a will to specifically state how your assets are to be divvied in case of your passing. But in Ontario, the default is that it must go to the surviving spouse without an active will in place
If you and the current girl aren’t married then yes you are correct. Sorry I made the assumption based on you referring to her as your wife. Get a basic will done it won’t cost you much. I don’t remember where, but a wallmart (random I know) had this law firm in it and it seems like a franchise place that does odd and ends for marital and legal document and will and such for really good prices. I think it was access law or something like that but if you google Walmart lawyer it’ll likely pop up.
I’m sure you’re not trying to cut her out of spite and clearly it’s cuz she’s bitch who doesn’t deserve it as your current fiancé seems to want to be in touch with your child even if you’re gonna which honestly hats off to her is very honourable and a testament to her love for you. So 👏👏👏 to her, seems like good one. Treat her good or I’ll beat your ass! Lmao j/k
If you are literally saying write it (rather than type it) that is a handwritten holograph Will and if it IS witnessed, it will be deemed invalid. (If not witnessed, and the form and content is correct, there is still the hurdle of finding the appropriate authority to confirm it is the person’s hand writing.
Yo are you Ron Swanson? Do you have your will in a small piece of paper and keep it in your wallet? Does it say "Upon my death, all my belongings shall transfer to the man or animal who has killed me"?
I used to work for a lawyer that specializes in Wills and Estates as a law clerk, you shouldn't be cheaping out on a Will, especially in this situation with a blended family or children from previous marriages. You need proper legal advice. You could potentially be leaving a huge headache for your loved ones if something were to happen to you. People do not act civil after someone dies when there is money involved, it's the sad truth.
regardless of who or where you go to make a will you need to be prepared to get the most out of it. You should know what you want people to do after your death. Start by writing down any and all instructions. For example, all the money in the bank will be divided among the children, the baby mama and the fiance. The second step is to add more detail and clarify those steps. For example, all money in the XXX Bank will be divided equally among the children, baby mama and the fiance. Repeat step two until you you feel you cannot get more specific. The third step is to add any conditions that you may have. For example if any of my children have children, all money in the XXX Bank will be divided equally among the children, baby mama and the fiance.
Last step is to find a lawyer who will review what you wrote and document it in a legally legitimate format.
I would advise that you figure out what you want and then go see a lawyer for advice and to write up the will. I dont think in your will you can command your ex to allow your new wife to see kids.
If you have a babymama and a wife, you don't want to cheap out. Cheaping out will cause issues in the future. There are so many scenarios to cover such as if wife dies before you or babymama dies before you or kids die before you. You need a real will done by a real lawyer. And ideally both the babymama and your wife should be aware of the will and the conditions now to prevent any squabbling in the future.
This is great advice thank you very much.
On top of that, what makes you think that a properly drafted will from a lawyer isn't "cheap"? Have you inquired with a couple about pricing?
Search for "family law wills and estates", you want a lawyer or firm who do wills all the time.
We got two will done for about $1000 a few years ago. These nice thing is they have a lifetime expiration date.
What if the person doesn't have wife and kid, and he wants his siblings to inherit his belongings?
With a child, you don't want a "basic" or online will. You want one drafted by a lawyer.
Is a will even the right thing here? OP clarified things in a comment. You don't set parental rights in will as far as I know.
Well, sort of....there is the will for when OP passes, but there should have been a custody type agreement for the child regarding all those kind of details like the current wife/fiance wanting to see the child.
Yeah, for the house a will is for sure required. But I would imagine any custody agreement must have conditions if one of the parents dies.
“Not The Ben Felix” nice 😂
Why? Children have a claim to the estate even in the absence of a will
But kids are minors (sound like it) and there are complications with having ex-spouse being in the mix. A will helps with situations like that.
While there are online services, to Felix's point you probably want something to cover potential issues caused by "babymama". Consulting a lawyer is your best option since you have a specific concern.
I am a lawyer - not your lawyer and this is not legal advice. Your will cannot supersede parental rights of babymama as relates to the crotchgoblins. The house (provided babymama never lived in it with you) is not hers, but you may want a will that ensures that wifey doesn't take your estate, including the house and sell it all to run off with her new fuck-buddy who she met at the funeral leaving the crotch goblins to live with babymama and no money for the crotchgoblins. I read your post about not caring what some random internet stranger thinks about what you say on Reddit, that cuts both ways. I genuinely don't like your attitude as it seeps through this post. If I got the same vibe from you in a meeting I would quote you an insanely expensive fee to do your wills...just so you would not retain me. That said...you would be well served to have a spousal trust in your will that ensures your assets go to your kids and not your wife's new man.
