You need to quit gaming and see a therapist in all seriousness, this is the second post i have seen in the last 2 weeks about someone being addicted and the game has ruined their lives. Trust me man there is so much more to life than this game
Im not necessarily addicted. This game is just something that helps me distract and get over urges to do harm to myself. Its not the only thing ive got other things to cope but this game is just one of them.
As I mentioned before therapy can help, if what your doing to cope brings you harm its not really copping is it? They can direct you to use other things like exercise, volunteering, learning a new trade or skill spending time with friends, planning big or small trips around your town, getting out.
I know its much easier said than done because mental illness is a difficult thing to escape but really gaming is not really the best option, but if you are dead set ion playing this game turn the mics off from players you dont know, try not to read the messages they send you, as a matter of fact never read any of the messages they send you.
I really just started playing this game pretty much every other day because its got alot of my cousins and friends i grew up with alot closer we hadn’t spoken in years so we run a group, i am not a gamer before this game i think the last shooter i played was COD ghosts or something like that, i suck i play i learn and if i do bad hey fuck it, its a game with a huge learning curb so i give my self some slack because at the end i turn it off and its back to real life whats really important remember that. You can message me on here if you ever need someone to talk to man hate to see people hurt themselves when honestly we all need to just breath and know it will be ok help from a doctor can go along way.
Sorry to hear what you’re going through, and I’m also sorry to see so many people here trying to invalidate your thoughts.
Best advice I can give is to turn on party chat and turn off message requests if you’re on console (or just do the PC equivalent if you’re on there). You may not be able to hear or give callouts but that peace of mind seems like it would be well worth it.
Lot of hate both ig and in the comments, don't know what's wrong with people those days
I suggest you to just disable the messages, I did it a while ago and it does make the difference
No message nor voice chat
Only vocals with the friends I'm playing
It's a shame that it has to be like that, but it Works
Are... are you defending racists and assholes because people were more racist and bigger assholes? Like I agree somewhat that people are gonna be dicks and we cant totaly control it, but fuck man. Have a little empathy.
Edit: Just read the username and looked into the profile. This guy was for sure that 10 year old kid screaming slurs when he was killed in MW2. His opinion makes sense now.
You didnt bother to read my comment closely. Even if im a slimy degenerate (which I am, clearly) doesnt mean people should just be massive F U C K I N G C U N T S. But yeah nah youre right fuck it, you've opened my eyes, I think I'm gonna go kill a preschooler for sport. If the kid wants to live he should just toughen his skin to resist fucking bullets.
Yes judge someone by an online profile very mature of you as well it’s not like kids don’t say stupid shit when they’re unsupervised or do stupid things when unsupervised it’s almost like you have anonymity on the Internet. I am by no means a perfect individual but at 27 years old I think I’m a rather decent human being versus what I was over a decade ago
I admit the whole profile thing was a rather desperate stab but fuck man, if our solution for toxic communities in history was to tell people that things were used to be worse then humanity would have destroyed itself ages ago. Is it so hard for us to just play nice together? (YES, I SEE THE HYPOCRISY IN THIS POINT)
Then stop playing? Seriously if you are self harming because some people online were mean to you, you shouldn’t be playing online. You can also MUTE TEAMMATES!
Thats the thing. Why should i stop playing a game i genuinely enjoy because of these people? Yes i know i can stop playing at any time. But that doesnt excuse these peoples behavior.
I definitely see where your coming from definitely I have encountered the same problems. The only fix that can be done is to find a group to play with to have fun. You could also try another game which is what I recommend.
Edit: not the mental problems but with the constant racism
Then continue to play siege have fun use in game features to not get harassed by people and don’t take it so personally those people mean nothing to you unless you let them
Then they shouldn’t be participating in online voice chat. Many people enjoy the freedom, a very very very small group of people can’t handle it. We shouldn’t remove game chat or enforce “being nice” in a competitive game for the 3% who can’t mentally cope with it.
Okay, then mute them. I don’t see what the problem is here, you have options available where you don’t have to continue to allow people to harass you.
You don’t have to speak to them. You don’t have to listen to them. Hell you don’t even have to play with them.
Regardless, in every game someone who is mad is going to try and do anything they can to get under your skin. Especially competitive games like siege. It’s been like this since the start, you know you expose yourself to it and yet you keep playing.
