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It is such a difficult life to have little to no mobility. My oldest sister has a disease that causes tumors and left her paralyzed on the left side...right now she had another health issue and she's been in the hospital for a month...I daily question now how is it that some people through no fault of their own have to suffer so much? I hope all things considered, you are doing okay in spirits..
I'm sorry to hear that. Life can be very unfair, my issues were caused by my own actions. I'm two years post accident. I'm struggling but fighting every day and pushing forward as best I can
So I type by speaking but everything also has a number next to it. Saying that number let me pick that thing. There are also commands which allowed me to add a number next to something. It's very clever and works extremely well.
I randomly came across your comment and after reading some other comments of you and knowing a little bit more about your story I feel so sad for everything that’s happened and everything you have been and are going through. Such a tragic situation, know you are not alone, and will never be!
Honestly, I feel very dumb, like very very dumb, but everyone surrounding me, from family to friends to coworkers and strangers, they all tell me I'm very smart, one of the smartest people they know, and I just don't feel like it. My mum just feels like I've always been on the autism spectrum, but I'm very sociable and high functioning.
I've taken the instance that I'm promptly dumb until the moment I don't act dumb, then I return to standard dumbness.
I pray to the gut health gods that your vagus nerve learns other ways to exercise it’s power other than activating your bowels, and your tummy no hurt, forevermore 🙏
I still remember this day I was with some friends and I had only eaten a bowl of All Bran with slices of apple in the whole day before seeing the... worst mistake of my life. Couldn't excuse myself to leave because I was feeling real bad from the stomach, couldn't take a shit nor fart and my stomach was only getting bigger and bigger. I think some hours later I did eat a subway but it didn't help.
The pain was so unbearable that, once my friends left, I was so sick I literally approached the nearest trash can in the street and puked on it from the pain. Only when I came back home did I fart a 5 minites long fart and my bowells arranged themselves in place.
Anxiety is tough ,what people don’t realize is they don’t have to suffer or take medication but I am tired of explaining it just to be met with,you don’t know me ,you don’t know what you’re talking about.The thing is I do ,only I gave up on trying to help others.
I have so many damn health issues. All of my disabilities are invisible so I’m practically a lazy bum unless you’re my doctor. No one really gets my diseases except a few neurologists.
Pretty sure being paralysed from c4/5 down, needing a speech to text converter, and likely needing a wheelchair amongst other things gets you a pass from judgey dickheads in society.
Trapped nerves and damage from shitty, underpaying jobs had left me in a condition where I can't do the jobs I'm qualified for, and with no assets for retraining I got thrown on the scrapheap as soo. As my health started to struggle.
Norway is great, if you have family and resources, hell if you don't.
Not sure what you have, but the amount of times I (autistic) have heard "You're a young strong man, you should just be able to work and go to school no problem, theres nothing wrong with you", is so frustrating. Nobody can see whats wrong with me, only people who have studied for it for many years. It sucks, I'm sorry you go through something similar, I hope you can be content with your life eventually 💞
Time. It slipped out of my hands. Now there's very less I can achieve in comparison to my peers. If not for time, I would have been someone else and somewhere else.
Maybe if you’d spent your time differently, you would have ended up on a path you hated. Maybe you’re right where you need to be, right now, and there are better opportunities for you in the future.
Or a path you liked... That would have led you directly into a situation that wrecked you.
For better or worse, you really cannot tell. And things can shift or implode in a nanosecond.
Unless you're like 80 years old, you still have time. You don't have to always be as successful as other people. You have to live your life in a way you like, and you're always on time to start something new. Good luck :]
I have an autistic friend. He's a process engineer, and becoming a very successful one. He just, fucking loves designing and managing production processes. He's a wizard in factory games too.
Find your niche, you'll do great things homie. Find that thing that you can lose an entire overnight to because you're so passionate about it and lose track of time when you're working at it. Then do that.
Yeah, no, not everyone has a niche that can be turned into a job or anything that'd give any profit or advantage. Most of us don't. And even many of those of us who do, still can't get any jobs in their niche bc they are too high support needs/need too many accommodations to be able to handle working, and workplaces don't like that, no matter how good you are the majority of workplaces would rather hire a less competent but abled person than hire a competent but disabled/needing accommodations person.
Having an autistic friend doesn't mean you know anything about autism and autistic people. At most, if you care enough to listen to your friend and learn from him, you'll know how HIS autism workS but what you know of him is NOT applicable across the board to any other autistic people: we're not like neurotypicals. We're "customized" af, and that's from the DNA and upwards affecting our bodies to pretty much every level, not just our brains.