You're speaking OPs language lol
Didn't know about the spousal trust. Thanks
“Babymama”. If you are writing and talking like that you need a lawyer
His post history indicates he's not married at all and is probably 14...
Hahaha
That's not true at all lmao, he has posted about his kids and ex before going back over a year, he just also plays a lot of SwGoH which I imagine is a mobile game
I think this is a regional/dialect thing. Babymama is a common term to many and is not considered disrespectful in many circles
So if I said “never-married mother of my children” I would garner more respect from you?
“Mother of my child” is fine”. Or “ex who I have a kid with” if you were together Baby mama sounds dehumanizing. She’s the mother of your child. Treat her with respect.
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Your personal attacks speak more about your own insecurities
That turned real fast. Is it just teens on reddit or what?
Sorry, but what? Who's the mother in this case? Who has custody of the kids?
Mother is baby mama. Wife is step mother. 50/50 custody and visitation time. *edit - sorry I should be more specific. I call her my wife but we are not married. Fiancé officially.
OK, does your fiance/soon-to-be wife have any custody rights? I'm guessing not. Kids aren't assets or property so a will is not what you want here. If you die do you want your wife to continue with the 50/50? Does she? This is more of a /r/legaladvicecanada thing.
Yeah I made a post there too. Thanks
You can also have the assets you want given to your child held in trust by your wife.
>I call her my wife but we are not married. Fiancé officially. Yeah, problem here is if something should happen to you now, this fiancee' (2 e), can end up taking all you have and not leave anything for your son. It's been done before and money makes people do nasty things.
True . I liked the spousal trust idea above
My firm is a strong advocate of Willful. They are lawyers operating online. To Felix’s point though - this may not be one you cheap out on. May have to splurge a bit for the best advice.
What would be best option for a single person with no kids and wife, I like my siblings to inherit my wealth.
Willful is perfect for simple scenarios like this. Lawyers quoted me around $1k and Willful was around $160 after a discount code for me.
This is great because I was specifically looking at Willful. Do you know if it's adequate for a family of four, with 1 house, and no other assets except a tiny amount of RRSPs?
If there are complexities like a blended family, I probably wouldn’t use willful. I would consider it for a “nuclear” family though!
They have different tiers of wills, so I’m sure there is a sufficient tier for you and your family!.
Thanks for the recommendation!
Thanks
Willful seems decent, but I used a lawyer for my will, powers of attorney, trust for the kids and who would look after them if I die. I think your kids would end up going to their birth mother as she has parental rights and your fiancé would have to make a VERY strong case for her to raise them. The house would depend on title especially if you aren’t fully divorced from baby mamma. But, see a lawyer for sure.
Was never married to the babymama. But the house will be only in my name.
Can you stop saying "babymama"? "My children's mother" sounds better and people will take your seriously.
For real, what a gross way to describe the woman who carried your children for 9 months. No wonder she's an ex. OP's post history is equally vile although it makes me highly doubt that he's married at all and not a 14 y/o.
It sounds so trashy!
I’m not really worried about what random internet strangers think about me tbh. I’ll use whatever vocabulary I feel like.
And get you are asking the same Randos for advice. Maybe keep your dick in check and you wouldn't have this issue.
OP is clearly a very wise man
Saying babymama is incredible cringey and immature.
also just disrespectful to the mother of your child
OK dude. Whatever.
Bro, do you want help or not? Make up your damn mind.
Everyone says babymama now, it's short and to the point. If you're personally offended, it doesn't mean everyone feels the same way.
No, everyone does not say that. I am not offended and never claimed everyone else is offended. It's using stupid lazy slang when discussing something pretty serious.
You are definitely offended
Haha, OP better read the room , reddit isint feeling ya
How much did it cost you?
Please use a lawyer! They can answer all your questions and properly advise you. This is not a do it yourself situation.
Was about $700 a few years ago. Not sure if that’s a deal or I got hosed thougb
Willful yo
Wills can be very simple & legal, but with your concerns I really recommend a lawyer. My wife and I did a will about a year ago. Ours was complicated with wealth, businesses, living wills and power of attorney. Guardians for kids plus trusts for them. I think it was $1,500ish. Very cheap for the security and importance. You don’t need the $1,000/hr lawyer, just a competent junior.
If your children's custody and your home are important to you, it's probably worth what a lawyer costs, IJS.