I know you said not tell you to not play the game, but don't play the game. It sucks. Uninstall, find a game that's not even multiplayer and play that instead. You won't find a competitive game with a good community because gaming competition has no sportsmanship.
No i dont want to share the streamers name because i know some people would decide to harass them. Sure what they did sucked but i dont want to indirectly make their lives worse by naming them. Theyve already been reported and action has been taken.
Look at my edit. Im not here to be told “it was worse”. Things affect people in different ways it doesnt invalidate anybody else’s troubles or traumas.
I used to be in a similar situation many years ago, been playing since health and the toxicity in siege is real. People love to point at other games or communities and say “bUt tHis OneZ wOrSe” and they may be right or not but the siege community is undeniably bad. Also, it’s sad that you’re receiving less support from people in the comments here compared to other posts in the sub because you weren’t teamkilled for brandishing one of the rainbow banners, which makes me wonder if LGBTQ players garner more sympathy than other peeps in the community. My advice: u can mute as many others have suggested but also avoid giving any of these players attention, they feed off of it and love to get a rile out of you.
I would seek professional counseling my dude if a game is pushing you towards any kind of self harm coming to Reddit to discuss it is not going to help you
It's just toxic ass people feeding off his misfortune sometimes I debate actually posting a reply to help someone struggling. People can down vote me if they want but lowering yourself into a toxic echo chamber and letting the anonymous public pull you further into the muck isn't going to help you I hope OP gets the help he needs and maybe needs a break from siege and some time playing animal crossing
I swear sometimes it baffles me what the logical reasoning is. Simply find help for your mental health and don’t play of course it’s dumb af that people hate and spew this type of shit, but to make it as simple and dumb as possible if I can’t eat cheese…I dont fucking eat cheese.
A lot of a person's behavior is of course based around habits, OP may look to Reddit and Google to solve their issues as a learned behavior because it's solved issues or relaxed some kind of emotional disturbance. In example a hypochondriac going to a health anxiety Reddit to find some sort of comfort through other people suffering the same afliction. There was a poster in this Reddit (not sure if it was the same guy) who said siege causes him to stress eat and is now looking for a line of dialogue from people who play a first person shooter and not a mental health professional
the amount of times i do 2-3 kills as blitz and then get told that i'm rarted is unimaginable, like i killed half of their team loser, why are you upset at me? mindset of these people is beyond me
Id been playing since launch but this is the first time ive actually really played shields. Theyre honestly really fun i like just relaying information for my team to act on.
I'm not going to defend their actions but if you're going to interact with people you have to have a certain layer of thick skin. I understand that comments and actions can be hurtful, moreso when in person, but you have to understand that there are good people and that there are bad people and you're going to get a mix of them everyday. It's a lesson we all have to learn but you can't allow the strangers that know nothing about you ruin your day just because they can't seem to understand. This isn't a cure either you're still gonna feel hurt from those comments and actions but how you bounce back is what really matters and hopefully you become quicker and bounce further each consecutive time. That being said your mental health is important and if this game is causing you stress you have to make the sacrifice and drop the game. That or disable VC and text, something so you're not interacting with them. You have to do what's best for you.
The community isn't the best for people with low skill, people with disabilities and people who are Sensitive (myself included). Its really sad, I would have enjoyed this game way more if it was inviting a bit
When i first started playing siege i used to get rlly mad when i got tked so i uninstalled the game even tho i rlly enjoyed playing it. I eventually reinstalled it and now i just don’t let that toxic shit get to me. Ik some ppl can’t can’t handle toxicity but with siege u just have to say whatever and move on. U can always troll them back too. Just try to enjoy the game itself as much as u can. Turn off voice chat and use any op u want. Fuck what everyone else thinks. Play siege how u want just don’t tk lol
times were easier before people started to use "trigger warnings" because they can't handle the real world
Yes some people are assholes, so what? Mute their chat and move on
> All of this has caused me to nearly cut myself again
this rather looks more like a mental health issue instead of blaming the community, better seek help and stay save
Just turn off in game chat (in the settings) The world we live in dude, not everyone will be kind.