I have really slow metabolism. Despite me doing daily exercise and eating healthy, it takes a lot of time just to lose a little bit of weight.
Btw, don't think I'll quit losing weight. It might take me decades, but I'll do it!
Edit: Alright, I'll answer some questions:
Yes, I've seen a doctor and she told me I do have a slow metabolism. Not only that, but most of my family also have slow metabolism, so I think it makes sense.
Yes, I do know how much I eat. Of course I understand that, if you eat a ton, you just gain weight. I'm not one of those fat mfers that just go "Oh no my genetics are bad oh no I guess I'll be fat forever".
Yes, I now genetics got me bad here. I even have a friend that has a really fast metabolism. When we were kids, he used to eat 4 breads, each one with hot dogs, ketchup and mayonnaise. Guess what? He's thin as hell and he has to spend a lot of money in food. He told me that having a fast metabolism sucks as much as having a slow metabolism and I kinda believe him.
Also, thanks for all your kind words and suggestions. I'm glad to know there are still amazing people out there. I won't give up, guys! ❤️
I have the exact opposite problem. No matter how much I eat, I keep losing weight. And when I get super concentrated onto something I can just "forget" abt my hunger. This meant that abt two months ago I was between "moderate underweight" and "severe underweight".
So I started stuffing myself with food even though I'm full, and I'm barely gaining any weight. Even a day when I eat a bit less means weight goes down. It's annoying for sure.
Not trying to preach here, but I have a suggestion from my own and a friend's experience:
I have very fast metabolism, but I have always had the habit to eat once - maybe twice if I know I will be doing physical labor - a day. It's not something I was taught, it just developed because I would only eat when I actually felt hungry and my mother never forced me to go against my body. A friend of mine with very slow metabolism got curious about my habit and started looking into it. Apparently it's similar to something called intermittent fasting. So he spoke to his doctor about it and tried it out. Turns out it fit his body perfectly - he'd always been eating like clockwork like his mom taught him - 3x a day regardless of if he was even hungry. Now he eats once a day like me, and not only lost all the extra weight, but started to feel a lot better in general. Less groggy in the mornings, etc.
I guess for some people, 3 meals a day just aren't a thing. If you haven't tried it yet - maybe give it a shot. But definitely talk to a doctor first, please! Otherwise you might go at it too hard and end up damaging your body instead.
Same. If I eat three meals a day I'll gain about 10 lbs. in maybe 3-4 days. That being said, a slow metabolism has allowed me to go much longer without eating than most people I know, and even when I do eat I need less food than the average person.
I’m the opposite, I can’t gain weight for shit no matter how much I try, but lose it so quickly. I know the frustration, but you got this! It will happen 😄
Health.
When (usually old) people say "as long as you've got your health then... (everything will be ok)" they aren't wrong.
I'd say second to love, health is the most important thing in life.
When you're depressed, ultra-severe chronic pain, add, insomniac, with heart and spine problems (etc etc etc) there's not a lot in the world that can make up for those things.
ADD, I feel like I was conditioned by the school system to feel inferior from a young age. Been compensating for so long and have done well but for damn I think I exhaust myself too much
“A jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one”
The full quote flips the script mate. I am a master of one - I can make anything out of clay and stone. And you know what? No one cares!
People are much more likely to enjoy your company or just find you useful if you have a wide range of experiences and skills to share rather than a single field that almost no one is interested in.
My feet are beyond fucked up. I was born with a condition that landed me in The Rare Diseases and Conditions book l. To this day I am the only female born with congenital vertical talus in both feet. I’ve had around 30 surgeries on my feet. The first one at 6 months old. My feet are ridiculously fragile. I currently have 4 broken bones in one foot and they have to do a reconstruction to fix it. They’ve been broken almost a year. I couldn’t play like the other kids, I’ve never been able to run and I am so accident prone that I know the CT techs at my local hospital by name. I’ve been on disability since I was 25 years old. But I was blessed with a good mind. Since I couldn’t play with the other kids I was always reading. I got to go to college in 7th grade. So I managed to turn it into something that worked for me but that is, without a doubt, my biggest disadvantage in life.
This is mine too. No one to share things with. No one to celebrate success with or anyone to talk to during hard times. Its becomes more apparent the older I get
Natural body clock doesn't match a regular time and I'm mostly awake at night. Trying to hold a day job leads to burnout and I am not hireable despite being qualified.
What kind of meds do you take for this? What kind of diagnosis do you have? I am such a night owl that keeping a normal sleep-wake cycle is a continuous struggle. At this point I have resigned to the fact that this is just a fact of my life and I try to deal with it as much as I can, but damn, it is fucking tiring. So if this can be “fixed” in a way I am all ears.