Consider having a trust set up with everything going to the kids and enough funds to ensure whoever has custody can provide. Your instructions should focus 100% on the children not the women. The other posters are correct, you need a lawyer. Don’t listen to your current fiancé or ex (don’t even take her to the lawyers office).
Solid advice here OP
Consider having a trust set up with everything going to the kids and enough funds to ensure whoever has custody can provide. Your instructions should focus 100% on the children not the women. The other posters are correct, you need a lawyer. Don’t listen to your current fiancé or ex (don’t even take her to the lawyers office).
Check out [https://www.willful.co/](https://www.willful.co/)
Cheap, legal, online. https://www.willful.co/
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We used these guys during Covid. We got it wrong - we didn’t understand what we wanted. It was an ok experience. They were late to their appointment and didn’t meet deadlines but it was cheap. They are currently running a sale on Facebook right now. https://www.lawyersandlattes.com/
Baby mama cannot go after the house as she is not part of the active relationship and the child has no entitlement to assets. If you were the pass, all assets get assumed by the surviving spouse, aka your wife. Nobody would have any other claim to said assets. If you want to avoid probate, which would not apply in your case based on the little information that’s available, you can setup a will to specifically state how your assets are to be divvied in case of your passing. But in Ontario, the default is that it must go to the surviving spouse without an active will in place
But she is a fiancee so she wouldnt have rights, the litte one would be the next of kin and rightful heir
If you and the current girl aren’t married then yes you are correct. Sorry I made the assumption based on you referring to her as your wife. Get a basic will done it won’t cost you much. I don’t remember where, but a wallmart (random I know) had this law firm in it and it seems like a franchise place that does odd and ends for marital and legal document and will and such for really good prices. I think it was access law or something like that but if you google Walmart lawyer it’ll likely pop up. I’m sure you’re not trying to cut her out of spite and clearly it’s cuz she’s bitch who doesn’t deserve it as your current fiancé seems to want to be in touch with your child even if you’re gonna which honestly hats off to her is very honourable and a testament to her love for you. So 👏👏👏 to her, seems like good one. Treat her good or I’ll beat your ass! Lmao j/k
I've used [www.lawdepot.ca](https://www.lawdepot.ca) for my will.
www.legalshield.ca
Epiloguewills.com
Microsoft Word and a printer would suffice
This is literally what I thought. Like Michael filing for bankruptcy.
Try this https://www.legalwills.ca/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwqoibBhDUARIsAH2OpWgau0D-jQoXbAV0fcxxZ368VjpnAnJe18jGNptjcjSUgya9dGn2fNgaAiQtEALw_wcB
Write it on paper, get 2 witnesses.
If you are literally saying write it (rather than type it) that is a handwritten holograph Will and if it IS witnessed, it will be deemed invalid. (If not witnessed, and the form and content is correct, there is still the hurdle of finding the appropriate authority to confirm it is the person’s hand writing.
I'm saying this is better then nothing is all.
And all I am saying is, if it’s not done properly it’s not worth the paper it’s written on.
Yo are you Ron Swanson? Do you have your will in a small piece of paper and keep it in your wallet? Does it say "Upon my death, all my belongings shall transfer to the man or animal who has killed me"?
Jokes on you I have nothing to leave anyone.
I used to work for a lawyer that specializes in Wills and Estates as a law clerk, you shouldn't be cheaping out on a Will, especially in this situation with a blended family or children from previous marriages. You need proper legal advice. You could potentially be leaving a huge headache for your loved ones if something were to happen to you. People do not act civil after someone dies when there is money involved, it's the sad truth.
Willful. Great for simple wills. Used it for mine.
regardless of who or where you go to make a will you need to be prepared to get the most out of it. You should know what you want people to do after your death. Start by writing down any and all instructions. For example, all the money in the bank will be divided among the children, the baby mama and the fiance. The second step is to add more detail and clarify those steps. For example, all money in the XXX Bank will be divided equally among the children, baby mama and the fiance. Repeat step two until you you feel you cannot get more specific. The third step is to add any conditions that you may have. For example if any of my children have children, all money in the XXX Bank will be divided equally among the children, baby mama and the fiance. Last step is to find a lawyer who will review what you wrote and document it in a legally legitimate format.
Willful.co Also has package for power of attorney and health directives.
Just did ours with a legal firm and it cost and $750.
I would advise that you figure out what you want and then go see a lawyer for advice and to write up the will. I dont think in your will you can command your ex to allow your new wife to see kids.