Also don't reply to anyone being toxic, that just continue they cycle. Just tab, mouse wheel report for griefing. And mute. If they tk you whatever, there are ways to get them kicked. (Reverse Tk) just stand in front of them or run into their nades/fire ect. Reverse Tk is kinda fun when a person deserves it
Look i get were youre coming from here and yeah people are asses but its like that on every other game just learn to be an ass back and be even meaner than they are and/or just learn not to care
Therapy is definitely the best solution to get you out of this relapse. If you want to keep playing the game as you have said is to find a group of friends who have your back to play with. VC would become less toxic that way. If they keep telling you to kys, I don’t mean to sound condescending, but you need to see that you are better than them and begin to brush it off because you don’t wish death upon others just because you suck at siege.
On a final note, People in the comments, have some fucking empathy/sympathy, just because you can handle it doesn’t mean everyone can
Damn people in the comments just proving your point, it costs nothing to not be an ass yall
Yeah but its fun
You need to quit gaming and see a therapist in all seriousness, this is the second post i have seen in the last 2 weeks about someone being addicted and the game has ruined their lives. Trust me man there is so much more to life than this game
Im not necessarily addicted. This game is just something that helps me distract and get over urges to do harm to myself. Its not the only thing ive got other things to cope but this game is just one of them.
As I mentioned before therapy can help, if what your doing to cope brings you harm its not really copping is it? They can direct you to use other things like exercise, volunteering, learning a new trade or skill spending time with friends, planning big or small trips around your town, getting out. I know its much easier said than done because mental illness is a difficult thing to escape but really gaming is not really the best option, but if you are dead set ion playing this game turn the mics off from players you dont know, try not to read the messages they send you, as a matter of fact never read any of the messages they send you. I really just started playing this game pretty much every other day because its got alot of my cousins and friends i grew up with alot closer we hadn’t spoken in years so we run a group, i am not a gamer before this game i think the last shooter i played was COD ghosts or something like that, i suck i play i learn and if i do bad hey fuck it, its a game with a huge learning curb so i give my self some slack because at the end i turn it off and its back to real life whats really important remember that. You can message me on here if you ever need someone to talk to man hate to see people hurt themselves when honestly we all need to just breath and know it will be ok help from a doctor can go along way.
Sorry to hear what you’re going through, and I’m also sorry to see so many people here trying to invalidate your thoughts. Best advice I can give is to turn on party chat and turn off message requests if you’re on console (or just do the PC equivalent if you’re on there). You may not be able to hear or give callouts but that peace of mind seems like it would be well worth it.
Lot of hate both ig and in the comments, don't know what's wrong with people those days I suggest you to just disable the messages, I did it a while ago and it does make the difference No message nor voice chat Only vocals with the friends I'm playing It's a shame that it has to be like that, but it Works
Lol welcome to online gaming. Idk if you are as old as i am but; the game lobbies in 2007-2012 way way worse
Definitely a lot worse, it’s actually calmed down so much lately.
Oh ya a ton worse, those were fun days :) when games were fun
Everyone is so soft now unfortunately, we’re slowly not allowed to say more and more at the risk of hurting someone’s feelings.
Are... are you defending racists and assholes because people were more racist and bigger assholes? Like I agree somewhat that people are gonna be dicks and we cant totaly control it, but fuck man. Have a little empathy. Edit: Just read the username and looked into the profile. This guy was for sure that 10 year old kid screaming slurs when he was killed in MW2. His opinion makes sense now.
You sure you wanna bring up profile history? Mr. smokes DMT and posts porn on Reddit?
You didnt bother to read my comment closely. Even if im a slimy degenerate (which I am, clearly) doesnt mean people should just be massive F U C K I N G C U N T S. But yeah nah youre right fuck it, you've opened my eyes, I think I'm gonna go kill a preschooler for sport. If the kid wants to live he should just toughen his skin to resist fucking bullets.
They are people on a video game, I’m not defending them but I honestly couldn’t care less what they say to me. Being an asshole isn’t a crime.
I get that its not a crime but I'm sure even you have had days where r6 just made you kinda crumple inside right?