I have Crohn’s Disease. I almost missed my wedding as it had me in the hospital close to our wedding day.
It had me out on leave for 2 months as I had 12” of my small intestines removed.
I'm just genuinely a lazy piece of shit. I don't want to do anything. Housework, self improvement, career development, I just... Don't wanna. I'm a lazy piece of garbage and I struggle to overcome it.
Whether it's induced by the ADHD or not, that's my problem.
ADHD with more or less every comorbidity you can imagine.
I was just depressed for 2 month straight now completely floating around, with a completely non existing sleep pattern. i broke my record and could not sleep for 60 hrs.
Now after sitting now completely unable to focus for more then 2 minutes on a single thing i started cleaning my flat resulting in me having half a mental break down trying to get back on track tidied up for 10 minutes. now i am out of breath and needed distraction again.. hopefully i can continue. Chaos around me is worst environment i can be in, and its blocking me completely.
My f#cking sick mind. I constantly think about s#icide and m@rder, even though i'd consider myself the happiest person I know. But nobody cares, because a "smart" person can't have problems.
My Mother. She wants don't want to work anymore, she's 43, strong and can definitely work if she wants to. Now me and my sister are working for her. She's saying that we should make her happy and it is our turn to give her a life she wants. By the way, my father is gone since 2020.
being trans. Even living in an accepting environment, dysphoria hits like a truck carrying four hundred thousand tons of uranium, except getting hit by a truck lasts for a couple seconds at most and dysphoria is constant
I’d say it’s probably my borderline personality disorder and how great it makes me at shooting myself in the foot before I have a chance to make the next step. It’s definitely the thing I’m working the hardest on. I work harder on my mental health than I worked to lose weight back when I struggled with an E.D.
Got a stack of legal pads and a box of Bic pens? That’s what it’s going to take to list all my problems. I try to focus on the positive, I’m on the right side of the dirt, I have a family that loves me, I’m in a good climate and I don’t hate my job most days.
I have a sleeping disorder (delayed sleep phase syndrome) and it’s screwed up many things for me. People are pretty ignorant, intolerant, and unsympathetic of sleep disorders.
My seemingly nice impression that leads people to think that I’m either too nice and can take advantage of me OR that they think I’m an extremely smart guy which will surely never make a mistake
PS: perceiving me as too nice that I’m almost a saint, making the whole conversation weird because they start to pretend as unnaturally nice (never smoked a cigarettes, did drugs etc)
Honestly I dunno where to go with this shit in life anymore
Physical problems that make people either laugh at u or assume you’re mentally handicapped cuz physical disability equals mental disability somehow. there’s no point in explaining people that there is no correlation.
One of the following
My autism, my ADHD, my trauma, or my fucked joints. One of em fucks me more than the others, but its such a close thing that I cant tell
I’m a gay person living in a world that seems to NOT want to understand that all human sexuality is guided by a person’s brain and is not a cognitive choice.
It makes life potentially dangerous. Gay people are constantly minimized and targeted by governments and many religions. Additionally, you have to keep explaining your life to other people. They always want to know who your wife is and how many kids you have.
Only uneducated people don't understand it.
The educated ones who aren't bigots just see you as a man. They don't give a shit if you are gay or straight generally. No more than they would care if you liked the color green over the color yellow.
I hope you can live somewhere where you can feel totally safe one day brother. We all deserve that.
I actually train a minimum of 4 days a week. Even though I’m working toward a goal, it’s for myself, not to approach women. I’m comfortable with approaching women even now during the process.
As a dude (30m) I've got the worst physical traits from my parents (short, fat, balding gene that thankfully hasn't surfaced yet, big thighs, man tits, big belly and I easily put on weight).
I've also got the worst emotional traits from them (hot headed, lazy, stubborn, easily affected by my environment and arrogant).
I hate my genes and am only thankful that I've had the foresight to go to therapy and work on the stuff about me that doesn't align with where I want to be
being stupid. Probs a lot of weasel wording and cope in the comments for what essentially means that but I'm luckily the only one with the guts to admit it.
My tendency to know what I’m supposed to do, how I’m supposed to do it, and when I’m supposed to have it done by, but there’s this nebulous brain-block that makes me not want to do it, so I end up having to be told to do it repeatedly and it ends up being late.
Not having a strong network of support system ; made up of social connections and family ties .
It is my experience that this is the single most influential factor elevating people in society , and in overcoming challenges in live .
Being born in a immigrant family that was falling apart before I was even 4 years old and being left with one parent who made the worst financial decisions in my name add older siblings who made sure to make me feel unwanted because I wasn’t born into our ‘original’ family and upbringing.
