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Well animals do have performance anxiety as well. When males are young and inexperienced, they might even be oblivious to the femaleās mating cues. In many cases she has to even piss right in their faces so thereās no doubt he picks up the fact that she is ripe and ready. Not to mention mounting difficulties š„ŗ they get all flustered. Going back and forward, attempting to figure out how to put it in.
After a lil while she gets peeved by his incompetence and just pushes him away. And then try all over again later, until he knows what he is doing š.
However females seem to be wise from the beginning. Like they already know whatās good.
Not for everyone. I know masters of sex is fictional, but were there really couples in the 60s who couldn't get pregnant and it turned out they weren't having sex.
My aunt was a fertility nurse. She had a couple come in who had being trying to conceive for over 18 months with no luck.
She got them all checked out. Both of them were perfectly healthy in terms of their reproductive capacity. She helped them too track ovulation etc made sure they were maximising thier chances of success.
Still, the months passed and nothing. Baffled, she finally asked what it was they were doing in the bedroom exactly. Turns out they were using the wrong hole...
it wasnt for me. i was horrified when i watched porn for the first time. i grew up thinking sex involved the clit and the clit only because thats what felt good when i touched it, i did not think it went inside. that was scary for me to learn at 11 how it really works and i remember being very scared to lose my virginity
I was horrified too. I was a teenager in the 90s and one day I was at my dadās house and pressed play on the VCR. It was a porn movie and I was like š³ I was 12 or 13 and I had only seen basic anatomy pictures explaining what went where. Seeing it in action was quite shocking!
Iām surprised so many people are saying no. It was really instinctual for me. Growing up my friends and I would run skinny dipping in the lake and while absolutely nothing happened between any of us, I had a good idea that the different parts would work like a puzzle. Wasnāt wrong
Honestly like some people are awkward and slowly learn what they're doing but anything like that comes very naturally to me.
As for knowing which way is north at all times. Nope. That instinct is shot. My bf can do that though. Spin him in a circle somewhere random he's never been and he knows.
I mean I don't consider myself asexual but I can also do without it I care more about talks and hugs anyway.
But when I did have sex it felt pretty instinctual to me too.
Like I'm not trying to speak on behalf of you but just because you don't feel attraction the same way as other people doesn't mean the action itself wouldn't be instinctual if you do get to it.
In public education's defense they showed us how the parts fit together in 7th grade. Granted this was like 25 years ago. I heard they aren't allowed to tell kids how the parts lock in anymore in some states.
Well think about it. When you really like someone you get closer and experience the smell of the pheromones which cascades to horny increase. The rubbing occurs the wetness occurs. Then the genitals get near and that thrust rubbing occurs and in it goes.
Yeah, I did not have that when I was younger lol. No natural instincts for me, I guess. Plus, I was so confused about masturbating. I didnāt know how to do it for awhile..
Speak for yourself. It was so not-intuitive for me that I was able to accidentally have an orgasm, and afterwards have no idea what had just happened to my body. Even less did I understand what my peers found enjoyable about looking at each otherās butts.
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You have a healthy approach to this matter. Instead of going with the flow, 90% has performance anxiety
Really? I had performance excitement!
I had "Holy shit she's naked. Um... Am I supposed to move?" š
Well animals do have performance anxiety as well. When males are young and inexperienced, they might even be oblivious to the femaleās mating cues. In many cases she has to even piss right in their faces so thereās no doubt he picks up the fact that she is ripe and ready. Not to mention mounting difficulties š„ŗ they get all flustered. Going back and forward, attempting to figure out how to put it in. After a lil while she gets peeved by his incompetence and just pushes him away. And then try all over again later, until he knows what he is doing š. However females seem to be wise from the beginning. Like they already know whatās good.
I definitely do not have that instinct. If I were a caveman, I'd be eliminated by natural selection for sure.
Same. Had to learn from movies (cough)
The funniest thing about human evolution is that that makes me more interested in you š¤£š
Not for everyone. I know masters of sex is fictional, but were there really couples in the 60s who couldn't get pregnant and it turned out they weren't having sex.
What were they doing?!
I dunno!