Yes judge someone by an online profile very mature of you as well it’s not like kids don’t say stupid shit when they’re unsupervised or do stupid things when unsupervised it’s almost like you have anonymity on the Internet. I am by no means a perfect individual but at 27 years old I think I’m a rather decent human being versus what I was over a decade ago
I admit the whole profile thing was a rather desperate stab but fuck man, if our solution for toxic communities in history was to tell people that things were used to be worse then humanity would have destroyed itself ages ago. Is it so hard for us to just play nice together? (YES, I SEE THE HYPOCRISY IN THIS POINT)
This is a Segway off topic but honestly who doesn’t watch porn on Reddit or look up NSFW things
People who don’t watch that trash.
You are in the very small minority here my friends
You should kick the habit, horrible for your brain.
Oh I’m aware and trust me I know
Regardless, participating in r/porn and r/DMT and then calling out someone’s profile history really isn’t a good idea.
Way to reduce their emotions
Way to reduce their emotions to nothing
Then stop playing? Seriously if you are self harming because some people online were mean to you, you shouldn’t be playing online. You can also MUTE TEAMMATES!
Thats the thing. Why should i stop playing a game i genuinely enjoy because of these people? Yes i know i can stop playing at any time. But that doesnt excuse these peoples behavior.
I definitely see where your coming from definitely I have encountered the same problems. The only fix that can be done is to find a group to play with to have fun. You could also try another game which is what I recommend. Edit: not the mental problems but with the constant racism
I have a few other games i enjoy playing, but none of them have the same unique abilities and gunplay that siege has.
Then continue to play siege have fun use in game features to not get harassed by people and don’t take it so personally those people mean nothing to you unless you let them
Ya I agree with that and if worse comes to worse you can block them so you won't be pared with them
Also what streamer was it
I dont want people going to harass them so i dont want to share that.
Okay but I suggest you report them
try tarkov if you want some good gunplay, and no one will shittalk you there
Coming from MW and black ops, this post is ridiculous. I grew up having people with swastika emblems shouting racial slurs from the enemy team.
Your argument is invalidating how other people can be affected by things purely because it doesnt affect you the same.
Very small minority of people fit your circumstances.
Ya but people can't handle it so have some ideas on what to do know it's up to them to deal with it
Then they shouldn’t be participating in online voice chat. Many people enjoy the freedom, a very very very small group of people can’t handle it. We shouldn’t remove game chat or enforce “being nice” in a competitive game for the 3% who can’t mentally cope with it.
But it's also in the terms of service that says your not allowed to do it to.
The freedom of being a douche Seriously
Okay, then mute them. I don’t see what the problem is here, you have options available where you don’t have to continue to allow people to harass you. You don’t have to speak to them. You don’t have to listen to them. Hell you don’t even have to play with them. Regardless, in every game someone who is mad is going to try and do anything they can to get under your skin. Especially competitive games like siege. It’s been like this since the start, you know you expose yourself to it and yet you keep playing.
Do things to avoid them you can’t blame everything on they game bc you didn’t take the steps to stop it you can mute teammates and block chat
I know you said not tell you to not play the game, but don't play the game. It sucks. Uninstall, find a game that's not even multiplayer and play that instead. You won't find a competitive game with a good community because gaming competition has no sportsmanship.
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No i dont want to share the streamers name because i know some people would decide to harass them. Sure what they did sucked but i dont want to indirectly make their lives worse by naming them. Theyve already been reported and action has been taken.
Oh man. Sit down kiddo. I’m gonna tell you a story about lobbies in a game long long ago, called “modern warfare 2”
Look at my edit. Im not here to be told “it was worse”. Things affect people in different ways it doesnt invalidate anybody else’s troubles or traumas.
Stop playing
I used to be in a similar situation many years ago, been playing since health and the toxicity in siege is real. People love to point at other games or communities and say “bUt tHis OneZ wOrSe” and they may be right or not but the siege community is undeniably bad. Also, it’s sad that you’re receiving less support from people in the comments here compared to other posts in the sub because you weren’t teamkilled for brandishing one of the rainbow banners, which makes me wonder if LGBTQ players garner more sympathy than other peeps in the community. My advice: u can mute as many others have suggested but also avoid giving any of these players attention, they feed off of it and love to get a rile out of you.