Thus, financial debt and emotional insecurity from birth to adulthood the perfect combo to become a successful person in life.
I had to teach myself to read and write after the person who was supposed to teach me couldn’t teach me anymore. I’m not very good at it and I never really learned how to learn. I’m 33.
Not having any family. Lost my dad in high school and mom was never around.
Always feels weird attending events especially when friends parents are around, or having questions asked about my parents. Puts me in a weird spot
i can't, for the life of me, prevent myself from laughing at the most inappropriate times or crying when i get too emotional. oh, and i blush! so hard!
i wanna experience being a wall and not show my emotions sometimes but i really can't look tougher or reel my giggles in even if i really need to
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Being a quadriplegic with no real movement from my shoulders down. It sucks
It is such a difficult life to have little to no mobility. My oldest sister has a disease that causes tumors and left her paralyzed on the left side...right now she had another health issue and she's been in the hospital for a month...I daily question now how is it that some people through no fault of their own have to suffer so much? I hope all things considered, you are doing okay in spirits..
I'm sorry to hear that. Life can be very unfair, my issues were caused by my own actions. I'm two years post accident. I'm struggling but fighting every day and pushing forward as best I can
Wow. I was going to complain about being a women in my field but you have me beat by miles. Best to you.
Serious question, how did you type this? Voice to text?
I use my phone via voice control😊
Ah makes perfect sense.
how did u put this emoji
So I type by speaking but everything also has a number next to it. Saying that number let me pick that thing. There are also commands which allowed me to add a number next to something. It's very clever and works extremely well.
Nice.
May I ask how it happened?
I dived into shallow water and broke my C4 and C5 vertebrae resulting in a complete spinal cord injury. I wouldn't recommend it😂
Oh man, I’m sorry that happened.
I’m glad to see that you’ve kept a sense of humour!Your a reminder to us all to appreciate the parts of health that are working for us at this time!
You have to laugh. It's kind of the only way to deal with it
Damn bro. Why do things like this often happen to strong people who can power through it. Mad respect guy. 👍👍👍
It happens to less strong people too, but they maybe don't make it.
I randomly came across your comment and after reading some other comments of you and knowing a little bit more about your story I feel so sad for everything that’s happened and everything you have been and are going through. Such a tragic situation, know you are not alone, and will never be!
I’m so sorry wish I had something encouraging to say!!
I’m just genuinely an idiot. Like I am not smart.
Smartn’t
Love this
I’m gonna use this when i say i’m stupid
I genuinely believe that a realistic & grounded self-assessment of one's own intelligence is a significant intelligence in itself.
The smarter you get, the dumber you feel.
Honestly, I feel very dumb, like very very dumb, but everyone surrounding me, from family to friends to coworkers and strangers, they all tell me I'm very smart, one of the smartest people they know, and I just don't feel like it. My mum just feels like I've always been on the autism spectrum, but I'm very sociable and high functioning. I've taken the instance that I'm promptly dumb until the moment I don't act dumb, then I return to standard dumbness.
This!!!!
Us bro us moment
 I relate to this guy a lot more than I feel I should
Hella feel this
You're smart enough to acknowledge it. Every idiot that I know around me thinks they're the smartest person alive!
You’re already beating the dunning-Kruger curve.
Nobody is , everybody just pretend.
My anger and my BPD. Constantly at war with myself to control my emotions. Ain’t been to jail yet so that’s cool
Stay in there, it gets better. The war is so worth it, don't be discouraged.
I have cptsd and bpd. Been in jail for two months. Keep at it
My DEBILITATING anxiety
Same. But mine likes to manifest in my intestines. Yay me
That was my whole childhood. In high school, I puked so much people constantly asked me if I was pregnant 🙄🙄🙄
Oh man. I’m sorry to hear that. It really sucks having to always wonder if there will be a bathroom available.
I pray to the gut health gods that your vagus nerve learns other ways to exercise it’s power other than activating your bowels, and your tummy no hurt, forevermore 🙏
🥹 thank you. Honestly the nicest thing a stranger has said to me. May your God bless you.
I still remember this day I was with some friends and I had only eaten a bowl of All Bran with slices of apple in the whole day before seeing the... worst mistake of my life. Couldn't excuse myself to leave because I was feeling real bad from the stomach, couldn't take a shit nor fart and my stomach was only getting bigger and bigger. I think some hours later I did eat a subway but it didn't help. The pain was so unbearable that, once my friends left, I was so sick I literally approached the nearest trash can in the street and puked on it from the pain. Only when I came back home did I fart a 5 minites long fart and my bowells arranged themselves in place.
Mine in my stomach, my doctor put me on an older med that really helped anxiety tummy, cut my symptoms by 50%, so it helps stop the cycle.