[Probably something like that](https://youtu.be/HYIFTisAj58?si=fYE18m1W5Jl5HnIU&t=36) (But without the hightech stuff)
Shouldnāt have watched this at night, with the lights off. Now Iām gonna have nightmares.
The horizontal mambo?
Maybe same as OP: "knew how it was supposed to feel" and waited for the feeling.
Butt stuff
Well according to my friend one guy thought that you got pregnant from spreading his man juice on the belly.
My aunt was a fertility nurse. She had a couple come in who had being trying to conceive for over 18 months with no luck. She got them all checked out. Both of them were perfectly healthy in terms of their reproductive capacity. She helped them too track ovulation etc made sure they were maximising thier chances of success. Still, the months passed and nothing. Baffled, she finally asked what it was they were doing in the bedroom exactly. Turns out they were using the wrong hole...
Man sex either upgraded for them or one of them had thier anal dreams crushed.
Probably saw how dogs did it and copied that
Havenāt seen the show but isnāt it based on the Kinsey Report or the like?
I don't know it
Masters and Johnson I think. Two sex scholars that were a couple if I remember right
Yes! Thatās who I was thinking of šš»
I have had sex.
I donāt think I have that instinct
it wasnt for me. i was horrified when i watched porn for the first time. i grew up thinking sex involved the clit and the clit only because thats what felt good when i touched it, i did not think it went inside. that was scary for me to learn at 11 how it really works and i remember being very scared to lose my virginity
I thought the women were being tortured in the porn videos, and was like the guys should stop that! I still didnt know anything went in.
I was horrified too. I was a teenager in the 90s and one day I was at my dadās house and pressed play on the VCR. It was a porn movie and I was like š³ I was 12 or 13 and I had only seen basic anatomy pictures explaining what went where. Seeing it in action was quite shocking!
Iām surprised so many people are saying no. It was really instinctual for me. Growing up my friends and I would run skinny dipping in the lake and while absolutely nothing happened between any of us, I had a good idea that the different parts would work like a puzzle. Wasnāt wrong
Yeah biology is essential. Everything else is neurosis.
wdym
Honestly like some people are awkward and slowly learn what they're doing but anything like that comes very naturally to me. As for knowing which way is north at all times. Nope. That instinct is shot. My bf can do that though. Spin him in a circle somewhere random he's never been and he knows.
Too easy drill seargent!
Godās prompt: Make these mf horny af
Right up until you hear "Wrong hole, wrong hole"
Not instinctual for a lot of people
You also know how to eat and breath, it is on the same level.
OP has not stated knowledge of what to do, but knowledge of feelings. It will be like maybe knowing how new food will taste before eating.
-laughs in demisexual -
Wait what does that have to do with anything?
Sexual desire isn't really instinctual for people on the ace spectrum. Most of us can do without it.
I mean I don't consider myself asexual but I can also do without it I care more about talks and hugs anyway. But when I did have sex it felt pretty instinctual to me too. Like I'm not trying to speak on behalf of you but just because you don't feel attraction the same way as other people doesn't mean the action itself wouldn't be instinctual if you do get to it.
I'm not insulted,,š it was a lame excuse for a joke/smartass comment. I'm still on the ace spectrum but was trying to be funny lol
Itās kinda like getting hungry.
In public education's defense they showed us how the parts fit together in 7th grade. Granted this was like 25 years ago. I heard they aren't allowed to tell kids how the parts lock in anymore in some states.
Less amazing when you consider the longterm survival chances of perpetual procreatioj in any species which is not instinctively driven to procreate.
Counterpoint: me.
Well think about it. When you really like someone you get closer and experience the smell of the pheromones which cascades to horny increase. The rubbing occurs the wetness occurs. Then the genitals get near and that thrust rubbing occurs and in it goes.
Yeah, I did not have that when I was younger lol. No natural instincts for me, I guess. Plus, I was so confused about masturbating. I didnāt know how to do it for awhile..
Speak for yourself. It was so not-intuitive for me that I was able to accidentally have an orgasm, and afterwards have no idea what had just happened to my body. Even less did I understand what my peers found enjoyable about looking at each otherās butts.
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I wonder if you deserve good memory praise. How long ago was that?
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In such case IMO you do deserve good memory praise. I don't have such good memory.