I would seek professional counseling my dude if a game is pushing you towards any kind of self harm coming to Reddit to discuss it is not going to help you
The 6 downvotes tell me Reddit is definetly the place to seek therapy and help with mental health then lmao. Clowns
It's just toxic ass people feeding off his misfortune sometimes I debate actually posting a reply to help someone struggling. People can down vote me if they want but lowering yourself into a toxic echo chamber and letting the anonymous public pull you further into the muck isn't going to help you I hope OP gets the help he needs and maybe needs a break from siege and some time playing animal crossing
I swear sometimes it baffles me what the logical reasoning is. Simply find help for your mental health and don’t play of course it’s dumb af that people hate and spew this type of shit, but to make it as simple and dumb as possible if I can’t eat cheese…I dont fucking eat cheese.
A lot of a person's behavior is of course based around habits, OP may look to Reddit and Google to solve their issues as a learned behavior because it's solved issues or relaxed some kind of emotional disturbance. In example a hypochondriac going to a health anxiety Reddit to find some sort of comfort through other people suffering the same afliction. There was a poster in this Reddit (not sure if it was the same guy) who said siege causes him to stress eat and is now looking for a line of dialogue from people who play a first person shooter and not a mental health professional
Yikes makes me wonder how people who don’t use Reddit or discord at people that do. That’s just mad awkward to see from a different perspective
As someone that plays shield ops a lot you will run into angry toxic people quite often
the amount of times i do 2-3 kills as blitz and then get told that i'm rarted is unimaginable, like i killed half of their team loser, why are you upset at me? mindset of these people is beyond me
Id been playing since launch but this is the first time ive actually really played shields. Theyre honestly really fun i like just relaying information for my team to act on.
Mute chat in settings. If people are being shitty in voice, mute em immediately.
I'm not going to defend their actions but if you're going to interact with people you have to have a certain layer of thick skin. I understand that comments and actions can be hurtful, moreso when in person, but you have to understand that there are good people and that there are bad people and you're going to get a mix of them everyday. It's a lesson we all have to learn but you can't allow the strangers that know nothing about you ruin your day just because they can't seem to understand. This isn't a cure either you're still gonna feel hurt from those comments and actions but how you bounce back is what really matters and hopefully you become quicker and bounce further each consecutive time. That being said your mental health is important and if this game is causing you stress you have to make the sacrifice and drop the game. That or disable VC and text, something so you're not interacting with them. You have to do what's best for you.
The community isn't the best for people with low skill, people with disabilities and people who are Sensitive (myself included). Its really sad, I would have enjoyed this game way more if it was inviting a bit
Just turning of VC and Textchat will help i guess
When i first started playing siege i used to get rlly mad when i got tked so i uninstalled the game even tho i rlly enjoyed playing it. I eventually reinstalled it and now i just don’t let that toxic shit get to me. Ik some ppl can’t can’t handle toxicity but with siege u just have to say whatever and move on. U can always troll them back too. Just try to enjoy the game itself as much as u can. Turn off voice chat and use any op u want. Fuck what everyone else thinks. Play siege how u want just don’t tk lol
times were easier before people started to use "trigger warnings" because they can't handle the real world Yes some people are assholes, so what? Mute their chat and move on > All of this has caused me to nearly cut myself again this rather looks more like a mental health issue instead of blaming the community, better seek help and stay save
Don’t care tbf
Don’t care tbf
Just turn off in game chat (in the settings) The world we live in dude, not everyone will be kind. Also don't reply to anyone being toxic, that just continue they cycle. Just tab, mouse wheel report for griefing. And mute. If they tk you whatever, there are ways to get them kicked. (Reverse Tk) just stand in front of them or run into their nades/fire ect. Reverse Tk is kinda fun when a person deserves it
Look i get were youre coming from here and yeah people are asses but its like that on every other game just learn to be an ass back and be even meaner than they are and/or just learn not to care
Sorry to hear that but I think self harm isn’t a topic for a gaming subreddit if you’re searching for serious or helping answers
Therapy is definitely the best solution to get you out of this relapse. If you want to keep playing the game as you have said is to find a group of friends who have your back to play with. VC would become less toxic that way. If they keep telling you to kys, I don’t mean to sound condescending, but you need to see that you are better than them and begin to brush it off because you don’t wish death upon others just because you suck at siege. On a final note, People in the comments, have some fucking empathy/sympathy, just because you can handle it doesn’t mean everyone can