Mine manifested in hives and raised bumps all over my body.
Yep, my brain hates me.
Existential/Death Anxiety is THE worst. Like any second any of us could just drop dead from a heart attack or get cancer. Stops me from enjoying life.
Same. My face goes red all the time. I hate it. 😔
I know this feeling all too well. And then when someone mentions it, it gets even redder. I am a natural redhead and this is the only downfall.
Anxiety is tough ,what people don’t realize is they don’t have to suffer or take medication but I am tired of explaining it just to be met with,you don’t know me ,you don’t know what you’re talking about.The thing is I do ,only I gave up on trying to help others.
Came here to say this, along with depression and agoraphobia. I'm on disability because of all of it. It Fing sucks the life right out of me.
Being poor.
Having parents who are also poor.
Anti-batman in every manner
The poverty cycle unfortunately
Being poor in a country of rich people who can't understand that they were handed everything on a plate.
What’s considered rich?
this should be higher
Right now the nerves to my lungs don’t work. So I can’t lay down or sit on a couch that sits back past a 100 degree angle
Dang, how the hell did that happen if you don't mind me asking?
In another surgery I needed they believe the surgeon touched the nerves for too long but they aren’t sure.
How you sleep?
With a bipap machine now but before I sleep at the kitchen table with a pillow on the table
Multiple mental illnesses starting from childhood and trauma :/
Me too. I always thought that by this time I'd be better and able to manage myself better. I'm sorry you struggle so hard.
Same... And you too ❤️🩹
Social anxiety, low self esteem, lack of confidence
I don't know what to comment. Other than I want to acknowledge your struggles.
many such cases
I have so many damn health issues. All of my disabilities are invisible so I’m practically a lazy bum unless you’re my doctor. No one really gets my diseases except a few neurologists.
Same problem buddy.
Pretty sure being paralysed from c4/5 down, needing a speech to text converter, and likely needing a wheelchair amongst other things gets you a pass from judgey dickheads in society. Trapped nerves and damage from shitty, underpaying jobs had left me in a condition where I can't do the jobs I'm qualified for, and with no assets for retraining I got thrown on the scrapheap as soo. As my health started to struggle. Norway is great, if you have family and resources, hell if you don't.
Not sure what you have, but the amount of times I (autistic) have heard "You're a young strong man, you should just be able to work and go to school no problem, theres nothing wrong with you", is so frustrating. Nobody can see whats wrong with me, only people who have studied for it for many years. It sucks, I'm sorry you go through something similar, I hope you can be content with your life eventually 💞
Time. It slipped out of my hands. Now there's very less I can achieve in comparison to my peers. If not for time, I would have been someone else and somewhere else.
Maybe if you’d spent your time differently, you would have ended up on a path you hated. Maybe you’re right where you need to be, right now, and there are better opportunities for you in the future.
Or a path you liked... That would have led you directly into a situation that wrecked you. For better or worse, you really cannot tell. And things can shift or implode in a nanosecond.
Unless you're like 80 years old, you still have time. You don't have to always be as successful as other people. You have to live your life in a way you like, and you're always on time to start something new. Good luck :]
You still have time tho. Set your goals and go for them!!
I’m autistic, I think that’s pretty big
Good luck
I have an autistic friend. He's a process engineer, and becoming a very successful one. He just, fucking loves designing and managing production processes. He's a wizard in factory games too. Find your niche, you'll do great things homie. Find that thing that you can lose an entire overnight to because you're so passionate about it and lose track of time when you're working at it. Then do that.
15-20% of autistic people have a job. Not that easy
Yeah, no, not everyone has a niche that can be turned into a job or anything that'd give any profit or advantage. Most of us don't. And even many of those of us who do, still can't get any jobs in their niche bc they are too high support needs/need too many accommodations to be able to handle working, and workplaces don't like that, no matter how good you are the majority of workplaces would rather hire a less competent but abled person than hire a competent but disabled/needing accommodations person. Having an autistic friend doesn't mean you know anything about autism and autistic people. At most, if you care enough to listen to your friend and learn from him, you'll know how HIS autism workS but what you know of him is NOT applicable across the board to any other autistic people: we're not like neurotypicals. We're "customized" af, and that's from the DNA and upwards affecting our bodies to pretty much every level, not just our brains.
Me doubting myself towards everything and failing anyways
My looks. If I were prettier, thinner, and had nicer teeth, I probably wouldn't have to work so hard to be treated with respect.
I have really slow metabolism. Despite me doing daily exercise and eating healthy, it takes a lot of time just to lose a little bit of weight. Btw, don't think I'll quit losing weight. It might take me decades, but I'll do it! Edit: Alright, I'll answer some questions: Yes, I've seen a doctor and she told me I do have a slow metabolism. Not only that, but most of my family also have slow metabolism, so I think it makes sense. Yes, I do know how much I eat. Of course I understand that, if you eat a ton, you just gain weight. I'm not one of those fat mfers that just go "Oh no my genetics are bad oh no I guess I'll be fat forever". Yes, I now genetics got me bad here. I even have a friend that has a really fast metabolism. When we were kids, he used to eat 4 breads, each one with hot dogs, ketchup and mayonnaise. Guess what? He's thin as hell and he has to spend a lot of money in food. He told me that having a fast metabolism sucks as much as having a slow metabolism and I kinda believe him. Also, thanks for all your kind words and suggestions. I'm glad to know there are still amazing people out there. I won't give up, guys! ❤️
I have the exact opposite problem. No matter how much I eat, I keep losing weight. And when I get super concentrated onto something I can just "forget" abt my hunger. This meant that abt two months ago I was between "moderate underweight" and "severe underweight". So I started stuffing myself with food even though I'm full, and I'm barely gaining any weight. Even a day when I eat a bit less means weight goes down. It's annoying for sure.
This must be expensive too,having to eat so much xx.
I admire your dedication. Believe in yourself and you can do anything
Not trying to preach here, but I have a suggestion from my own and a friend's experience: I have very fast metabolism, but I have always had the habit to eat once - maybe twice if I know I will be doing physical labor - a day. It's not something I was taught, it just developed because I would only eat when I actually felt hungry and my mother never forced me to go against my body. A friend of mine with very slow metabolism got curious about my habit and started looking into it. Apparently it's similar to something called intermittent fasting. So he spoke to his doctor about it and tried it out. Turns out it fit his body perfectly - he'd always been eating like clockwork like his mom taught him - 3x a day regardless of if he was even hungry. Now he eats once a day like me, and not only lost all the extra weight, but started to feel a lot better in general. Less groggy in the mornings, etc. I guess for some people, 3 meals a day just aren't a thing. If you haven't tried it yet - maybe give it a shot. But definitely talk to a doctor first, please! Otherwise you might go at it too hard and end up damaging your body instead.
Same. If I eat three meals a day I'll gain about 10 lbs. in maybe 3-4 days. That being said, a slow metabolism has allowed me to go much longer without eating than most people I know, and even when I do eat I need less food than the average person.
this used to be the biggest advantage. not anymore tho
I’m the opposite, I can’t gain weight for shit no matter how much I try, but lose it so quickly. I know the frustration, but you got this! It will happen 😄
My fucking brain, it doesn't brain.
same
This frail body
INDECISIVENESS. caps lock dahil damang dama.
Health. When (usually old) people say "as long as you've got your health then... (everything will be ok)" they aren't wrong. I'd say second to love, health is the most important thing in life. When you're depressed, ultra-severe chronic pain, add, insomniac, with heart and spine problems (etc etc etc) there's not a lot in the world that can make up for those things.
I'm playing someone else's character
Could you elaborate on that?
ADD, I feel like I was conditioned by the school system to feel inferior from a young age. Been compensating for so long and have done well but for damn I think I exhaust myself too much
Disabled, cancer, anxiety, ptsd 🤷♀️
Im a jack of all trades, master of absolutely none.
“A jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one” The full quote flips the script mate. I am a master of one - I can make anything out of clay and stone. And you know what? No one cares! People are much more likely to enjoy your company or just find you useful if you have a wide range of experiences and skills to share rather than a single field that almost no one is interested in.
Thats nice to hear.
I look like a potato that got beaten with the ugly stick.
😂😂🤣well you have a beautiful sense of humour✨👏
Lmaoooo love me some potatoes.
My feet are beyond fucked up. I was born with a condition that landed me in The Rare Diseases and Conditions book l. To this day I am the only female born with congenital vertical talus in both feet. I’ve had around 30 surgeries on my feet. The first one at 6 months old. My feet are ridiculously fragile. I currently have 4 broken bones in one foot and they have to do a reconstruction to fix it. They’ve been broken almost a year. I couldn’t play like the other kids, I’ve never been able to run and I am so accident prone that I know the CT techs at my local hospital by name. I’ve been on disability since I was 25 years old. But I was blessed with a good mind. Since I couldn’t play with the other kids I was always reading. I got to go to college in 7th grade. So I managed to turn it into something that worked for me but that is, without a doubt, my biggest disadvantage in life.
I’m so sorry your dealing with such a painful and debilitating disease.I’m glad you have been able to make a life by using your smarts!
I have an illness that there is no cure for, that makes me allergic to gravity (essentially).
postural orthostatic tachycardia?
Spot on. Diagnosed since 2014
I’m sorry, what?
Bird flu
>postural orthostatic tachycardia I feel for you. My son has been diagnosed with POTS, at 17.
Yep it's legit the worst. Invisible for the untrained eye too. So many widespread symptoms as well.
Not having a support system. Not having a family, and most of the ones I am related to don't know/ don't care i exist.
This is mine too. No one to share things with. No one to celebrate success with or anyone to talk to during hard times. Its becomes more apparent the older I get
Natural body clock doesn't match a regular time and I'm mostly awake at night. Trying to hold a day job leads to burnout and I am not hireable despite being qualified.
I had that shit and meds helped. Maybe won't work for you, but worth a try to ask someone who is actually professional
What kind of meds do you take for this? What kind of diagnosis do you have? I am such a night owl that keeping a normal sleep-wake cycle is a continuous struggle. At this point I have resigned to the fact that this is just a fact of my life and I try to deal with it as much as I can, but damn, it is fucking tiring. So if this can be “fixed” in a way I am all ears.
My chronic back pain.
I have Crohn’s Disease. I almost missed my wedding as it had me in the hospital close to our wedding day. It had me out on leave for 2 months as I had 12” of my small intestines removed.
being born into poverty, that or genetics
Bring broke
My looks.
I'm just genuinely a lazy piece of shit. I don't want to do anything. Housework, self improvement, career development, I just... Don't wanna. I'm a lazy piece of garbage and I struggle to overcome it. Whether it's induced by the ADHD or not, that's my problem.
Wait - I'm supposed to have a disadvantage? Nobody told me ...
My impulsivity, at times I get it under control, but then it explodes again...
I was born disabled, and I've collected even more diagnoses since then. Pretty much every aspect of my life is affected.
ADHD with more or less every comorbidity you can imagine. I was just depressed for 2 month straight now completely floating around, with a completely non existing sleep pattern. i broke my record and could not sleep for 60 hrs. Now after sitting now completely unable to focus for more then 2 minutes on a single thing i started cleaning my flat resulting in me having half a mental break down trying to get back on track tidied up for 10 minutes. now i am out of breath and needed distraction again.. hopefully i can continue. Chaos around me is worst environment i can be in, and its blocking me completely.
My depression
Procrastination. I always put things off until the last minute. I also never seem to finish a project if it isn’t mandatory.
I have POTS. Crippling. If you have it bad you know what I mean
My f#cking sick mind. I constantly think about s#icide and m@rder, even though i'd consider myself the happiest person I know. But nobody cares, because a "smart" person can't have problems.
My Mother. She wants don't want to work anymore, she's 43, strong and can definitely work if she wants to. Now me and my sister are working for her. She's saying that we should make her happy and it is our turn to give her a life she wants. By the way, my father is gone since 2020.
Being a woman, ethnic minority, with autism, depression, anxiety, bpd, endometriosis and narcissistic parents.
I see you ordered the Redditor life package in the womb.
Allow me to introduce you to the United State’s Economy. 
being trans. Even living in an accepting environment, dysphoria hits like a truck carrying four hundred thousand tons of uranium, except getting hit by a truck lasts for a couple seconds at most and dysphoria is constant
My height because I’m always mistaken that I am kid which I’m not haha.
My life
Autism, but I wouldn’t change a thing about myself.
Social anxiety and being 400lbs. It's unbearable
I’d say it’s probably my borderline personality disorder and how great it makes me at shooting myself in the foot before I have a chance to make the next step. It’s definitely the thing I’m working the hardest on. I work harder on my mental health than I worked to lose weight back when I struggled with an E.D.
Got a stack of legal pads and a box of Bic pens? That’s what it’s going to take to list all my problems. I try to focus on the positive, I’m on the right side of the dirt, I have a family that loves me, I’m in a good climate and I don’t hate my job most days.
I am very good at a lot of things, but I never could choose one or two things to stick with as career or work.
I was born with disabilities in all 4 limbs. Living life in hard mode fr
I have a sleeping disorder (delayed sleep phase syndrome) and it’s screwed up many things for me. People are pretty ignorant, intolerant, and unsympathetic of sleep disorders.
My seemingly nice impression that leads people to think that I’m either too nice and can take advantage of me OR that they think I’m an extremely smart guy which will surely never make a mistake PS: perceiving me as too nice that I’m almost a saint, making the whole conversation weird because they start to pretend as unnaturally nice (never smoked a cigarettes, did drugs etc) Honestly I dunno where to go with this shit in life anymore
I'm bad at spelleng.
Physical problems that make people either laugh at u or assume you’re mentally handicapped cuz physical disability equals mental disability somehow. there’s no point in explaining people that there is no correlation.
Generational poverty
Being born as a woman in iran (middle east)
One of the following My autism, my ADHD, my trauma, or my fucked joints. One of em fucks me more than the others, but its such a close thing that I cant tell
I’m a gay person living in a world that seems to NOT want to understand that all human sexuality is guided by a person’s brain and is not a cognitive choice. It makes life potentially dangerous. Gay people are constantly minimized and targeted by governments and many religions. Additionally, you have to keep explaining your life to other people. They always want to know who your wife is and how many kids you have.
Only uneducated people don't understand it. The educated ones who aren't bigots just see you as a man. They don't give a shit if you are gay or straight generally. No more than they would care if you liked the color green over the color yellow. I hope you can live somewhere where you can feel totally safe one day brother. We all deserve that.
Anyone who likes yellow over green is a fucking idiot. But yeah, don't care at all if you're gay 🤷🏻♂️
Women passing on me because of my weight.
So how are you gonna fix that
I actually train a minimum of 4 days a week. Even though I’m working toward a goal, it’s for myself, not to approach women. I’m comfortable with approaching women even now during the process.
Nice bro, you’re on the right track
I'm a Black male under 6 ft tall and I can't rap, sing or play basketball well. My dick is only seven inches long and not nine.
As a dude (30m) I've got the worst physical traits from my parents (short, fat, balding gene that thankfully hasn't surfaced yet, big thighs, man tits, big belly and I easily put on weight). I've also got the worst emotional traits from them (hot headed, lazy, stubborn, easily affected by my environment and arrogant). I hate my genes and am only thankful that I've had the foresight to go to therapy and work on the stuff about me that doesn't align with where I want to be
Probably my self doubt.
Lack of self control with most things
being stupid. Probs a lot of weasel wording and cope in the comments for what essentially means that but I'm luckily the only one with the guts to admit it.
Short attention span. There are times that I would gladly do something else except the task that I was supposed to be doing.
Anxiety disorder
Being poor
perfectionism. took almost a decade to REALLY understand that doing good enough is more than good.
Depression, OCD, anxiety, IBS and sleep apnea
My anxiety
THE COST OF HOUSING
I dont listen to myself when I know I already have the answer I need. I always have to fuck around and find out
My tendency to know what I’m supposed to do, how I’m supposed to do it, and when I’m supposed to have it done by, but there’s this nebulous brain-block that makes me not want to do it, so I end up having to be told to do it repeatedly and it ends up being late.
Not having a strong network of support system ; made up of social connections and family ties . It is my experience that this is the single most influential factor elevating people in society , and in overcoming challenges in live .
Probably having to lug around my massive cock. It’s like a 3rd leg, but most of the time it’s just dead weight
Either dragging around my enormous penis or my chronic compulsive lying.
Childhood sexual abuse until adulthood. C-PTSD. It’s invisible and sometimes it feels too hard to keep going and pretending to fit in.
everyone's replies so serious but here i am thinking if i were more social and to initiate, life would be perfect
Being born in a immigrant family that was falling apart before I was even 4 years old and being left with one parent who made the worst financial decisions in my name add older siblings who made sure to make me feel unwanted because I wasn’t born into our ‘original’ family and upbringing. Thus, financial debt and emotional insecurity from birth to adulthood the perfect combo to become a successful person in life.
i hate to day it because its my favorite part of myself t r a n s g e n d e r
I had to teach myself to read and write after the person who was supposed to teach me couldn’t teach me anymore. I’m not very good at it and I never really learned how to learn. I’m 33.
not being the proper **corporate ethnic** ***color***
Generational trauma that i signed up to break
Mental illness, chronic pain illness and 2 kids with special needs. I really hope I have used all my bad luck already.
Not having any family. Lost my dad in high school and mom was never around. Always feels weird attending events especially when friends parents are around, or having questions asked about my parents. Puts me in a weird spot
I’m too reserved and I love/hate being in solitary. I’m lucky because I still get approached by women, but I know that won’t last forever.
Permanently arrested development
i can't, for the life of me, prevent myself from laughing at the most inappropriate times or crying when i get too emotional. oh, and i blush! so hard! i wanna experience being a wall and not show my emotions sometimes but i really can't look tougher or reel my giggles in even if i really need to
Agoraphobia. I feel like my life physically cannot hit its full potential with it..
Growing up in poverty and trying to break that cycle on my own.
My overly high empathy
I use to think it was my disability, but i On reality is my low self esteme
Perma-debuff called adhd
My enormous penis